1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you. 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: It is a strawberry letter, all right. Subject. Me and 3 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: my man have a little situation. Dear Stephen Shirley. I 4 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: met a gentleman seven months ago. I'm forty five and 5 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:18,760 Speaker 1: he's thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away, 6 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: so he decided to move to my area. It's been 7 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: four months now since we've been in the same city, 8 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: and I'm starting to see issues with him. He didn't 9 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: have a plan in place when he moved to my city, 10 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: and now he's living in a shelter because I told 11 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: him he cannot live with me. He doesn't have a car, 12 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: and I refuse to drive him around. He does have 13 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 1: a job. In fact, he's had three different jobs since 14 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: he's been here. He has been fired from each job 15 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: because he has an issue with the way people talk 16 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: to him. See, he has issues with being short. He 17 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: is only five three. Wait, Wilson, I'm out. I'm a 18 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: break but I'm not going to do this. Let me 19 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: just say thank you, Jeeves. I told you you were 20 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: gonna love it, and I asked you enough you to 21 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 1: stick around. I'm going to the break room. We're a team, 22 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: all right. See, he has issues with being short. He's 23 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: only five three. I am five two, so his height 24 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: doesn't bother me, but it bothers him. He has short 25 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: patience with people. I believe he's been abused by a 26 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: woman before because he always thinks I'm talking down to 27 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: him and belittling him. I jokingly push these issues to 28 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: the side, but it's getting old. I'm getting to the 29 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: point where I want to end this relationship. Can I 30 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: help him overcome this or should I just let him 31 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: work through his own problems alone? Please help? Is it 32 00:01:54,200 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: my turn? Let me get back? I tell you were 33 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: gonna love this, and you're welcome, by the way, You're welcome. Listen. 34 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: You may not have a problem with his height, but 35 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: he certainly does, and you got to let him work 36 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: it out on his own. There are things that you 37 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: can help help him do. I don't know, maybe take 38 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: him to therapy so he can deal with it that way. 39 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: But there's nothing you can do about his problem with 40 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: his height. You cannot change people. You cannot change him. 41 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:29,839 Speaker 1: You've only known him for seven months. It made me think, 42 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: did you see him before? You guys you know, got together? 43 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: But I guess you did because you would have said 44 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: that if you didn't. But now he's moved. You guys 45 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 1: didn't talk about what was going to happen, where he 46 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: was going to live, whether or not he had a car. 47 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: You guys didn't discuss any of that before he moved 48 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: to the same city. How can he's had three jobs 49 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 1: since he's been there. He's only been there what four months? 50 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: He has an issue with the way people talk to him. 51 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 1: This is crazy. These are things that he has to 52 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: deal with on his own, and he's probably been dealing 53 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 1: with for the majority of his adult life. Uh, you 54 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: don't care because he's still taller than you at five two. 55 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: So I don't know, Um, if you're gonna be able 56 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: to help him overcome this, because he's got to do 57 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: it first. The only thing you can do is to 58 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: be there to support him. Yeah, he's gonna have to 59 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: work through these problems alone. UM, I don't know if 60 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: this relationship is going to last because he can't keep 61 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 1: a job. He lives in a shelter. I mean, you know, 62 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 1: and you want him to do better, I'm sure, but 63 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: he can't because of he has a problem with being little. 64 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: You know, he needs counseling. I think Steven. Now, Uncle Steve, 65 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: boy is good advice. This is not the time to 66 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: be funny and be rude and stuff. Okay, just please 67 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: don't start it out, Steve as dear Tommy, don't. I'm 68 00:03:55,000 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: the one geel stupid about you. Now this lady met 69 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: this man seven. Y'all need to stow men. I promise you, 70 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: I'm farted five years old. He thirty seven down right now, 71 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:24,280 Speaker 1: he shot he down eight years he already he now 72 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: he's eight years shout he already and equated this the inches. 73 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: You can believe that you farted five thirty seven. When 74 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: we met, he lived three hours away, so he decided 75 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: to move to my area. It's been four monst now 76 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: since we've been in the same city. Here's a line 77 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: in this letter that really amazes me. I'm starting to 78 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: see issues with him, really, So here we go. He 79 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: didn't have a plan in place when he moved to 80 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: my city. He now living in a shelter. Your man 81 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: that you dating, the one that moved to your city, 82 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: is now living in the shelter. So when you go 83 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: by pop in to see him, how's that working for you? 84 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: Where you sick at the shelter? Little man ain't got 85 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:31,239 Speaker 1: no home. Oh you can get in my house. Listen 86 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: to me. Tiny houses they got this boy could have 87 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:47,280 Speaker 1: had a place by now. Tiny House Nation is on TV. 88 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 1: Well aft, Part two of Steve's response coming up. Now 89 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: she fied, he fired three, she fired two, so that 90 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: don't bother her. It's an eight year difference in them, 91 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: because she farted by thirty seven. Now he didn't moved 92 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: into town, but he ain't got no plan. She won't 93 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: let him live with him, so he lived in a shelter. 94 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: I was just wondering how it is for her when 95 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 1: she stopped by. How you gonna see your man at 96 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 1: a shelter where you sit? Put you into the bed, 97 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: he's yours, because one thing I know from being a 98 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,039 Speaker 1: homeless you can't sit on another homeless person stuff. You 99 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: bet not. That's ruining number one. That's all they got. 100 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: You don't touch my grocery car, You don't put your 101 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:38,840 Speaker 1: hand on my duck tape. You don't get away from 102 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: this blanket. He doesn't have a job, he doesn't have 103 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 1: a car, and I refuse to drive him around. So 104 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: now he just trying to walk around him a little 105 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: last leg. Well, he does have a job. Still he well, 106 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:54,640 Speaker 1: excuse me, he got a job, but he ain't got 107 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: no car. You refuse now, he got to trot everywhere. 108 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: In fact, he had three different jobs since he's been here. 109 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: He'd been fried from me's job because he has an 110 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:09,359 Speaker 1: issue with the way people talk to him. And oh lord, 111 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: how many times have we run into this. You wrote 112 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: the right show because we are dealing with this ourselves, 113 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: and I want to thank you for the opportunity to 114 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: give us to vent some of the things that we've 115 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: been going through. Because we got somebody on this show 116 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: that has an issue with the way people talk to him. 117 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: He stayed touching, he urgy all the damn time. Some 118 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: always wrong, He always offended. See, he has an issue 119 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: with being short, Dan Junior. Wouldn't you have an issue 120 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: with being short of you? Five ft three? Now, she says, 121 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: So his height doesn't bother me, but it bothers him. 122 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: He has short patience with people. Wait a little minute, 123 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: what you want him to have long patience? He don't. 124 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: He don't like nobody because he edgy. He always assumed 125 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 1: it's about his height. He produced the thought that we 126 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: had to produce on this show. If you throw a 127 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: rock in a pack of dogs. The one to Holly 128 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: is the one you hit. Every time we mentioned height 129 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: on this show, we got one person jump to conclusion 130 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: that we're talking about him even when we not, like 131 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: right now, I can bet you he think we talked 132 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:36,959 Speaker 1: about his ass right now now, She says, I believe 133 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: that he's been abused by a woman before because he 134 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: always think I'm talking down to him. That's because the 135 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: women he dated was taller. They was talking down to him. 136 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: It happens to Tom, excuse me, it happens to our 137 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: this person we refer to all the time. I'm talking 138 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: side that kind of slipped out now, I believe he's 139 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: been abused by a woman because they always think I'm 140 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,440 Speaker 1: talking down to him. I jokingly pushed these issues to 141 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 1: the side, but he's getting old. I'm getting to the 142 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 1: point where I want to end this relationship. Can I 143 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: help him overcome this? I want to answer that for 144 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: you in just a second. Or should I just let 145 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: him work through his own problems alone? Can I help 146 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 1: him overcome this? No? You cannot, No, you cannot. This 147 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: person can be fifty. You ain't gonna be able to 148 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:33,840 Speaker 1: help them. Why you pick fifty because that's a big number, 149 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: thirty seven. I'd have seen this go all the way 150 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: up to at least I know, fifty fifty. For damn 151 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: sure we ain't been able to help him yet? Or 152 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: should you let him work through his own problems alone? 153 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: He can't. He has no answers for this because he 154 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 1: touches all the damn time. It's all ways about him. 155 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: Love people got big issues. Love man. Short patients, they 156 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 1: got shot legs, they got short arms. They're sending up everything. 157 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: A bottom is shot. But one thing about sharp people, 158 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: they get a job. Though I don't care what nobody say. 159 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: They always working. I'm surprised why he had a shorter 160 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: shelter at five three. He could easily sign off for 161 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:29,679 Speaker 1: foster kill. He could be in somebody's house. He get 162 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,559 Speaker 1: the house. Yeah, he can get in the house because 163 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: he shot. And once again, why is he out of 164 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: work and ain't got nowhere to stay? Why is he 165 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: in a shelter? Listen, I was watching tiny houses the 166 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 1: other day, Tiny house Nation. This be like a mansion 167 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 1: for him. Matter of fact, you take this little lass 168 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: house and you can rename it. You can call it 169 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: like a chateau or something. Give it a big name 170 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: and it be just for little people. Wow. See that's 171 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: how you do it. That's genius. You take a little 172 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: house and give it a big name. Wow. See, you 173 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: ain't gotta call it tiny house calling the shatau yea. Now, 174 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 1: all of the rooms pomp out, lift up a lid 175 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: that was a cupboard for clothes and stuff. It's a bathtub, 176 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: you understand. You climb up stairs for storage and a 177 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,440 Speaker 1: little loft. You move that stuff out the way. It's 178 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: a bunk, bad man. The stove and the toilet is 179 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: the same thing. That you fit the food on the toilet. 180 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 1: Then you move all the stuff out the way and 181 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: lift the lid up and you put the food that 182 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: you just ain't down in the toilet. I can't go 183 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:55,959 Speaker 1: with you on that one. Now this is for tiny house, 184 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:57,960 Speaker 1: and surely you ain't got too because you have a hole. 185 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: But deep people right here shop people like this can 186 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:07,320 Speaker 1: do stuff like this. I've seen it done. Excuse me, 187 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: tell me you are right. I'm fine. Okay, I'm a man. 188 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be all right. Are you all right? You 189 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 1: ain't fine? Yeah? You a man? But it's two things 190 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: you ain't. You ain't fine and you're not tall, and 191 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 1: you damn near this letter. We have seen holiday see 192 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: some of the things that we're dealing with. All Right, Steve, 193 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. You can email us 194 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: or instagram us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at 195 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: My Girls, Shirley, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.