1 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:20,159 Speaker 1: This is a. 2 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 2: Welcome back to good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and 3 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 2: I'm Mila, and Happy New Year. I mean, I know 4 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 2: it's the second week, but it's still happy New Year. Girl. 5 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 3: It's gonna be twenty two. It's gonna be New Year 6 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 3: all month long. I gotta adjust. 7 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 2: I know, how's everyone feeling. I hope everyone stepped into 8 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,960 Speaker 2: this year feeling good, feeling positive, you know, shaking off 9 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 2: twenty twenty two and what as sheet. 10 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 4: Yes, walking with their confidence, walking in their purpose and 11 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 4: their passion this year. 12 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 3: I feel like this is the year for that. 13 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 4: I feel like I've been pumping myself up the last 14 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 4: three months like you were that bitch, just so at 15 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 4: this very moment, I could be like, I'm that bitch. 16 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 4: So I'm just really been working on that. How about you? 17 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 1: Yeah? 18 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 2: Same, yep, yep. I believe it. I really do. So. 19 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 2: All of the positive affirmations that I did all year 20 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 2: last year, through the show and privately, I feel like 21 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:18,199 Speaker 2: have made me actually believe, Yes, I am in fact 22 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 2: that bitch. I agree. 23 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 4: The affirmations help. It helps that we've accomplished a lot 24 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 4: of things in real time this year. So every time 25 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 4: I'm like feeling any remotely down, I'd be. 26 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 2: Like, bitch, do you know who the fuck you are? 27 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 3: I'm an author, bitch, that's me talking to myself. Have 28 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 3: this podcast studio, bitch. 29 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: C e Oh. 30 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 2: Speaking of which, if you are watching on YouTube, which 31 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 2: I hope you are, you'd subscribe to our YouTube channel 32 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 2: because you want to see our beautiful faces and our 33 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 2: cute ass outfits and our guests. So I'm about to 34 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 2: introduce YouTube Relaxed. 35 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 3: We're very fine and we always have fine guests. 36 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 2: We are in our new studio, so make sure you 37 00:01:56,560 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 2: go follow good dot good Media on Instagram. And if 38 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 2: you need a podcast studio to record at, or you 39 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 2: want to start a podcast, we're the place. 40 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: To do it. 41 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 2: Located in Studio City slash, Hollywood Hills. 42 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 3: Come on, Ova, come on over, babe, Ben. 43 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 2: We guarantee that we will be here, but we might 44 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 2: swing back. 45 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 3: Shorty, swing my way. Okay, alright, Jesus Christ, you're doing 46 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,679 Speaker 3: all the it's your fall. You had all the cues. 47 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,959 Speaker 3: Sure look good to me now what you know? 48 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 2: I'm you know you have such a beautiful vote. Thank you, 49 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,959 Speaker 2: positive affirmations for you. Til I believe it, I'm gonna 50 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 2: keep saying it, thank you because it's true. You should 51 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,959 Speaker 2: you hurt me at karaoke. It's Abastian's birthday. Don't play 52 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 2: with me anyway. I'm really excited because you guys, we 53 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 2: have a special guest and it's been a while since 54 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 2: you doing on our show, and you guys fucking loved 55 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 2: her last episode and she's just so bombed. She's so amazing. 56 00:02:56,200 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 2: We have Brittany Floyd Mayo aka found under Up Trap 57 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: Yoga Bay aka Confidence Coach aka Fine Ass Mama aka 58 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:11,839 Speaker 2: just the bomb Bomb daggady mom my mom, mom got sorry, yep. 59 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 2: Talk to me nice like that. That's then affirmation right there, 60 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,239 Speaker 2: Like literally nice, that's every day you look in the mirror, 61 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 2: talk to me nice. You talking to somebody like they're like, Hi, 62 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 2: talk to me nice. 63 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 3: Did we just start with our affirmation accidentally on purpose? 64 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 3: Talk to me nice? 65 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 4: I'm telling yourself. That's just how I was telling you. 66 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 4: I've talked to myself nice. So talk to me nice. 67 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 3: I love that. 68 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 2: Yes, welcome back, thank you. I love it. And like, 69 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 2: let's let me just like point out we did the 70 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 2: thing where where everybody's like, I love you. It was 71 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 2: so great meeting you, We're gonna be the best of friends. 72 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 2: And we fucking failed miserable last year. But it is 73 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 2: a new year, a new day, and we are the 74 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 2: same dope ass bitches we were before even doper we 75 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 2: like I'm declaring in front of all of your amazing 76 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 2: tribe that we will give them the three way, the 77 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 2: three way friendship been waiting for and deserved. Yes, like 78 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 2: I said it, so now it's real. 79 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 3: Well, I need more of you in my life. I 80 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 3: need more of you in my life. 81 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,039 Speaker 4: I feel like every time I see you get us together, 82 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 4: it really does. 83 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 2: And you, guys, I don't know if you've checked in 84 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 2: on our first episode of the year or little bonus 85 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 2: episode of the year. Brittany guided us through a meditation 86 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 2: of course, just as she did last year and just 87 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 2: as she did this year, So you can listen it. 88 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 2: Listen to it in audio form, or if you subscribe 89 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 2: to our YouTube channel, you can watch this beautiful, amazing 90 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:48,359 Speaker 2: meditation around confidence and walking in your authentic self. So 91 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 2: thank you for that. It was my delight. I loved it. 92 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 4: We also have one for the kids, So if you know, 93 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 4: if you take time for yourself, make sure you throw 94 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 4: that on for the kids too. We had nausea come 95 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 4: on like she does last like two years, right, but 96 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 4: this is. 97 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 2: The first time doing with the kids in video in theade, 98 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 2: and I thought it was I thought she suggested that, 99 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 2: and I love that because I think sometimes kids really 100 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 2: need a visual So seeing our kids doing the meditation 101 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 2: with nausea was really cool. And shout out to her 102 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 2: business Yoga Little And I just think that bringing your 103 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 2: kids into mindfulness. We always start a year that way, 104 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 2: but let's try to keep it going all throughout the year. 105 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 2: I know that I have I guess you know, I've 106 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,039 Speaker 2: failed in ways in this in this space, like I 107 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:34,360 Speaker 2: do a lot of like self caring and really tapping 108 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 2: into myself sometimes and I forget to bring Iri along 109 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 2: with me. So I am committing to that this year 110 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 2: with my daughter, so love. I'm also saying that we're 111 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 2: giving you the three way friendship and also Iris going 112 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 2: to be levitating by twenty twenty four. 113 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 3: Period. 114 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 2: Christmas is over, but y'all are just out here just 115 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 2: giving gifts. 116 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 3: It's Christmas all year round. We're Oprah. 117 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 2: So how are you how's life life and life phenomenally? Well? Yes, yeah, 118 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 2: you know how like it's been coming up a lot 119 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 2: the way that I want to express my joy and 120 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 2: to share it. And sometimes I have like these moments 121 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 2: where I'm like, girl, you are so fucking annoyingly happy, 122 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 2: and then I'd be like and and bitch, some people 123 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 2: are so annoyingly miserable and it's okay to counterbalance that energy, 124 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 2: and I refuse to be like I'm okay when like, no, bitch, 125 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: I'm great. I'm great. 126 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:33,599 Speaker 3: You're great too, that that is so true. 127 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes I be like, we I realized 128 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:42,159 Speaker 2: that people thrive in like, uh, not mediocrisy. I was 129 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: gonna say that mediocrasy. 130 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:45,919 Speaker 4: And just like I mean, because we've all done it, 131 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 4: like why they're so fucking happy, Like what the fuck? 132 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,839 Speaker 4: So fucking what do you think you're cheerleader? But also 133 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,919 Speaker 4: like yep, but as I like get. 134 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 2: Into this place I've talked about this, like or I 135 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 2: feel so at peace and like everything's going well, I'm 136 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 2: like I'm trying to I want to be angry because 137 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 2: I don't know what else to do. And then also 138 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: I'm like, god, I'm so in love on the internet. 139 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:05,840 Speaker 2: I need to chill, Like those bitches get on my nerves. 140 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 2: I'm like you are that bitch. You're happy, you're in love, 141 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 2: Like that's it, Okay. 142 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 3: I can't like. 143 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 2: Unapologetically, so I can't doubt sit down you guys, why 144 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 2: the fuck would I. It's like you said, I'm be 145 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 2: like miserable. I'm not even fucking happy. I've been miserable. 146 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 2: I'm so happy to be on this side, but like 147 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 2: really acknowledging it and sitting in it. And I think 148 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 2: sometimes people feel like that's like conceited or like over 149 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 2: the top. 150 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 3: But people go over the top to complain and stress 151 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 3: all day. 152 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 2: And I noticed when people like talk to me about 153 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 2: shit that I don't care about, I'm like, this seems 154 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 2: like I don't care, you know, like I won't only 155 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 2: want to hear from joy, not only because they know 156 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 2: there's like both, you know, but I have really like 157 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 2: that reminded me how much I've been working on being 158 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 2: present in the peace and just like I'm peaceful. You know. 159 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 2: What I've noticed is like how my recovery is faster 160 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 2: when I like experience something like bad in my life 161 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 2: or something like that would have taken me out for 162 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 2: a month or two or three. Like that's how I know, 163 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 2: like the work that I've been doing over the last 164 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 2: five years, even just on this show, like I recover faster. 165 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, how can I get to the 166 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 2: joy faster? Like I'm not gonna sit here in this wallow, 167 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,679 Speaker 2: this does not serve me, like I'm not a victim, 168 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 2: and so how can I get to the recovery faster? 169 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: I mean, granted, you have to feel the feels, and 170 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 2: I do that too, and I allow myself to do that. 171 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 2: But I think a lot of people really like enjoy 172 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 2: the wallowing. Oh for sure. I think a lot of 173 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 2: times people are comfortable with their problems, and I think 174 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 2: it's easy for us to be like, why she's so happy, 175 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 2: or goddamn, that's so annoying, or her happiness isn't real. 176 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 2: You get that a lot. I get a lot of 177 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 2: people accusing me of not being as happy as I seem, 178 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 2: And to me, I think that that really points to 179 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 2: what you believe is possible. Right, maybe before you were 180 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 2: in this beautiful, healthy relationship that I love watching y'all 181 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 2: feet you, Oh my god, I thought, but before you 182 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 2: would see couples in our minds would say shit like 183 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 2: bet bet they probably cheating, Like a guy would post 184 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: his girlfriend, and like some minds will be like, he 185 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 2: probably posted her because he got caught doing some stupid shit, 186 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,079 Speaker 2: or you know, somebody sends flowers to the job and 187 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:27,839 Speaker 2: they're like, what do you do this time? And because 188 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 2: we did not know that people can just be happy 189 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 2: in private in public in general. And so you know, 190 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 2: as we're talking to your tribe and my bay friends 191 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 2: that are listening, if you find yourself annoyed by somebody 192 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 2: else's joy, ask yourself, is is it because you don't 193 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 2: believe that that can be experienced. When you're questioning what 194 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 2: other people are feeling, it might be because you've never 195 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 2: had that feeling yourself. Because now that you know what 196 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 2: that self love and what that healthy love feels like, 197 00:09:56,520 --> 00:09:59,599 Speaker 2: you can recover faster because you're willing to do the 198 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 2: work to get back to a place that you know exists. 199 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 2: It's hard to want to heal when you're like, I'm 200 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 2: gonna do all this healing and then what you know, now, 201 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:09,319 Speaker 2: I'm gonna do all this healing and then I get 202 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 2: back to being happy, and I get back to the bag, 203 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 2: and I get back to love, and I get back 204 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:14,480 Speaker 2: to all of the things that because I've been to 205 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: the mountain. 206 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: Dup. 207 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you've never been there, I've only been 208 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 2: in the middle or the bottom of the mountain. That's 209 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 2: all you've ever experienced. It feels uncomfortable. You almost hate 210 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 2: on yourself. Yeah, I'm like, am I hating on myself? 211 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:27,439 Speaker 3: It's my life. 212 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 4: But it's just like, yeah, like questioning shit, expecting something 213 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 4: that happened just catastrophic to change, or like living in 214 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 4: scarcity and like you're always worried or stressed about some 215 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 4: shit because nothing ever feels safe. Like I realize, like 216 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:44,840 Speaker 4: when I'm feeling safe and I'm feeling happy, like I've 217 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 4: had to learn to be comfortable. 218 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 2: In it and like like okay, cool, everything's cool, you know, 219 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 2: And I didn't. I mean, obviously I didn't recognize that 220 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 2: that was necessary until you come into a place where 221 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,959 Speaker 2: everything's starting to fall together. 222 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 3: But yeah, like it's it does require that you reflect. 223 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 4: On yourself and what you've seen, what you've experienced, because like, 224 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 4: especially in family dynamics, if you've never felt like your 225 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 4: parents were at peace or your household was at peace, 226 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 4: You're gonna grow up into a world of chaos and 227 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 4: not even know why. You're constantly like comfortable with the chaos. 228 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 2: Right, and when you don't know peace and all you 229 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 2: know is that like turmoil, you convince yourself that like 230 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 2: this is what life is. Right, there is no whatever 231 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 2: it is that you thought you wanted, it doesn't exist. 232 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: And so then you can be okay in mediocrity or 233 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 2: that okay, And then here comes along a bit having 234 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 2: the thing that you said didn't exist. And now I 235 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 2: hate you because you are proving the thing that I fear, 236 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 2: which is it's not that happiness is elusive and can 237 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,760 Speaker 2: never be found, it's that I haven't found it. How 238 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 2: dare you smear my face and fuck up the illusion 239 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:55,080 Speaker 2: that I've given myself. So that's what I'm saying. I'm 240 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 2: like when happy bit just irritate you. 241 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 4: I realized, like not too long ago, I remember like 242 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 4: growingp I grew up in the valley, and I always 243 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 4: was like all my most majority of my friends growing 244 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 4: up were white, and I remember like going to like 245 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 4: my white friend's households and like everything seemed like super 246 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 4: curated and clean and like dinner was served at the 247 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:15,640 Speaker 4: right time and everyone ate together. And I realized, like 248 00:12:15,679 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 4: as an adult, I realized that I kind of associated 249 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 4: those things with like white people like like, oh, like 250 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 4: these things are things that like happened white households, because 251 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 4: that's all that's where I saw those Like I don't 252 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 4: know my cleanliness organization. I like, I don't know, like 253 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 4: this like like TV version of what like family life 254 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:38,680 Speaker 4: looked like. And now as an adult, I realized, like, no, bitch, 255 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 4: this is just like you could have that too. You 256 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,199 Speaker 4: can have a perfectly curbated house and like every and 257 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 4: the nanny and the housekeeper or whatever the fuck, but 258 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 4: like really having and even just remember we had Zosia 259 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 4: on the show and we're like happily we did trigger 260 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 4: and we're like happily ever after, and she was like 261 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 4: white women, and it made me think of that, and 262 00:12:57,080 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 4: I was like, damn, like I did kind of that way, 263 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 4: Like those type of like relationships, that type of family 264 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:08,119 Speaker 4: life was unobtainable, and like the privilege was a privilege, 265 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 4: you know, and like it only came like tied beautifully 266 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 4: that way in those households. But like, not a bitch, 267 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 4: I'm trying to have the perfectly curated house too, with 268 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:18,679 Speaker 4: the nanny and like everything's always in place, like oh, 269 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 4: it's so dirty, Like no, it's not, bitch, You're like 270 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 4: I know now, Like that's that's where I'm at now, 271 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 4: Like I realize that that's possible. 272 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:30,199 Speaker 3: Mm, It's not just for white people. Thank god. 273 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:33,719 Speaker 2: It's so beautiful as you guys are talking about manifesting 274 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 2: right knowing what's possible, anything that I can fathom, anything 275 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 2: that I've seen. If I saw that it exists, it 276 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 2: can exist for me. 277 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 3: True. 278 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 2: And you know last year's not like well yeah, last 279 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 2: year wow. Last year and December's theme was the power 280 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:49,320 Speaker 2: of Yes, and I remember talking about it in one 281 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 2: of our episodes that like a lot of manifesting is 282 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 2: saying yes to things and not saying no. And obviously 283 00:13:56,679 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 2: positive thinking and the power of Positive Thinking, which is 284 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 2: a book i'm reading right now. I'm not reading it. 285 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 2: I'm actually doing my first audible, guys, which is interesting 286 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 2: because the audible for that book is not The voices 287 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 2: are not great, So I'm really trying to get past 288 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 2: the voices. But I've just been I'm trying to, like, 289 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:16,199 Speaker 2: you know, start my year off in this. I'm I'm 290 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:18,960 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm generally a positive thinker. However, I 291 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 2: can overwhelm myself and be like what if this doesn't happen, 292 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:24,640 Speaker 2: What if this doesn't happen? What if I'm I'm the 293 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:27,479 Speaker 2: type of person that for me, I what I realized 294 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 2: in this last year, it's sometimes hard for me to 295 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 2: celebrate my wins longer than like one hour. Like after 296 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 2: an hour, I'm like, Okay, well that was great, So 297 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 2: what's next? What's next? Or how are we going to 298 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 2: maintain that? How are we gonna how are we gonna 299 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 2: piggyback off that to make something else happen? And I'm like, bitch, 300 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 2: just relax and enjoy this, and like tomorrow will deal 301 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 2: with tomorrow. Yeah, And but also knowing that like just 302 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 2: saying saying so many yeses in my life in the 303 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 2: last few years, and the with Mila in this business 304 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 2: and just personally have created my wildest dreams, you know, 305 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,440 Speaker 2: and being able to invite in the things that I 306 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 2: probably said no to a lot before. And like people 307 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 2: always ask us, like, what is like the secret to manifesting? 308 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: And really is no fucking secret, Like it's like believing 309 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 2: in yourself or faking it till you make it in ways, 310 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: just saying it over and over and over again. In action, 311 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 2: like you have to put action behind it. You cannot 312 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 2: just fucking wish upon the moon and it shit's gonna 313 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 2: turn out for you. I hear you saying, it's not 314 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 2: enough to say that you want something, but you have 315 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 2: to believe that you were worthy of it. Yes, that's right. 316 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, hell yeah, you desire. 317 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 2: Worthy of all the shit that you just said. Like, 318 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:47,440 Speaker 2: did you hear yourself? You're having achievements that are worthy 319 00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 2: of celebration, your personal life, your business, Like, girl, tell 320 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:55,400 Speaker 2: me more. I guess that is though, it's like the 321 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 2: worthy of celebration thing that I'm still I need to 322 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 2: work on because you feel like do you feel that 323 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 2: you genuinely like believe that like the with like that 324 00:16:05,360 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 2: you're worthy of the winds like because sometimes I find 325 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 2: myself like we've done all these things and then I'm 326 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 2: still questioning it, like you know, like damn, you wrote 327 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 2: this like fucking two hundred plus page book, Like is 328 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 2: it good? 329 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 3: Like you know what I mean? 330 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 2: Like, bitch, you're already here, like you got the book, 331 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 2: like many people, like your editors have read it. They're 332 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 2: telling you it's approved, it's going to be published, And 333 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 2: I'm still like, am I worthy of being here? And 334 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 2: I am? 335 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 4: Because I'm here, but then I'm questioning it. So when 336 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 4: it comes out, is it gonna like people are gonna 337 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 4: are people gonna be mad? Or like you know what 338 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 4: I mean. It's just like this constant just like even like, oh, 339 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 4: we have these things, now, how are we gonna how 340 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:40,400 Speaker 4: are we gonna maintain it? It's like if you had 341 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 4: the wherewithal to get here, you have the wherewithal to 342 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 4: maintain it. And it's just like reminding ourselves that of 343 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 4: all the time, because even like in our you know, 344 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 4: our business, I'm always like, am I doing an ape 345 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 4: aeric ammadomy? Like she calls me, I'm like, hello, yeah, I'm. 346 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 3: Working right now. 347 00:16:56,280 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 2: You heard that typing in the background, and do a 348 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 2: lot of emails hella email them. 349 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 3: I laugh away. 350 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,400 Speaker 4: But but I realized that it's that like that inner 351 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:12,160 Speaker 4: voice that isn't that is still working on believing myself, 352 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:15,200 Speaker 4: you know, like you could have the accomplishments and see 353 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 4: it and touch it and like, but it's still if 354 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 4: you don't really believe that you're worthy, then it doesn't 355 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:23,200 Speaker 4: it's not going to hit the same. 356 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 2: No, it's not. I think they there's like a really 357 00:17:27,640 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 2: good piece to that voice, right because we're always like, 358 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,360 Speaker 2: I just need to like cancel my inner critic. No no, 359 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:36,199 Speaker 2: no, no no. But sometimes you do need to look at 360 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 2: yourself with a critical eye. But there's a difference between 361 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:43,119 Speaker 2: looking at your life and your accomplishments and proofreading your 362 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 2: book with a critical eye and being judgmental. Right, that 363 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:49,120 Speaker 2: voice that tells you is it good, I'm not sure 364 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 2: if it's good should be critical enough to make you 365 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 2: want to proofread your book. Should be critical enough to 366 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:56,200 Speaker 2: make you want to seek out the people who can 367 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:58,399 Speaker 2: help you make it better and who can give you 368 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 2: an honest review and give you fee back. That voice 369 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 2: should help you be your absolute best. But the compassion 370 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 2: and the self love at some point has to kick 371 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 2: in to say, babe, you did enough, and yeah, you're 372 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 2: gonna read some shitty reviews, right, like, let's accept that. 373 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 2: And yes, some people are not gonna like your book, 374 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,640 Speaker 2: but one you've done enough right that they even wanted 375 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 2: to read your shit in the first place. And this 376 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 2: is your first opportunity, and you'll get more opportunities and 377 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 2: the next time you'll be better and do more, or 378 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 2: be just as great or be less than great, but 379 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:34,560 Speaker 2: you'll be bold enough to keep fucking trying the coaching 380 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,359 Speaker 2: you didn't ask for, because I love you. Gotta keep trying. 381 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 3: That's the thing. 382 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:42,400 Speaker 4: And I realized too, like it's in the trying that 383 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:46,679 Speaker 4: you build confidence. Once you see like small things happen, 384 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:48,879 Speaker 4: you're like, oh, should I did that small thing? And 385 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 4: I can keep going to do that, And then it's 386 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 4: just like it's a building of confidence that no matter 387 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:55,920 Speaker 4: what happens, there will be people who would all like 388 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,719 Speaker 4: some shit, you know what I mean, Like it's inevitable 389 00:18:57,760 --> 00:19:00,199 Speaker 4: everyone's not gonna like us. I mean what we you 390 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 4: in general is very like we're putting ourselves out there. 391 00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:08,399 Speaker 4: And I think it's it's we kind of like, do 392 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:10,000 Speaker 4: this so we don't have to think about it, like 393 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 4: blind side it, you know, how. 394 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:13,919 Speaker 2: Do you say, yeah, blinders on? 395 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 4: But overall it's in the practice of saying, I don't 396 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 4: give a fuck what you think, and I'm gonna and oh, 397 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 4: that probably wasn't my best work, but I'm gonna continue 398 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 4: to do it. And then in those those like small 399 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 4: you know, like little, you know, building, building, building, and 400 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:30,040 Speaker 4: then finally you have a building and you're like, oh, 401 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:32,840 Speaker 4: because I kept fucking trying and I kept going and 402 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 4: you look back and you're like. 403 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:36,200 Speaker 3: Oh shit, bitch, we done did a lot of shit. 404 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 4: Then this, you know, since the dining room, right, and 405 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 4: it's and I've really really realized that this, like this relationship, 406 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:48,639 Speaker 4: this business, this vulnerability has really given me the confidence 407 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 4: that led me to feeling worthy, you know, like looking 408 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 4: back and like, oh, actually I've I'm capable because I've 409 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:56,920 Speaker 4: done it. But if I had I given up or 410 00:19:57,040 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 4: let those like negative those voices impact me and just 411 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,120 Speaker 4: said fuck it, I'm not gonna do anything, I would 412 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:02,680 Speaker 4: be nowhere. 413 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,959 Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's like there's going to be criticism and 414 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:09,479 Speaker 2: it's not going to be perfect, but fucking yeah. And 415 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 2: I love that you are not for everybody, because if 416 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,000 Speaker 2: you was for everybody, you'd be for nobody. And the 417 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:18,680 Speaker 2: thing about like especially y'all that I love is you 418 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 2: speak of a voice for the very niche people and 419 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 2: they don't need you to speak in a way that 420 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,440 Speaker 2: other people are gonna be acceptable because if you guys 421 00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 2: showed up not fully authentic, what you're telling the women 422 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:35,760 Speaker 2: who identify with you so so well is we think 423 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 2: to be better received, you've got to wash down some 424 00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 2: part of you. And that is not the message that 425 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 2: we want to send. So when you continue to show 426 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 2: up so fucking boldly like you do, what you say 427 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 2: is if you feel like me, you can live in 428 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:52,399 Speaker 2: your truth, you can live out loud, you can do 429 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 2: whatever the fuck you want to do, so long as 430 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 2: you're not harming other people and still have what you want. 431 00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 2: And that's a lot of how I out starting trap yoga, 432 00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 2: where people were like, You're never gonna get any deals 433 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 2: because you curse, and no one's ever gonna take you 434 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,520 Speaker 2: seriously because you twerk. It was just like, well, if 435 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:12,720 Speaker 2: I change that, the women who want a yoga teacher 436 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 2: who curses and twerks and to feel seen, they'll never 437 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 2: have a home. Do I really want to run a 438 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:24,280 Speaker 2: life that everybody likes me? Or do I really want 439 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:28,159 Speaker 2: like people who see me wholly truly and love me 440 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 2: for that? And that's that whole You got to be 441 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:34,960 Speaker 2: confident enough to be vulnerable to do that, to say 442 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 2: this is who I am. Is there anybody else out there? 443 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,600 Speaker 2: And I'm sure you guys have been blown away by 444 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:44,200 Speaker 2: how many Is there anybody else out there? And the 445 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:49,239 Speaker 2: community that y'all created over these last few years, right, like, 446 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:55,080 Speaker 2: more women than I imagined you've transformed their lives. Just 447 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:59,040 Speaker 2: knowing y'all has transformed my life, like I know it, 448 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 2: so keep doing. 449 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 4: I mean we literally built the brand, like to spite perfectionism, 450 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,200 Speaker 4: you know, we were like we literally built the brand. 451 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:14,119 Speaker 4: Were like fuck that and really on some like who cares, 452 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 4: Like you're gonna either take it or you're not. And 453 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,640 Speaker 4: I think obviously it's easy because there was nobody listening 454 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:21,200 Speaker 4: and so we just were talking shit. 455 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,040 Speaker 3: But like it's. 456 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:29,160 Speaker 4: Like, I know this is cliche, but like being authentically yourself, 457 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 4: which I realized for me I can't help it, which 458 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 4: who but but for people who are listening, who are 459 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 4: constantly striving, and we all like women, there's not all. 460 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 4: But even for me, like someone who can't help it 461 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:46,159 Speaker 4: be themselves, I've still had a lot of work overcoming, 462 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 4: like people pleasing, like wanting everything to be like even 463 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,879 Speaker 4: and nice and just like oh, like you know kind 464 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 4: really you know, just showing up a certain way so 465 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 4: people will like me, because I mean, I don't want 466 00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 4: anyone to not like me. But it's just in the 467 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 4: showing up is this is who I am, and if 468 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 4: you like it, it's cool. But if you don't it's 469 00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,919 Speaker 4: cool too. I've realized, like a, I've had this incredible 470 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:11,320 Speaker 4: friendship with Erica, with you, and like in us being 471 00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:15,119 Speaker 4: authentic and saying, hey, it's not perfect, but we're going 472 00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 4: to talk about it anyway, and seeing how many of 473 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 4: our tribe showed up because we're not ever like suggesting 474 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:23,560 Speaker 4: that we have all the answers. I'm sure I've said 475 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 4: a lot of fucked up shit that I probably don't 476 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 4: believe anymore, you know, like maybe. 477 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:28,439 Speaker 3: Two months ago. I don't know. 478 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 4: I'm changing all the time. I'm evolving. That's the whole 479 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,360 Speaker 4: point to be blooming. And even in like my relationship 480 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,240 Speaker 4: had I not and I always think of this episode 481 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 4: we have somebody else and I was talking about my 482 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 4: titties being out, and they're like, do you think that's 483 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 4: why you're single right now? And then I must have 484 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:46,119 Speaker 4: like like snapped because I was like, actually, whoever's my 485 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 4: man is going to be so proud to have me, 486 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:49,320 Speaker 4: and he's going to know exactly who I am. He's 487 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 4: going to root me on dancing on tables and with 488 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 4: my titties out because he knows who the fuck I am. 489 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:55,879 Speaker 4: And like, you know, a year later, looking back and 490 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,920 Speaker 4: I have a boyfriend who's like all about the business. 491 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,320 Speaker 4: Had I not showed up as myself, I would have 492 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,120 Speaker 4: never been in love and in a relationship with someone 493 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,679 Speaker 4: who knows exactly who the fuck he's dealing with and 494 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,439 Speaker 4: what he's gonna get. And you know, can imagine hiding 495 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 4: yourself a from yourself. You're not even like, you're not 496 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,439 Speaker 4: even brave enough to be like, what is it that 497 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,600 Speaker 4: I like, what do I want to do and be 498 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,479 Speaker 4: from someone who could potentially be the love of your 499 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:23,399 Speaker 4: life because you're scared that someone else who doesn't fucking 500 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:28,000 Speaker 4: matter may not accept or love you. We are all 501 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 4: worthy of love and deserving of you know, like peace 502 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 4: and love in the highest way, but we can only 503 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 4: really receive that if we are showing our true colors 504 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 4: to attract our true friends and our true tribe and 505 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 4: our true man and our true husband or wives or whatever. 506 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 4: But people like especially I don't know, if it's like 507 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 4: Western civilization, we get so caught up on perfectionism, you know, 508 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 4: like how we look? 509 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 3: Does this look right? Like I'm on camera? 510 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 2: Like they just have boggers sometimes, you know, it's like 511 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 2: human you know, like. 512 00:24:57,240 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 3: Every hair is not gonna look perfect every time. 513 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,040 Speaker 2: Sometimes brains are gonna get braided on the show because 514 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 2: that's the reality, you know, Like it's just it doesn't 515 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 2: do anyone any it doesn't progress anything to pretend. 516 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:12,440 Speaker 3: Pretending is just like. 517 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 2: You can't you can't can't hold up the mask. It's 518 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: it's gonna fall off, it's gonna get crooked, and you're 519 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 2: gonna get exposed eventually, and that's when the relationship starts 520 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 2: to fall apart because you're like, wait, this is this 521 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:28,680 Speaker 2: is not who you presented yourself to be. So it's 522 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 2: just about like I think even for me, I feel 523 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 2: like Mila's or like she is, She's always kind of 524 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 2: showed up as herself for me, like I have tried. 525 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 2: I've had to like really figure out like what parts 526 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,640 Speaker 2: of myself do I love and which parts of myself 527 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,919 Speaker 2: do I am? I ready to kill, you know, And 528 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 2: I think being a scorpio, like I'm very all about 529 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 2: like the transformation, and but it took me a long 530 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 2: time to feel bold enough and confident enough to really 531 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:59,440 Speaker 2: step into that space. And I think we're lucky because 532 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 2: there's two of us, So there's two of us to 533 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 2: kind of like push each other. But then there's women 534 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,480 Speaker 2: right now listening who like I mean, it truly is 535 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 2: like it's an inside job, it's a solo journey, and 536 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,919 Speaker 2: like you being a confidence coach, I'm curious to know, 537 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 2: like with your clients, who are you know basically maybe 538 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,920 Speaker 2: starting at zero, Like what are tools for someone who 539 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,119 Speaker 2: is like I don't even know where to start. I 540 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 2: don't have a Jamila, I don't have a friend that's 541 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,199 Speaker 2: going to like say, push me to try to be 542 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:28,920 Speaker 2: my most authentic self. Yeah. I think for a lot 543 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:32,920 Speaker 2: of my clients, they come and they're like, I don't 544 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 2: know what's wrong. Something's wrong, and so it's like, fuck, 545 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,240 Speaker 2: take it from the top, you know. And one of 546 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 2: the first things that I do is I have this 547 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 2: like two hour like conversation with them with themselves where 548 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,640 Speaker 2: we call it a wantson knees manifesto because you want 549 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,160 Speaker 2: to be confident, but you don't even know what confidence 550 00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 2: looks like on you. Because when we don't know who 551 00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 2: we are or what we want, we see what someone 552 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:00,920 Speaker 2: else has. A lot of times they'll just see me 553 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 2: and they'll be like I want to be like you, 554 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 2: And I'm like, if you ended up being me and 555 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 2: you're not me. You're not gonna fucking be happy. And 556 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:11,240 Speaker 2: I found that like when we really deep dive, I 557 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 2: had a client's like, what does confidence look like to you? 558 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 2: And me like she was like, confidence looks like wearing 559 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 2: a short sleeved shirt and being comfortable. Don't have me 560 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,320 Speaker 2: tell you what confidence looks like, cause I'm a like, 561 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 2: we did a little wardrobe change and we was Coochi's 562 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 2: out and looking bitches in the eyes and having a conversation. 563 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 2: So confidence has to look like what looks like for you. 564 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 2: So I think starting off is looking at every role 565 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,680 Speaker 2: you play in life, looking at every goal you have, 566 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:47,199 Speaker 2: and saying is this what I want? Or is this 567 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:51,439 Speaker 2: me trying to be more palatable, more acceptable? Is this 568 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 2: me trying to follow the brules bullshit rules of society? 569 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,720 Speaker 2: So I would be like, step one is to get 570 00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,640 Speaker 2: really honest about, you know, all of the those roles. 571 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,840 Speaker 2: So sometimes I'll have a client who's like, who's a mom, 572 00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 2: And I'll have them do this assignment where I'm like, 573 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 2: write down every hat you wear in life and ask 574 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,200 Speaker 2: yourself do I want to keep that? And then they'll 575 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,560 Speaker 2: turn it in and I'm like, oh, you said you 576 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:15,960 Speaker 2: have kids? Right, and they're like yeah. And I'm like, 577 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 2: you didn't write the role is mother on here? And 578 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 2: they're like, because that's not optional, baby, you always got options. 579 00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 2: And when we're afraid to ask ourselves questions like do 580 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:30,719 Speaker 2: I want to be a mother? Like, because we can 581 00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 2: be honest as fuck here, right, do I want to 582 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:36,720 Speaker 2: be a mother? If some women look deep inside and 583 00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 2: ask themselves that question, even though they already had their kids, 584 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:42,160 Speaker 2: their answer would be no, listen, I mean we had 585 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 2: from that, we had our friend on Jessica Rose and 586 00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,840 Speaker 2: it was a very controversial moment, and then in the 587 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,080 Speaker 2: episode in general talking about regretting motherhood and how so 588 00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:54,200 Speaker 2: many moms do. And it's not that you regret your child, 589 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 2: it's you regret the you regret the role. You regret 590 00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 2: the role that like you didn't know you were signing 591 00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:01,959 Speaker 2: up for all the way, because you don't really know 592 00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 2: what the fuck you're signing up for until you are 593 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 2: in it, right, because a bit was just digmatized and 594 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 2: trying to keep the relationship going. And now eighteen plus 595 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 2: plus plus because they also lie to you, it does 596 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 2: not end at eighteen now. And so if I get 597 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,240 Speaker 2: you to fill out the thing and say one of 598 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,000 Speaker 2: my roles is mother. Do I want to keep this role? No? 599 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,120 Speaker 2: People are afraid that that means that, like, oh, I'm 600 00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,560 Speaker 2: about to throw my baby out the window. I got 601 00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 2: a safe surrender. No, it's not saying that, but it's saying, Okay, 602 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,200 Speaker 2: this doesn't come naturally to you, but you're in it 603 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:36,280 Speaker 2: and you're still committed to it. How can we minimize 604 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 2: the pain, minimize the frustration of those sort of things, 605 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 2: you know, with your job and all of that. So really, 606 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 2: I think my first thing is to get them to 607 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,720 Speaker 2: face themselves and be honest about the part of their 608 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 2: lives they're not so happy with, and the part of 609 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,840 Speaker 2: their lives that they think is going to earn them 610 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,240 Speaker 2: love or whatever. Like they'll come to me and be like, 611 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 2: I want, you know, I want a smaller waist and 612 00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:01,600 Speaker 2: a fatter ass. Why because I want to have a 613 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 2: boyfriend who spends money on me and they seem and 614 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 2: men always seem to spend money on girls with the 615 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 2: fat ass Because why right? Because I want to feel chosen? 616 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 2: Because why? Okay? Cool. So when we get to the end, 617 00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 2: I'm like spoiler alert from one bad bitch to a 618 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 2: future bad bitch. Being a bad bitch does not make 619 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:20,760 Speaker 2: you more lovable. It just makes you more fuckable. It 620 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 2: actually makes your life a lot harder. That's a truth 621 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 2: that's hurt and most confidence coaches or whoever, anybody who's 622 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,840 Speaker 2: selling something, because let's be honest, I'm selling a service 623 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 2: that I feel like they lie to you and be like, 624 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 2: you know, have the money and then you'll have the 625 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 2: life of your dreams, get the body like no, bitch, Nope. 626 00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 2: All I can promise you is to get closer to yourself. 627 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,520 Speaker 2: Nothing else is gonna guarantee you love, guarantee you happiness, 628 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 2: none of that. But I can help you palliative care 629 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 2: for whatever. For life. Life is painful. I'm here for 630 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 2: pain management. And when you can accept it like this 631 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 2: is what life is, you can decide what you want 632 00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,800 Speaker 2: to change and be fit in about the rest. So 633 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,280 Speaker 2: I feel that, I mean, I think that that's a 634 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 2: really that's a really big lesson. I think for a 635 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 2: lot of women, especially like because we often seek outward right, 636 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 2: we're never like really understanding that everything we have is 637 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 2: already here. We have all the tools. If you want 638 00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:18,680 Speaker 2: that fat ass, if you want that small waste, you 639 00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 2: have the tools for that too, But we're always seeking 640 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,400 Speaker 2: outwardly and thinking that, oh, if I just had this, 641 00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 2: then I could I could have that. If I looked 642 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,760 Speaker 2: like this, then I would have that, if I did 643 00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 2: like you know, and it's it's never it's never that. 644 00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,560 Speaker 2: And I know that for a fact because I know 645 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 2: for a long time I leaned on my looks. I 646 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 2: leaned I did leans fine. I lean on my looks 647 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 2: because that's what people gave to me. They said, oh 648 00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 2: my god, you're so beautiful. Oh this like you must 649 00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,240 Speaker 2: have you must get this, you must get that, or 650 00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 2: you oh that you oh you got him? Because I'm like, bitch, 651 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:56,040 Speaker 2: he's cheating on me, Like it doesn't matter. None of 652 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,800 Speaker 2: those things actually matter. And so I think, especially in 653 00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 2: the society we live in, it's really easy to put 654 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 2: so much value on what you see, and often what 655 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,360 Speaker 2: you see is not what really is and it's not 656 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 2: what's important. Yeah, And that's what I found, right because 657 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 2: we've been we've been bad, but just a long time, 658 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 2: long time, long time, y'all. We've been at this, and 659 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 2: as our relationships with ourselves got better, we started manifesting 660 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 2: better friendships, better partners, better financial opportunities. So it really 661 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 2: couldn't have been granted, we get fine about a day. 662 00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,920 Speaker 2: It really couldn't have been the looks though. It had 663 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 2: to be something that was happening inside of you, right, 664 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,160 Speaker 2: It had to be your discernment. It had to be 665 00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,520 Speaker 2: the lessons that you learned to be like, Okay, yeah, 666 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 2: I'm fine, but I'm also worth more than somebody who 667 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,360 Speaker 2: other people think is desirable but doesn't make me feel 668 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,840 Speaker 2: desired and doesn't make me feel loved. And so a 669 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 2: lot of it is believing that you are worthy of 670 00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 2: those things and turning inside no matter what. But you 671 00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 2: keep doing the things, you know, pretending so that you 672 00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,600 Speaker 2: can get somebody to accept you. And like you said, 673 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 2: the mask is gonna slip. Even if you can hold 674 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 2: your mask up, you're always looking over your shoulder because 675 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 2: you're like, what if they find out? And you're too 676 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:18,600 Speaker 2: busy worried about do they like me? Then asking yourself 677 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:22,040 Speaker 2: the really important question, do I like this? Motherfucker? I 678 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,800 Speaker 2: think a lot of us have done that as women, 679 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 2: spent time or been in relationships because you know, because 680 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,000 Speaker 2: a man or a woman agreed to be in the 681 00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,520 Speaker 2: relationship and we were just so happy to be chosen 682 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,280 Speaker 2: that we didn't even ask ourselves did I choose this 683 00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 2: motherfucker back? Like you know, that's that's the piece. And 684 00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 2: I was talking to a client the other day and 685 00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:44,640 Speaker 2: she just was like, I feel just really heartbroken because 686 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,880 Speaker 2: guys keep not choosing me. And I was like, think 687 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:51,200 Speaker 2: of this analogy, right, Like you're in a store shopping 688 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,920 Speaker 2: and you're looking for a pair of pants and you're 689 00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 2: at the fucking T shirt rack, you. 690 00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 3: Know what I mean. 691 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,320 Speaker 2: Like you're a pair of pants and you keep putting 692 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 2: yourself at the T shirt rack. Somebody is going to 693 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,400 Speaker 2: come to that rack and they might like the pants, 694 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:07,120 Speaker 2: but remember they were in the market for the T shirt, 695 00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,920 Speaker 2: so they'll pick up the pants and they're like cool, cool, cool, 696 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 2: but this ain't really what I want. They'll put the 697 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,759 Speaker 2: shit back. And here you are feeling like you're not 698 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:18,439 Speaker 2: being chosen, but you keep stepping into a marketplace, into 699 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 2: relationships where someone's not looking for you in particular. So 700 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:24,880 Speaker 2: instead of keep putting yourself on the wrong rack hoping 701 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,080 Speaker 2: that you'll get what shirts get, put yourself with the 702 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,880 Speaker 2: fucking pants and someone who's looking for pants will find 703 00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:35,480 Speaker 2: their pants. Like I did a lot of shopping in Bali, 704 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:39,960 Speaker 2: but hear me out. It was a realization that I had, 705 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 2: which is just like, stop pretending to be something that 706 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,840 Speaker 2: you aren't and you think that no one's gonna notice. 707 00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,920 Speaker 2: But in the switching over to like humans and not items, 708 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,279 Speaker 2: if you are trying to live, something that I learned 709 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,920 Speaker 2: is soft life is not for me. I'm not a 710 00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:00,359 Speaker 2: soft life bitch. I like the idea of it. That's 711 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:04,200 Speaker 2: very controversial. I tried. I tried. 712 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:06,640 Speaker 3: Maybe I'll evolve into a soft life. Bet so I 713 00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:07,080 Speaker 3: try it. 714 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,160 Speaker 2: I have a question, what do you view a soft life? 715 00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,160 Speaker 2: What is the soft life to you? You are so smart. 716 00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,960 Speaker 2: Anytime someone says something, the first question is define it. 717 00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,239 Speaker 2: So on social media because which I'm not gonna act 718 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,520 Speaker 2: like I'm not on there watching what the bitches are saying. 719 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 2: They're like, I don't make any decisions soft life. I 720 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:28,120 Speaker 2: don't pay for shit soft life. I tend to my 721 00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 2: man soft life, and I'm like, you can't be life 722 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,760 Speaker 2: all the time. Not all the time. And so I 723 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:40,960 Speaker 2: was blessed with this wonderful opportunity where you know, I 724 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 2: was traveling with someone and they were like, whatever you want, 725 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 2: make no decisions. We got this, and while I was there, 726 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:52,400 Speaker 2: I created work for myself. Like literally the hotel we 727 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,600 Speaker 2: were staying at, I went to the to the fucking 728 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 2: receptionist and was like, hey, so one of the ways 729 00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,200 Speaker 2: I like to play with the universe is to create 730 00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:03,399 Speaker 2: win win scenario. I would like to exchange some things 731 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,200 Speaker 2: with you guys. And I'm over here in the hotel 732 00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:10,959 Speaker 2: room like drawing up contracts and working because I want 733 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:16,440 Speaker 2: to work. I enjoy negotiating, I enjoy ideating. I enjoy 734 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:19,759 Speaker 2: some of the some of the yang energy, some of 735 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:23,160 Speaker 2: the you know, business maneuvers and masculinity. And it doesn't 736 00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:28,319 Speaker 2: mean I'm also not nurturing and inviting and open, but 737 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 2: I am hyper productive. I do enjoy my rest. I 738 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:34,319 Speaker 2: am a self care professional, but a lot of that 739 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:37,839 Speaker 2: soft life shit, it just it did not I read 740 00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:41,719 Speaker 2: the brochures, I tried it, I was open. It did 741 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:46,640 Speaker 2: not resonate, and so for me, I felt like a 742 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 2: pair of pants on the T shirt rack. And so 743 00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:52,120 Speaker 2: what I was explaining to my client was, you know, 744 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,719 Speaker 2: you you think this is this is the life that 745 00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 2: I want, this is what it is. And so you 746 00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:59,279 Speaker 2: show up and someone accepts you thinking that you're going 747 00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:01,960 Speaker 2: to be a soft a soft girl, soft life person. 748 00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:05,680 Speaker 2: But they're used to dealing with bitches who don't make decisions. 749 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,120 Speaker 2: They are used to dealing with bitches who do not 750 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:11,120 Speaker 2: flinch when the bill comes and who is very much 751 00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:15,560 Speaker 2: like whatever you want, daddy, So they know you'll crack 752 00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,880 Speaker 2: little here and there that you're not fully aligned with 753 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,200 Speaker 2: that thing. But then you feel rejected when really they've 754 00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:26,000 Speaker 2: set you free because you're not that. And so I 755 00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 2: was like, yeah, I probably talked back too much to 756 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:33,160 Speaker 2: be like a soft or docile woman or like in bed, 757 00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,960 Speaker 2: I'm a full fucking switch and my like and I'm 758 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:39,359 Speaker 2: like my sub is a braddy sub at best, and 759 00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,440 Speaker 2: my dom is very much like sit down and be 760 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,160 Speaker 2: a good boy. I don't know if I'm soft life. 761 00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:45,800 Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe I don't know what it means 762 00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:48,319 Speaker 2: teach a bit so, but I think that's how I 763 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,920 Speaker 2: was feeling, like my definition of soft life is not 764 00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:54,759 Speaker 2: I guess that definition. Okay, I think that also, Like 765 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,680 Speaker 2: so you like I'm a worker bee as well, and 766 00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,640 Speaker 2: but I realize that like the way that I my 767 00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,200 Speaker 2: hope is, I'm not. I'm not. I haven't mastered this yet. 768 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,239 Speaker 2: I'm I'm want a soft life work in progress, but 769 00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:13,400 Speaker 2: using my my femininity to get what I want, which 770 00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:19,440 Speaker 2: is essentially soft life. But also what is it hard? 771 00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:20,960 Speaker 2: I don't know what the opposite of soft life is hard? 772 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:28,520 Speaker 2: Boudang gang Gangangang. I think that like there's a I 773 00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,840 Speaker 2: think there's a balance between the two. I don't necessarily 774 00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,759 Speaker 2: look as at soft life as docile. I think it's 775 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:38,360 Speaker 2: like moving with ease, using your femininity, your sensuality to 776 00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:41,920 Speaker 2: take to nurture, but also get what it is that 777 00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,440 Speaker 2: you want and you need. Yeah, no, I like that. 778 00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:46,640 Speaker 2: I feel like I always walk in the room. The 779 00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,000 Speaker 2: way you said it in my brain was like walk in 780 00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,920 Speaker 2: a room pussy forward for show, not pussy pussy forward, 781 00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,960 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like hello band, that pussy 782 00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,400 Speaker 2: runs the world right, and I understand like the fluidity 783 00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:01,600 Speaker 2: and the openness and receptive, But to me, that's more 784 00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,279 Speaker 2: on the like the manifesting side. Do you do you 785 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:08,040 Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable letting a man lead? No? Do no, no, no. 786 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:12,520 Speaker 2: I love that shit, Like, well that's soft in this society. Yes, 787 00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:14,160 Speaker 2: I think so, because I think a lot of times 788 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 2: I do got questions though I'd be like where are 789 00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:20,560 Speaker 2: we going like we had our neighbor next door shout 790 00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,640 Speaker 2: out to Jason, aka problem. I'm calling him problem. You 791 00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:26,960 Speaker 2: hear this, Jason your problem? He said that bitches are 792 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:32,320 Speaker 2: making men gay and I couldn't help. But think, is 793 00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:35,640 Speaker 2: it because we're like aggressive or like we well, I 794 00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 2: think I think. I don't know you were on the live. 795 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,239 Speaker 2: I'm assuming it's also because, like you know, we want 796 00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,200 Speaker 2: our men to be soft. Is that what it is? 797 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:42,960 Speaker 3: No, I wasn't in that live very long. 798 00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:44,880 Speaker 4: Okay, he was like he was like praising the women 799 00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,000 Speaker 4: but also saying a lot of it was. 800 00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:48,120 Speaker 3: There was a lot going on in that live. 801 00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:52,480 Speaker 2: But I think that there's like this, you know, because 802 00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,759 Speaker 2: women have had to show up in different ways and 803 00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:58,680 Speaker 2: be the father and be the the provider. And I 804 00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,680 Speaker 2: think that's where women and are kind of like with 805 00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:02,480 Speaker 2: their hands up, like I actually don't want to do 806 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,480 Speaker 2: all of this all the time. And I think that's 807 00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,319 Speaker 2: where the soft life element comes in. It's not necessarily 808 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,200 Speaker 2: that like you want to just lay there and be 809 00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,520 Speaker 2: fucked be and everything to be taken care of and 810 00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,760 Speaker 2: you don't pay for a thing. It's more so like Amos, 811 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:20,839 Speaker 2: it's finding the balance because we are imbalanced in this society, 812 00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:24,879 Speaker 2: like there is a huge imbalance in the role of 813 00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,040 Speaker 2: man and woman or and whatever that you know looks like. 814 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:32,120 Speaker 2: And I know for me, I have definitely taken on 815 00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,040 Speaker 2: a more masculine role for a larger part of my 816 00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,680 Speaker 2: life happily, because I felt like that made me more 817 00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:40,400 Speaker 2: valuable too. And when I walked into rooms, I was 818 00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,160 Speaker 2: going to get respect in the ways that I that 819 00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:45,600 Speaker 2: I wanted. But I realize now in my space because 820 00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,879 Speaker 2: I feel validated, like, Okay, I know what I'm doing 821 00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:50,719 Speaker 2: over here that I can walk into rooms and I 822 00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,239 Speaker 2: don't have to do that much anymore. I can walk 823 00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:56,920 Speaker 2: in and I can float in, and my sensuality is dominant, 824 00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,200 Speaker 2: like me being a woman that is successful and a 825 00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:04,840 Speaker 2: master in my field is dominant. And that makes me 826 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:08,080 Speaker 2: feel soft in that space. Granted, there's some times where 827 00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:10,279 Speaker 2: I really got to buck up on a nigga and 828 00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,359 Speaker 2: say no, yeah, I let niggas know, like I'll pay 829 00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:16,680 Speaker 2: for that. Actually I'm leaving like I got it, no thanks, 830 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,480 Speaker 2: you know. And and I like that part of me too, 831 00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,600 Speaker 2: you know. So I don't know, I feel like there's 832 00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,839 Speaker 2: there's definitely a balance, but I don't look at I 833 00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,400 Speaker 2: relate to. I feel like I'm more like you, but 834 00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:32,759 Speaker 2: I feel like there is a very soft element to 835 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,960 Speaker 2: you and so some so naturally that I think you 836 00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,400 Speaker 2: have a lot of soft life. I think the internet 837 00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,239 Speaker 2: has defined it in well, there's so many definitions that 838 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:43,880 Speaker 2: I've seen, but there's there's a lot of definitions that 839 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:47,560 Speaker 2: I feel like are leaning into, like just we weak woman. 840 00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,080 Speaker 4: Well, I was gonna say, I think we're in an 841 00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:53,440 Speaker 4: era of a lot of Obviously there's a lot of 842 00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:56,600 Speaker 4: like hurt men, and I think there's, like, like you said, 843 00:41:56,640 --> 00:42:00,719 Speaker 4: there's a huge like separation and like the black men 844 00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,920 Speaker 4: and black women specifically, if you're on any type of 845 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,560 Speaker 4: fucking shade room, you see it every other day. Black 846 00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:09,000 Speaker 4: women do this and that, and like just labeling us 847 00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:13,360 Speaker 4: as masculine and like this fucking narrative, feeding us this 848 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:17,840 Speaker 4: narrative that like certain like certain men want soft women. 849 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,160 Speaker 4: And I noticed that you said the word dicile. I 850 00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:21,280 Speaker 4: fucking hate that word. 851 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:23,440 Speaker 2: And I don't think soft women and being docile are 852 00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,080 Speaker 2: the same, but I think that women interpret it that way. 853 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,200 Speaker 2: And when you're a woman that wants to be chosen 854 00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:32,680 Speaker 2: and you try to like you start to like do 855 00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,839 Speaker 2: the pick me shit. I think that's where that comes in. 856 00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,520 Speaker 2: Like if you, you. 857 00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,120 Speaker 4: Know, make decisions or you you know, buck up, then 858 00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,480 Speaker 4: you're like trying to be a man. You're trying to 859 00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:43,719 Speaker 4: be a man. Like I don't want a woman who 860 00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,000 Speaker 4: tries to be a man. No, nigga, you gotta be 861 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:49,080 Speaker 4: real clear with these men, because it's like, do you 862 00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:50,759 Speaker 4: not want a woman who's trying to be a man, 863 00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,359 Speaker 4: or do you not want a woman who's gonna call 864 00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:55,240 Speaker 4: you on your bullshit? Because I can be real soft 865 00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,239 Speaker 4: and delicate, but nigga, try me if you want to, 866 00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:01,040 Speaker 4: and you're gonna see me you a real different woman. 867 00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:02,799 Speaker 3: And I do. And the thing is about that. It's 868 00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,040 Speaker 3: like I do believe. 869 00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:11,400 Speaker 2: I believe like the feminine will fucking will fucking get you, 870 00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:13,279 Speaker 2: you know, like it's we're like water, you know. I 871 00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:16,040 Speaker 2: think that can create, can destroy exactly, and we can create. 872 00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:19,120 Speaker 2: We are the creators. We are God, we create you. 873 00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:23,520 Speaker 2: We've created humanity through our yonies, bitch. So I think 874 00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:27,800 Speaker 2: we get really like caught up in the the man's 875 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:31,440 Speaker 2: labeling of what soft like life looks like or feminine 876 00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,920 Speaker 2: looks like, and the truth of the matter is it 877 00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,760 Speaker 2: is balance, you know, being able to acknowledge the balance 878 00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,960 Speaker 2: of showing up feminine and how I'm going to show 879 00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,480 Speaker 2: up and how feminine because like, try and snatch a 880 00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,960 Speaker 2: mother's child and see if you don't get fucking shot, 881 00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:48,720 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like I'll be a killer 882 00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:51,719 Speaker 2: for my child, quick and easy. And I also can 883 00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,600 Speaker 2: lay down and be soft and not making decisions. I 884 00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,520 Speaker 2: hate making decisions. My boyfriend has to remind me all 885 00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,480 Speaker 2: the time, like, bitch, you're gonna make decisions on Monday. 886 00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,600 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, it's Friday, though. 887 00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:03,880 Speaker 4: But but it's like, don't get it twisted. You know, 888 00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:07,480 Speaker 4: being soft and feminine comes with being able to be 889 00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:08,680 Speaker 4: hard and be able to. 890 00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,960 Speaker 3: Like men couldn't birth, you know what I mean? 891 00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,439 Speaker 4: There is this like unique balance, and I just think 892 00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:18,160 Speaker 4: that like like letting a man pay for everything and 893 00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:21,000 Speaker 4: make all the decisions and like making I think there's 894 00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:23,399 Speaker 4: a difference between feeding a man's ego so that they 895 00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:28,040 Speaker 4: feel delusional and accepting a man that makes you feel 896 00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:32,080 Speaker 4: safe enough that you can lie down and be delicate 897 00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,680 Speaker 4: and allow things to happen because I trust you and 898 00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,480 Speaker 4: you've created this space where I know that you're not 899 00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,799 Speaker 4: gonna like you have my back. But I think a 900 00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,719 Speaker 4: lot of women we haven't been in a position to 901 00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,000 Speaker 4: do that because a lot of men and even parents 902 00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,480 Speaker 4: have dropped the ball. And it makes you have fucking 903 00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:49,040 Speaker 4: trust issues, and it makes you get everything done yourself 904 00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,560 Speaker 4: and taken every fucking grocery back in one trip. 905 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:54,520 Speaker 2: And no, I'm good, I'm fine, and I'm gonna do 906 00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:56,359 Speaker 2: it myself. I'm not going to speak up and ask 907 00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:58,840 Speaker 2: for help. I think sometimes like being delicated is just 908 00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,680 Speaker 2: being able to be like, hey, hey, can you help me? 909 00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:05,319 Speaker 2: Because now I'll be like in the store like oh no, yeah, yeah, 910 00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,120 Speaker 2: can you help me to my car? You know what 911 00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:07,520 Speaker 2: I mean? 912 00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:11,919 Speaker 4: Like I just realized like it's really a choice, and 913 00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:14,200 Speaker 4: like being able to be wise enough to pick and 914 00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,400 Speaker 4: choose when it's time to buck up, because I can 915 00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,320 Speaker 4: see my scale like slide depending on the situation, you know, 916 00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:21,319 Speaker 4: because I am pretty soft and I will nurture and 917 00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,560 Speaker 4: I will love, but I also curse you the fuck out, 918 00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,759 Speaker 4: like we're in South Philly, you know what I mean. 919 00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:30,320 Speaker 4: So it's just like, don't don't let these men's interpretation, 920 00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:34,880 Speaker 4: these very delicate egoed men that there's like a huge 921 00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:39,000 Speaker 4: uproaring of right now because of Kevin Samuels, et cetera, 922 00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:40,360 Speaker 4: Andrew Tait. 923 00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:41,200 Speaker 3: Wherever the fuck his name is. 924 00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:45,640 Speaker 2: And on the contrary, there's also a lot of women 925 00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:48,600 Speaker 2: who are fucking it up for us all. There's a 926 00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,680 Speaker 2: lot of bitches who are like I'm like, bitches who 927 00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:55,040 Speaker 2: are just like gimme, gimme, gimme and don't have shit 928 00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:56,960 Speaker 2: to show for, don't have shit to bring to the table. 929 00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,640 Speaker 2: I see many bitches with all the bags and sleeping 930 00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:01,920 Speaker 2: on a map like a fucking air mattress, you know 931 00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,440 Speaker 2: what I'm saying, Like, bitch bitches are bit you know, like, 932 00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,040 Speaker 2: let's not get a twisted. There are some fucks that 933 00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:09,040 Speaker 2: bitches are sucking it up for everyone. And so there's just, 934 00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,880 Speaker 2: like I think, in general, a misunderstanding of sexes and 935 00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,200 Speaker 2: what our roles are and instead of fucking constantly fighting 936 00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,880 Speaker 2: each other and being on defense about what you're not 937 00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,120 Speaker 2: doing great, there's a lot of bitch ass niggas, you 938 00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:24,319 Speaker 2: know what I mean. But like you can't go to 939 00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:26,439 Speaker 2: a group of bitch ass niggas and expect to find 940 00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,480 Speaker 2: a man say that, you know what I mean. 941 00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:31,080 Speaker 3: It's like as soon as you see a nigga's not 942 00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:31,800 Speaker 3: on the same page. 943 00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:34,759 Speaker 2: He's not grown up and he's not he's not like evolving, 944 00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:36,640 Speaker 2: and he's not showing up as a man. 945 00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,759 Speaker 3: That's you'll, you'll fucking. 946 00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:42,640 Speaker 2: Go dry trying to convince a fucking cactus to blow 947 00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:43,600 Speaker 2: him a flower or whatever. 948 00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:48,360 Speaker 3: That wasn't a great I'm as good as the thing. 949 00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:54,520 Speaker 3: I was like, fuck, you know what I mean, But 950 00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:54,799 Speaker 3: they do. 951 00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:58,759 Speaker 2: You made a very very valid point, though, I like, 952 00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:00,960 Speaker 2: I hear you, and I feel like there's all this 953 00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:04,920 Speaker 2: conversation about you know, what women are asking for for men, 954 00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:07,479 Speaker 2: and my whole thing has always been the same. Don't 955 00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:10,560 Speaker 2: ask for what you don't have. That's it. That's it, 956 00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:14,279 Speaker 2: Like you want somebody who makes six figures, because no, 957 00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:16,919 Speaker 2: I guess't disagree with that too, Because we can't both 958 00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:18,719 Speaker 2: be broke. What are we gonna both do together? Like 959 00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,560 Speaker 2: somebody has to have more than that. Work on yourself, 960 00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:25,640 Speaker 2: Work on yourself a little bit. I mean, let me 961 00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,680 Speaker 2: manifest my life looking at your life, I mean, and 962 00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:30,400 Speaker 2: there is a space for inspiration. 963 00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,640 Speaker 3: Inspiration, There is a space for inspiration. 964 00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:34,840 Speaker 2: And I don't think when I say you should be 965 00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,560 Speaker 2: looking for your equal I shouldn't say you guys have 966 00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,600 Speaker 2: to be equal on everything, right, because there is a 967 00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:43,480 Speaker 2: need for contrast, and that's what's gonna help you grow 968 00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,360 Speaker 2: and help you create more discipline. You know. Again, before 969 00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,000 Speaker 2: when I got here, I was telling y'all one of 970 00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:51,120 Speaker 2: the things that I'm grateful about y'all is that y'all 971 00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:54,400 Speaker 2: not as organized as me and I'm but I'm always 972 00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:58,640 Speaker 2: grateful for y'all's contrast because it reminds me one to 973 00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:03,160 Speaker 2: stay on my shit. Two to have grace and grace 974 00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:06,560 Speaker 2: and compassion is so important in any sort of relationship. 975 00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:10,160 Speaker 2: But there are things that you guys have that I 976 00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:14,600 Speaker 2: don't as much. I love people, but I struggle with 977 00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:18,160 Speaker 2: the togetherness of it. Right. So that's also me being 978 00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,520 Speaker 2: accountable to being like y'all invited me out like three 979 00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:23,279 Speaker 2: times and I was like, yeah, bitch, sleep. So it's 980 00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,480 Speaker 2: so I do still see us as equals, as friends 981 00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:30,160 Speaker 2: and co creators, and it's not that we're equal on 982 00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:32,560 Speaker 2: all of the same levels. When we get on the 983 00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,600 Speaker 2: phone and we're talking about shit, I'm telling y'all, this 984 00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,360 Speaker 2: is how you can move forward in business, this is 985 00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,479 Speaker 2: how we can move forward in life. And you guys 986 00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:42,520 Speaker 2: are just by mere existence reminding me the importance of 987 00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,040 Speaker 2: a counterpart, and so we're still equal. So it doesn't 988 00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,840 Speaker 2: have to be in all everything that I have, you 989 00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:50,399 Speaker 2: need to have in double. It's we need to have 990 00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:54,880 Speaker 2: a similar mindset, similar goals, and we need to be 991 00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,920 Speaker 2: able to lift each other up in different ways. Let 992 00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:01,000 Speaker 2: me be more clear on that. P help, but think like, okay, 993 00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:03,440 Speaker 2: like this man has a six figure salary, I have 994 00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:07,080 Speaker 2: a six figure mentality or six figure like you know, 995 00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:10,120 Speaker 2: I'm a multiplier, Like I'm gonna I'm gonna help you 996 00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:11,960 Speaker 2: invest that and we're gonna do that together because I 997 00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,520 Speaker 2: know that I'm a valuable asset to this relationship and 998 00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:17,520 Speaker 2: to those six figures. And it's like the difference between like, 999 00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,319 Speaker 2: you know, being inspired and then but also but then 1000 00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:24,920 Speaker 2: having inspiration versus expectation basically, you know. And it's like 1001 00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:27,239 Speaker 2: it's one thing to be inspired by someone, that's another 1002 00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:29,919 Speaker 2: thing to say, like, well I deserve this, you better 1003 00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,840 Speaker 2: give me that, and I don't have it, but you do. 1004 00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,680 Speaker 2: So yeah, And I think even on the flip side, 1005 00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,960 Speaker 2: maybe he's not a six figure earner or she's not 1006 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,719 Speaker 2: a six figure earner right now, and we keep telling 1007 00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,480 Speaker 2: people like you can you can't date off for potential, No, 1008 00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,280 Speaker 2: but you can date off a trajectory. You can say 1009 00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,840 Speaker 2: your mindset is there. I see you have the discipline, 1010 00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,920 Speaker 2: the consistency, and you're moving up and I'm willing to 1011 00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:54,440 Speaker 2: be a part of that journey. Like, I have to 1012 00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:56,480 Speaker 2: be honest with myself. I'll be like, girl, be fucking 1013 00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:59,160 Speaker 2: for real. I'm a seven figure earner. Do you know 1014 00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:03,440 Speaker 2: how many five black I think I'm dulle with bitches? Mean, 1015 00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:09,040 Speaker 2: I think I think I ask in three months seven 1016 00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:12,160 Speaker 2: figure earners there are. So it's it's I'm not saying 1017 00:50:12,200 --> 00:50:14,319 Speaker 2: like he's got to have as much money as me, 1018 00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:17,319 Speaker 2: but I'm like, he's got to understand and value my 1019 00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:20,480 Speaker 2: desire to contribute meaningfully into the world. So if when 1020 00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:23,279 Speaker 2: I'm dating someone, if I'm like, oh, I'm working, I'm 1021 00:50:23,280 --> 00:50:26,000 Speaker 2: working and it's not even impeding on my ability to 1022 00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,000 Speaker 2: spend time with them, but I'm like I'm working, They're like, oh, 1023 00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:32,239 Speaker 2: you work too much. Last conversation because when I was 1024 00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,200 Speaker 2: talking to my wealth manager, they're like, what age do 1025 00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:35,440 Speaker 2: you want to retire? And I was like, WHOA, why 1026 00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:37,880 Speaker 2: would I do that? I love what I do. I 1027 00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:41,239 Speaker 2: will do what I'm doing in some capacity to my end, 1028 00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:43,920 Speaker 2: and so I probably need to be with someone who 1029 00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:47,560 Speaker 2: who understands that my goal isn't to work until I'm 1030 00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:51,399 Speaker 2: seventy and then die at seventy five, like I want 1031 00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:54,799 Speaker 2: to retire in small bits now a month, a month 1032 00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,960 Speaker 2: in another country, but then eleven months working hard, like 1033 00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,239 Speaker 2: it's the now. So it's it's not that he has 1034 00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:02,759 Speaker 2: to have everything that I have, but it needs to 1035 00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:06,399 Speaker 2: understand that my mindset and where I'm headed in life 1036 00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:09,480 Speaker 2: and to feel like there is some there is some 1037 00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:12,640 Speaker 2: alignment in that path. You know, you said something earlier 1038 00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:17,560 Speaker 2: too about women or people date and then they you know, 1039 00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,480 Speaker 2: to be chosen and they're like, damn, do I even 1040 00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:20,160 Speaker 2: like this person? 1041 00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:21,080 Speaker 3: Did I choose? 1042 00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,160 Speaker 4: But I think a lot of times two people are 1043 00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:24,800 Speaker 4: like do you even like yourself? 1044 00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:26,120 Speaker 2: Start there? 1045 00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:29,279 Speaker 4: You know, like do you genuinely genuinely like yourself? Because 1046 00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,280 Speaker 4: I think one of the things I think about often, 1047 00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,799 Speaker 4: or I have thought about throughout my life is like 1048 00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:37,400 Speaker 4: I one of my biggest fears was like dying and 1049 00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:39,239 Speaker 4: not feeling like I've I. 1050 00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:43,680 Speaker 3: Was who I said I wanted to be. That scared 1051 00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:44,320 Speaker 3: me more than. 1052 00:51:44,160 --> 00:51:46,919 Speaker 4: Anything I'm like, if I die, and I haven't even 1053 00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,080 Speaker 4: like cracked the code to the things that I like, 1054 00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:51,960 Speaker 4: I want to do, And so it really kind of 1055 00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:54,840 Speaker 4: made me be more accountable about my actions and about 1056 00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:57,840 Speaker 4: my growth and about am I being the person that 1057 00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:01,080 Speaker 4: I saw myself being as a child, you know, in motion? 1058 00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:03,719 Speaker 4: And like, am I and does the things that the 1059 00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:05,440 Speaker 4: actions that I do and the steps that I take 1060 00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:08,000 Speaker 4: are they leading to that path? And I think sometimes 1061 00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:11,239 Speaker 4: if we're caught up on just getting stuff and accumulating 1062 00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,919 Speaker 4: people and relationships, you like, you haven't if you haven't 1063 00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:16,640 Speaker 4: taken the chance to be like, damn, do I even 1064 00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:19,120 Speaker 4: like who I am right now? Am I even close 1065 00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:20,800 Speaker 4: to what I thought I was going to be? And granted, 1066 00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,800 Speaker 4: like our time frame as children is fucked, Like I'm gonna. 1067 00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:24,760 Speaker 1: Be thirty, I'm own the house? 1068 00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:30,760 Speaker 4: No, but like just understanding, like overall, do you even 1069 00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:34,879 Speaker 4: like who you are? Because I think also sometimes we're 1070 00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,400 Speaker 4: caught up on judging other people, not realizing that that 1071 00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:41,040 Speaker 4: judgment is because we're often judging ourselves, like oh my god, 1072 00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:42,840 Speaker 4: look how fucking silly they are, Look how stupid that 1073 00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:45,520 Speaker 4: idea is. It's like because you're scared that your idea 1074 00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:47,640 Speaker 4: is stupid, or you're scared that you're gonna look so 1075 00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:50,120 Speaker 4: dumb and silly, and so you project that you know 1076 00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:53,360 Speaker 4: onto other people, and it is it's hard to stop 1077 00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:55,960 Speaker 4: and be like, damn, am I being judgmental? Because I'm 1078 00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:59,160 Speaker 4: a hater ass bitch and sometimes you're the hater ass bitch, 1079 00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:01,680 Speaker 4: you know, Like, are things making me fel secure? Do 1080 00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:03,600 Speaker 4: I have an attitude against this bitch because she's making 1081 00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:05,600 Speaker 4: seven figures and she's shaking her ass at the gym, 1082 00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,279 Speaker 4: you know, And I didn't even go to the gym today, 1083 00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:08,960 Speaker 4: but here she is shaking that ass at the gym, 1084 00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:10,839 Speaker 4: you know what I mean. And I think in order 1085 00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:13,120 Speaker 4: to receive joy, you kind of have to like make 1086 00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:16,759 Speaker 4: sure that you're in alignment in your own fucking and yourself. 1087 00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:21,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, for sure, and I think like to jump 1088 00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,879 Speaker 2: on that. Until you accept yourself, you will always walk 1089 00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,120 Speaker 2: into a room and feel like a fraud. You will 1090 00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:29,920 Speaker 2: always question the people who love you, because how the 1091 00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:31,680 Speaker 2: fuck do you love me when I don't love me? 1092 00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:35,400 Speaker 2: Either you're lying or you're stupid. Either way, you know, 1093 00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:37,799 Speaker 2: we tend to push people, you know away for that, 1094 00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:41,440 Speaker 2: and so all of it turns back to believing yourself 1095 00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:43,480 Speaker 2: is worthy of that. How do I know that I'm 1096 00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:45,000 Speaker 2: worthy of love? Because I love me? 1097 00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:50,000 Speaker 4: So what I've taken from this conversation is that the 1098 00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:53,920 Speaker 4: root of manifestation, the root of you know, like really 1099 00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,640 Speaker 4: executing this this this life, of your dreams or of 1100 00:53:57,640 --> 00:54:01,560 Speaker 4: your visions, is you have to go inside first. In 1101 00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,520 Speaker 4: order to blossom, and to bloom, you have to address yourself. 1102 00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:06,800 Speaker 4: You have to be willing to go deep into the 1103 00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:11,800 Speaker 4: trenches without anyone and examine the things, because without that work, 1104 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:14,920 Speaker 4: you can never attract other things. The work and the 1105 00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:18,239 Speaker 4: manifestation always starts with you, like am I drinking enough water? 1106 00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:20,920 Speaker 4: Am I working on like the things that make me better? 1107 00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:22,560 Speaker 4: And I think in turn, as you. 1108 00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:26,680 Speaker 2: Do that, that outpours into the universe and then you 1109 00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:30,720 Speaker 2: can really gravitate towards the things that you actually see 1110 00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:33,040 Speaker 2: in your mind and feel worthy of them because you know, 1111 00:54:33,719 --> 00:54:35,960 Speaker 2: actually I like who I am because I've gone within 1112 00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,680 Speaker 2: figured it the fuck out. Yeah, No, it's true. And 1113 00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:40,719 Speaker 2: I think also like a lot of times women need 1114 00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:42,719 Speaker 2: permission to even be in to do that work. And 1115 00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:45,839 Speaker 2: that's why like our retreats are so like I've seen 1116 00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:48,200 Speaker 2: the transformations with these women that come on our retreats 1117 00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:51,880 Speaker 2: because they finally have made the space to say I 1118 00:54:51,920 --> 00:54:54,239 Speaker 2: am a hating ass bitch. Let me go explore that 1119 00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,840 Speaker 2: real quick. And granted I had when I've had a 1120 00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:58,319 Speaker 2: few women that showed up to the retreat and I 1121 00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,120 Speaker 2: was like, ooh, you want it m And I had 1122 00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:03,080 Speaker 2: to be and I had to find compassion. Thank you 1123 00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:07,600 Speaker 2: for the contract for real, and I had to say, Erica, Okay, 1124 00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:11,680 Speaker 2: you've met this person before in other spaces and it 1125 00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:13,759 Speaker 2: didn't go, well, how are we going to be different here? 1126 00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:17,960 Speaker 2: Because actually you're here to show these women compassion and 1127 00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:22,759 Speaker 2: give them space to say, okay, I want to show 1128 00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:25,480 Speaker 2: up differently moving forward. And you know, a lot of 1129 00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:27,239 Speaker 2: the women that come on our retreats, they come by 1130 00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:31,160 Speaker 2: themselves because that's like they're already ready to make the 1131 00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:34,480 Speaker 2: first step of saying okay, like I don't know anyone here. 1132 00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:36,719 Speaker 2: The power of the yes, just saying yes to showing 1133 00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:39,920 Speaker 2: up is the transformation. Yeah, the biggest part of it 1134 00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:42,640 Speaker 2: that and like I don't I don't know anyone here, 1135 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:46,000 Speaker 2: no one knows me from this or that I can 1136 00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:49,280 Speaker 2: show up however the fuck I want to moving forward? 1137 00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:52,400 Speaker 2: And the work that we do out there is really 1138 00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:57,319 Speaker 2: about breaking breaking you down, not in a bad way, 1139 00:55:57,440 --> 00:56:00,400 Speaker 2: but like disarming you and taking off the me and 1140 00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:04,040 Speaker 2: really looking in the mirror. And sometimes it's ugly and 1141 00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:07,759 Speaker 2: like it's scary to do that, but hopefully by the 1142 00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:10,680 Speaker 2: time you leave, you know, you feel a little bit 1143 00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,120 Speaker 2: the sun has kissed your skin and you're like, Okay, 1144 00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:15,600 Speaker 2: she's cute. She's got more work to do when she 1145 00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:18,840 Speaker 2: gets home, but we're gonna start here, yeah, you know. 1146 00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:21,600 Speaker 2: And that's why, like, I feel so grateful to be 1147 00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:24,839 Speaker 2: in that space and in the space of wellness, because 1148 00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:27,279 Speaker 2: too it makes me have to meeting women from all 1149 00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:30,799 Speaker 2: these different parts of the world and different parts of 1150 00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:34,239 Speaker 2: their life has taught me such immense compassion in my 1151 00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,920 Speaker 2: everyday life because sometimes I feel like it's easy for 1152 00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:39,120 Speaker 2: me to like have compassion for people when I'm out 1153 00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:41,640 Speaker 2: the country and I don't know, I don't know these people. 1154 00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,640 Speaker 2: It's harder for me to have compassion for people that 1155 00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:47,920 Speaker 2: I actually know, that actually love and I'm like, fuck you. 1156 00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:49,920 Speaker 2: But I didn't say fuck you to the woman that 1157 00:56:50,040 --> 00:56:52,760 Speaker 2: was bitching over here in Costa Rica. I said, oh, honey, 1158 00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:56,040 Speaker 2: it's okay, Like let's talk, but to to someone who's 1159 00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:57,719 Speaker 2: maybe in my family, I'll be like, I don't really 1160 00:56:57,719 --> 00:56:59,520 Speaker 2: fuck with you, I don't like you, and I'm like, 1161 00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:03,239 Speaker 2: let's try to extend. Let's let's come back to like 1162 00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:06,360 Speaker 2: I try to have the costa rica mentality and be like, 1163 00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:09,279 Speaker 2: let's not do that here. Let's try to have more 1164 00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:13,480 Speaker 2: compassion because everyone is showing up in different spaces and 1165 00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:16,040 Speaker 2: places because of things that have happened or things that 1166 00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:20,280 Speaker 2: they haven't faced. But it's true, like it's an inside job. 1167 00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:23,440 Speaker 2: You have to do the work inside to really begin 1168 00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:25,800 Speaker 2: to like call in what you want outwardly. 1169 00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:29,960 Speaker 4: You know, you have to be accountable. Let that be 1170 00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:33,040 Speaker 4: the theme for the month. Try so you guys, can 1171 00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:36,320 Speaker 4: you know we had you guys join our fucking open 1172 00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:39,240 Speaker 4: challenge because we need accountability partners. We need as many 1173 00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:42,560 Speaker 4: as possible. We've really been intentional about you know, just 1174 00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:45,840 Speaker 4: doing this thirty day challenge one day thirty one day 1175 00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:50,600 Speaker 4: challenge more if you started early and just taking time 1176 00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:52,880 Speaker 4: out for yourself to like quiet all the noise and 1177 00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,840 Speaker 4: do breath work and meditate and do yoga because it's 1178 00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,440 Speaker 4: in those like quiet moments that you get the downloads. 1179 00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:00,000 Speaker 3: It's in taking the ten minutes. 1180 00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:02,640 Speaker 2: It's that you avoid the anxiety that is bound to 1181 00:58:02,640 --> 00:58:04,640 Speaker 2: come up when your kids ask you for fifty fucking 1182 00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:07,440 Speaker 2: things to eat four hundred times in one day. But 1183 00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:09,560 Speaker 2: the thing is, it is just like you have to 1184 00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:11,160 Speaker 2: go inside. In order to do that. 1185 00:58:11,240 --> 00:58:14,680 Speaker 4: It requires that you take time for yourself, and sometimes 1186 00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:17,440 Speaker 4: we neglect ourselves. It's easy to neglect ourselves and then 1187 00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:20,520 Speaker 4: we'd be expected a miracle like No, you have to 1188 00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:24,560 Speaker 4: take the time to channel whatever those thoughts are because 1189 00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,160 Speaker 4: sometimes all of our voices all the inner voices or 1190 00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:30,720 Speaker 4: voices of someone else's opinions of other people. So I mean, 1191 00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:32,040 Speaker 4: I don't know if you guys heard on our last 1192 00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:35,160 Speaker 4: episode that we are doing the Open Challenge. 1193 00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:35,760 Speaker 2: All of our. 1194 00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:39,480 Speaker 4: Listeners get the app for free for thirty one days, 1195 00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:43,400 Speaker 4: and it's really just joining the challenge by doing one exercise, 1196 00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:46,320 Speaker 4: one practice once a day. It could be like ten minutes, 1197 00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:49,120 Speaker 4: like what's ten minutes of your day and just being 1198 00:58:49,120 --> 00:58:53,040 Speaker 4: more intentional and really like this whole eldest shit like 1199 00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,960 Speaker 4: has been created because me and Erica decided to be 1200 00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:59,640 Speaker 4: intentional once a week and just show up as ourselves 1201 00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:01,360 Speaker 4: and then say, you know what, like this is who 1202 00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:03,880 Speaker 4: I've been, but I'm tired of that. I want to 1203 00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:05,760 Speaker 4: be somebody else and I want to do things different. 1204 00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:08,640 Speaker 4: And if you've been like following this journey for the 1205 00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:12,040 Speaker 4: last five years, you know that we've both fallen a 1206 00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:14,920 Speaker 4: lot of times, and we've both like judged, and we've 1207 00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,200 Speaker 4: both like made fucked up decisions and did a lot 1208 00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:19,840 Speaker 4: of shit, like changed our mind changed our minds, and 1209 00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:22,520 Speaker 4: we're allowed to do that, but we would never even 1210 00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:25,240 Speaker 4: have the opportunity to do that if we weren't like 1211 00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:29,400 Speaker 4: intentional about taking the time to figure out what the 1212 00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:31,800 Speaker 4: fuck is it that I actually want and having a 1213 00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:34,120 Speaker 4: friend and a tribe that is like whatever you want, 1214 00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,520 Speaker 4: you like it, I love it, you know. And yeah, 1215 00:59:37,520 --> 00:59:39,720 Speaker 4: I just want to encourage everyone just with this conversation, 1216 00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:43,320 Speaker 4: with this beginning beginning of the year. If you download 1217 00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:46,960 Speaker 4: the open download open up, join the challenge, it's just 1218 00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:50,240 Speaker 4: thirty one days. If you're out here in Venice, they 1219 00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:53,920 Speaker 4: have they have a live class. We should do a meetup, right, 1220 00:59:54,040 --> 00:59:57,240 Speaker 4: I'm gonna do a meetup, stay tuned for that. And 1221 00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,000 Speaker 4: I'm going to just invite you to be more intentional, 1222 00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:02,000 Speaker 4: to open up your world to manifest even easier. 1223 01:00:02,360 --> 01:00:04,360 Speaker 2: And if you need a trip, come to Costa Rica 1224 01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:07,360 Speaker 2: because it's coming up and I cannot wait. And and 1225 01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:11,760 Speaker 2: we were supposed to come to our last retreat, to 1226 01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:17,440 Speaker 2: our last but we're gonna we're we're going to do that. 1227 01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:19,280 Speaker 2: You're going to do that, but intentional. 1228 01:00:19,440 --> 01:00:21,360 Speaker 3: This menage friendship is about to blossom. 1229 01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:23,640 Speaker 2: Okay, I know I loved it when when those words 1230 01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:25,840 Speaker 2: came out of my mouth, I was like, the three ways. Yeah, yeah, 1231 01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:28,280 Speaker 2: that's what I said that I minted what no mistakes. 1232 01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:31,320 Speaker 2: So we're together. We're yeah, for sure. But if you 1233 01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:34,040 Speaker 2: feel called, because we're even, we balance each other. If 1234 01:00:34,040 --> 01:00:36,040 Speaker 2: you feel called, definitely check it out. There's still time 1235 01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:39,160 Speaker 2: to come. We have two sessions February second and February eleventh, 1236 01:00:39,320 --> 01:00:44,400 Speaker 2: and it's transformational, like it is literally like like a 1237 01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:47,600 Speaker 2: re like the like a super restart. It's like the 1238 01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:52,800 Speaker 2: intense restart. It's the master class. So click the episode 1239 01:00:53,240 --> 01:00:56,480 Speaker 2: link in this click the link in this episode description 1240 01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:57,920 Speaker 2: for more information. 1241 01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:04,840 Speaker 4: Yeah okay, oh yeah, before we leave today, I know, 1242 01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:06,760 Speaker 4: you know, a boo got shit to do. She's a 1243 01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:11,840 Speaker 4: very busy professional woman. But she picked a card and 1244 01:01:12,520 --> 01:01:14,760 Speaker 4: she picked the tennis swords reversed you know, we usually 1245 01:01:14,760 --> 01:01:16,400 Speaker 4: don't do reverse, but I actually know what this reverse 1246 01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:22,280 Speaker 4: card means. So shout out to mahogany Taro Kaushira for 1247 01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:25,720 Speaker 4: a blessing us with her black and brown cards that 1248 01:01:25,760 --> 01:01:30,280 Speaker 4: we love so much. So the tennis swords reversed indicates 1249 01:01:30,280 --> 01:01:33,160 Speaker 4: that you are combating an inevitable change or ending because 1250 01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:36,000 Speaker 4: you are not because you're not ready to face up 1251 01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:38,440 Speaker 4: to what is happening. However, the more you resist, the 1252 01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,120 Speaker 4: more the situation will continue to drag you. So it's 1253 01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:44,080 Speaker 4: time to rip off the bandage, however painful that might be, 1254 01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:46,640 Speaker 4: and get this over with so you can start fresh. 1255 01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,640 Speaker 4: Trust that everything is happening for a reason. Even though 1256 01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:52,680 Speaker 4: it may be difficult to understand what you're going through, no, 1257 01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:55,960 Speaker 4: it is leading to your personal growth and regeneration in 1258 01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:59,960 Speaker 4: the long term. Similarly, the tennis swords reverse may represent 1259 01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:03,680 Speaker 4: an old situation that ended badly. You are still carrying 1260 01:02:03,720 --> 01:02:06,000 Speaker 4: around wounds from it, but you have buried them so 1261 01:02:06,120 --> 01:02:08,440 Speaker 4: deeply that you do not realize they are still present 1262 01:02:08,480 --> 01:02:11,280 Speaker 4: and hurting you. These old pains need to be dealt 1263 01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:13,800 Speaker 4: with once and for all. It may be difficult to 1264 01:02:13,840 --> 01:02:15,920 Speaker 4: delve back in, but it's the only way to release 1265 01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,200 Speaker 4: yourself of this pain and allow it to pass from 1266 01:02:18,200 --> 01:02:21,880 Speaker 4: your life. It encourages you to reevaluate your circumstances and 1267 01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:24,480 Speaker 4: let go of aspects of your life that no longer 1268 01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:27,600 Speaker 4: serve you. Rather than dwelling on the painful pass, look 1269 01:02:27,640 --> 01:02:30,520 Speaker 4: ahead and realize how the events free you. Free you 1270 01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:32,840 Speaker 4: up to reshape your life and choose a new direction 1271 01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:36,120 Speaker 4: for yourself. You can free yourself of your past and 1272 01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:39,680 Speaker 4: create a new sense of self. Happy fucking New Year. 1273 01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:42,520 Speaker 2: Happy fucking New Year. I already know exactly what that's about. 1274 01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:45,480 Speaker 2: You do we got time? Do you got time? I 1275 01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:47,640 Speaker 2: know I don't think you got a lot of time. 1276 01:02:47,680 --> 01:02:48,800 Speaker 2: I don't got a lot of time. But let me 1277 01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:54,400 Speaker 2: tell you what happened. So I discovered yoga and I 1278 01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,160 Speaker 2: didn't discover yoga. I just cover yoga for myself. It's 1279 01:02:57,640 --> 01:03:03,440 Speaker 2: big claims, backing them up right, exactly two thousand thirty 1280 01:03:03,440 --> 01:03:06,920 Speaker 2: four to be exact. So yoga saved my life, It 1281 01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:11,440 Speaker 2: really really did. And immediately when I really found myself 1282 01:03:11,440 --> 01:03:13,800 Speaker 2: and I found my practice, remember I was like, I 1283 01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:17,320 Speaker 2: want other women to feel like this. So trap Yoga 1284 01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:20,600 Speaker 2: Bay the brand. The company took off within like literally 1285 01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:24,920 Speaker 2: a week of me starting three years in right before 1286 01:03:24,960 --> 01:03:28,080 Speaker 2: the pandemic, I was still touring ten months out of 1287 01:03:28,160 --> 01:03:31,120 Speaker 2: the year, and y'all, I fucking hated it. Like I 1288 01:03:31,160 --> 01:03:34,960 Speaker 2: just was so tired. I really, to be honest, I 1289 01:03:34,960 --> 01:03:37,800 Speaker 2: couldn't distinguish who was Brittany and who was trap Yoga Bay. 1290 01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:40,480 Speaker 2: Like I just was like full time trap Yoga Bay 1291 01:03:40,480 --> 01:03:42,840 Speaker 2: and just did not have enough of my personal life. 1292 01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:45,680 Speaker 2: And I had to go back to therapy because I 1293 01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:49,000 Speaker 2: felt like I had betrayed myself. The one thing that 1294 01:03:49,080 --> 01:03:52,120 Speaker 2: I loved so much, my yoga practice. I sold it. 1295 01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:54,560 Speaker 2: I sold it every time I would hit my mat. 1296 01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:57,080 Speaker 2: It was never about my personal development anymore. It was 1297 01:03:57,320 --> 01:03:59,240 Speaker 2: oh shit, I really love this flow. Let me write 1298 01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:01,040 Speaker 2: it down, WHATSO will go with this so that I 1299 01:04:01,040 --> 01:04:03,080 Speaker 2: can teach it. Blah blah blah blah blah. I was 1300 01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:06,400 Speaker 2: so happy when the pandemic happened for the reason of 1301 01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:10,280 Speaker 2: not having to teach yoga. So everyone's always like when 1302 01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:12,480 Speaker 2: you're gonna open a yoga studio, and that would give 1303 01:04:12,520 --> 01:04:15,360 Speaker 2: me so much anxiety. But I still know that my 1304 01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:19,200 Speaker 2: work in teaching yoga was not done. So I really 1305 01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:22,840 Speaker 2: like talk about manifesting I in my healing journey to 1306 01:04:22,920 --> 01:04:25,800 Speaker 2: get back to my mat, I learned to separate my practice, 1307 01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:27,560 Speaker 2: which is why you never even see me do yoga 1308 01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:29,560 Speaker 2: on Instagram anymore. If you notice people like do you 1309 01:04:29,600 --> 01:04:30,200 Speaker 2: teach yoga? 1310 01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:30,479 Speaker 1: Bitch? 1311 01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:35,080 Speaker 2: But to say, these are the rules of what the 1312 01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,000 Speaker 2: universe will have to bring to me for me to 1313 01:04:37,120 --> 01:04:42,400 Speaker 2: recognize and go back to teaching yoga so fucking amazing. 1314 01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:45,640 Speaker 2: So now fast forward, I get a call about a 1315 01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:50,120 Speaker 2: partnership and everything that I wanted was mad and like 1316 01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:53,120 Speaker 2: my demands were ridiculous. I was like, I don't want 1317 01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:55,000 Speaker 2: to pay for the venue. I don't want to have 1318 01:04:55,080 --> 01:04:58,400 Speaker 2: to hire people. I'm not dealing with set design. It 1319 01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:02,800 Speaker 2: needs to be all profit profit profit. I want like 1320 01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:07,400 Speaker 2: my face plastered somewhere like literally these which sounds ridiculous, 1321 01:05:07,400 --> 01:05:10,520 Speaker 2: But is it ridiculous if you can get it? No? Okay? 1322 01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:15,200 Speaker 2: So so that felt like what the things it are 1323 01:05:15,200 --> 01:05:17,920 Speaker 2: that I'm still letting go of. I'm still like, if 1324 01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:21,280 Speaker 2: you can hear, I'm not as confident talking about it, 1325 01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:24,360 Speaker 2: not because it isn't happening, because I'm like the louder 1326 01:05:24,400 --> 01:05:26,360 Speaker 2: I say it, and the more I say it, I'm like, fuck, 1327 01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:32,840 Speaker 2: I'm opening for satellite yoga studios in partnership with one 1328 01:05:32,840 --> 01:05:38,040 Speaker 2: of the biggest fucking hotel chains in the world, and 1329 01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:40,720 Speaker 2: I don't have to worry about so much of the things. 1330 01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:43,800 Speaker 2: I can just focus on doing what I love, which 1331 01:05:43,880 --> 01:05:47,000 Speaker 2: is sharing my practice. So I think a lot of 1332 01:05:47,040 --> 01:05:50,280 Speaker 2: the so many of the wounds and betrayal and heart 1333 01:05:50,320 --> 01:05:53,360 Speaker 2: life lessons I learned through the rise of the Trap 1334 01:05:53,400 --> 01:05:56,680 Speaker 2: Yoga Bay brand, and I know that that's still stuff 1335 01:05:56,680 --> 01:06:00,400 Speaker 2: that I have to work through. And everything is everything 1336 01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:03,479 Speaker 2: is everything, So thank you. Thank you for saying that 1337 01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:05,400 Speaker 2: I was holding my heart the whole well, thank you 1338 01:06:05,440 --> 01:06:07,800 Speaker 2: for sharing that. Thank you for sharing that vulnerability, because 1339 01:06:07,800 --> 01:06:10,840 Speaker 2: I think some people think, especially like people that are 1340 01:06:10,840 --> 01:06:13,120 Speaker 2: experts in their field, that they've mastered everything, that there's 1341 01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:16,800 Speaker 2: no fear. Confidence coaches don't have fears, they don't have insecurities. 1342 01:06:17,280 --> 01:06:20,560 Speaker 2: Like that's a big ass claim that I wouldn't say. 1343 01:06:20,840 --> 01:06:22,720 Speaker 2: I think it's an assumption that people may you know, 1344 01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:26,880 Speaker 2: so I really it makes it makes you human, and 1345 01:06:26,920 --> 01:06:30,880 Speaker 2: I love you for your humanness. Thank you, and y'all 1346 01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:32,680 Speaker 2: come into a yoga class aside from the one that 1347 01:06:32,680 --> 01:06:35,080 Speaker 2: I'm going to teach at an upcoming retreat. We're working 1348 01:06:35,120 --> 01:06:37,920 Speaker 2: it out. But when you won't have to pull up 1349 01:06:37,960 --> 01:06:38,680 Speaker 2: to the moxie. 1350 01:06:38,760 --> 01:06:40,040 Speaker 3: No, for sure, we're gonna pull up. 1351 01:06:40,120 --> 01:06:40,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. 1352 01:06:41,080 --> 01:06:41,800 Speaker 3: Support our girl. 1353 01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:43,720 Speaker 2: Well, thank you so much for covering. 1354 01:06:43,800 --> 01:06:45,200 Speaker 3: Thank you for me. 1355 01:06:45,360 --> 01:06:48,880 Speaker 2: This was beautiful and amazing. Always so much gratitude and 1356 01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:52,320 Speaker 2: love and like, let's continue to manifest the best fucking 1357 01:06:52,400 --> 01:06:54,680 Speaker 2: lives of our dreams because we could have whatever we 1358 01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:59,400 Speaker 2: want and we will And mm hmm, got a dream? 1359 01:07:01,360 --> 01:07:03,320 Speaker 2: Can you tell our people where they can find you? 1360 01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:03,919 Speaker 1: Oh? 1361 01:07:04,080 --> 01:07:06,400 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, I'm over here making assumptions. Y'all know 1362 01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:11,800 Speaker 2: me trap yoga bay t r ap yoga, b A 1363 01:07:12,000 --> 01:07:15,640 Speaker 2: E everywhere. If you're looking for me somewhere, just fucking 1364 01:07:15,640 --> 01:07:17,920 Speaker 2: google it. I'm pretty sure I'm there. She's there at 1365 01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:21,760 Speaker 2: googled her and make sure you go subscribe to our 1366 01:07:21,800 --> 01:07:25,680 Speaker 2: YouTube channel. Please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. 1367 01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:30,000 Speaker 2: Please please please make algorithm lean in our favor. In 1368 01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:33,240 Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, make sure you check out our retreat 1369 01:07:33,320 --> 01:07:35,200 Speaker 2: at the Good Vibe Retreat on Instagram. 1370 01:07:35,360 --> 01:07:38,240 Speaker 4: The perfect way to start the new year, release some Shit, 1371 01:07:38,760 --> 01:07:42,120 Speaker 4: have a transformation, meet new friends, go out of the country, 1372 01:07:42,360 --> 01:07:46,640 Speaker 4: be titties out barefoot in the beach with us, and 1373 01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,800 Speaker 4: if you're looking for a podcast studio, join us here 1374 01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:53,960 Speaker 4: in lovely Sunny Studio City, California, at our new studio 1375 01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:57,080 Speaker 4: where you can also have this beautiful set. 1376 01:07:57,480 --> 01:08:01,120 Speaker 2: Yes you can, and we'll see you guys next week. 1377 01:08:01,360 --> 01:08:25,080 Speaker 1: Bye. 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