Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 1: She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the
Speaker 1: man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.
Speaker 1: She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was
Speaker 1: a good woman who always made good choices. That shit,
Speaker 1: we're good Mom's bad choices too, single mom who said
Speaker 1: fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices and found
Speaker 1: out they were so bad after all, we're expert Overshares
Speaker 1: and your new bestie. Sit back and you're the ride.
Speaker 1: I can do a bad mom. Welcome back to good
Speaker 1: Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday. Bitches,
Speaker 1: what it is? We're bad so much? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I feel I'm nervous. I know, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: been a long time, too long.
Speaker 2: We have been really off since March, you guys, and
Speaker 2: it has been a.
Speaker 1: Lot of shit has happened. Years are going by so fast,
Speaker 1: it's like one year is like three.
Speaker 2: I feel like, I know, I'm just I'm so excited
Speaker 2: to sit back on this couch with you, my sister,
Speaker 2: my bestie. I know we have created such a beautiful
Speaker 2: universe here.
Speaker 1: If you're watching on YouTube.
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Speaker 1: Yes, like everything else. Shout out to Etsy and Amazon,
Speaker 1: even though we're gonna stop supporting them after these purchases.
Speaker 1: After if we're done, we're done with Amazon. Now, how
Speaker 1: are you? I'm good, I'm good. I'm ready to come back.
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit nervous. It feels like we haven't
Speaker 1: been here in a long time, but I'm good. I
Speaker 1: feel ready.
Speaker 3: I you know what.
Speaker 1: I Every time you stop doing this, even though we
Speaker 1: never have, because it's always ongoing for four hundred years,
Speaker 1: I always feel like I miss it, like there's something
Speaker 1: an outlet that I need to tap into. So I'm
Speaker 1: really excited to be back and to announce our new partnership. Yes,
Speaker 1: are you ready? For six and a half years, almost seven,
Speaker 1: Erica and I have been independent podcasters doing this shit
Speaker 1: on our own, grassroots, i'd say, and we have really
Speaker 1: grinded and grinded to get this far. And this year
Speaker 1: we have come upon a very special partnership and we
Speaker 1: are so excited to announce that Good Moms is officially
Speaker 1: partners with iHeart Radio slash Black Effect Network WOO. And
Speaker 1: because it's a special day and we want to celebrate
Speaker 1: every win, my dear I brought us some bubbly pop
Speaker 1: that bottle. Shout out to Charlemagne the God, shout out
Speaker 1: to Dolly, and shout out to us. Maybe this should happen.
Speaker 2: You know, three years ago we went to Nashville to
Speaker 2: go we at podcast movement and one of me and
Speaker 2: Mila's goals was to meet the president, the new newly
Speaker 2: appointed president of Black Effect.
Speaker 1: No, let me keep it real with you. We went
Speaker 1: to fucking Nashville to do this podcast movement. This just
Speaker 1: like the This was like the second time or third
Speaker 1: time we did podcast movement, but this was the first time.
Speaker 1: We were on two panels and one of the panels
Speaker 1: was like on the main stage, we're feeling ourselves. We
Speaker 1: were really feeling ourselves. And we looked through the you know,
Speaker 1: like every conference has like pictures. We looked at the
Speaker 1: conference pamphlet, you know, lots of whites, lots of whites,
Speaker 1: lots of men and nerds, lots of nerds, and then
Speaker 1: there's us with cowboy boots and booty shorts. And then
Speaker 1: there was beautiful Dolly, a black woman who's the president
Speaker 1: of Black Effect, and Erica we were opening the pages
Speaker 1: and she's like her, we need to know her. I
Speaker 1: need to know her. And I was like, it's not
Speaker 1: going to be hard to find her. And literally, I'm
Speaker 1: not kidding, this is how powerful our manifestations work. We
Speaker 1: were literally that was probably like within five minutes. We
Speaker 1: sat at like a little iHeart Coffee activation and I
Speaker 1: look over and I go, oh my god, I think
Speaker 1: that's her. She's like, what do you mean, I think
Speaker 1: that's the girl you're talking about, and she goes, oh
Speaker 1: my god, it is. Did we talk at that part?
Speaker 1: We did. Yeah, we confidently mosied our asses over. We
Speaker 1: waited for the crowd to clear out because you know,
Speaker 1: every when everyone was attacking her because she literally had
Speaker 1: just become the president, and we did. We're like, hi,
Speaker 1: I'm Erica and I'm Mila, And just like how Erica
Speaker 1: cornered me in the bathroom in twenty thirteen or twenty fourteen,
Speaker 1: this is what we did to Dolly. And I'm so
Speaker 1: glad we did because, honestly, my sister, our manifestations and
Speaker 1: our words are powerful as fuck, and this is just
Speaker 1: another testament to whatever you speak, you see and you believe, baby,
Speaker 1: it is already yours. And how that was? Was that
Speaker 1: three years ago? Those three years ago, three years ago?
Speaker 1: So right now, I guess we could say our turnaround town,
Speaker 1: our time on big manifestations are one to three years,
Speaker 1: or maybe five minutes because she did show up five
Speaker 1: minutes later. Facts, But ultimately, whatever you believe in is
Speaker 1: always on its way, So don't stop believing and maintain relationships.
Speaker 1: Relationships are everything. Relationships are everything in this business. And
Speaker 1: also to the fellow women, to the fellow black people.
Speaker 1: When you're in spaces in industries where there's not many
Speaker 1: of us, which that's many of them, always link up, like,
Speaker 1: never feel like a hater, don't be a hater, don't
Speaker 1: be in competition. Know that we're stronger together and there's
Speaker 1: enough for everybody, and like that has been our main,
Speaker 1: our main thing. We've been helped from by so many
Speaker 1: other podcasters in this space and it's not that many
Speaker 1: of us, so I'm so so so so grateful to
Speaker 1: now be partnered with the Black Effect Network, Okay, with
Speaker 1: Charlomagne and the God and just expect us to keep
Speaker 1: glowing up and growing up because now we got a
Speaker 1: big brother in the game. Ay, and my ten year
Speaker 1: waitresses are coming a ready pop baby. Oh shit, Oh god,
Speaker 1: not the couch. Oh no, it's clear. Okay, and guys,
Speaker 1: hear the ASMR. You know we're queens of ASMR. Since
Speaker 1: we've been off season. Okay, would like to say a toast,
Speaker 1: my dear. I would like to say a toast to
Speaker 1: an incredible twenty twenty five, to a beautiful season of
Speaker 1: good mom's bad choices, beautiful season of retreats, of the
Speaker 1: Goodbye Retreat, just pouring into all of our dreams, all
Speaker 1: of our creative endeavors, keeping ourselves healthy. I want to
Speaker 1: pray over our friendship, as we always have and we'll
Speaker 1: continue to do. I want to pray over your relationship.
Speaker 1: I want to pray over your kids, our kid reat
Speaker 1: future kids.
Speaker 2: Our kids as in the two together not plural. Oh
Speaker 2: shut up, breaking news, but let's not pregnant. I know
Speaker 2: we left you hanging on the last.
Speaker 1: Real episode, but I'm pretty sure everybody figured it out.
Speaker 1: My non pregnant stomach.
Speaker 2: And just our overall health and happiness and to not
Speaker 2: really giving a fuck about anything else.
Speaker 1: No, not ever giving a fun about anything else about
Speaker 1: except about what our goals are and about humanity and
Speaker 1: about getting this motherfucking check and kicking down doors when
Speaker 1: people tell you fuck now and saying fuck you. Pay me, Amen, amenhay, cheers, congratulations,
Speaker 1: I love you. Yeah. Okay, that looks good on you,
Speaker 1: and it tastes good too. I feel rich, Do I
Speaker 1: look rich? We are rich. My hair got bigger this season.
Speaker 1: Definitely gonna be rich because I'm rich now, hair happy.
Speaker 1: Your hair starts to grow long, except mine, It's been
Speaker 1: the same length, and but that's because it's my choice.
Speaker 3: It's so rich I have every day because it grows
Speaker 3: so abundantly.
Speaker 1: It's true. I do trim my hair basically every day.
Speaker 2: For those of you who are new to the Good
Speaker 2: Mom's verse, I just wanted to break down a few rules.
Speaker 2: You know, me and Mila are not rule followers really
Speaker 2: at all.
Speaker 1: We're actually you could just call us the we're the
Speaker 1: ogs of uncensored motherhood. Let's start there, but period, period.
Speaker 1: But what comes with being the ojis of uncensored motherhood
Speaker 1: is being the rebels of podcasting. We don't follow rules, No,
Speaker 1: we don't we break them. We do, and but sometimes
Speaker 1: you got to make rules to break them. But these
Speaker 1: roles you don't break because we're making them. But I
Speaker 1: know that these are rules made by non rule followers,
Speaker 1: so they're rules that you should embrace. Okay, Well number one,
Speaker 1: don't be a hater. Don't be a hater. No judging. This
Speaker 1: is not it. This is it.
Speaker 2: And you know, I've got to find another way to
Speaker 2: say judgment freezone, because I think it's a little played out.
Speaker 2: I never heard anybody say judgment free zone, judgment freeze.
Speaker 1: It's like church. You've never heard no one say this
Speaker 1: is a judge that was I thought that was us.
Speaker 1: I thought that we coined that. Oh did you interesting?
Speaker 1: I saw it on our sign at a at a
Speaker 1: lot at a live show, and I was like, we
Speaker 1: coined that. Oh yeah, whatever you say, baby, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: So then we coined it. This is a judgment free zone, y'all.
Speaker 2: So rule number one, don't be a hating ass bitch
Speaker 2: or a niggad and uh, this is a judgment free zone,
Speaker 2: so no judging.
Speaker 1: If you judge, it gives no one room to grow
Speaker 1: because then it's fester's shame and guilt and nobody needs that. None, No,
Speaker 1: we don't. Number two. Number two, no woman hating. This
Speaker 1: is not this is not a woman hating zone. If
Speaker 1: you if you like what's his name, if you like
Speaker 1: Andro Tate, Andro Andro, if we don't even pronounce that
Speaker 1: niggas name, right, and you know what I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: You liked that nigga Tate or any of those niggas
Speaker 1: that hate women, just turn it off. Now you're gonna
Speaker 1: really hate us, so just back, just just turn it off.
Speaker 1: We can do without you. But if you love women
Speaker 1: and you love the freedom of women speaking and living freely,
Speaker 1: this is a place for you. Yes.
Speaker 2: And if you are a woman who believes you don't
Speaker 2: need female friends, just come sit with us for a while.
Speaker 2: I have a feeling we're going to change your mind
Speaker 2: because you absolutely the fuck do.
Speaker 1: Number three, my favorite one. Hold these niggas accountable, Amen,
Speaker 1: hold them accountable. Yes, yes, pray over these men that
Speaker 1: they realize that we are the queens of the universe
Speaker 1: and that without us they would have no guidance, no
Speaker 1: queens to guide them with our intuition, with our nurturing qualities,
Speaker 1: no match our intelligence, and no magic. So yes, we
Speaker 1: are going to be holding all these nigga accountable in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five and guts beyond. And guess what comes
Speaker 1: with holding niggas accountable. You got to hold yourself accountable
Speaker 1: because what happens when we don't hold nigga accountable is
Speaker 1: that we cut corners to get the dick, and that's
Speaker 1: only disrespecting you. So you have to hold yourself accountable
Speaker 1: in order to hold them accountable to make the whole
Speaker 1: thing flow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this only works if you hold yourself accountable. If
Speaker 2: you hold yourself accountable, that's the only way this works.
Speaker 2: You can't hold niggas acountable if you don't hold yourself accountable,
Speaker 2: which means.
Speaker 1: Don't disrespect yourself, don't disrespect your brand, don't disrespect Most importantly,
Speaker 1: you're pussy. I know everybody wants that thing between their legs,
Speaker 1: but sometimes you got to say no, yeah, not everybody
Speaker 1: wants it between their legs.
Speaker 2: But even still, even if you don't want that thing
Speaker 2: between your legs or in your mouth, well maybe they're lesbians.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, do you know what I mean? You who
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I'm just saying maybe they don't
Speaker 1: like hold everybody account. Everybody needs to able accountab whether
Speaker 1: you're a lesbian, faye them whatever the fuck? Hold you know? Lesbians?
Speaker 2: Bye dick everybody. Yeah, I guess, I don't know. No,
Speaker 2: not everybody wants penetration one of the lesbians does.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I listen, I don't. I am a
Speaker 1: former lesbian. Okay, for any of you guys joining me,
Speaker 1: we've been doing this for about seven years, and earlier
Speaker 1: in my early twenties, I was a former lesbian. I
Speaker 1: am still a part of the LGBTQ plus community because
Speaker 1: you never leave, and so I can. I can make
Speaker 1: these comments.
Speaker 2: Okay, apparently so am I because I'm by fun, so
Speaker 2: I'm part of the community as well.
Speaker 1: And if you guys want to know what by fun is,
Speaker 1: it means she sometimes buy on the weekends after two
Speaker 1: shots at tequila. I don't always need two shots of tequila.
Speaker 1: I could do by fun sober also, Okay, she's just
Speaker 1: buy fun. Sometimes she's flexible when she's having fun, and
Speaker 1: I am flexible physically, are you?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, bitch splits on both sides because you know,
Speaker 2: one leg work better than.
Speaker 1: The other, and I could do both. I don't know
Speaker 1: if that were I don't know. If I don't know
Speaker 1: about the middle, that's what I would No, no, no, no, okay,
Speaker 1: theft in the front, the right in the front. But
Speaker 1: usually one leg is splitting better than the other. Okay,
Speaker 1: I am multi multi. You could do right and left,
Speaker 1: but not but not front. I could do front if
Speaker 1: if someone really pushed me down hard, if you studge
Speaker 1: for three weeks.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, anyway, okay, Last, but not least, on our
Speaker 2: new role list is wait.
Speaker 1: Wait. This is very important. This is a very important
Speaker 1: one because this comes from the good Vibe retreat and
Speaker 1: this is coming back here because this is very very
Speaker 1: very important. Everybody, turn your speakers up and listen here.
Speaker 1: This last one we all do and you've got to stop.
Speaker 1: Got to the energy is not good. So this one,
Speaker 1: this last rule of time is stop fucking apologizing. The
Speaker 1: waitress gets your shit wrong. You're like, oh, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I said no let us. Oh I'm sorry. Did I
Speaker 1: pipe into you? Oh I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you put peanuts in my peanut allergy meal.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but I'm not saying i'm sorry. Bitches love
Speaker 1: to apologize, And when I say bitches, me too, because
Speaker 1: it's all we do. We're just so used to apologizing.
Speaker 1: But like this this year, this season, stop apologizing, And
Speaker 1: now that we said it, you're gonna every time you
Speaker 1: do it, you're gonna be like, why the fuck do
Speaker 1: I do that? Because we're just programmed to apologize. But sorry,
Speaker 1: you're not sorry, you're just you know, oops. And just
Speaker 1: as a challenge today, when you're off enjoying your day,
Speaker 1: just count how many times it happens. You will be
Speaker 1: fucking astonished and be like, I'm not even really sorry,
Speaker 1: So stop.
Speaker 2: Unless you really fucked up, as she really really really
Speaker 2: fucked up and made a horrible, bad choice, then maybe
Speaker 2: you should consider apologizing maybe, and then you know that's hard.
Speaker 1: So if you need help, just email us. We'll help
Speaker 1: you with the apology. You can email us at production
Speaker 1: at Good momsad Choices dot com. We're basically the chat
Speaker 1: GPT for friends. Hey, I like that, like that with
Speaker 1: the Good Mom's Chat GPT, good one. If you have
Speaker 1: anything advice or any questions, just think of your mom
Speaker 1: friends Good Mom's aka chat GPT. I really allowed to
Speaker 1: say that mom GPT. We're the mom GPT. So if
Speaker 1: you have any questions you need to see if something's
Speaker 1: a red flag, which I recently found out that you
Speaker 1: can put in text messages and emails into chat GPT
Speaker 1: and ask them for red flags. Red flags. Yo, our girl,
Speaker 1: uh the trap? I knew.
Speaker 3: Okay, I thought you're gonna tell me. I thought you're
Speaker 3: gonna say it was Brittany.
Speaker 1: I was like, I knew it's No, it wasn't Brittany,
Speaker 1: our homegirl. The trap, which I was going She posts
Speaker 1: a lot, she has a lot of things to say,
Speaker 1: a lot of good things, and some guy was commenting
Speaker 1: on her whatever her post was, and she put that
Speaker 1: shit in chat GBT and chat GBT read the fuck
Speaker 1: out of him. It was a therapist diagnosed him and everything. Okay,
Speaker 1: so we're your new guides. Would you call it the
Speaker 1: mom GPT, mom GBT mom GBT. I like that, so
Speaker 1: please send you advice questions.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, speaking of red flags, we have a
Speaker 2: new segment on our show, guys, it's called bad Choice
Speaker 2: of the Week, and if you join our Facebook group,
Speaker 2: we are asking everybody what their bad choice of the
Speaker 2: week is. But I wanted to share mine first because
Speaker 2: just life update. I know, the last time we spoke,
Speaker 2: I was celibate.
Speaker 3: I'm not anymore. I'm out here fucking. I'm fucking a lot.
Speaker 1: It's great.
Speaker 2: Great if anyone cared, I'm fucking and and so the
Speaker 2: other night. So basically, the bad just let me break
Speaker 2: down the bad choice of the bog. The bad choice
Speaker 2: of the week is basically any bad choice. It could
Speaker 2: be a really actually bad choice that you made, or
Speaker 2: it could be something that maybe society deems as bad.
Speaker 1: But it was a good choice for you.
Speaker 2: Now this was kind of both in my scenario, Like
Speaker 2: I felt like this was a really good choice for
Speaker 2: me to make, and then it went bad fast.
Speaker 1: So basically, me and my man, we were hooking up.
Speaker 2: Everything was going really great, and I told him like
Speaker 2: when he was about to come, I was like, when
Speaker 2: you come, I want you to come all over my face.
Speaker 1: Oh well, you're a good one because I've never said that.
Speaker 1: Have ever said that. That's a lie. I never said that.
Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you want that?
Speaker 2: I don't keep telling your story? Okay, well yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: So I was like, come all over my face and
Speaker 2: he was like, Okay, are you sure. I was like, yep,
Speaker 2: totally sure, So totally.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 2: So you know, we're revving up. He's about to bust
Speaker 2: the boom all over my face.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, sorry, we're in LA and there's a
Speaker 1: lot of traffic out, so it's a celebration, celebratory.
Speaker 2: We're going to get this LA traffic. Anyway, he busts
Speaker 2: all over my face. I'm like, yes, I can't see.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy. I'm blinded by all the semen because
Speaker 2: there's so much. And then he has to literally guide
Speaker 2: me to the bathroom because I literally I can't, like,
Speaker 2: I can't see.
Speaker 1: So he guides me.
Speaker 2: We're laughing and it's so funny and it's all so
Speaker 2: sexy and it tastes good. And then I get to
Speaker 2: the bathroom and you know, I'm like he goes back
Speaker 2: to lay down. I like, let it sit there for
Speaker 2: a second because I'm like, there's benefits here, Like I'm
Speaker 2: gonna let the ship sit on my foe.
Speaker 3: You thirteen, No, it's just a fact.
Speaker 1: Semen has a lot of beautiful benefits to your skin.
Speaker 1: Take a look at my skin. So anyway, I let
Speaker 1: it dry.
Speaker 2: I'm in there for like maybe like three minutes after
Speaker 2: he's left me, because I'm just like I'm going like
Speaker 2: this it's okay.
Speaker 1: Perfect.
Speaker 2: So then I go I wash my face with our girl,
Speaker 2: Aaron's beautiful skincare like flint.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Aaron with lic and flint. And so
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, good, we're gonna go to sleep. We're
Speaker 1: gonna sleep so beautifully. Now I go lay next to him.
Speaker 1: I'm cuddling up with him, and then I start rubbing
Speaker 1: my eyes and then I realized, like damn, it was
Speaker 1: like it's.
Speaker 3: Kind of crunchy shit in my eyelashes.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, is that like my mess Scara from
Speaker 2: like earlier, or like I just didn't think I didn't
Speaker 2: think much of it. I really did not think, oh,
Speaker 2: this is semen in my eyelashes because I washed my
Speaker 2: face thoroughly.
Speaker 3: Like I really.
Speaker 1: Thick, you guys, Yeah, thick, especially when your man takes
Speaker 1: care of himself. I don't know about those unhealthy men.
Speaker 3: I feel like there seems a little thin water.
Speaker 1: I don't know about it.
Speaker 3: I don't have a little watermen.
Speaker 2: This hat this, yeah, I don't know if healthy man
Speaker 2: should be nutting on people's faces anyway. So I rub
Speaker 2: my eyes and then some shit gets in my eye
Speaker 2: and I'm like, okay, I like kind of try to
Speaker 2: get it out, and then I just try to close
Speaker 2: my eyes and I realized, like I can't. I'm starting
Speaker 2: to get a headache. My eyes are starting to water.
Speaker 2: He's like, asleep and you're getting a headache, yes, bitch.
Speaker 2: Every time I closed my eyes it felt like pressure
Speaker 2: in my head was it burning?
Speaker 1: Like it was like pressure like right here. Every time
Speaker 1: I close them it was like so I couldn't close them.
Speaker 1: So I was like, let me go look in the mirror.
Speaker 1: I look in the mirror. My eyes are fucking bloodshot red.
Speaker 1: I'm in there like for like five minutes. Now he's awake.
Speaker 1: He's like, are you okay? Like what's going on? I'm
Speaker 1: like I'm fine. I don't want him to know that,
Speaker 1: like my great idea is going bad.
Speaker 2: So then I like, you know, I wash my face.
Speaker 2: I go back and lay down and I think everything's fine. No, bitch,
Speaker 2: it's not fine. My eyes are still fucking red.
Speaker 1: And then how long does this go on? For like
Speaker 1: an hour? Like an hour? It was. It was horrible.
Speaker 2: I ended up being like the worst choice ever because
Speaker 2: he's like nursing me, like are you okay? Is there
Speaker 2: something I can do? I go back in the bathroom.
Speaker 2: Now my eyelids are swollen. It's like this bitch told
Speaker 2: me to not in our face. Now this bitch is
Speaker 2: having a fucking panic attack in the bathroom.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so basically that was my bad choice of the week.
Speaker 2: I don't know how many more facials I'm going to get,
Speaker 2: or maybe we need to aim better, just go around
Speaker 2: the eyes, not into the eyeballs.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I wouldn't recommend. Yeah, I think early on in
Speaker 1: my sex career, maybe even before I started having sex.
Speaker 1: I once I remember vividly like where I was at
Speaker 1: a friend's house and we were bad. We were having
Speaker 1: like a huge sleepover. We did this a lot like
Speaker 1: the friend's houses that didn't care. We were like a
Speaker 1: boy's house, a bunch of people over there, and we
Speaker 1: watched a porn and the porn was this bitch getting
Speaker 1: netted on and she couldn't open her eyes. And literally
Speaker 1: that that suck with me forever. And like, I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sexually open and I do a lot of things, but
Speaker 1: I have never one of my rules I do basically
Speaker 1: most things, I will not let a nigga net on
Speaker 1: my face. For some reason, I just thought it was
Speaker 1: the most disrespectful thing you could do, Like I don't
Speaker 1: know what someone did to me as a shild Like
Speaker 1: I don't know what it was, but I was like, like,
Speaker 1: you can nut on my neck down interesting, And honestly,
Speaker 1: I still kind of stick by. I don't know what
Speaker 1: he's talking about because he's doing a lot of things
Speaker 1: in the background. He's lying because I don't really get
Speaker 1: netted on my face. In fact, I remember being like
Speaker 1: an hot and heavy sex before and like, can I
Speaker 1: not in your face? And I'm like no, like really,
Speaker 1: I was like no, Like that's my one note and
Speaker 1: I'm also have contacts. There's a lot going. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: was shocked and like, no, oh god, imagine getting nut
Speaker 1: in your eyes. It might be easier. You could just
Speaker 1: take the contact out, which it was all over.
Speaker 2: It was like a seal across my fucking eyeball. Well,
Speaker 2: it's kids, true, true, yeah, that was my son. It
Speaker 2: was it was your son's, My sons, rest in peace
Speaker 2: for your son's. But yeah, even if you get on
Speaker 2: your body.
Speaker 1: There's been times I've taken a shower, I get on
Speaker 1: my body and like later I'll get out the shower
Speaker 1: and Orlando's like, you have the film on you, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not no, That's what happened to me too,
Speaker 1: because you know, like I have the you know, the
Speaker 1: towels that leave like when you new towels. I had
Speaker 1: that all he met it all over my back and
Speaker 1: then I had a new towel and then I wiped it,
Speaker 1: and then I had just like random like lint stuck
Speaker 1: all over my body. And I was like, what the
Speaker 1: fuck is this super ass sperm? So baby? And then
Speaker 1: I was like, nigga, you will get me pregnant with
Speaker 1: this super sperm. It's you know, I don't get pregnant easy.
Speaker 1: I know bit to say that, but I don't. God
Speaker 1: has protected me. God has not protected me. That's why
Speaker 1: I have the copper iug. Anyway, moving on, you know,
Speaker 1: before we move on, if you've caught in this segment,
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Speaker 1: Men can join Patreon, however other places. What's next? What's
Speaker 1: been going on? We've been gone for my months are
Speaker 1: off ten months? So mark, what do we at March? Yeah, Augusteptember, October, November,
Speaker 1: December ten. We can't count half months. We've sprinkled in
Speaker 1: some things here and there, but it's been fucking almost
Speaker 1: ten months. That we've been gone. There's been so much
Speaker 1: that's happened, and I can't even begin to remember everything.
Speaker 1: But there's like a few things that have stuck out
Speaker 1: that I was like, you know, I need to write
Speaker 1: this down because when I get back to my bitches,
Speaker 1: they need to we need to talk about this. So
Speaker 1: some of the things, let's start. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: wrote some of these things down in my phone because
Speaker 1: it's very important that we don't forget. Oh okay, well,
Speaker 1: let's start with the black mad hatter, Cam Newton and
Speaker 1: his podcast where he wears that stupid hat and looks
Speaker 1: smart but apparently it's not. I don't know his educational levels,
Speaker 1: but I do know some of his processes are not
Speaker 1: very intelligent. So fine to me, once upon a time,
Speaker 1: you know what, thias be so fine started talking so much. Literally,
Speaker 1: this is a testament to growth, because there would be
Speaker 1: a time I'd be like, he is fine as hell,
Speaker 1: But when a nigga says dumb shit, I automatically I
Speaker 1: don't care how smart, I don't care how fine you are.
Speaker 1: You're ugly now. And I've never ever since he started talking,
Speaker 1: I never thought it was fine again, And that hat
Speaker 1: looks even stupid. He thought the hat and the cigar
Speaker 1: and the ankle, the fucking bare ankles. Niggas always think
Speaker 1: a bare ankle looks a bare ankle meant he is sophisticated. Sophisticated, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: but then he started talking out of it, fucking traphole.
Speaker 1: I mean, he just embarrassed. He embarrassed my favorite. I
Speaker 1: fucking love her, but now I'm concerned for her. Is
Speaker 1: she okay? Because she's fucking funny? You know she lost
Speaker 1: me with the with the spoiler. I mean, you know
Speaker 1: it's me. I have to tap into my soft lifeness.
Speaker 1: She lost me when she was on our Girl Shan
Speaker 1: show with that she was talking about spoiling her man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: toothpaste on the Yeah. And I'm with it. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm a mom a. You know he needs for nothing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm a partnered woman and I probably need to tap
Speaker 1: more into that. But there's a part of me that
Speaker 1: like it was ick and it really raises my alarm
Speaker 1: even more. And now that hearing him talk about her, well.
Speaker 2: Okay, it wasn't dick for me necessarily then, but it
Speaker 2: makes some sense now because for me, I I'm I
Speaker 2: can I'm kind of soft in that way in my relationships,
Speaker 2: Like I love to serve my man in that way.
Speaker 1: I've told this story or not story. I've said this
Speaker 1: in the past. I'm a trick.
Speaker 2: I'm a little bit of a trick in relationships. I
Speaker 2: really love to like spoil my boyfriend and make life
Speaker 2: easy for him or whoever I'm with.
Speaker 1: So when she said that shit, I was like, I don't.
Speaker 2: I mean, I know the women were really mad, but
Speaker 2: now I understand have more context around what is happening
Speaker 2: in that household, which it sounds like he's doing O
Speaker 2: where the fuck he wants and she's putting toothpaste on
Speaker 2: his fucking toothbrust should.
Speaker 1: And I think my issue with it is is not
Speaker 1: serving your man because I'm all about like I'm I
Speaker 1: like to spoil too, you know, like I'm very I'm
Speaker 1: a feminine woman most of the time. But I just
Speaker 1: feel like, you know what it is, I think that
Speaker 1: there's been a for so long, there's been such an
Speaker 1: imbalance between the masculine and the feminine, and men have
Speaker 1: really lost their way about like worshiping and being dedicated
Speaker 1: to women. And I think with that error, with the
Speaker 1: fucking Andrew Tates and the ETCeteras. I'm like, fuck these
Speaker 1: niggas unless they show up the right way. And I
Speaker 1: think another issue with me is like I think women
Speaker 1: notoriously historically have served and been this super soft, dedicated
Speaker 1: woman to rich niggas, and rich niggas historically have shitted
Speaker 1: on them. Well so in my mind, and when she
Speaker 1: was telling Shan about, you know, the way she serves him,
Speaker 1: I figured that he was serving her and that's why
Speaker 1: she was able to tap into this level of softness.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, I don't know her.
Speaker 2: Maybe he is, I have no idea, but from the
Speaker 2: looks of it, it doesn't seem as so. So I mean, yes,
Speaker 2: from the podcasts that I've seen him speak on or
Speaker 2: his own podcast between him with specifically with Doctor Bryant,
Speaker 2: that really shed light on just his level of immaturity
Speaker 2: and that he doesn't get it. And then also I
Speaker 2: don't know if she does either.
Speaker 1: She doesn't get it. And this goes back to our
Speaker 1: rules about holding niggas accountable.
Speaker 2: You know, okay, holding niggs accountable, because then she went
Speaker 2: on Instagram to then be like to show like I'm happy, bitch,
Speaker 2: like I'm mine in my business, I'm at the spot.
Speaker 2: Fuck that and oh she did, Yes she did, and
Speaker 2: historic this is what women do. This is what we
Speaker 2: do when we have to defend our choices like this,
Speaker 2: we go extra and we have to show them that, no,
Speaker 2: we're happy.
Speaker 1: I'm not battered and abused. I'm not saying she's batter
Speaker 1: and abused. I'm just saying, like, I'm well fed and
Speaker 1: well nourished here, and perhaps she is in the ways
Speaker 1: that she needs to be until she meets a real nigga.
Speaker 1: And there's a level of like secondhand embarrassment that I
Speaker 1: had for her, and especially after giving birth to a
Speaker 1: baby and all these other things. It's just like, damn sis,
Speaker 1: like you went public on this podcast telling how much
Speaker 1: you serve him and having to be happy and put
Speaker 1: toothpaste on his toothbrush, and this nigga just straight up
Speaker 1: said he wants more kids by God, like fucking immaculate
Speaker 1: Mary and you know, for those of you who live
Speaker 1: under a rock. And he also.
Speaker 2: Basically said that I don't I mean, I think they
Speaker 2: have an open relationship and maybe she.
Speaker 1: Didn't know that. Most bitches don't know that.
Speaker 2: Basically said that yes, he had like he'd be fucking bitches.
Speaker 1: And he doesn't kiss him on the mouth. This is
Speaker 1: another problem. And that and that that's what that makes
Speaker 1: it better? Kiss him on the mouth. He just puts
Speaker 1: his dick in them. Oh, not intimate at all. Nope,
Speaker 1: that's another issue. Is a lot of niggas. A lot
Speaker 1: of niggas are in open relationships, but their bitches not
Speaker 1: no have no I me I ambitious psa announcement, you guys.
Speaker 1: In order to be in an open relationship, both parties
Speaker 1: must be aware. Okay, rule one, just in case everybody
Speaker 1: was fucking confused. Also new in history, new in this
Speaker 1: year's history is these notes. I have Nick cannon diagnosis,
Speaker 1: not the lupus, but narcissism. I had to write. I
Speaker 1: had to write cliff notes.
Speaker 3: So Nick Cannon has been diagnosed with narcissism.
Speaker 1: Sure, also by I think also with an interview with
Speaker 1: doctor Bryant is killing She needs to get on the show.
Speaker 1: I can't wait because obviously she's you know what I
Speaker 1: like about her. She's soft, and she's direct, and she's intelligent.
Speaker 1: So a lot of these niggas. That's another thing that
Speaker 1: bothered me about the mad hatters and the nick Cannons
Speaker 1: of the world is that like you appear and so intelligent.
Speaker 1: And that's another thing about women. Sometimes, like at first
Speaker 1: glance or first conversations, niggas say a lot of big words,
Speaker 1: like they just got out of prison and read the
Speaker 1: whole Webster's Dictionary. But then if you dig a little
Speaker 1: bit further past in the surface, these niggas ain't talking
Speaker 1: about shit. And my biggest pet peeve of all time
Speaker 1: is a niggas saying big words but can't get with
Speaker 1: the common common fact that like balance and equal respect,
Speaker 1: most niggas are always talking about fucking how smart they
Speaker 1: are and remitating and reminiscent of the all types of
Speaker 1: words that nobody knows. But then you just make up
Speaker 1: like a basic basic point of equality with how you
Speaker 1: treat women, and that shit goes right over their head.
Speaker 1: And that's where they lose me. Every time. No shout
Speaker 1: out to doctor Bryan.
Speaker 2: I think she's I think her superpower is she is
Speaker 2: such an amazing listener, and then she's able to listen
Speaker 2: and then dissect.
Speaker 1: And rebuttle and and soft mannered without getting irritated, unlike me,
Speaker 1: because I'll just be like nigga's are dumb, and I'll
Speaker 1: be done talking. But those of you who don't know
Speaker 1: Nick Cannon basically said that him and Mariah Carey were
Speaker 1: doing great. They had no problems at all except that
Speaker 1: she was wildly successful and he felt like he was
Speaker 1: going to be holding her purse for the rest of
Speaker 1: his life and he couldn't handle it. And so now
Speaker 1: he has ten baby mamas, which you know, shout out
Speaker 1: to him and them and twelve kids or whatever. I
Speaker 1: didn't look at the timeline recently, the family tree, but
Speaker 1: that is a huge red flag. If you were in
Speaker 1: a happy relationship, you were content, everything was right, but
Speaker 1: the one sole thing was that your woman was more
Speaker 1: successful than you and you could not handle that. So
Speaker 1: then you went and went to go and pregnate ten
Speaker 1: other bitches who maybe are not not who need you?
Speaker 1: I mean, who's no one's more cares who needs you?
Speaker 1: But also he was I don't wantn't even go that far.
Speaker 1: Maybe these they probably didn't need him, but maybe they
Speaker 1: felt like they did, or they felt like having a
Speaker 1: piece of the pie was better than the whole thing.
Speaker 2: Nick was successful, That's the crazy part. It's not like
Speaker 2: he wasn't successful, you know, like he didn't.
Speaker 1: Oh right right? Like, where'd you get this notion? Because
Speaker 1: because Mariah Carey is a Christmas queen that she is,
Speaker 1: I mean, she's definitely a more successful artist.
Speaker 2: I mean all Christmas, me and she camrare debating about
Speaker 2: how much Mariah Carey makes every holiday.
Speaker 1: She got it? What did you guys get too? I
Speaker 1: would say ten million?
Speaker 2: I said twenty and he was like nah, I was
Speaker 2: like between commercials, between she could probably right private appearances.
Speaker 1: We don't even know she's going to.
Speaker 2: She probably went to Japan and probably went to like
Speaker 2: the fucking like Maldi Hussey Blah blah Blah's birthday party
Speaker 2: to go sing for Christmas for five million dollars, because
Speaker 2: that should happen. So many artists go to these private
Speaker 2: events and get paid like a million dollars just to
Speaker 2: perform four songs. We don't know what there, We have
Speaker 2: no idea about it. So I think a cool twenty
Speaker 2: million every year.
Speaker 1: Plus all the times we play that fucking Christmas song. Allo,
Speaker 1: what for Christmas did she write that?
Speaker 2: I don't know, but Iri with the fucking It's time,
Speaker 2: she fucking wouldn't fucking stop singing that shit.
Speaker 1: Did you hear that? Did you hear? No? Are you
Speaker 1: not doing see that fucking TikTok Instagram? I did? I did?
Speaker 1: And then everything goes Christmas and it all freezes. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, she's the Christmas Queen. She is.
Speaker 3: I love I love me some fucking Mariah Carrey.
Speaker 1: Oh and on more Newer News, it looks like she's
Speaker 1: having some hot cozy time with Anderson Pack in Aspen,
Speaker 1: because why else would he be there? I know?
Speaker 3: And he looks like he did not insecure or like
Speaker 3: Nick Cannon.
Speaker 1: He looks like he's he's about the woman life, not
Speaker 1: like he's not from a parent.
Speaker 2: And he's gonna write her some bomb ass songs. Bitch,
Speaker 2: get your songs up. Okay, we all know Mariah Carey
Speaker 2: got that pen, and so does Anderson Pack them together.
Speaker 2: Actually sounds like a fucking musical match made in heaven.
Speaker 1: I hope that they figure it out. They're going to
Speaker 1: hope they go public, even though it's obviously already public.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, before we go to the next one, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna let this blunt because.
Speaker 1: Wait, can you say I would love to can you
Speaker 1: sage it first? It's very important let me let me
Speaker 1: sage this blunt. This is very important for the next
Speaker 1: for the next update.
Speaker 3: Let me just sage this blunt. You know, we just
Speaker 3: were currently in.
Speaker 1: Capricorn's season, and what I love about Capricorns is just
Speaker 1: their directness. I love how gathered they are. We're also
Speaker 1: in the is it the new moon of Capricorn as well? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think we might be out of that. We probably
Speaker 1: in another sign now, but yes, oh that's sage. Let's
Speaker 1: sage at this blunt. Sage, Sage say, doesn't the moon
Speaker 1: travel through the signs? It'sn't stay and Capricorn the whole time.
Speaker 1: But I feel like, I don't know. We're not astrologists yet.
Speaker 1: I know, shocker, we're not astrologists. But it's awesome. WICHI
Speaker 1: bechies light that up. So, speaking of Sage and our update,
Speaker 1: there's a certain person on the internet podcaster who recently
Speaker 1: made a public announcement that she's not fucking with anybody
Speaker 1: who burns sage or reads horoscopes. And you know this
Speaker 1: was immediately crystals has crystals, even though she also stole
Speaker 1: someone's manifestation book and published it. I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: bitches can't change. You can change your mind. I don't
Speaker 1: care where you flippityflop you're asked too. But I just
Speaker 1: want to be clear. I know there's controversy with religion
Speaker 1: in US, specifically me. Is there controversy? No God made
Speaker 1: sage shop news flash? God made the stars? Oh my god.
Speaker 3: We've been using the stars for centuries, thousands and hundreds
Speaker 3: and thousands of years for information.
Speaker 1: It's basically the only information we were given in the beginning.
Speaker 1: It's the map. The God said, here's the stars as
Speaker 1: a map. Figure it out. Fuck that fuck that. I
Speaker 1: just want to say, for the Jesus lovers, I you
Speaker 1: know I love you, I love all people, but stop
Speaker 1: with the fucking judgment and the fucking extra nenis. It's
Speaker 1: extra plants and also you, guys. Stones also made by God.
Speaker 1: Heus a announcement. Rose Quarts. You know you want that
Speaker 1: marble shit in your fucking bathroom and your kitchen, bitch,
Speaker 1: you're basically worshiping the esoteric by having that shit in
Speaker 1: your kitchen. You want to rose quarts, You want a
Speaker 1: jade countertop, which is like diamonds. They do all right,
Speaker 1: they'll take it. They'll take a rock. I bet you
Speaker 1: if that bitch was getting proposed to with the diamonds
Speaker 1: she put that hand and she's not gonna worship that
Speaker 1: ring please. That was very annoying, mostly because I just
Speaker 1: I do feel like Jesus is an influencer and people
Speaker 1: pick them up and put them down when it's convenient
Speaker 1: for their influences and their numbers. I mean, we've seen
Speaker 1: that time and time again. Anyway, fourth on the list,
Speaker 1: she likes to go okay, So I feel like it's me.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of problems, So this one really
Speaker 1: bothers me. This oneone bothers me. You guys, we've got
Speaker 1: to stop making up wards.
Speaker 2: We've got to stop making up titles to describe periods
Speaker 2: of our life.
Speaker 1: There's a new one, self partnering, self partnering. I recently
Speaker 1: saw this scrolling through my feed aka single, and it
Speaker 1: just means that when you decentered men. That's another one
Speaker 1: I've decentered men, or or my other favorite one, solo Polly,
Speaker 1: which is which is solo POLLI news flash, Let me
Speaker 1: just translate. It just means single single and hoen single
Speaker 1: and dating single and equals solo poly You guys, I
Speaker 1: know the new kids on the block. The millennials are
Speaker 1: just getting so cool and having so many definitions. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, speaking of definitions, I've we've been watching Oh
Speaker 1: my god, shout out to Orna. I fucking love Couple's Therapy.
Speaker 1: If you haven't watched it, fucking blog in especially if
Speaker 1: you have a partner A. Couples Therapy is one of
Speaker 1: my favorite shows since I've been off season. But there
Speaker 1: was a young couple on there, like super young, and
Speaker 1: they're talking about their poly lifestyle and their journey and
Speaker 1: they're using all these like legit like click baity, very
Speaker 1: intelligent words and they know and I'm really proud of
Speaker 1: them for knowing like themselves and being aware. But there
Speaker 1: comes a point where you're just you watch it and
Speaker 1: you're like, you're just young and dumb. It's just it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter how many words you know, this is not
Speaker 1: gonna work. It's you're twenty three. You got a lot
Speaker 1: of more digs and pussies to suck. It's just what
Speaker 1: it is. It's called experience. Like being in couples Therapy
Speaker 1: at twenty two and you're not married is dumb. Oh
Speaker 1: my god.
Speaker 2: I remember when I when I was with Poetry Bay
Speaker 2: and I went to couple's therapy and my therapist was like,
Speaker 2: why are you here?
Speaker 1: And I tried. I tried with all my might to
Speaker 1: be a good friend and not laugh at you. I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you should totally try.
Speaker 3: My therapist literally slid me a note.
Speaker 1: And was like come back next week alone just said
Speaker 1: your note, bitch, yes you see it.
Speaker 2: And then actually know she emailed She texts me, I
Speaker 2: think next week you should come by yourself. And then
Speaker 2: when I came to the session, we had to post
Speaker 2: it of all the ship she wrote down as red
Speaker 2: flags when we were in our session together and was like,
Speaker 2: we have done too much work for you to be
Speaker 2: backsliding like this. And I was like, at that point
Speaker 2: I knew I had found the therapy and stuff my dreams.
Speaker 1: The therapist that we're talking about is one bad managemo, okay,
Speaker 1: shut out deep. She doesn't fuck around. She's gonna tell
Speaker 1: you the truth. And that was one of the truths,
Speaker 1: So you know, like when your friends can't tell you,
Speaker 1: but hopefully the therapist. And when you told me that,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh thank god. Yeah, I was like,
Speaker 1: oh god, thank god. Also, you don't have to do it, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh God, thank god, you know what
Speaker 1: things come from your friends. Everybody's a little bit more touchy,
Speaker 1: but when the therapist tells you, you're Like when she
Speaker 1: told me, I already knew though, because I was going
Speaker 1: in basically to tell her that I'd broken up with him,
Speaker 1: because I had because like, I had broken up with him.
Speaker 1: And he was like on his knees crying in the
Speaker 1: parking lot and just being so dramatic, just being a
Speaker 1: fucking weird cry baby. It was part his He went
Speaker 1: for a walk and I was like, yeah, it's over,
Speaker 1: and he was like, what do you mean we could
Speaker 1: have there's we can make it work.
Speaker 2: And at first he tried to act like he accepted it,
Speaker 2: and then when I was getting in my car to leave,
Speaker 2: like the theatrics broke down. And that was the whole
Speaker 2: problem too, Like he would cry randomly all the time,
Speaker 2: like and I would laugh and that that was like
Speaker 2: a really bad season for me actually because I just
Speaker 2: I really didn't give a fuck about men's feelings at
Speaker 2: that point, so anytime his emotions felt manipulative, which is
Speaker 2: why I think my spirit was laughing and I couldn't
Speaker 2: control myself. But also I was in a heavy season
Speaker 2: of I don't really give a fuck about any man's feelings,
Speaker 2: even if I care about you.
Speaker 1: And you know what I noticed about like this this
Speaker 1: is a particular season of Erica's life. But well, we've
Speaker 1: all been here, and even maybe you're listening and you've
Speaker 1: been here too, And the season I'm talking about is
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of work. I'm super aware and
Speaker 1: I'm smart, but God's gonna throw me one curveball to
Speaker 1: see if I'm gonna go with the fuck shit that
Speaker 1: I've been doing, or if I'm gonna listen to my
Speaker 1: gut and my feeling and just keep it moving. I
Speaker 1: feel like God will always throw you a curveball and
Speaker 1: test you to see if you're gonna go with what's
Speaker 1: low hanging fruit and what's convenient, or if you're gonna
Speaker 1: be patient and waited out for your real niggat. And
Speaker 1: that was one of those times for you.
Speaker 2: Oh no, especially especially when you're doing the work. That's
Speaker 2: when the tests are even more severe.
Speaker 1: And you have to remember that's when the tests are
Speaker 1: even more like, come on, well you know why. It's
Speaker 1: almost like God saying, do you know you did the work?
Speaker 1: Do you trust that you did the work. Are you
Speaker 1: aware you did the work? And a lot of us
Speaker 1: will be like I love him and me together, they're
Speaker 1: gonna go to therapy. Okay, so that.
Speaker 2: Okay, I know we're not done with the list of things,
Speaker 2: but that guides me to the like needing to know
Speaker 2: yourself and me and me. Lib were talking earlier about
Speaker 2: this clip with Summer Walker.
Speaker 1: She has like a new podcast.
Speaker 2: And she had Sera on, and you know, everyone loves
Speaker 2: fucking Sierra's love story.
Speaker 3: It's beautiful, it's amazing. It's when all women dream.
Speaker 1: She's like the mom, like the second chance mom of
Speaker 1: our dream. Like she's beautiful, she has her career, she's
Speaker 1: she's a good mom. He's fine as hell. They're godly.
Speaker 1: Like they're like a little bit sexy, kind of corny,
Speaker 1: just like right in the right, right right, say more
Speaker 1: in the corny, but like we love it. We love it.
Speaker 1: It's like the Black Loves. You know, we would die
Speaker 1: for a sex tape. We're probably never going to get one.
Speaker 1: I don't think I would die for a sex tape.
Speaker 1: I think I would. I would like to see that,
Speaker 1: not die, but I would see I would watch it.
Speaker 1: I would like to see you wrestle. I think we
Speaker 1: might be surprised. I think we might be surprised. Here's
Speaker 1: a scorpio, bitch. I wonder what Russell is? Should we
Speaker 1: look at? Yeah we should, that's very important. What do
Speaker 1: you think he might be a cancer or like a
Speaker 1: pisces or a virgo. I don't know this man at all.
Speaker 1: A pisces may oh, I could see a pisces like
Speaker 1: very okay. Relatives Russell well, I had to look up
Speaker 1: his last night. I can't remember see Russell Wilson sad.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they're fucking they're fucking okay. Oh yeah, they
Speaker 2: get it in.
Speaker 1: That's why she got them kids. He's she's gonna give
Speaker 1: him his I take it back. I would like to see. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I hope it's not leaked. I hope she's just my
Speaker 1: friend one day.
Speaker 2: Even all those dance moves, like she can move her body.
Speaker 1: I see it, Yarah. I know that.
Speaker 3: I know you'd be fucking one two steps.
Speaker 1: And finally, of our updates, because I know you guys
Speaker 1: really care all our opinions, and as the West Coasters,
Speaker 1: we have to mention it. The Drake and Kendrick saga
Speaker 1: that has our I mean, never mind, I'm going to
Speaker 1: say that. That's what I'm gonna say. R Drake, You're
Speaker 1: gonna say something I don't know. I mean, that's pretty dark.
Speaker 1: Actually no, I was just like dark beef. Let's kill
Speaker 1: the nigg first of all. First of all, I love Drake.
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna front I will.
Speaker 2: Brake has got me through sometimes and been the soundtrack
Speaker 2: to some beautiful, fun, sexy, unforgettable experience.
Speaker 1: There are times where I'll hear certain Drake songs because
Speaker 1: he's been only rocking number one hits for a decade,
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, oh my god, I was in college,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was here, this is who I loved,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Luna was born.
Speaker 3: Literally they are a little a Drake soundtrack to my life.
Speaker 1: So I'm not taking away his you know, his music
Speaker 1: making abilities, however, Kendrick killing him.
Speaker 2: He's a lyricist, he's a poet, he has a community.
Speaker 2: That's really what it is comes from something Drake is.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Canada is a large place where I
Speaker 1: don't know, Like l A, you can't know. You just
Speaker 1: can't compare the thing about Drake is though, like even
Speaker 1: though he has some hardcore songs. He's never really he's
Speaker 1: not him.
Speaker 3: He's been storytelling all along, and we had him.
Speaker 1: He's never been saiding like sometimes he tries to put
Speaker 1: you lying in our face, crying and ship all the time.
Speaker 1: He's Emao. We know that he was. He also acts
Speaker 1: like he's a drug dealer and a gang member. He
Speaker 1: showed me the song every song. What are you talking? Yes,
Speaker 1: that's crazy. Never, I can't. I want to believe it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's moving packs. Okay, we've gotten on a tangent. All right.
Speaker 1: I think we need to cleanse our palate. I love. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's do some Let's do some sound bowling and some
Speaker 1: Meala's moans. Never talking shit about everyone and their tactics
Speaker 1: in there, their love stories. It's just a Meala moon.
Speaker 1: Just take a deep breath, then, don't reserve moaning just
Speaker 1: for sex. Do it in your car, Do it when
Speaker 1: you sip some delicious champagne. Do it when you're smoking
Speaker 1: a good blunt with your friend. You're talking too much
Speaker 1: shit and you need to clear that negative energy out.
Speaker 1: Take a deep inhale and release the sound. This is
Speaker 1: getting high and drunk with Melanierica speaking of the esoterics
Speaker 1: and taking breaks. Let's see a little terrible pole. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: it's time, I'll pull one, but you can continue. Oh
Speaker 1: you know what we forgot to do? Forget to do?
Speaker 1: We forgot to introduce the theme of the month.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, you couldn't tell by now.
Speaker 2: The theme of the month, as you can probably tell,
Speaker 2: is no fucks given. It's no fucks given January because
Speaker 2: not of focks to give. If anything that I've learned
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: Four is that I have very little fucks to give,
Speaker 1: and neither should you unless it pertains to you, your
Speaker 1: well being, what you're trying to accomplish, what you're trying
Speaker 1: to embody, pleasure, rest, sex, love, loved ones, loved ones, family, community, Like,
Speaker 1: that's the only thing that I really give a fuck
Speaker 1: at this point. We're living in a really, really crazy world,
Speaker 1: and I know because every day I get anxiety over it.
Speaker 1: But there's so many possibilities. Why not rely and consider
Speaker 1: the ones that matter your own? You know, your immediately,
Speaker 1: your immediate friendships and family. You're a better man, all
Speaker 1: the things that you can actually control. I have to
Speaker 1: tell myself that a lot. What can I control? Give
Speaker 1: fucks about the things that I can control and the
Speaker 1: things that I actually have power over, and that starts
Speaker 1: with your personal pleasure. You have power over that, and
Speaker 1: that energy really does benefit the collective. We underestimate the energetic,
Speaker 1: the energetic weight of just pleasurable, happy, joyous energy that
Speaker 1: contributes to this crazy, weird place that we're existing in.
Speaker 1: It's only created by hate and by the lack of love.
Speaker 1: And so the more we move forward and want to
Speaker 1: be stronger, we have to remember that we have to
Speaker 1: combat that with love. Yeah, and you gotta love yourself.
Speaker 1: So no fucks given, no five who I think no
Speaker 1: folks given too is like not not holding back what
Speaker 1: you what you want to say. I think that like
Speaker 1: we've gotten so used to just holding back and being
Speaker 1: comfortable for people in this society.
Speaker 2: We're so afraid to hurt each other's feelings. Like we
Speaker 2: can't even joke anymore. Really, like it takes the joy
Speaker 2: out of everything.
Speaker 1: We can't even you know, some of the stuff that
Speaker 1: we talked about early on in the podcast, like it
Speaker 1: was questionable, you know, And so I don't know, I
Speaker 1: just feel like no fuck's given, Like I'm liable to
Speaker 1: say anything because I really don't give a fuck. But
Speaker 1: also when you when you operate on that channel, when
Speaker 1: you operate in the channel of always wondering if you're
Speaker 1: offending someone, you start to lose who you actually are.
Speaker 1: You will start to lose who you actually are because
Speaker 1: you're trying to be so politically correct and you're supposed
Speaker 1: to trying to consider everything except the truth, and you
Speaker 1: can change the truth, you could change your feelings, and
Speaker 1: you will say the wrong thing. We've probably said a
Speaker 1: lot of wrong things, and we've said things that we've
Speaker 1: changed and we've lived through, and we did some other shit.
Speaker 1: We were open polly bitches early on, we were hoeing
Speaker 1: it out and now we're all in relationships and you know,
Speaker 1: committed things change and that's okay, and you're going to
Speaker 1: say the wrong thing. But the only way we grow
Speaker 1: from that is like literally having the conversation and saying
Speaker 1: the thing. In friendships and family ships, like we will
Speaker 1: fuck ourselves every time being overly concerned about offending someone.
Speaker 1: Obviously be kind, have finessed, and you know, all those things,
Speaker 1: but in respect. But yeah, I think that's what it is,
Speaker 1: is carried the no fucks given, doesn't lack respect. There's
Speaker 1: still respect involved in even the notion of the no
Speaker 1: fucks given, and it's not an irresponsible no fucks given,
Speaker 1: and actually is the most responsible, the most intentional, the
Speaker 1: most healing, the most bold, the most outrageous, but still
Speaker 1: with intention and like sometimes like there's so much heal.
Speaker 1: Like the reason why we have been able to heal
Speaker 1: certain parts of us has been because of sitting right
Speaker 1: here on this couch and using our throat chakra and
Speaker 1: saying the things, whether it was perfect, imperfect, a lie
Speaker 1: and insecure, already trigger a trauma, whatever it is, was
Speaker 1: said and it will continue to be said. And because
Speaker 1: I know the power in it, I know the healing
Speaker 1: in it, and you know, I just I hope and
Speaker 1: wish for more people to feel confident in sharing and
Speaker 1: saying the truth because it does you nothing to hold
Speaker 1: it in because you don't have the perfect thing to say.
Speaker 1: And I think in no folks giving witch like just
Speaker 1: the same thing. And sometimes no folks given is saying nothing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's not too when you just know you know about that,
Speaker 1: say nothing, say nothing, say nothing.
Speaker 2: If you've said a lot of the thing, it's time
Speaker 2: to give no focks and just say no fos quietly
Speaker 2: exit left with.
Speaker 1: No words, you know, And it's having the discernment to
Speaker 1: understand both. Yeah, it's the boundaries.
Speaker 2: No folks given is also like very much about boundaries
Speaker 2: and respecting what those boundaries mean to you and yourself
Speaker 2: in this next.
Speaker 1: Chapter, you know, twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: People are always putting so much pressure on the New Year,
Speaker 2: And I was thinking about this the other day because
Speaker 2: I didn't like on New Year's I didn't see my man,
Speaker 2: and like I wanted to be like annoyed, but then
Speaker 2: I was like, well, I don't have to see you.
Speaker 2: I saw you yesterday and I had a really beautiful
Speaker 2: date night with you, and now I'm with my family,
Speaker 2: and it's like I could just go to sleep and like, no,
Speaker 2: I'm going to see you the next day. But like,
Speaker 2: something about this feels weird. And then I was like, no,
Speaker 2: it doesn't anymore. It's literally just another day. And I
Speaker 2: was reflecting on what this season means versus like last
Speaker 2: year around this time and last year going into the
Speaker 2: New Year, I felt very like that day on the beach,
Speaker 2: like I felt very relaxed and easeful.
Speaker 1: Like it felt different. This one felt like, oh, it's
Speaker 1: go time. I'm working like like I don't know, it
Speaker 1: just felt not working, but like it felt like a
Speaker 1: different like I was being propelled in a different way.
Speaker 1: I am being propelled in a different way at this
Speaker 1: time in my life three hundred and six, five days apart.
Speaker 1: And I think that's really what it is, is taking
Speaker 1: the mental note and about the time, where were you
Speaker 1: at this time instead of letting life just continue to
Speaker 1: just play out what you're gonna do inevitably. So I
Speaker 1: look at New Year's as like an opportunity to check
Speaker 1: in with that, you know, and like what does that mean?
Speaker 1: Like there's both are great, actually both. I came last
Speaker 1: year New Year's I came in feeling like, wow, I'm
Speaker 1: coming off of like a season of hard work. I
Speaker 1: need rest. Fuck please, I don't want to talk no more.
Speaker 1: I need a break. And now I'm coming into a
Speaker 1: season of like, oh, come on, let's get it and
Speaker 1: like latt lets me know how important the rest is,
Speaker 1: how important it is honoring you know what what everything
Speaker 1: is telling you.
Speaker 2: And there was a no fucks given mentality in that too,
Speaker 2: because I feel like we had been we've been so
Speaker 2: programmed almost to like continue all the time, go go go, go, go,
Speaker 2: go go. That it was hard for us to just say,
Speaker 2: like we're going to are we really going to do this?
Speaker 2: And like there was a lot of there's been a
Speaker 2: lot of important things that are happening even now still
Speaker 2: playing out between us and just in our lives. Because
Speaker 2: we decided to say, no, I need, I need to
Speaker 2: take a second.
Speaker 1: And do you remember even the second it was at
Speaker 1: forced some of it. We had decided that we were
Speaker 1: going to do take like a couple months off in between,
Speaker 1: but we had not. The agreement was not that we
Speaker 1: were not going to record as long as we did it.
Speaker 1: We wanted to still be up in this bitch every
Speaker 1: other month or some crazy shit like that. But what
Speaker 1: happened was our team. Some things started happening within our team.
Speaker 1: People got you know, people weeded themselves out, and it
Speaker 1: was necessary because bitch, how are you taking a break
Speaker 1: but you still have full time employees? That didn't make
Speaker 1: no goddamn sense, did it. But we were just we
Speaker 1: were so used to being on this hamster wheel that
Speaker 1: we continued. But then it's crazy how we committed to
Speaker 1: something unknowingly, Like we said something, but we weren't really
Speaker 1: committed to it, and then the universe literally one one
Speaker 1: person left. The next day, we made a prayer. We're
Speaker 1: like looking at a list of people we had to pay.
Speaker 1: We're like, how are we going to you know, reduce
Speaker 1: our our spending? How are we going to reduce like
Speaker 1: all this money? And I and I looked at the
Speaker 1: list and I said, there's no way. The next day
Speaker 1: someone said, you know, I'm putting in my two weeks
Speaker 1: notice and it was just like okay, God, and then
Speaker 1: we're kind of we're trying to keep going, and then
Speaker 1: there was like okay, and it showed us like that
Speaker 1: sometimes in the.
Speaker 2: Rest surrender we had to we actually had to like
Speaker 2: be submitted almost like you had to be sat, sit
Speaker 2: the fuck down.
Speaker 1: God was like yeah, and you're dead. Uh, And that's true.
Speaker 1: That's so true. Yeah, I'm grateful for the rest and
Speaker 1: I'm ready to come back and I'm ready to do it.
Speaker 1: And I was having anxiety this, you know, about coming
Speaker 1: back and like getting back into it because we were
Speaker 1: going for so long and like, but you know, I
Speaker 1: taking what we learned this year about like sometimes there
Speaker 1: is there is abundance in the rest so much not
Speaker 1: sometimes often always abundance in the rest. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: even to the point of like not even worrying about
Speaker 1: it when niggas coming over, like okay, you know, or
Speaker 1: like if a nigga's Maddy you or like just okay.
Speaker 1: It's like how you feel when you smoke a blunt light. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, you're right. Yeah, because that's how it fell.
Speaker 2: Then I like submitted to it, and I was like,
Speaker 2: this is great, this is fine, you know. And so
Speaker 2: I think that there's an uncomfortableness that comes with even
Speaker 2: the no fucks given for people that's not so easy
Speaker 2: for them to give no fucks.
Speaker 1: Well, because you've been programmed to give so many fucks,
Speaker 1: you know, and especially when you're in a job for
Speaker 1: a long time or whatever, you're doing something, you're in
Speaker 1: a routine, there are so many fucks given, but take them.
Speaker 1: I really encourage you to just take a moment and
Speaker 1: go inside yourself. Just take twenty one breaths and just
Speaker 1: go inside yourself. Give you the closure eyes to hear
Speaker 1: them like whatever is inside, and just sit there and surrender. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: are ready for the next segment? What time is it? Okay?
Speaker 1: So okay, Yes, I'm thinking that it's our first episode back,
Speaker 1: so let's not pay attention to time. Okay, let's not
Speaker 1: take it too long. Okay, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Let's give them what they need. It's been ten months,
Speaker 1: you're right, let's go. Okay. So, speaking of giving no
Speaker 1: fucks and surrendering, I think we need to take a
Speaker 1: moment to kind of just shout out the women who
Speaker 1: have given no fucks and it's worked for them.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, they deserve all the praise, all the glory,
Speaker 2: the trailblazers.
Speaker 1: The trail blazers of women that give no fucks because
Speaker 1: it's women who always give fucks and women who are
Speaker 1: persecuted when they don't. Men, they give no fucks and
Speaker 1: they are celebrated no matter what their boss. They're hardcore,
Speaker 1: they're no fucks and this actually add to their success. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and women are just heartless bitches. Or speaking of that,
Speaker 1: did you guys watch Martha Stewart bitch, a bitch.
Speaker 2: Who didn't give any ship If you haven't watched, if
Speaker 2: you haven't watched it.
Speaker 1: That fucking docu Menna Ree. I love her. She's a psychopath.
Speaker 1: I love her.
Speaker 3: She's a psychopaths.
Speaker 1: I don't think she's a psychopath. I think she's just cold.
Speaker 1: She needs some tntra. We need to sit with her.
Speaker 1: We gotta look, I don't want to be touched. I don't.
Speaker 1: I think she might be too far gone marriage. We
Speaker 1: very more touched her and she said she wasn't with
Speaker 1: this iteration of this life. And she was this is
Speaker 1: all she can do, and it's great. She should like
Speaker 1: she's Yeah, but I think prison. I think prison was
Speaker 1: her tntra. Yeah, perhaps you have to, you have to
Speaker 1: sit down with other people. I can't believe they put
Speaker 1: that white woman in jail. I can. I mean, that's
Speaker 1: how that's how deep it is me she's making that money, honey,
Speaker 1: But that's how deep it is for men that when
Speaker 1: I watched that, there are a couple examples speaking speaking
Speaker 1: of mom shit and just praising the women who have
Speaker 1: historically done it different and set the bar and just
Speaker 1: given no fucks. I didn't mean to say this, but
Speaker 1: Martha Stewart and just thinking about her, Like for me
Speaker 1: as a black woman, when I see white men come
Speaker 1: after white women, I think, oh, they really fucked up.
Speaker 1: You really fucked up. And like Martha Stewart when she
Speaker 1: got that bread and she was, you know, cut throat
Speaker 1: like that. They came for her ass and they put
Speaker 1: that sixty plus year old woman in prison. I even
Speaker 1: when I was a kid and that happened, I did
Speaker 1: not expect that to happen. I would say, I can't
Speaker 1: believe it. Her Britney spears. They pade Britney spears. She
Speaker 1: was enslaved as a successful wife. Okay. I was like,
Speaker 1: was she in prison, prison or she was in her
Speaker 1: home with her dad? Yeah? That was that is prison. No,
Speaker 1: that is person. That's probably worse in prison. That's probably
Speaker 1: They put on her documentary where they gave finally gave
Speaker 1: her the keys and let it drive in a circle
Speaker 1: and she was happy. That's a hamster, poor baby. So
Speaker 1: when you see them do the white women like that,
Speaker 1: just know it's it's the hate for women is real.
Speaker 1: That's why even with Kamala, they're like, Kamala didn't win.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you guys, they didn't let a Hillary's white
Speaker 1: ass win. They hate women, not Yeah, it's it's it's deep.
Speaker 1: It's deeper than just what we think it is. It's
Speaker 1: deeper than race. It's really about that you know, and
Speaker 1: that's why it's important that we that we give no fucks.
Speaker 1: You have to give zero fucks, guys. It's not time
Speaker 1: to give a fuck. It really isn't time. It's the revolution.
Speaker 1: We must rise up. Amen. Let's walk in it, run, run,
Speaker 1: bust down the wall, bitch, you have to This is
Speaker 1: a break. The ceiling doesn't exist. This is a wall.
Speaker 2: This is a war. It's no walking break the ceiling.
Speaker 2: It doesn't exist. It's not time to doubt yourself any longer.
Speaker 2: What do you lose from just believing in yourself?
Speaker 1: Nothing? Just fucking do it and fuck everybody else. Fiercely
Speaker 1: fangs out, spears out. I've been watching way too many
Speaker 1: war movies. God, I've been watching Lioness and I'm like, God,
Speaker 1: this is I wish I could. I watched Lines. I
Speaker 1: watched the fucking snow Piercer. What's that one? I gotta
Speaker 1: watch that. It's ridiculous. A snow piercer that goes around
Speaker 1: the world. I remember Landa telling us about this. When
Speaker 1: the world freezes over because we fucked because we fucked
Speaker 1: up the environment, which is actually probably gonna happen, and
Speaker 1: they try to correct it. The world freezes over. Everybody
Speaker 1: tries to get on this train that never stops. But
Speaker 1: then they put some poor people in the back. They
Speaker 1: try to get to the front. The color are the
Speaker 1: poor people all colors? They just they're just people just
Speaker 1: jumping on the train. But apparently the main character is
Speaker 1: David Deegs, who is a black man. Honestly, I got
Speaker 1: really into it, but it's just a microcosm of the world.
Speaker 1: We so, how many people are on this train? They
Speaker 1: never say six hundred, Yeah, six hundred. It's a thousand
Speaker 1: little colony. It's a thousand and one cars and the
Speaker 1: cars are ten miles long like.
Speaker 2: Its own colony. Oh, this is a great storyline. They
Speaker 2: can just travel from cart car to car.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they take over. They like they are feeding
Speaker 1: them like shit in the back because they go, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a hierarchy. There's a hierarchy because people paid for tickets.
Speaker 1: There's like, oh, I already know how this who show
Speaker 1: there's a night car and it's based on an animated series. Okay,
Speaker 1: say this went ray off that this is very This.
Speaker 2: Is not an ad, by the way, this is m's
Speaker 2: real life recommendations.
Speaker 1: When I'm telling you to pull out your shields and
Speaker 1: your and your swords. I just want you to know
Speaker 1: why where it's coming shields and swords. Wow, it's giving
Speaker 1: walking Dead and I love it. I love these four
Speaker 1: seasons long so it just makes you walk. It got
Speaker 1: weird and I stopped watching. It needs too many seasons.
Speaker 1: I need a new one, a thriller horror like long
Speaker 1: running from the show from from Yep. Because I'm still
Speaker 1: in it. How many seasons is it? Okay? I like
Speaker 1: that so that I really like get into it. I
Speaker 1: feel like shows should only really be three seasons. So
Speaker 1: what kind of horror is it? Because that's specific? It's
Speaker 1: is it like, is it like psychlesch like it's all
Speaker 1: of it thriller? It's it's it's like it's a little
Speaker 1: bit gory. It's a little bit it's a psychological thriller.
Speaker 1: It's like it's mystery, it's spiritual, like what's going it's portal?
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, sorry, obviously this is what we've been
Speaker 1: doing in our time off me. I don't watch The
Speaker 1: other day, was like, I don't watch TV. What the fuck?
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, you do, you watched? No, I
Speaker 2: barely watch television. I'm like that is a fucking lie
Speaker 2: because you're always telling me about all the shows. You
Speaker 2: know why I always have a show. Do you know
Speaker 2: why I don't watch television?
Speaker 1: Because once I start, my nosey as gets invested and
Speaker 1: I have to see it through. So you do watch television,
Speaker 1: So I avoid because I don't want to get involved.
Speaker 1: I think you're doing a bad job. I know you're avoiding.
Speaker 1: Isn't working? Speaking of women going their own way, there's
Speaker 1: been a I just found out there's a group of
Speaker 1: men called Men going their Own Way. I had to
Speaker 1: google it. Apparently this wasn't going on since the twenty seventeens,
Speaker 1: because I also googled it and there were Reddit accounts
Speaker 1: talking about this shit then. So the short is MGTOW.
Speaker 1: Nobody ever heard of it, but it's called an anti feminist, misogynistic,
Speaker 1: mostly online community that espouses male separatism for what they
Speaker 1: see as a guynocentric society that has been corrupted by feminism.
Speaker 1: Specifically advocate for men to avoid marriage and committed romantic
Speaker 1: relationships with women, which to me just sounds like gay.
Speaker 1: The community is part of a Man's Sphere, a collection
Speaker 1: of anti feminist websites and online communities that also include
Speaker 1: the men's rights movement. The men's rights movement, that's crazyest
Speaker 1: saying that's a crazy statement. It's like crazy. Actually, my
Speaker 1: insides are yes. The ideology emerged in the early two thousands.
Speaker 1: It's straight men being homosexual. It's very confusing. Anyway, we're
Speaker 1: gonna start our own it's called women going their own way.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we started it, but whatever. So
Speaker 1: Number one on women going their own way Cardi B.
Speaker 1: Good old Cardi B. I fucking love Cardi B. I
Speaker 1: have loved Cardi B since love and hip hop. Hold on,
Speaker 1: let's just take a moment. Let's take a moment for
Speaker 1: legendary hose mmm, legendary hoes and mothers, for those that
Speaker 1: have shamed and prosecuted, been prosecuted, and have risen from
Speaker 1: the dust of social norms, transmuting judgment and jealousy into
Speaker 1: triumph and transition. Gratitude and thanks to those before us
Speaker 1: standing in the cause despite the ridicule and the resistance.
Speaker 1: Eric and I good moms stand with you, with you.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Cardi.
Speaker 2: BAT are you and you are we for cheating back?
Speaker 1: You cheated back. I'm a cheater. Well, I was.
Speaker 3: I've been a cheaterbacker. I'm a cheaterbacker. Yeah, oh yeah,
Speaker 3: oh yeah, don't you fucking test her.
Speaker 1: I'm spiteful, i am. I'm not proud of it, but
Speaker 1: I'm a cheaterbacker. Yep. Yeah. There's never been a time
Speaker 1: I've been cheated on where I didn't cheat back. Really
Speaker 1: never really? Oh don't she like you can't cheat on me?
Speaker 1: I feel like there's ways I could if I got
Speaker 1: to be best friend. What would you do?
Speaker 3: You cheat her back for me? Are you gonnacheater back
Speaker 3: for me?
Speaker 1: Cheater backery? O? What I got? People cheat her back
Speaker 1: your friends? That's what's That's like a really I think
Speaker 1: under talked thing. I think people don't realize how much
Speaker 1: people and cheater talk there. I'm not a Monoga cheater
Speaker 1: back with their friends. I mean, I wasn't saying I'm
Speaker 1: not a Monoga's best friender, but maybe I would, baby,
Speaker 1: maybe like who the fuck is that bitch? Especially if
Speaker 1: I don't like her. I'm don't gonna ask questions. Do
Speaker 1: you where'd you meet? When Erica listens to me all
Speaker 1: the time, Oh, you've been hanging out interesting, like Erica,
Speaker 1: you've been in your house for three weeks. Yep, why
Speaker 1: are you.
Speaker 3: Going out and come over?
Speaker 1: You can party right here in my living room. Then
Speaker 1: she's lying, come over and she's like, what time are
Speaker 1: you leaving? You got here late. I'm so tired. I
Speaker 1: don't really want company, but I did. Why did you
Speaker 1: over to o'clock? You're here at nine? I plan to
Speaker 1: be jealous and being in the house up on the hill,
Speaker 1: I can't you got you gotta pick one. You know,
Speaker 1: you know what it is. I need a personal driver.
Speaker 1: I realized that that's the problem is I need a
Speaker 1: personal driver. And everything would be fine because I could
Speaker 1: sleep on the way there. I could like drink my
Speaker 1: coffee when I right when I get out, I know
Speaker 1: that he's there if I need to leave and like
Speaker 1: charge my social battery, like everything, that would be ideal. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's one. We'll get him. Is there fire station right here?
Speaker 1: I am perhaps? Yeah? I think? Actually, yeah, what was
Speaker 1: I saying? You need a personal driver? I need a
Speaker 1: But also we got so off topic because we're supposed
Speaker 1: to be giving taking moments time. Sorry, okay, here, champagne case,
Speaker 1: we're not tipsy and high enough. Okay, Anyway, we said
Speaker 1: CARDI b because I know you guys have followed this,
Speaker 1: Cardi B and Offset Saga and she there was the tweet,
Speaker 1: the infamous tweet this year. I don't know exactly what
Speaker 1: it said. Basically, Offset said she was freaking down, babe,
Speaker 1: break pregnant, let them know, and she retweeted and did.
Speaker 1: And when I saw that tweet, I said, she did.
Speaker 1: CARDI don't give a fuck. Cartie, just be happy. She's
Speaker 1: she's such a libra. She's like loves like girly things, aesthetics.
Speaker 1: She'd be just out here living her best life. She's
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just I love her. I do.
Speaker 1: And I wasn't mad at that tweet. I saw lots
Speaker 1: of controversy about why wait, wait, she fuct she was pregnant,
Speaker 1: it's her pussy, what the hell? And this nigga probably
Speaker 1: been fucking while she was pregnant. I know, I don't
Speaker 1: really think that's the ultimate sin. I'm sorry, No, it
Speaker 1: can't be. It can't be like just because I'm pregnant,
Speaker 1: supposed to die while you're out here fucking fucking bitches
Speaker 1: in my face. Guess what bitches get?
Speaker 3: Guess what I still need pleasure?
Speaker 1: Guess what pregnant pussies highly. I couldn't help it. I'm
Speaker 1: pregnant pussy. Do you want me to say all? You
Speaker 1: have this in one text? You know I'm sexier when
Speaker 1: I'm pregnant. What the fuck you want me to do?
Speaker 1: You know? I you know my my numbers go up
Speaker 1: when I'm pregnant. You see the low is extra. I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure pregnant pussy is like five on porn searches.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. I don't know the math on it,
Speaker 1: but it's top ten.
Speaker 2: I would imagine that pregnant pussy is top tier period
Speaker 2: like that would be my assumption, just because it is
Speaker 2: life bearing, it is preparing for life.
Speaker 3: It is juicy, it is moist, it's naughty.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's preparing. That's all I'm gonna say, Brandon, when
Speaker 1: I read and did honestly, I'm want to be judged
Speaker 1: by for that, but I don't care. No, I'm for
Speaker 1: the bitches said I cheat back. I think Cardi did
Speaker 1: the right thing. I think she does whatever, she could do,
Speaker 1: whatever the fuck she wanted. She's richer than him, She's fine.
Speaker 1: That was the thing too.
Speaker 2: I'm like, girl, you got people forget because they just
Speaker 2: look at her as a woman that she's actually the prize.
Speaker 2: I mean period, but I also mean just like financially
Speaker 2: yes too, like she can. She's good child Latin America.
Speaker 1: Check. I wonder if she's I wonder if any she
Speaker 1: lost any sponsors by tweeting and did no. No, I'm
Speaker 1: actually if I was a brand, I would I would
Speaker 1: get her on. Yeah. Yeah, shout out to Cardi B.
Speaker 1: We love you, we do. We love you at Good Moms. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we remember when we were in Cabo. We're trying to
Speaker 1: meet Cardi B. Oh yeah, why didn't we That's the
Speaker 1: one time our manifestation didn't work. We weren't yet. I
Speaker 1: was I kind of knew it wasn't gonna work. Well,
Speaker 1: they were performing, right, yeah, we're like, we're gonna meet her.
Speaker 1: That would have been the time, though, because she wasn't
Speaker 1: super rich yet. I don't think she was there. I
Speaker 1: think it was like a one off, like they just
Speaker 1: flew there. Yeah no, I'm I think we were looking
Speaker 1: at her stories and she was there. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but hey, Carti, we're looking for you, Cardi. We saw
Speaker 1: your tweet. Okay. Number two on women going their own way,
Speaker 1: we have doctor Joy Bryant we talked about her earlier,
Speaker 1: but shout out to her, Yeah, she's fine, she's smart, and.
Speaker 2: They're always men are always, and women too, are so
Speaker 2: quick to shame and judge a woman who is not
Speaker 2: married or does not have a child.
Speaker 1: Well they because I think cam Newton named the episode
Speaker 1: something really kind of disrespectful like single, forty and single
Speaker 1: or something like that. Ah, and that's why she kind
Speaker 1: of like after that, like kind of was like fuck them,
Speaker 1: which you know, we've had that experience in niggas, you know,
Speaker 1: making the title of a show that we've come on
Speaker 1: very click baity and shit like that. I'm probably guilty
Speaker 1: of it too, But shout out to her for maintaining
Speaker 1: her composure and her patients and her real niggadness by
Speaker 1: saying like, yeah, I am and I'm waiting because you're
Speaker 1: not going to get this for no bullshit and obviously
Speaker 1: niggas want that right. Her dms are probably flooded. Do
Speaker 1: you think she's a lesbian? H I hope so, me too.
Speaker 1: Also call us lesbians don't want fake lesbians, they want
Speaker 1: real lesbians. She may be a fake lesbian like lesbians
Speaker 1: or I'm a real lesbian from the years of twenty.
Speaker 3: I just like, I feel like lesbians don't like to
Speaker 3: be fucked around with.
Speaker 1: They're like lesbians actually hate bidy. Yeah, they don't like
Speaker 1: bisexual people. I know. I've been shamed also by lesbian
Speaker 1: community as a former lesbian, as a former bisexual.
Speaker 2: But so then you that's why you commit fully to
Speaker 2: the lesbian side.
Speaker 1: Do you identify as bisexual or I just want to
Speaker 1: if you've eaten pussy consecutively over a couple of years, time,
Speaker 1: you'd like pussy. I can't say I tried it, I
Speaker 1: did it for a long.
Speaker 3: Do you dream of pussy? I honestly I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't have like lesbian urge in this.
Speaker 1: I like dick a lot, a whole lot. So maybe
Speaker 1: if I'm like, I'm probably less by fun than you.
Speaker 1: I also feel like my lesbian stage was a safety thing.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. It felt safer for me. That makes sense.
Speaker 1: That's why I've been really healed out of being a lesbian.
Speaker 1: Got it perfect? If you want to say the next one, oh, yes,
Speaker 1: my favorite. Oh this is the Queen and the Queen,
Speaker 1: Goddess Mother, the equalizer Eric, I'll praise the Queen Erica.
Speaker 1: One day you will be on my show, Erica. It's
Speaker 1: true too, Erica is sitting here with Erica. I went
Speaker 1: to her show once and she was like doing a
Speaker 1: free cell rap and she was like talking about her
Speaker 1: rapper baby daddies and I was like, yes, and they're
Speaker 1: all cool. Yeah, she has somehow been able to well.
Speaker 2: I think she's had her I think she's definitely been
Speaker 2: shamed and disrespected.
Speaker 1: But I think I wonder I want to know her
Speaker 1: stories on that because I could never imagine anyone disrespect
Speaker 1: a woman. I know, I know she's a woman. Of
Speaker 1: course she has period period. Couldn't wait to disrespect eric
Speaker 1: about but even still, she has always risen to the
Speaker 1: occasion and been a light of wisdom and just the energy,
Speaker 1: the frequency is just it just feels divine. So it
Speaker 1: is divine. It's divine goddess. Yeah, she's the last one
Speaker 1: because she's the most important. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3: Is it time to read the Kataro of the day.
Speaker 1: I think it is is ter time. So I was
Speaker 1: shoved and I was trying to get you to I
Speaker 1: was trying to get you to cool, but this one
Speaker 1: fell out. So here we are. Are you ready? The
Speaker 1: first card of the year, the first card of Our
Speaker 1: Good Mom's season two. And it looks like it's gonna
Speaker 1: be on fucking point because it's the Queen of Swords.
Speaker 1: And if you can see, she's sitting on her throne
Speaker 1: on a beautiful day on it's gold. There's a man
Speaker 1: in the chair. It's gold. There's a man in the chair.
Speaker 1: She has her sword raised up because she also watched
Speaker 1: snow Piercer. Just doesn't look like she's sucking around. Let
Speaker 1: me see. Shout out to Mahogany Taro, the black cards
Speaker 1: that would be always pull from little black baby chair
Speaker 1: up in the seat. Hmm okay. The Queen's Swords combines
Speaker 1: the mental clarity and intellectual power of the Suit of
Speaker 1: the Swords and the maturity and receptiveness receptiveness of the Queen.
Speaker 1: You have the gift of being able to use your
Speaker 1: intellect and unbiased judgment while also remaining flexible and open
Speaker 1: to receive input from other sources. As you lead from
Speaker 1: the head and not the heart, you are better able
Speaker 1: to discern situations without the influence of emotion or sentimentality.
Speaker 1: You may believe that empathy or compassion towards others will
Speaker 1: distract you from the task at hand. Instead, you prefer
Speaker 1: to know the how, why, where, and when of who
Speaker 1: or everything to help you make sense of your environment
Speaker 1: and better understand others. It is not that you do
Speaker 1: not care about others, but you connect with other people
Speaker 1: through an intellectual understanding rather than the emotional one. You
Speaker 1: are a truth seeker. You're open to hearing the thoughts
Speaker 1: and opinions of others, but ultimately you filter that information
Speaker 1: to decipher what is true and what is not. It
Speaker 1: is no fluximent and I'm gonna tell the truth sounds
Speaker 1: like zero fucks were given. When interacting with others, you
Speaker 1: will not tolerate mistruths or excessive fluff. You prefer to
Speaker 1: get to the heart of the matter without engaging in
Speaker 1: too much chit chat or gossip. It's crazy when this
Speaker 1: should be so appointed. Hello God, the Queen of Sword
Speaker 1: suggests that you have an innate ability to tell it
Speaker 1: like it is. Congratulations you telling it like it is
Speaker 1: like the Queen of Swords has gotten you this far.
Speaker 1: There is no beating around the bush or softening of
Speaker 1: your comments, opinions, and thoughts. You are upfront and honest
Speaker 1: in your views. And you expect the same from others.
Speaker 1: For this reason, many people respect your opinion and come
Speaker 1: to you for advice when they need healthy clarity. Thank
Speaker 1: you for coming. Click the link in our bio if
Speaker 1: you need advice. The card said it, not us, you
Speaker 1: saw it fall out rewind Wow, my love. Well that
Speaker 1: is magic again in motion. Wow Queen of Swords. Hmm.
Speaker 1: I love when the universe confirms you're exactly where you're
Speaker 1: supposed to be, getting the messages and listening to the truths.
Speaker 1: So what's the affirmation of the day. I know I
Speaker 1: wrote one down, but we can really improvise it. Okay,
Speaker 1: what did you say? Move in love and with no
Speaker 1: fucks given? Yeah, move in love with no fucks given,
Speaker 1: because you can do both. Yeah.
Speaker 2: It's not asking you to be a cold hearted rich
Speaker 2: although you might have to be a lot.
Speaker 1: But you know what I do feel though, you have
Speaker 1: to learn to move with love with yourself. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's so important. We offer so much kindness and
Speaker 1: gentleness and compassion and flexibility with other people, and sometimes
Speaker 1: like we're so hard on ourselves, and I realize the
Speaker 1: pay patience I have with that, Like, maybe it's the
Speaker 1: patience I have with other people is the patience I
Speaker 1: have with myself. And so if you're not you know,
Speaker 1: like giving it inwardly, it's it doesn't come out outwardly.
Speaker 1: So remember that mother yourself. Be kind and gentle and
Speaker 1: compassionate with yourself. But yeah, sometimes you are going to
Speaker 1: be cut throat. Yeah, I mean, I think it's important
Speaker 1: to find the balance. So I think that's I think
Speaker 1: that's the best way to be. I think that love
Speaker 1: you can never go along with the love. But I
Speaker 1: think the no fucks given people have the most time
Speaker 1: hard time with. When you really know yourself and you
Speaker 1: know you're a good person and you're still and you're
Speaker 1: saying I'm not gonna allow this to be any longer
Speaker 1: or that part of me is dead, then you know,
Speaker 1: like that's a hard boundary for people, and people will say,
Speaker 1: you don't really give a fuck about me. But when
Speaker 1: you really know yourself, know your.
Speaker 2: Heart, know that you do give a fuck about this person,
Speaker 2: then there really is I don't know that there's so
Speaker 2: much freedom in that. So really knowing yourself, like you said,
Speaker 2: is so important, knowing your heart and if you feel
Speaker 2: like you can be a better person and a better
Speaker 2: version of that, then improve those things, you know, don't
Speaker 2: avoid those parts of yourself. You can change, you can
Speaker 2: be better, you can be kinder. So yeah, that's mush Bille.
Speaker 1: We love it. Ha. We got we didn't get deep
Speaker 1: and high and you did well anyway, you guys. I
Speaker 1: think that that concludes our first episode back. It does. Well.
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