1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:13,560 Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrub 3 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: a dub dub um. How's it going so good? So 4 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: I have been cleaning out my apartment and I got 5 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: rid of two trash bags of just like old spices 6 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 1: that are expired and just kind of like all that 7 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: kind of stuff, you know. Yeah, I found my journal 8 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 1: that I used when I did the calling in the 9 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: one yeah, which remind listeners that what year was that? 10 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: So I believe I started it in uh and into 11 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: nineteen so this was I don't even know, a couple 12 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:55,279 Speaker 1: of years before the pandemic. And basically it's a it's 13 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: a seven week program where every day you have homework 14 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: and you do this thing and you have like a 15 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: journal that you write. You have like one journal that 16 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: you do all your homework in, right, and a lot 17 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: of the homework involves cutting and pasting and kind of 18 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: making these like collages. So my journal has several different collages. 19 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 1: But I was looking through and I found this one 20 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: and it is so like specific and crazy because this 21 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: is before I met Red Star, and I literally like 22 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: found him, like I brought him to me like I 23 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: called in the one. So for the listeners described for 24 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: the listeners who can't hear or can't see, sorry, Um, 25 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: it's a it's a like a picture of a little 26 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: a little kid and a man and they're like in 27 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:45,039 Speaker 1: a lake or something right in the background, and then 28 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: there's the words Mr Sunshine across the lake and then 29 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: there's a picture of Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade. So 30 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: I love the relationship between Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade. 31 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: I've always loved them. I think are just like a 32 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: really good team. Um, they are true partners and I 33 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: feel like they treat each other like king and queen, right, 34 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: So I love their relationship. What I didn't realize at 35 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:14,959 Speaker 1: the time, Gabrielle Union, they have their own kids as well, 36 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: but she is also a step mom. Wow. And Mr 37 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 1: Sunshine describes my boyfriend to a t like he is 38 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: just like this, like happy positive man. Mark's grimacing. But 39 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: it's true. I'm kind of with Mark, Okay. He is 40 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: like a ball of sunshine. That guy is happy as 41 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: a clam. I think you are. I think you are 42 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: missed Sunshine, which would then would make Robbie Mr sunt 43 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think you've ever called him 44 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: Mr Sunshine, but I think people refer to you as 45 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: Sunshine all the time. Okay, and we have a dog 46 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: together named Sunny Sunshine. That's more significant than any of 47 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: the other things. So with Sunshine, this is your name 48 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: is Sunny Sunshine. Her name is Her name is Sunny 49 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:10,799 Speaker 1: Sunshine Rade. Since when was her middle name Sunshine? Talk? 50 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 1: It is Sunshine? Okay? When you found imagining, Tanya like 51 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 1: going to her head house, She's going to bring this 52 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: all together and she's like, Sunny doesn't have a middle name, 53 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: it's Sunshine. No, it is Sunshine because I wanted to 54 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 1: name her Sunshine, but we thought Sunny was cuter. Prove 55 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: this somewhere anywhere. We might need a text from Robbie. 56 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 1: Robbie's kids who play with Sunny of the time, at 57 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: least know that her middle name is Sunny and her 58 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: last name is rad. Wait, wait, please wait, Tanya, please 59 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: don't text him. Can I text him and ask what 60 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: her middle name is? Yeah? Please don't promise. I'll leave 61 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: it here and I'll put my hands up like this, Hi, 62 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: what is Sunny's middle name? Or maybe you can say 63 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: full name. I'm gonna say middle name because that feels 64 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: like maybe I'm like doing something where I'm doing something 65 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: with Phoebe. Okay, So anyways, I think it's really cool 66 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: and I a lot of those things I think you 67 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 1: put on there, and I think this is really cool 68 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: about manifesting and vision boards and stuff, is that you 69 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 1: put it on there, not actually knowing exactly what it's 70 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: gonna look like, but being able to look back and 71 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: go like, oh my gosh, who would have known? And 72 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: I haven't still touched that journal in years. I like 73 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: literally found it because I've been kind of cleaning out 74 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: and going through stuff in my kitchen. It was like 75 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: in my sadly it was in my junk drawer, but um, 76 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:46,040 Speaker 1: I started flipping through it and so I was like 77 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: really kind of taken aback by that. Well, Um, I 78 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: can't believe that was in two thousand eighteen, Like my 79 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: mind is blown. That feels like last year we were 80 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: talking about calling him the One, but it's a seven 81 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: week program and I didn't really I didn't do it 82 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: every single day for the seven weeks. I think it 83 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 1: took me a little bit longer. So one time you've 84 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: really put in the work you really amongst us, I 85 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: will have to say that it is possible that when 86 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 1: you do these vision boards, you are then free to 87 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 1: retroactively justify everything that's on them. And you've done this 88 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: in the past. Was on one and then like three 89 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: years ago, he was a guest on the show, and 90 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: you're like, holy crap, my vision board came true. I 91 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: think that's a stretch because John Legend and my boyfriend 92 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: went to the same college. Okay, again, if if you would, 93 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 1: if you hadn't met somebody totally different than Robbie, you 94 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: would find ways to make that book. Guy, that's not true. Mark, Listen, 95 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,040 Speaker 1: Sometimes it is easy to do this. And then I 96 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: had the vision board with this cabin that I literally 97 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: ended up staying in. But that was more like a direct, 98 00:05:56,760 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: Like that really was a direct him. I'm gonna put 99 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: my hands on just to show you, guys, one more photo. 100 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: I'm not texting him, I swear no. I already got 101 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 1: a respond to this. And so there's also this picture 102 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 1: that I put of this couple kissing on a bed 103 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: and the words right above it say, in the right love, 104 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: we will discover new love for ourselves. And he's done 105 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: that for me. Okay, But I think this is what 106 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:24,359 Speaker 1: Mark saying that anyone that was not so specific, I 107 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: get it. But I I think that the key here 108 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:35,039 Speaker 1: is that you manifested a love that you cherished and 109 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: who loved you, and it was what you were looking 110 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: for and you found that. And I think that's the 111 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 1: main focus of finding this journal is not so much 112 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: the specifics, but more about you calling in the one. Guys, 113 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 1: it was pretty exciting for me, Okay, but if you 114 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,799 Speaker 1: had met a different guy, totally different, who doesn't have kids, 115 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: and like, look at this, Look he's right there with 116 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: a little boy. He was with his few last weekend 117 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: and he's still great with kids. I totally see how 118 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: this comes together. And Mr Sunshine on our first date, 119 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:07,719 Speaker 1: he had to get his sunglasses out of the glove 120 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: comparment because the sun was in his eyes so brightly. 121 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: I mean, you, guys, how perfect is this? Okay explained 122 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: the Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union connection. I still can't 123 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: explain that with Robbie. Oh my gosh, you just don't 124 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: get it. Mark, You just fell in fact that she 125 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: is a step mom, you would have found a way. 126 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: You have said, oh my god, you guys he loves basketball. 127 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: And I put Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle Union on my 128 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: vision part. I can't believe it. Guess what. I didn't 129 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: even know he was an athlete. And by the way, 130 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: Robbie does love basketball. There's another tie in there. It 131 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 1: is what team did he play for? I'm not sure. 132 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: I don't like basketball. Okay, what you guys, this mess, 133 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: this thread is the funniest thing. So I just said, Hi, 134 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: what is Sunny's middle name? And he says hello l 135 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: Hi dot dot dot. Not sure she has many middle names. 136 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: Not sure if anything official. I think it's Randy Moss, Sonny, 137 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: Randy Moss yead rat, but it has changed several times. 138 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: So I send like the dead EMERGI and he goes, 139 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: I just asked the kids. They also said Randy Moss, 140 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: Randy Moss. There you go. That is not her, that 141 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 1: is not that is not her official middle name. He 142 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: said it. He said what is Tanya saying? And I 143 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 1: said Sunshine and he goes, l O L. I mean 144 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: that has been tossed around. No Randy Moss, China. I'm 145 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 1: calling her Sonny Randy Moss from now on. No, you guys, 146 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: there's no like official birth certificate for a dog, so 147 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:47,679 Speaker 1: there's not like Tanya, Tanya, this is this is actually important. 148 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:57,599 Speaker 1: Randy Moss is an professional athlete, as is Dwayne Way. 149 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: Bring it on, Becca, bring it on on. I'm telling you, 150 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: I'm I'm trying. Do you want you want to bring 151 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: out one of your bachelor journals and see what you manifested. 152 00:09:07,360 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: I literally have life in general organized my place so 153 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: well that I have no idea where it is, but 154 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: I will locate it. And fine, because I do want 155 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: to read some of those excerpts because they're pretty funny. 156 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: But um, yeah, we'll just stick with with yours today. 157 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: But when you said that, I was immediately like, I 158 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: need to find a journal, and then I was like, 159 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:31,320 Speaker 1: where would that be. It's in a nicely labeled ben somewhere. 160 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,200 Speaker 1: I do know that. I'm just so happy I didn't 161 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: throw in my journal. My gosh, I mean, that is 162 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: some gold right there. I would never think you'd throw 163 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: away your journal like that feels so off, Branford. I 164 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: gave my book, My Calling in the One Book to 165 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,719 Speaker 1: somebody else. Well that makes sense, like you're passing it on, 166 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: but like a journal feels like, so I imagine your 167 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: your you know, excerpts are very um in depth and 168 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: something that you want to keep for your wedding one day. Honestly, 169 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: they're kind of embarrassing. No, I am so shocked at 170 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,239 Speaker 1: the way I wrote as a twenty six year old. 171 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: Like that's what talked to me the most reading the 172 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: Bachelor Journal. I was like, wait, you sounded like you 173 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: were like a high school or two. That's how mine 174 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: sound like, I'm like, I hope that, and like my 175 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: fear is that, Like yeah, yeah, I'm with you there. Um. 176 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: Today we're actually going to be talking about twenty three 177 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: and me and it's kind of like just switchings a dad, 178 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 1: you know, like from manifestation to like actual DNA. Yes, um, 179 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 1: And we're going to be talking about like kind of 180 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 1: how important it is to know your background for you know, 181 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: multiple reasons. But Tanya sent hers in, you haven't gotten 182 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: your results right now. I haven't. But we're going to 183 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: kind of talk through like what are you're like, what 184 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: are you hoping for from the results and what are 185 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: you looking for? Are you nervous about anything? You expecting anything? No, 186 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: are you nervous about anything? I don't know, doesn't it 187 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: tell you like health stuff? It's yeah's health stuff. And 188 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 1: I'm like pretty sure that I'm a hund percent Serbian 189 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: because it's like both my parents and their parents are 190 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,839 Speaker 1: and their parents are, so I feel like i'm hand 191 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 1: to handle p What if you were what what would 192 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: you be if you were? I don't know, But then 193 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: I would look at my grandparents differently. What if you 194 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: had something totally different? Would that totally shake you up? 195 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 1: It would be kind of interesting. Well, that's such everything. 196 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: I've heard so many crazy stories about it, of like 197 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: people thinking one thing their whole life and then just 198 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 1: innocently doing this test and getting the results and being like, 199 00:11:52,880 --> 00:11:54,560 Speaker 1: but there's a lot of the health effits to, like 200 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: you can kind of see if you're predisposed, predisposed, pre preconditioned. 201 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: I think you had it, man, don't second guess, pre 202 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: disposed to certain like illnesses and ailments and diabetes and 203 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: things like that. So there are a lot of also 204 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 1: health benefits as well. Mark, you did it right, I 205 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: did it. I'm looking at my ancestry results right now. 206 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: I'm nine point seven percent European, mostly Northwestern European, about 207 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:27,599 Speaker 1: a quarter of ASHCA Nazi Jewish. I'm primarily from Norway, Sweden, Germany, England, Ireland, 208 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: which none of that is terribly surprising, but it's still 209 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: fun to look at, fun to check out and then 210 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 1: yes you do the health stuff on here. Nothing alarming, 211 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: that was nice. It's really fun to dig into. Plus 212 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: they have all kinds of like, I don't know what 213 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: you call them, like cute little quirks about you, like 214 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: you know, um, you are more disposed to like um, butterflies, 215 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: but no more like foods, more like as opposed to 216 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: sweet foods, or like asparagus really makes your piece smell 217 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 1: like stuff like that. I'm not I'm not kidding. That 218 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: was actually in But doesn't asparagus make everybody's piece smell? 219 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: Can they tell us how get varies? I've never I've 220 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: never had that with asparagus, like I've never like, oh 221 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 1: my god, like people described, I've never experienced that. I'd 222 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: like to smell you your p after you have asparagus. Okay, 223 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:16,720 Speaker 1: we'll set that up. Okay, we'll have to do that 224 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 1: on another day. As asparagus order detection likely can smell 225 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:25,319 Speaker 1: the asparagus order in your urine and I can't, So 226 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: they nailed that one kind of vague no, kind of 227 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: but they say they say you're more likely or not 228 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: as likely, like, for example, in taste bitterness, you're likely 229 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: to have a cleft chin. I do You're likely to 230 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: have to tach your lobes? I do? You know that 231 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 1: sort of thing? Alright, So, yeah, we're gonna get back 232 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:47,640 Speaker 1: into this with reps from twenty three of me, So 233 00:13:47,679 --> 00:14:04,199 Speaker 1: we'll be right back with them, all right, you guys, 234 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: So we're back, and we have a Lisa and Stacy 235 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: here from twenty three and me, and they're here to 236 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 1: answer all of our questions that we have about the 237 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 1: twenty three in the process, So please welcome them into 238 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: the scrubbing in oh Ry, So I want you to 239 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 1: kind of talk about you know, when you when people 240 00:14:24,800 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 1: here twenty three and me, they think that it's like 241 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,360 Speaker 1: just ancestry they're going to see like where they came from, 242 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: But there's so much more to it than that, right, Yes, 243 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: I'll take this on. Um. So there is a whole 244 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: world of health information within twenty three and me that 245 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 1: is super exciting. I'm a genetic counselor, so my background 246 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: is all about genetics and thinking through health UM. Overall 247 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: our healthless ancestry service, there's over sixty five health report 248 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 1: and they touch upon you know, your potential chances to 249 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 1: have a genetic UM increased likelihood for a different condition, 250 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 1: and they also write information about genetic variants you might 251 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 1: pass on to your children and just general wellness exercise, weight, diet, 252 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,720 Speaker 1: all sorts of things UM. And then there's even the 253 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 1: toy through plus membership that adds another twenty plus reports 254 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 1: and ongoing features throughout the year. So a lot of 255 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: health information. I have a question about it, like when 256 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 1: you get information about health, is it kind of is 257 00:15:24,160 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 1: it specific like percentages or what does that look like 258 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 1: for people when they get it. Is it just like 259 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:34,600 Speaker 1: this is something you're likely to maybe uh experience or 260 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: how does it work? So it can vary. So there's 261 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 1: two different ways of thinking about genetics and your health. 262 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 1: So one is you may have like one or two 263 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: genetic variants and those are just like the DNA differences 264 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: between people. We just call those genetic variants. UM. You 265 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 1: may have one or two that like really might impact 266 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 1: a certain condition UM where you if you have that variant, 267 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: your your chances of building that condition you know, might 268 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: be like three times or four times higher than the 269 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:06,400 Speaker 1: average person. And so in those conditions, we might tell 270 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: you have this genetic variant. Here is how it it 271 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 1: potentially impacts your health. How many people with that variant 272 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: go on to develop that condition? Um, there's a whole 273 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: another side of this, which is conditions that you might 274 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: be more familiar with, like type two diabetes, migraine, things 275 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 1: like that, where there's not just one smoking gun. There's 276 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: not just one or two genetic variants, but it might 277 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: be thousands or tens of thousands of genetic variants that 278 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 1: all have this like tiny little effect. And what we 279 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: do then is we add all that up to sort 280 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: of give you this overall predisposition where we tell you 281 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 1: you might be at increased likelihood. And in those cases, 282 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:44,120 Speaker 1: then we can give you a percent chance, right, how 283 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 1: many people like you? What percentage of people like you 284 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: actually have that condition? And so you can kind of 285 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: get that like, um, exact number on it for yourself. Yeah, 286 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: that's really helpful. Have you all had I mean, I'm 287 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 1: sure there's so many stories of people who maybe never 288 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: and considered something specific about their health being a chance 289 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: for them, and then they do this test and get 290 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 1: it back and get the results, and maybe they go 291 00:17:09,880 --> 00:17:11,719 Speaker 1: in for a check up and catch something that they 292 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 1: wouldn't have caught sooner had they not seen that possibility. 293 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:17,919 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm worrying this right, but have 294 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 1: you all had any stories like that or seen anything 295 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 1: where people like it literally could save a life if 296 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 1: they caught something early. We do. We actually get a 297 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 1: lot of customers writing in and we have a whole 298 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:33,920 Speaker 1: team that works on these amazing customers stories to get 299 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,800 Speaker 1: them out there. And you know, the ones that I 300 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: think come most of mind that come up a lot 301 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:43,439 Speaker 1: are associated with brc UM. So this is if you 302 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,479 Speaker 1: have a variant, it greatly increases your chance for breast 303 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:49,119 Speaker 1: and a varian cancer and women there's also other certain 304 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: cancers as well. And it cannot big effect for mails too. UM. 305 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:54,919 Speaker 1: And this is something that a lot of people have 306 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: no idea to have these variants. We only test for 307 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 1: a select three and we're not diagnosing cancer right their 308 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:05,640 Speaker 1: stuffling limitations testing UM. But if you have this variant UM, 309 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:07,719 Speaker 1: it's really important to get it confirmed right. You need 310 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 1: to get confirmatory testing. But it is such that you 311 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 1: there's a lot of different actions that you can take 312 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: the greatly reduced your risk for cancer. Because we're talking 313 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:19,960 Speaker 1: about very high numbers here um and the very tests 314 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 1: bar are really common people that have Oshnazi Jewish ancestry 315 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:25,160 Speaker 1: up to one in forty So so many people don't 316 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: know that. And ultimately we have these amazing stories of 317 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,720 Speaker 1: women who have found out UM, some were adopted and 318 00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:35,359 Speaker 1: had no idea they had Ashtonazi Jewish ancestry. UM, somewhere 319 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 1: can sive via a sperm donor and had no idea, right. 320 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:40,919 Speaker 1: Or some knew that Oshonaze Jewish ancestry but had no 321 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: idea that there were these you know, increased likelihood that 322 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:46,440 Speaker 1: they could have these variants um. And so just incredible 323 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 1: stories of the actions people are able to take and 324 00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:53,199 Speaker 1: this empowerment UM. So we've seen it from you know, 325 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:55,399 Speaker 1: the b R type two diabetes. We get a lot 326 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 1: of stories that people saying, this makes me realize I 327 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:00,879 Speaker 1: need to take action, right, there's the things that I 328 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:04,919 Speaker 1: can do just living that healthy lifestyle that can really 329 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 1: have a big impact on reducing your chances. So we 330 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,159 Speaker 1: get a lot of these stories. UM. It's one of 331 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:11,720 Speaker 1: my favorite parts of what I do because I get 332 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 1: to hear these stories and so you really get that 333 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: feeling of Okay, it's there's there's a reason of what 334 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,160 Speaker 1: we're doing behind this, right, we're actually impacting people live 335 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: and I know the test is is I did it? 336 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: So it's easy, Like you get the test and you 337 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 1: fill up a tube to like a certain line with 338 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: like your spits. You're just like spit in it or whatever. 339 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 1: But is there like it Let's just say you didn't 340 00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:36,000 Speaker 1: spit to the line or if there is, like would 341 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: you send it back to somebody else, like to somebody 342 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,119 Speaker 1: and say like do it again? Or like does that 343 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: ever happen? Yeah, So we have some quality control measures, 344 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 1: so when you send that too off to the lab, 345 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: they're going to check to make sure that we can 346 00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 1: you know, get enough DNA so you know your your spit. 347 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:54,119 Speaker 1: Basically what we're looking at is like the cheek cells 348 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:56,200 Speaker 1: that sort of come along for the ride in your spit. 349 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 1: So sometimes there's not enough cells in there, so we 350 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 1: can't get enough DNA out, So the I will do 351 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 1: that was like sort of quality controls or there's not 352 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: enough spit or you know that it doesn't run properly, 353 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:07,439 Speaker 1: and so if any of that happens that sort of 354 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 1: gets kicked back and generally, well said a replacement kit, 355 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 1: so you can give it a second try, um, you know, 356 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,119 Speaker 1: to to to get that full experience. We do whatever 357 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:17,919 Speaker 1: we can. I was happy that it was I was 358 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,920 Speaker 1: happy that it was spit because I don't know why 359 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: I thought DNA testing was like blood or like you know, 360 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 1: so I was like, I don't know what you're gonna say, 361 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: is just like I'm not I don't know about precky 362 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 1: like sending the blood. And then they're like, no, no, 363 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,760 Speaker 1: just spin. I was like, oh, great, twenty three it is. 364 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: It's a lot of spit. But yes, it's a way 365 00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: better collecting than than blood in my opinion, way easier, 366 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 1: way less dramatic. Um Tanya and I were talking about 367 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:51,400 Speaker 1: so Tanya, both of her parents are Serbian and her 368 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 1: their parents are Serbian, and she was like, I feel 369 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 1: like I would be a percent Serbian, and I was. 370 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: I was saying, like, what if your results came back 371 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:02,119 Speaker 1: and it was totally different than what you expected. Do 372 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 1: you see a lot of those stories and I'm I'm 373 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: assuming people who maybe aren't familiar if they were adopted 374 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: and weren't familiar, you know, with biological parents. But um, 375 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: I imagine that can be kind of overwhelming for people 376 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: sometimes to get these results and get answers that maybe 377 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 1: they didn't even realize they had questions about. Yeah, I 378 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: think what the ancestry side. Um, you know, one thing 379 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: to always keep in mind is what we're good looking 380 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:30,919 Speaker 1: at is like what your DNA says, and that's not 381 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:32,720 Speaker 1: the same as like culture and the like how you 382 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 1: grew up and all of that, right, and so a 383 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: lot of times, you know, political borders change and you know, 384 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 1: maybe the border has has shifted, and so you're getting 385 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:43,680 Speaker 1: a result that's saying like, hey, I'm from this other place, 386 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,160 Speaker 1: but I know my family is you know, is from here. 387 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: And sometimes the DNA doesn't reflect what we know that 388 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:52,200 Speaker 1: happened happened in history. So um, you know, it's it's 389 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: a start the ancestry sort of a start of a 390 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:57,639 Speaker 1: journey to like look into maybe hey, maybe your family 391 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,240 Speaker 1: moved and it was you know, great great great grandparents 392 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: that we didn't know about king from somewhere else. So 393 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 1: that sometimes what happens with with those results. Um. But 394 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,440 Speaker 1: I think what's interesting is hearing people talk about like, oh, 395 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 1: it was exactly what I like thought I was and 396 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:14,400 Speaker 1: it was great, or it was exactly what I thought 397 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,399 Speaker 1: it was, and I wish I had found something different 398 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,959 Speaker 1: either for the extended one that you were saying like 399 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 1: that the um what were you saying earlier that there 400 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 1: was like a second layer of it that you can 401 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: kind of follow up and get more information. Plus, yeah, 402 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,480 Speaker 1: can you get like food allergies with that or is 403 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 1: that totally different? So we don't have food allergies right now. 404 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 1: We do have a couple things that touch on food. UM. 405 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: So we have like lactose intolerance or predisposition to things 406 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: like Celiac disease, but not specific food allergies. UM. Foods 407 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 1: a little tough because it's um both you know, you 408 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,880 Speaker 1: how you react, but you know we have where all 409 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: we all have this gut microbiome um. And so it's 410 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 1: also how like all your little colonizers are reacting to 411 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,359 Speaker 1: the food you eat as well. Also, it's a little 412 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: top to do food allergies with just with just your genetics. 413 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,679 Speaker 1: We do have some other allergies though, like dog and 414 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 1: cat allergies, which is really interesting. Yes, thank you, Stacy. 415 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 1: I always wonder if maybe I'm like mildly allergic to dogs, 416 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: like my dog sitting right here. I would I don't, 417 00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,080 Speaker 1: I would never care, Like I would never do anything 418 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,240 Speaker 1: about it, but I've always wondered that, and with cats. 419 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: But I think, I think even just the basic of 420 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,880 Speaker 1: something like celiac disease or lactose intolerant is really helpful 421 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: for people, because I don't think a lot of people 422 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: realize how much if it's affecting your body, how much 423 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:39,359 Speaker 1: it affects like everything, it can affect your mental health, 424 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:41,960 Speaker 1: like the gut is so powerful. Let me tell you, 425 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,320 Speaker 1: I've never officially been told that I'm lactose intolerant, but 426 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 1: like the way that dairy makes me feel, I'm like 427 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 1: diagnosed myself. So I'm curious to see what my twenty 428 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: three in me says about my lactose tolerance. Yeah. Yeah, 429 00:23:58,400 --> 00:23:59,879 Speaker 1: and at least you might be able to help me on. 430 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,399 Speaker 1: But lactose and tolerance is really interesting because actually, you know, 431 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: the way human evolution was, everyone was lacked of intolerant, 432 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: and there was actually a genetic variant that occurred that 433 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,640 Speaker 1: made it so that you could actually stay lack of tolerant. 434 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 1: So it's much more likely for people to actually be 435 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,280 Speaker 1: lacked of intolerant in a lot of the world. So, um, 436 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,200 Speaker 1: it's something a lot of people don't think about the 437 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:24,400 Speaker 1: really it's very common. So uh, we're actually looking at 438 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,920 Speaker 1: a variant lact of tolerant that you know, it's something 439 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,639 Speaker 1: that came about later on in evolution. That's really cool. 440 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 1: And I also think, like I was, I really like 441 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,880 Speaker 1: that people can get the results and they don't have 442 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: to be a scientists ore a doctor to read them 443 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 1: and understand them, because sometimes I mean, when you get 444 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 1: your labs done at the doctor and they're like if 445 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,119 Speaker 1: we see you the labs and you look at it 446 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:53,920 Speaker 1: and you're like, um, no idea. And so I think 447 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,919 Speaker 1: um Mark was reading his earlier and talking. He was 448 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 1: reading it as he was, you know, talking to us 449 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:02,080 Speaker 1: about to and it was so just like straightforward. There 450 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 1: was no moment of me being like, what in the 451 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:10,320 Speaker 1: heck does that mean? Like it's all very yeah. So 452 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 1: I wanted to acknowledge that, and like, how important was 453 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 1: that for y'all? Because people are doing these at phone 454 00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,880 Speaker 1: tests and making it really accessible and easy to get 455 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:25,120 Speaker 1: the results without feeling confused. I guess, yeah, that's that's 456 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 1: top of mind as we're creating these reports, is right, 457 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,040 Speaker 1: We're always thinking about not just how can we make it, 458 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 1: you know, easy for someone to understand, but also like 459 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,359 Speaker 1: who is the person that's going to be receiving this result, 460 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,360 Speaker 1: and like really thinking about what what do they need 461 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 1: when they're receiving these different results? You know, some are 462 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,679 Speaker 1: super fun and friendly and some are more serious and 463 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: and really thinking through and keeping that person in mind 464 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,720 Speaker 1: is like as a core part of how we do 465 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 1: our work. Yeah, I love that part about it. Um. 466 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,000 Speaker 1: Is there anything else that we didn't touch on that 467 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: you would want people to know about twenty three me 468 00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,920 Speaker 1: that maybe haven't done it or haven't heard about it, 469 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 1: or this is their first time hearing about it. You know. 470 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:10,440 Speaker 1: I think you know, we really feel that knowledge is empowerment, right, Um, 471 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:13,679 Speaker 1: But it is something that you know, you can't undo knowing. 472 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: And there's a lot of things that people find you 473 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 1: touched upon this before, things that you never thought about 474 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,880 Speaker 1: that you discover about yourself. And so I always say 475 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: the genetic counselor inside of me just as really you know, 476 00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 1: think about it, but go into it with a very 477 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,119 Speaker 1: open mind. We have all these education tutorials, take a 478 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 1: look at um all the information that's out there. UM, 479 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,679 Speaker 1: but I really feel very struggling that knowledge is power 480 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:36,920 Speaker 1: and there is so much knowledge that you can find 481 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 1: out about yourself from this. Well, thank you so much 482 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:44,200 Speaker 1: for joining and thank you people. Where can people get 483 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,240 Speaker 1: the test and get it sent to them? Is there 484 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: a great question? Thank you? Yeah, I mean I think 485 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,399 Speaker 1: the main is just this pointing for a new website. UM. 486 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,320 Speaker 1: I go there almost every day, so we definitely have 487 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 1: money through me. Dot com is the main aspect of 488 00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 1: how you can access it and kind of see all 489 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 1: the different operations that are out there. Right. We talked 490 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:09,080 Speaker 1: about UM the different healthless ancestry membership, so there's a 491 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 1: lot for everyone. It's nationwide, right, yes, amazing. Well, thank 492 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 1: you all so much for coming on and UM chatting 493 00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 1: with us about it and chatting so that everyone could listen. 494 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:24,000 Speaker 1: We really appreciate you all for scrubbing in. Thanks for 495 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 1: having us. Yeah, thank you guys. All right, you guys, 496 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,480 Speaker 1: we are back and Mark is back to read emails 497 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: as I really struggled last week. Thank god, so you struggle. 498 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 1: It was just like hard to follow you like I 499 00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:54,879 Speaker 1: was just like Y was like something I miss Mark. 500 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 1: This is really hard. Thank you and thank you Becka. 501 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,480 Speaker 1: And here we go. This is from Amanda. I've been 502 00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:03,840 Speaker 1: out off dating a man off because of me, who 503 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,520 Speaker 1: is so loving, cares about me, tells me, shows me 504 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 1: all the time, but not in an annoying way. When 505 00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 1: we first started dating, I was fresh out of a 506 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 1: three year relationship. That was my excuse, and I wanted 507 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:15,920 Speaker 1: to see what else was out there. He's the best 508 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,440 Speaker 1: one I've found for sure. However, I have a masters 509 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: in nursing and he works at a brewery, and I 510 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 1: know it shouldn't bother me, but it does, not the 511 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:27,879 Speaker 1: brewery part, but the educational financial part. He pays his 512 00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,600 Speaker 1: own bills and can afford enough. But I've never seen 513 00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 1: myself being the money maker. Is that a deal breaker? 514 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,680 Speaker 1: Or am I throwing away true love over something stupid? 515 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: So here's my my knee jerk reaction is if you're 516 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 1: if you found this man that's like everything that you've wanted, 517 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 1: and it's like has all the qualities that you're looking for. 518 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:54,400 Speaker 1: Circumstances change, and to me, it's more it's not like 519 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 1: what he does professionally, but what his dreams and his 520 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 1: ambitions are because we don't know, like maybe he's a 521 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 1: bar tender right now, but one day he wants to 522 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: own his own bar. Or some people bartend and do 523 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,440 Speaker 1: you know their other worker, are you know, starting their 524 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: business on the side, and that's you know. So I 525 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 1: feel like we don't have quite the information to see 526 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 1: what his dreams and aspirations are. If he doesn't have dreams, 527 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,360 Speaker 1: he doesn't have aspirations, and he doesn't really have goals 528 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,160 Speaker 1: and that's bothering you, then that's always going to bother you, 529 00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:25,760 Speaker 1: and that's not going to go away. So I feel 530 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 1: like ultimately it will be a deal breaker, but I 531 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: feel like on the surface level, it's not. Yeah, I 532 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:37,640 Speaker 1: think this is just based on who you are, what 533 00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: you what's important to you, because like for me personally, 534 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: I don't think this would be a deal breaker, but 535 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 1: I do think I do think it's valid if it's 536 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: a deal breaker, Like I don't think you're a bad 537 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 1: person for wanting someone who has like career drive and 538 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,760 Speaker 1: like Tanya said, dreams, But granted, we don't know much 539 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:57,960 Speaker 1: about him, but what I'm gathering from her email is 540 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 1: that he's very content working at the are and you 541 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:05,120 Speaker 1: know there's hasn't been much movement or he hasn't shown 542 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 1: progress in that area of like going to the next level. 543 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,520 Speaker 1: It's a totally personal preference, you're right, yeah, And I 544 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,000 Speaker 1: just think like if that's something that's important to you 545 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: and you're always gonna make him feel bad about his decision, 546 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: because like, for someone to feel content in something, especially 547 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: when it's work and they and they're still able to 548 00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,200 Speaker 1: pull their part and pay their part, then it's not 549 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,800 Speaker 1: fair for you to make him feel less than because 550 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 1: that is something that you care about more than he does. 551 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,840 Speaker 1: So I think if you can look past it and realize, like, hey, 552 00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 1: maybe I do make more, maybe I'm a little more 553 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 1: driven than him, and maybe you know that's how it's 554 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,280 Speaker 1: always gonna be. And I love him and he's wonderful. 555 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 1: I can look past it, then I think you stay 556 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:53,960 Speaker 1: in it. But I think that if you're always going 557 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:58,120 Speaker 1: to worry about that, and also it's going to lead 558 00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,240 Speaker 1: into you making him feel less than I think maybe 559 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 1: you find someone who's more on the level that you're 560 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 1: looking for. You can't control how you feel, right, I mean, 561 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 1: how many times have you heard from people who are 562 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:13,080 Speaker 1: dating somebody who checks every box. There's just something missing. 563 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:17,480 Speaker 1: There's just it's not tickling your pickle, to use your phrase, 564 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,120 Speaker 1: it's not sparking you for whatever reason. He's hot, he's 565 00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,760 Speaker 1: he treats me great, he's so friendly, he's so sweet. 566 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: But for some reason, it's just not happening. That's okay, 567 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,240 Speaker 1: And there's sometimes we can't put our finger on that 568 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 1: and what it is. And maybe it is because of 569 00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 1: his his ambitions, and maybe it's not. Whatever, it doesn't 570 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,680 Speaker 1: matter if it is or not, it's not happening for you. 571 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 1: And so I think, yeah, I think you probably have 572 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,960 Speaker 1: to move on, no matter what the reason is, it's 573 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 1: just not happening for you. You Know what's interesting though 574 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 1: that I think about because like back in the you know, 575 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 1: olden days, when like it was like the man works, 576 00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:55,680 Speaker 1: the woman stays home and raises the kids, and like 577 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 1: that was just the dynamic of what it was like. 578 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 1: Did men back then feel that way about their partner, 579 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,680 Speaker 1: Because it's like when you have two people in a relationship, 580 00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like odds are more likely that 581 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: somebody's going to make more than the other, whether it's now, 582 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 1: whether it's the man or the woman or or in 583 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 1: any sort of relationship, there's two people and somebody's going 584 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 1: to make more than the other. It's just it is 585 00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,600 Speaker 1: what it is. So it's like I wonder back in 586 00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 1: the day if men felt like why didn't men feel 587 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:31,280 Speaker 1: that way about their wives? Do you know what I mean? Well, 588 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:34,000 Speaker 1: I think I don't think this answer your question. I 589 00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 1: think a lot of men are bothered by women who 590 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 1: make more than them. They find it emasculating. Yeah, but 591 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: but like it's so funny because as women, like, we've 592 00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 1: come so far from that now in terms of the 593 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:53,240 Speaker 1: money and the equality in the house and relationships and stuff. 594 00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: But you know, when she says she makes more than him, 595 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,920 Speaker 1: it is there is the thing still with a woman 596 00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: making more than her male partner. Well, it's like what 597 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,719 Speaker 1: we're almost like trained by society to think what it's 598 00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 1: supposed to, what the dynamic is supposed to look like. 599 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,800 Speaker 1: That's changing. So it's like it is, but it's just 600 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:21,200 Speaker 1: like everything that's ingrained in us, you have to unlearn it, 601 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,560 Speaker 1: and sometimes it takes a lot of work to do. 602 00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:28,680 Speaker 1: And sometimes it's like I also think deal breakers are 603 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,680 Speaker 1: so personal, Like someone else's deal breaker, I might be 604 00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,680 Speaker 1: like really like you're gonna end something with someone because 605 00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 1: of that, But I might have a deal breaker that 606 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,680 Speaker 1: someone else is like, really, you're going to add something 607 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,080 Speaker 1: with that. So I think if if it's constantly bothering you, 608 00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,560 Speaker 1: and I agree with Tania, like, if this is a 609 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,920 Speaker 1: this is one of those things that's the society expectation 610 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:53,160 Speaker 1: that's ingrained in you, and that's what you're main focus 611 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,240 Speaker 1: is on, then maybe there's a way that you try 612 00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:58,880 Speaker 1: to work through that. But I also think there's a 613 00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:02,880 Speaker 1: lot of fish in this hand. If yeah, I don't know, 614 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 1: I mean to own that bar one day, or at 615 00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 1: least kind of move off the ladder in the restaurant industry, 616 00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:09,200 Speaker 1: And if you sits around playing video games all day, 617 00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:11,360 Speaker 1: then I can see why she Oh for sure. I 618 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 1: mean I would be the same way even if it 619 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,239 Speaker 1: wasn't like a bartender. Let's just say, I don't even know. 620 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to like you know, I don't want 621 00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:25,600 Speaker 1: to stereotype. I don't any job where you're not moving. Yeah, 622 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,440 Speaker 1: go like, I I love the thought of like somebody 623 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 1: that wants to move forward or push more or you 624 00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 1: know what I mean, like not be so like I 625 00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,080 Speaker 1: just I don't think I could ever have a partner 626 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,680 Speaker 1: that's complacent and that's just me personally that might not 627 00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:40,560 Speaker 1: somebody else might not care about that. Somebody else might 628 00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,759 Speaker 1: love the day to day the same routine and that 629 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,120 Speaker 1: that stability in that consistency. So it's just like, yeah, 630 00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:50,840 Speaker 1: it's kind of preference. Well, I think specifically America really 631 00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:54,360 Speaker 1: focuses on work, you know, like and I think other countries, 632 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:59,799 Speaker 1: like I've just learned this through TikTok, where people like 633 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: in other countries get like breaks during during the day 634 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,320 Speaker 1: and they don't have to like always think of work 635 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: like we do in America, like our mindset. So I, um, 636 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 1: I think it's just different, different strokes for different Speaking 637 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,160 Speaker 1: of TikTok, I found out the other day, this is 638 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,279 Speaker 1: totally off topic, but that like, um, you know when 639 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,160 Speaker 1: you take your dog for a walk and they like 640 00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,160 Speaker 1: stop to like smell that this and the smell that that, 641 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,640 Speaker 1: and kind of like what's good for them? No, that's 642 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,000 Speaker 1: like their TikTok, Like that's they're like social media, that's 643 00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 1: they're kind of like thing. Well I saw I don't 644 00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:34,600 Speaker 1: know if this is the same thing, but I saw 645 00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:36,799 Speaker 1: something similar and I used to get so annoyed because 646 00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:41,719 Speaker 1: Phoebe sniffs everything. Now I take her out and I'm like, 647 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,719 Speaker 1: sniff away. Yeah, I'm like, oh my gosh, it's like 648 00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:49,200 Speaker 1: your Instagram time, like you go, girl. So our advice 649 00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:53,760 Speaker 1: to her is, either it's okay, if it's a deal breaker, 650 00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,799 Speaker 1: get out, and it's always gonna get out now it's 651 00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,000 Speaker 1: not fair to either of you. And if it's something 652 00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 1: that you want to kind of unlearned, if it's a 653 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,720 Speaker 1: society thing, then work on that too. But you deserve 654 00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,800 Speaker 1: to be happy, and so does he. All Right, you guys, 655 00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 1: so we're done for the day. I hope you have 656 00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,640 Speaker 1: a great week, and I promise you. I am trying 657 00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 1: to book Haley Kiyoko, but she is a busy girl 658 00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:20,200 Speaker 1: and she really wants to come on the podcast. I 659 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,840 Speaker 1: think it'd be really fun to do like a game 660 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:27,000 Speaker 1: with with Robbie and me and Haley and you. Yeah, 661 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 1: but we need Haley in studio, like, I don't want 662 00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:33,640 Speaker 1: her to do like a zoom Okay, I'll be sure 663 00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:35,160 Speaker 1: when we book her that she needs to know it 664 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:39,040 Speaker 1: will be in studio interview. Yeah, because like when she comes, 665 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,239 Speaker 1: it's gonna be like an Oprah sit down interview. You 666 00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:44,840 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, it's not gonna be this 667 00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 1: quick zoom link bye bye situation. You know what I mean, 668 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:55,960 Speaker 1: We really need to get to know her, like yeah, alright, 669 00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,920 Speaker 1: Well until then, have a great week. We love you 670 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:15,640 Speaker 1: and it Bye bye bye m