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Speaker 1: you need advice and relationships on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Buggle

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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Okay, what say yeah? Take two.

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Speaker 1: Please buggle up and hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, Sir Williams.

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Speaker 1: That was you didn't hit at Coote forty five. You

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Speaker 1: didn't hear it? There you go, there you go. That's

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Speaker 1: He really thinks I took advantage of him. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm in my late thirties and I'm dating a man

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Speaker 1: talked to our pastor about me, and the pastor Hennett

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Speaker 1: that he might be ready to propose. I got excited

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Speaker 1: the next level, meaning it was time for sex. We

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Speaker 1: have been together for six months, and we were friends

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Speaker 1: for two years before we started dating. We haven't had sex,

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Speaker 1: but we sleep in the same bed a lot, and

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Speaker 1: I like to sleep in my underwear. I must admit

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Speaker 1: that he is a strong willed man because I look

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Speaker 1: great in my underwear and I am irresistible. We have

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Speaker 1: also taken a few showers together, and again he never

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Speaker 1: made a move on me. He says you ain't right,

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Speaker 1: or you play too much to let me know he's

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Speaker 1: turned on by me. This past weekend, he stayed at

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Speaker 1: my house and I slipped into some of my sexy

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Speaker 1: and he said that in due time we would. But

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Speaker 1: The next morning, he woke me up and said we

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Speaker 1: needed to talk. He told me that I was too forward,

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Speaker 1: not sure if we're compatible. I reminded him that he

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Speaker 1: All right? I don't necessarily know think you took advantage

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Speaker 1: of him. Of him, I think you took advantage of

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Speaker 1: no matter how hard you've tried, he told you that

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Speaker 1: you guys need to wait. And what this kind of

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Speaker 1: says to me is that, as unusual as this seems

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Speaker 1: He's told you that he really wants to wait until

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Speaker 1: accused you of being too forward and seducing him, But

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Speaker 1: I don't understand what he thinks is going to happen.

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Speaker 1: If you guys are sleeping in the same bed, if

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Speaker 1: all of that leads to sex, doesn't it. Yes, it

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Speaker 1: mean he's strong willed, You're right about that to be

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Speaker 1: But that's why I think you know that maybe he's

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Speaker 1: It sounds to me like, you know, he might want

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Speaker 1: That's what I think. I see so much mo in this,

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Speaker 1: Let's just review this right here. You're dating a man

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Speaker 1: this man might be ready to propose. You got excited,

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Speaker 1: what church y'all go to? What did the pastor say?

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Speaker 1: I want to know the conversation you in the pastor

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Speaker 1: some sex. This is a great church. Now, you hadn't

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Speaker 1: I look great in my underwear and I'm irresistible. Now,

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Speaker 1: one of these statements can't be true. There, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: hell can be truth? And which one do you think

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Speaker 1: you're sleeping? You like sleeping? You're underwear? Okay, that's true.

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Speaker 1: what some of these statements ain't true? All right, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna have part two of Steve's respond at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, today's Strawberry Letters. Subject he really

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Speaker 1: thinks I took advantage of him. Uh, we'll be back

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening to Steve Morning Show. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. Uh, he really

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Speaker 1: thinks it's not took advantage of him. That's a subject. Well,

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Speaker 1: that ain't high I see it. You met dating a

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Speaker 1: right after the conversation with the pastor, y'all church members,

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Speaker 1: now this your spiritual leader, shepherd. You just got through

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Speaker 1: he's turned on. Well, this past weekend he stayed at

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm hauling at myself. Steve say, man, it's stupid.

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Speaker 1: Save you see what I'm dying. He didn't stave, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Not the whistle blowing, because he can whistle, you know, yeah, Steve.

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Speaker 1: He told me I was too forward, and I seduced him.

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Speaker 1: But now I'm not sure if we're compatible. Right now,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you what happened. Happened. Shirley's absolutely correct.

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