WEBVTT - The Wake-Up Call You Need to Prioritize Your Health 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.880 Selfless thing to do, and the thing that you could 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.120 do to actually help everyone around you is to take 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:08.600 responsibility and accountability for your health. From now, welcome to 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:11.200 you A Really Good Cry podcast. A Really Good Cry 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.960 is here to help you understand your body, feel confident 0:00:13.960 --> 0:00:16.800 in your skin, manage your emotions, and take back control 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:20.000 of your health. Because growth doesn't always start with answers, 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:23.640 Sometimes it starts with a really good cry. Hey, everyone, 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:26.680 welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:28.920 I hope that you have had such a wonderful week. 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.600 Hope that it's been filled with incredible, amazing, wonderful things. 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:35.520 And if it hasn't, I hope that you've come here 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:38.360 to hopefully make yourself feel a little bit better and 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:40.760 to feel like you are not alone, because you absolutely 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:43.839 are not. And today, the one thing I've been thinking 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.280 about so much lately is this feeling of and I'm 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:49.120 not old, but you know, like getting older. We're all 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:52.400 getting older. It's just a part of life. And something 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:54.560 that I was reminded of when I went back home 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.760 to visit my family was, you know, my mum does 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:59.480 a lot of volunteer work, and there are lots of 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.440 olderly people that she looks after. And I was thinking 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.840 about how from not looking after your health in your 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:08.520 twenties and your thirties and how it affects you. And 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:10.240 I've seen the effect of it when I worked in 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.679 a hospital. You know, the choices that you make now 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:15.520 are who you become in the future. It's who you become, 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:18.080 not just tomorrow, but in five years, ten years, twenty 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:20.039 years down the line. And I cannot tell you the 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:23.720 amount of times that I've heard people sharing their worry, 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:27.039 the extreme worry about family members that just will not 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:30.080 take their health seriously. They're making choices that they know 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:33.560 are not right for them. They understand the health implications, 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:35.800 but maybe they don't quite believe them or choose to 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:38.800 ignore them. A lot of people are just in denial, thinking, no, 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.000 it's fine, pop a pill, I'll be good. And I 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.240 think something that's really missed in all of this is 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.080 the idea that your health choices do not just affect you, 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.920 they actually shape every single person who loves you, who's 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:52.440 around you, who wants to spend the rest of their 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:55.160 life with you. And so if you have that person 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:57.960 in your life, or if it's you and someone sent 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.320 you this podcast episode. I think it's really important to 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.680 think about this because hopefully this will be the pep 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:06.760 talk that they need or that you need to take 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.360 your health a little bit more seriously, not just for you, 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.080 but because we will live in community, because we have 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:14.840 other people that are around us, and the implications of 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.200 our actions do not just reflect on us, but on 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.840 everyone else around us too. You know, I think the 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.160 natural way of thinking is, it's my body. If I 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:23.760 want to skip the gym, if I want to eat 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:25.600 what I want, if I want to stay up till 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:28.240 two am, doom scrolling, drink a little too much on 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:31.919 a Tuesday, that's between me and me. And on the surface, 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:34.840 that actually sounds very reasonable. It's my body, it's my choice, 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:37.680 it's my decision of what I do. And it can 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.919 feel kind of empowering too, because at the end of 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:41.960 the day, my choice is my choice and the result 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:43.680 is my result. And I think we live in this 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.640 culture that really loves this language of personal choice. But 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:48.680 the reality is, if you've been through a family member 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.680 being sick, your mom, your dad, your child, I'm so 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.959 sure that you know it's never just a them thing. 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:58.600 It becomes a youth thing too. It becomes everybody thing. 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:01.000 And the thing is, when someone gets sick, the illness 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:03.320 does not just live in their body. It moves around 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.840 the whole house. It sits at every single dinner table, 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:10.680 It rides in every single car. It rearranges Christmases, events, birthdays. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:13.880 It changes what your kids grow up watching because now 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.760 they're watching their grandma struggle to climb the stairs, or 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.280 they're watching their dads sleep all the afternoon because the 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:22.480 medication makes them tired. There's so many variations to this. 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.280 It can look so different for so many people. But 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:27.839 illness is contagious and in a way that we don't 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:30.600 really talk about. And so is the worry, the anxiety 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.640 that you feel to see someone that you love not 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.160 treating their body how they should be. It's the worry 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.240 of it, it's the logistics of it, it's the grief 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:40.560 of it. And so when you decide quietly, day after 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.080 day not to take care of your body, you are 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.440 making a decision that other people will eventually have to 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:47.960 also deal with, not just you. And these are the 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.920 same people that would do anything for you. Your kids, 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:54.600 your partner, your parents, your closest friends. Those are actually 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:57.280 the people who if something goes wrong, will be there 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:00.200 for you, giving their love, time and energy. And most 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.640 people don't ignore their health because they don't care. I 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.600 think most people ignore it because it can often feel 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:09.520 really overwhelming. They might not see their immediate consequences, and 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:13.080 usually we are with people who want to see immediate actions, 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.080 whether it's good or bad. If something's not good for me, 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.239 tell me now. If something's good for me, tell me now. 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:19.240 And if I don't see that, then I'm going to 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:22.800 just assume everything's fine. Or sometimes people have just normalized 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:24.680 this feeling of just okay, and I think that this 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.960 is a big one, this feeling of oh, it's okay. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:30.640 If I have a little bit of acid reflux, it's okay. 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:32.760 If I can't sleep properly or just last a couple 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:36.119 of days, I'm sure it's okay. If my stomach hurts 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:38.520 every single time I eat, that's normal. It's okay. If 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.760 my periods are really really bad for me and I 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:45.479 get crazy emotional waves and my cramps are so bad 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:47.839 that I can't get out, but it's okay. I'm okay 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.240 with being just okay. But the fact is you don't 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:53.279 have to be and there's just okay. Feeling that continues 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:56.080 over a long period of time can become something really 0:04:56.080 --> 0:05:00.760 catastrophic and something that is sometimes irreversible. I think sometimes 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:03.200 the people that I've noticed that can suffer the most 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:05.440 in this are parents. And if you're a parent out 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:07.839 there listening to this, I'm sure that you can relate. 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:10.240 There is nothing more beautiful than the love that a 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.760 parent has for a child. I've experienced it from my 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:15.200 mom to me, and it really is the closest thing 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.279 that most of us will ever come to understanding what 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:20.520 unconditional actually means. Because we have this idea that putting 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:23.360 a child first is what's doing right. But sometimes putting 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.560 your child first shouldn't mean neglecting yourself. You know, canceling 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:28.880 that doctor's appointment because of a school run, or the 0:05:28.920 --> 0:05:32.000 thirty minutes of exercise I get swallowed by your lunchboxes 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:34.120 and emails, or you know the meal that you wanted 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:36.480 to cook for yourself that makes you feel good insade 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.359 you're sitting there your kids leftovers. Now, look, I don't 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.760 have children yet. I know that I can't comment from 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:43.800 that point of view, but what I do know is 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.960 how amazing it was seeing my mom work out. My 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:49.920 mom prioritize her health, watching my mom do all those 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.880 things because she was able to be present, attentive and 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.080 be her best self with us. And so your child 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:57.680 needs a parent who's still here in twenty years, who 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:59.640 can run after them in the park, who can play 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:01.440 with them, who can dance at their wedding, who can 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:04.520 lift their grandchildren up, who just has the energy at 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:06.280 the end of a long day to actually be present, 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.080 not just physically in the room, but mentally and emotionally 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:12.520 fully there. And that requires someone to really think about 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:16.640 the holistic health, body, mind, and spirit and where am 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.560 I lacking, Where do I need more, Where do I 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.200 need more nourishment in my life, and really taking that 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:23.880 seriously into seeing what am I doing now that's going 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.200 to affect me negatively in the future. And listen, I 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:28.600 am not trying to guilt you at all. I am 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:30.919 honestly saying this to you because I want you to 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:34.680 be thriving, and God knows parents especially get enough guilt. 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:37.520 But I'm trying to just flip it around and help 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.679 you to understand and help you to realize that looking 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.120 after yourself is not stolen time from your kids, looking 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:45.080 after yourself is actually the most generous thing that you 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:48.120 could probably do for them and your loved ones around you. 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.640 Your therapy is parenting. Your eight hours of sleep is parenting. 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.520 Going to your dentist appointment is parenting. Going to your 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:57.880 doctor's appointment is parenting. Going for that walk is parenting. 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.719 All of those things are actually you becoming better version 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.760 of yourself for the people that you love in your life. 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:06.720 And I think connecting to our body and understanding our 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.800 body is so important, which is why I also created 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.400 this free quiz to understand what your body type is, 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.600 your iovatic body type, your dosher which helps you to 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:18.040 understand what is my body type? What do I need 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.000 to eat? What do I need to do in my day? 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:23.040 What environment do I need to be to thrive? What 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.280 do I need to avoid when I'm cooking my meals? 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.960 What should I eat more of every single day? All 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:30.800 of our bodies are so different and so really trying 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:34.640 to understand it better through this process is so important, 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:35.840 And if you want to take the free quiz, you 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:38.360 can find out my website and I've also created these 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.320 guides to really help you understand it better and a 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.680 little reset that you can do so that you can 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:46.480 reset your body to a baseline that feels good for 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.040 you and then start up from scratch. And I've you know, 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:50.960 given so much more in that, including the food that 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:53.800 you should be eating, the workout you should be doing, 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:56.840 just a way to live your life according to your body, 0:07:56.880 --> 0:08:00.240 to help optimize your health and really really thrive. I 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:01.440 just want to be a little b careful here, because 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.920 I'm obviously not saying that everyone who gets sick was negligent. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.120 What I'm talking about is just this slow, daily optional stuff, 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:09.400 the tiny things, the things that we can actually do 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:13.200 to prevent these future potential ailments. The walk's not taken, 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:15.760 the vegetables not eaten, the waters are not drunk, the 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:19.280 sleep not slept, the checkups that are put off, the 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.960 three drinks that we come for. There's just so many 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.880 tiny things in our day that we don't realize that 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.760 we could do to impact more vitality in our future. 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:29.760 I think the idea of self care has been so commodified, 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.040 so wrapped in like bath bombs and face marks and oh, 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.120 let's get this ten dollars super food latte, that we've 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:38.959 actually forgotten what it truly means. What does it really 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.760 mean to look after yourself. Self care is not a luxury. 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:44.640 It's not a luxury item. It's logistics. And there's this 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:46.480 idea that I'm going to look after myself now so 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:48.320 that in the future no one has to cancel their 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:50.480 lives or put their life on hold to look after me. 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:52.960 And I'm going to try my best to make sure 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.400 that doesn't happen, because the last thing you want is 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.240 to get in and feel guilty, feeling like it was 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.640 your fault, feeling like it was you being inattentive to 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:02.600 your own needs and what your body actually requires of 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:06.160 you in the moment. It really is the most boring, daily, 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:08.679 un sexy form of love there is, but it really 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.160 is love. When you book your appointment, it's love. When 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.680 you cook something that is good for you, it's love. 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.000 When you go to bed at a reasonable hour, that's love. 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:18.480 And it's also the most powerful form because it's the 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.000 form that says, I want to be here for a 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.920 long time with you, in good health. I want to 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.640 experience this life with you because I want to be 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.440 in a frame of mind where I can and in 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.880 a body that allows me to. Your body is not 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.920 just this vehicle that carries you to your relationships. Your 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:38.360 body is the instrument your relationships are played on. You 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.559 don't just carry your stress, you pass it on. Even 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:42.959 when it comes to things like taking your supplements. It's easy. 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:46.280 With medication, it feels more serious. But to avoid taking medication, 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:49.000 we have to look after our long term health. When 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.240 we do now becomes who we are in five or 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.280 ten years, and so it's something I've been trying to 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.439 really focus on to just being consistent with them. I've 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:59.080 been taking my super Greens powder and cretin from Terror 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:01.600 Origin every day for a month now, and it's such 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:03.600 a small wind, but I know that it's supporting me 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:05.640 in ways that I don't even realize. And it's great 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.200 because the Supergreens basically has everything I need. I don't 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.800 need to worry about popping ten pearls. It's not just greens. 0:10:10.800 --> 0:10:14.760 It stacks four things into one greens, probiotic, digestive enzymes 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.600 for my gut, adaptogens for my stress, and electrolytes like 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:21.160 magnesium and potassium hydration. So some days I'll just take 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.080 that and know that it's enough. I knew on many 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:24.960 days I wasn't getting close to the amount of greens 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.400 and nutrients my body actually needed, and so I started 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.920 stacking their creating into my routine too, which in my 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:31.880 mind used to be seen as just a gm brow thing, 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:35.200 But the research now is showing it supports cognitive function, energy, 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:37.400 even mood, and it's become one of the most study 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.080 supplements for both body and brain. And so even if 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.160 you're not picking a lot of things to take, pick 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:44.040 one or two or a few that you were just 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:46.880 remain inconsistent with. It could simply be a multivitamin, it 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:49.520 could simply be a greens powder, it could simply be creating. 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.200 But as soon as you start stacking these small things, 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.559 you'll start noticing the difference in your body. And there's 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:58.200 a concept in psychology that came across called coregulation, and 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:01.439 it's basically this idea that human nests systems are not isolated. 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.800 We don't experience our emotions in this one vacuum or 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.439 just in our own body. Whatever our emotions are is 0:11:07.480 --> 0:11:09.840 the only thing we feel. No, we actually sync with 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.280 the people around us. So when you walk into a 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:15.360 room tense, the people in the room get tense. When 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:18.080 your partner feels disregulated, your body picks up on it 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.839 before your brain does. When a parent is anxious, their 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:24.720 child's heart rate literally increases to match that. It's really 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.640 not wu wu, it's actually just biology. We are wired 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.400 to read each other, we are wired to live in 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:32.319 a community, and so naturally what we do as one 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:35.400 person affects everyone around us, and the idea is something 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:37.720 that we really have to hold onto, whether it's in 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:39.600 our health or whether it's in anything that we do. 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:44.560 So if you're constantly exhausted, disregulated, inflamed, your relationships absorb 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:46.560 that and a lot of these things that we're talking 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:48.920 about mentally, like if you are snappy, if you are tired, 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.319 if you are dysregulated, if you are inflamed. They're all 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:55.439 things that we think our reactions, but actually so much 0:11:55.480 --> 0:12:00.080 of our physical biochemistry can actually cause those things. You 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:02.280 may feel really low energy, which makes you snappy, but 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:03.640 that might be because you haven't gone to get your 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.440 blood tests and your iron and your B twelve are 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.600 significantly low. I've been there. You may not be getting 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.720 enough sleep, but that's because you're not getting enough magnesium 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.320 in your diet, and because maybe you're not eating the 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.120 right nutrients that your body needs to fuel that system 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:18.600 in your body. There's so many things where the reaction is, oh, 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:20.839 you're just in a bad mood, but actually so much 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.800 of your own physiology is what could be causing that, 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:24.920 and so I think it's important to remember that whatever 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:28.319 you carry, you are putting out there and other people 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:30.959 are also absorbing around you, and so try and reframe. 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.080 Health is capacity for love and purpose and present. It's 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.200 your vessel to be able to do that. It's about 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:41.040 having that energy to show up, being able to emotionally regulate, 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:45.160 having that mental clarity. Your work, your relationships, your impact 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:47.600 all really sit on top of this idea of health, 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:50.120 and so I think a big part of this is 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:53.319 figuring out what it is that you are trying to avoid. 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:56.560 If you know, I've seen this so many times, you know, 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.960 those people who are just too scared to go to 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.320 the dentist, too scared to go to the doctors, because 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:05.319 sometimes living in ignorance is bliss. Sometimes not knowing what's 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:07.960 wrong means that you could avoid having to deal with 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:10.560 the consequences of it. But actually I think the first 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:14.319 step is becoming aware, understanding what is happening with my body, 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:16.960 Understanding where do I need to make changes, and that 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:20.559 only comes with information. So whether that's doing a blood test, 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:22.880 doing a stall test to figure out what your guts like, 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:26.080 I really recommend just doing a full body check to 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:28.559 just see every single year, where is my body at, 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.120 what does it need? What do I need to prioritize 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.640 in my life? And that's for your physical body and 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:37.240 then for your mental health. The more time that I've 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:39.960 spent on therapy, the more I've realized how useful it 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.320 can be if you have the right one. Because we 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:44.720 don't realize how much sits in us. We don't realize 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:46.800 how much we absorb from other people. We don't realize 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:49.360 how much we carry that we sometimes can put away 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:51.360 in a little box and throw away the key and 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:53.600 never want to open. But the fact is those things 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:58.240 could be impacting our mood, our desire for connection, our 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.640 ability to enter interact with people. And so your mental 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:04.800 health is so important because it can by dealing with 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:07.800 those things, it allows you to be more present with 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.640 the people that you love. It allows you to connect 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.199 deeper to the people that you want to rather than 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.240 having to do it through the filter of so much 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:16.280 that you're carrying. Because it's true, we do carry so 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:20.000 much throughout our life, not just in our day but 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.680 day in day out, year in year out, and if 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.600 you're not finding a place where you can explore that, 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.880 that's the thing. It's not even just about understanding, it's 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:31.880 also about exploring. You're going to be exploring so many 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:34.600 parts of you that you probably don't want to, but 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.640 those parts are necessary to explore to get you to 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:39.960 become the better version of yourself, or to become the 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:41.960 better version of yourself. For you and for other people 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:46.120 around you. There's understanding, there's exploration that has to be done. 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:48.520 And then when it comes to emotions, you know, and 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.440 the dysregulation of emotions and trying to deal with them, 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.160 I think that's also released understanding. How can I release 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.520 things out on my body? You know? Iradia talks about 0:14:56.520 --> 0:15:00.600 how the start of all disease comes from sagnation in 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:05.760 the body. Stagnation are physically, mentally and emotionally, and all 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:08.760 of these things that happen in our mind and in 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:12.160 our heart actually get trapped in different parts of our body, 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:14.960 and depending on whether we release it or if it 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:18.520 stays there, it stagnates. It for mens and it expands 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.440 and it takes over different parts of our body, and 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:23.480 then that is actually where ill health begins. So it's 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:25.920 not actually just from physical ailments. It's also from these 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:29.920 emotional traumas and things that we don't process that live 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:33.240 in our body and then slowly become us and slowly 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:36.520 almost eat away at different parts of our body. You know, 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:38.440 sometimes they say anger sits in the stomach, and so 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:40.440 that's why people get a lot of acid reflux or 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:44.400 digestive discomfort when they're feeling really angry. I put up 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:47.200 this map before about where all of the emotions sit 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.600 in the body, but it's true, so much of our 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:53.880 body's reactions are through stress or emotions rather than because 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.080 we've picked up something heavy or because we've worked out 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.960 too hard. I do think physical health is important, but 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:01.360 there's so much more to your health and just that, 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:04.680 and so really taking a look and thinking, what are 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:06.760 these areas that I need to work on. Where do 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:08.040 I need to show up more, What do I need 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.160 to prioritize more, What are the times in my day 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.920 that I can really carve out? Because the facts is, 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.120 if you've got time to watch a Netflix show, you've 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.080 probably got time to do a lot of these other things. 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:19.320 That you need to be doing. And so I understand 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:21.680 that you're busy. I understand that you may have lots 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:25.400 of priorities and people in your life, but I'm sure 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:27.440 that there is a gap somewhere in your day for 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:29.080 you to be able to own your week, for you 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:30.680 to be able to prioritize at least some of the 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:32.840 things on your list. And just in case you don't 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.680 know where to start, I would say if you just 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:39.520 try these five things consistently every single day, your health 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:42.480 could look completely different. So say the first one is movement. 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.160 We sit for far too long every single day. If 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.880 you actually get an app or watch for a week, 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:48.840 or even like a device for a week that is 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:52.560 tracking how much time you're spending moving versus stagnating, you'll 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:56.320 probably be shocked. I honestly like I work at a 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:58.520 desk a lot, I write a lot. I've made a 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:02.320 commitment to trying to, at least even while I'm writing, 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:03.960 to get on the treadmill for an hour and walk 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.600 while I'm doing it. I usually do it after lunch. 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:08.800 It helps me to focus and to get energy back. 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:12.000 You know that post lunch drop that you sometimes get, 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:15.160 But if you actually see how much time you're spending seated, 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.560 it will probably scare you. You need to have at 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:19.960 least two hours of movement in your day, whether that's walking, 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.439 whether that's working out, whether that's any kind of movement, 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:24.639 but there needs to be movement. The second thing is 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:27.560 real food, and I think sometimes we forget what the 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:29.639 meaning of that is. Real food is as close to 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.920 nature as possible. Eat at least one proper nourishing meal 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:36.120 a day, not something eaten standing up, not leftovers off 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:40.040 someone else's plate, not from a package, not from something 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.719 that has ingredients on it. Just try and eat something 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:46.680 that is fresh and has vitality and has nutrients in it. 0:17:47.080 --> 0:17:49.080 And that doesn't mean your three meals a day have 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.240 to be that, but at least try and have one 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:53.359 meal where you're really thinking about that and conscious of 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.400 what it is going into your body. The third one 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.040 is sleep. I know it's really hard. You've found a 0:17:58.040 --> 0:17:59.639 show that you absolutely love and you just want to 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.080 binge watch it, but is that really worth the dysregulation 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:05.520 of sleep the time that your body needs to recover. 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:07.600 So go to bed at a time that actually allows 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:11.320 your body to recover and prioritize that and Prioritizing sleep 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.639 may mean sacrificing other things, and that's okay, because the 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:17.840