1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:02,600 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Velvet Edge Podcast. My guest this week is Brad Yates. 3 00:00:06,640 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: Brad is known internationally for his creative and often humorous 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: use of the emotional freedom technique, otherwise known as e 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 1: f T or tapping. Brad is the author of the 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: best selling children's book The Wizard's Wish, the co author 7 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,479 Speaker 1: of the best seller Freedom at Your Fingertips, and a 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: featured expert in the film The Tapping Solution. Brad has 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: over nine hundred tapping videos on YouTube that have been 10 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: viewed over thirty one million times, with a range of 11 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,880 Speaker 1: different topics of stress, self love, money, manifestation, and more, 12 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: in which Brad uses e f T to heal our fears, trauma, 13 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: and old misunderstandings. So what is e f T and 14 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 1: why does it work? Well? Brad is here to tell 15 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: us that today and gives us the scientific proof behind 16 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: why tapping has helped millions heal and create the true 17 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: life they desire. Here's our conversation. So I have to 18 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: tell you that, you know, I interview a lot of 19 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: musicians and celebrities, and when I thought too, when we 20 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: were emailing, I was like, oh, my gosh, I was 21 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: seeking out like this was the most excited I've been 22 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 1: a really long time to do an interview because in 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: my world of healing and of just doing the work 24 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: to heal trauma and things like that, you have become 25 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: a very integral part of that for me, and it's 26 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: been so helpful to do your tapping exercises. So I'm 27 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: really excited to get to talk to you and to 28 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:35,119 Speaker 1: share it with people what it is that you do. 29 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: Can you describe what e f T is? Yeah, certainly so. 30 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: E f T is short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, and 31 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: a lot of us call the process tapping because we 32 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: literally tap with our fingertips on places around our face 33 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: and our torso. And for anyone who's new to this, 34 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: I know that sounds a little strange, and bear with 35 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: us because there's a very good reason why we do it. 36 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 1: So it was originally developed from acupressure. So actu pressure 37 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 1: and acupuncture have been around with thousands of years in 38 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: Chinese medicine, based on the principle that there's this flow 39 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 1: of energy through the body along pathways that are called meridians, 40 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: and when this energy is flowing naturally, we experience our 41 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 1: natural state of health and well being physically and emotionally, 42 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: and when this energy gets stuck, we don't feel so 43 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 1: good and we don't make the best choices, and that 44 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: has unfortunate consequences on our lives. So in traditional acupuncture, 45 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: the doctor would stick needles in these key places around 46 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: the face and body. So we're just tapping with our 47 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 1: fingertips to stimulate those same areas. And we also have 48 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: modern research showing that it is a profound stress relief technique. 49 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: So if you thought of tapping any f t is 50 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: nothing more than stress relief. We can see why it's 51 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: so benefit ficial because most, if not all, of the 52 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: issues that trouble us are either caused by or worsened 53 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: by stress. So we have chemical studies showing that the courtisol, 54 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: one of stress hormones, is dramatically reduced in the groups 55 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: that are doing tapping. We have to have our eyes 56 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 1: studies where we can see brain scans and the brain 57 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: activity and we can see how it normalizes after tapping. 58 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 1: So I know the capping sounds a little strange, but 59 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: they're scientific research validating how effective it is. Yeah, I 60 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: love that it's called emotional freedom technique. Because you know, 61 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: I'm a highly emotional person of feeler and I talked 62 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: about that a lot on this podcast. Um, but how 63 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: much are we driven by emotions in our lives? And 64 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: go ahead to answer that one first, and then I'll 65 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: go further with that question. I can only hold so 66 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: many questions. I know, I'm sorry, Im Sorr, I'm sorry, 67 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: UM yeah, I'm profoundly were profoundly driven by our choices. 68 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: That's why we make so many choices. But why did 69 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: I do that? It's logical, if if we operated on logic, 70 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: we would all be extremely healthy and extremely wealthy and 71 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: very happy and uh and do everything right because we 72 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: know what to do. But most most of our behavior 73 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: is unconscious. Of our behavior is unconscious, so it's being 74 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: done by our emotions, and mostly in terms of trying 75 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: to protect ourselves, trying to make ourselves feel better or 76 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: to lower whatever discomfort we might be experiencing. So you know, 77 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: we find ourselves. You know, halfway through a pint of 78 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: ice cream, goin, when did I open this? Right? What 79 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: was I thinking? I was thinking that I wasn't feeling 80 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: good and that, uh, this would make me feel better. 81 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 1: So I like to say that self sabotage is simply 82 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: misguided self love. You know, we might say, oh, eating 83 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: a pint of ice cream is sabotaging my health goals. 84 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: But if there's a part of me that says I'm 85 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: not feeling good, something is upsetting me, and ice cream 86 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: makes me feel better, then we can see that it's 87 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: an active self love. And then we can have compassion 88 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:25,159 Speaker 1: for ourselves rather than beating ourselves up and uh, and 89 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: that creates an opening them for us to find a 90 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: better way to take care of ourselves and use things 91 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: like tapping to to lower the emotional and physical discomfort 92 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 1: work experience. You know what I think it's so interesting 93 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 1: about just how much of our behavior is driven by 94 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: emotions is that you know, you know the people they're like, 95 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: I'm the opposite of this. For instance, I cannot not 96 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: react to my emotions like I actually have to really 97 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: work at that in my therapy and all this stuff 98 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: because I'm just very reactive. I'm so emotionally driven. And 99 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: then on the flip side, there's other people who, um, 100 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: you know that maybe the stuffers like they bury the emotions. 101 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: But even if you're one of those people, you are 102 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: still making decisions based on emotional experiences, right, because you're 103 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: completely unconscious. Yes, yes, you're just not as aware of it. Yeah, okay, 104 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: so you can't run away from your emotions? Is the point? 105 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: Exactly exactly? The person who's not as, who doesn't feel 106 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: as emotional, might might have a harder time understanding why 107 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: they're making the decisions that they're making. Yeah, huh, I 108 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: didn't get upset about something? Why did I? Why did 109 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 1: I do that? But we're all experiencing stress at some level, 110 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 1: especially in the information age, when there's so much stressful 111 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: information coming out, and and we're all responding to it 112 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: and trying to handle it in different ways, and again, 113 00:06:54,120 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: most of it unconsciously. So now I'm gonna I'm going 114 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: to encourage you, Kelly, to to change how you identify 115 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: yourself terms of I am always so reactive and yeah, okay, 116 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: tell me that that's how you have been, Okay? Um? 117 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: But and and and obviously because of the successes you've 118 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: created there are you are not as? You're not completely 119 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: trapped by that. No, that's probably was an exaggeration the 120 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 1: way I said it. I think probably Also it's because 121 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: this week I have been extremely emotionally reactive and so 122 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: it's fresh on my mind. But you're right, I mean 123 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: it is a learned thing, and in the healing work 124 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: that I've done, I have learned to maybe tap more 125 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: into some of the logical stuff instead of just going like, 126 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: you know, feelings aren't facts. There's a lot of things 127 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: you learn when you start diving into why you're doing 128 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: what you're doing. So um, but I want to know 129 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: how you got in into this, because, as you said, 130 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 1: you know, when you first hear about it, you're kind 131 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: of like, wait, what you're doing? What's tapping? So can 132 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: you tell us that story? Yeah? How does a grown 133 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: man find himself tapping on his face? Right? Uh? So 134 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: I actually started out as an actor. I had traveled 135 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: the world doing theater, came to Hollywood to be a 136 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: movie star, and when I was here, I met a woman, 137 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,560 Speaker 1: fell in love, got married, and when our first child 138 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: was on the way, I was thinking I should probably 139 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 1: have a backup career. So I had always been fascinated 140 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: with the power of the mind, and so I trained 141 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: to become hypnotherapist and my acting training and my theatrical 142 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: voice was very conducive to that, and start doing that, 143 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:58,560 Speaker 1: and after a couple of years, when our second job 144 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 1: was on the way, it occurred to me that as 145 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: much as I loved acting, this personal development work was 146 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: really my calling. This is what it really felt the 147 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: most fulfilling for me. So we moved from Los Angeles 148 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,079 Speaker 1: up to northern California to be close to our families, 149 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:19,319 Speaker 1: and through some other hypnotherapists, I heard about energy work 150 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: and I went to a training any f T training 151 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: would be f T founder Gary Craig, and just fell 152 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,320 Speaker 1: in love with it. It was like wow. Especially he 153 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 1: took us through an exercise to deal with chocolate cravings. 154 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: Get everybody at Hershey's Kiss and said, okay, I'm a 155 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: scale of zero to ten, how much do you want 156 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: that chocolate? And I was the eight or a nine, 157 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: a bit of a chocoholic at the time, and after 158 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 1: just a few moments of tapping, I couldn't eat the chocolate. 159 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: I had as much interest in it as I did 160 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,320 Speaker 1: the toil rapper, and I didn't eat. I didn't eat 161 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: chocolate for two years after that. Now, now don't worry 162 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:04,960 Speaker 1: about I got better. I recovered. Um still occasionally able 163 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: to enjoy chocolate, but I'm also able to let it 164 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: go when it's uh, when I want to take a break. 165 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: So that was that was one of those things that 166 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: profoundly sold it for me and in my in my 167 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: time as an actor, I had trained their Rinkling Brothers 168 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: in Barnam Bailey Clown College. So I was fortunate that 169 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: when I was introduced to tapping, it wasn't the strangest 170 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: thing I've ever seen I had. I had admittedly a 171 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: bit of an advantage when being introduced to tapping that 172 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 1: that a lot of people who have a more straight 173 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: and narrow life experience, Yes, I might find it a 174 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: little more off path. Well, I will tell you about 175 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 1: my first experience. So I work with um an energy healer. 176 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 1: Her name is Linda Penny and she's actually done this 177 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: podcast before too. She's amazing, but she um she does 178 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: a lot of sound therapy and she does you know, 179 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: she'll do tapping with you in the in the session, 180 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: but she sends me home with homework from your videos 181 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: every time because they're very helpful to me. But I 182 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 1: when she first did it, I was like, okay, lady, 183 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: like this is insane, you know, and just also it 184 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: doesn't seem like it's one of those things like in 185 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 1: the moment, maybe you're like, okay, cool, Yeah, this could help, 186 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: But I don't know that I've understood that consistently doing 187 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: it could help heal some of my real deep traumas um. 188 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: But the minute that I started actually doing the tapping, 189 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: I knew it was something real because the second she 190 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: told me to say the first phrase that I said 191 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: and I started tapping, I started crying. So it was 192 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:49,560 Speaker 1: obviously like targeting into something much much deeper, very unconscious 193 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: for me, but also very strong in driving the decisions 194 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: I was making. Like you said, so have you seen 195 00:11:56,080 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 1: that with a lot of people, Yes, because we get 196 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 1: this stuff trapped in our energy system, and you know, 197 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: from very early on. So many of these things are 198 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: are from a very early age, and we make decisions 199 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 1: about ourselves and about situations and what's safe, and you know, 200 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: and and sometimes the tapping can sometimes happen very quickly, 201 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: the the the effect, and we notice an immediate shift. 202 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: And some of these things are have been around for 203 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: so long and have so many aspects that it takes 204 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: persistence over some times to clear these different aspects. But 205 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: to me, tapping is like energy hygiene. So we have 206 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,439 Speaker 1: physical hygiene like brushing our teeth and taking a shower, 207 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: and we do it on a regular basis. You know, 208 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,320 Speaker 1: we don't wait until there's green things growing between our 209 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: teeth and say now I should brush my teeth. We 210 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: don't wait most of us until pull around us or 211 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: holding their nose and saying, ah, I now I should 212 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 1: take a shower. But with stress, we don't do that. 213 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: Most of us don't have a cleansing process for our 214 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: energy system, and so that stuff builds up and we 215 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: may have, you know, decades of energy filth. That's that 216 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:27,959 Speaker 1: it's built up. So I read, so I recommend tapping 217 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,199 Speaker 1: on a daily basis, just like brushing your teeth. So 218 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: what does it look like or how does that manifest 219 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:37,640 Speaker 1: when your energy is stuck? What does that physically look 220 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 1: like in people? You know, it can look like so 221 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: many different things. There are plenty of physical ailments that 222 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: are manifestations of that stress and those trapped emotions. Certainly 223 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: in um in Louise Hayes book You Can Heal Your Life, 224 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: she has a chart listing out all kinds of physical 225 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: ailments and what the trapped emotion maybe so those things 226 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: can manifest in all kinds of ways and in all 227 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: kinds of behavioral things, the way that we take certain 228 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:14,640 Speaker 1: actions or we stop ourselves from taking certain actions, and 229 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: it all has positive intention. You know, when whether we're 230 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: forgetting quote unquote forgetting to make that call to that 231 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: perspective employer, or we're yelling at somebody whatever, whatever that 232 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: behavior is, there's part of the saying I need to 233 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: do this to keep myself safe. And so when we 234 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: can allow ourselves to to reconize, okay, it's all about 235 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 1: trying to take care of myself, and there is some 236 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:46,760 Speaker 1: level of stress that's coming up, and particularly in the 237 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: ways we block our success because something tells us more 238 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 1: success will not be safe. And so when we can 239 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 1: allow ourselves to say, all right, I can see that 240 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: I'm trying to protect myself, and now is as I 241 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:03,960 Speaker 1: task and I calmed down that stress response, I can 242 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 1: look and say, is what I'm afraid of? We? Or 243 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: is this in misunderstanding? Do I know? One of the 244 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 1: things with money for a lot of folks is the 245 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: fear that will become a gleedy and nasty person. Well 246 00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 1: that's not necessarily true, and people you know there are 247 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: there are there are nasty, poor people, and there are wonderful, loving, kind, 248 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: rich people. Money doesn't do that to you. It's our 249 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:36,880 Speaker 1: fears and beliefs. So as we clear that stress and 250 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 1: that that need to cling to what is familiar. And 251 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: that was the thing about bringing a thing about identifying 252 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 1: ourselves as I am always this way, we we create 253 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:53,520 Speaker 1: an identity of ourselves based on our past experience and 254 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 1: say that's who I am. And we have a as 255 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: human beings, we love to be right. So we will 256 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: engage each behavior that proved, well, that was not the 257 00:16:02,440 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 1: best outcome, but hey, at least I proved that I'm 258 00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: right about who I am. And uh, And so we 259 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: will keep ourselves trapped in circumstances based on how we've 260 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: identified ourselves. And so it's allowing ourselves to say, okay, 261 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: so it was great because what you had said there 262 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 1: is I've rather whereas originally you said I'm ir reactive, 263 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:30,360 Speaker 1: then you said I've been reacted this week. It's like, yeah, exactly, 264 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: that's how you've been. It's not who you are, it's 265 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: what you've been doing. And so when we can separate 266 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,880 Speaker 1: our identity from our behavior and recognize our behavior doesn't 267 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: define us, but our behavior is a result of how 268 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: we may be incorrectly defining ourselves based on old misunderstandings. 269 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: And and there's a part of this that likes to 270 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 1: stick to what's safe and what's familiar, even even if 271 00:16:55,960 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: it's self destructive and exactly and so and so there's 272 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 1: a partisan has a stress response when we go to change, 273 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: even if we recognize it would be so much better 274 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: if I did this, then, Um, but part of says, yes, 275 00:17:11,840 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: but that's not what's familiar, and so I would rather 276 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: do what's familiar and deal with the unfortunate consequences. And 277 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:23,320 Speaker 1: as we tapping and reduced the stress, we start to 278 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 1: create an opening to see things differently, do things differently, 279 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 1: and and redefine ourselves in much more empowering ways. I 280 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 1: find it so fast. I mean, this whole thing. You know, 281 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:38,320 Speaker 1: the universe works in mysterious ways for not there's just 282 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 1: not there's not accidents, I guess, I think. And the 283 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,760 Speaker 1: fact that I'm actually doing this podcast with you today 284 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 1: is of no accident because you're tapping into so tapping 285 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:51,199 Speaker 1: in Um, you're tapping into so many things that that 286 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:55,119 Speaker 1: I'm bumping up against, and so many of the things 287 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: that I'm bumping up against our old stories that have 288 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:01,360 Speaker 1: been triggered lately by some things that have happened. But 289 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: I am now manifesting that into other aspects of my 290 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: life because it's like what you just said, I'm going 291 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:11,680 Speaker 1: to see I did know that story was true or um, 292 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 1: I can't remember exactly how you just said that, but 293 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:17,280 Speaker 1: that we will do these certain actions to prove that 294 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:19,639 Speaker 1: that message is true, even if it's negative. You know, 295 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:23,440 Speaker 1: And a lot of mine lately has been around, um, betrayal, 296 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: and that's an old wound from my past. But when 297 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,880 Speaker 1: you mentioned the chocolate stuff, you said, like you took 298 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: it to year break, but now you're back, Like how 299 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:36,240 Speaker 1: long and how effective can tapping be to healing? Maybe 300 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 1: like some PTSD around for instance, like the betrayal stuff 301 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 1: that hasn't come up for me in a really long time. Um, 302 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: but it is again, So it's not like it took 303 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 1: it away, but maybe it like helped me through it. 304 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 1: And so now I'm like going, oh, maybe I should 305 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: get back to this tapping because obviously something is happening 306 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 1: in my energy system to bring that back to surface. 307 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Yeah? Yeah? And there are there 308 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: are different aspects to two different things. So and sometimes 309 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,199 Speaker 1: so one of the analogies I use imagine that you 310 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 1: had a field that you wanted to plant, but it's 311 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: got a lot of big has a lot of big 312 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: boulders in it, and so you go out one morning 313 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 1: to work on clearing a boulder and you work all 314 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 1: day to clear that boulder out and it's out. It's like, wow, 315 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: that feels great. I feel such a sense of relief. 316 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 1: Go to bed exhausted. You get up the next morning 317 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:35,320 Speaker 1: and there's still boulders in your field and parties like, well, 318 00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:38,680 Speaker 1: that didn't work. It's like, no, it did. You did 319 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:41,960 Speaker 1: hear some of the field, but those other boulders look 320 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:43,920 Speaker 1: like the boulder that was there. And it may be 321 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:46,119 Speaker 1: a while because we may come out and enjoy the 322 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 1: space that we've cleared for a while, and eventually, as 323 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,840 Speaker 1: we keep trying to you know, expanding our comfort zone, 324 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:56,399 Speaker 1: then we bump up against the next boulder and and 325 00:19:56,440 --> 00:20:00,080 Speaker 1: it tends to look like build boats. So we of 326 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:04,000 Speaker 1: past traumas, we make clear a certain aspect of that, 327 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 1: but then there may be another aspect that we haven't addressed. 328 00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:09,919 Speaker 1: So we may we've been feeling some more space and 329 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: more clear. But then we come up with I guess 330 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: another aspect, and part of us may say, oh, well, see, 331 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:18,400 Speaker 1: I guess I didn't clear that. You did. You did 332 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 1: clear part of it. There's more that you can do 333 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: and uh and and rather than getting upset with ourselves 334 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: about oh lengine work, it's like, oh, I was feeling 335 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: pretty good about that. I guess I could feel even 336 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 1: better because there's even more that I was. I was 337 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: more confined than I thought I was, so now I 338 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 1: can focus on this next boulder and things can get 339 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: better and better. It's kind of it's reminding me of 340 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: my therapist says, Oh, that's just that you've gotten a 341 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 1: deeper layer of the onion. Are you peeled to another layer? 342 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:52,000 Speaker 1: And I'm always like, I don't want another layer, But 343 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,199 Speaker 1: you couldn't have gotten to that deeper layer if you 344 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: hadn't done a first layer. Right, we talked. We often 345 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 1: talk about in capping peeling the layers of the onion 346 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: because as we're tapping along, because there's a part of 347 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: this that resists knowing what's bothering us, we're we're feeling 348 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:10,600 Speaker 1: bothered because it part of this says, well, if I'm 349 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 1: feeling bothered, I'll resist opportunities that could feel dangerous for me. 350 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't may not consciously know why I'm doing it. 351 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:22,959 Speaker 1: I'm just unconsciously didn't care of myself and and so 352 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:24,600 Speaker 1: I don't. And part of me doesn't want to know 353 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: what it is. Part of me doesn't want to take 354 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 1: any time to self reflect and see why I might 355 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: be resisting something. It is just happy that I'm resisting 356 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: it and keeping myself safely in my comfort zone, as 357 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: uncomfortable as that might be. So when we're tapping, we 358 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 1: calmed down those fears and we start to allow ourselves 359 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 1: to see, oh, this is what's bothered me. And sometimes 360 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 1: it happened really fast. I was working with this one 361 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: guy once and like from one point to the next, 362 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 1: he's like, oh no, it's this, Oh no, no, no, 363 00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,680 Speaker 1: if this, and we'd keep going to something earlier and 364 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:03,480 Speaker 1: early or in his childhood and all these things, all 365 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,920 Speaker 1: these things that the current issue had been stacked upon 366 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 1: and until we got down to the foundation of it 367 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:13,960 Speaker 1: and in that sense of relief. So whether we're consciously 368 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: aware as he became of those earlier events or just 369 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 1: unconsciously we're we're peeling those layers and allowing ourselves to 370 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 1: to find what's underneath that, and sometimes takes time. In 371 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 1: that instance, it was boom boom boom really quickly and 372 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 1: there sometimes it may take us years before you know, 373 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,160 Speaker 1: we feel okay, I feel safer for now to move 374 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,760 Speaker 1: on to the next layer. Okay, now I'm dealing with this. 375 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: Now I'm clearing that it's safer than new plex layer, 376 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:46,080 Speaker 1: and it can be challenging. There's a part of us 377 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: it says, I don't want to keep doing that. At 378 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: the same time, it's like, yeah, but each time I 379 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,480 Speaker 1: clear a layer, I feel better than I did before, 380 00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,879 Speaker 1: even though it's difficult to look at it. You know, 381 00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:00,159 Speaker 1: it's like, hey, you know, having to try to from 382 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 1: the door that's jam, It's like, wow, it's frustrating trying 383 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: to go through this door. But every door that I opened, 384 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: I'm now I now have a greater space that I 385 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:18,679 Speaker 1: can experience. So I'm hearing a lot of fear in 386 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:22,200 Speaker 1: what you're saying, Like people's fear, you know, maybe it's 387 00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,159 Speaker 1: fear to change, or like I want to know how 388 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 1: much or how what percentage do you think of our 389 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 1: decisions are actually made based upon fear or keeping ourselves safe. Um, 390 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 1: maybe the old messages that that there are certain things 391 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:44,200 Speaker 1: aren't safe. How much of our decisions are based on that? Yeah, 392 00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: a lot. Really, it's a it's been said there's only 393 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 1: two of feelings. There's emotions. There's love, and there's fear, 394 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:56,399 Speaker 1: and almost virtually all of our uncomfortable feelings, just not 395 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,320 Speaker 1: all of them. I don't like to call negative emotions 396 00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 1: because I think all emotions have a place they they're 397 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:07,199 Speaker 1: all there for for a purpose. But there are definitely 398 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: feelings like sadness, fear and their build shame. Those things 399 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:16,120 Speaker 1: are very uncomfortable, and I believe there's fear underneath all 400 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 1: of them. And so all of all these decisions that 401 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: we make. If if we're not making a decision out 402 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,159 Speaker 1: of love, hey I would really love to do this, 403 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it, then we're then we're probably making 404 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 1: it from you fear. I'm afraid that I wouldn't be 405 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: able to handle this, I'm afraid that I don't deserve it. 406 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm afraid of what other people will think. So whenever 407 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 1: we say there's something that we want but we're not 408 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:42,200 Speaker 1: going for it, it's a matter of looking at Okay, 409 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,119 Speaker 1: what am I afraid of That's why they have the 410 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 1: question what would you do if you had no fear? Right, 411 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:55,119 Speaker 1: I'm I'm just processing through what this is, like my 412 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 1: behavior husband lately, because it's it is it's so interesting 413 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,879 Speaker 1: that I won't think that I have a resistance or 414 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 1: even a fear to something like it's not something that 415 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 1: I'm consciously aware of, and then something happens and it 416 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 1: creeps up and then all of a sudden, before I 417 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 1: know it, I'm like manipulate about manipulating. I don't mean 418 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: that maybe the kind of ways that we think of 419 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,879 Speaker 1: manipulating and being like a nasty person, but I'm trying 420 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: to like control and design the way things happen, and 421 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: you know, in the human experience, that's just not how 422 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 1: life works. Right, especially this year, I think we've all 423 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,359 Speaker 1: learned that that there's very little that we're actually in 424 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: control of, and so it's interesting to watch yourself try 425 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:45,959 Speaker 1: to resist what's happening or control what's happening, versus just 426 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 1: actually leaning into that. Yea, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's uh 427 00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: that well, you can fight reality, but reality wins, but 428 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:09,440 Speaker 1: only of the time, and the stopping ourselves from knowing 429 00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:14,720 Speaker 1: what we're afraid of is brilliant because if I think that, 430 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 1: you know, you do now subject of money, because that's 431 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: when that comes up for so many people. If I 432 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: am afraid of having more money because of you know, 433 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 1: the people being jealous, or it will be taken from me, 434 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: or whatever it might be. But if I know, if 435 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,400 Speaker 1: I consciously know what I'm afraid of, then I might 436 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:41,040 Speaker 1: be able to rationalize that and let it go and 437 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 1: then have more money. So on my unconscious minds like, no, 438 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: I want, it's not safe to have more money, So 439 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,440 Speaker 1: I'm not going to let you know the information that's 440 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,639 Speaker 1: going to help you clear that, so that then you 441 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:55,159 Speaker 1: put yourself into the dangerous situation that we're trying to 442 00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: avoid in the first place. So it's it's the lack 443 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 1: of awareness of what we're traidive is brilliant in terms 444 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,880 Speaker 1: of keeping ourselves safely in our comfort zone. I never 445 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:11,000 Speaker 1: thought about it that way that we're actually, yeah, we 446 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:13,760 Speaker 1: think that we're keeping ourselves safe, but we're not because 447 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 1: it's not really evolving then, right, it's right, it's all 448 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 1: it's all based on misunderstandings. What do you mean by misunderstandings? 449 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 1: It's things that we think are are factual or that aren't. 450 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,600 Speaker 1: And we so it's like they talk about if there's 451 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,440 Speaker 1: a car accident, five different people see it from different angles, 452 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: that will be a different description of what happened. And 453 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,399 Speaker 1: that's what we've done with all these events in our lives. 454 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,960 Speaker 1: And so you know, if we're three years old and 455 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:54,680 Speaker 1: another kid takes a toy away from us, and we decide, oh, 456 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: that means that I'm not allowed to have what I want, 457 00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 1: or that I'm not that I'm not worthy of being 458 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 1: treated with kindness, and and that's not what really is true. 459 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 1: But it's so it's a misunderstanding of what happened. But 460 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 1: we formulate these beliefs about ourselves primarily, uh. And and 461 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:18,200 Speaker 1: they're based on misunderstanding, either our misunderstanding and the situation 462 00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:22,359 Speaker 1: or somebody else's. If my parents have a belief that 463 00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:27,440 Speaker 1: all anybody who makes over fifty dollars a year must 464 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: be corrupt and and it's a greedy, snobby person. Uh, 465 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,440 Speaker 1: then and they passed that on to me, that's their 466 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 1: misunderstanding because that's not factual. There are there are people 467 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,040 Speaker 1: like that, and then there are plenty of people who 468 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: make tons more money than that that are actually loving 469 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: kind people. So so I am now have now been 470 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:53,840 Speaker 1: fed and misunderstanding and making decisions based on that. As 471 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,840 Speaker 1: we yeah, and and and but when we try to 472 00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,800 Speaker 1: confront that, there's a part, as it says, because we 473 00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:05,520 Speaker 1: like to know things. We like to have information settled. 474 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,479 Speaker 1: When I get up in the morning, I like to 475 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,080 Speaker 1: know that my feet are going to land on the 476 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,160 Speaker 1: ground and I'm not going to float up this yearning. 477 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: I like to know where um. I like to know 478 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: where the bathroom is. I like to know where the 479 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: kitchen is. I don't I And I like knowing how 480 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 1: to walk. I don't want to have to get up 481 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: and once my feet do touch the ground, go okay. 482 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 1: In order to move to the kitchen, I need to 483 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: pick up my left foot forward, then pick my right up. 484 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 1: What we we have to learn things instinctively and at 485 00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: an unconscious level in order to function in life. So 486 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 1: once we've learned certain things how to walk, how to 487 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 1: find the kitchen, the fact that anybody makes it fifty 488 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 1: dollars is is jerk. We we like to We like 489 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,240 Speaker 1: to have you know, this is what I know, and 490 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 1: this is what I'm gonna operate. Come so when that 491 00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 1: gets challenged, it very upsetting. So when we start to 492 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 1: try to take on an idea of oh, you know what, 493 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: I could um make more money and be happy and 494 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,240 Speaker 1: be and be a kind person, part of it says no, no, 495 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,080 Speaker 1: no, no no no, don't go changing the information. The next thing, 496 00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 1: you know, we're gonna be floating up to the ceiling 497 00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:20,720 Speaker 1: after we get out of bed. The next thing, you know, 498 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 1: the bathroom in the kitchen are going to be switched 499 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:24,760 Speaker 1: and we won't know how to find anything in the house. 500 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:29,080 Speaker 1: You know, we we need we we need that security 501 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 1: of knowing what is so, regardless of whether it's true 502 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 1: or not. So so we have a stressful response when 503 00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: at a very unconscious level, you know, if we if 504 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,280 Speaker 1: we decide, hey, I'd like to uh, you know, I've 505 00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:48,440 Speaker 1: been single for a long time. I'd like to meet somebody. 506 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: But depending on our our past experiences with relationships, either 507 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,160 Speaker 1: our own or other people, we might be in a 508 00:30:56,200 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 1: grocery store and you know, we see somebody, an attractive stranger, 509 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 1: and in our mind is racing for like a grand 510 00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,400 Speaker 1: master in chess, you know, who's thinking fifty moves ahead. 511 00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: We're some there looking at that person at an unconscious level, going, Hey, 512 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,720 Speaker 1: that person is attractive. I might go up and say 513 00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 1: hi to that person. They might say hi back, and 514 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 1: I might say something that we might start conversation, a conversation, 515 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: and we might kind we have something in common, like 516 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,560 Speaker 1: go on a date, and that they could lead to 517 00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 1: another date and then we could get married and they'd 518 00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:28,120 Speaker 1: break my heart like the last person. And look, there's 519 00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,720 Speaker 1: a sale on Aisle two and we are down towards 520 00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 1: Aisle two before we're consciously aware of any of this happening. 521 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:40,560 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's fascinating because I know it's true. 522 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:45,640 Speaker 1: We all do this all day long. Oh yeah, yeah, 523 00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 1: we're we're operating at that level where we're thinking of 524 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,440 Speaker 1: all these things, different things involved, and they keep leading towards. 525 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: You know, for anything that you think you should be 526 00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 1: doing that you're not doing. It's because some part of 527 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 1: you keeps ending up with you being checkmated every time 528 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:06,000 Speaker 1: the worst case scenarios like this, always this, this move 529 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:10,480 Speaker 1: is gonna end up with me getting hurt and so 530 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:15,520 Speaker 1: I need to go somewhere else. So if it's so unconscious, 531 00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,600 Speaker 1: how do we even know where to start? Like if 532 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,000 Speaker 1: I mean, as we're listening to you talk about this tapping, 533 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 1: and I think, you know, if people start doing any 534 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 1: sort of research on this, I mean, there's a ton 535 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 1: of actual scientific evidence that this does work in moving 536 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 1: the energy in your body. But if it's so unconscious, 537 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:34,080 Speaker 1: how do we even know like what to start tapping 538 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:39,840 Speaker 1: on or what topic? And right, So the first is 539 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,880 Speaker 1: if if we're obviously if we're feeling discomfort, then we 540 00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: can focus on that. Sure you know, like, oh, I'm 541 00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: feeling really stressed out, Okay, that's easy to know, or 542 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:53,920 Speaker 1: if I'm feeling guilty about something in terms of you 543 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:58,760 Speaker 1: know that. So there's triage tapping, trying to trying to 544 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,800 Speaker 1: ease a problem them that's distressing this in the moment. 545 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 1: And then there is forward moving tapping where we're looking 546 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 1: at Okay, I want my life to be better, I 547 00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 1: want to be healthier, I want to be happier, I 548 00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:14,400 Speaker 1: want to be wealthier, and I can look at all, right, 549 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,719 Speaker 1: what do I want? What do I need to do 550 00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,640 Speaker 1: to get there? And why am I not doing that? 551 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: And so we can start to look at what's the 552 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 1: resistance And generally it's fear. Like I've done this with 553 00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: lots of folks where they'll say, well, I want to 554 00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,800 Speaker 1: have more success, whether it's more money, or I want 555 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:39,160 Speaker 1: to be in a relationship, or I want to lose 556 00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:42,760 Speaker 1: weight or whatever it might be. And I'll say, actually, 557 00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: I'll invite everyone listening to do this right now. Close 558 00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:54,840 Speaker 1: your eyes, imagine what you believe you really want but 559 00:33:55,160 --> 00:34:00,480 Speaker 1: I had not yet been able to create. Imagine yourself 560 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:05,280 Speaker 1: having that, and say it's safe for you to have this, 561 00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,360 Speaker 1: and just let that rattle around inside, and notice on 562 00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:16,640 Speaker 1: a scale as your attend how safe it feels. And 563 00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 1: I know that some of you will be compelled to say, oh, 564 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:22,920 Speaker 1: it's definitely a ten if you are not already experiencing 565 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:26,480 Speaker 1: it or not obviously on your way towards it. I'm 566 00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 1: going to say, check again, because the extent to which 567 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,480 Speaker 1: we don't have what we say we want tends to 568 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,360 Speaker 1: be the extent to which we are resisting it. And 569 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,400 Speaker 1: we generally resist things because it doesn't feel safe. And 570 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 1: it's not your batter, stupid, it's because at some level, 571 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,720 Speaker 1: some part of you has picked up the misunderstanding about 572 00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 1: why it wouldn't be safe to have that, and so 573 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,799 Speaker 1: you miss opportunities, You stop yourself from doing things that 574 00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: you could do to move yourself in that direction brilliantly, 575 00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:00,880 Speaker 1: it's a brilliant thing. It committed itself. Avotage is simply 576 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: misguided self love. So so we can then look at 577 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,920 Speaker 1: So that's where we started, just looking at where am 578 00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,600 Speaker 1: I stopping myself? You know? If I want to be 579 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,520 Speaker 1: in better shape? Well, am I exercise and every day? 580 00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:18,560 Speaker 1: That that would certainly help? And so where so what's 581 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,839 Speaker 1: stopping me? What? What makes me feel uncomfortable about that? 582 00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,719 Speaker 1: And you know, we could even just start with even 583 00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,520 Speaker 1: though I don't want to exercise, I choose to love 584 00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:31,799 Speaker 1: and accept myself, and we start to clear out that 585 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:35,040 Speaker 1: resistance and we find and we start to uncover what 586 00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:37,840 Speaker 1: am I afraid of? You know? Am I? Am I 587 00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:41,160 Speaker 1: afraid that? Wow, if I've gotten better shape, people would 588 00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,200 Speaker 1: be more attracted to me, and that could be all 589 00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,279 Speaker 1: kinds of problems I can't steal with that. It's much 590 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:50,879 Speaker 1: safer to to not have people, you know, And it's 591 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: not that it's not that you have to be in 592 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,319 Speaker 1: any kind of particular shape to be attractive. It's what 593 00:35:55,400 --> 00:36:00,080 Speaker 1: you believe makes you attractive or or stops yourself. And 594 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: that's that's the thing is that we we find what 595 00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:09,120 Speaker 1: we believe keeps us in our comfort zone, so we 596 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 1: appreciate that and then start clearing those fears. And I 597 00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 1: recommended that it recommend tapping on a daily basis, because 598 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,280 Speaker 1: as we keep tapping, we're naturally going to be clearing 599 00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,720 Speaker 1: those things to get in the way. What we've talked 600 00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:26,160 Speaker 1: about tapping, and I realized that we didn't actually specify 601 00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:28,839 Speaker 1: what that might look like. You know, like, what are 602 00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,799 Speaker 1: you tapping? I mean, I know because I've done some 603 00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,360 Speaker 1: of your exercises in your videos, But can you explain 604 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:39,080 Speaker 1: to people maybe what that would look like. Yeah, absolutely, 605 00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 1: So we we tapped with the with the fingertips or 606 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:48,480 Speaker 1: index and middle finger, and you can tap with these merdians. Uh, 607 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:50,880 Speaker 1: these energy merdians run up and down both sides the bodies. 608 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,640 Speaker 1: You can tap with either hand on either side of 609 00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,400 Speaker 1: the body. But just for the sake of demonstration, I'm 610 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,680 Speaker 1: gonna encourage books go ahead and take your dominant hand 611 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:02,160 Speaker 1: and would be the fingertips of your mixing middle finger. 612 00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:07,520 Speaker 1: Gently tap on the side of your other hand, so 613 00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 1: right there at the edge of your of your hand, 614 00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:14,600 Speaker 1: between your pinky and your wrist. If you're to imagine 615 00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:17,839 Speaker 1: chopping some boards to the karate chopping. Use that edge 616 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,480 Speaker 1: of your hand right there, so just gently tapp him 617 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:22,560 Speaker 1: right there on the side of your hand. And this 618 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,960 Speaker 1: is where we do what we call the setup, so 619 00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 1: we acknowledge whatever the issue is and say this is so. 620 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:31,880 Speaker 1: For instance, say you know, I'm really angry at Bob 621 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:36,160 Speaker 1: right now. Bob has really picked me off, and so 622 00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,759 Speaker 1: i'd rate that on a scale as your ten, that's 623 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:43,320 Speaker 1: about eight. He was a real jerk. And it helps 624 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,680 Speaker 1: to identify where we're feeling it because you know, feelings 625 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 1: are not just in our head, it's we feel them 626 00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,200 Speaker 1: in our bodies. So it might be I feel I 627 00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:54,560 Speaker 1: feel this tension in my shoulders. So I would tap 628 00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,759 Speaker 1: on the side of the hand saying, even though I'm 629 00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,320 Speaker 1: angry at Bob, I choose to love and accept myself 630 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:04,520 Speaker 1: and to repeat that three times. And then I tapped 631 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:09,160 Speaker 1: right at the beginning of your eyebrow point so right 632 00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:12,200 Speaker 1: about the middle of your face, and just gently tacked 633 00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:16,240 Speaker 1: the beginning of your eyebrow. And we generally tapped between 634 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,960 Speaker 1: five and ten times, but if we're saying a longer phrase, 635 00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 1: we might be tapping twenty times. It's Okay, it's not 636 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 1: an exact science in terms of how many times you tapped. 637 00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,600 Speaker 1: So we tapped to be of the eyebrow, saying all 638 00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,799 Speaker 1: this angerd bob. Then we'd follow the eyebrow out to 639 00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:38,520 Speaker 1: the the side of the eye and say all this 640 00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:42,640 Speaker 1: angerd bob. Then right under the middle of your eye, 641 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:46,920 Speaker 1: all the san grid bomb, right under the middle of 642 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:50,160 Speaker 1: your nose, right about your up all the sang grid bob. 643 00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:57,200 Speaker 1: And then let on your chins above your just about 644 00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,439 Speaker 1: your chin, right under your lower roof, all the sang 645 00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:05,000 Speaker 1: gridd bob, the collar bone, all the sang glad thought. 646 00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:08,920 Speaker 1: So it's right if you feel your collar bones just 647 00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,080 Speaker 1: about come together, there's a U shape at the base 648 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:17,360 Speaker 1: of your throat, and you just tap right there. And 649 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,640 Speaker 1: then the next point is under your arm about florench 650 00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,279 Speaker 1: just below your arm, right about brass draft level. I'm 651 00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: sure even the guys can figure out what that is. 652 00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:29,400 Speaker 1: All the sand bob. And then finally the top of 653 00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:34,319 Speaker 1: your head all the sanglod bob. And then you take 654 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:41,800 Speaker 1: a deep breath and and then just feeling then we 655 00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:44,680 Speaker 1: checking again and say, okay, how angry am I bob? 656 00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:51,120 Speaker 1: Right now? And generally that number will come down, and 657 00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 1: we may also be killing the layers of the onion 658 00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,400 Speaker 1: and getting more clear about Oh I know what it is. 659 00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:01,320 Speaker 1: That's so say no said I was just about to say, 660 00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,560 Speaker 1: because when even in that I was doing that as 661 00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:07,360 Speaker 1: you were talking and saying my phrase, and it changed 662 00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,160 Speaker 1: from let's say it was all this anger at Bob 663 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,359 Speaker 1: to know, my feelings are just hurt by the end 664 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,440 Speaker 1: of it, like like I understood a deeper level of 665 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:20,080 Speaker 1: what I was actually feeling that you know, the anger 666 00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:25,000 Speaker 1: was just covering up right, and it may you know, 667 00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: maybe kept along ago. Oh it's not anger at Bob. 668 00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,600 Speaker 1: It's what Bob did. Reminds me of something that salid 669 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:36,560 Speaker 1: and uh yeah, So we get a little by little 670 00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,040 Speaker 1: get killing those layers in the onion and understanding where 671 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:47,800 Speaker 1: the where that's coming from. Wow, well I find and 672 00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,879 Speaker 1: what and ultimately what it means about us, because that's right, 673 00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,880 Speaker 1: this is what we believe it means about us, like 674 00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,759 Speaker 1: the story in our head? Is that what you mean 675 00:40:56,040 --> 00:41:02,239 Speaker 1: or just our response the story? Right? So if I'm 676 00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,719 Speaker 1: angry with Bob because he was a jerk, because part 677 00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,960 Speaker 1: of me says, because because that proves that I'm not 678 00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:12,840 Speaker 1: worthy of being treated with respective You know, if I 679 00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,320 Speaker 1: were good enough, if I were a good enough person, 680 00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:22,200 Speaker 1: Bob wouldn't have done what you did. I mean, it's 681 00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:26,719 Speaker 1: just so fascinating to me because I well, first of all, 682 00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:30,000 Speaker 1: the energy and our bodies is fascinating to me because 683 00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,360 Speaker 1: I don't think that a lot of us are aware 684 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:36,280 Speaker 1: of it, and it's constantly, you know, shifting and moving, 685 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,120 Speaker 1: and it's tied to all of our emotions and all 686 00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,760 Speaker 1: of the experiences we're having, and not that many people 687 00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,400 Speaker 1: talk about it, which is I think we're starting to 688 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:46,960 Speaker 1: a little more. But you can go sit and talk 689 00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,880 Speaker 1: therapy and all of these things for years, but not 690 00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:53,960 Speaker 1: address what's happening in your body and your body's response 691 00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,760 Speaker 1: to all that stress, all those emotions, all the trauma, 692 00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:59,839 Speaker 1: all the experiences. And if you're not addressing that, are 693 00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:06,040 Speaker 1: you actually ever healing from that? You know, to to 694 00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:09,880 Speaker 1: some extent, But it's certainly, you know, we there's a 695 00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,560 Speaker 1: mind body connection, and so to deal with it at 696 00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:16,440 Speaker 1: the physical level is so much more powerful because we 697 00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,160 Speaker 1: can really address things at a much deeper level and 698 00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:25,040 Speaker 1: get a much better level of resolution. Um well, I 699 00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:27,240 Speaker 1: just think this is fascinating. I could talk about it forever. 700 00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:30,360 Speaker 1: I do want people to go check out your videos 701 00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:32,759 Speaker 1: and look more into this stuff. And I think a 702 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,520 Speaker 1: lot of it is visual and so I really encourage 703 00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:38,480 Speaker 1: you guys to go read about e f T, but 704 00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,680 Speaker 1: also watch some of Brad's videos and try them and 705 00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:42,600 Speaker 1: see what comes up for you. So where can people 706 00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:47,320 Speaker 1: go do that? Well, you can go to my website 707 00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:51,759 Speaker 1: tap We've Brad com okay, and and it's tap We've 708 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,920 Speaker 1: Brad on YouTube, or I've got over nine hundred videos 709 00:42:56,480 --> 00:43:00,279 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook. It's all I think, app of 710 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,120 Speaker 1: Brad and find my various resources. You know which video 711 00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,520 Speaker 1: I used to do every morning was Tap of the Morning. 712 00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:08,640 Speaker 1: Is that what it's called Tap of the morning to 713 00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:13,839 Speaker 1: you or something? My very first video was that. Yeah, yeah, 714 00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:15,520 Speaker 1: when I when I was doing the ft, when I 715 00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,400 Speaker 1: first learned it, I had been doing it for a 716 00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,560 Speaker 1: bit and then YouTube came around. I thought it wouldn't 717 00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:21,839 Speaker 1: it be cool if there was a video of people 718 00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,040 Speaker 1: could start their day with, and I'll call it Tap 719 00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:26,120 Speaker 1: of the Morning. And that was all I intended to do. 720 00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:30,440 Speaker 1: I had. I had no idea of creating this catalog 721 00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:33,319 Speaker 1: of hundreds of videos. I thought, well, I'll just do 722 00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,400 Speaker 1: that one video and uh, you know it was kind 723 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:40,120 Speaker 1: of theatrical in it, and uh, it was like six 724 00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:43,759 Speaker 1: months before I decided, you know, I should have one 725 00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,760 Speaker 1: to end of day. I'll call it Tap of the Evening. 726 00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:49,400 Speaker 1: And then and then more ideas came and now you know, 727 00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:56,520 Speaker 1: a decade later and videos later. Wow, that's crazy, the 728 00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,000 Speaker 1: Tap of the Morning. Actually, if you guys, I know, 729 00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:01,040 Speaker 1: just in this pan I bgtime, I feel like I 730 00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:03,920 Speaker 1: keep reading articles about this is just a collective trauma 731 00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,399 Speaker 1: that we're all facing. And I know, you know, the 732 00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,000 Speaker 1: change that I've felt in my life over this year 733 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:10,880 Speaker 1: has been extreme, and I think a lot of people 734 00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,440 Speaker 1: are dealing with that too. And as we've said a 735 00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:16,200 Speaker 1: little bit before, our bodies tend to be in our 736 00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:19,359 Speaker 1: minds tend to be resistant to change. So the Tap 737 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:20,759 Speaker 1: of the Morning is a great way to start if 738 00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:24,279 Speaker 1: you just need some encouragement and positivity to start your day. 739 00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,080 Speaker 1: That's where I used it was when I was going 740 00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:28,520 Speaker 1: through a hard time and it was suggested to me 741 00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:31,120 Speaker 1: to start my day that way, and I always started 742 00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:35,960 Speaker 1: much more peaceful, much more positive, um able to see 743 00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:37,960 Speaker 1: the things that I had to be grateful for. And 744 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,719 Speaker 1: all of those kind of feelings, So you guys go 745 00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:43,359 Speaker 1: check that out. Brad. Thank you so much for being here. 746 00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:45,279 Speaker 1: I am such a fan, so this was so fun 747 00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:49,520 Speaker 1: for me. Thank you, Kelly. I greatly appreciate the opportunity 748 00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,480 Speaker 1: to share this. You guys go check out Brad Yates. 749 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,360 Speaker 1: It is tap with Brad dot com and keep me 750 00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:58,920 Speaker 1: posted if you try some videos. Thanks for listening.