WEBVTT - Captured in North Korea

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin. In two thousand and nine, Korean American journalists Una

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<v Speaker 1>Lee traveled to China. She was there to film a

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<v Speaker 1>documentary about the plight of people who escaped North Korea

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<v Speaker 1>in search of freedom. On the last day of her trip,

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<v Speaker 1>Una and her team briefly crossed the border into North

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<v Speaker 1>Korea to capture some footage before quickly returning to Chinese soil.

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<v Speaker 1>But North Korean soldiers had spotted Una and her crew,

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<v Speaker 1>and the soldiers raced over to them and dragged them

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<v Speaker 1>back into North Korean territory. Una and a fellow journalists

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<v Speaker 1>were then carted around to two different locations before being

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<v Speaker 1>blindfolded and taken to an army base. Being blindfolded was very,

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<v Speaker 1>very scared because you can't really see anything. But when

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<v Speaker 1>someone snatched out the blind board and I was looking

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<v Speaker 1>at the prison cell, and that just told me that

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<v Speaker 1>everything is going to the opposite direction that I wished

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<v Speaker 1>to go. Una ended up being held captive for one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred and forty days in North Korea. She was terrified

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<v Speaker 1>and demoralized during her time there, but there was one

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<v Speaker 1>part of her experience that surprised her. Before she moved

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<v Speaker 1>to the US, Una had grown up in South Korea,

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<v Speaker 1>where she'd been taught to view northerners as the enemy,

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<v Speaker 1>but that changed for Una during her time in North

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<v Speaker 1>Korea as she found herself building emotional connections with the

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<v Speaker 1>people who were guarding her. There were some moments that

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<v Speaker 1>we could connect on a human level. There were some

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<v Speaker 1>commonalogies that we could understand each other as parents and

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<v Speaker 1>then also understanding the Korean kirture, and there were moments

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<v Speaker 1>that we were able to mix more talk that was

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<v Speaker 1>really helpful during that depension. On today's episode, how finding

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<v Speaker 1>humanity and your enemy can help you survive, I'm Maya

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<v Speaker 1>Shunker and this is a slight change of plans, a

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<v Speaker 1>show about who we are and who we become in

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<v Speaker 1>the face of a big change. In March of two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand and nine, Una Lee said goodbye to her husband

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<v Speaker 1>and four year old daughter in California and traveled to

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<v Speaker 1>China for a two week trip to make a television

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<v Speaker 1>documentary about North Korean defectors. The crew included Una, fellow

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<v Speaker 1>journalist Laura Ling, a producer, and a local guide or

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<v Speaker 1>fixer as Una called him. On their last day of filming,

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<v Speaker 1>they found themselves at the Tuman River, which flows between

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<v Speaker 1>North Korea and China and is a route that North

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<v Speaker 1>Koreans used to seek freedom. Off in the distance in

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<v Speaker 1>North Korean territory, their fixers saw these so called safe

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<v Speaker 1>houses where defectors would wait and hide before trying to

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<v Speaker 1>cross the river into China. Una and her team knew

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<v Speaker 1>it was a risky move to try and film the

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<v Speaker 1>safe houses up close, but they also knew these houses

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<v Speaker 1>represented a critical part of the escape route, so they

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<v Speaker 1>followed their guide to the midpoint of the frozen Tuman

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<v Speaker 1>River and crossed briefly over into North Korean territory. So

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<v Speaker 1>after we get that foodie, we quickly left and then

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<v Speaker 1>we were in the middle of the river and walking

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<v Speaker 1>back and continued to filming and or producer he shouted soldiers.

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<v Speaker 1>Two soldiers ran towards Una and her crew with rifles

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<v Speaker 1>in hand, and we all ran as fast as we

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<v Speaker 1>cou to towards Chinese soil. And my fixer who was

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<v Speaker 1>running next me and asked me, are you filming this?

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<v Speaker 1>And I thought it's crazy, but then at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>you never know, so let me let me feel me

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<v Speaker 1>because this is the thing that probably a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>Norse cream defectors are facing. So I filiped the camera

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<v Speaker 1>and put under my arm and push the record and

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<v Speaker 1>then ran and our producer, who was an avid runner,

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<v Speaker 1>he disappeared out of my sight fast. And when I

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<v Speaker 1>arrived in Chinese soil, I found Laura just knee on ice,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I just stopped running. So I asked her

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<v Speaker 1>you okay, and she said I can't, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't feel my legs. So in a flash, didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>what to do with us. Somebody who can fill her

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<v Speaker 1>leg and I knew that I cannot leave her alone there,

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<v Speaker 1>and all these things in my mind, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>were surrounded by two Norse Grand soldiers. So you find

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<v Speaker 1>you find Laura on the ice, on her knees, unable

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<v Speaker 1>to move, and you're now surrounded by North Korean soldiers.

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<v Speaker 1>What happens after you're caught? So there were two small

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<v Speaker 1>North Grand soldiers, one what guarding Laura was guarding me,

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<v Speaker 1>and they both were determined to drag us back to

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<v Speaker 1>North Korea. And I was fighting. I grabbed anything that

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<v Speaker 1>in front of me not to be dragged, and at

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<v Speaker 1>some point he wanted to hit me because I was

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<v Speaker 1>fighting against him, and then he lifted his rifle. Back

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<v Speaker 1>of his rifle was pointing me, and so when I

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<v Speaker 1>looked at him, and he was a young boy, maybe seventeen,

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<v Speaker 1>and they he he wasn't hesitating to hit me. So

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<v Speaker 1>I quickly told him that I'm going to get up

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<v Speaker 1>and walk with you. So I got up and walked

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<v Speaker 1>with him, and I saw Laura, and when I looked her,

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<v Speaker 1>she was unconscious on the eyes. She was hit by

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<v Speaker 1>the other soldier, and I streamed her name over and

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<v Speaker 1>over to wake her up, and she finally woke up,

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<v Speaker 1>and I helped her and we got up and we

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<v Speaker 1>both followed these two storgiers and across the river to

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<v Speaker 1>North Korea. And what's going through your head at this moment?

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<v Speaker 1>In everything felt so surree. Your mind was everywhere and

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<v Speaker 1>fear and worried and what's going on? And then and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's silly. But I was hopeful too, because some

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<v Speaker 1>of journalists sometimes talk to North Grand soldiers and then

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<v Speaker 1>they write stories about it. So we knew about these things.

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<v Speaker 1>So we were hoping that, oh, is it something that

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<v Speaker 1>bad incident, but they're gonna extend us back home. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Oh, what's in my mind? I just couldn't believe.

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<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't believe what has happened. Like, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>something that you can organize your thoughts and plan things.

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<v Speaker 1>You just a face every moment that comes to you.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was more like I need to become so

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<v Speaker 1>that I can make the best decision or best reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think I was trying to become and I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to somehow find a human connection with them

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<v Speaker 1>so that they won't be too brutal towards us. You

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<v Speaker 1>say more about that, in what ways did you try

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<v Speaker 1>to find human connection with them? They were actually these

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<v Speaker 1>boys were smoking while they're walking, and they offered me,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want to smoke? I didn't smoke, but somehow

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<v Speaker 1>I know that anything that similar action that you do,

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<v Speaker 1>they will have the feel comfortable. So I said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna yeah, give me one. After Unit and Laura were

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<v Speaker 1>captured by these soldiers, they were moved to two different

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<v Speaker 1>locations before being blindfolded and driven to an army base.

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<v Speaker 1>What is the army base? Like? It was like a

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<v Speaker 1>matchbox along box buildings with gray color, and then they

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<v Speaker 1>had an exercise yard in front of the building. Soldiers

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<v Speaker 1>to practice knife fighting, and we were taken inside of

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<v Speaker 1>or a sure moment to an officer, and the insight

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<v Speaker 1>looked like a scene from World War two. Everything was

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<v Speaker 1>so old in their telephone typewriters. Everything was like you

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<v Speaker 1>traveled Tiemotion two, nineteen forty. So you said to me

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<v Speaker 1>that you were retaining some hope, you know, maybe it

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<v Speaker 1>will be okay, maybe they'll let us, maybe they'll set

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<v Speaker 1>us free. At what moment did you realize that wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>going to be the case. Being blind folded was very

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<v Speaker 1>scared because you can't really see anything. But when someone

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<v Speaker 1>snatched out the blind board and I was looking at

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<v Speaker 1>the prison cell, and that just told me that everything

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<v Speaker 1>is going to the opposite direction that I wish to go.

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<v Speaker 1>And the cell was very small, and it was maybe

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<v Speaker 1>five by seven maybe two others can lay down together

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<v Speaker 1>that small cells. And they put Laura and I into

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<v Speaker 1>two different cells, and in there there was nothing, nothing

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<v Speaker 1>but myself and I was there for to nights, but

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<v Speaker 1>there was a long tonight. And were you told what

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<v Speaker 1>was happening? I mean, did you get did anyone let

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<v Speaker 1>you know what the state of affairs was? What Laura

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<v Speaker 1>and I quickly decided we are not going to tell

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<v Speaker 1>them they were from television Cavor Television. We were going

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<v Speaker 1>to tell them we're students studying film, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>followed our professor, which is our another producer who disappeared,

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<v Speaker 1>So we kind of made that story. I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>joked with my another producer in the plane, if anything happened,

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<v Speaker 1>we tell this kind of story. I never knew that

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to use that story, and they were.

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<v Speaker 1>They were interrogating Laura May separate to get more information.

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<v Speaker 1>UNA's and Laura's stories did not completely match up, so

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<v Speaker 1>they were immediately relocated to a secluded compound in Pyongyang,

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<v Speaker 1>the capital of North Korea. There they were isolated in

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<v Speaker 1>separate rooms. North Korean government officials repeatedly questioned Yuna and

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<v Speaker 1>Laura for months with the goal of getting them to

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<v Speaker 1>reveal the truth about who they really were and why

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<v Speaker 1>they were there. Eventually, North Korea's tactics worked. In May

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<v Speaker 1>of two thousand and nine, Una and Laura broke down

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<v Speaker 1>and signed a confession. They were brought to trial three

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<v Speaker 1>weeks later and sentenced to twelve years in a North

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<v Speaker 1>Korean hard labor camp. Yuna was stunned by the verdict

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<v Speaker 1>when exactly they'd be transferred to the labor camp was

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<v Speaker 1>still up in the air, but Una was paralyzed with

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<v Speaker 1>fear about how she would survive her time there. That

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<v Speaker 1>is the moment that I crush it. And at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>everything that, all my hope, all my effort to put

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<v Speaker 1>myself together, just just crash it. And I I was

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<v Speaker 1>so impanic mode, and North Korean officers brought doctors to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that I'm not going to lose myself. What

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<v Speaker 1>did it look like for you when you lost hope?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? North Korea gave me sleeping pills. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>take any pills that they gave me, and I collected them,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's the moment that I felt like I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to just take them all and I wanted to find peace.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so so hard to even breathe, and I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to find the peace. And that's the moment that

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<v Speaker 1>I really wanted to let everything go. But thankfully, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my daughter's face just passed by, It flashes me in

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<v Speaker 1>front of me, and then I felt that's very selfish

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<v Speaker 1>decision to make. So so one more day, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>one more day. Someone wrote to me that it's one

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<v Speaker 1>more day close to home. I don't think that you

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<v Speaker 1>are adding days in North Korea. It's one more day

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<v Speaker 1>close to home. So I reminded myself that. So I thought, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this is the burden that I can handle. Still,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, continued to fear her eventual transfer to a

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<v Speaker 1>hard labor camp, and she desperately missed her family back

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<v Speaker 1>in California, her husband Michael and her four year old

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<v Speaker 1>daughter Hannah. She was rarely allowed to talk with them

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<v Speaker 1>by phone, so she spent hours a day writing letters

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<v Speaker 1>to Michael. Michael and I really left everything to God

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<v Speaker 1>and then whatever we just uh without talking to each other.

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<v Speaker 1>We we knew that we couldn't control anything, and then

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<v Speaker 1>we are gonna rely on God. Whatever happened, that would

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<v Speaker 1>be okay. And Hannah was didn't know. We didn't tear

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<v Speaker 1>Hannah that I was detained. She thought that I was

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<v Speaker 1>on a business triph my God, but Michael thought that something.

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<v Speaker 1>She knew something was wrong because he said she got

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<v Speaker 1>up in the middle of night and started to cry

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<v Speaker 1>out of nowhere. Um, we did our best to to

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<v Speaker 1>protect Hannah. At the time, she was only four. Yeah. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So at one point, m Laura says to you, looking

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<v Speaker 1>tell them that you have a daughter at home, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>stay here instead, and and you refuse. You're clearly an

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<v Speaker 1>exceedingly loyal person, right, But I'm wondering, you know, in

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<v Speaker 1>that moment, how do you weigh these competing loyalties in

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<v Speaker 1>your life? Right, you have loyalty towards Laura, you also

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<v Speaker 1>have loyalty towards Michael and Hannah. You know, how do

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<v Speaker 1>you think about that? It's such an incredibly painful and

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<v Speaker 1>challenging position to be in. I'm I'm I'm grateful that

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<v Speaker 1>you you know, you're seeing this a really positive way.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't know. I I think I thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought about why am I making those choices? Why

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<v Speaker 1>am I not thinking about myself first? My family first.

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<v Speaker 1>I always thought that my families are families always next

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<v Speaker 1>to me, right, I always thought that they will be

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<v Speaker 1>there all the nime. So my priority was somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>need my help, not my family, because my family is

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<v Speaker 1>going to be always there. And why am I putting

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<v Speaker 1>so much attention to others and then you're helping everybody

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<v Speaker 1>else but my family? But I still don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's because I cannot live if I think about myself.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I abandon something or abandon somebody else because

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<v Speaker 1>of my own selfish reasons, I cannot live. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think in under any circumstances leaving Laura alone on the eyes,

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<v Speaker 1>by yourself. If I escape and then survived, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think I could have believed normal life the guilty feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>If Laura said, you go home, you have a child,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll stay here. If I said, okay, I'm gonna think

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<v Speaker 1>about my family better and then leave Laura there by herself,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I could have believe without any single

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<v Speaker 1>day without guilty feelings. If I don't align with what

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like what's right, then I would carry that

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<v Speaker 1>burden with on my shoulders every day. We'll be back

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<v Speaker 1>in a moment with a slight change of plans. Korean

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<v Speaker 1>American journalist Uni Lee and her colleague Laura Lying were

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<v Speaker 1>captured in two thousand and nine by North Korean soldiers

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<v Speaker 1>and had been sentenced to twelve years in a North

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<v Speaker 1>Korean hard labor camp. The date for their transfer to

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<v Speaker 1>the labor camp had not yet been set, so Una

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<v Speaker 1>and Laura continued to spend their days in confinement and

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<v Speaker 1>a secluded complex in Pyengyang. One thing that really moved

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<v Speaker 1>me about your story is that you were surprised by

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<v Speaker 1>the kindness that the people you met in North Korea

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<v Speaker 1>showed you, and that it violated your former assumptions given

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<v Speaker 1>how North Koreans were portrayed to you growing up in

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<v Speaker 1>South Korea. Right, Can you tell us a bit more

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<v Speaker 1>about Officer Lee, who was put on your case. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember one time I was loosing so fast in North Korea.

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<v Speaker 1>I lost about seventeen pound, and I was I started

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<v Speaker 1>a small but then you know, losing seventeen pound was

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<v Speaker 1>a lot at the time, but because of my summa

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<v Speaker 1>was so small that I couldn't take a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>food at once. And you're a prisoner, so they will

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<v Speaker 1>give you any three meals a day, and I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>need a lot each meal. And I think he noticed that.

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<v Speaker 1>He noticed that I couldn't need a lot, and he

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<v Speaker 1>asked if I'm getting enough meal, And one day he

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<v Speaker 1>brought some bread and gave to me to it. I

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<v Speaker 1>just snack. And the other time was after I was

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<v Speaker 1>sentenced to twelve years at the North Korean court, I

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<v Speaker 1>was frightened. I think that was the time that I

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<v Speaker 1>dropped everything, and then I did not want to hang

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<v Speaker 1>on anymore. It was almost like I wanted to just

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<v Speaker 1>give up. And he wanted to somehow come for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and he took me outside of my compinement and I

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<v Speaker 1>told him I'm not not survived in the labor camp

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<v Speaker 1>for twelve years, and he said, we're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>kill you. So he did his best to come for

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<v Speaker 1>me when he could. Yeah, can you tell me about

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<v Speaker 1>the two female guards and the bond that you eventually

0:20:31.156 --> 0:20:34.996
<v Speaker 1>developed with them as well? Oh? Yeah, they were in

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<v Speaker 1>young twenties and one girl was studying English. She wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be a translator, and her dream was to be

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<v Speaker 1>a translator because she wanted to tell the world how

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<v Speaker 1>how amazing her country is not that bad that like

0:20:49.516 --> 0:20:52.596
<v Speaker 1>you guys, portraying we have something good about our country.

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<v Speaker 1>That was her dream. And she was very curious about

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<v Speaker 1>some of the book that I received from home, and

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to have that book because she's studying English, right,

0:21:04.876 --> 0:21:08.036
<v Speaker 1>so things like that. She asked me if she can

0:21:08.076 --> 0:21:11.276
<v Speaker 1>borrow that book. Of course, you know, to give to

0:21:11.316 --> 0:21:15.556
<v Speaker 1>her the book. And so we did do things when

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<v Speaker 1>people were not around us. And the other girl was

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful. She had a beautiful voice. She was a

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<v Speaker 1>really good singer. She sang to my surprise, she sang Celendians,

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<v Speaker 1>my heart will go on all the time. But honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I grew up propaganda towards North Korea, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>thought that they don't want to do anything to do

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<v Speaker 1>with America language, fashion or anything, you know, art culture.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was actually very surprised that she was singing

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<v Speaker 1>the song. And one day I told her, like, you

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<v Speaker 1>have a beautiful voice. You want to be a singer,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said, no, I can't. And later I learned

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<v Speaker 1>that to be a singer in North Korea you have

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<v Speaker 1>to have money, you have to have a good family

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<v Speaker 1>background or the things to be successful in seeing career.

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<v Speaker 1>So she probably did not have any of those things.

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<v Speaker 1>So I were so bad for her. So every time

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<v Speaker 1>I see her that I wanted a kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>value her, you know. The value was like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>how good she is, and then how beautiful her voices.

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<v Speaker 1>And when she left that job the last day, I

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<v Speaker 1>was really sick in my room so I couldn't move,

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<v Speaker 1>and she came to me and told me that I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that you'll get better soon. And then you'll be

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<v Speaker 1>with your family. So and that was our last conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, was shown many small acts of kindness from

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<v Speaker 1>the people she interacted with at the complex. They brought

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<v Speaker 1>her treats like cherries and fruit juice and turned up

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<v Speaker 1>the volume on songs they knew she liked. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it was charmed by how curious they were about many

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<v Speaker 1>aspects of life in America, including day and one night stands.

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<v Speaker 1>We were talking about dating, and then she asked, like,

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<v Speaker 1>is that really true? There's one nice standing it is

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<v Speaker 1>And then I laughed and I laughed and how did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys even know? That's not even the country? Its

0:23:26.436 --> 0:23:30.676
<v Speaker 1>stuff is so conservative in that culture, you know, dating churlture.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I thought that was really funny that they

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<v Speaker 1>brought up. So when I said, like, I think so

0:23:37.156 --> 0:23:40.876
<v Speaker 1>sometimes some people, it happens some people, not to everybody.

0:23:40.916 --> 0:23:42.996
<v Speaker 1>And then they were like, oh, you know, like a

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<v Speaker 1>little girls. So I felt I forgot. I forgot that

0:23:47.236 --> 0:23:50.476
<v Speaker 1>I was a prisoner. At that moment, I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>I was sitting in my high school classroom with my

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<v Speaker 1>friends and talking about all these things. I think because

0:23:59.596 --> 0:24:02.756
<v Speaker 1>of me a prisoner. They were pretty in this job

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<v Speaker 1>right twenty four seven, they couldn't go home, so they

0:24:05.356 --> 0:24:08.516
<v Speaker 1>complained a lot about I want to go home, I

0:24:08.556 --> 0:24:10.676
<v Speaker 1>want to hang out with my friend, and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do this. At some point I think they fail

0:24:15.276 --> 0:24:19.676
<v Speaker 1>for me that, oh, she's someone who can go home

0:24:20.076 --> 0:24:22.956
<v Speaker 1>five thousand miles from home then by herself. I heard

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<v Speaker 1>she has a child, and they wanted without showing too

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<v Speaker 1>much because of our relationship is guard and prisoner, so

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<v Speaker 1>they wanted to show their kindness very subtle way. The

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<v Speaker 1>guards did that when they're by themselves. Obviously did that

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<v Speaker 1>when you know, when someone wasn't around. So everything they do,

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<v Speaker 1>the kindness, they did that when no one was around.

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<v Speaker 1>At this point August two thousand and nine, Una and

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<v Speaker 1>Laura had been held captive for more than four months

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<v Speaker 1>in North Korea, and we're waiting to find out when

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<v Speaker 1>they be transferred to the hard labor camp. But unbeknownst

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<v Speaker 1>to Una, former President Bill Clinton was on his way

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<v Speaker 1>to North Ria at that moment to negotiate the release.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was actually Officer Lee who take you off

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<v Speaker 1>to this fact that Hope was on the way and

0:25:17.276 --> 0:25:21.356
<v Speaker 1>that someone very important was coming to see her. It

0:25:21.436 --> 0:25:26.796
<v Speaker 1>was a President Clinton. Oh, my god, you it was

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was an angel standing and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he has gray hair, and there was a window behind

0:25:35.276 --> 0:25:38.756
<v Speaker 1>him so you can see you can really see his face,

0:25:38.836 --> 0:25:41.316
<v Speaker 1>but with a gray hair person with a tour guy

0:25:41.756 --> 0:25:44.796
<v Speaker 1>with a very generous smile. And then he opened his arms.

0:25:44.916 --> 0:25:51.276
<v Speaker 1>So we ran to him and he embraced us and

0:25:51.356 --> 0:25:54.996
<v Speaker 1>asked us are you guys saying okay. So he brought

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<v Speaker 1>his personal physician with him, so he wanted us to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to the physician to make sure that we are

0:26:03.796 --> 0:26:08.756
<v Speaker 1>physically okay, conditioned to leave if he can make that happen.

0:26:09.716 --> 0:26:12.436
<v Speaker 1>So he told us he has one more meeting to go,

0:26:13.236 --> 0:26:17.676
<v Speaker 1>but she can't promise anything, but we want to make

0:26:17.716 --> 0:26:20.636
<v Speaker 1>sure they are physically okay. And Laura and I were like,

0:26:21.036 --> 0:26:28.036
<v Speaker 1>we're okay, Yeah, We're okay, they can go. Yeah. I've

0:26:28.116 --> 0:26:32.636
<v Speaker 1>watched the footage on YouTube, basically on loop in which

0:26:33.276 --> 0:26:36.956
<v Speaker 1>you're getting off the flight and you reunite with Michael

0:26:36.996 --> 0:26:40.756
<v Speaker 1>and Hannah. What's striking about the video it is that

0:26:41.156 --> 0:26:47.076
<v Speaker 1>it is a complicated joy. Right. I thought everything is

0:26:47.356 --> 0:26:50.836
<v Speaker 1>going back to normal, and then we remember everybody and

0:26:50.876 --> 0:26:53.916
<v Speaker 1>I hug each other, and then you know, that's what

0:26:54.076 --> 0:26:57.316
<v Speaker 1>I was what I expected, and when Hannah hesitant to

0:26:57.316 --> 0:27:01.596
<v Speaker 1>come to me, it really ached my heart. So one

0:27:01.676 --> 0:27:04.876
<v Speaker 1>hundred forty days was a long time for this four

0:27:04.956 --> 0:27:11.636
<v Speaker 1>year old girl. She was just so confused by everything,

0:27:11.916 --> 0:27:14.716
<v Speaker 1>like seeing her mom after so long, and you know,

0:27:14.756 --> 0:27:17.276
<v Speaker 1>seeing these old cameras and then people, and then in

0:27:17.316 --> 0:27:20.276
<v Speaker 1>front of airport and I asked her, do you remember me?

0:27:20.876 --> 0:27:25.076
<v Speaker 1>It's mom, I said in Kournian, and she nodded, and

0:27:25.116 --> 0:27:27.156
<v Speaker 1>then can you give me a hug? And then she

0:27:27.236 --> 0:27:35.716
<v Speaker 1>came to me and I do. It's that moment. Just

0:27:35.836 --> 0:27:42.796
<v Speaker 1>thinking about that moment still make me choke. Yeah, yeah,

0:27:42.796 --> 0:27:51.596
<v Speaker 1>it's beautiful. So I I realized that it's been exactly

0:27:51.636 --> 0:27:56.756
<v Speaker 1>twelve years since your captivity, and so in a counterfactual world,

0:27:56.996 --> 0:27:59.356
<v Speaker 1>had you been in the labor camp for twelve years,

0:27:59.396 --> 0:28:01.636
<v Speaker 1>this would have been the year that you were reunited

0:28:01.716 --> 0:28:05.596
<v Speaker 1>with your your daughter, Hannah, right, who's now sixteen? Is

0:28:05.636 --> 0:28:09.596
<v Speaker 1>that right? Yeah? We talked about it, My husband and

0:28:09.636 --> 0:28:11.796
<v Speaker 1>I talked about that it would have been this year

0:28:11.876 --> 0:28:14.636
<v Speaker 1>that we would be reunited if I didn't come home.

0:28:15.236 --> 0:28:21.396
<v Speaker 1>And every moment is like whenever I give her hug,

0:28:21.556 --> 0:28:24.876
<v Speaker 1>whenever I you know, bless her and I and then

0:28:25.036 --> 0:28:30.996
<v Speaker 1>it's I'm thankful, I'm thankful, and thank you we without

0:28:31.036 --> 0:28:34.836
<v Speaker 1>saying we knew it, how we are blessed to be together.

0:28:35.676 --> 0:28:41.596
<v Speaker 1>M You know, we've been talking about how during that

0:28:41.636 --> 0:28:43.596
<v Speaker 1>period of your life, in the years leading up to

0:28:44.076 --> 0:28:47.316
<v Speaker 1>North Korea and then even in the days you were

0:28:47.356 --> 0:28:51.916
<v Speaker 1>in North Korea, UM, you were ruthlessly prioritizing others over

0:28:51.996 --> 0:28:55.316
<v Speaker 1>yourself and your family. And I want to know how

0:28:55.316 --> 0:28:58.716
<v Speaker 1>that dynamic has shifted in your life, like, how, how

0:28:58.716 --> 0:29:03.516
<v Speaker 1>how that's changed for you, if at all it did it?

0:29:03.516 --> 0:29:08.596
<v Speaker 1>Did it? Did I put my family first before others?

0:29:09.156 --> 0:29:11.756
<v Speaker 1>I'm not very I'm not gonna say that I'm very

0:29:11.796 --> 0:29:14.476
<v Speaker 1>good at it one hundred percent. I'm changing it. No,

0:29:14.596 --> 0:29:18.916
<v Speaker 1>But I can I can probably tell share. I can

0:29:18.996 --> 0:29:22.876
<v Speaker 1>share that. No. I think about my family a lot more,

0:29:24.396 --> 0:29:26.716
<v Speaker 1>a lot more than I used to be, and then

0:29:26.716 --> 0:29:30.156
<v Speaker 1>I put them as a priorities and I don't for

0:29:30.356 --> 0:29:32.756
<v Speaker 1>them matter. I don't have a guilty feeling when I

0:29:32.756 --> 0:29:38.196
<v Speaker 1>do that anymore. So I'm very thankful. I will say that.

0:29:39.476 --> 0:29:42.676
<v Speaker 1>You know, in learning about your story, and you know,

0:29:42.716 --> 0:29:45.036
<v Speaker 1>first of all the horrors of being detained in North

0:29:45.116 --> 0:29:47.756
<v Speaker 1>Korea and all that came with that, One of the

0:29:47.756 --> 0:29:53.236
<v Speaker 1>most painful moments for me was it was just a

0:29:53.316 --> 0:29:55.556
<v Speaker 1>small line in your book, but for some reason it

0:29:55.596 --> 0:30:00.596
<v Speaker 1>really really moved me. You were saying that there was

0:30:00.636 --> 0:30:05.756
<v Speaker 1>a night where you slept really well and you felt

0:30:05.796 --> 0:30:11.556
<v Speaker 1>so burdened by guilt because you thought, how dare I

0:30:11.636 --> 0:30:17.196
<v Speaker 1>sleep well when my family is suffering back home? And

0:30:17.356 --> 0:30:19.436
<v Speaker 1>I guess the reason that that meant so much to

0:30:19.476 --> 0:30:23.716
<v Speaker 1>me is that it showed me like the depth of

0:30:23.876 --> 0:30:29.036
<v Speaker 1>complexity of what you were dealing with on a psychological level.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like you're both trying to minimize your pain to survive,

0:30:33.876 --> 0:30:36.796
<v Speaker 1>but then anytime you feel a moment of joy or

0:30:36.956 --> 0:30:45.876
<v Speaker 1>calm or happiness, you're saddled by guilt. You know, Maya,

0:30:46.356 --> 0:30:56.116
<v Speaker 1>I still live live in that I cannot enjoy. I

0:30:56.156 --> 0:31:03.436
<v Speaker 1>feel like I even after I came home, and then

0:31:03.636 --> 0:31:06.276
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people pay attention to our stories, and

0:31:06.676 --> 0:31:12.036
<v Speaker 1>you know, and I had a lot. I met a

0:31:12.036 --> 0:31:15.316
<v Speaker 1>lot of friends who I never knew before, and all

0:31:15.356 --> 0:31:20.036
<v Speaker 1>these things that they usually enjoy, even birthdays or happy moments,

0:31:20.036 --> 0:31:23.156
<v Speaker 1>that I couldn't enjoy it. I couldn't enjoy any happy

0:31:23.196 --> 0:31:27.436
<v Speaker 1>moment because of that guilty feeling followed me from somewhere,

0:31:27.636 --> 0:31:42.796
<v Speaker 1>and I was I was worried about what if, what

0:31:42.956 --> 0:31:51.796
<v Speaker 1>if anybody's anybody's in pain, including including the the factors

0:31:51.796 --> 0:31:58.876
<v Speaker 1>who we met. So so the moment that you want

0:31:58.916 --> 0:32:01.196
<v Speaker 1>to when you go through the moment that it's painful,

0:32:01.236 --> 0:32:03.596
<v Speaker 1>you want to get out of it right. You want

0:32:03.596 --> 0:32:05.716
<v Speaker 1>to get out of that moment and you want to

0:32:05.756 --> 0:32:09.636
<v Speaker 1>have some easy, easy time. But when I got out

0:32:09.636 --> 0:32:11.916
<v Speaker 1>of that paying for time and then I have a

0:32:11.916 --> 0:32:16.236
<v Speaker 1>little bit of peace in me, then immediately that the

0:32:16.316 --> 0:32:21.196
<v Speaker 1>guilty feeling came to me to bother me. Have you

0:32:21.196 --> 0:32:26.836
<v Speaker 1>been able to make progress on that to feel that,

0:32:26.996 --> 0:32:29.076
<v Speaker 1>just like all the people you're trying to help out there,

0:32:30.076 --> 0:32:33.636
<v Speaker 1>including your family, that you you too deserve happiness and peace.

0:32:35.636 --> 0:32:42.476
<v Speaker 1>I yea, I learned. I mean I feel happy when

0:32:42.476 --> 0:32:47.476
<v Speaker 1>I say my family is happy, but my emotions are

0:32:47.716 --> 0:32:52.716
<v Speaker 1>very try. Since then, I tried to be happy. I

0:32:52.756 --> 0:32:55.436
<v Speaker 1>tried to tell my stuff that it's okay to enjoy it.

0:32:55.436 --> 0:32:57.996
<v Speaker 1>It's okay. So I tried to tell my stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>your story makes me reflect on the fact that as people,

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<v Speaker 1>we like to villainize whole swats of whole swats of people,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, whole countries and a lot of people are

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<v Speaker 1>victims of their circumstance. You know, it's very possible Officer

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<v Speaker 1>Lee didn't choose to be born in North Korea, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's possible that he's a really good hearted human being

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<v Speaker 1>who is in terrible circumstances and in order to protect

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<v Speaker 1>his family, he had to take this job. And from

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<v Speaker 1>what you're describing, it seems like he brought as much

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<v Speaker 1>humanity as he could to an otherwise really terrible position. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're You're so right. Not everybody's have have that heart. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>try to be nice to your prisoner. They did not

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<v Speaker 1>have to, and some of them I could see that

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<v Speaker 1>it is a very bitter tourist to US and South

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<v Speaker 1>Korea and then did not want to be nice at all.

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<v Speaker 1>So I appreciate that that, even even that small kindness

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<v Speaker 1>that I was able to receive during that harsh time.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I've I've read a lot about your story

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<v Speaker 1>and people are saying, oh, you know, they were nice

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<v Speaker 1>because they were being manipulative, or she fills Stockholm syndrome

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<v Speaker 1>or whatnot, and I just don't buy any of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. Like, at the end of the day, we

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<v Speaker 1>as humans can be discerning enough to know when kindness

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<v Speaker 1>is unnecessary, but people do it anyway. I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>just get frustrated by that critique of your of your

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<v Speaker 1>noticing humanity and others. I find it lightly offensive. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>do we not want to say that humanity if someone's

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<v Speaker 1>criticize it. I do, even even even if someone says,

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<v Speaker 1>is that Stockholm syndrome ten years later, eleven years or later,

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<v Speaker 1>I totally remember that small kindness. I'm not saying that

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<v Speaker 1>everything was so wonderful and it was peaceful. There were many,

0:35:09.796 --> 0:35:14.076
<v Speaker 1>many moments that I wanted to give up my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Do we want to hold on that memory? No, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to. I want to believe that we all

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<v Speaker 1>have a human as all kind heart somewhere they can

0:35:27.356 --> 0:35:30.476
<v Speaker 1>we can bring it out. Then we will understand better.

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<v Speaker 1>If you miss somebody on a human level, you'll have

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<v Speaker 1>a better understanding. You have a better open heart to

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<v Speaker 1>understand that person. And like Norse Koreans grow propaganda towards us,

0:35:44.716 --> 0:35:48.076
<v Speaker 1>I did the same thing. We did not understand each

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<v Speaker 1>other as human beings. And to me, Norse Koreans, to

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<v Speaker 1>me now are the people who I remember who I interacted.

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<v Speaker 1>They are the Norse Korean to me now before my

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<v Speaker 1>experience Norse Koreans or the ones that who I watched

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<v Speaker 1>on news. Now I'm back to my normal life. I

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<v Speaker 1>hate to forget about that, that the good side of

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<v Speaker 1>human good human side. I hate to forget about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so easy to forget and then focus on the

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<v Speaker 1>news and then judge others by what you the information

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<v Speaker 1>you received. So I'll try to remember that those people

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<v Speaker 1>who I interacted, that's North Korean. You know. We gotta

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<v Speaker 1>have that human interaction. We gotta see each other, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think every human being has that good side of humanity. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks for listening. Join me next week. When I talked

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<v Speaker 1>to doctor Dixon Shabandah, a psychiatrist in Zimbabwe who is

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<v Speaker 1>on a mission to help people in his community access

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<v Speaker 1>mental healthcare, there weren't nearly enough psychiatrists and therapists to

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<v Speaker 1>meet the need, so Dixon turned to a rather unorthodox

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<v Speaker 1>group for help, Grandmother's. I kind of realized that there

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<v Speaker 1>was something in having an older woman who has wisdom

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<v Speaker 1>and experience, you know, reaching out to help a young

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<v Speaker 1>mother who is struggling with postnatal depression, with anxiety disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>and just reaching out and establishing that connection that makes

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<v Speaker 1>that person feel comfortable, to make them feel that sense

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<v Speaker 1>of belonging that I am in a place where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>being taken care of. That was really powerful. A Slight

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<v Speaker 1>Change of Plans is created written an executive produce by

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<v Speaker 1>me Maya Schunker. The Slight Change Family includes Tyler Greene

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<v Speaker 1>our senior producer, Jen Guera our senior editor, Then Holiday,

0:38:23.396 --> 0:38:27.476
<v Speaker 1>our sound engineer, Emily Rosteck our producer, and Neil LaBelle

0:38:27.596 --> 0:38:31.396
<v Speaker 1>our executive producer. Louise Scara wrote our theme song, and

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<v Speaker 1>Ginger Smith helped arrange the vocals. A Slight Change of

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<v Speaker 1>Plans is a production of Pushkin Industries. So big thanks

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<v Speaker 1>to everyone there, including Malcolm Gladwell, Jacob Weisberg, Lee Tall

0:38:42.316 --> 0:38:46.556
<v Speaker 1>Malat and Heather Fame and of course a very special

0:38:46.596 --> 0:38:49.916
<v Speaker 1>thanks to Jimmy Lee. You can follow a Slight Change

0:38:49.916 --> 0:38:53.596
<v Speaker 1>of Plans on Instagram at doctor Maya Schunker. See you

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<v Speaker 1>next week. Well, I have to just ask you what

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<v Speaker 1>is your relationship with Selene Dion's My Heart Will Go On?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, how do you feel about the song? Can

0:39:09.956 --> 0:39:12.676
<v Speaker 1>you even listen to it? You know? You know it

0:39:12.996 --> 0:39:15.796
<v Speaker 1>because she she fair in love with this song so

0:39:15.876 --> 0:39:18.796
<v Speaker 1>much that she was singing over and over, and sometimes

0:39:18.836 --> 0:39:21.716
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to close my ears, like I need to

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<v Speaker 1>be quiet.