1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects Oh shit were on an air. 3 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 1: Welcome back to you another Catholey Reckless episode with your 4 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 1: girl Jess. Hilarious because what I'll be doing, I'll be 5 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,280 Speaker 1: fixing mess y'all. All right, let's get straight into it. 6 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: We got a juicy story today. We don't have any 7 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: voice memos. We just got straight words, y'all. This person 8 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:35,200 Speaker 1: wrote me a book, but it's gonna be good. Listen, Jess, 9 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: I'm back and damn just I'm back, and yeah, I 10 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: really need your help. Thank you again. Okay, So right now, 11 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: me and my ex have been dealing with each other 12 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: on and off for about four years. And yes, the 13 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: question you're probably wondering, was it his fault? Yes, it's 14 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 1: his fault every time. I haven't saw him in about 15 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: three months until recently I invited him to my hotel 16 00:00:58,240 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: for a drink. I don't know why I did it. 17 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 1: I mean because you missed him. You was probably already 18 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: drinking and was like, shit, I need a little dicky dicky. 19 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 1: So then you called him. Let me continue. I was 20 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 1: just feeling spontaneous and I was bored Okay. We sat 21 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: in the lobby and literally talked for like five hours 22 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: and it was very positive. Oh, y'all missed each other. Honey. 23 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:19,479 Speaker 1: It was like I was talking to a whole new 24 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: person and I kind of was feeling him again. Oh 25 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,680 Speaker 1: I know, that's right. That's what happened. When you create time, 26 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: when you put time in between you and a person, 27 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: or create space in between you and a person, it 28 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 1: could be for the better, it could be for the worse. 29 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: So they were talking for five hours, Okay, So I 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 1: invited him to stay. Oh oh, and when I tell you, 31 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,559 Speaker 1: the night was amazing, it was amazing. And I said 32 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 1: amazing like that because she had all cats y'all. We 33 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 1: watched our favorite shows and movies and ordered our favorite 34 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: food like we used to, and also did shroms. Oh yeah, 35 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: I know that sex was ball Doc kill On. Oh yeah, 36 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: all right. He ended up going to sleep before me 37 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: and leaving me up with a racing mind. Oh yeah, 38 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: when you on shrooms, y'all just want to let you 39 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: know your mind wanders even when you don't want it to. 40 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: That is a high you cannot control. So I know 41 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:06,560 Speaker 1: she was going through it. Wait, how the hell he 42 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: go to sleep on some shrooms. Y'all must have had 43 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: the bullshit trims, because I can't ever go to sleep 44 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 1: on shrooms. I don't know, I don't know. I don't know, 45 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: y'all let me know. If y'all go to sleep on them, 46 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: they leave me up for hours. Girl, tell me why. 47 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: I saw him put the cold in his phone earlier 48 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: that day and reverted back to it that night. Oh shit, 49 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: and he was on shrooms. Oh lord, don't go through 50 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: a niggaphone for one, but don't go through a niggaphone 51 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: on shrooms. And I decided to go through his phone. 52 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: I know what you're thinking, Yeah, bitch, you're crazy, but 53 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: I don't care. I did it, and I was happy 54 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: I did it. I found out everything I needed to know, 55 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,839 Speaker 1: and I even found out what he was doing while 56 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:46,519 Speaker 1: we were still together. Oh shit, girl, you went how 57 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: far back did your goal? God damn? She said. Listen. 58 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: He was sleep and I was up shrimming, bitch, I 59 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 1: had all the time I needed. He was literally lying 60 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: to me the whole time. I was crushed, and then 61 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: you know, I was on shterms, so my mind was everywhere, 62 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: which made me wake his ass up. And I told 63 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: him when he get us olf together, he needs to 64 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 1: get the fuck out. He looked at me very confused, 65 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: so I had to repeat myself, when you get yourself together, 66 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 1: get the fuck out. And then this nigga acted like 67 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: he didn't know anything I was talking about. I told 68 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: him to open up his phone and go to his 69 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 1: messages once he was done. He needed to get the 70 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 1: fuck out. And I don't know what delusional type of 71 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: shit he was on, but he proceeded to go to 72 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: his messages like he didn't know what the fuck I 73 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: was talking about and was just looking stupid and started crying. 74 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 1: I didn't give a fuck. This literally took me back 75 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: to the reason why we broke up in the first place. 76 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: So my question to you is why are all these 77 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: niggas clowns and why they be so in denial and 78 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 1: delusional and liars. Oh my god, this girl, this girl 79 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 1: gonna get me an award. I'm telling you, because she 80 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: comes to me for her mess all the time. Y'all. 81 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: This is somebody, and I'm wondering her life is always 82 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: in some day shambles. I'm trying to figure out why 83 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: she don't write a goddamn book. She need to be 84 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: helping fixed mess. That's what she needed to do, because 85 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: she's been through a lot, and she's she seems very 86 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 1: wise because she goes through something every week. So like 87 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: I find myself helping this girl every week. But I 88 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: love it. Okay, So in all seriousness, first and foremost, 89 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: I'm questioning why you would go through his phone if 90 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 1: y'all technically wasn't together. You said you missed them, y'all 91 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: technically haven't even been together seeing each other in a while, 92 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,119 Speaker 1: you know, And this wasn't just somebody you was fucking 93 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: with for a few months. This was an actual relationship. 94 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: I remember your story before. This was an actual relationship, 95 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: you know, like for years and years, you know, and 96 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: then y'all broke up for whatever reason. Of course, you 97 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: told me that it was his fault. Okay, So you 98 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: created a distance between you guys and put a lot 99 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: of time and between you guys, and people do change. 100 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: We're gonna stop pushing that narrative, like people don't evolve, 101 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: and people don't change, and people don't stop cheating that 102 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: saying once it chet are always a cheater. I also 103 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: don't believe in once a liar, always a liar. I 104 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: don't believe in that. We have to give people grace, 105 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: you know, we have to extend that. As the good 106 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: brother ty Reese would say. In my opinion, yes, if 107 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: he wasn't your boyfriend, if you guys weren't actually together, 108 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: you had no business going through his phone. I don't 109 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: know if that's something that you guys are used to doing, 110 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,119 Speaker 1: whether you guys are together or not, but that number 111 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: one is a no no for this reason. One y'all 112 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: weren't back together, and then two you were shrooming. As 113 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: an avid shromer, I can tell you don't want to 114 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: step foot and shit like that while you are on 115 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: a shroom high, because anything could have happened. Anything, Your 116 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: mind wanders and then then you start acting out of 117 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,599 Speaker 1: your full character. Then you you know, And I'm not 118 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: trying to scare anybody away from doing shrooms because it's 119 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: actually an enlightening psychedelic, you know, and it's really good. 120 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: It can open you up, and it just opens your 121 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: mind and it makes you become one with nature or 122 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: whatever you It helps you face your demons, It helps 123 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: you actually get out any anything that you have bottled up, 124 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: and you feel good about it. It's also a body high, 125 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: so you're numb to a lot of shit. And I'm 126 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: really really selling this shit here. This is you know, 127 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: but shrooms are used for a bunch of different things 128 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: across the world. But it's really really good. It's it's 129 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: an enlightening psychedelic So I don't like to step in 130 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: anything negative while I'm shrewming. And I know you as 131 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: a female, you couldn't help it, you know. And then 132 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 1: also y'all sit in that lobby and y'all talked for 133 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:35,239 Speaker 1: those five hours, went down memory lane, came back as lovers. 134 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: After y'all came back from memory Lane, and y'all went 135 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 1: upstairs and y'all did the goddamn do. But before y'all 136 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: got there, it was just a rekindle, you know, a flame, 137 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 1: an old flame. Y'all are each other's old flame, you know. 138 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: So it's like, damn, and that happens. That happens more 139 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: often than not. I want people to understand that, like 140 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: it's okay reconnecting with an X it is. It really is. 141 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: When it becomes not okay is when y'all haven't gotten passed. 142 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: Whatever the reason may be that y'all are exes. If 143 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: y'all didn't put everything out on the table and iron 144 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 1: those kinks out, because that's honestly what y'all should have 145 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: talked about. If y'all were planning to sleep together and 146 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: you was planning to go through the phone, I think 147 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: you just probably got a little carried away just looking 148 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: for something. Because you know, as a woman, we can 149 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: lay down with our ex and we can feel all 150 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: that shit come back, and we can say, oh shit, 151 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: I want you back. We can make a decision like, 152 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna just fuck back with them. But 153 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: we get curious because we never got over what they 154 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: did to us before. But we just love them so 155 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 1: much and in that moment, we don't give a fuck 156 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: your mind right now in this moment, and everything good 157 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: that we had is coming back because we're really in 158 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: a good mood right now. Y'all never talked about and 159 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: ironed out the kinks of what happened to y'all before 160 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: in that relationship. So you got a little carried away 161 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: and you went through his phone, But you shouldn't have 162 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: touched this phone if you weren't his girlfriend. But that's 163 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: what that five hours of conversation didn't That's what I 164 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: was trying to say. I know it sounds like I'm 165 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: talking in circles. Yeah, that's what that five hours of 166 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: conversation was. Don't nobody just sit with somebody for five hours? 167 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,679 Speaker 1: And like you said, you didn't even plan to sleep 168 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: with him. You missed him. You know you were bored. 169 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: You said you were bored, but I think you missed 170 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: him because God, when you bored, there's so many other 171 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: things to do when you bored. You ain't got to 172 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: call your X, you know what I mean. But yeah, 173 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: he doesn't owe you any loyalty now because you guys 174 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: are not together. And now I want to know this, say, 175 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: if he would have went through your phone, would he 176 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: have found something? And you didn't put that in there? 177 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: You didn't, you know, I don't know if you even 178 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 1: will when you respond back or keep me updated. Would 179 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 1: he be able to go through your phone and not 180 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: see anything, because then that's just us trying to have 181 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: our cake and need it too. You can't get upset 182 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: at him about something that you're doing too, because then 183 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:02,719 Speaker 1: it's a contradiction and you probably feel like, well, this 184 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: don't for saying to me because he cheated first, and 185 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:06,319 Speaker 1: this that and the other. And yeah, but two wrongs 186 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: don't make it right. I know you heard that cliche saying, 187 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 1: you know, I know it sounds very cliche, but it's 188 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: it's the truth. You know, two wrongs don't make it right. 189 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: You need to tell me what do you want? What 190 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: do you want? Do you want to be back with him? 191 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: Do you? Cause you said it reminded you going through 192 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 1: his phone reminded you when you saw whatever you saw 193 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: of why you left. But y'all weren't together in that moment, 194 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: you know. And I know you can go on and 195 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: say I don't care, I don't give a fuck, but 196 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: that's why I can't trust him. You called them, You 197 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,679 Speaker 1: called them to come there to the hotel. Yeah, he 198 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: was an X for a reason. He is an X 199 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: for a reason. But you called him, you know, And 200 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: has he been reaching out to you? Also? Tell me, like, 201 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: did he ever try to get you back when you 202 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: left for what he did? Or you know, has he 203 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: ever stopped trying? Because it could be one or two things. 204 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: He could have been on your line real heavy and 205 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 1: you just gave in because you were sitting at the barge. 206 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:03,719 Speaker 1: That's also a possibility because if you went a long 207 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: time without talking to him. You were just holding out 208 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 1: as long as you could, you know. And I've been 209 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,959 Speaker 1: there too, girl, getting away from somebody that I love 210 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: so much because they don't treat me as good as 211 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: I deserve to be treated. But we turn a blind 212 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: eye to a lot of things that these men do, 213 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: you know, because we want to be loved, then we 214 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: do love them, you know. So it is what it is. 215 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 1: But in this situation, I would say, you were absolutely wrong. 216 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: But if this is something that you want, I think 217 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 1: you guys should work at it. I think what you 218 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: guys should do is meet up, because it seems like 219 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: it's still a lot of love there and it seems 220 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 1: like just the instant replay of the breakup. But y'all 221 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't have found y'allselves back in each other's presence if 222 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 1: there was nothing else there to fix. If you feel 223 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: like it's worth fighting for, I say, y'all, meet up. 224 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: Y'all have a goddamn conversation. Y'all put everything on the table. 225 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:00,760 Speaker 1: You tell him what you do. You tell them. I 226 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: don't care if you got four or five niggas that 227 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 1: you just entertaining right now. You tell him that you 228 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,959 Speaker 1: tell him that because you can't go through his phone 229 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 1: and figure out every fucking thing he doing, and then 230 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: he asks you about what you're doing, and then you 231 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 1: start lying. I've done that as well, because we feel 232 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 1: like what they won't know, what they don't know won't 233 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: hurt them because men takes Men take that shit a 234 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:27,680 Speaker 1: lot harder than we take it, to be honest, if 235 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: we're being honest. I'm not saying all men, but in 236 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: my experience, men take their excess dealing with other men 237 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: or moving on way worse than we take it. They 238 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 1: keep it bottled up. They keep it bottled up. They 239 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 1: don't really show outwork, they don't really show that shit. 240 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:47,840 Speaker 1: We're just emotional creatures as women, you know. But guys 241 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 1: they have a hard time coping with that when somebody 242 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: has moved on and heartbreaks and men have heartbreaks as well, 243 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:56,959 Speaker 1: you know. So I think y'all should just lay it 244 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: out on the table. You tell him what you're doing, 245 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: he tell you what. I guess what you already know 246 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: because you done went through everything, girl, I know you 247 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: done went through the DMS. You can't go through the 248 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: messages without going to the DMS, and you can't go 249 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 1: through the dams without going on Twitter and the messages, 250 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:11,880 Speaker 1: and you can't check the Twitter without going in the 251 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: recent calls, and you can't check the recent calls without 252 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: going in the FaceTime. I mean, if you don't have 253 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: an iPhone, do you know, then I don't know how 254 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: to manroids work. But that's how it worked when you're 255 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: going through a nigga I phone because I've been through 256 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:25,439 Speaker 1: more than I can even remember. So yes, I know that. 257 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 1: So girl, you and then he was on them rooms. 258 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: I know you didn't check this nigga apps like I 259 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: know you didn't. Girl. Girl, you don't probably scroll through 260 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: the context to see if he's storing a bitch's name 261 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,199 Speaker 1: under a nigga's name. Girl, I listen, I didn't done 262 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: it at all, So I know you probably was check 263 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: checking to see if he got a text free app, girl, 264 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:50,680 Speaker 1: cause them niggas do that too, But so do we 265 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 1: because I've done that as well, damn Ina putting my 266 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,199 Speaker 1: business out there. But that's what I gotta do to 267 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: help y'all fix y'all mess because I ain't squeaky clean, 268 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: I ain't perfect patty. I'm not cookie cutter, y'all know. 269 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 1: So that's what I think. I think you should also 270 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: write me back, update me again, you know, just letting 271 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 1: me know if this is what you really want, because 272 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: I think you do. You wrote me about this man before, 273 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 1: and I think you do. I just think that y'all 274 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:12,960 Speaker 1: are y'all have grown to be very toxic, and I 275 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: still think that you can turn that around though. Y'all 276 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:18,560 Speaker 1: just have to be more communicative with each other, and 277 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: y'all have to be honest about everything, honest, even you, Missy. 278 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: You know, you going around snooping and shit playing private eye. 279 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 1: If he started doing the same thing. It's a lot 280 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: of things I'm pretty sure that he would find in 281 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: your phone that would not make him happy. It doesn't 282 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: matter who is the reason for y'all breaking up, you 283 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: know what I mean. All that matters is that you 284 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 1: still want this man somehow, some way, and so y'all 285 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: have to come to a come to a common ground, 286 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:47,600 Speaker 1: you know. And this is what made me leave you before. 287 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 1: I felt betrayed. I felt although you weren't my boyfriend, 288 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 1: because I do think you owe him an apology for 289 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: going through his phone although you weren't my boyfriend, but 290 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 1: I still think you owe him an apology with an 291 00:13:57,120 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: explanation like, Yo, that just triggered me, because that triggered you. 292 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,920 Speaker 1: I don't care which that triggered you. You were like, 293 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: oh shit, because you said you had a flashback of 294 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: why y'all broke up. So that tells me that you're 295 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: not healed and you don't trust him fully, but that 296 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: doesn't stop you from loving him. So you need to 297 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,559 Speaker 1: decide whether you're going to walk away from it all 298 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:20,920 Speaker 1: together or if you're going to try to trust him, 299 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:23,800 Speaker 1: because you can't say you can't get back with somebody 300 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: that you didn't forgive for doing you wrong previously, because 301 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:29,840 Speaker 1: then you're gonna grow to hate him and then you know, 302 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: and it's not fair for either one of you. So 303 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: keep me updated, let me know what's going on, because 304 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: I needed and I always say, if you love me, 305 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right 306 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: back moving on. We have another story. This one is 307 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: also written Hey Jess. So me and one of my 308 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 1: closest friends had a fallen out right after I moved away. 309 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 1: I had to move away because I met the man 310 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: of my dreams and he works as a contractor, so 311 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:01,040 Speaker 1: he landed a big contract in Houston. I said contract. 312 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,840 Speaker 1: I said that really literate, and y'all heard, y'all heard, 313 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 1: and say, I know, y'all, dad, let me say it 314 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 1: over landed a big contract in Houston, which is where 315 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 1: we now live. Long story short, he proposed, and I'm 316 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: getting married soon, but still haven't spoken to my friend 317 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: in a while. I'm torn I wouldn't feel right getting 318 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 1: married without her there by my side. I've reached out 319 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:26,040 Speaker 1: multiple times and I just have been left on red 320 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 1: and she hasn't returned any of my calls. Wow, what 321 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 1: the hell y'all fall out about? Jesus? So I'm trying 322 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: to figure out whether or not I should even invite 323 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: her because she hasn't responded in a year. Damn. The 324 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: reason for the falling out is because I told her 325 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 1: I would Okay, look you about to answer my question. Good. 326 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: The reason for the falling out is because I told 327 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 1: her I would have to up and move to Houston 328 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 1: from Ohio and her and I plan to start a 329 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:56,280 Speaker 1: business together, as we always said we would do when 330 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: we were younger, but things changed for both of our 331 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: lives suddenly. What should I do? Hmm? Okay, So I 332 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: say a lot of a lot of interesting parts about 333 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 1: this story I want to pick out. Okay, so she's 334 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 1: one of your closest friends. Oh so you didn't say 335 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: best friend. Okay, but I'm just gonna say you're you're 336 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 1: a really good friend. I'll just say that. Okay. Y'all 337 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 1: had a fallen out and you moved away right after that. 338 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 1: And the falling out was because of your move. You 339 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 1: were telling her that you had to just up and 340 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 1: move to Houston because you know, your boyfriend at the time, 341 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 1: who was now your fiance. Your boyfriend is this big 342 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 1: contractor and he landed a really good, a big contract 343 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: in Houston. So you had to move from Ohio to Houston. 344 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: So you didn't even move down the street from your 345 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: best friend, you know, from your good friend. You moved 346 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 1: like miles and miles and I'm talking about hundreds of 347 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 1: thousands of miles away. You moved where she has to 348 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 1: she can drive, but you know, ultimately she would have 349 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 1: to fly to you, you know, if she didn't want 350 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 1: to drive. You know, So you didn't just move in 351 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: Cincinnati and y'all niggas was living in Cleveland, y'all. Uh uh, y'all, 352 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: y'all y'all moved, you moved far, okay, and then you said, 353 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 1: and then he proposed to you, and congratulations. I love love, 354 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: I love wedding bells, I love all of that. So congratulations, girly. 355 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:21,879 Speaker 1: But you went on to say you reached out even 356 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: after the argument. I don't know. Did you wait to 357 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: reach out? Did you reach out immediately when you got 358 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:29,040 Speaker 1: to Houston? I need a little bit more meat on 359 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:32,679 Speaker 1: the bone, I don't. These are the things I don't know. However, 360 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: I still can, you know, give you advice without all 361 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: that meat. But I wanted to know how long did 362 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 1: you wait to even hit her? You know? Was it 363 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: a long time? And then also were you posting does 364 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: she still follow you on social media? Were you able 365 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 1: to see that she was watching you and your story? 366 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 1: Now you may not be a person to see to 367 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,399 Speaker 1: go through views and see what's going on, but you 368 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: know this is your good friend, and if you want 369 00:17:57,520 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: to see if she's been keeping track of you but 370 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 1: not just not reaching out to you or talking directly 371 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: to you, that's what you do. You can go through 372 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:09,919 Speaker 1: I mean, because that would obviously state that she still cares, 373 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,119 Speaker 1: but she's just still angry. I think what it is. 374 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,280 Speaker 1: Y'all been friends for so long, and y'all had life 375 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: plans as friends to do business together. You know what 376 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:20,840 Speaker 1: I'm saying. This reminds me of the movie Bride'smaids that 377 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:23,159 Speaker 1: I actually watched. It was one of my favorite movies. 378 00:18:24,200 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: It was two best friends. One of them got married 379 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 1: and was moving away, actually moving further away than her 380 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:35,159 Speaker 1: best friend would have liked, you know, and they were 381 00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: supposed to I don't I don't remember. I don't quite 382 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 1: remember if they were supposed to go into business together, 383 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:42,680 Speaker 1: but I know that they had plans to do things 384 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:44,880 Speaker 1: together just as best friends. And she kind of felt 385 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:47,959 Speaker 1: like our best friend was taken away from her abruptly, 386 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:50,359 Speaker 1: and you know, and we're not going to be able 387 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 1: to be down the street from each other anymore. We're 388 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 1: not gonna be able to have these long, long, long conversations. 389 00:18:56,040 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: You know, you have a man now, you know, So 390 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:01,919 Speaker 1: getting away from that movie, although it is real life, 391 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 1: your situation is very common. That's the point of me 392 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,400 Speaker 1: bringing up the movie. It's very common. So I think 393 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: your best friend is just dealing with having to see 394 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:15,359 Speaker 1: you level up, and it's and also this is not 395 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 1: me calling her a hater in a bad way. This 396 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 1: is not me saying that she's jealous of you, or 397 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:22,960 Speaker 1: she's envious or whatever. That may be the case, but 398 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 1: it's not bad being jealous. Jealousy is not always bad. 399 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: It's not, it's not. It's not that. It's totally human 400 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:34,639 Speaker 1: to be jealous of someone that was very close to you, 401 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,959 Speaker 1: who just took off when we were supposed to be 402 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: building to take off together. You know, do you get 403 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: what I'm saying? You kind of see my drift. It's 404 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:48,600 Speaker 1: nothing wrong with being honest enough to say, yo, I 405 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:51,840 Speaker 1: felt like you and I and I don't know if 406 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 1: your best friend, your good friend is ever gonna tell 407 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: you this or be honest enough with you about it. 408 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,399 Speaker 1: But you're always like you left me here struggling. We 409 00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 1: used to struggle together, and although not your responsibility, and 410 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:05,360 Speaker 1: you don't have an obligation to stay here and struggle 411 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:09,359 Speaker 1: with me. If your life is presenting you, if it blessings, 412 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 1: if your life is presenting you blessings at a certain time, 413 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 1: because both of you, guys's journey are different. You know, 414 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,680 Speaker 1: maybe she'll take off next year. Maybe you know this 415 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 1: just happened to you in a different time. Maybe she'll 416 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,919 Speaker 1: meet the man of her dreams next year. Maybe she 417 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:27,159 Speaker 1: can get the business started on her own. Maybe, you know, 418 00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:32,000 Speaker 1: maybe that was a test for her. You know whose 419 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: business idea was it. Maybe it was her idea for business, 420 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: and she thought that she would be doing it with you. 421 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,239 Speaker 1: But maybe she's gonna do it on her own and 422 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:43,119 Speaker 1: it be even bigger than she had envisioned when it 423 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,399 Speaker 1: was supposed to be you too. Everybody has her own path. 424 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: But you seem to love her, you seem to miss her, 425 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: And it's a very very nice gesture and heartfelt to 426 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 1: say that, Yo, I can't get married if my girl 427 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 1: in here. You know, I don't feel right getting married 428 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,199 Speaker 1: if my girl is not here. Hold up, hold up, 429 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 1: I know the shit getting good. But listen to just 430 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 431 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:12,160 Speaker 1: you'll listen. So it's making a trip back home to Ohio, 432 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 1: you know, your old home, because he'll snitz your new 433 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 1: home now, rightfully so, But is that something that you're 434 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:21,119 Speaker 1: opposed to actually going to fly and see her, going 435 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,120 Speaker 1: to fly to see her, to have a conversation. Look, 436 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm in your face. I flew to you. You ignored me. 437 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,880 Speaker 1: For a year. Yes, I up and left. My life 438 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:32,400 Speaker 1: is different and so is yours. You know such and such. 439 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 1: You know, because you didn't tell me your name, and 440 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:38,120 Speaker 1: I don't want you to. But look, I'll just say, Maggie, look, Maggie, 441 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 1: like we we're friends. We're friends first, you know. I 442 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:46,360 Speaker 1: don't want you to feel like we can't talk about this. 443 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: We've been through so much. I bet you guys have 444 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: you said? She's been your closest friend for a long time. 445 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,359 Speaker 1: And y'all made plans when y'all were younger to be 446 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: CEOs and bosses together. You know what I'm saying. This 447 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:02,119 Speaker 1: has obviously really affected her. And while you're off living 448 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: your happily, everlasting life, she's still, I guess, stuck at 449 00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: home dealing with the problems that she was dealing with 450 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,399 Speaker 1: when you left her. If you can just have a 451 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:15,200 Speaker 1: little empathy for her and didn't go see her ass, now, listen, 452 00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 1: if you don't want to, totally, totally I understand because 453 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,320 Speaker 1: now in your defense, come on, bitch, not a whole year. 454 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: Come on, now, that's what happened with me and April Jones. 455 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:27,639 Speaker 1: When I was going through the shit with April, that 456 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 1: bitch ain't talked to me for almost a goddamn well 457 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: it's six months. Six month, yeah, like six like more 458 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,959 Speaker 1: than six months. It wasn't quite a year. But I 459 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 1: think we was friends no more, bitch, I don't try 460 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,719 Speaker 1: after a certain amount. And me and April wasn't even 461 00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 1: childhood friends. I had met her in LA and we 462 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,399 Speaker 1: hit it off. She had great energy, so did I. 463 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:47,160 Speaker 1: And then you know, things, I just started seeing things 464 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: that I didn't like. And you know, I'm me being 465 00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:52,120 Speaker 1: from a different place, and I don't I never got 466 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 1: fully eclimated to a place like LA, so I haven't 467 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: been Los angelesed, you know what I'm saying. And a 468 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,000 Speaker 1: lot of people that move from their hometowns to LA 469 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 1: become lost, angelized, and I just I, yeah, that's not me. 470 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:10,919 Speaker 1: It's like they don't even know who the fuck they 471 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,360 Speaker 1: be no more. You know, I don't know if it's 472 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:15,520 Speaker 1: them running from something or but a lot of people 473 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,879 Speaker 1: that move to LAB, I guess Maddie turned into different 474 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 1: people and they they lose their fucking roots. And I 475 00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 1: literally have watched that. You know, It's just it's just 476 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,440 Speaker 1: I've gone through that that same thing with a close 477 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: friend you know, go fly and see her, Go fly 478 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,479 Speaker 1: and here do that. Because even with me and April 479 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: not being friends anymore and that's falling out, I still 480 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: could have flown to Chicago to go see here. She 481 00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: was going through some things, and I did. I did, 482 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,120 Speaker 1: and still do have my own life, you know, I had. 483 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:51,399 Speaker 1: I have my own shit going on. But sometimes it 484 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: is bigger than you, and sometimes you receive blessings when 485 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 1: you just act selflessly. And I'm not selfish, but I 486 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 1: just I don't know. I wasn't wrong for not going, 487 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 1: and I don't feel like I was right for not 488 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,480 Speaker 1: going either, so you know, but I think in this case, 489 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,719 Speaker 1: this is a bond from childhood and it can be saved. 490 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 1: You know, her ignoring you and all that she ain't 491 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:18,399 Speaker 1: disrespecting you. You know, I still disagree with letting a 492 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 1: fucking year pass, but you don't know what she's been 493 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: through in that year. So I would say, actu big 494 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,919 Speaker 1: contract the husband and gets you a motherfucking fly, and 495 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 1: go fly and go see your friend and then update 496 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: me and let me know what's going on. Booth. I 497 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,439 Speaker 1: loved this story. I enjoyed it. It's very relatable and 498 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 1: I'm happy that I could relate to it and give 499 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 1: you my own past experiences to kind of help you 500 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 1: and kind of guide you. It'll all be okay again. 501 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:46,199 Speaker 1: Congratulations on that beautiful wedding girl, And if y'all need 502 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,720 Speaker 1: a host, I charged thirty thousand dollars off the rip 503 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,119 Speaker 1: since he's a big contractor. And just like that, we 504 00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:54,240 Speaker 1: come to the end of another carefully reckless episode with 505 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 1: your girl Jessilarius, who do what I'll be fixing mess y'all, 506 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 1: and in my deepest paying voice, peace you next week. 507 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: Can't Fully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and The 508 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, 509 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.