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Speaker 1: My sister flirted with my exes, so I'm keeping her

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Speaker 1: away from my current one.

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Speaker 3: To cadkeep getting away with this.

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Speaker 1: You won't get this one. This happened with every single

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Speaker 1: guy I've ever dated or been interested in. This happened

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Speaker 1: with every single guy I've dated or been interested in.

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Speaker 1: I've only had three relationships before my current one with John.

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Speaker 1: My twin sister, Sarah twenty two female has tried to

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Speaker 1: interfere with all of them. So twin sister. Oh, he's

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Speaker 1: also story too. By the way, this comes from throwaway

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Speaker 1: sister and boyfriend. And if you want to submit your

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Speaker 1: So two of my exes cheated on me with her.

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Speaker 3: Are you sure they just didn't know what I'm sure

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Speaker 3: they didn't get confused. Yeah, she was like, Hi, I'm

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Speaker 3: a pee and they were like, I believe it? Or

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Speaker 3: why would you lie to me?

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Speaker 1: The third we broke off for other reasons, but Sarah

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Speaker 1: still tried to seduce him. He was a good guy

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Speaker 1: and always had boundaries with her, but that didn't stop

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Speaker 1: multiple times, then claiming whoop wrong person when that didn't work.

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Speaker 1: She also tried to break us up by lying to

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Speaker 1: my ex and mutual friends that I was cheating. My

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Speaker 1: ex didn't believe her, but some friends did, so Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was fun to deal with. Then, when we were

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Speaker 1: kids in like middle and high school, if Sarah found

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Speaker 1: out I had to crush, she went after the guy herself.

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Speaker 1: I used to tell her those things because well that's

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Speaker 1: what sisters do, right. She always used it against me.

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Speaker 1: I told her I was working up the courage, asked

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Speaker 1: She then asked him and he said yes. She said

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Speaker 1: he'd been just using me to get to her. Another time,

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Speaker 1: a few years before that, she announced to everyone in

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Speaker 1: a class that we shared that I like this one

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Speaker 1: boy who got bullied a lot. Kids then started teasing

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Speaker 1: him even more and he hated me. I felt horrible

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Speaker 1: for months. She thought it was the funniest thing ever.

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Speaker 1: She also once told a teacher whose class I was

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Speaker 1: doing bad in that I was into him and willing

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Speaker 1: I had to go through this whole counseling thing before

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Speaker 1: it was finally cleared up. It was extremely embarrassing. My

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Speaker 1: sister just blew it off as a brank. There's so

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Speaker 1: many other situations like this. She either gets the guy

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Speaker 1: who are interested in me to sleep with her or

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Speaker 1: ruins my chances with him by making a BS to

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Speaker 1: make me look bad. She's ruined some of my friendships

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Speaker 1: lying about me too. Told my best friend in high

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Speaker 1: school I was gossiping meanly about her and went as

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Speaker 1: far as faking text messages. I don't know if she

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Speaker 1: even actually wants these people for herself. You might think

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Speaker 1: it's obviously jealousy. Sometimes I honestly think she just does it.

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Speaker 1: Today had a kick out of me with me. I

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Speaker 1: finally got my life more together after wasting the first

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Speaker 1: couple of years of college on being depressed and a gamer.

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Speaker 1: I met my boyfriend John at a campus organization. I

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Speaker 1: haven't told Sarah, but he ended up meeting my parents

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Speaker 1: by accident. Today. I don't have much contact with them,

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Speaker 1: but they decided to come for a surprise visit. They

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Speaker 1: live over five hours away and do this a few

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Speaker 1: times a semester, even though I said I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: But that's for another post. John was in my room

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Speaker 1: with me when they got here. I had no choice

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Speaker 1: but to introduce them. He knows I was holding it

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Speaker 1: off on having them meet because I don't have the

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Speaker 1: greatest relationship with them. Sarah lives at home with my

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Speaker 1: parents while going to college Locally. I'm certain they're going

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Speaker 1: surprise visit me also stocking my social media to trying

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Speaker 1: to figure out who he is. You can't keep it

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, you just have to warn them, say

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Speaker 3: my sister is.

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Speaker 1: Crazy, could you have a fake boyfriend? And then she

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Speaker 1: goes down that rabbit hole and gets trapped, and you.

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Speaker 3: Make a whole profile for him, and you set up

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Speaker 1: Boom, I've tried to explain the situation I have with

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Speaker 1: her to my parents. They think I'm overreacting. They say,

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Speaker 3: That's the problem. She wants to be involved.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's the problem, her involvement. And now to mention,

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Speaker 1: we used to be closer before I lost trust in

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Speaker 1: her to stop doing crap like this. So I've seen

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Speaker 1: what her own life is like. She does things my

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Speaker 1: parents have no idea of. She takes party substances. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: how many real boyfriends she's had, but she's hooked up

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Speaker 1: scared of a pregnancy. I've had to help her get

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Speaker 1: nearly any man that smiles at her and told me

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Speaker 1: she's even had spicy sleep with a few girls while wasted.

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Speaker 1: However that's possible. She confind all these things to me,

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Speaker 1: save it as ammo. So I've gradually stopped telling her

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Speaker 1: most things. Smart If my parents knew all of this,

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Speaker 1: random that I don't want her meeting my boyfriend. It's

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Speaker 1: not because I want to hurt her or something. The

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Speaker 1: problem is our parents are really strict and traditional and

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Speaker 1: any of that, they don't believe spicy sleep before marriage.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend is the first person I've had spicy sleep with.

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Speaker 1: Afraid my sister could use that against me if she

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Speaker 1: tells them. So what do I do? How can I

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Speaker 1: keep Sarah from finding out about him and doing the

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Speaker 1: same thing she does with all my past boyfriends? How

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Speaker 1: do I explain this to my parents? And we got

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Speaker 1: an update?

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Speaker 3: This is what you do. I don't believe in, Like,

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Speaker 3: I don't think you should go tell the parents. I

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Speaker 3: think that's like, obviously she's done terrible things, But I

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Speaker 3: go to her and we say, hey, Sarah, just thought

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Speaker 3: my life. Just thought, you know, maybe our parents would

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Speaker 3: want to be more involved in your life. Maybe I

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Speaker 3: could tell him a little bit about your life.

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Speaker 1: And you got pictures ready to show and see Blackmailer.

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Speaker 1: That's what Casey lives at Blackmailer.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean, like, you don't actually have to

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Speaker 3: do it, Like it's messed up if you knew it,

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Speaker 3: but you don't know it. She doesn't know that a

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Speaker 3: hunch little soft blackmail doesn't have to actually have any

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Speaker 1: But let's be real. Op's experience of blackmailing is level one,

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Speaker 1: and the sister Evil twinsis there's probably like level ninety nine.

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Speaker 1: She's maxed out. She's like, oh, you would have blackmailed me? Okay? Done?

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Speaker 1: Sence them like, uh, a crazy thing, and then they

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Speaker 1: don't support Opie anymore financially. Yeah. I don't know. Evil

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Speaker 1: Twin is gonna win this no matter what. She already

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Speaker 1: knows how to play the system, she's been playing it

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Speaker 1: for years. She's fine. Opie is new to this ball game.

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Speaker 1: She's gonna try and do something, and if it was like, okay.

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Speaker 3: Well maybe you could do kind of like a mutually

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Speaker 3: assured destruction kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you know, like cold war evil twin is

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Speaker 1: gonna do anything that she can. So what's the solutionaire, Oh,

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Speaker 1: we're looking for solutions. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Like the black mail, Okay, black mail's not gonna work,

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Speaker 1: I don't think because.

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Speaker 3: You can't go and tell the parents about that stuff.

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Speaker 1: You might sit them down and tell the parents like,

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Speaker 1: I love you, guys, I really like this boyfriend, but

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Speaker 1: this is what's happened before. Yeah, with my past boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: She's always somehow stole them from me. And I would

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Speaker 1: really like it if you guys don't share it or

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Speaker 3: Just the information that like, is you about you?

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Speaker 1: Okay, we got an update, Kean. What would you do?

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Speaker 4: Just get rid of the twin?

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Speaker 1: Oh? I haven't thought about that one yet.

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Speaker 4: Only there can only be one whoa update?

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Speaker 1: So I've made a lot of changes in my family

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Speaker 1: I first told everything to my boyfriend. He was shocked

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Speaker 1: and assured me he'd never cheat on me with my

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Speaker 1: they would. She exploded at me because according to her,

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Speaker 3: What like what I wouldn't stock him yet.

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Speaker 1: Also, it's like whenever people are like, did you cheat

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Speaker 3: What do you think? We have a story the other

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Speaker 3: we just did other stuff.

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Speaker 1: It was like about cheatdy, Yeah, that's what it sounds like.

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Speaker 1: She's doing it, but I hadn't even gotten a chance

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Speaker 1: to say I was worried she'd do this. She said

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Speaker 1: I can't reason with her. She just never sees the

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Speaker 1: problem with anything she's done. The way she thinks makes

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Speaker 1: it like arguing with a young child. Almost probably because

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Speaker 1: she's stuck there. I blocked her number. I still feel

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Speaker 1: an emergency and she needed me? She can call your parents,

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Speaker 1: but we live hours apart, so I figured my parents, okay,

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Speaker 3: If she needed you, she should have treated you better.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, then ask for them. I also got a call

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Speaker 3: You don't know the many information, especially not if they're

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Speaker 3: My sister Lisa lost her husband, Jimmy, two years ago

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Speaker 1: Mom, give a girl the warning.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, on your whole family side.

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Speaker 1: Your mom was probably like, I just didn't want to

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Speaker 3: I I'm retired, I didn't want to have got trouble.

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Speaker 3: Why she didn't tell me this, I have no efing clue,

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Speaker 3: I am sitting on the computer looking at lawyers in

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Speaker 1: I got somehow in the situation, would you tell me

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Speaker 3: I just gotta check real. I gotta know, gotta get

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Speaker 1: You got any thoughts, Kellen, what are you doing?

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Speaker 4: Oh? So my entire famili's against me. My sister betrayed me.

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Speaker 4: My husband betrayed me too. I'm going to.

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Speaker 1: Mexico, bros. Going to Kancoo.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, home is not home anymore. So I am getting

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Speaker 3: Good into Europe, and I'm starting a new life.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, just a new life. There's no point of

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Speaker 3: something like these people don't care, you know, there's nothing

436
00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:03,600
Speaker 3: to be curious about. Overreach, So he was trying to

437
00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:06,440
Speaker 3: steal my foot rest Like, do you have any other friends?

438
00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:08,160
Speaker 1: Because your mom doesn't like you?

439
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:09,920
Speaker 3: Your mom's going to be like, oh no, oh, p

440
00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:11,800
Speaker 3: don't understand. She loved them.

441
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:13,480
Speaker 1: It's just her way of healing.

442
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, like she was grieving. You have to have grace.

443
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:18,520
Speaker 1: Your husband was putting life in her.

444
00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,399
Speaker 3: It's really just the godly thing to do. There is

445
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 3: an update. I woke up this morning and felt like

446
00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:26,400
Speaker 3: complete crap and didn't want to get up. I went

447
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,679
Speaker 3: and got a pregnancy test, and thank effing God, I'm

448
00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:31,200
Speaker 3: not pregnant. It was bittersweet because we have been trying

449
00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 3: to get pregnant for a while now, and I never

450
00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: thought i'd be so glad to see I wasn't pregnant. See,

451
00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 3: the husband was just trying to increase the chances that

452
00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 3: you guys would have a child related to you. I

453
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 3: am really upset over the way things have turned out,

454
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 3: and now I'm having these weird feelings that I want

455
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 3: to be pregnant after all. I don't know what's going on,

456
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:53,359
Speaker 3: but it's just adding on another difficult layer of crap.

457
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 3: A little while later, I left the house to get

458
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:58,680
Speaker 3: groceries and when I opened my mailbox there was a

459
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,320
Speaker 3: letter in it from Lisa. After I got home, I

460
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,200
Speaker 3: opened it and read it. I'm not going to rewrite

461
00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 3: it because I can't even stand to look at the

462
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 3: letter again. But basically it said that she apologizes for

463
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,399
Speaker 3: how things turn out. And she explained to me that

464
00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 3: she was very vulnerable after losing her husband, that after

465
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 3: spending so much time with my husband, she started to

466
00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,400
Speaker 3: fall for him, and that she thought she wouldn't ever

467
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 3: love anyone else again. So when she realized she loved

468
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,719
Speaker 3: my husband, she knew she couldn't let him go. No

469
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:30,040
Speaker 3: one else can fill the hole in her heart. Lisa

470
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:33,199
Speaker 3: promised they never physically did anything before that kiss. I

471
00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:35,119
Speaker 3: caught them in and she went on to say she

472
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 3: needs me in her life and that she hopes I

473
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 3: can forgive her. I can't write any more about this

474
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 3: right now. I might add in the rest later. I

475
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 3: am an efing mess. Rick called me a little while ago.

476
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:48,320
Speaker 3: I didn't pick up the phone, so he texted me

477
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 3: and told me that he still loves me and that

478
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:52,160
Speaker 3: we can find a way to work this out.

479
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,680
Speaker 1: Literally, didn't you say earlier you loved the sister. Now

480
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:55,680
Speaker 1: you can't make up your mind?

481
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 5: Yeah?

482
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 3: Usually, Oh no, I can I have both of you.

483
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:03,120
Speaker 3: It's not fair, it's not how it works. I don't

484
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 3: know what theF that means since he just left me

485
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 3: for Lisa. Now I'm really confused because now that I'm

486
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 3: not pregnant, I want to be and I want my

487
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,639
Speaker 3: marriage to not be over, even though I hate him

488
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 3: for what he's done to me.

489
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:15,400
Speaker 1: Didn't she says she don't want to get pit pregnant.

490
00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 3: Well, that's what she's saying. She's like, Oh, like, now

491
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 3: that I'm no, I'm not pregnant, I want to be pregnant.

492
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 3: But you're having a lot of mixed feelings because you

493
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 3: want to be in the relationship that you thought that

494
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 3: you were in. That's the thing.

495
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 1: I'm so mixed up in all this. Everyone's like, I

496
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 1: don't want to be with you. I want to be

497
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:30,880
Speaker 1: with you. I don't want to be pregnant. I want

498
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 1: to be pregnant.

499
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 3: It's not that she doesn't want to be pregnant with

500
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:37,000
Speaker 3: her cheating husband, but she wants to have the husband

501
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 3: that she thought she had and have the kid that

502
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 3: she was supposed to have. So she's missing this life

503
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:42,880
Speaker 3: that she thought she was going to And why would

504
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 3: he text me that? Is he changing his mind? I'm

505
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 3: so confused. It doesn't matter don't go back to this man.

506
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: He cheated on you. I wish these past few days

507
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 3: never happened so there would be nothing wrong. Still, I

508
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,920
Speaker 3: know I shouldn't forgive him if he wants another chance,

509
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 3: but ten years of marriage. Nope, no, no, you don't

510
00:22:58,320 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 3: have a kid. You don't have a kid yet, Lee,

511
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 3: he said he would give you everything. Leave we were

512
00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 3: going to be parents. If I'm so confused and hurt,

513
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 3: I can't even think straight. And there is a second update.

514
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 1: Man, this poor girl look.

515
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 3: Like truly, I honestly think you should move. I think

516
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: you should like move countries, start over. You know it

517
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,160
Speaker 3: doesn't always work for people, but I think that's because

518
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:22,680
Speaker 3: you know, people go there thinking that it's gonna be perfect,

519
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 3: but then realize that they left their support system. You

520
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:26,920
Speaker 3: don't have a supports system here.

521
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, your support system hates you.

522
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 3: Your support system sucks. Go make a new one in

523
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,640
Speaker 3: some other country and and start over there. You got

524
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,199
Speaker 3: your whole life out of you. How old is you

525
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 3: go like you're you know you're fine man twenty nine?

526
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 3: Yeah you're fine. Don't like, don't live in the sunk

527
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 3: cost fallacy of Yeah, oh, I've spent ten years with him.

528
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 3: We were supposed to have a baby. You didn't have

529
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 3: a baby.

530
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: You're too young.

531
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 3: You know you're not tied to him in any way,

532
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 3: so just get out ikes update two. One of the

533
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 3: most common questions I got was about my mother. Well,

534
00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:00,919
Speaker 3: I talk to my mother again and she informed me

535
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 3: that she has known about my sister having a thing

536
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 3: for my husband for quite some time. She didn't want

537
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 3: to tell me because she said she was trying to

538
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 3: get my sister to give up the idea and she

539
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 3: did not want me to be hurt. She got my

540
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 3: sister to agree to let it go a few months

541
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 3: ago and never heard anything more about it, so she

542
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,880
Speaker 3: thought it was over okay, so at least she did

543
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 3: try to prevent it. In the letter I got in

544
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: the mail, I did not want to write it all

545
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:26,639
Speaker 3: down because it was very painful. A few days have

546
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 3: passed and I'm ready to share some more information, but

547
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 3: please don't ask for more because I'm simply not comfortable

548
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 3: sharing the rest of the letter. In the letter, Lisa

549
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 3: apologized for her behavior, but also went on to blame

550
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,120
Speaker 3: me and said that I flaunted my happiness in front

551
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,679
Speaker 3: of her with my husband. She wrote that she couldn't

552
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 3: stand to see how happy we were and how he

553
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 3: genuinely loved me, and she had no one. She told

554
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 3: me I should have reached out to her alone, and

555
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 3: that I had no business getting my husband involved. I

556
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 3: don't even know what that is supposed to mean. He's

557
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 3: my dang husband. I'm not supposed to involve him in

558
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 3: a serious matter like that. She also went on to

559
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 3: say that my husband told her he never really loved

560
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 3: me and that she was who he really wanted to

561
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 3: be with, and asked me not to contact him. She

562
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: wants me to go through her if I want to

563
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,040
Speaker 3: say anything to him, and that she will bring over

564
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:15,959
Speaker 3: the divorce papers in a few weeks. The audacity of

565
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 3: this woman, the audacity of her to be like, oh, yeah,

566
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,400
Speaker 3: you can't talk to your husband. I know he's still

567
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 3: legally your husband, but I'm kind of his lawyer right now.

568
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be managing the divorce papers, So if you

569
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 3: could just not talk to him, just talk to me.

570
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 3: I'd be like, Uh, nope, you can talk my lawyer

571
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 3: ain't talking to me.

572
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, so frustrating.

573
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 3: I've had a few days to process this information, But

574
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 3: the more I think about it, the more confusing, it

575
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 3: seems to me. Then I got more information today Lisa

576
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 3: is pregnant.

577
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,679
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, nohing.

578
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 3: Pregnant, she says. It's Ricks recalled me as soon as

579
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 3: he heard my father inform me. I picked up the

580
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 3: phone only because I wanted to hear how he could

581
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 3: lie to my face and tell me nothing happened between

582
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 3: them before that kiss. Of course, something happened between them

583
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 3: before that kiss. While your wife is in the other room,

584
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 3: you don't just start making out. He tried. That was

585
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 3: the first time.

586
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 4: He tripped and fell on her face.

587
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,360
Speaker 3: With his face he told me that he was so

588
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: sorry and he didn't want it to happen this way.

589
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 3: And then my father wasn't supposed to tell me. I

590
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 3: started crying and asking him how he could get pregnant

591
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 3: with Lisa when we were trying for a baby. Then

592
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: he said something that stunned me so much my head

593
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 3: is still spinning from it. Rick told me he could

594
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 3: still give me pregnant if I wanted. DOUBTF, I screamed,

595
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:33,879
Speaker 3: and him, why the f would I want to be

596
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 3: pregnant with his child?

597
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: What?

598
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 3: He's a piece of crap? He told me he wanted

599
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 3: to be with both me and my sister, and that

600
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 3: he thinks he's polyamorous. I was so shocked that I

601
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 3: started laughing. After I stopped laughing, he tried to say

602
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 3: something else. Then I heard Lisa enter the room and

603
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 3: ask who he was on the phone with. He said

604
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 3: nobody and hung on a little later, my sister texted

605
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 3: me and told me she would bring over the divorce

606
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 3: papers in a week and expected me to sign them

607
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 3: on the spot, as my husband is giving me everything.

608
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 3: She gave me a heads up that they're getting married

609
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 3: next month and I'm invited to the wedding if I

610
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 3: agree to pretend like I was never even romantically involved

611
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 3: with my husband. I am literally at such a loss

612
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 3: right now. Who the F is this man? And where

613
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 3: is the one I'm married? Why the F after all

614
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 3: this crap, do I still want to be with him?

615
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 3: Even though I know I can't be. I just want

616
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 3: the man I've been with for the past ten years back.

617
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 3: I hate Lisa and no longer consider her my sister.

618
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 3: She has ruined my entire life. But what do I

619
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 3: do about my husband? He just texted me right now

620
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 3: saying he still wants to be with me. Loves me

621
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 3: and wants a baby with me. Why is he doing

622
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 3: this to me? Why am I even considering it? F

623
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 3: And there is a third update.

624
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,400
Speaker 1: I have a lot to say about this, actually, and

625
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 1: I think we should both be on screen while I

626
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,640
Speaker 1: say this. How does this guy think it's gonna work out?

627
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 1: He's like, Okay, so I'll go you, okay, go with

628
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: the sister. And then with the sister. I'm gonna do this,

629
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 1: this and this, and then after that I'm gonna go

630
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 1: over here and this is in this, and then I'm

631
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 1: gonna marry the sister. But then I'm also gonna let

632
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 1: o pino, oh, I can still still make pricknant, still

633
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 1: be your baby daddy.

634
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 3: And then maybe every couple of years, I'll divorce the

635
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 3: other sister and then marry you, and then I'll divorce

636
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 3: you and then married the sister so that we can

637
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 3: just kind of keep going. Yeah, I think that should work.

638
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 3: They're all stupid.

639
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: They're all stupid. I kind of see where the mom's

640
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: coming from, Like she wanted it to be like fizzle out,

641
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 1: but like that happened. You gotta I don't know. It's

642
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 1: just if you don't tell someone, it buils up into this.

643
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: That's like a little bit your fault.

644
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 3: Mom.

645
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: Can he get like that the thing is so quick

646
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 1: and get married that quickly?

647
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 3: No, from what I know, it'd be a little bit longer.

648
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, how do we not see this happening earlier too?

649
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: I'd love to see a picture of this couple, Yeah,

650
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: and love to see I want to see all of them.

651
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 3: But uh, there is an update, man, update three. I

652
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 3: know this update is long overdue. Yeah, I have to

653
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: wait one second, to be honest. The reason why I

654
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: did an update anymore, it was because I made pretty

655
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 3: poor decisions that I was ashamed of. Please don't tell

656
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 3: me you got back, and didn't want to face the

657
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 3: reality of my situation. I wish I could come here

658
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 3: and tell you all that I was strong and cut

659
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 3: Rick and Lisa out of my life and moved on

660
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 3: with my life, updating to tell you how much better

661
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 3: off I am without them a year later. Sadly, this

662
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 3: is not the case. I effed up bad. One commoner

663
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,560
Speaker 3: told me that I have something called sad person brain.

664
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 3: I remember reading it and being in denial, but now

665
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 3: that so much time has passed, this was absolutely the truth.

666
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 3: I wanted to do anything to make my pain stop,

667
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: so I did. I would appreciate it if I didn't

668
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 3: get reamed for the choices I made. What's done is done,

669
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 3: and I need help now. Thank you in advance. If

670
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 3: you remember my last post, Rick and I were trying

671
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 3: to get pregnant before he left for my sister, and

672
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 3: wanted to even after he did, because he thought he

673
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,239
Speaker 3: might be polyamorous. At the time, I laughed at him

674
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 3: because of how absurd it was, But after he hung

675
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 3: up that call, the offer got more and more tempting.

676
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 3: I started thinking about it, becoming enraged at my sister

677
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 3: for doing what she did to me. I thought that

678
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 3: I could get back at her by doing it to her,

679
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 3: throwing it in her face that her new boyfriend doesn't

680
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 3: love her more than me. After all, I was so

681
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 3: angry that I heavily considered doing it. The more I

682
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 3: thought about it, the more I wanted to out of

683
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 3: sheer petty revenge.

684
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: Oh goodness, gracious, don't get me wrong.

685
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 3: I also wanted my husband in my life back, but

686
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 3: the thought of seeing my sister's new found happiness and

687
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 3: smugness over me come crashing down gave me a pleasure

688
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 3: that I never would have imagined. My sister tried very

689
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 3: hard to keep my contact with Rick limited. I think

690
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 3: she was afraid he would come back to me if

691
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 3: she didn't.

692
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: You lose out.

693
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 3: You get him.

694
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: They related and I cheat him to your sister. Wait wait,

695
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: they're related and they recently lost a husband. Yep.

696
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 3: She was only able to accomplish this for a few months.

697
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 3: Rick try to contact me in numerous ways during this time,

698
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 3: but it was always very brief. I was still angry

699
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 3: and non receptive to his advances, but he started becoming

700
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 3: more and more aggressive, telling me how much he loved me,

701
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 3: how much he missed me, how much he still wanted me.

702
00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 3: I even tried blocking him on certain social media accounts,

703
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 3: but he kept trying on others. I know I should

704
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 3: have just blocked him on everything, but I just couldn't.

705
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,239
Speaker 3: The more he tried, the harder it was for me

706
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 3: to say no. Unfortunately, this resulted in us getting back together.

707
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: Oh Pee, you knew there's more people in the world though,

708
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 1: he O, P what does this guy look like? He

709
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 1: probably looks like that, but you know what, rats have

710
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: long tail.

711
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 3: I told him I wouldn't stay with him unless he

712
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 3: left my sister He swore to me up and down.

713
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 3: He loved me more than anything, and facing losing me

714
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 3: made him realize it and that my sister was nothing

715
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 3: to him. Everything was amazing between us again. It was

716
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 3: like old times, and like my sister didn't even exist

717
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 3: when he was with me, Yet every night would go

718
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 3: back to her. Stupidly, I decided to believe him when

719
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 3: he said he was just waiting for the right time,

720
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 3: an excuse after excuse about how bad he felt for

721
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 3: things felt so much better when he was back with me.

722
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 3: I didn't want to lose him again. Unfortunately, I ended

723
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 3: up getting pregnant because I did not recontinue my birth

724
00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 3: control from when we were trying for a child before

725
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 3: any of this happened. You are messy.

726
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: You know what probably happened. This guy got this loved

727
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: on him, and these women are just obsessed.

728
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 3: But it only works on Ope and people that Opie

729
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 3: is related to.

730
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: Whoever he's around, the women he's around more Mom, stay away,

731
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: stay away Mom.

732
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 3: At the time, we were both ecstatic and everything seemed

733
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 3: like it was a dream come true. I had my

734
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 3: husband back, we were having a child, and my life

735
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 3: was no longer in Piece's Girl he's still actively seeing

736
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: your sister. Did this erase everything?

737
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 6: I'm so confused.

738
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 3: I was so happy that I turned a blind eye

739
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 3: to everything obviously effed up about the situation. I didn't

740
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 3: want to see it. I just wanted to stay happy.

741
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 3: It wasn't long before Lisa found out. My entire family

742
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 3: turned on me.

743
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 1: How did that happen? But I'm so confused. Is everyone like,

744
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 1: oh yeah, did they get you mixed up? Do you

745
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: guys look the same?

746
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 5: Like?

747
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: What is happening here?

748
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 3: My parents told me how it seemed like I did

749
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 3: this just out of retaliation and to hurt Lisa. Oh boy,

750
00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: what about when Lisa did it? They weren't completely wrong,

751
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 3: but I mainly just wanted my old life back. Long

752
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 3: story short, Lisa went absolutely berserk. She sent me a

753
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: long list of never ending pestering texts, emails, and calls.

754
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 3: I endured heck from her and my family for months

755
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 3: until I had to get a protective order. This only

756
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 3: resulted in my family hating me even more. Now none

757
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 3: of them will speak to me, and Rick has been

758
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 3: issued an ultimatum by them to cut me off or

759
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 3: be cut off.

760
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 4: Like I said, we're going to Mexico. They should have

761
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 4: been done along. I didn't leave a long time ago.

762
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 3: He hasn't decided on what he's gonna do yet, but

763
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 3: it seems like he's leaning towards cutting me off, as

764
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 3: he's been communicating with me less and less these past weeks.

765
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 3: Not to mention, there has been mounting pressure from the

766
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 3: family for him to finalize the divorce, but it hasn't

767
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 3: happened for various reasons. I'm sorry your parents are mad

768
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 3: at you for sleeping with your husband legally still your husband,

769
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 3: clearly the golden child. Yikes, that was true. The last

770
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 3: thing he told me was that he feels bad, but

771
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 3: that he loves her, and passive aggressively insinuated that I

772
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 3: tempted into trying to get back with me. This is

773
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 3: a night there which is complete bs because he was

774
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 3: the one who kept pursuing me. He said that I

775
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 3: shouldn't have gotten pregnant because now I've made his life

776
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 3: so much harder. How I let myself believe he was

777
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,399
Speaker 3: the man I married again is beyond me. Now. All

778
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 3: I see is how clouded my judgment is men and

779
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 3: the utter mess I've gotten myself into.

780
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 1: She has thought with the wrong head.

781
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 3: How I wanted to be happy again so bad I

782
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 3: destroyed my life even more trying to get that back.

783
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 3: I'm eight months pregnant and scared. I don't know how

784
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 3: I can raise this baby alone. I really don't want

785
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,360
Speaker 3: to give her up for adoption, and the pain of

786
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 3: losing my husband twice is unbearable. Even though I know

787
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: it was because of my own stupidity, I still love

788
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,360
Speaker 3: him and can't believe everything he's done to me. Losing

789
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,760
Speaker 3: my entire family over this has also been a huge

790
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 3: punt to me when I'm at rock bottom. Most of

791
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 3: our mutual friends have distanced themselves from us because no

792
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 3: one wants to take sides, but it's obvious they are

793
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 3: all quite disgusted with the way things have turned out.

794
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 3: I have no one left now. Please help me? Reddit,

795
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 3: How the heck can I fix the mess I've made

796
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: my life into? And that is the end of that story.

797
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 3: But you know what can fix your lives? Listening to

798
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 3: full episodes of stories just like this?

799
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: Where do I go to Spotify.

800
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts or iHeartRadio Riley?

801
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: What do I search up?

802
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 6: So?

803
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 1: Okay?

804
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 3: Story time is silly?

805
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 6: Use?

806
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: Oh wow? And what's there for me so.

807
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 3: Many stories just like this. I don't know if I

808
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 3: can fix this.

809
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: Advice you should have moved when this first happened. Get

810
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: out of there, Get out of there, move Sam. Here

811
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,359
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812
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:41,759
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813
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 3: My friend didn't make me her bridesmaid. I feel betrayed.

814
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 6: Ooh, betrayed as a me.

815
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 5: I'm getting married in June. I'm going to have my

816
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,880
Speaker 5: friend Jim as my dude of honor and my friend

817
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 5: Jane as my bridesmaid. Jim and I have been friends

818
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 5: since college, but my friendship with Jane is longer and

819
00:35:57,800 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 5: a bit more complicated.

820
00:35:58,680 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 3: By the way.

821
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 5: This comes from a wedding a throw ten ninety two

822
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 5: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

823
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Speaker 5: to the our slash Okay storytime subreddit. We started to

824
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 5: be friends in high school, where we were friends with

825
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 5: two other girls. They'll be important later typical teenager and

826
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 5: twenty something drama happened and I'm not close with the

827
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 5: two other girls anymore. One straight up said that she

828
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 5: didn't want to be friends with me anymore, and I

829
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 5: guess the other friend just followed her lead. I'll admit

830
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 5: that Jane and I used to be closer when we

831
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 5: were younger, and we drifted apart, but I still considered

832
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 5: her a close friend. When I got engaged, I asked

833
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 5: Jane to be my bridesmaid. When I got engaged, I

834
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 5: asked Jane to be my bridesmaid. When I asked, she

835
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 5: was kind of hesitant. She was engaged too, and said

836
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 5: that we'd probably be planning weddings at the same time,

837
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 5: and she was worried that she wouldn't be able to

838
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 5: devote a lot of time to my wedding. I told

839
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 5: her it was going to be super laid back and

840
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 5: she wouldn't have to do too much, and that I

841
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 5: wanted her there, so she agreed. Planning the wedding has

842
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,280
Speaker 5: had its own ups and downs, lots of drama from family,

843
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 5: but Jane has been a good enough bridesmaid. My friend

844
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 5: Jim has been planning my bachelorette and they both went

845
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 5: to see me get my veil. I think she could

846
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 5: stand to be a bit more involved, but can distance

847
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 5: and time.

848
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:02,439
Speaker 3: She's doing enough.

849
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 5: When Jane first got engaged, she wasn't even sure if

850
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 5: she wanted to have a traditional wedding. She was talking

851
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 5: about doing something really small and only inviting immediate family

852
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 5: and close friends. It turns out that she actually is

853
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 5: going to have a ceremony and reception in the fall.

854
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 5: I awkwardly found out over dinner after pushing her for

855
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 5: wedding details, that she was planning on having bridesmaids and

856
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 5: I wasn't one of them.

857
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 3: She claimed it was because I live far away. Not really.

858
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 5: We live in different cities on the East Coast and

859
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 5: are about a train ride away, and she didn't want

860
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 5: to bother me because I'd be busy with my wedding

861
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 5: and merit. To make matters worse, the two girls I

862
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 5: had a falling out with are of course in the wedding.

863
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 5: It hurts so much since I assumed that we'd all

864
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 5: be together during our weddings.

865
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 3: I'm hurt.

866
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 5: Jane and I went through a lot together and I

867
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 5: really wanted her to be a part of my wedding.

868
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 5: I'm hurt that she doesn't feel the same way. When

869
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,439
Speaker 5: I told my mom, she was shocked and said how

870
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 5: rude Jane was. My fiance said it was okay to

871
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 5: feel hurt and that it was a wiener move, but

872
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 5: that Jane also has a right to have whoever she

873
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 5: wants in her wedding party. Am I wrong for feeling

874
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 5: like this? Should I confront her? I don't even know

875
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 5: if I want her in my wedding anymore. We do

876
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 5: have an update, But what are our thoughts so far?

877
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,479
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you can.

878
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 7: I wouldn't say you're an a hole for feeling anything.

879
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 7: You know, Yeah, it's it's just more like it's hard.

880
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 7: You're not in the same city and you know you guys.

881
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,800
Speaker 7: I think it's just a discussion. You got to communicate

882
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 7: you and be like, all right, so what's what's up.

883
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 7: Like she's kind of told you why you're not a bridesmaid,

884
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 7: but like, maybe dig a little deeper under it.

885
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 6: It's hard to say, but like I would say, you're

886
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 6: an a hole.

887
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 5: But we do have an update, So I wanted to

888
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 5: update because things have blown up. This is going to

889
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 5: be long. I found out about not being in the

890
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 5: wedding a little over a week ago, so I had

891
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,600
Speaker 5: been stewing for a while when I made my last post.

892
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:46,839
Speaker 5: I was a little dishonest in the first post because

893
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 5: I was already in the process of confronting her when

894
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,720
Speaker 5: I wrote it. I texted her early in the morning.

895
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 5: I posted and told her that I was disappointed by

896
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 5: her lack of involvement in my wedding. She replied that

897
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 5: she was sorry that I felt hurt, but that she

898
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 5: had warned me about this when I.

899
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 3: First asked her. That is true.

900
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 5: She also mentioned that she wasn't sure what else I

901
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 5: wanted from her. She has done everything I asked, and

902
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 5: that it seemed like Jim has everything handled for the

903
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 5: bachelorette and hasn't reached out to her. Then I texted

904
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 5: her about bridesmaids. She didn't text me back all day,

905
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 5: so I called.

906
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 3: Her that evening.

907
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 5: The conversation really didn't go well. She said that she

908
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 5: didn't reply because she was busy at work and honestly

909
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,800
Speaker 5: didn't know what to say. She said that she chose

910
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 5: the people closest to her. She has also known the

911
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 5: two friends I had fallen out with since childhood, and

912
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 5: her other two are her college roommate and her other

913
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 5: friend from work she lived with in the past. She

914
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 5: said that even when wedding details were murky, she knew

915
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 5: that she'd ask them. I told her that I had

916
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 5: always envisioned all of us planning our weddings together and

917
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 5: being left out of it was all pretty painful.

918
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 3: Her reply hurt.

919
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 5: She said that she was sorry that I was no

920
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 5: longer friends with the two bridesmaids and her party. She

921
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 5: truly wishes me no ill will from the past, but

922
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 5: that they have their own valid reasons for ending our friendship.

923
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 5: Then she said that she was honestly surprised that I

924
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 5: asked her to be a part of my wedding and

925
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 5: that she wouldn't have I've been surprised.

926
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 3: If she didn't even get an invite.

927
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 5: I spoke to my therapist the next day about she

928
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 5: pretty much echoed what people said here, and I was

929
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 5: putting way too much pressure on Jane and was inappropriately

930
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 5: using her wedding as a friend reunion. Oh In, my

931
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 5: fiance and I got into a huge fight about the wedding.

932
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 5: I texted Jane after and she was nice and listened

933
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,319
Speaker 5: to me rant, but it felt awkward. On top of

934
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 5: it all, I got to see her post a lovely

935
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 5: Instagram story about shopping for her wedding dress with all

936
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 5: of her bridesmaids and getting drinks after.

937
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 7: So the read I'm getting off of this is you're

938
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 7: just kind of upset that your friend's wedding is happening.

939
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 6: I don't know.

940
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think it's like, I think maybe this friendship

941
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 5: breakup thing was maybe recent, and maybe Op's not over

942
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 5: it and not accepting of it just yet. And yeah,

943
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 5: she probably was hoping like maybe maybe things will get

944
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 5: better once they like hang out with me again, because

945
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 5: she was the one like that was dropped. Everyone said

946
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,359
Speaker 5: that they didn't want to be friends with her, so

947
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 5: she probably is feeling a little abandoned there. I am

948
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 5: so over weddings. I wish I was eloping. I'm a

949
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,280
Speaker 5: little jealous that Jane seems to be having an awesome

950
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 5: time planning hers. Making friends in your thirties is tough,

951
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 5: but I thought I had a few close ones I

952
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 5: could rely on. But I guess I was wrong. So

953
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 5: thanks Reddit, you tried to warm me, but I was

954
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 5: already set on being the a hole when I posted

955
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 5: my advice to people upset about bridesmaids and groomsmen, don't

956
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 5: question their choices and accept whatever role that they want

957
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 5: you to play in their wedding. And Opie answered some

958
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 5: questions why they fell out with two bridesmaids. Honestly, it

959
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 5: was a bunch of dumb teenage and twenty something drama. Essentially,

960
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 5: I moved to a city around the same time one

961
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 5: of my friends was living there. I got involved in

962
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 5: her friend group and some guy she liked ended up

963
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 5: liking me more. We dated, but he was clinging and

964
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 5: got weird when I broke up with him, and after

965
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 5: that the group kind of imploded and everyone blamed me.

966
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,240
Speaker 5: After my one friend said that she no longer wouldn't

967
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 5: be in her life, the other one followed. I was

968
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,319
Speaker 5: supposed to grab dinner with her one day and she

969
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 5: delayed because she was hanging out with the one that

970
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 5: hates me. I told her to forget it all and

971
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 5: that she didn't have to see me if she didn't

972
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 5: want to. I'll admit I was a bit dramatic in

973
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 5: the past, but I've grown up a lot, and I

974
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 5: had hoped that we could kind of forgive and forget.

975
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 5: We all used to be so close, and I miss

976
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 5: their friendship. But we do have another update. I picked

977
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 5: someone who thought I was a close friend to be

978
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 5: my bridesmaid. She's done what she's been asked to do,

979
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 5: but hasn't gone above and beyond to do anything extra.

980
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 5: She's also getting married later this year. I'm invited, but

981
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 5: I'm not a bridesmaid. To make matters worse, two people

982
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,240
Speaker 5: I had a falling out with are in her wedding.

983
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 3: We were all friends in high school.

984
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 5: We're all in very early thirties now, and it hurts

985
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 5: that they're all still friends and I'm being excluded. I

986
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 5: had a big session with my therapist yesterday and I

987
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 5: realized that I had kind of strong armed her into

988
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 5: doing this.

989
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:41,479
Speaker 3: She tried to say no, that she would be too.

990
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 5: Busy on her own wedding to give me the time

991
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 5: and attention I needed, but I convinced her that it

992
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 5: would be fine and that I wanted her to be

993
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 5: a big part of my day. I think that she's

994
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:51,959
Speaker 5: an effing adult and could have said no, But.

995
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 3: What do I know. I'll admit I thought we were

996
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 3: closer than we actually are in real life.

997
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:59,720
Speaker 7: I'm sorry, you literally just went from My therapist told

998
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 7: me it helped me understand that I actually strong armed

999
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 7: this person. Yeah, and then in the next breath, being like, well,

1000
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 7: she's an effing adult.

1001
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 6: She could say no exactly, well yeah, but you.

1002
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 7: Kind of strong armed her yeah, and harangued her into

1003
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 7: saying yes.

1004
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1005
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 5: I think that's a difficult situation because like, sure, she

1006
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 5: is an adult, she could say no even like no

1007
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 5: matter how pushy you are. But sometimes if people are

1008
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 5: pushy enough, you don't want to be.

1009
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:28,320
Speaker 3: Rude because it's your wedding.

1010
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 7: It's the reality of politic in like any given social situation.

1011
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 7: And it's like, all this tells me is this keeps reading.

1012
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 7: It's like OPI is like, how did all of this

1013
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 7: happen to me? Like, meanwhile, a lot of the things

1014
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 7: are direct results of OPI's actions.

1015
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll admit I thought we were closer than we

1016
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 5: actually are in real life. We were really close in

1017
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 5: high school but drifted apart after college. I still considered

1018
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 5: her a close friend even though we didn't talk much.

1019
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 5: I just feel like now she is this whole life

1020
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 5: without me, with all of these friends, and I'm left

1021
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 5: in the dust. Even seeing her bridal party makes me jealous.

1022
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 5: I feel like I didn't know who to ask, and

1023
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 5: she has four best friends that are bending over backwards

1024
00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 5: for her. My friend posted this super cute Instagram story

1025
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 5: about her shopping with her friends for her dress and

1026
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 5: celebrating after her I got so upset I cried and

1027
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 5: threw my phone across the room. I'm angry as heck

1028
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 5: at her and want to pun her out of the

1029
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:19,320
Speaker 5: bridal party. I feel betrayed and used, but I don't

1030
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:21,239
Speaker 5: know who else I would ask. I don't have a

1031
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 5: lot of friends, and my maid of honor is my

1032
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 5: guy friend from college. Why are bridesmaids even a thing?

1033
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 5: The whole idea is designed to make drama and hurt

1034
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 5: everyone's feelings.

1035
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 3: On top of it all, planning the wedding has been

1036
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 3: in a nightmare.

1037
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 5: My parents, who are divorced, are using it as an

1038
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,720
Speaker 5: excuse to try to outdo each other. My fiance's family

1039
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 5: is dysfunctional and don't like me much. His mom is

1040
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:43,919
Speaker 5: a control freak and planned everyone else's wedding and she's

1041
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 5: trying to do the same for mine. We keep arguing

1042
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 5: about the wedding and had a huge blow up about

1043
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 5: it yesterday. We're pouring so much money into this wedding

1044
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 5: and I can't wait for it to be over. Can

1045
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 5: someone make me feel better post about their wedding drama

1046
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 5: and how everything worked out in the end. I'm at

1047
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,439
Speaker 5: the end of my rope. My wedding is in less

1048
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 5: than two months and I'm not excited about it at all,

1049
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 5: and we have.

1050
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 3: Yet another updates.

1051
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 1: Let's freaking go.

1052
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:08,839
Speaker 3: But do we How do we make her feel better?

1053
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1054
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:11,720
Speaker 6: You need to adjust your expectations.

1055
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, and you know I suggest this to every single

1056
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 7: person who gets married. I have a secret wedding first,

1057
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 7: and then have your big wedding. That's expensive. Yeah, so

1058
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:23,840
Speaker 7: if it all starts going wrong, you don't have to

1059
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 7: worry about your marriage being ruined because you already had

1060
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 7: a beautiful wedding just the two of you.

1061
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1062
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 5: When she said something about wishing that she could have lope,

1063
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:36,840
Speaker 5: I immediately thought about that that you would say secret wedding.

1064
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:38,319
Speaker 6: It is something I would say.

1065
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 3: But we have another update.

1066
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:42,720
Speaker 5: Hey, y'all, I don't know if anyone remembers my Reddit

1067
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 5: meltdown from a month ago, but I've been getting some

1068
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,720
Speaker 5: nice messages in my inbox asking me for an update.

1069
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 5: The truth is that not a lot has changed. I'm

1070
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 5: still kind of miserable about the wedding. Things with my

1071
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 5: bridesmaids are awkward, to say the least. I'm kind of

1072
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 5: embarrassed about how everything went out, and now I feel

1073
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 5: like she's kind of keeping me at a distance. She

1074
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 5: has her dress and has been good with updating me

1075
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 5: on her outfit and day of stuff, and texts to

1076
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 5: chat about how planning is going, but she's been tight

1077
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 5: lipped about her What If I ask her anything, she

1078
00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 5: just says it's going good and leaves it at that.

1079
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 5: To make things worse, She's in full bride mode with

1080
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 5: her friends, and I keep seeing Instagram stories pop up

1081
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:19,720
Speaker 5: with cute planning details. It's hard to not feel extremely jealous,

1082
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 5: left out, and angry when I see her making bouquets

1083
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 5: with her friends and chatting about taco bars for the reception.

1084
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 5: I don't want to say that that fight ruined our friendship,

1085
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,760
Speaker 5: because it's clear that we just aren't that close anymore,

1086
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 5: but I really wish that I had just kept my

1087
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 5: mouth shut. My fiance extended family is driving me nuts.

1088
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 5: They're asking about bringing plus ones when we're almost a

1089
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Speaker 5: month out from the wedding. I'm so pissed because I

1090
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Speaker 5: think it's rude to even ask, and that if it

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Speaker 5: really was that important, they should have brought it up

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Speaker 5: to me when they first learned about the wedding. My

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Speaker 5: fiance also doesn't like to talk to me about the

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Speaker 5: wedding anymore. He says that whenever I bring something up,

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Speaker 5: we end up fighting, so he'd rather just stop talking

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Speaker 5: about it period. I know his family is pissing him

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Speaker 5: off too, but he refuses to confront them in any way.

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Speaker 5: He just says that this is the way that they

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Speaker 5: are and that I need to learn how to deal with.

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Speaker 5: So here, I am about a month out for my

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Speaker 5: wedding with pretty much zero enthusiasm for it. Things are

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Speaker 5: awkward with my bridesmaid, my new family is pissing me off,

1103
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Speaker 5: and my fiance has pretty much shut down and refuses

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Speaker 5: to deal with anything. I guess I updated because I

1105
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 5: just wanted a place to ramp. Does anyone have any

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Speaker 5: advice on how to not make my friend's wedding hurt

1107
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 5: me so much? Any stories about my weddings that weren't

1108
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 5: the magical days that they thought they were, tips for

1109
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Speaker 5: dealing with fiances that refuse to deal with their insane families.

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Speaker 3: But we have yet another update on this.

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Speaker 5: Some of you may remember me from a thread that

1112
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Speaker 5: I post to here a while back about being upset

1113
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 5: over not being a bridesmaid. My wedding has come and

1114
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,880
Speaker 5: gone beautiful day despite some drama and hiccups.

1115
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Speaker 3: But my friends is coming up and I have a

1116
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 3: new problem.

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Speaker 6: Oh joy.

1118
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 5: The two women I'm no longer friends with are obviously

1119
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 5: planning her bridal shower and I'm invited. Interesting when I

1120
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Speaker 5: saw my old friend's name on the invite she's handling RSVPs,

1121
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 5: I panic a little bit. I called my friend and

1122
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 5: bridesmaid to make sure that it was okay for me

1123
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Speaker 5: to come. She said, of course, and that she didn't

1124
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Speaker 5: anticipate any drama.

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Speaker 6: So this is my again.

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00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 7: It's like Op's like, this was all high school like

1127
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 7: early twenties drama.

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Speaker 6: Now they're in their early thirties.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

1130
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 7: Meanwhile, Op's calling and saying, is it okay if I come?

1131
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 7: That is high school early twenties activities? Yeah, just go.

1132
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 7: Yeah that phone call and be like it's gonna be

1133
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:25,440
Speaker 7: is there abrupt day?

1134
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 5: There's gonna be drama. Yeah, It's like, well, now there is.

1135
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 5: If you're gonna go about it this way, then.

1136
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 6: You're setting the stage for it. Just be an adult

1137
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 6: and go exactly.

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Speaker 5: She claimed that the two friends really had no ill

1139
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:38,399
Speaker 5: will about what happened and that the day should be fun.

1140
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 5: There will be a lot of other people there to

1141
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 5: hang out with, and it should be a good time.

1142
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 5: I asked if she thought that I should reach out

1143
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Speaker 5: to clear the air beforehand. She said it wasn't necessary.

1144
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 5: I asked her if she thought that it was a

1145
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 5: bad idea. She just repeated that it wasn't needed. I

1146
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 5: was feeling really anxious about it, so I decided to

1147
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,319
Speaker 5: text both of the fhenh oh, my god.

1148
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Speaker 3: Ob. She just said, you didn't need to do that,

1149
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:02,239
Speaker 3: ob doing my guy, My guy.

1150
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 7: You're like, I don't want it to be dramatic, and

1151
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 7: then meanwhile you do the most dramatic thing you could do.

1152
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, she's making it weird when it doesn't need to be.

1153
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 5: I said that I was married now and was excited

1154
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 5: to reconnect and that I hoped that we could put

1155
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 5: all of our differences aside and be together for the

1156
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 5: bride and celebrator. They responded with general glad you can come.

1157
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 5: Can't wait to celebrate the bride, and I was a

1158
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 5: little hurt.

1159
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Speaker 6: God, dang it, oh pe stop it.

1160
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 5: I had hoped for something that was more reassuring that

1161
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:28,799
Speaker 5: the day would be okay and that there would be

1162
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 5: no weirdness. When I told my husband how I felt.

1163
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Speaker 5: He was shocked that I even texted them.

1164
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,280
Speaker 3: He claimed it felt like that message was actually trying

1165
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 3: to stir up drama exactly.

1166
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Speaker 5: Yeah, Yeah, I don't think what I said was inappropriate

1167
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 5: or rude. I don't want my friend's day to be

1168
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Speaker 5: ruined because of some petty drama, and I don't want

1169
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 5: to feel uncomfortable during that girl.

1170
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Speaker 7: It wasn't inappropriate or rude. It was just weird, that's

1171
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:53,359
Speaker 7: all it was. It was weird. And it's not that

1172
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 7: you're trying to make it an issue again.

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Speaker 6: It's that you've brought all that back up to the

1174
00:49:58,040 --> 00:49:58,760
Speaker 6: surface again.

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Speaker 5: And what I'm realizing too is if she's saying it's

1176
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 5: high school early twenties drama, then it definitely didn't happen recently.

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Speaker 3: If they're in their early thirty right, this happened a

1178
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:08,439
Speaker 3: while ago.

1179
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Speaker 5: So if it's if so much time has passed, you

1180
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 5: should maybe be like, from what I'm assuming.

1181
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Speaker 7: I'm she could be saying that. She could also be

1182
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,360
Speaker 7: saying like the nature of it was very high school.

1183
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 3: Maybe, but it's like you are also in control of that.

1184
00:50:22,680 --> 00:50:25,759
Speaker 7: Yeah, honestly, So not to put you on blast, but

1185
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 7: you were making a lot of poor decisions right now,

1186
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 7: ye just making things chill.

1187
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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's been hard enough seeing my friends post about

1188
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 5: all of the wedding fun that she's having. I just

1189
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,240
Speaker 5: didn't want to walk into a bad situation. So Reddit's

1190
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Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for setting those texts? And

1191
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 5: do we have an answer for that.

1192
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Speaker 7: Kind of I mean not even you're not even a whole,

1193
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Speaker 7: You're just you're just goofy.

1194
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:52,080
Speaker 5: Hey, you're just a goose. You're being an a hole

1195
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 5: to yourself. I feel not being a hole to them

1196
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,719
Speaker 5: at all, because it's not really anything.

1197
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 7: Bad, but yeah, it's it's like it comes from this

1198
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 7: place of like, you know, you keep being an a

1199
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 7: hold to yourself because you expect these things to happen,

1200
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 7: where it's like you sent this thing where clearly I

1201
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 7: guess they don't really care anymore.

1202
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 6: Maybe they might not care anymore, and you're worry.

1203
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,720
Speaker 1: That they're like, you know, harboring all this stuff.

1204
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 7: So you bring it up and it's like they don't

1205
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 7: care and you expected them to be like, oh my god,

1206
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,560
Speaker 7: thank you for reaching out. It's so great that you

1207
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 7: said that. And it's like we are we're moving on

1208
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 7: and we love you, and it's like, you know your

1209
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 7: expectations will set you up for disappointment exactly.

1210
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 5: Like, even if they do care a little bit, I

1211
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 5: think they just still decided that they don't want to

1212
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:34,400
Speaker 5: be friends.

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00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 3: They're fine with that. You need to be too, because

1214
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 3: I don't know, out of your control. They invited you

1215
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,440
Speaker 3: to the shower. Yeah, that's huge, that's huge.

1216
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:44,040
Speaker 5: But you know what would be huge of you to

1217
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 5: do is to check us out on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio,

1218
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 5: or whatever your favorite podcast op is. Just search Okay

1219
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:54,800
Speaker 5: Storytime and you can find full episodes with more stories

1220
00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 5: just like this one.

1221
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 3: There is a little bit more. I'm just gonna jump

1222
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 3: right into it.

1223
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Speaker 5: There's a relevant comment from Okay. My husband thought it

1224
00:52:01,840 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 5: was over the top. He said that the tone I

1225
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 5: took made it seem like they somehow weren't there to

1226
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 5: celebrate the bride when they're her bridesmaids, and that I

1227
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 5: was making the event about myself tbh. My friend and

1228
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 5: bridesmaid has become a bit of a sore spot for

1229
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 5: the two of us. He's glad that she was a

1230
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 5: good bridesmaid and helped out a lot of the day

1231
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 5: of but he thinks that I'm trying too hard to

1232
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 5: be best friends.

1233
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 3: It's not like I don't have other friends.

1234
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:25,839
Speaker 5: I just really missed the way things were in high

1235
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 5: school and feel like I'm missing out on having deep and.

1236
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,360
Speaker 3: Meaningful friendships with a history. There are some comments.

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00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,359
Speaker 5: Commentary number one says, I feel like there's a lot

1238
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,399
Speaker 5: more to the story of why she's no longer part

1239
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 5: of her old friend group, and honestly, she sounds exhausting.

1240
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,799
Speaker 5: I feel a bit bad for her, though, as she's

1241
00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 5: obviously lonely, and someone else responds she says she used

1242
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 5: to be dramatic, but it is clear that she is

1243
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:49,360
Speaker 5: still dramatic and over the top a f Another person responds,

1244
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 5: I thought she was super young reading this, but she's

1245
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:54,359
Speaker 5: in her thirties wishing for her high school friendships. Another

1246
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 5: comment term says her line she's an adult, so she

1247
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 5: could have said no to me about the wedding if

1248
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:00,439
Speaker 5: she didn't want to be a part of it. Makes

1249
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 5: me wonder if she has said something like he's his

1250
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,439
Speaker 5: own person and can make his own choices about who

1251
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 5: he has feelings for. After flirting with the guy that

1252
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 5: her friend had a big crush on, someone responds to that.

1253
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 5: In the same paragraph, she mentions the friend was having

1254
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 5: a soft no the whole time, and op would not

1255
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Speaker 5: take note for an answer, So she admits that she

1256
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,439
Speaker 5: did strong arm her, but in the next sentence puts

1257
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:25,800
Speaker 5: blame on her bridesmaid again. She literally cannot hold herself

1258
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:28,919
Speaker 5: accountable for her part in the situation. Op doesn't really

1259
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,800
Speaker 5: know how to take personal responsibility for anything. In my opinion,

1260
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 5: this whole saga reeks of playing the victim in that,

1261
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 5: and I'm positive there is important information that would have.

1262
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Speaker 3: Better illustrated that left out.

1263
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 5: Someone else comments, Jesus, the Opie sounds so ridiculously exhausting.

1264
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:47,760
Speaker 5: Someone responds to that after the second update, I was thinking, girl,

1265
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 5: take the hit and cut your losses already, but it

1266
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:52,799
Speaker 5: wasn't even a hint at that point. Secondhand pity was

1267
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,320
Speaker 5: off the charts. Another comment says this is so infuriating

1268
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 5: to read because Opie gets so close to acknowledging that

1269
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:01,640
Speaker 5: her behavior is the and then just goes and keeps

1270
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 5: doing it anyway, and then proceeds to ask the Internet

1271
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 5: why everyone has fed up with her. That's a great

1272
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 5: way to summarize that, but that is the end of

1273
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:11,520
Speaker 5: that story is.

1274
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Speaker 1: The end of Oh my gosh.

1275
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 6: Sometimes to cut your losses, you really do.

1276
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 5: If she she's in her thirties and wants it to

1277
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 5: be like it was in high school, listen, I don't know.

1278
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:24,280
Speaker 5: I probably I don't want to blame you, I guess

1279
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,479
Speaker 5: for wedding things to be how they were. But that's

1280
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 5: a long time. That's a long time to be, you know,

1281
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 5: hoping for the past. So I'm sorry you feel like

1282
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 5: you need to be that far in the past to

1283
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:35,919
Speaker 5: feel okay right now.

1284
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 7: But bless about being in the past and where it's

1285
00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:42,839
Speaker 7: like having these friendships and connections that have lasted so long.

1286
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, people want that.

1287
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 5: So that's what I'm thinking, is like, I don't blame

1288
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 5: you for wedding, like you know, that strong connection that

1289
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 5: you had in the past, but this specific one is

1290
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 5: in the past.

1291
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Speaker 3: You gotta leave it there.

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Speaker 1: I refuse to have animals the side of my home.

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Speaker 1: My friend got offended.

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Speaker 3: Why are you krilla, devil or something?

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Speaker 1: I don't like dogs. I never have been fond of them,

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Speaker 1: but I don't judge people who have dogs as long

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Speaker 1: as they are responsible. Have a group of friends and

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Speaker 1: we host events at our house like parties, potlucks, game nights,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. About two months ago, my friend got a

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Speaker 1: service dogs for her seizures and I was already planning

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Speaker 1: on hosting a potluck. However, I didn't want a dog

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Speaker 1: at my house. She shed a lot, so I decided

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Speaker 1: to choose a camping area where we could all have

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Speaker 1: fun and enjoy ourselves. It would be so messed up

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Speaker 1: to deny my friend from coming over with the dog

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Speaker 1: that she needs. By the way, this comes from walker

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Speaker 1: Walk at a and if you want to make your

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Speaker 1: own stories, go to our slash okay stories on sebredding.

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Speaker 1: So this has been going on ever since my friend

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Speaker 1: let's call her Sarah, got a service dog. Today was

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Speaker 1: my turn to host, and one of my friends let's

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Speaker 1: call him Jacob, suggested we do a game night. I

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Speaker 1: told him that I would rather have events outside of

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Speaker 1: my house, and well, we don't have anything to connect

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00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:01,160
Speaker 1: my ps four outside suggests maybe we could do a

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Speaker 1: movie night instead and go out to the movies. Jacob

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Speaker 1: was confused and asked why I stopped doing game nights

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Speaker 1: at my house, and I explained that I don't want animals.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I said pets. That was wrong on me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't catch that in my house, let alone a

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Speaker 1: dog that sheds knowing batter than I. But Sarah started

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Speaker 1: to question me, asking if she's no longer welcomed in

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Speaker 1: my house. I'm an ablest, and I told her I

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Speaker 1: would rather host things outside of my house. If she

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Speaker 1: is going to need a service dog. The times we

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00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 1: all spin together are arranged in advance. I chose to

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Speaker 1: do things away from my house so I wouldn't have

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Speaker 1: to have the service dog in my house. If I

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Speaker 1: had the type of arrangement that meant coming over to

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Speaker 1: my house, I would make myself put up with a

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Speaker 1: hairy situation. But I don't have to do this current arrangement.

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Speaker 1: Sarah was not having it and started calling me an

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Speaker 1: ablest and unfair to her and her dog. She said,

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Speaker 1: I've changed ever since she got her service dog, and

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Speaker 1: I was baffled by everything she was saying. We ended

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Speaker 1: up not hosting anything, but it ended up being so

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00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: awkward that everyone started to leave the group call honestly

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00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 1: can't tell if I should be shamed of myself? Am

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00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:06,240
Speaker 1: I the a hole at IT? Cause I explained it horribly.

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Speaker 1: I want to thank Agreeable League three sixty six for

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Speaker 1: allowing me to use their comment to clear out the

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00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,400
Speaker 1: confusion I cost for a lot of people. See the

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Speaker 1: comments below At IT two, I'm seeing several comments saying

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Speaker 1: I should have told her beforehand. The thought of telling

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00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 1: her that she and her dog aren't welcomed anymore therefore

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Speaker 1: no one else in the group is just feels mean.

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Speaker 1: But if anyone has suggestions on how I can word

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Speaker 1: or future references, please feel free to do so. And

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Speaker 1: I think we got Agreeable League's three six six's comment here.

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Speaker 1: My friends only come over if I'm hosting something, But

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Speaker 1: if they did come over to my house to just

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Speaker 1: hang out, then yeah, I put up with a service

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Speaker 1: dog in my house. I think this is what was

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Speaker 1: causing a lot of the confusion people are having. It's

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Speaker 1: like saying, if if she came over to hang I'd

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Speaker 1: let the dog in instead. I believe you mean that

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Speaker 1: the times you all spend together are arranged in advance,

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Speaker 1: so you can choose to do things away from your house.

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Speaker 1: So you don't have to have the dog in your house.

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Speaker 1: If you had a different type of relationship, you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: make yourself put up with a hairy situation, but you

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Speaker 1: don't have to in your current type of relationship. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I just made that as clear as mud didn't. I

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Speaker 1: you're right, it's hard to put into words anyway. If

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Speaker 1: you don't want a dog in your house, you don't

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Speaker 1: have to. It seems like it's putting a strain on

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Speaker 1: your relationship. Though maybe from how you worded it, combined

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Speaker 1: with some new behavior you are exhibiting without realizing it

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Speaker 1: that she has picked up on, she's become offended, not

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Speaker 1: the a hole. You might need one on one with

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Speaker 1: her to fix your relationship, just not at your house

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Speaker 1: because a dog would have to come too.

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Speaker 3: I listen, honestly thinking about that a lot more.

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Speaker 8: I feel like, oh, P isn't really doing anything crazy wrong,

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00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:43,440
Speaker 8: you know, like he's not saying we can't hang out

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Speaker 8: anymore because now you have a dog and I don't

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Speaker 8: want your dog around.

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Speaker 5: They're saying like, yeah, let's still do these group hangouts.

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Speaker 5: I would just prefer to not have a dog in

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Speaker 5: my house, so let's just do it somewhere else.

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Speaker 3: You know, Like that's that seems perfectly acceptable.

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Speaker 1: Because I mean planning it in advance.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and if this is usually like the host house,

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00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 5: like I don't know, I get how that can probably

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Speaker 5: feel uncomfortable, as was it Sarah that had the dog,

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Speaker 5: That can probably feel uncomfortable being like, oh, it's because

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Speaker 5: of me that we can't go to this house anymore.

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Speaker 3: That would feel bad.

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Speaker 5: So I maybe just a conversation with her one on one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we got an update throwaway here because people know

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00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: my regular account. I'm honestly still shocked about everything that

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00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: has happened. All was fine for a couple of days

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Speaker 1: or so, thought. Sarah showed up uninvited. Never happened before,

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Speaker 1: and I don't like uninvited guests, but I let decide

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Speaker 1: this one time because she was my friend with her

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Speaker 1: service dog, Golden Retriever and what I believe her mom's

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00:59:37,880 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 1: regular pet husky mix. So she brought two dogs. The

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00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 1: husky was panting and trying to jump on me, but

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Speaker 1: I would back away and slightly hold the door closed

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Speaker 1: while poking my head out for now, Sarah was holding

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Speaker 1: back from his collar. Keyword for now, I asked, her

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00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 1: what's up, and she said she wanted to drop off

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Speaker 1: some cookies for me. I smiled and thanked her because

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Speaker 1: I thought it was nice. She even made them herself.

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Speaker 1: She said she also wanted to pick up something that

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Speaker 1: Ed part of the friend group off a were left here,

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Speaker 1: like a keychain or small decoration. I'll call it a

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01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,520
Speaker 1: keychain because it looked like a keychain to me. Ed

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01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 1: lives the farthest, so supposedly Sarah came over to pick

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01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 1: it up for him and give it to him on

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01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:14,479
Speaker 1: the day she hosts. What was her turn? I told

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Speaker 1: her sure and asked how it looked. She walks around

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Speaker 1: with both of the dogs, and I stopped her and asked, whoa, whoa, whoa,

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01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 1: what are you doing. She looked at me confused and said,

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01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:25,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get Ed's keychain. I told her if she

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Speaker 1: wanted to personally get it herself, she cannot bring the

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01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 1: big dog inside, only her service dog, so take that

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01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 1: dog outside. She made a frowny face and said he's

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Speaker 1: an emotional support dog. I told her that it is

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01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 1: not the same and that I won't allow him inside.

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01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:42,160
Speaker 1: She pouted and said fine, just let me text ed

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01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: and let him know, it'll take a little longer from there,

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01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:47,080
Speaker 1: she said, both of her leashes down and her husky

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01:00:47,160 --> 01:00:49,880
Speaker 1: went bonkers. Needed to say, I punted her out, and

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01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 1: her mom's dog made a whole mess, including jumping on

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01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 1: me and licking my face. I still can't get over

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01:00:54,480 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 1: the fact that he broke the vase my mother, who

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01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:59,720
Speaker 1: was no longer with us, gave me. It was so beautiful.

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01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 1: I've had it for twelve years. Sarah apologized, and I

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01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:05,560
Speaker 1: got her the key chain, which I could have easily

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01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:08,000
Speaker 1: brought her over and give it to ed that leaned

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01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 1: around for a bit and took a shower. At night,

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01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:12,160
Speaker 1: I decided to snack on the cookie and a heck

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01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 1: broke loose for a while. After eating him like I ate,

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01:01:15,640 --> 01:01:19,160
Speaker 1: like ten effing, started to swell up and struggle to breathe.

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01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: So I went to look for my EpiPen I haven't

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01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 1: used it in a long time, but my dumb butt

1442
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 1: cann't remember where I put it. But when I did,

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01:01:25,440 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 1: I used it immediately and added to the hospital in

1444
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:30,640
Speaker 1: case my allergy stayed once the epipines were off.

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01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:32,640
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, she poisoned him.

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01:01:32,760 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this woman, dude what.

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01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:39,120
Speaker 5: I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and

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01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:40,320
Speaker 5: hope that it's an accident.

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01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 3: No, if they've been friends for a while.

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01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 1: Come on, okay, okay, okay, before we keep going one

1451
01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 1: and you know I don't like it whenever you have

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01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 1: you bring your dogs to my house because you know

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01:01:51,280 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 1: which is husky. He's very hairy, and I don't like it.

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01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 1: And you also know I have a peanut allergy. So

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01:01:57,280 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 1: you come over to my house with both dogs around,

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01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: and you give me peanut cookies, course of course, And

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01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 1: you're giving her the benefit of the doubt right now.

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01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 5: Maybe she doesn't know about the allergyw You literally said

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01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:11,520
Speaker 5: they've been friends for a while.

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Speaker 3: Well, I know that's why I'm part of me. I

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01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 3: want to believe that this is a mistake, that she

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01:02:16,840 --> 01:02:18,040
Speaker 3: didn't just straight up poison.

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01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 1: Ope, No, there was malicious intent. It's a key chain, yeah, yeah,

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01:02:22,200 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 1: a keychaine.

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01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:25,960
Speaker 5: Well she didn't just stay outside, yeah, and just wait

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01:02:26,040 --> 01:02:27,960
Speaker 5: for him to get it or her. We don't actually

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01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 5: know a peace gender, but I wish that she just

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01:02:30,680 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 5: would wait.

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Speaker 1: I got home with my medication and another EpiPen, which

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01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:36,520
Speaker 1: I would bring with me at all times from now

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01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:40,120
Speaker 1: on after that traumatic nightmare. As upset as I was

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01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 1: about Sarah being cold to me for even bringing her

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01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:45,480
Speaker 1: mom's emotional support dog to my house, I said, gave

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01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:47,640
Speaker 1: her the benefit of the doubt and thought she forgot

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01:02:47,680 --> 01:02:49,560
Speaker 1: that I had a nut allergy. I brought it up

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01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: in text and told her what happened. She apologized and

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01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:55,640
Speaker 1: act all mortified. Conversation later shifted when she mentioned the

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01:02:55,640 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 1: whole wine. Can't I come in with my dogs?

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Speaker 2: Bro?

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01:02:58,560 --> 01:02:59,680
Speaker 1: You literally try to kill me.

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01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:01,680
Speaker 3: Like we've talked about this so many times.

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01:03:01,720 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 1: I repeated to her that her service dog can come in,

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01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 1: not a pet dog. Became an argument. She dropped a

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01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: bomb on me with a huge wall of text. In

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01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 1: the end, she said, and I quote copy paste, this

1486
01:03:12,640 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 1: is why I put pecans in your effing cookies. If

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01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:18,280
Speaker 1: you want to play ablest, then so will I. Oh

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01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 1: smiley face.

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01:03:19,520 --> 01:03:22,280
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. She did do it on purpose.

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01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:24,080
Speaker 1: And by the way, you will be an ablest if

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01:03:24,120 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 1: you don't go to your favorite podcast platform type in

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01:03:26,560 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 1: Okay story time and look at all the stories we

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01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 1: have for you. Don't be an ablest like this, you.

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01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:33,840
Speaker 3: Guy, You can't accuse them that.

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01:03:35,640 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 6: Well.

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01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:39,200
Speaker 1: To me, it is the same anyways.

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01:03:39,040 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 3: Do it anyway?

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01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:40,960
Speaker 1: But can we.

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01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:44,560
Speaker 5: Sue Oh my gosh, yeah, honestly, like at least like

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01:03:44,880 --> 01:03:47,680
Speaker 5: she went to the hospital, you could sue for hospital bills.

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01:03:47,760 --> 01:03:51,520
Speaker 5: We've got text proof that she was doing this on

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01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:53,720
Speaker 5: purpose and totally lying about it.

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01:03:53,800 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it sounds like Opie's got a little touch

1504
01:03:56,080 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 1: of OCD here from what I've seen. I mean maybe

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01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 1: I know they don't like dog hair.

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01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:03,880
Speaker 3: I don't know, but well, I mean you could just

1507
01:04:03,920 --> 01:04:05,280
Speaker 3: like I'm just.

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01:04:05,280 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 1: Throwing stuff out of here. I'm I can't diagnose anybody. Yeah, actually,

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01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:10,320
Speaker 1: you know what I want to Now, I'm diagnosed and

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01:04:10,360 --> 01:04:13,560
Speaker 1: okay with this. So it's a respect thing. And and

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01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:16,840
Speaker 1: it seems like he's gone above and beyond to accommodate

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01:04:16,880 --> 01:04:18,320
Speaker 1: this person to be a part of the Frank group

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01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:20,400
Speaker 1: even though he's not comfortable with the dog in their house.

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Speaker 1: This person is just throwing big words around that aren't real.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like she they had this whole conversation about him

1516
01:04:28,160 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 5: not wanting like the dogs at all in his apartment,

1517
01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:34,040
Speaker 5: and then you know, she was like a ablest, you know,

1518
01:04:34,200 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 5: had that whole fight, and then it sounds like eventually

1519
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 5: now he's come around and he's like, you know what, fine,

1520
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 5: like your pet dog can come in. I understand that,

1521
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 5: Like I I respect you and your disability and what

1522
01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:48,000
Speaker 5: you need to support that and everything. Just know, like

1523
01:04:48,120 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 5: pet dog like that's that's the the only service dog. Yeah,

1524
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:54,080
Speaker 5: the only reason it's allowed is because it's a you

1525
01:04:54,200 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 5: need it. You know, you don't need an emotional support

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01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 5: pet dog like this.

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Speaker 1: Last little bit here a bit of content. Sarah was

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Speaker 1: diagnosed with BPD. Please be aware that not everyone with

1529
01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 1: BPD is like this, so I understand how she feels

1530
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 1: because I have BPD myself. This has gone way too far.

1531
01:05:11,520 --> 01:05:15,240
Speaker 1: I've been contemplating on whether I should file claims or not,

1532
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:18,280
Speaker 1: and I know that sounds stupid. We've been friends since

1533
01:05:18,360 --> 01:05:20,520
Speaker 1: middle slash high school, so of course she knows. But

1534
01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 1: I've always seen her as a really close sister. But

1535
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:26,080
Speaker 1: this friend wanted to harm me, and I heard so

1536
01:05:26,200 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 1: much that she went this far for revenge. Anyways, I'm

1537
01:05:28,920 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 1: taking legal action tomorrow and maybe I'll give an update

1538
01:05:32,080 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 1: about this, but as of now, I got screenshots and

1539
01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:36,919
Speaker 1: have blocked her everywhere, and I'm still keeping a low

1540
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:39,640
Speaker 1: profile so she doesn't delete the messages.

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01:05:39,680 --> 01:05:43,919
Speaker 3: Hopefully, what my gosh, yeah, please do. I really would

1542
01:05:43,960 --> 01:05:47,280
Speaker 3: love to know. Oh my god, my god, because she

1543
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 3: didn't even try to harm you.

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01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:52,720
Speaker 5: She did, she absolutely did. She literally came in with

1545
01:05:52,800 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 5: the poison apple. It was like, hello, little lady, like

1546
01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:58,920
Speaker 5: you can I give you this apple for being such

1547
01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:02,720
Speaker 5: a sweet kind princess. Turns out that old Lady was

1548
01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 5: actually the evil Witch or the evil Queen.

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Speaker 3: So what the heck? Man?

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01:06:07,600 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 1: This account has been suspended.

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Speaker 2: What