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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Abby is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Mark.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Abby, how long

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Speaker 2: has the vinces you heard from Mark?

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Speaker 3: It's then about a week?

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Speaker 4: About a week? Okay? Have you tried to reach out

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Speaker 4: to him multiple times?

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Speaker 5: I did a few times, but you know, I if

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Speaker 5: someone doesn't respond, like continuing to message them, does it normally?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I did, like one and then I did one more, and.

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Speaker 1: Then I saw, well, let's hear about your date and

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Speaker 1: how you met him and see if we can't figure

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Speaker 1: out why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we met.

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Speaker 5: We actually got sat up through Mark's coworker and I

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Speaker 5: have Mark's co worker's wife yoga class. I attend that class.

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Speaker 5: So me and a Serena, which is mark coworker's wife,

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Speaker 5: we grabbed coffee and it was kind of like Serena

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Speaker 5: recruited me to go out on a date with Mark.

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Speaker 5: But she and her husband Josh, are always on the

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Speaker 5: hunt for a wife for Mark, and Serena thought I

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Speaker 5: would be perfect.

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Speaker 3: So Mark and I met up at a Thi.

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Speaker 5: Restaurant that has amazing tropical drinks, and we shared food

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Speaker 5: and chatted about our favorite thing and we had so

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Speaker 5: much in common and tonight was so good.

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Speaker 3: We ended up going back to Mark's house for like

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Speaker 3: a little nightcap a sip.

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Speaker 4: We're like, a, wow, what what is that?

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Speaker 1: I was looking for a nicer way to say it

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Speaker 1: came out with sounds, so I'm really sorry.

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Speaker 4: Is it just a drink or or.

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Speaker 6: Both?

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Speaker 5: Okay, I mean yeah, I was super like attracted to him,

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Speaker 5: and like I could tell that there were like instance

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Speaker 5: sparks between both of us, and it was just like

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Speaker 5: easy and effortless. So yeah, we ended up hooking up.

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Speaker 5: And then afterwards Mark kept talking about his job and

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Speaker 5: how close he was to a promotion, but I was

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Speaker 5: kind of bored by it, so I pretended to obviously.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thinking, like maybe he knew I was pretending.

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Speaker 5: About No, I mean, he he did like mention that

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Speaker 5: I breathed. I breathed like differently when I'm in like

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Speaker 5: different sleeping.

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Speaker 3: Phases, So I feel like, maybe, huh, a little buss.

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Speaker 5: And I mean, I'm really excited and I want to

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Speaker 5: support like this promotion journey and all of that, but

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Speaker 5: the time was just like wanting to enjoy my posts

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Speaker 5: playtime piece. And that was the nicest way to get

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Speaker 5: him to shut up by pretending I was asleep.

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Speaker 4: So what do you want to say to him?

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Speaker 5: Well, I want to explain myself in that, Like it

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Speaker 5: might have seemed rude, but that wasn't like I had

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Speaker 5: good intentions.

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Speaker 7: It's like it wasn't my it wasn't my plans.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 4: out for you.

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song, come back, and then call

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Speaker 2: and see if it's us why he's ghosting you, and

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Speaker 2: see if you still want another date after we find

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Speaker 2: out the reason.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, sound good.

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Speaker 2: Plus i'll come back and get your first day follow

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Speaker 2: up next right in a middle of your first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and if you're just joining us. Abby is

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Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude

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Speaker 2: named Mark, and it might be because she was bored

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Speaker 2: by him. We're about to call and see if you'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: another date. Before we do that, Abby wanted to you

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Speaker 2: refresh everybody's memory on your situation.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we were sat up by Mark coworkers, and we

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Speaker 5: went out to dinner and had drinks and had like

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Speaker 5: a great night. We went back to Mark's place for

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Speaker 5: a nightcab and we ended up cooking up and after that,

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Speaker 5: I wanted to go to sleep, but Mark kept talking

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Speaker 5: about his job and his promotion he might be getting.

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Speaker 3: So I just pretended to be asleep.

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Speaker 5: And I think he might have noticed, and that's why

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Speaker 5: he's not talking to me.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, man, let's see if we can figure

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Speaker 2: it out right for us to call him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, here we go. Hi, Man, speak to Mark please.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Mark.

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Speaker 4: Hey Mark, what's up?

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Speaker 8: Man?

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 4: My name is Jewbell and I host the radio show.

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Speaker 4: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Mark, the show's here.

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Speaker 4: My name is Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria. Because you're cool? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you ever listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 9: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Wow? Yeah? Sometimes?

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Speaker 4: Okay cool?

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Speaker 6: Wa Wait a minute, I think I know where you're going.

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Speaker 10: What is this where you guys like call someone after

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Speaker 10: they went they met someone.

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Speaker 2: Yes it is. It's called the first day follow up,

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Speaker 2: where you go out on a date with somebody and

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Speaker 2: you ghost them. They can ask us to get you

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Speaker 2: on the phone and find out what happened. So we

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Speaker 2: got an email about you, Mark, Oh boy, it's from Abby.

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Speaker 2: Do you mind telling us about your day with Abby

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Speaker 2: and why you're not why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm sure she told her by the day right,

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Speaker 6: it was pretty fun.

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Speaker 10: But I guess I'll just say that, yes, I'm ghosting

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Speaker 10: her for the reason is because.

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Speaker 6: She used my razor. Like did she tell you we

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Speaker 6: went back to my place after a date?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 10: She says she wanted to go like freshen up. But

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Speaker 10: I never crossed my mind that she would use my razor.

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Speaker 10: And I don't like sharing any personal items, Like I

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Speaker 10: don't share my razors, not even my tooth brushs like,

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Speaker 10: not even with like the level of my life.

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Speaker 6: I feel like it's so gross.

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Speaker 10: And I thought it was so entitled of her just

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Speaker 10: march into my bathroom and just use my razor. And

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Speaker 10: I know she used it because light little brown hair.

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Speaker 6: Oh this is so gross to me. So yeah, I

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Speaker 6: ghosted her. That's the reason.

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Speaker 4: When when was this that she used your razor?

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Speaker 10: I'd say, like, I guess she used it before we

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Speaker 10: I don't know what she tell.

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Speaker 4: You, but she said, you guys had fun at your place.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Yeah, we got like cozy with each other.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, she must have used that before that, because then

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Speaker 10: I didn't notice until.

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Speaker 6: I use the restroom in the middle of the night

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Speaker 6: and I noticed it. And also it wasn't like she

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Speaker 6: put it back where it was.

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Speaker 10: It was like fully out, like I don't even leave

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Speaker 10: my razor out, It's like in a drawer, and like

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Speaker 10: she had it out on the stank to sit in.

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Speaker 7: The hairs with.

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Speaker 10: It was gross, and she was just making herself at home.

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Speaker 10: Like both of those were just to turn off to me.

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Speaker 2: Well, thanks for telling us. I mean, yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I mean I probably wouldn't care if somebody use my razor.

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Speaker 1: But also I mean I probably think it was funny,

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Speaker 1: but it might be a little bit interesting.

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Speaker 4: Mark, I mean is on the phone and has been

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Speaker 4: listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: I forgot I love this part.

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Speaker 9: I I yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: I had no idea about like the razor.

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Speaker 5: I didn't think it was up take of a deal,

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Speaker 5: and I just like I wanted to say, like, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 5: I pretended to like be asleep. I kind of thought

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Speaker 5: that's why you were not talking to me.

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Speaker 6: You were pretending to be asleep. What just well dream

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Speaker 6: what like.

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Speaker 5: Afterwards when you were talking about your promotion and stuff,

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Speaker 5: I was just kind of zoning out like I normally

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Speaker 5: do after right after that time, and I just wow, wow,

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Speaker 5: And I thought maybe you knew that I did that

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Speaker 5: and that's why you were mad at me. But like,

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Speaker 5: I'm really sorry that I need anyways, And.

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Speaker 6: No, I actually thought I put you to sleep, and

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Speaker 6: I was actually like proud of.

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Speaker 7: That, you know, I mean, you did it was amazing

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Speaker 7: and you did a very good job.

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Speaker 3: So I have no complaints.

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Speaker 5: And I didn't think like the razor would beat up

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Speaker 5: big of a deal because you know, I was doing

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Speaker 5: it for you. I was trying to, you know, look

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Speaker 5: as fast as I could. I wasn't trying to just

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Speaker 5: use your razor for no reason.

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Speaker 6: Well that's not the only thing you did for me.

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Speaker 8: We're saying the radio, Well, Mark, would you like another

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Speaker 8: date with Abby?

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Speaker 4: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 2: I mean, can you get past the razor using I

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Speaker 2: mean she was thinking about you, and I'll.

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Speaker 6: Buy I'll buy a razor. Oh by yes, yes I

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Speaker 6: would yes, wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean i'd love to.

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Speaker 5: And I can promise you this time like I won't,

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Speaker 5: I won't use a razor.

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Speaker 3: I will stay far away from it.

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Speaker 6: I'll get you a new one. I mean you don't

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Speaker 6: need him now the well.

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Speaker 4: Hair does grow back?

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Speaker 6: Well, what are we having this date? How far the

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Speaker 6: future we have this day?

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Speaker 3: Well, I'll shave before the date.

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Speaker 7: Okay, right, you will first date follow up