Speaker 1: Ooh, I think we need a little recap.
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Brooke and Jeffrey and we do have a
Speaker 2: brand new Second Date episode for you coming up in
Speaker 2: just a second.
Speaker 1: But yesterday was the we called her the monster in law.
Speaker 1: Yeah appropriate? Yeah, yeah, that.
Speaker 2: Mother in law who was wanting her daughter in law
Speaker 2: to move in with her to what the day she came.
Speaker 1: Home from the hospital. Yeah wild.
Speaker 2: What were people saying in the comments, I'm sure just
Speaker 2: lovely glowing things about this mother in law.
Speaker 1: I mean, we got a comp but we got people
Speaker 1: someone who said, just texted my mother in law that
Speaker 1: I love her for not being anything like.
Speaker 2: This, and then someone else who said, I'm not married
Speaker 2: and don't have kids, and this was still triggering for
Speaker 2: me a lot saying Josh needs to man up and
Speaker 2: set boundaries with his mom.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, a lot of that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Josh was nowhere to be found on that call. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that was very much, for sure, But I can see
Speaker 2: why he would be scared.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's truly. He probably tried to give him some credit.
Speaker 1: All Right, here we go. Let's get your brand new
Speaker 1: episode started right now. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: Second Date updates.
Speaker 4: It's time for your second date update. Its Brooke and
Speaker 4: Jeffrey in the morning. And today we have a listener
Speaker 4: named Eugene who wrote into the show and I want
Speaker 4: to read his email because he said, quote, I'm usually
Speaker 4: pretty shy with the ladies, but not during my last meetup. Okay,
Speaker 4: he says, I was confident and brave all because I
Speaker 4: watched a Tony Robbins video to psych myself up.
Speaker 3: But now she's not calling me back.
Speaker 1: Tony Robbins is like the original self help guy.
Speaker 3: Right, let's ask you, Gene, Eugene.
Speaker 4: For all of our listeners who don't know Tony Robbins,
Speaker 4: who is he because he's not the creator of Red.
Speaker 5: Robin right, Yeah, No, Tony Robbins is this really inspirational,
Speaker 5: motivational speaker that helps everyone.
Speaker 6: Is he like a.
Speaker 1: Podcast guy or like a Ted Okay to.
Speaker 3: Stand up on a stage tell your life.
Speaker 1: I feel like he started at the same time as
Speaker 1: the Oxy Clean guy.
Speaker 4: You didn't mention how handsome he was either, Eugene. But yeah,
Speaker 4: he helps people get their lives on track.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love that. And who was it? I'm sorry, what
Speaker 1: was the person you were going out with?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 3: Who cares let's talk about Tony Robbins.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's fright day with Grace. But before that date,
Speaker 5: I watched this Tony Robinson video and he kept talking
Speaker 5: about how you know life isn't forever and what's the
Speaker 5: worst that could happen? Just go for it. Yeah, and
Speaker 5: I'm worried that I kind of took it to heart
Speaker 5: too much and just maybe overdid it.
Speaker 1: Oh too pumped? He went for too much?
Speaker 4: Yeah, why did you say that you went full Robins
Speaker 4: or half.
Speaker 1: Robins too much Robins?
Speaker 3: How Robins did you go?
Speaker 5: I don't know, And that's what maybe you can help me.
Speaker 6: To see if I actually did it might just be
Speaker 6: in my.
Speaker 5: Hat about the whole thing, and it could be fine.
Speaker 2: Okay, can we start at the beginning with Grace? Like,
Speaker 2: how did you even meet her?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: So I matched this girl named Grace and I.
Speaker 5: Thought she was really cute.
Speaker 6: Her profile said she was new and that she hadn't
Speaker 6: been on any years because of a really bad breakup. Okay,
Speaker 6: I'm not new, but I don't go out a lot
Speaker 6: just because I wanted to be the right person and
Speaker 6: get a good vibe.
Speaker 1: So what I mean, what were you planning on doing?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I wanted to make it a nice night for us,
Speaker 5: just get to know hehere not seeing too crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 5: an hour before the date, I watched this Tony Robbins
Speaker 5: video to just really get pumped.
Speaker 2: Up, okay, to take life by the horns message one.
Speaker 5: Right right, And it really did work. Like I felt empowered,
Speaker 5: like I felt pumped up. I was, I was ready.
Speaker 5: So she gets.
Speaker 6: There after me, and she, I mean, she looks.
Speaker 5: Amazing, she dressed up, and so I thought of Tony
Speaker 5: Robbins and I started to, you know, compliment her just
Speaker 5: right off the bat.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the right way to start things off.
Speaker 3: Everyone likes to compliment.
Speaker 4: I mean it seems to start well. But you're saying
Speaker 4: you think this video backfired on you. Did that happened
Speaker 4: in the middle of the date towards the end.
Speaker 5: Yeah, kind of during the date. And it was a
Speaker 5: new restaurant. I had never been there before, and maybe
Speaker 5: I just shouldn't have talked quite as much to the waitress.
Speaker 1: To the waitress, what mean, what'd you say to the waitress?
Speaker 5: Yeah, so Tony said I should talk to everyone, not
Speaker 5: just you know, in a dating situation, but in life,
Speaker 5: to you know, scope out the room.
Speaker 6: See what's up and just start.
Speaker 5: Talking to people. So I asked the waitress how her
Speaker 5: day was going to show Grace that I could be
Speaker 5: more outgoing.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's an innocent question.
Speaker 3: Why would that be bad?
Speaker 5: So I asked the waitress, you know, how her day
Speaker 5: was going, and she when she said she went to
Speaker 5: the beach, And I said, that's amazing. Did you wear
Speaker 5: like a one piece a swimsuit.
Speaker 6: With a cold?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: Was that just your awkwardness coming out?
Speaker 2: Like you didn't know what the next best question for
Speaker 2: beach was normally like.
Speaker 3: A normal thing. I think that's what Tony Robbins would ask.
Speaker 1: What were you wearing?
Speaker 6: Yeah, just like ask a question, ask the question, ask
Speaker 6: a question.
Speaker 1: Okay, how much skin were you showing?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are you sunburned?
Speaker 5: Anyway?
Speaker 3: That's nice, that's nice.
Speaker 1: What did the waitress say to that question?
Speaker 3: Yea, was she wearing a two piece?
Speaker 5: She kind of just said it was a good day
Speaker 5: and then like kind of walked away, like I feel
Speaker 5: like that's when.
Speaker 1: You dropped, like I was with my boyfriend at the beach.
Speaker 2: And what did Grace say? Did she mention that interaction
Speaker 2: at all?
Speaker 4: I'm sure she wanted to know about the two piece too.
Speaker 5: Well, I think it was more so me calling the
Speaker 5: waitress back over and over again. But well, it's because I.
Speaker 6: Had never been there before and I was confused on.
Speaker 5: What to order, and I just think maybe she thought
Speaker 5: I was trying to hit on her.
Speaker 3: Yes, if you're yeah, because you could have.
Speaker 2: Sorry, you just asked the waitress if she was wearing
Speaker 2: a bikini at the beach, and then you called her
Speaker 2: back over and have multiple more questions.
Speaker 1: Of course that's what was assumed.
Speaker 4: Well, sure it was fact finding, though it wasn't flirty.
Speaker 1: I understand that wasn't his intention.
Speaker 5: I wasn't even thinking about that and the whole bathing
Speaker 5: suit thing. I was really just trying to make conversation,
Speaker 5: and that was the next thing. You know, there might
Speaker 5: have been more before that, Like what did it like
Speaker 5: a beach? I don't know, okay, okay about the bathing seat,
Speaker 5: and like what's your favorite part about the beach.
Speaker 1: And the conversation? How fun? So glad you had a
Speaker 1: great day at the beach. I would like to order
Speaker 1: a glass of wine.
Speaker 4: Sure, okay, but we'll just call that a little hiccup
Speaker 4: that you had during your there's.
Speaker 5: More because I don't. I don't wear a bathing stage
Speaker 5: of the beach like I I like to cover up.
Speaker 3: So alright, you wore something.
Speaker 2: Was there any good interaction between you and Gray? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I loved our conversations. Actually, I mean we talked
Speaker 5: a lot good and we both liked the zoo, and
Speaker 5: so we talked about the zoo a lot.
Speaker 1: Zoo.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I thought it might be like a good next
Speaker 5: date situation.
Speaker 3: That's very Robin's move of you.
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, that's what Tony said to do, so nice.
Speaker 3: A zoo the apprentice becomes the master.
Speaker 4: Okay, so since we're running out of time here, let's
Speaker 4: get to the end of the day. How did you
Speaker 4: and Grace leave it?
Speaker 6: I thought we may go in for a kiss or
Speaker 6: at least a hug, but.
Speaker 5: She just kind of went in for a side hug passively,
Speaker 5: and then I texted her to see if she got
Speaker 5: home and she just kind of thumbs it up.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, so no zoo date has happened. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Well I proposed it over text to go to the zoo,
Speaker 5: but she just left me on red. She didn't respond
Speaker 5: to it, not.
Speaker 1: Even a zebra emoji back.
Speaker 3: Huh, what does that mean.
Speaker 5: All I can think of is that maybe the Tony
Speaker 5: video just got me too pumped and two outgoing, or
Speaker 5: maybe I just talked the way just way too much,
Speaker 5: and so I just called you guys to see.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's good to get out of your comfort zone,
Speaker 2: but you got to be careful about not trying to
Speaker 2: be someone you're not.
Speaker 4: You know what, Broke, I think everybody's sick of all
Speaker 4: your life lessons that you're trying to deliver on in
Speaker 4: a show. Yeah, that's valid.
Speaker 3: Start your own seminar by the airport at the Hilton.
Speaker 2: Okay, I was waiting for you to wrap up this
Speaker 2: segment so we can call this girl finally time.
Speaker 4: Let's do what Tony would do and just plow ahead
Speaker 4: and get the answers that we've been searching for.
Speaker 3: That's what Tony would do.
Speaker 4: When we come back and do your second Date update,
Speaker 4: not taken no for an answer.
Speaker 7: Right after Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date updates.
Speaker 4: Tony Robbins says, quote, if you do what you've always done,
Speaker 4: you'll get what you've always gotten.
Speaker 1: What okay? Is that actually a quote?
Speaker 4: That is and that's why Eugene listened to his mentor
Speaker 4: and decided to mix it up for his first date
Speaker 4: with Gray.
Speaker 3: Even though he's normally a shy.
Speaker 4: Reserved guy, he cracked out of his own shell and
Speaker 4: went bold, asking lots and lots of questions.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not just to his date.
Speaker 4: No, Fortunately, a bunch of them were directed to the waitress,
Speaker 4: asking what kind of bathing suit.
Speaker 3: She wore to the beach earlier. But he wasn't trying
Speaker 3: to be flirty.
Speaker 4: He was just trying to sound out going and conversational.
Speaker 3: Someone who doesn't make conversation a lot tried to make conversation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, which is why Eugene is worried. Maybe he
Speaker 4: channeled Tony Robbins too hard and it could be why
Speaker 4: Grace is backing off Brook.
Speaker 3: What do you think I mean?
Speaker 2: I think it's an easy fix because you're innocent here.
Speaker 2: Even if the is she was assuming that you were
Speaker 2: hitting on the waitress, it shows so much a we're
Speaker 2: calling right, like.
Speaker 1: Obviously you're going to be interested if you got us.
Speaker 4: Involved, right, Eugene, innocent till proven guilty.
Speaker 1: No, No, that's oh Jason.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he got off innocent. So I like this. This
Speaker 3: is a good.
Speaker 2: Headspace making me think he's less innocent than he originally.
Speaker 6: Like that.
Speaker 4: Either way, let's build off of this and make the call.
Speaker 4: We'll see if Grace can fill in some of the
Speaker 4: blanks for us.
Speaker 3: Here we go. Hello, Hi is this Grace?
Speaker 6: Yeah? This is Grace, Hey Grace.
Speaker 3: This is a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 3: the Morning.
Speaker 1: Hey Grace, by Grace, Good morning.
Speaker 3: That's the show.
Speaker 7: Uh, okay, tell her who?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 3: I said who? But why is a good question. While
Speaker 3: we are doing this segment right now called a second
Speaker 3: date update, I've heard of you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank god, So now I don't have to explain
Speaker 4: it to you.
Speaker 1: We are always so surprised.
Speaker 4: Okay, but that means one of our listeners is trying
Speaker 4: to get a hold of you because they really liked
Speaker 4: hanging out with you recently, a guy named Eugene.
Speaker 7: Oh oh, I know who Eugene is.
Speaker 1: All right, okay, there's a good start.
Speaker 4: So if you know how this segment works, you understand
Speaker 4: Eugene is confused why you're not super eager to hang
Speaker 4: out with him?
Speaker 3: At least that's how it seems.
Speaker 1: After your day she left him on read He responded.
Speaker 4: That is not super eager, So we would like to
Speaker 4: know what you thought about Eugene and your date. I
Speaker 4: will mention he did tell us a little bit about it,
Speaker 4: but we'd like.
Speaker 3: To hear your side.
Speaker 7: So then I'm sure he told you about like the
Speaker 7: conversation with the waitress and the beach and all that stuff.
Speaker 2: We did hear.
Speaker 3: Fortunately, questions were asked.
Speaker 7: For me, that wasn't really even the deal breaker, because
Speaker 7: he did apologize and he said he was nervous, which,
Speaker 7: like I understood because I was nervous too.
Speaker 2: If you were nervous, that means you were also excited.
Speaker 7: To right, Yeah, I mean it was my first day
Speaker 7: in a long time, so I was nervous too.
Speaker 1: Right, So you understood that.
Speaker 2: Like asking the waitress what she was wearing to the
Speaker 2: beach was just an awkward question.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 7: The thing that I didn't love, though, like the deal
Speaker 7: breaker for me, was he kept calling the waitress back
Speaker 7: over because he didn't know what to order, and like
Speaker 7: I eventually was like, why don't we just order a
Speaker 7: bunch of apps? And he was like, oh, that sounds
Speaker 7: so great, and so we ordered the apps. The waitress
Speaker 7: is like so relieved, Yeah, finally.
Speaker 4: Okay, you agreed on it, then, yeah, why is that bad?
Speaker 7: So afterwards he looked at me and he said, hey,
Speaker 7: I really appreciate that suggestion, but it's really hard for
Speaker 7: me to commit to just one dish.
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean I agree with him. I love to
Speaker 1: try everything on the menu. I like to know what
Speaker 1: everyone I go with is ordering so that I can
Speaker 1: have a bite of it.
Speaker 3: All All right, why why is that flag?
Speaker 7: You know, I'm a person who is like dating for
Speaker 7: a commitment, and if you can't even pick what dish
Speaker 7: you're going to order at a restaurant, what how are
Speaker 7: you gonna commit to me?
Speaker 1: Wait?
Speaker 3: Hold on, hold on.
Speaker 2: You're saying that he was indecisive about the menu, which
Speaker 2: means that he's not good at being in a monogamous relationship.
Speaker 7: I don't think you understand, like how indecisive he was,
Speaker 7: Like this went on and on and on and on
Speaker 7: and so like, yeah, it's put a red flag in
Speaker 7: my head.
Speaker 1: How many options do you think you Jeet's got off?
Speaker 4: I mean, if that's how you feel, grace like you're
Speaker 4: worried that he's not a safe person to commit to
Speaker 4: because he's going to be considering all his other female options.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm just looking for someone like a little more decisive.
Speaker 3: Interesting, was there any okay?
Speaker 1: Was he decisive? Is any other way? I mean he
Speaker 1: picked the restaurant, Oh, he picked the zoo for the
Speaker 1: next day decisive?
Speaker 7: Well, actually there were three different views and he wasn't
Speaker 7: sure which ones to go to.
Speaker 4: So okay, Well, I can't speak to what's going on
Speaker 4: in Eugene's mind. Only he can do that. And the
Speaker 4: good news is he's on the phone with us right now,
Speaker 4: listening in on this conversation, waiting to talk to you.
Speaker 1: Now that's decisive.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it feels pretty decisive to me unless he's on
Speaker 4: hold with a bunch of other radio shows.
Speaker 3: But Eugene, are you there?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm here. I'm just thinking what Yeah, I guess
Speaker 5: I can see where you get confused about me not
Speaker 5: being able to decide on a food. But there's just
Speaker 5: so many foods.
Speaker 3: Okay, Hell, you could say hi to Grace. She's there
Speaker 3: waiting to talk to you.
Speaker 7: Oh hey, Grace, Yeah, Hi, I mean I like kind
Speaker 7: of have to go.
Speaker 5: So is this like I don't know what else to say? Yeah,
Speaker 5: I just need to tell you that I know I
Speaker 5: have a hard time committing to food or what zoo
Speaker 5: because there's a lot of different zoos and know what
Speaker 5: you like. But I will and can commit to relationships. Wow,
Speaker 5: there's something you don't know about me actually, but my
Speaker 5: mentor and inspiration Tony Robbins. He says, true commitment bridges
Speaker 5: the gap between goals and reality.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 3: Wowiful, that didn't sound like you read it at all.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, Well, and I don't know. I don't actually
Speaker 5: know what that really means. But he said there's always
Speaker 5: a way if you're committed, and I'm committed to going
Speaker 5: out with you again.
Speaker 4: That you Grace, How does that feel to hear that?
Speaker 7: Unfortunately I am not committed to seeing him again, so
Speaker 7: it doesn't really feel like anything.
Speaker 2: Wait wait, Grace, I mean you said the one thing
Speaker 2: that you were worried about it he wouldn't be interested
Speaker 2: in just seeing you.
Speaker 1: And that's what he's saying. He's he's saying, yes, I.
Speaker 7: Am, I'm okay. I would like someone who can make
Speaker 7: a decision. I don't need to be the deciding person
Speaker 7: and every single thing in my life.
Speaker 3: Well, he just decided, he decided you were the one.
Speaker 7: That's nice for him.
Speaker 2: It sounds like maybe you just were you just maybe
Speaker 2: not as attracted to him as well, or something like, I'm.
Speaker 7: Just not attracted to that behavior.
Speaker 5: Like I said, Oh wait, I'm committed.
Speaker 7: I do have to go now, so I'm going to pass.
Speaker 7: Thank you guys.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, he's committed to something. I think we lost her.
Speaker 1: Yeah that went. That was more quick than I expect you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Eugene, I'm sorry that happened. Man, Does Tony Robbins
Speaker 4: have a good quote about what to do after you
Speaker 4: get rejected.
Speaker 5: I've got to look one up.
Speaker 6: But like the other one, I don't know if I
Speaker 6: understand it.
Speaker 2: All you need to do before your next date is
Speaker 2: look at the menu online and choose before you get there.
Speaker 4: Or hire Tony Robbinson go on your dates with you
Speaker 4: or Brookie Robbins, who's gonna be at the airport this
Speaker 4: Sunday night?
Speaker 5: Maybe so okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2: You can't even commit to go into that, And then
Speaker 2: I actually can kind of see what she was saying.
Speaker 7: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: You know what, if that conversation about commitment had come
Speaker 4: up during dinner, maybe it could have been saved.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever been shut down so quickly.
Speaker 3: That's the thing. It was just it was too late
Speaker 3: once she wrote him off.
Speaker 4: Huh, and she decided that he's yelling I'll commit to
Speaker 4: you now. It's there's no saving it. It's like catching
Speaker 4: a falling knife. You've already lost it.
Speaker 1: You don't want to catch a falling life. That's that's
Speaker 1: I feel like Alexis actually needs that life pack.
Speaker 3: Yes, not to do that lose lose situation at the handle.
Speaker 3: That's not gonna happen, zero chance that turns out.
Speaker 4: Well, God, that's the point I lost. The bottom line
Speaker 4: is he's a little undecisive, but that should not stop
Speaker 4: him from going full or even half Robins on his
Speaker 4: next date.
Speaker 1: There it is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it worked for him. Yeah, well until it didn't.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: But hopefully he's back on the show someday to do
Speaker 4: a closure call with us, so we can call that
Speaker 4: waitress and find out was she wearing a one piece
Speaker 4: or was she going to sobs? If you're listening to
Speaker 4: the show, text us let us know what went wrong,
Speaker 4: help out a little bit. I don't think we can
Speaker 4: afford that anyway, But if you need help with your dating,
Speaker 4: like female the show, we'll call that person who's not
Speaker 4: calling you back. Go find our podcast wherever you get
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