WEBVTT - Ep89: Sub vs Dom Feat Keke & Mistress Unknown 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:07.720 Hey, guys, welcome to Yeah, another motherfucking episode of horrible Decisions. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:10.560 Did your girl Mandy b a k A full Core 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:13.600 Pumps a k A dad Bitch a k A the 0:00:13.600 --> 0:00:17.520 Booty Bandit? Apparently I'm the fucking booty Warrior. Y'all motherfucker's 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:19.680 want to give me all the goddamn booty titles in 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.800 the world. Um, but I am joined today with a 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.680 very special co host. Um. As you guys know, it's 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:29.000 now getting holiday season. UM, me and Wheezy are traveling 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:30.680 a lot. We have a lot going on with work. 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.080 So because of scheduled conflict, you only got me today. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.159 But it's not really only me because I brought a 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:48.320 special co host who was previously on our show. Kid alrighty, Hi, 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:51.519 this is Kiki once again. UM. As you know, I 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:55.080 have a podcast, It's Kinks with Kiki, where I discuss, 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:58.000 you know, freak shit every week. Alright, freaks every week 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:01.160 every week. Freak ship every week is actually a good 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:02.880 thing to live by, Yes it is. It should be 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:07.520 a mother completely um and so I'm excited to have 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:10.600 her on this episode today, our lovely guest. I'm gonna 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:12.320 let her eat these main goes real quick before I 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:17.640 put all but our episode this week is super exciting 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.720 for any of you listening, UM, specifically to the ladies, 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:23.399 but also to the men. We want to talk to you. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:29.440 This is a sub versus dome episode, So you guys. 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:31.920 When K was on the show, she was a super 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:37.400 submissive UM. She shared a ton of um interesting stories. 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:39.840 She had to ask UM if she could turn the 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:43.360 light on when she entered. There was toilet drinking, there 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:48.720 was looking, there was fine bottles and assholes. There was 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:54.600 there was a lot of things going on. And I'm 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:57.000 super excited because I've been trying to get our guests 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:59.480 on this show for a very long time. Um. She 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.240 goes by the name of God is Unk, but she 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:06.720 is a beautiful black woman who is a true dumb 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:10.560 in every of the matter. So we're gonna go ahead. 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:13.360 Do you want to introduce yourself while you're looking sexy 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:15.679 as hell? But the man goes eave y'all know to 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:23.720 pust the smell goody good, introduce yourself. Mistress Unknown a 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:27.040 k a on Instagram because you know they banned me, 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:35.320 So now I'm God is you and K's got his own, 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:39.600 So Mistress Unknown, and what are you you really you 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.080 known for it? Though you're not unknown? What are you known? 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:46.639 Um for doing it? Showcasing on your Instagram everything. That's 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:50.760 why I keep getting banned, trying to find a home. 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:55.160 I'm trying to find a social media home where i 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:58.480 can put my stuff on because I'm an exhibitionist. I 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:02.200 love it. So I liked a show. I like to 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:06.160 like all eyes on me. And the reason why, um, 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:09.480 you know, unknown, is because I just wanted to protect 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.840 my At first, I'm going to protect my identity. I 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:17.520 didn't want my family and vanilla friends to know what 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:22.959 I was doing, so, you know, tucked away your alter ego. Essentially, 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.960 you know, essentially I was living. I was living two 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:31.720 lives until I was Instagram. No yes, Instagram exposed me. 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:38.480 It exposed me to my aunt who's a pastor, and 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:42.000 I didn't want her to know. And when she came 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.360 to me and she told me, she was like, I 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:47.360 don't want you to be Mistress Unknown. I've seen your website, 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:51.280 I've seen your Instagram. She's like, I've seen everything. If 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:53.640 God wanted you to have a penis, he would have 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:57.040 gave it to you. So you ain't know where this 0:03:57.120 --> 0:04:03.520 is going. So with with both of you sitting across 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:05.640 from me. The icebreaker for this episode, I want to 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:08.840 do UM kind of a again, a sub versus dum 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:12.840 with terminology um. And you actually just said one again 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:16.040 for the new listeners that may not know what is vanilla? 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.400 You called and you're not talking about the white people, 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:22.400 So what is what is vanilla? When you when you 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:27.160 referenced someone as vanilla, Well, vanilla is basically anyone outside 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:29.960 of king just like people in the military they say civilians, 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:37.560 is anyone that's not within the community, you know, police. Obviously, 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.440 I was like, you know, so that's vanilla, and you 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.719 know vanilla is you know that playing playing ice cream? 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:46.800 So yeah, so I'm like, you know, you're y'all a 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.480 normal people, y'all, y'all, y'all be about his life. That's 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:56.080 what she's definitely not about this. Another term um switch. 0:04:56.480 --> 0:05:00.320 If someone references themselves as a switch, a switch is 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:03.280 a person who may be in a particular role as 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:06.400 a dom or a sub, but sometimes every now and 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.680 then they'll like to switch over to the opposite role. 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.799 So a doub will a dom will become a sub 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:13.680 and a sub will become a dom, which I think 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:18.640 that's me and realized for me. So I love playing 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:22.839 the dom role, which is why I've I got my 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:27.240 dick in my cloth that um and so I have 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.560 played where you know, I've been dominant to a man. 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:31.880 But I also do from time to time like a 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:33.839 man to choke me and like to feel at their 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.960 wills sometimes exactly let me interrupt you as I'm eating 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:42.120 my main goes, Okay, when we get started, I do smack. 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:44.839 So if you're a person who was you know hard 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:48.120 with you know, hearing people smacking this episode, you're gonna 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:51.520 deal with that doesn't deal with it, okay. And secondly, 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.520 is a lot of times women feel that if they 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.880 want to get smacked or like you know, choked there 0:05:57.920 --> 0:05:59.960 and sex and they're submissive, it could be you just 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:06.120 like of sex. That's how I came into this, that 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.880 would be ready because I'm somewhat of um. I just 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:11.920 felt like, you know, actually, this past month I kind 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:16.119 of came to the realization that I am a sado massacust. Okay, Okay, 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:22.159 a sado massacust is someone who is a sadist and 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:26.719 also a massacust. But I'm writing yes, like like some 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:30.400 people say this, like to inflict pain and okay pain 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:33.479 and so like that can be. And I realized that 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:36.240 I have like a sado massachism side, but only with 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.320 sex period, absolutely outside of it. If you're like, oh, 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:42.400 let me spain, let me do this, nah, but if 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:47.240 we haven't said like, I want to like like, I'm 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:52.919 very primal, primal, physical, animalistic. So when I'm having sex, 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:56.240 I want you to like, I want like we're ravishing 0:06:56.279 --> 0:07:00.960 each other like that's my know, that's how I am. 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:02.880 So I'm thinking just because I want to be choked 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:08.400 out in sects that I'm submissive, But that's not really submissive, 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:14.520 says But it's not even about being a say this, 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:17.960 um you know mass metal, just that you know, just 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.360 what I kind of came to. The real relation doesn't 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:21.480 make sense. At the end of the day, this is 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.440 all a journey for each and every one of us. 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:26.720 I'm on a journey going through this year. On your journey, 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:29.960 I am still Look. I remember when you was like, yeah, 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:35.400 on my bucket list, I want to get money, money, 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:40.160 and now that's that's there. It's just all there there 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:43.000 and here to stay. I'm trying to you know, I'm 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.480 trying to get more people to get out here and 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.800 pay UM. So I'm gonna go ahead and do one 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:55.040 more before we get into our vanilla ships. This is 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:59.640 something that I believe. Actually, Oh, here's one negotiation. Do 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:04.240 you all know what that means? The most important thing 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:07.520 about So that's what I want to discuss because our 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:11.000 last guests, UM or one of our last guests, UM 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.800 was he came on. He was the fake sugar daddy, y'all, 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:16.440 and we realized that he wasn't a sugar daddy. But 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:19.400 one of the things that he mentioned, UM, is that 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.320 if you walked in on him having sex, you would 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:25.360 probably assume it's a rape. This is what he said 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.960 in the episode, UM. And then we were like WHOA, 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:30.160 Like you do you let them know it's gonna be 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.360 this rough before then? And he was like no, UM, 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.840 do you guys want to kind of talk about what 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:43.120 negotiation is in this BDS some sense? That's what I'm thinking, Like, 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.679 like a negotiation on my side is well, purposely, I say, 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:49.520 it's kind of like a finesse thing, like where a 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:54.400 sub will definitely negotiate their way out of being punished 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:56.880 or having to go to bed. Because I was a 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.080 bit of a bread as a submissive. So it's like 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:01.600 I would negotiate little things like he's like you need 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:03.960 to go to bed at ten, and I'm like, no, 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.800 let's neg I'll do something like all finess. It'll do 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:08.400 some ship and just figure out a way to get 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:11.760 it pushed, like an hour or two hours. That's negotiation 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:17.960 for a dumb well, I would say negotiation slash vetting. 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.880 That's okay. That's the time when you say, this is 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.280 what I'm not doing right, this is what I'm doing. 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:26.560 This is what you give your hard one. This is 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:29.400 what you say, how soon do you give those immediately? 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.760 That's what I think that. I think that a lot 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:37.439 of women feel this insecurity to kind of before they 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:39.920 have sex with a man, say how they like it, 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.439 what they expect. You have to because women are so 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:47.080 used to pleasing a man. If we don't get pleased, 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:48.920 we will get a man's ego and black, oh yeah, 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:51.800 you was good knowing this motherfucker ain't nothing, And then 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:53.280 you'll be like, damn, I wish I would have told 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:54.960 him he ain't know what the fun he was doing. 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.360 So you have to help people what you like, what 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.840 you want, what you want it out and lose even 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:04.960 as when I do it, I'll do like, you know, 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:08.640 what are your interests? What are your hard limits? How 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:12.320 long you've been doing this? Right? Plade? How come you 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:14.920 didn't play between? And do you have any do you 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.760 take any medications? Type of medications do you take? Do 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:20.160 you have any? You know the thing that hinders your 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:22.920 movement is it because you have an old sports injury 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:27.400 you have to find And I think that for for 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:30.000 most of us women, UM, not me, because y'all know 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:31.920 I'll be straight asking the nigga can I've been him over? 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:36.880 But what ladies don't feel like you're more of a 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:40.480 hoe or damn, I'm starting to sex talk to really 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:42.880 like a lot of women will feel like damn, now 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.160 he's gonna judge me. But in the same sense, you 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:47.800 do have to look out like, bitch, is your pussy 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.600 walls worth getting slammed by name man? Please you anyways, 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.840 just because you may not know if you guys like 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:55.600 the same things in the back room. So we're gonna 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.360 we're gonna make it a little light now for y'all. 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:02.040 Go Vanilla ship, y'all and vanilla ship. Um it's actually uh, 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:04.440 I saw it. I thought of Rory Shout out Rory 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.160 from the Joe Budding podcast. But a woman who has 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:10.440 had sex with twenty ghosts is now engaged to a spirit, 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:20.480 so she is like Europe. Sorry to white listeners, Um, 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:24.920 she definitely is. She and I wanted to explain this. 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:28.480 So basically, she's from London. She found this spirit while 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:32.760 she was visiting Australia. Um. She has had sex with 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:37.120 previous um ghosts before. And she said in terms of 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.920 getting proposed to in now celebrating their nine month relationship, 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.600 she said that there was no going down on one knee. 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.680 He doesn't have knees. For the first time I heard 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.920 him speak, I could actually hear his voice. It was beautiful, deep, 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:56.079 sexy and real. By the way, guys, she's thirty years old. UM. 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.199 And she met him again while she was in Australia. 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.840 She said, I did not I had not had a 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:04.400 phantom fling for a while. So if you're into ghost 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:06.240 or you've had sex with a ghost, it's called a 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:10.960 phantom fling. And as I was away on business, starting 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:13.319 a new relationship was the last thing on my mind. 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:15.840 Then one day while I was walking through the bush, 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:20.000 definitely white, because who's walking through bushes, was enjoying nature. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:23.559 I suddenly felt this incredible energy. A new love had arrived. 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:26.720 Um I wanted to talk about this. I didn't know 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.040 if you guys had ever heard of sex with ghost 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:33.400 or sex with a ghost. My fingers, he had sex. 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:37.400 He had sex with a lot of people. Though I 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:43.480 watched that documentary problem every clip there's a new kid 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:48.720 that's going always pretty much. Um But I mean, I 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.440 don't know, I said it before. I'm not into spirits 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.040 or ghosts or any of that like witchcrash shit. Not 0:12:54.120 --> 0:12:57.440 only that, UMU that I mean, I do feel like 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:01.560 my fingers get possessed something because these figures gonna be 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:09.280 having that same energy. Like but that's another thing. Um So, 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:10.800 the kink of the week this week, we're gonna go 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.640 ahead and move into that. Every week we do a kink. 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:17.800 Um Kiki knows this because she is kink switt kink. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.679 But basically we talked about a kink trying to um 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:25.520 not only normalize these things that a lot of people 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:28.360 are turned on by or maybe into, but also just 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:30.480 to start the conversation, just to see if maybe your 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.120 partner or your friends would ever do it. Um So, 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:35.800 this specific one is because I saw it on your page. 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.160 We've never had anyone do it, so I'm gonna ask 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:41.880 the funk out of you. Um, it's called cigarette ashing 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:46.960 or human furniture. So I bring up the cigarette ashing. 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:49.480 You may have heard us speak of this and human 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:55.360 look see human furnishing now, Bright, it's astray on automit. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:59.600 Even though all of my ash trays are candle holders sore, 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:01.959 not real ash trays. But I brought this up because 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.440 on your page you do have a photo of you 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:09.280 asking a cigarette onto the tongue of one of your subs. Um. Now, 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.200 I wanted to know what you know about this kink 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.040 if you can explain it to our listeners and how 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.559 they ask you for this, So just say I'm a 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:22.120 human ash tray like that. The thing about it is 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:27.200 you have to understand vanilla people don't talk about ship Agreed, 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:33.320 That's why y'all so so with your sexuality, agree and kink. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.600 You know you have to talk, and you come across 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:39.320 someone who knows how to vet you, you're gonna learn 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.720 how You're gonna have to communicate with someone. So you 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:45.040 have to say, I'm You're gonna ask what are your interests? 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:48.280 That's when you say, oh, human ash tray or yeah, 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:50.680 I really like it when you like ash the tongues 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:52.600 and then I ask, okay, well, have you ever had 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.440 it but put out on your tongue or just the 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.960 ash on your tongue, because that's different. The but put 0:14:58.000 --> 0:14:59.640 out on your tongue is now I'm taking that hot, 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:04.040 I'm or do you just want the ash and swallowing 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:14.640 in it? Swallow, swallowing sallow. We got that bird. So yeah, 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.320 So that's the thing you you find out Once they 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:20.280 tell you that, that's when you okay and you start 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.080 to vet them and ask them questions because you want 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:23.560 to try to get a makeup of how you're going 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:26.000 to play with them. I can't just come and and 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.240 then just take a cigarette and put it out or 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.680 a blunt or a cigar out on your tongue and 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:34.840 you be like, whoa, that's what we didn't talk about this. 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:39.280 What other furniture pieces outside of ash train are you 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:42.320 familiar with? Guys asking to be or girls in your 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:45.440 in your carpets, human carpet. They want to be walked 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:50.640 overman table, so table like sitting, not sitting a cup 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:53.200 on your ass, but like he had his whole dinner 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:57.600 on your back. Yeah, a tray and you can eat 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:02.800 or hold your glass or you're gonna be How long 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:07.800 are you those furniture pieces? You to be? How long 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:11.320 I want you to be? Yeah? Now what comes into 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:14.640 play is now like I had a sixty year old 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:18.360 yesterday playing with me, and I'm like, you know, usually 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.560 you have to be naked on on your knees when 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:24.400 you're in my presence. But he's bad, you know, Oh, 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.360 so I'm not going to keep him on for hour 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:38.520 and keep for an hour. You have to be when 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.040 you're playing in this you have to be cognizant of 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:44.840 you're very much so. And I'm young, but my dumb 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:49.000 knew Okay, I have joint issues. I can't be on 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:51.280 my knees that long. So there was usually a pillow 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:54.600 underneath me. He wouldn't even he was very soft witted. Okay, 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.479 you just wanted me in a kneeling position. Didn't necessarily 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.360 have to be painful. He just wanted me there. You 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:05.240 gotta be beneath. But I have bad crazy What I 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.240 see is this, And I don't think people put it 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:13.600 for doms that doms are caring or having And I 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.919 like that because the guy to come and saying you 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:19.120 probably think I'm raping hear like to know that. Listen, well, 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:22.359 she's not enjoying something. Don't tone it down like you 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:25.320 still have to be connisant of the person because when 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:30.080 you like, you know what, it's not even not At 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.280 the end of the day, submissive have to submit their 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:36.480 power and that is what you do. So is a 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.159 very big way to show your position in the like 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:44.800 your position of submission, and they do that as well 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:47.560 to you. You have to like the guy that you're 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:52.080 talking about. He doesn't playing. He doesn't play saying safe 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:55.959 and consensual risk, where do we go? So that's not 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:57.800 he's not playing like that, which means that he's just 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:01.719 one of those guys the soft shades are great. There 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.720 was like that and wants to act out and those 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:06.920 there's some girls as incidents. But he don't know how 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:08.159 to vet and you don't know how to do it 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:11.320 right right, So he's the one going out traumatizing as 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.080 a woman out there. Yeah, can I'll make you. It'll 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:16.880 make you as being a person in that position. I've 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:21.040 been that person before. After it happens, it can't kind 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:23.280 of make you feel like well, damn, what did I 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.239 do to deserve this? Like it'll make there are some 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:27.479 people that there are some women that will like that. 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:30.359 Actually right, But then that's the case. I have to 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:35.399 discuss that course everything everything is discussed, yea. So guys, 0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:40.080 if I think every guy, damn thing comes out to communication. Communication, 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.680 And it's even it's it's funny that you guys say 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:46.160 this too, because even having conversations with the guys where 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:50.720 I strongly let them know I like taking charge, I 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:53.959 always wait to hear that, well, I want to be 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.359 your sub before I even take it all the way like, 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:00.320 and there's we need to have an understanding that there's 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:02.640 these roles that I want to play and I want 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:04.879 to be sure that you'll play the opposite. Can't have 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:07.760 to two doms in a room like then one of 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:11.040 us ain't gonna please one of us aren't. So that's 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.439 very big. So guys, this brings us, of course to 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:16.440 the horrible decision if you guys did not know by 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:20.080 now it is kind of dom versus sub. But we're 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:25.719 gonna focus on Mistress Unknown with all of her dom tricks, 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:30.240 her dom stories, what led her to owning her dominess? 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:33.639 Um and hopefully because some good stories bitch, because a 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:39.120 bitch like storytime, I'd like to hear them, always giving them. 0:19:39.359 --> 0:19:42.080 And I specifically ask Kecky to do this show with 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:44.719 me because she is a super sub, but she is 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:48.159 someone who would be interested in switching and playing the 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:52.000 domb role. So any questions that she has for you, 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.239 you know, as a sub, she'll go ahead in and 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:56.439 chime in. So I guess, yeah, let's start off with 0:19:56.520 --> 0:20:00.880 how you started with owning your dombness. I'm a naturally 0:20:01.240 --> 0:20:07.080 dominant woman, and in hindsight, as I was getting dominant, 0:20:07.880 --> 0:20:12.160 i am six foot tall, barefoot, but I'm six six 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:16.280 stepping on these motherfucker's skull day the bit get out 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:22.480 of here basically for real. Yes, yes I do have it. 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:24.240 You know, I'm not gonna say to high school, but yeah, 0:20:24.240 --> 0:20:27.440 you have the record of me about yes I was. 0:20:30.280 --> 0:20:33.240 But yeah, So where did you get into your dominant 0:20:33.359 --> 0:20:38.400 in the bedroom per se? Well, I've always had it, 0:20:38.720 --> 0:20:41.720 but I would say I didn't really have an awakening 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:47.479 until after I got out of another relationship and I 0:20:47.520 --> 0:20:51.359 told myself I'm never doing this ship again. And that's 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:56.920 when I started to explore my sexuality because It first 0:20:56.920 --> 0:21:00.520 started with me exploring my sexuality though in how let 0:21:00.560 --> 0:21:07.040 me back up? And two in UHD is when I 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:11.480 started exploring being a swinger. Yep, that's that's right, man. 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:15.320 So I started exploring being a swinger. So that's what 0:21:15.520 --> 0:21:19.880 eighteen years. I'm thirty eight, so I've been a swinger 0:21:19.920 --> 0:21:22.680 for that long. And being in the swing world you 0:21:22.720 --> 0:21:26.840 get exposed to different things. So this is all making 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:31.400 sense to you, do, I would say, and and real quick, 0:21:31.480 --> 0:21:32.600 I'm not going to cut you off. I want to 0:21:32.680 --> 0:21:35.720 let you finish um specifically, because I will say it 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:39.240 wasn't until um I was exposed. I went to hedonism 0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:42.840 at two years old. I'm now taking my friends to 0:21:42.920 --> 0:21:45.000 sex clubs. And I most recently took a home girl 0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:48.399 to the sex club and it opened her mind in 0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:50.639 the slightest way, because now you go to a sex up, 0:21:50.680 --> 0:21:54.520 you become a virus okay, expeditionist, all these things that 0:21:54.600 --> 0:21:56.960 she had never been before. She felt it and enjoyed it, 0:21:57.040 --> 0:22:02.200 and now she's she just like that this first of 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:06.240 all this stuff like this out here right right? What 0:22:06.359 --> 0:22:08.719 else can you do? Right? How else can you explore? 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:11.000 And that and I just started other people going down 0:22:11.119 --> 0:22:13.639 the rabbit hole, like you know, grab, that's what happened, 0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:17.720 you know, rabbit. Yeah, we had the bottom flow at 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:21.760 this point. I don't think any of my whole we 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:25.240 can make sense. He always is there anything else we 0:22:25.280 --> 0:22:27.760 haven't thought of? I've said that to so many men before, 0:22:27.880 --> 0:22:30.040 like what else could we could we do? I think 0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:32.840 we talked about there there's so much stuff, didn't you. 0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:37.480 It's so much out there and when something comes, you'll 0:22:37.520 --> 0:22:42.359 be amazed. I was like, I can put him on 0:22:42.440 --> 0:22:44.800 a leash, like hello, like and I think, if you 0:22:44.880 --> 0:22:46.560 got my new page, that's I don't even have much 0:22:46.600 --> 0:22:48.000 on here, so I don't even know if he was 0:22:48.080 --> 0:22:52.760 with my old page. I think, I think this is 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:54.720 now the second one that I fall. I see it's 0:22:54.720 --> 0:22:58.800 a new one. But they got me. So the swinging 0:22:58.920 --> 0:23:02.359 life got you to where you started exploring, opened up 0:23:02.400 --> 0:23:06.760 and export and and one thing is my fetish because 0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:09.359 just I'm Adam, but I also have fetishes and interests 0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:18.200 and my fetishes sex Okay, So I love sex period. 0:23:18.560 --> 0:23:22.800 I'm very sexual. That I had my um was it 0:23:22.920 --> 0:23:26.159 psycho sexual, which is basically the time when you know 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.639 you realize about sex at a young age. I was 0:23:28.680 --> 0:23:31.320 exposed to sex young, so that opened me. Like I 0:23:31.480 --> 0:23:34.280 was constantly exploring it because I liked it. I liked 0:23:34.320 --> 0:23:38.199 the feelings. I had an orgasm at ten. I can 0:23:38.280 --> 0:23:41.680 make myself have an orgasm at ten and me not 0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:45.440 realizing that that's what I was having until I got older. 0:23:45.480 --> 0:23:47.720 I was like, oh my god, like I was having orgasm. 0:23:47.960 --> 0:23:57.480