Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's La La Kent.
Speaker 2: Welcome to Untraditionally Lala. Hello, my loves, Welcome to the
Speaker 2: bonus episode of Untraditionally Lala.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: We have such good questions today, and I love it
Speaker 2: because we're kind of like all over the place. This
Speaker 2: is my first solo bonus episode.
Speaker 1: A lot of cherries being popped this week. For real.
Speaker 2: I'm like, whoa, it's a nice little feeling, little nervous.
Speaker 2: It does feel like when I lost my virginity. Okay,
Speaker 2: So the first question is what's your favorite part of
Speaker 2: being a mom right now? Oh my gosh, that's so
Speaker 2: hard to even pinpoint one thing. I think my most
Speaker 2: favorite part about being a mom right now is watching
Speaker 2: so so says only a year old. So like she's fun,
Speaker 2: but like we're still learning. We're still learning a lot.
Speaker 2: We're in a learning process. Not saying that Ocean isn't
Speaker 2: but Ocean is very much like a little human being
Speaker 2: who can go toes with me. She's opinionated, she's like
Speaker 2: a little character and she just she is who she is.
Speaker 2: And I can sit here and say like, oh, she
Speaker 2: got that from me, she got that from him. But
Speaker 2: I just think that they come how they are. So
Speaker 2: my favorite part about being a mom right now is
Speaker 2: watching my kids just turn into like the little humans
Speaker 2: that they were born to be. Like, I can already
Speaker 2: see how Ocean is going to be when she's older.
Speaker 2: The girl has mad stamina. She does not take no
Speaker 2: for an answer. It is completely exhausting, and I love
Speaker 2: it because I'm like, girl, you are going to go places,
Speaker 2: you know when she's such a character. And my mom
Speaker 2: has said, like I really want you to set up
Speaker 2: a YouTube channel for her, and you guys, this is
Speaker 2: where I'm at with it. So Ocean has never been
Speaker 2: able to be on TV except for when she was
Speaker 2: like a brand new baby, because the other side won't
Speaker 2: sign off on it, And like, that's a blessing and a.
Speaker 1: Curse for me. It's a curse because she's getting older.
Speaker 2: So if I film anything, I have to say to her,
Speaker 2: like you have to go away, and she doesn't quite
Speaker 2: understand why.
Speaker 1: But it's a blessing because being.
Speaker 2: A mom is the most sacred thing that I have
Speaker 2: and it's not for anyone to judge.
Speaker 1: It's not for anyone to.
Speaker 2: Weigh in on what I did wrong, how I could
Speaker 2: have done it differently. It's just between myself, my kids,
Speaker 2: my household, and I really like it that way. So
Speaker 2: although Ocean is very funny and many people think like
Speaker 2: you need to put her on TV, she needs to
Speaker 2: be on YouTube. This is where my head's at. She's
Speaker 2: going to get older, her body's going to change. People
Speaker 2: who follow her are going to start experiencing life. Some
Speaker 2: will become trolls, others will still stay kind. I just
Speaker 2: don't want to put her out there like that. It's
Speaker 2: one thing for me to post a twenty four hour
Speaker 2: story that literally no one can comment on, or a
Speaker 2: cute little photo. It's quite another to literally hand over
Speaker 2: content that's just Ocean for people to weigh in on.
Speaker 2: I just I want to incubate her mindset. Which homegirl
Speaker 2: has hair down to her ass, lashes to the sky.
Speaker 2: You cannot tell her anything, and I want to keep
Speaker 2: it that way for as long as I possibly can.
Speaker 2: The world is going to attempt to break her spirit.
Speaker 2: Ocean talks about boys. We're getting into that stage of things,
Speaker 2: which is very fucking wild. She had this boyfriend named
Speaker 2: Cam at school and they would hold hands and he
Speaker 2: painted her a picture and she came home and I
Speaker 2: posted about this. I think it was on TikTok, her
Speaker 2: telling me how Cam is her boyfriend now, and I
Speaker 2: like tech his mom and I was like, hey in
Speaker 2: lawn and we both thought it was so funny. She
Speaker 2: comes home the next day and I was like, hey, girl,
Speaker 2: how's Cam.
Speaker 1: She's He's not my boyfriend anymore. Mom. I go, already,
Speaker 1: you already broke up? What happened?
Speaker 2: And she goes, I just thought about it and I
Speaker 2: kind of changed my mind.
Speaker 1: Excellent, excellent.
Speaker 2: You are allowed to change your mind in the Bravo universe.
Speaker 1: You guys, you are not allowed to change your mind.
Speaker 2: I can say something right now and people will be
Speaker 2: like sea then for you said this now, bitch, you
Speaker 2: can change your mind. You can feel one way right now,
Speaker 2: and in five minutes.
Speaker 1: You can feel a different way. And I'm cool with that.
Speaker 1: What's one thing.
Speaker 2: About you people would be surprised to know? Oh, I
Speaker 2: think the one thing people would be surprised to know.
Speaker 2: And actually, this conversation came up with someone.
Speaker 1: The other day who is on the valley.
Speaker 2: I won't share more than that, but basically, I think
Speaker 2: people think that I come into a situation and that
Speaker 2: I like confrontation. I don't like confrontation. I'm very good
Speaker 2: at confrontation, but I don't like it. And I think
Speaker 2: people think I come in, I go toes and I
Speaker 2: feel great about myself. I go home and sleep like
Speaker 2: a baby. I will beat myself up for days on end,
Speaker 2: months on end when it comes to season eleven, years
Speaker 2: on end. I left Season eleven of vander Pump Rules,
Speaker 2: and although I felt how I felt in the moment
Speaker 2: and for many months after, I was like, I stand
Speaker 2: by what I said. It may not have been the
Speaker 2: waste anyone wanted me to say it, but it is
Speaker 2: what it is. That's how I felt, and I stand
Speaker 2: by that sentiment of like, say how you feel.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: My whole thing is when I'm facing foreign emotions, which
Speaker 2: is very much what was happening all of season eleven,
Speaker 2: I just react and then regret. So I'm trying to conquer.
Speaker 2: And I've been working on this with my sponsor because
Speaker 2: it was a few months ago where I was like,
Speaker 2: you know, I just I can't get over and I'm
Speaker 2: saying it as season eleven for you guys, because that's
Speaker 2: the only way to pinpoint it for you guys.
Speaker 1: At that point, in my life.
Speaker 2: For me, what it was was I was finally the
Speaker 2: adrenaline had gone. I was in the fight of my
Speaker 2: life for you guys, Season ten and then season eleven
Speaker 2: for me was when a time in my life where
Speaker 2: I was coming to grips with the fact that this
Speaker 2: was my life. I was having to share my kid.
Speaker 2: The adrenaline had worn off. I was angry, and I
Speaker 2: didn't want to be angry anymore because I had a
Speaker 2: child that I didn't want her to see me as
Speaker 2: an angry person, and so we went the complete opposite way.
Speaker 1: There was no balance.
Speaker 2: Everything was so foreign to me, and I was doing
Speaker 2: the best that I could, and I knew going into
Speaker 2: film a show when I was in that state of
Speaker 2: mind was not good, and I still did it, and.
Speaker 1: That was my life path.
Speaker 2: But the aftermath of that and the anger that I felt,
Speaker 2: along with all the guilt that I felt, was suffocating,
Speaker 2: and I had to work through it with my sponsor,
Speaker 2: and you know, for so long I could not stop
Speaker 2: fixating on it.
Speaker 1: And I think that's.
Speaker 2: What people would be most surprised by, is like, you
Speaker 2: don't need to beat me up over anything, you guys,
Speaker 2: Like I got that handled, like no one's gonna knock
Speaker 2: me out quicker than I will knock myself out. I'm
Speaker 2: a thinker and overthinker, which is another reason why I
Speaker 2: wanted to do the Preneuvo scan was I'm like, the
Speaker 2: amount of stress that I put on myself on a
Speaker 2: regular basis is going to take its toll on me.
Speaker 1: When I was a vapor my mom was like, you
Speaker 1: gotta give up the vape. It's going to kill you.
Speaker 2: I'm like, the stress I feel is gonna kill me
Speaker 2: way before this fucking vape.
Speaker 1: Trust me.
Speaker 2: That's what people would be surprised by. Also, I love
Speaker 2: my knee caps massaged. I think that people would think
Speaker 2: that's weird. It's the fucking best. Get on down there
Speaker 2: to those knee cabs. Boy, if you could go back
Speaker 2: to your first season on Vanner Pump Rules, what advice
Speaker 2: would you give yourself?
Speaker 1: Not a one fucking thing. Chef's kiss, no notes. I
Speaker 1: wish I.
Speaker 2: Could go back and be that fucking cool again. She
Speaker 2: did not give one shit. I watch it and I
Speaker 2: cringe and I'm like, oh, wow, you're committed.
Speaker 1: You're committed to the bit.
Speaker 2: However, that first season that I was on Vanner Pump Rules,
Speaker 2: which is season four for me.
Speaker 1: I was so insecure.
Speaker 2: I was broken out, and I really I had to
Speaker 2: like fake confidence. I faked it until I made it,
Speaker 2: and then we went a little too confident. Then the
Speaker 2: head was like in the clouds. I would have told her, like,
Speaker 2: it's I know you're having a great time. Maybe I
Speaker 2: would have told her to not hit the bottle as
Speaker 2: hard because I really wish I could like have just
Speaker 2: a drink with someone instead.
Speaker 1: I'm like, how's that drink? I'm going to hit a meeting.
Speaker 1: It's all good, though. Uh, if you.
Speaker 2: Could collab with any celebrity on a project, who would
Speaker 2: it be?
Speaker 1: Larry David? Larry David?
Speaker 2: Larry David because there is no one like him. There
Speaker 2: is no one funnier. He is completely effortless. He's uncancellable,
Speaker 2: which is fucking awesome. If you guys have not watched
Speaker 2: every season of Seinfeld and every season of Curved, you
Speaker 2: are really messing up. I would die to work with him.
Speaker 2: I just find him to be a fucking genius. Also,
Speaker 2: there's a new one though, you guys. It's called Bad
Speaker 2: Friends with Andrew Santino and Bobby Lee Easton. My brother
Speaker 2: introduced me to this comedian and the first one I
Speaker 2: watched was Cheese Burger on Netflix.
Speaker 1: Hysterical I die.
Speaker 2: Yesterday I listened to his Hulu stand up and it's
Speaker 2: called Andrew Santino White Noise. Highly recommend. I would die
Speaker 2: to work with him too, die. He's so fucking hysterical.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to tell his jokes on here because
Speaker 2: it's just not gonna hit the same, But please go
Speaker 2: watch I beg of you so we can all talk
Speaker 2: about it. Do you ever still have moments where the
Speaker 2: thought of drinking crosses your mind? And if so, how
Speaker 2: do you handle those feelings? They're not often, but yes,
Speaker 2: there are moments where I will sit there and watch
Speaker 2: someone like crack a hard Seltzer or have a glass
Speaker 2: of rose. It's only during the day, though, you guys
Speaker 2: like I used to love day drinking because then I
Speaker 2: could still implement my nighttime routine. You know, I'm a
Speaker 2: creature of routine, Get drunk, shake it off bed by seven.
Speaker 2: And in those moments, I can only count on one
Speaker 2: hand where I've been like we need to empty the minibar.
Speaker 2: That was probably in twenty twenty. I had that moment
Speaker 2: in Puerto Rico, where I was like, I'm gonna drink
Speaker 2: and no one's gonna know. And I called the front desk.
Speaker 2: I said, I need someone to immediately come and clear
Speaker 2: out the minibar, and they did.
Speaker 1: They called my sponsor. We talked through it.
Speaker 2: That was the biggest one since then. There was one
Speaker 2: moment where I called my sponsor and I knew I
Speaker 2: wasn't going to be able to stay sober for myself
Speaker 2: in that moment, I was going to have to stay
Speaker 2: sober for something.
Speaker 1: Bigger than me, which that was ocean.
Speaker 2: So they don't come around often, but I know the
Speaker 2: days are looming, and I know the Beast is never
Speaker 2: gonna be conquered, like she's always gonna win. That motherfucker
Speaker 2: is aggressive, she has stamina. The moment I feed into her,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be fucking chaoed and not on my watch.
Speaker 2: I have such That's a fantastic new sponsor. By the way, too,
Speaker 2: if you could play matchmaker for Easton, what type of
Speaker 2: partner would you set him up with? So Eathan's very chill,
Speaker 2: he would need someone with a lot of drive. Not
Speaker 2: saying he's not driven, but he is just like the
Speaker 2: best time the brightest delight, and you know there are
Speaker 2: people that are like, he's got the most brilliant ideas,
Speaker 2: and I know that he is going to.
Speaker 1: Take one of them and just like fucking crush it.
Speaker 2: But he needs someone who balances him out because he's
Speaker 2: a fucking good time. He needs someone to kind of
Speaker 2: put him back on the train tracks physically Madison Beer.
Speaker 1: But then I may have to steal her.
Speaker 2: From him, so that wouldn't be good because I'm a winner, guys,
Speaker 2: I'm a winner. How is your relationship with LVP today?
Speaker 2: LVP and I are so thick. I'm actually so glad
Speaker 2: someone wrote this because I actually.
Speaker 1: Need to call her.
Speaker 2: She has always just been so supportive of me and
Speaker 2: so kind, and I think there are things out there
Speaker 2: about her from certain people where I'm like, okay, that's
Speaker 2: your experience, but for it to be an overall, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm really into this thing right now and I don't
Speaker 2: know how it happened, but I'm like, depends on who
Speaker 2: you ask. People are like, La, La, you're a raging
Speaker 2: I'm like, maybe depends on who he asks.
Speaker 1: You could ask this person.
Speaker 2: They could say I'm absolutely fucking wonderful, just depends on
Speaker 2: who you ask for me. I'm being asked if Lisa
Speaker 2: vander Pump is freaking fantastic. Lisa vander Pump is freaking fantastic.
Speaker 1: I like what she.
Speaker 2: Believes in stands for when it comes to the dogs.
Speaker 2: She and I are thick, and I hope it stays
Speaker 2: that way. If you and Shena weren't on speaking terms,
Speaker 2: would you still let ocean in summer moon have playdates?
Speaker 1: Absolutely. My whole thing in all of this is I.
Speaker 2: Want my kid to always be prioritized, and my kid
Speaker 2: enjoys summer moon. Sheena and I are in a very
Speaker 2: strange place, but there was a shift where I kind
Speaker 2: of went er.
Speaker 1: I don't know about this. I love her, She's like family.
Speaker 2: I am very disappointed on how she has gone about
Speaker 2: certain things. She and I are obviously not in a
Speaker 2: great place. She said it put friendships into perspective based
Speaker 2: on who posted her book. She didn't talk about the
Speaker 2: times that I've sat in a car and cried with
Speaker 2: her about the situation that she wrote in her book.
Speaker 2: She didn't talk about the message that I sent to
Speaker 2: her about how fucking proud I am of.
Speaker 1: Her that she wrote this book.
Speaker 2: Put her heart out there and made it to the
Speaker 2: New York Times bestseller list.
Speaker 1: That is not easy.
Speaker 2: But because none of that was public, it's not good
Speaker 2: enough for her.
Speaker 1: And I want to shake her at times.
Speaker 2: Because in the past two years I have had to
Speaker 2: do a lot of soul searching, and I have had
Speaker 2: to own my part in a lot of situations that
Speaker 2: I didn't want to own my part.
Speaker 1: I wanted to place blame. I wanted to say, but
Speaker 1: you did this. We have come a long way with she.
Speaker 2: And I want to shake her because it's like you.
Speaker 2: You have a husband who's absolutely wonderful. He may not
Speaker 2: have done wonderful things, but he has made massive changes
Speaker 2: for you, and that's a beautiful thing. You chose to
Speaker 2: stick with him. That is absolutely incredible and wonderful. You
Speaker 2: have a beautiful, healthy little girl. You've got both your parents,
Speaker 2: your sister's coolest fuck what are you.
Speaker 1: So mad about? All the time you made your book hit.
Speaker 2: The biggest fucking list that a book can possibly hit,
Speaker 2: You've got a fantastic podcast.
Speaker 1: Why do you continue to.
Speaker 2: Try to scrape at the bottom of the barrel to
Speaker 2: find the shit?
Speaker 1: I want her to take.
Speaker 2: A moment to self reflect and figure out what makes
Speaker 2: her tick and what keeps her happy.
Speaker 1: Genuinely happy. This is all gonna fade.
Speaker 2: There's gonna be a day, y'all, where no television show exists,
Speaker 2: the podcasts are over, the brand deals are done, no
Speaker 2: one gives a fuck about Instagram. What do you want
Speaker 2: when it's all over? How do you want your life
Speaker 2: to be? I want to shake. I have fucked up
Speaker 2: in the past, so have you. The difference is I
Speaker 2: don't point out every fuck up that you have because
Speaker 2: it's not worth it. Because I know you're a good person.
Speaker 2: You should know I'm a good person.
Speaker 1: It makes me so just like you think I just
Speaker 1: bought a.
Speaker 2: House next to you because I just like thought that
Speaker 2: would be fun. No, that means I fuck with you
Speaker 2: really hard, and we should have duped this out behind
Speaker 2: the scenes. And my friendship to you should not be
Speaker 2: based off of If I posted your book in the
Speaker 2: proper timeline, you're setting me up for failure every time.
Speaker 2: And let me be very clear, y'all. I posted the book,
Speaker 2: the book was posted. She's upset that I didn't post
Speaker 2: it in the proper timeline. I am not a robot.
Speaker 2: You don't click in what you need from me. I'm
Speaker 2: a person with a life. I posted the book when
Speaker 2: you announced it for a pre order, and I did
Speaker 2: post the book when I got it. But nothing I
Speaker 2: do or anyone else does, will ever be good enough.
Speaker 2: And I really really hope that she can take a
Speaker 2: moment to reflect on why that is.
Speaker 1: Sena.
Speaker 2: I love you, I'm sorry if I've fucked up. What
Speaker 2: advice would you give to women who want to have
Speaker 2: a child on their own?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: My advice would be to really really sit on it,
Speaker 2: think about it, and really think about do I want
Speaker 2: to be a mom?
Speaker 1: Do I want to.
Speaker 2: I don't want to say live for someone else, but
Speaker 2: there's a period of time that you do live for
Speaker 2: someone else. Literally, your life is not your life anymore.
Speaker 2: There are dudes that I want to go and freaking
Speaker 2: kick it with, But guess what, I got kids, So like,
Speaker 2: you can't come over here because I'm not going to
Speaker 2: bring you around my kids and I'm not going to
Speaker 2: leave my kids to spend time with you. You really do
Speaker 2: give up a massive piece of who you are. You
Speaker 2: have to truly truly want kids. And I ask people
Speaker 2: I've asked Katie Maloney this I think. I asked Brinn,
Speaker 2: who used to be on Real Housewives of New York.
Speaker 2: I said, do you want kids or do you want
Speaker 2: a family? And I put that in quotes because I
Speaker 2: have a family. It just looks different from most people's.
Speaker 1: It's untraditional.
Speaker 2: And both of those people said, I would like to
Speaker 2: have a husband who I create a family with.
Speaker 1: Great.
Speaker 2: We know that a donor would never be for you
Speaker 2: if you want kids, period.
Speaker 1: I just want kids.
Speaker 2: Highly recommend, highly recommend. I love doing motherhood on my own.
Speaker 2: Are you thinking of getting another tattoo in the near future?
Speaker 2: If I have one more child, I'll get another tattoo.
Speaker 2: I already have the name picked out. It's a pretty
Speaker 2: sick name and no one would guess it. Everyone was
Speaker 2: trying to guess, So it's this name, and it was
Speaker 2: like sailor spear, it was like all of these like
Speaker 2: ocean things.
Speaker 1: I'm like no.
Speaker 2: But then I come out with the name and everyone
Speaker 2: first was like, so that means cocaine, like your drug
Speaker 2: addict is showing. How the fuck would you know that?
Speaker 2: But Sosa actually means saltwater in Portuguese. How wild? That's
Speaker 2: the fucking universe. I don't want any more tattoos unless
Speaker 2: I have another baby. I had got Sosa's name, and
Speaker 2: then I got a bit tiny like la on my hand.
Speaker 1: And I just want to be done.
Speaker 2: Like now I'm starting to look like I have stickers
Speaker 2: all over my body, and that's exactly what I didn't want.
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't want to look like I have
Speaker 2: stickers on my body, so put little tiny tattoos all
Speaker 2: over my body. Fuck?
Speaker 1: Are you talking about you? Guys?
Speaker 2: I want to remind you please slide into my dms,
Speaker 2: make sure you comment. Let me know like what you
Speaker 2: guys want to be talking about on this podcast. Remember
Speaker 2: I'm not talking at you, I'm talking with you. I
Speaker 2: want to open the conversation. You guys are my pod.
Speaker 2: You guys are my homies, so please weigh in. I'm
Speaker 2: with a different team, so your dms are most certainly
Speaker 2: going to be seen.
Speaker 1: So if you're being an uber bitch, just no, I
Speaker 1: won't see it. Won't see it. I love you guys
Speaker 1: so much.
Speaker 2: Have the best freaking week, fibabes,