WEBVTT - THROWBACK: 2020 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.120 My Girl. I Heart Radio, now number one for podcasting, 0:00:04.200 --> 0:00:07.040 presents Sunday Night podcast. Every Sunday, we played one of 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:09.000 the most played and most listened to and most share 0:00:09.039 --> 0:00:11.200 podcasts of the week from the two hundred and fifty 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:13.720 thousand podcasts available in the free I heart Radio app. 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:16.440 Find your next favorite podcast on I heart Radio. This 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:21.319 week is The Breakfast Club thirty morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.640 Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:26.560 We got special guests in the building. She's in here 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:29.400 with all this big queen energy. Ari A Lennox Welcome, 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:32.400 Thank you so much. How you feel this morning? Horror 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:39.360 pid All right, I'm just a little nervous, you only 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:42.640 because he's just kidding. Yeah, but it's a little nervous. 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:45.440 It's a very legendary show. So what took you so 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.920 long to come up hitting beer beer? Yeah? What you 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:55.800 scared of before? And yeah, I love we had to 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:59.560 get to No, it's just you know, y'all can be 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:03.760 a little tough on people sometimes. Yeah, we've evolved, You've 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:06.520 changed the whole lots. Yeah, and I feel that I 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:09.080 feel that I want to if you don't mind, you know, 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:11.560 for people that that don't know who Arilens is or 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.280 where you're signed to or how you got your story. 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:14.760 I want to start from the beginning for those people. 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:17.759 Since this is you, you're here to do a documentary. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:20.720 Oh yeah, so you're signed to J Cole. How did 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:25.200 you get into the music industry and signed to Cole? Well? 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.920 I was working at Public storage and just dropping music 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:34.560 on SoundCloud and there's an amazing rapper named Omen. He 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:38.440 loved my music. He told Eve and Cole about it, 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:41.959 and he was like, we'll fly you out like tomorrow 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.880 or tonight something like that so that you can meet 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.640 Cole and the studio and stuff like that. And I 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.440 was horrified. You know, I just got the job. I 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.240 didn't want to lose the job. It was ten dollars 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:55.520 an hour, you know what it meant. It was the 0:01:55.600 --> 0:02:00.400 highest paid job I ever had an hour. Yeah, so 0:02:00.440 --> 0:02:02.760 I didn't want to like lose this, so I almost 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:06.480 didn't go. But honestly, I think it was fear, you know, 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.639 fear of flying and things like that. But I just 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.600 I got over it. I drank Matt vodka and I 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.840 got on that flight. I was the first flight as well, 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.079 first flight in a long time, like years. Did you 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:22.680 lose your job? Yeah? I did, and I was I 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:28.600 was horrified and I started doing uber. First of all, 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:31.440 what were you afraid? Why are you afraid of fly? Well? 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:34.360 I had a traumatic experience when I was young on 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:38.680 a flight or or something. Yeah, well the engines went 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:45.440 out and so yeah and so as yeah, so as 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:48.360 we're about to land, he's basically telling us to brace 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:52.640 for impact. And I was very young and just praying. 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:56.840 But I don't remember having fear before that moment. But 0:02:56.960 --> 0:03:00.320 after that moment, I was just scared at trumble. Yeah, 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:04.480 so absolutely. Now let's let's let's rewind. Now you lose 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.400 your job and you become a looble driver. I can't 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:12.079 see you are h am I good driver? It depends. 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:16.160 I'm very safe at driving, yes, but there are things 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.080 that have happened where it's just like I could have 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:20.679 been more a little bit more alert. Okay, where you 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:23.239 Where was your star rating? My star rating? Oh? It 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:26.080 started dropping like crazy, and and I don't, I don't. 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:29.000 I don't know why. Some people thought I was driving 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.680 too fast or one note I got was I was 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:35.800 switching lanes too much. But I was trying to get them, man, 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:44.720 I don't know what Hell, yeah, I was public storage. No, 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:50.520 I didn't have no big fancy you know, tell me. Um, 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:53.680 it was just a nice flack interior and a big 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:59.360 bowl of candy and drivers have candy. Yes, I did 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:01.960 have much I would give because you know you can't trust. 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:04.200 Did you play your own music? I did? No, not 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:13.000 my I would never, I mean never never. No. Did 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:15.680 you make conversation or were you quiet? I made some 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:20.640 conversations sometimes. Um, three times people threw up in my car? 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:22.599 How does that work? Do they pay for it? Or 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:25.000 they pay for it but it's nowhere near enough and 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:28.120 then you lose like five days of work because your 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:32.479 car stinks and you're traumatized. How long did you have 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:34.560 the Uber job for? This is interesting. This is my 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:38.360 longest job today. Uber. I probably did for like at 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:41.440 least a year or something. Wow. Yeah, I guess the 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:43.520 media didn't go well because you lost your job, but 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.400 then you started driving Uber. No, the meeting went really well. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.000 I just you know, I had to still make money. 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.080 You know, they were still you know, taking their time 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:55.240 with the idea of like signing me. It wasn't like 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.480 an immediate This is my last uber question when you 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.160 saw that. When you saw the episode of ventually, yo, 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.640 we need to read with driving, did you say, oh 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:07.920 I see me? Oh you know what? Okay, yeah, yeah 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:12.679 she drove Insecure for wow, I feel like a loser. 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:16.480 I need to you know why I never watched Insecure 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:19.320 because every time I would watch an episode, I would 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:22.160 just get so sad about my life and how like 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:25.360 sexy these men were and how I had no men. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:33.680 But but that's my choice. I feel like my choice. 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:37.520 Maybe it is my choice. Could you could have a man, 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.080 but it might not be the one. Some people are 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.320 okay with settling and saying Okay, I don't want to 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:46.240 be alone, and people make you feel like that, But 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.560 the truth is just better to like wait till the 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:52.920 right person. Absolutely, I've definitely learned that like the hard way, 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:57.039 so very like intentional particular about like who I want 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.960 to share my time with. So I found myself alone 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:02.240 on a lot, why not changing the mindset a little? 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:03.680 Like you see the sexy man and you'd be like, 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:05.960 I'm gonna have that one day. I'm gonna have a 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:09.120 man like that for myself one day. I've been more 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:14.080 adamant on like my standards. Absolutely, I do do that. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.800 Like I'm more like, yes, he has to be fine, Yes, 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.560 he has to have a nice job. Yes, he has 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:23.320 to be good to me, an effective communicator, like I am, like, 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:25.120 have his own place. He did have his own place. 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:28.200 I am, you know, chanting those things with it. And 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:32.479 my assistant loves you, Mercedes, Mercedes. So she sent me 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:35.080 a couple of questions. One of the questions she said, 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:37.680 you have a song called pof. She's single, by the way, right, 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:40.960 because she says, have you tried the dating app pof? 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:42.960 And what you ever catfish? And then she goes, by 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.719 the way, that dating site is terrible, Oh, so have 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.920 you ever tried plenty of fish before? Absolutely? I met 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:52.400 my first boyfriend on pof? Really his name is John. 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:53.960 I don't know if I'll get in trouble for that, 0:06:54.000 --> 0:07:04.640 but yeah, I shouldn't have shouted name John is right, John, 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:06.240 It's gonna be so lit when the thing of you 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:12.040 come out. Got kicked up with some dating sites because 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:15.200 I didn't believe that it was you. Yeah, tender um, 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:17.320 they didn't believe it was me, and I didn't want 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:21.240 to blank my Instagram so that people would know it's me. 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:24.480 And then maybe reach out to me for the wrong reasons. 0:07:24.560 --> 0:07:30.680 Secret rappers. This is fly, thank you. What is happening here? 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:34.920 I think I need to step outside more. But I'm 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:38.840 finally stepping outside and like meeting like nice, like you know, 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.760 enjoyable individuals. Let's go back to John for a second. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:44.800 Why did you throw John back in the sea? Well? 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.680 John went to the military, and I felt like we 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:52.400 were growing apart and the affection was lacking. He called 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.560 me bro one and I was just like, you know what, 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:58.560 I couldn't yeah, and it triggered me. But and I 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:00.720 know it wasn't just bro like, it's it's fine, you 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:02.960 can call me that. It's just I felt like our 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:06.240 romance was kind of dissipating, and so I think that 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:08.520 was just a triggering thing. And we had an argument. 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.120 Now I was like, well, I guess we're not together anymore, 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:15.520 and that's kind of where to protect myself. Unfortunately I 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:17.840 do that, and he was like, Okay, fine, we're not 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:20.600 together anymore, and he was really serious, Well, his loss. 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:25.520 How many songs is he inspired? Um? Probably Pope the 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:29.520 EP and my album Shape, but her Baby that's literally 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:33.360 greatly inspired by him. And I'm so grateful. Well was 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:36.960 the first relationship I ever had. Yeah, we're cool. We 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.240 check on each other sometimes. I ain't get a credit 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:44.679 shape well, I mean say when you just don't want 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:48.240 to get back together and back I know women that 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.880 swear by shape butter Baby, like they like that's like 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:54.800 their their bible. So that's that's big of him. You 0:08:55.240 --> 0:09:02.560 John I inspired Shape shirts please. The free iHeart Radio 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:06.560 app has over two hundred and fifty thousand podcasts to explode. Yes, 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.080 this is the Breakfast Club thirty part of Sunday Night 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:12.600 podcast on iHeartRadio. We're still kicking it with Ari Lenox. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:14.719 So you've met a lot of guys like, well, you've 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.600 dated guys and they've been secret rappers. I thought that 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.839 was really funny. Oh when you dating somebody and then 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:22.280 all of a sudden you find out later like your 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:25.880 pastors to cold from me? Are you exactly? Oh my god, 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:29.400 And it's the worst it happens. Like, but that's why 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:33.880 I've learned with dating acts specific questions. Are you a 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:44.560 rapper recording? Do you play basketball? Specifically? Goodness, dude, that 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:46.720 is hilarious. That's a plot for a movie or something. 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:48.959 The girl thinks that the guy is cheating, but he's 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:54.360 really sneaking off the recording escape exactly. And what did 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.880 your mom and your family say when you're recording with 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.080 Cole and going out there and recording, because a lot 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:03.120 of times parents don't leading the industry, right, my dad 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:09.000 never really knew what was going on in my life. Yeah, 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:11.880 I mean he knew. He was the one who always 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:15.319 said you're gonna be something one day, Like he always 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:17.960 said that, but like he was kind of always doing 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.520 his own things, so he never really was seeing that 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:22.679 I was how serious I was about music, which is 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.199 why he was like, you should be a nurse, but 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:26.920 really he wanted to be a nurse. And my mom 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:31.120 was very calm, was just like forward, like happy for me, 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:34.080 but yeah, very supportive. She never really knew this, like 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:38.040 how serious he said that. Your dad used to always 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.360 tell you you're gonna be something, You're gonna be something. 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:45.480 Is that put added pressure on a daughter with me? Wow? No, 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.680 you know what? And it sucks because we were not 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:54.120 even speaking right now. Ill what's going on? Okay, so 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:56.839 we're not even speaking right now. But I do feel 0:10:56.840 --> 0:11:01.840 like when you instill certain things like that, it goes 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:05.160 a long way for sure, because um, that is the 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.040 one area in my life where I feel like I 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:11.840 did really good right now with you when your dad 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:13.960 not now speaking, is it something small that you can 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.040 call him like? Because life is it's so much so 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:22.240 like it. Um, I really think it's important for like 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:25.880 people to be healed when they're bringing kids into this 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:30.880 world because it's just like that alone. I feel like 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:35.040 probably innately helped me in so many ways, like always 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:39.800 grinding and like that. But um, I could also see 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:44.360 the other like you know that I carry and it's, um, 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:46.560 I'm sure it has to do with the others you 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:50.000 know that you go through trauma. Well, let me let 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:51.680 me tell you something I learned in therapy because the 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:54.280 first time I had a breakthrough in therapy was literally 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.160 realizing all the daddy issues I had. Yeah, So when 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.680 me and my dad had a conversation and I realized, damn, 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.320 he was a human before he was my dad, and 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:05.760 he had his own issues self distribus issues, dealing with 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.840 mental health issues and he was just doing the best 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:09.840 he could with what he had at the time. It 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.360 allowed me to give him a lot more grace. Yes, 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:14.400 and I got to give our parents great I know, 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:19.040 and I feel like there needs to be a lot 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:21.760 of group therapy, absolutely, and of course I want to 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:26.400 continue my therapy alone, but I think that would probably 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:29.559 be best because I know these are things I'm even 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.800 carrying into my dating life and I just don't want 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:35.160 to have that weight on me. And I do want 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.120 to be more compassionate because he went through a lot, 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:44.360 you know, with foster care and abandonment issues and all 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:49.000 kinds of like dark things, So I do recognize why 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.439 he is the way that he is. And you've been 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.959 really open about going to therapy. When did you decide 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:57.200 that that was something you wanted to do this year? 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.200 I was just tired of just being a big ball 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:06.559 of like traumas, like just being unaware of like what 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:09.800 was going on inside, and like, you know, a lot 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:13.079 of times I could be so triggered and it's just like, 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:17.840 well why, And now I'm realizing why somebody just pretending 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:20.400 like I don't exist, or like not even looking at me, 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.640 or like kind of having like this arrogant nature can 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.400 be so triggering. Like where did I see that like 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:29.400 earlier in my life or experience that, Like I'm starting 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:32.000 to realize it never stops. It's like a cycle. Like 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:35.640 if you don't realize that you're carrying all of this way, 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:38.400 it comes out in different ways and people be like, 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:41.240 why she freaked out? It wasn't even that serious. It 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:44.280 was a reminder. It was a flashback, probably a trigger 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:48.160 without even realizing where it came from. There's always something 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:51.079 in our childhood. Yeah, always something that happened in our childhood. 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:52.960 And to bring you it happened to you an adult. 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.719 When it happened, you can triggered. You're like, oh, that's 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.840 what that's why therapy is. Greg's like, oh, that's why 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:01.400 I'm reacting, Like, because what happened here? Yes, and it's 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:04.640 it's been really beautiful and like eye opening for sure. 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.599 Are you healing those those childhood wounds? Oh? Definitely, I 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:12.360 want to keep going deeper. This start is happening for sure. 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:14.680 And you said you see a lot of that in 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.640 the relationships that you have now, Like what are some 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:19.120 things and patterns Like I know you said you want 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.600 to be more sympathetic, So what are some things that 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.200 you feel like, Okay, I gotta work on this. Damn 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:31.520 Probably how I'm communicating. I'm a very anxious person, so 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:35.640 basically instead of saying I've said this before, but instead 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.720 of saying like nobody cares, like it's just about wealth, 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:41.320 you know, I feel like this is how I'm feeling, 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:45.040 like you know that I'm not being heard or you 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:47.120 know what I'm saying. Like, I try to work on 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.880 how I'm communicating because I get so kind of in 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.960 my own anxiety and mess that I can kind of 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:58.560 be a little insensitive sometimes. So I just want to 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:02.080 work on like that. And when it comes to performing 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:05.080 and getting on stage, are you the type of person 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.440 who gets nervous before that or does it all go 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:10.520 away and that's where you feel most comfortable most times. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:14.880 I rarely get nervous like that nervous, but certain things 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:19.080 like TV performances like I'm shaking, like it's just certain things. 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.720 Or Jasmine Jasmine like at the when we performed at 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.600 the BT Awards, like horrified, like I don't want to 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:31.960 let this legend down, like Jasmine Sullivan is everything. So yeah, question, 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.720 when you get triggered by secret rappers, do you remember 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:39.840 the struggle rapper who traumatized you? Oh? So many, so 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:45.040 many yeah, gious people will never hear of. There's so 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:48.840 many bright people we never hear of, like they just 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.960 they won't say it until like you like them, and 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:53.760 it's just like, oh, I'm about to go to the studio. 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:59.840 Why like when whatever, they don't know who you are 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:01.920 when they want to date you and act like, oh 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.800 my god, like hey, what what do you do? You know, 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.360 and act like they're not sure who you are. Yeah, 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.520 I've definitely been in a relationship where he acted like 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:14.120 I was not who I am at all. That's ridiculous. Yeah, 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:19.040 I was trying to feel appreciated. He kept trying to 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.320 say it was just it's ego, like you know, it's 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.280 not all about you type thing. But really I just 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:30.920 felt like he always kind of diminished everything about me, 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:33.440 you know, like kind of pretended like this singing part 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:36.360 didn't even exist. I hate people like that. Don't try 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.440 to make me feel small because you're clue. Yeah, oh 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:44.560 my god, oh my gosh, what I mean? You know what? 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:55.600 I want to know what you know? What I mean 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:58.400 people that try to make us feel small just because 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:01.600 they haven't done what they wanted doing life. Yeah, I 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:10.840 guess so. But now now him Jesus, but now you know, 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.320 like I just my goal is just just a date 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:17.120 nice people. It's got to be hard though, because you're 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:19.439 r linox now for you don't know who well, you 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:21.120 don't know who likes you for you or who likes 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:25.760 you because you're a superstar. Where you guys size the 0:17:26.040 --> 0:17:28.760 you know plenty of fish like where you meeting? Well, 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:31.359 the other day I met a guy at the fashion 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:33.800 show that was really nice and he was he was 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.399 so fine, But the date is terrible? How do you 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:44.560 what was the date? Dressing probably better than yours want 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:48.680 to dress? How do heki continue? How you're sitting there? 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:52.080 He walks over, he acts security first while we were 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.960 sitting in a seat, and he oh, dang, I don't 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:58.320 want nobody to but yeah, she's sitting next to you, 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.520 but I want tell you when you could stop? Now? Yeh, 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.760 what was your He just he reached out and introduced 0:18:06.800 --> 0:18:09.920 himself in like shook hands and it was really cute 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:12.440 and sweet. W was the first date the first day? 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:17.080 I ain't gonna tell you where. It was a lovely restaurant, 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.800 it really was. But he was late. He was late 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:22.800 to think his bad during fashion now he supposed to 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:26.719 be he was. He was hanging out with Jacole and 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:32.920 Um what it's able. No, that's what I'm saying that 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:36.360 with Jacole my Day, the whole team is like stopped. 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:44.000 It's just not my Heart Radio. For podcast Discovery, this 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:47.760 is the Breakfast Club. Third we go your chance to 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:50.080 hear the biggest trending podcast each week from the free 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:52.160 I Heart Radio app. We're still kicking it with Ari 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:55.639 Lennox Charlagne. What was your intention with this album? The 0:18:55.760 --> 0:19:01.080 intention was just me showcasing dating, and it's entirety from 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:02.719 I was trying to get away from dating, but used 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:06.920 to bought us right back. I know it's all right, 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:09.760 it's on subject for and it's where you all right, 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:11.399 you know what a lot of people can relate to you. 0:19:11.840 --> 0:19:13.720 That's one of the main questions people ask, how do 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:17.439 you find somebody like, somebody good, somebody nice? Do you 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:19.920 think about marriage? Like? Are you dating with the intention 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:23.600 to get married? That's how you find somebody probably is 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:27.640 how finding yourself really, and so that's really what I'm 0:19:27.680 --> 0:19:31.080 focused on. I got a little distracted with that recent 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.400 date and then I was like, well, let me see 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:35.400 what else is out here. But I think I'm gonna 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.119 pull back into like myself and just kind of like, 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:43.000 change my number and just focus on more beautiful books 0:19:43.040 --> 0:19:45.720 on trauma and just focus on me. I got a 0:19:45.720 --> 0:19:50.080 great one for you momenticum my grandmother's hands. Really. Yeah. 0:19:50.200 --> 0:19:53.119 We also have a Marian I'm Bothered book in here? Wow? 0:19:53.560 --> 0:20:09.200 Is that about Trauma's adorable? Okay? Things? Oh no, no, no, 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:12.840 I have to get the book back. No singers, no singers, 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:15.960 no rapper. What about ball players you said earlier? Oh, 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:19.040 if he played basketball, he doesn't mention that. Maybe a 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:23.960 soccer player. Go with the money? At is that where 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:29.760 the money? That's money yet real money yet soccer? Okay, 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:37.399 I'm just saying we have intentions. That's all. Did you 0:20:37.400 --> 0:20:39.520 finish your thought on the intentions of this album? The 0:20:39.600 --> 0:20:43.359 intention of the album is just making beautiful music that 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:46.399 sounds like I'm in love based on crushes of people 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:50.480 I've never even hung out with before, like mean mug 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:58.640 and hoodie crushes on fine men that I never Yeah, 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.480 then it gets to blocking YouTube, it gets blocking you, 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:03.719 and That's where I'm at right now with it, like 0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:07.800 in real life. But yeah, it's just dating and the 0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:11.800 emotions and towards the end of the album, I'm definitely 0:21:11.840 --> 0:21:15.000 more about like, Okay, it's time to protect my peace. Like, 0:21:15.040 --> 0:21:17.040 no one's gonna do that for me. And I find 0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:20.200 it irresponsible to be moving around in life with all 0:21:20.240 --> 0:21:24.439 of these unhealed you know, traumas and trying to you know, 0:21:24.480 --> 0:21:27.159 get to know people. So I just, you know, I 0:21:27.200 --> 0:21:32.679 want to check some things, some codependency things and anxiety. 0:21:33.160 --> 0:21:36.879 That's powerful. People fast, you about black people fast if 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:40.359 they ignore you, just black room, I do. Like one time, 0:21:40.760 --> 0:21:43.480 I felt that there was distance happening, and I was like, hey, 0:21:43.520 --> 0:21:46.439 can we talk. I feel like something is changing. He 0:21:46.520 --> 0:21:48.879 was like, I thought we were good. I thought everything 0:21:48.960 --> 0:21:51.359 was good. Um, you know what, I just need to 0:21:51.359 --> 0:21:53.040 get something to eat. I'm gonna call you right back. 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:56.680 And so I got on the phone my dad and 0:21:57.080 --> 0:21:59.800 me and my dad talked for like two hours and 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:02.080 I didn't hear from the guy. I'm looking at my 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:06.640 phone like wow, like and so I blocked him. After that, 0:22:06.640 --> 0:22:10.200 that was it. We spoke one time since then. I'm 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:14.720 sure for some reason, I'm attracting avoidant people who don't 0:22:14.760 --> 0:22:17.600 know how to communicate. Well, you're probably attracting what you are. 0:22:17.640 --> 0:22:19.560 That's why what you said about you know, healing your 0:22:19.560 --> 0:22:21.639 own trauma before you get into another situation. It's so 0:22:21.720 --> 0:22:24.040 important that right there, that's better than money. You know 0:22:24.080 --> 0:22:25.440 how we are you know about to say, you know 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:27.040 how we always say you need a man with money, 0:22:27.119 --> 0:22:31.920 but did you you know, you know, but you really 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:34.240 want a man that is doing the work like you're 0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:35.800 doing the work every I got so many home girls 0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:36.960 to say, I can't date a man if they're not 0:22:37.000 --> 0:22:40.040 in therapy, they're not trying to heal. Wow, that's what 0:22:40.080 --> 0:22:43.720 I would want for myself, a secure individual and or 0:22:44.280 --> 0:22:48.320 someone who's striving to be secure and healing as well 0:22:48.359 --> 0:22:51.160 as I am healing and trying to heal. I wanted 0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:52.560 to ask you what did you think, because you know 0:22:52.560 --> 0:22:54.240 you are one of the leaders of this new R 0:22:54.320 --> 0:22:55.800 and B era, what did you think of did these 0:22:55.840 --> 0:22:58.600 comments that R and B is dead? I thought it 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:03.120 was dismissive to all of the amazing legendary artists that 0:23:03.520 --> 0:23:06.120 have been in the game and that are also contributing. 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:09.399 I mean, from Mary J. Blige to Jasmine Sullivan to 0:23:09.560 --> 0:23:15.960 Summer Walker, to Lame to Money Long Van Jest, Lucky Day, 0:23:16.160 --> 0:23:20.320 Lucky Day, Aaron Ray. There's so many of us. T 0:23:20.440 --> 0:23:27.840 Nariel Brent, Fiz Jalen Jossi her her. Yes, yes, let's 0:23:28.160 --> 0:23:32.679