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Speaker 1: All right, go here show all right, hold on tie

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. All right, this is a long one. The

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Speaker 1: subject my ex girlfriend is a huge problem. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I have a big problem. Two years ago, I relocated

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Speaker 1: for work. Before I moved, I had a special lady

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Speaker 1: that I enjoyed spending time with. She was a big,

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Speaker 1: had been a year since I had seen her, and

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Speaker 1: I was missing her good loving so I called her

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Speaker 1: and told her I was sending her a bus ticket

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Speaker 1: to come visit me. Yes, a bus ticket, because a

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Speaker 1: brother ain't rich. What The weekend finally came and I

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Speaker 1: was so excited to see her. But oh my goodness,

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Speaker 1: when this woman got off the bus, I swear I

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Speaker 1: barely recognized her. She had almost doubled in size in

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Speaker 1: the patch year. Don't get me wrong, I like big girls,

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Speaker 1: but she should have told me that she gained a

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Speaker 1: lot of weight. I didn't say anything, and I tried

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Speaker 1: not to look shocked. As soon as we got in

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Speaker 1: the car, she pulled out a bag of snacks and

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Speaker 1: offered me a brownie. I always loved her cooking, so

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Speaker 1: I ate a brownie. When we got to my apartment,

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Speaker 1: I ate another brownie. Then I realized something wasn't quite right. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I was high as heck. She admitted that the brownies

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Speaker 1: I was sitting on the couch trying to get myself

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Speaker 1: and said she was going to give me exactly what

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Speaker 1: I'd been missing. All I could do was lie there,

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Speaker 1: pinned to the couch. She took advantage of me for

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Speaker 1: her to stop, but nothing came out because I was

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Speaker 1: too high. I ended up passing out on the couch.

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Speaker 1: The next day. I told her that I felt violated.

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Speaker 1: She said she could tell that I had had a

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Speaker 1: problem with her weight, so she took matters into her

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Speaker 1: own hands. I couldn't wait to get this big, wild

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Speaker 1: woman out of my house. Now she keeps calling and

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Speaker 1: texting me, and I don't want anything to do with her.

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Speaker 1: How can I get rid of her without hurting her feelings?

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Speaker 1: This is a huge problem. Well, be careful of what

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Speaker 1: you ask for. Humhu, You know what, though, I'm really sorry, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you do it's a long letter. I'm really sorry that

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Speaker 1: you know you feel violated. I really am, and it's

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Speaker 1: not talked about a lot, but men do get violated,

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Speaker 1: and in this case, you were violated if you felt

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Speaker 1: that way, Um, you know, if this, if this situation

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Speaker 1: were reversed, we probably have a completely different answer for you.

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Speaker 1: But I will tell you this. She is out of

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Speaker 1: your house, she's out of town, so you don't have

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Speaker 1: that to worry about. As far as the phone is concerned.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to answer her calls, I mean, or

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Speaker 1: you can just simply tell her it's not going to

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Speaker 1: work out. You didn't appreciate what she did and all

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Speaker 1: of that. But maybe as a man you don't feel

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Speaker 1: like you should tell her all of that, But I

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Speaker 1: think you should. I think you should be honest with

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Speaker 1: is wrong and how you felt about the situation. And

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Speaker 1: please do not send her another bus ticket. All right,

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Speaker 1: that's in your best interest, Steve. Well, it's so much

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Speaker 1: to this letter. Should I just break it down line

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Speaker 1: by line because I used so many angles in this letter.

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Speaker 1: It is Shirley, my ex girlfriend is a huge problem.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen, Shirley, I have a big problem right there,

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Speaker 1: you damn show do and it's about to step down

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Speaker 1: off a buff. So the whole time, two years ago,

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Speaker 1: I was okay for a movie. I had a special

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Speaker 1: lady I enjoyed spending. She's a big fan, thicking all

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Speaker 1: the right place. It's been a year since I've seen her,

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Speaker 1: and I was missing her, good loving, So I called

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Speaker 1: her and told her that I was sending her a

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Speaker 1: bus ticket to come visit me. Yes, a bus ticket,

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Speaker 1: because a brother ain't rich. Two things here, when you

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Speaker 1: busting them in, when you busting on the end, we

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Speaker 1: are already dealing with low budget loving man. You busting

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Speaker 1: them in. They bust kids to skip, they bust freedom riding,

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Speaker 1: were busting boycotty. You don't do that in modern day,

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Speaker 1: but you somehow managed to bring that all the way up.

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Speaker 1: We stopped busting back a long time ago. You still

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Speaker 1: doing it now because this is low budget loving. You

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Speaker 1: must deal with another old saying you get what you

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Speaker 1: pay for all right now. See, first of all, what

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Sove West, come on now, this woman

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Speaker 1: had almost doubled in size from the past year because

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Speaker 1: she missed you, so she been eating. You like big women.

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Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. I like big girls. Okay, well

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Speaker 1: we're gonna get to like it. But she should have

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Speaker 1: told me that she had gained a lot of weight.

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Speaker 1: You didn't ask that. Your cheap ass just sent the

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Speaker 1: bus to You didn't ask because she didn't have to volunteer.

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Speaker 1: Oh you want to see me here? I come. I

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Speaker 1: didn't say anything, and I tried not to look shot

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Speaker 1: his I didn't say anything, and I tried not to

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Speaker 1: look shot. You can't take that look off your faith

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Speaker 1: with a big ass person getting down off a bus

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Speaker 1: the whole side and the bus go down. When she

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Speaker 1: looked like it was coming to our it's hard not

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Speaker 1: to look shocked when somebody fitted a turnover a damn bus.

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Speaker 1: Hang on real smer just man used to data woman

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Speaker 1: a year ago missed to loving he liked fine, thick women.

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Speaker 1: He sent for a bus ticket. She got on the bus,

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Speaker 1: and when she got off the bus all hell. He

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Speaker 1: couldn't believe it. She had doubled inside so that's where

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Speaker 1: we are, okay. But I want to bring to your

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Speaker 1: attention is show me the last fine person you've seen

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Speaker 1: on a bus crossing state lines. That's my challenge to you.

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Speaker 1: People that ride the bus looked like they ride the

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Speaker 1: bus de terminal. In the terminal, you know who they

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Speaker 1: in him? Yeah, it's a different crew. They don't have luggage.

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Speaker 1: They have clothes, laundry baskets with closed stuff to them

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Speaker 1: and duct tape. Wow, that's how they travel all they

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Speaker 1: closed in grocery bags and and hafties, zip locks, hefty

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Speaker 1: number one. That's that's it. Yeah, no luggage all right. Now,

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Speaker 1: she had gained a lot of weight. I ain't say anything,

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Speaker 1: and I tried not to look shocked. It's hard not

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Speaker 1: to be because you say little stuff to yourself, like Jesus,

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Speaker 1: good Lord, what the hell she's gonna tell me? I do?

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no extension for the seat man. It's

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Speaker 1: half offended to kill herself. My slam only break. Well.

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Speaker 1: At least she don't need that bag. Yeah, there's this

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Speaker 1: little stuff, he said, this help. As soon as we

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Speaker 1: so I ate a brownie. When we got to my problem,

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Speaker 1: I ain't another brownie. Then I realized someone wasn't quite right.

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Speaker 1: I was high as hell. Yeah, and she knew it too.

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Speaker 1: She gave you the brownie to get you off your game.

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Speaker 1: Yeah she didn't brownies got you looped. Now. After she

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Speaker 1: did that, she admitted that her brownies had weed in them,

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Speaker 1: of a sudden she climbed on me and said she

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Speaker 1: was gonna give me exactly what I had been missing.

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Speaker 1: This about your buster he phone. I am a fit

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Speaker 1: to bring it now, big fitting the brain out. Uma

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Speaker 1: got something for you, Gonna get it to you. Then,

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Speaker 1: what you want to do? What your bus? Then? It is?

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Speaker 1: All I could do was lie there, pin to the couch.

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Speaker 1: Your damn right, your pin She doubled the size she

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Speaker 1: whipping your ass. Actually, actually, what's happened to you in

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Speaker 1: the middle of the ass? Woman, you don't even know it.

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Speaker 1: She didn't pinned you. You're the rest of the match.

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Speaker 1: You'd have been out. She took advantage of me for

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Speaker 1: what seemed like hours. Anytime you want to you don't

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Speaker 1: want to do something. It seemed way long. You're probably

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Speaker 1: in there about eight minutes, felt like any high, big armor,

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Speaker 1: just getting it to you know what the hell going on?

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Speaker 1: I wanted to yell out for her to stop, but

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Speaker 1: She cut your wind off. Big people know how to

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Speaker 1: work they weight. She got just weight on. You tried

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Speaker 1: breath she it cave in your chest mold, so now

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Speaker 1: you can't even take a deep ba then not that's

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Speaker 1: pressed up. So you tried to yell out, but her

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Speaker 1: big ass had your pin. Nothing came out because I

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Speaker 1: was too high. I ended up passing out on the couch.

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Speaker 1: You got choked out, is what happened to you. Boy,

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Speaker 1: You got passed out because you got put out. Next

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Speaker 1: day I told I felt violated. She said that she

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Speaker 1: You know what she could tell when she get down

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Speaker 1: off that bus. Because you try not to look shocked,

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Speaker 1: but your ass was. You know when you first see

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Speaker 1: your woman, who lord, ain't ain't ain't a good statement.

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Speaker 1: Whoa lord not whoa whoa mean? Stop? Now she keeps

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Speaker 1: calling and texting me, and I don't want anything to

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Speaker 1: without hurting her feeling? This is a huge problem. You

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Speaker 1: damn right, it's a huge problem. But here's the first

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Speaker 1: thing you do. I don't want to have anything to

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Speaker 1: do with her. How can I get rid of her

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Speaker 1: without hurting her feeling? You can block her number, or

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Speaker 1: you can just get a whole new phone that you

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Speaker 1: got to get drafted because big people don't give up

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Speaker 1: each I'll tell you right now. People wear your ass down.

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Speaker 1: So now what you want to do is you want

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Speaker 1: to block car and you want to get a new number.

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Speaker 1: Only that problem you can do it. First of all,

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Speaker 1: you got to stop buying bus ticket. Don't buy another

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Speaker 1: damn bus ticket. Busting her in is the first beginning

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Speaker 1: of all your problems. People, was getting off the bus

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Speaker 1: before her, didn't it clue you? In? Damn you're looking

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Speaker 1: at it, people, He come so when she got off

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Speaker 1: rere light jumping down off people the same a ray

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Speaker 1: of light. Yeah, you thought something, angel were gonna come

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Speaker 1: out of this bust. No hear her big ass come Steve.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, she would double the side. Can I ask yourself? See, Shelley,

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Speaker 1: you a fine sister. You can't double though. Ain't nobody

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Speaker 1: fing to do you in double? Carling, you can't double, Monica,

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Speaker 1: you can't double. You can't double. We deal with we.

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Speaker 1: We we work with you where you're at. Everybody got

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Speaker 1: it going on. But what you can't do with double up?

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Speaker 1: All right? Well is that your response? Okay, that's your

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Speaker 1: response to today's Strawberry letter by no more damn bus tickets? Yeah, yes,

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Speaker 1: and call it and Monica next time we travel, just

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Speaker 1: know that y'all answer be coming in on the bus,

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Speaker 1: all right. See, we gotta get out of here. Email

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