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Speaker 2: In June, i will be in Saratoga Springs, New York,

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Speaker 2: Wang Theater. I'll be in Portland, Oregon, Seattle, and then Hyannis, Massachusetts,

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Speaker 2: and then two shows in Nantucket. In August, you can

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Speaker 1: That's Canada.

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Speaker 2: And September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego,

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Speaker 2: New York City, Philly, and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise, Idaho,

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Speaker 1: And then in November I'll be in San Francisco.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to Salt Lake City, Austin, Houston, Dallas, Babies,

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Speaker 2: I'll be there. And then in December, I am closing

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Speaker 2: out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So get your

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Speaker 2: tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea, Hello, what's happening.

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Speaker 3: It's very exciting seeing you get a new dog.

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Speaker 2: I know, I know there's a new dog on the

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Speaker 2: premises who I've named ray J.

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Speaker 1: He looks like Burton Bernice. I know he does. He

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Speaker 2: So now Doug, I wanted Doug to have a brother,

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Speaker 2: and I think Doug knew exactly what is happening, and

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Speaker 1: But that's okay. The ray J is starting to dry.

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Speaker 2: Hump dog and Doug is finally on the receiving end

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Speaker 2: Okay, And apparently ray J needs to be potty trained,

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Speaker 1: Have to be replaced again.

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Speaker 3: Moll's gonna have her work cut off for You're gonna

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Speaker 1: Light, and that's that's key. Sometimes you can smell it,

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Speaker 1: I definitely want a black light. Okay, that's good to know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, great, well I have This is sort of a

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Speaker 3: So after that episode went out, Emily reached out and said, hey, there.

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Speaker 3: I've been a Chelsea fan since college and a loyal

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Speaker 3: So, Hannah says, Hi, Chelsea and team, I'd love your

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Speaker 5: So it's almost like I don't want to move my

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Speaker 3: And so is there an opportunity for you to also

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Speaker 3: Versus like being in Utah where it's like a little

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I wouldn't sell it. I would just

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Speaker 2: And can you do that like as a sublet for

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Speaker 4: I couldn't really try that.

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Speaker 5: It's a Subletting is not as popular here as New York.

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, I think you should just take it, like,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's great. It's awesome. It's like these

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Speaker 3: It is kind of like the best of both worlds

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Speaker 4: And like different cities bring different things to the table.

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Speaker 5: You know, you're not going to know those hurdles and

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Speaker 4: And try it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And there's no harm in just trying to like

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Speaker 1: Or should I do that while you're at work?

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Speaker 2: Like, just figure out guidelines before you go into both

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Speaker 4: That makes sense, right, Awesome?

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Speaker 1: I would break for you job. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I know you're like hot, you're going to different cities,

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Speaker 3: you're dating lots of people.

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Speaker 4: That's great. It's been great so far.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, all right, awesome, thanks for calling. Okay, check

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Speaker 1: in with us, Hannah.

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Speaker 4: I will do Bye.

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Speaker 3: And then we've got one little wondering question to wrap

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Speaker 3: a gift I spent weeks picking out, I searched for

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Speaker 3: the perfect thing, and they said they'd rather have the money.

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Speaker 3: Am I wrong for feeling hurt?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: No, you're not wrong for feeling hurt. But who gives

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Speaker 1: You up at night.

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Speaker 2: It's obnoxious to I want the money instead, But you know,

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Speaker 1: Needs to catch Yeah. I feel like the friend shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have said they just they shouldn't have said that.

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Speaker 2: But whatever, it's just not a big enough deal to

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Speaker 2: like get your panties in a twist. Yeah, just remember

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Speaker 2: for next time, don't go out of your way looking

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Speaker 2: so hard for a gift for her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh, and also, folks right in with one drink questions,

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Speaker 3: if you have little shorties that are sort of a

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Speaker 3: label it a one drink question.

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Speaker 1: Awesome. Thanks guys.

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