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Speaker 1: Subject I'm not the one and We're not the two.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fort nine year old single woman,

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Speaker 1: and I say I'm single because I've been in a

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Speaker 1: dead end relationship for almost ten years. I was so

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Speaker 1: in love with this man, and I felt like he

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Speaker 1: loved me, but he stopped telling me after three years

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Speaker 1: of being together. Instead of telling me, he'd say that

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Speaker 1: I was the closest thing he had to a wife,

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Speaker 1: and everyone knows who his number one is. I was

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Speaker 1: too needy and gullible back then to realize how stupid

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Speaker 1: that sounded. There have been a few instances, incidences here

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Speaker 1: and there, where I'd hear something about my man out

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Speaker 1: in the streets, and he would always say that other

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Speaker 1: women are jealous of me because he's all mine. He

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Speaker 1: has a huge ego and I fed it for years.

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Speaker 1: And now that I've come to my senses, I want

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Speaker 1: out of this foolishness. Our house is in my name,

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Speaker 1: his car is in my name, and he has a

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Speaker 1: credit card that I let him use. It's been a

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Speaker 1: cycle of this man telling me whatever I need to

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Speaker 1: hear so I won't dump him. But I'm ready to

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Speaker 1: go good. And here's why. I got home from work

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Speaker 1: Tuesday and he was already home in his bathrobe. He

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Speaker 1: said that it felt like he had COVID, so I

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Speaker 1: told him to go to the doctor. He left at

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Speaker 1: four pm and called later to say he'd been admitted

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Speaker 1: and would call me later. I did not even get

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Speaker 1: to ask what hospital he was in, and his phone

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Speaker 1: must have been off because I couldn't reach him. My

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Speaker 1: spidey senses kicked in and I called his mother to

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Speaker 1: see if she'd heard from him. She said he had

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Speaker 1: just left her house and he looked fine to her.

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Speaker 1: He came in. He came in the next morning with

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Speaker 1: gatorade and ibuprofen, and he said it was dehydration. I'm

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Speaker 1: not the one and we are not the two. It's

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Speaker 1: time for him to go, and I need advice on

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Speaker 1: how to break the cycle so he doesn't keep lying

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Speaker 1: and cheating. How do I get rid of this man?

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out why is that so hard

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Speaker 1: for you to get rid of him? It's been pretty

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Speaker 1: much unhappiness for you for ten years, or at least

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Speaker 1: seven of the ten. Don't you want to be happy

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Speaker 1: and have a real relationship with someone who treats you

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Speaker 1: like a queen? You say you need advice on how

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Speaker 1: to break the cycle so he doesn't keep lying and cheating,

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Speaker 1: And how do you get rid of this man? You know,

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Speaker 1: why is this so hard? I don't think that's what's

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Speaker 1: happening here. He's not treating you like a queen. He's

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Speaker 1: not giving you what you need. You mentioned how much

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Speaker 1: you love the man, But why do you love him

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Speaker 1: so much? I think it's because he's been there. It's comfortable,

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Speaker 1: it's convenient for you. It's it's hard a lot of

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Speaker 1: times to just pack up and start over. I get that,

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Speaker 1: But a new start is better than staying in this

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Speaker 1: what you call dead end relationship, isn't it? Comfort and

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Speaker 1: convenience do have a tendency to make us stay longer

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Speaker 1: than we should. You're you're still with a man who

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Speaker 1: lied to you about having COVID so he can get

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Speaker 1: out of the house and cheat. I mean, that's basically

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Speaker 1: what you're saying in this letter. Your instincts are telling

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Speaker 1: you that, so dump him. I mean, it's time for

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Speaker 1: him to realize the old you is gone and now

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Speaker 1: he's got to go. You've been with him for way

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Speaker 1: too long taking this type of behavior. People break up

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Speaker 1: every day. You guys aren't married. It's not like there's

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Speaker 1: a divorce where you have to split your assets and stuff.

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Speaker 1: Tell him you're not happy. It's time for you to

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Speaker 1: move on. This relationship is going nowhere. In other words,

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Speaker 1: tell him you're done and it's over. I mean he's

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Speaker 1: probably gonna beg and plead and lie, because remember you

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Speaker 1: take care of his house, in his car and everything.

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Speaker 1: But you gotta stay strong. You just gotta get out

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Speaker 1: of it. It's not that hard, Steve Man. Lady, you know,

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Speaker 1: here's a woman who wrote a letter, who actually answered

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Speaker 1: the letter herself. But she wrote the letter looking for

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Speaker 1: an answer. All your answers, you wrote them in the

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Speaker 1: letter letter yourself. Okay, so, sister, let me help you

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Speaker 1: realize what you just wrote to me in shirt. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm not the one and we're not the two. Here's

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Speaker 1: the letter. Just Stephen Sherlley, I'm a forty nine year

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Speaker 1: old single woman that's damn near fifty. And I say

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Speaker 1: I'm single because I'm in a dead end relationship for

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Speaker 1: almost ten years. Let's stop right here. If you're writing

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Speaker 1: a letter at damn near fifty because you think you're

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Speaker 1: single because you are in a dead end relationship, you

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Speaker 1: are telling us what the problem is right now. But

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Speaker 1: you also have the solution in this letter. I was

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Speaker 1: so in love with this man, and I felt like

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Speaker 1: he loved me, but he stopped telling me after three

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Speaker 1: years of being together. So for seven years you ain't

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Speaker 1: heard nothing. It stopped after year three. This is the

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Speaker 1: answer to your letter. He stopped loving you after year three.

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Speaker 1: Instead of telling me, he'd say I was the closest

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Speaker 1: thing he had to a wife, and everyone knows who

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Speaker 1: his number one is. Wayman, you ain't. Oh okay, so

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Speaker 1: he got enough women where he numbering y'all, you don't

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Speaker 1: see that you're the closest thing he got to a wife,

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Speaker 1: but he even have no wife, and everybody knows you

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Speaker 1: the number one. Okay, we'll see come back, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: We'll come back with part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour of the

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Speaker 1: subject for today's Strawberry Letters, I'm not the one and

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Speaker 1: We're not the two. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject I'm not the one

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Speaker 1: and We're not the two. All right, here's a woman

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Speaker 1: who wrote in a letter like I said, who is

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Speaker 1: telling us exactly what's wrong. So that means she has

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Speaker 1: identified the problem, and she's also provided us with all

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Speaker 1: the solutions for herself, but obviously she don't know this

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Speaker 1: power she has. So he would go forty nine year

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Speaker 1: old single woman, I say I'm single because I've been

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Speaker 1: a dead in relationship for ten years. Did you hear yourself?

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Speaker 1: Your in relationship for ten years? Is going dead in?

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Speaker 1: I was was past test, so in love with this man.

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Speaker 1: I felt like he loved me, but he stopped telling

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Speaker 1: me after three years, So for seven years, you haven't

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Speaker 1: felt loved. Are you listening to you? He'd say, I

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Speaker 1: everybody knows who his number one is. So now he

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Speaker 1: got enough women, so he numbered them all right. I

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Speaker 1: stupid that's sounded. Back then, when was it at the

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Speaker 1: first three years you sounded good or and it took

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Speaker 1: you seven years of realizing what he was saying. I'm

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Speaker 1: a little confused, sister, but it don't sound like you are.

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Speaker 1: That has been a few incidents here and there where

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Speaker 1: I'd hear something about my man out in the streets,

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Speaker 1: and he would always say that other woman, that other

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Speaker 1: women are jealous of me because he's all mine. He

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Speaker 1: has a huge ego, and I fared it for years,

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Speaker 1: and now that I've come to my senses, I want

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Speaker 1: out of this foolishness. Okay, here goes the answer. Our

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Speaker 1: house is in my name, his car is in my name,

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Speaker 1: and he has a credit card. I led him. Use

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Speaker 1: those three things right here. Number one, put him out

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Speaker 1: of your house. Number two, repoll your car, and number

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Speaker 1: three report the credit card stolen. Have them send you

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Speaker 1: a new car with a new number. And now his

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Speaker 1: ass is out of house, home and a little. It's

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Speaker 1: just that simple. You put all this in the letter.

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Speaker 1: It's been a cycle of this man telling me whatever

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Speaker 1: I needed to hear. No, he told you what you

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Speaker 1: wanted to hear, so I wouldn't dump him. But I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to go for good. And here's why. Oh oh,

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Speaker 1: now she ready to go. And here this is why. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's look at this. I got home from work two

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Speaker 1: he was already home in his bathroom. He said he

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Speaker 1: I think I got COVID. I come home, put on

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Speaker 1: the damn bathrobe and went on you to come home

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Speaker 1: so I could breathe this information on your ass. You

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Speaker 1: breathe his information on me? Are you kidding me? So?

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Speaker 1: I told him to go to the doctor. He couldn't wait.

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Speaker 1: He left at four pm and called me later said

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Speaker 1: phone must have been off because I couldn't reach him. Now,

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Speaker 1: senses kicked in after ten years at all? Your spidy

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Speaker 1: He say sick. Well, well Robert was over here and

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Speaker 1: pre existing condition. That's right, mama. He said he had

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Speaker 1: just left the house and and and looked fine to me.

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Speaker 1: He came in the next morning with gatorade and some

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Speaker 1: abut pope, you're proud of him, and he said it

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Speaker 1: was dehydra. You know, I'd be proud of him. And

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Speaker 1: mean to say is I'm not number one. I'm somewhere

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Speaker 1: Because he has spent the night somewhere else. It's time

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Speaker 1: so he doesn't keep lying and cheating. How do I

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Speaker 1: get rid of this man. Let's go over this again.

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Speaker 1: The house is in your name. Put him out your house.

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Speaker 1: The car he drives is in your name. Repot the card,

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Speaker 1: and he has a credit card. I let him use.

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Speaker 1: Report the credit card stolen. That's it. Thank you, Steve.

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