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Speaker 1: Hello, my love. First of all, I want to apologize

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Speaker 1: for my voice being way it is. My sweet little

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Speaker 1: Ocean is sick and she handed it down to me,

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Speaker 1: so is the voice. Is my voice annoying?

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Speaker 2: Right now?

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's annoying. I think it's kind of cool.

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Speaker 3: It's like the Miley cyrus esque voice. Oh yeah, like

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Speaker 3: the rasp I love when I'm sick because of that,

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Speaker 3: because I have such like a screechy, high pitched voice

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Speaker 3: that when I'm sick, I feel so cool.

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Speaker 4: Kind of brings it down.

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Speaker 1: All yeah, I love that. So today I'm really excited

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Speaker 1: because it's a voicemail kind of podcast day.

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Speaker 4: M hmm.

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Speaker 1: I was like this voice. I canceled our guest because

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Speaker 1: I just this voice is fucking with me. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: I feel like it is, and I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: in my head and if I have a guest on,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to be present with what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: All I can really think about right now is the

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Speaker 1: fact that like it's taking a lot out of me

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Speaker 1: to like even.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and we have a lot of great voicemails too.

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Speaker 3: We need to catch up people still mentioning like the

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Speaker 3: dating app stuff that you talked about people asking about

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Speaker 3: your life lately, people asking about your dating life. We've

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Speaker 3: got a ton, yeah, so it's.

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Speaker 1: Gonna be a ton.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I went to my trainer slash dear friend's birthday yesterday.

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Speaker 3: So fun. How was it?

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Speaker 1: It was so much fun? You know me, Jess, I like,

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Speaker 1: rarely do anything.

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Speaker 3: You never go out, Like I saw it on her

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Speaker 3: stories this past weekend, guys that La La is out

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Speaker 3: and I knew she had a birthday party to go to,

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Speaker 3: which she was like, I don't know if i'll I'll

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Speaker 3: and I was like, you went to the birthday party.

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Speaker 3: I was so excited for you.

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Speaker 1: Everyone knows that if I commit to something, there's a

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Speaker 1: ninety eight percent chance that I will cancel, okay, because

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm a homebody. And then you know, I

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Speaker 1: don't like leaving ocean. It's just mom guilt is real,

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Speaker 1: And I think that's actually a question that I want

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Speaker 1: to ask when for my mommy's out there, When after

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Speaker 1: you guys had a baby, did you have mom guilt?

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Speaker 1: And if so, when did it ease up? Because I

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Speaker 4: Weeks old, and she like took off.

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Speaker 1: I love, and I'll say, like, yesterday, I was like

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Speaker 1: how long I would be gone because it was in Malibuka,

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Speaker 1: and my mom was like, she's not gonna remember.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: She's like, do you remember me leaving you? I said no,

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Speaker 1: not at all, and like the amount of love I

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Speaker 3: Like, all right, it's fine, We'll be fine. So the

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Speaker 3: birthday was fun, would you guys.

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Speaker 1: Do We went to winery okay, and then we went

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Speaker 1: to a Greek restaurant. It was fantastic, I'll say though,

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Speaker 1: and I hope that they don't get mad at me

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Speaker 1: for this winer eight. So we're sitting there and it's

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Speaker 3: Tour and the wine tour okay.

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Speaker 1: The tour guide was talking. I don't know how it

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Speaker 1: got brought up, but someone said something about a giraffe

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Speaker 1: My ears kind of perked up and I said, what's

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Speaker 1: And she goes just because why not? And I go

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Speaker 4: Is where giraffe should be either.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm sorry, I'm an animal activist, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: was very uncomfortable. I'm bolted. I'm shocked.

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Speaker 3: This is obviously the first time I'm hearing about it.

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Speaker 3: That was the wrong person to say that in.

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Speaker 1: But there was a guy there, my friend's husband who's

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Speaker 3: And also, uh oh, let's give you the benefit of

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Speaker 1: And but but she did say and by the way,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, that's that's fine. Yeah, I'll fine.

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Speaker 3: So you, I know we've talked about this before a little,

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Speaker 3: but is it annoying being on a wine tour and

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Speaker 1: It's just so a part of my life now. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like and there was another girl there who she's not sober,

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Speaker 1: So just at this point, Jess, it's just like I

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Speaker 1: show up places and it's it's not even a thing.

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Speaker 3: It's not a thing, like you could still have fun.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't like, yan, I'm on this wine tour, I'm bored.

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Speaker 3: I need to go do something else. No, oh that's good.

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Speaker 1: I got a cup and they had like pellegrino. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I was drinking cambucha and then someone went to

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Speaker 1: So someone was holding my drink and then they handed

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Speaker 3: That's actually exactly that's what it is. That is do

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Speaker 1: I hate it?

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Speaker 3: Love it? I love it. I could drink it every day.

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Speaker 1: But you know, when you're out and about, like doing

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Speaker 1: I tell you every time we stopped at a new

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Speaker 1: I would drink something different. Oh I like that. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Like regular pellegrina. Yeah, next it was like.

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Speaker 1: The sand Pellegrino grape.

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Speaker 3: You know what that makes me think wine tours should

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Speaker 3: offer just a non alcoholic version of like very interesting whatever.

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Speaker 3: If it's grape juice, these are the grapes from this region.

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Speaker 3: I think that would be really cool.

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Speaker 1: No, I think it would be too, because people not

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Speaker 3: Well it's not enjoy But like Kyle doesn't drink, and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, this is. And that's I heard. I think

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Speaker 1: pink cloud a little bit, you do.

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 1: My sponsor tells me that I'm not on the pink

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Speaker 1: a half and some change. Yeah. Years, Maybe it does, though,

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Speaker 3: Maybe you feel like you're on it because you keep it.

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Speaker 3: Maybe the reason changes, like at first you did it.

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Speaker 3: the reason then was different, and now your reason is

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Speaker 1: You know? Can I tell you?

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Speaker 4: Though?

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Speaker 1: Every time I think about drinking, not me like picking up.

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Speaker 1: But when the thought of like just drinks, right, yeah,

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so depressing.

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Speaker 3: Depressing and also like I look back at when I

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Speaker 3: good for you. But there's so many hours in moderation.

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Speaker 6: Right.

436
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Speaker 1: I think a kid died from drinking too much water,

437
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Speaker 1: like years ago.

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Speaker 3: You could drown from drinking too much literally right.

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Speaker 1: It was like a yeah, is it an initiation for

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Speaker 1: like a f oh what it is? Yes, initially they

441
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Speaker 1: had to they had him drink a certain amount of

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Speaker 1: water and he like literally died because.

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Speaker 3: Well that's hazing, hazy. Yes, you can drink too much water.

444
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Speaker 3: You can drown in in a centimeter of water. And

445
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Speaker 3: they mean that by you can over hydration. I used

446
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Speaker 3: to see it in school sports all the time, such

447
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Speaker 3: a real thing. People pass out they're overhydrated because they

448
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Speaker 3: know they have I saw it in track a lot.

449
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 3: I would watch the track meets in my school and

450
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Speaker 3: we had this one girl who had to go to

451
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Speaker 3: the hospital and was like in really bad condition, was

452
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Speaker 3: there for three days because she was over hydrated. Yeah,

453
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Speaker 3: so everything in moderation, I get it, But there are

454
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Speaker 3: how did we get on? Oh the farm? The farm there,

455
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Speaker 3: it is the Gentle Barn and it's an in Santa Clarita.

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Speaker 1: Going, I love that taking ocean immediately, what's the next voicemail?

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Speaker 6: Okay, hi Lave, my name is me and I'm from Massachusetts. First,

458
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Speaker 6: I love your podcast. I've been binge listening if that's

459
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Speaker 6: the thing for the last few weeks, and I'm filing

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Speaker 6: up to date. We had babies around the same time,

461
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Speaker 6: so I'm digging all the baby talk. It's so nice

462
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Speaker 6: to hear a different side of you on the podcast,

463
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Speaker 6: and it really gives listeners the opportunity to get to

464
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Speaker 6: know you so much more than what we see on

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Speaker 6: random Pump Goole. Congratulations on your sobriety. You should be

466
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Speaker 6: so proud of yourself. My question actually comes from some

467
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Speaker 6: of the content you've shared with us, as I believe

468
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Speaker 6: it can use in life too. If you mentioned with

469
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Speaker 6: sobriety you live one day at a time. For people

470
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Speaker 6: like myself, I need to live more in the moment.

471
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Speaker 6: You cut down on stress and anxiety and often try

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Speaker 6: to practice living in the moment, but it's so hard.

473
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Speaker 6: So in a future podcast, could you speak a little

474
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Speaker 6: more about best practices with that even if people aren't sober.

475
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Speaker 6: I think it's a great way to think and would

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Speaker 6: love to learn more about how to practice this on

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Speaker 6: a daily basis, if possible, how to get in that

478
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Speaker 6: mindset or whatnot. Thanks for taking that question, wishing you

479
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Speaker 6: and open the very best.

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Speaker 1: Oh sorry, I love that question. It's strange because I

481
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Speaker 1: feel like it's easier in sobriety to take it one

482
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Speaker 1: day at a time. And that may not be for everybody,

483
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Speaker 1: but like for me, it's easier for me to stay

484
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Speaker 1: present in my sobriety than it is for me to

485
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Speaker 1: stay present like in life. My anxiety is high right now,

486
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Speaker 1: and I just have a lot of stress and I'm

487
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Speaker 1: dealing with a lot, and I feel like sometimes it

488
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Speaker 1: does take away from me living in the moment and

489
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Speaker 1: enjoying things. And I have a lot of worry.

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Speaker 4: So I wish that I could like.

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Speaker 1: Give my advice on how to live more in the moment.

492
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Speaker 1: But I mean, I am struggling with it too, especially

493
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Speaker 1: right now where I think like a million steps ahead

494
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Speaker 1: and I'm worried about the unknown of everything. Think just

495
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Speaker 1: like trying to keep my head above water. And I

496
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Speaker 1: feel like there's so many times where I do like

497
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Speaker 1: interviews or I'm talking to people and I'm doing Instagram

498
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Speaker 1: posts and I'm like I'm doing great, like I'm great,

499
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Speaker 1: but I'm like I'm struggling. So I would also like

500
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Speaker 1: to know how to stay present and try to not

501
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Speaker 1: worry and fight anxiety and depression and things like that,

502
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Speaker 1: and I know mine's situational. But if anyone has advice,

503
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Speaker 1: because I love that question. So if anyone is listening

504
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Speaker 1: and you have advice, I would love for you to

505
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Speaker 1: call in and help me as well.

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Speaker 3: Fuck sorry, don't be sorry. I think that was a

507
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Speaker 3: great question. And you see how people are dealing with

508
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Speaker 3: it every day. You are this person is I mean

509
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: I everyone is, and it's just some way worse than others.

510
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Speaker 3: I mean, we won't get into you know, I couldn't

511
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Speaker 3: be dealing personally with you know, all the stuff you

512
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Speaker 3: deal with your like I said, have said before. One

513
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Speaker 3: of the strongest people I know. I know, it's like

514
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Speaker 3: how do you live in the moment? And I feel

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Speaker 3: like so many people have anxiety, stress, depression. It's like

516
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Speaker 3: all three every day just getting out of bed. For people,

517
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Speaker 3: it's like wake up.

518
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Speaker 1: What am I?

519
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Speaker 3: Why am I getting out of bed?

520
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Speaker 1: You know, and you start the grind all over again.

521
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Speaker 1: It's fucking exhausting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've heard, I've read and heard, you know, because

523
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Speaker 3: I don't she wouldn't mind me saying this, but I

524
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Speaker 3: have a sister who deals with the same things. Extreme anxiety.

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Speaker 3: Has been in the hospital because of panic attacks, and

526
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Speaker 3: and there are and they sound cliche and and like

527
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Speaker 3: I've said them to her before and she's like, that

528
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Speaker 3: doesn't like that's not gonna help. It's but because they're

529
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Speaker 3: so simple. But sometimes you literally just have to breathe

530
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Speaker 3: and Okay, I literally you could start from like, think

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Speaker 3: about the things you're thankful for. Again. I know so

532
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Speaker 3: many people are gonna sound be frustrated because it's like no, no,

533
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Speaker 3: like I can't right now. But I've heard when you

534
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Speaker 3: let yourself and you force yourself sometimes it helps being

535
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Speaker 3: in the moment. Okay, I right now have I'm healthy

536
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Speaker 3: or I right now have literally you could say like

537
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Speaker 3: I have my arms and legs, I'm thankful for that.

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Speaker 3: I have my legs, I can walk, I have a

539
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Speaker 3: roof over my head. And sometimes you have to because

540
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Speaker 3: it's like if I don't start with like the smallest

541
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Speaker 3: I have a chair that I can sit in and

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Speaker 3: eat breakfast right then it's like you're gonna go crazy.

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Speaker 1: You have just moments of gratitude, yes, when you take

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Speaker 1: your when you have a those dark moments, M yeah, no,

545
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Speaker 1: and I.

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Speaker 4: Agree with you.

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Speaker 1: But there's some days where you're just like fuck everything, yeah,

548
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Speaker 1: and I know that I'll go through cycles and yes,

549
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Speaker 1: no matter if I'm in a great head space or

550
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,920
Speaker 1: it's kind of just a lower vibration type of day,

551
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Speaker 1: I know that you will not break me. I know

552
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Speaker 1: that everything will be okay. But there's always a small

553
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:33,640
Speaker 1: part of me that goes to the what ifs, and

554
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: that can become traumatizing. Yeah, and take me to a

555
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 1: place that I don't want to go to.

556
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Speaker 3: So, I mean, how many of us wake up and

557
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 3: we feel like ten years ago was literally just yesterday?

558
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: I know, even thinking about the pandemic, what that was

559
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 3: that started two years ago. So it's almost like, if

560
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Speaker 3: you have the capacity and the energy to remind yourself,

561
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Speaker 3: I have to live in this moment because I'm going

562
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Speaker 3: to wake up tomorrow and it's going to be ten

563
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Speaker 3: years down the road.

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Speaker 1: I know. And then that opens a whole new can

565
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: of worms for me, where then I start having I

566
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Speaker 1: go on my guilt trip of all the moments that

567
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Speaker 1: I wasted worrying.

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Speaker 3: M And it's such a it's a vicious cycle because

569
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Speaker 3: then as you're on in the guilt trip, worried about

570
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Speaker 3: all the moments you wasted, you're making more moments that

571
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Speaker 3: you're wasting. Yeah, I know.

572
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Speaker 1: So, as Medina said to me, he was like, you

573
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: have got to allow the universe to do what it

574
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: is prepared to do, right, You've got to fight the anxiety.

575
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Speaker 1: He's like this thing with Chris Medina, He's I've said

576
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: this many times, he's very gifted. He was telling me

577
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: things that I was doing that he wouldn't know that

578
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 1: I was doing. No one would know that I was

579
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: doing these things. Yeah, you know, it's like an internal

580
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: thing that I do to myself. And he was like

581
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: on the money, and he said, you've got to stop.

582
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 1: You will be just fine. I told you that the

583
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: moment I did your podcast back in September, you will

584
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: be okay. Let the universe and time catch up with

585
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 1: what you know. Yeah, because it will.

586
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 3: It will.

587
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 1: And it's so.

588
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 3: I could see it being so frustrating, and it is

589
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: so frustrating when you sit there and you have to think,

590
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 3: remind yourself the universe, it'll be fine, This too shall

591
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 3: pass blah blah blah blah blah, over and over again

592
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 3: for days, for weeks, for months, for years. It's like,

593
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 3: oh my god. When though, when you get to a

594
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 3: point where you're like, but when though, and it's frustrating.

595
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well, like my best friend Madison said to me, she

597
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: was like, you don't get to tell the universe what

598
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 1: timeline it should be on. Yeah, you don't have that right.

599
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: It's so true. I'm like, oh shit.

600
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, because all this this time, it's like it's like

601
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 3: a blink of an eye, Like the universe is like, yeah,

602
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 3: a couple of years, relax, And for us it's like

603
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 3: every day is torture and we just have to learn

604
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Speaker 3: to deal with it for whatever we're trying to get

605
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 3: toward or work toward or And it's like, but it

606
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 3: will all happen when it's supposed to. And it's the

607
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 3: hardest thing. And I like, get I give credit to

608
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 3: the people who don't live with that, huge credit to

609
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Speaker 3: those people. I talked to a friend about it this

610
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 3: past weekend who's like, no, no, no, I don't believe

611
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: in a god. I don't believe in a higher power.

612
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 3: I get things happen that we can't explain. I just

613
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,040
Speaker 3: don't believe in that. If I want something to happen

614
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 3: in my life, I do that myself. And I was like,

615
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 3: it gave me anxiety because I was like, good, good

616
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 3: for you, because if I had to live my life

617
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,959
Speaker 3: based on me, do you know how much pressure that

618
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 3: is me? I'm gonna my life is determined one hundred

619
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 3: percent by me, and I can't trust that like things

620
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 3: will happen when they're supposed to.

621
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Speaker 1: I'm done.

622
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 3: I'm not getting out of bed tomorrow.

623
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: If that was my brain live that way.

624
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 3: I couldn't live that way.

625
00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 1: There's no fucking way.

626
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 3: So I mean, I do give credit to people who

627
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 3: are like, no, I'm getting like I make my life.

628
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 3: That's one way to look at it. I'm very well.

629
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Speaker 1: Of course I don't sit here and go. The universe

630
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: is gonna point me in all the direction rights and

631
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: God has my back. No, Obviously, if I want, like

632
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 1: I believe in God, right, well, God gave me a

633
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 1: brain and fucking use it. And if I want something

634
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: to happen, I'm going to make it happen. But the

635
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 1: universe will step in when something is not right. So

636
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Speaker 1: if something feels like you're banging your head against a

637
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: brick wall, take a different. The universe is saying, I'm

638
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 1: trying to show you that it's not working, So use

639
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 1: your brain that God gave you to pick a different route.

640
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. You don't listen to that, you end up

641
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: in situations that you should.

642
00:32:58,280 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 5: Not be in.

643
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Speaker 3: Yes, And I always say in my prayers every night,

644
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Speaker 3: because my belief is like I have I'm healthy, and

645
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 3: i have the brain I have and whatever to work

646
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 3: my ass off, and I'm not gonna get rewarded unless

647
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 3: i work my ass off so I can. My mindset

648
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 3: is like if I work my ass off and do

649
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 3: everything I possibly can, then there's no like I don't

650
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 3: have an excuse, like things don't come to me. And

651
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 3: I'm like I can say, but I'm trying. I'm doing

652
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 3: everything I can right, So in my prayers I always say,

653
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 3: please continue, like to guide me if I'm if I'm

654
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 3: not on the right path, please like, if I'm not

655
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 3: hearing you, like speak a little louder, please help if

656
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 3: I'm not on the right path or I'm like maybe

657
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: veering off, or please guide me back on, Like if

658
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 3: there's a door that should be opening, please help me

659
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 3: see it, just all the things that like I kind

660
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:50,959
Speaker 3: of put it. If I'm not seeing it or hearing it,

661
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: please like help a little but really overall, just like

662
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 3: continue to guide me, and I will pray to like

663
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 3: my grandpa and my uncle and like.

664
00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 1: Of course those are your guides. Yeah, yeah, those are

665
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 1: those are your every days. Yeah, it's crazy right, yeah, No,

666
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 1: I could not live without believing in the higher power.

667
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: I mean, if you don't, that's the only thing. I'm

668
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: not pushing anything on you. But good lord, there are

669
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 1: moments where I'm like, this moment is going to break

670
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: me and I got to hand it off, exact, hunt

671
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 1: it to something greater.

672
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, handing Get me out.

673
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: On that note, Let's cut to a short little break

674
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 1: and then do you have more voicemails for me?

675
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 6: Just?

676
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,399
Speaker 1: Yes, we do. I want to hear them all. We'll

677
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: be right back. We have time for one more.

678
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, hey, Lala, this calling from Granberry, Texas. And I

679
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 7: need some advice. I do not drink, and I have

680
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:47,959
Speaker 7: a really hard time going out to social events about

681
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 7: people bringing it up and dry attention to it and

682
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 7: just making it awkward in general. I know that I've

683
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 7: heard you say before that you have a lot of

684
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 7: fun when you still go out and everyone's drinking, And

685
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 7: I just want to I know your secret.

686
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 6: What do you do?

687
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,240
Speaker 7: How do you get people to just stop talking about

688
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 7: it and have a good time. Can't wait to listen.

689
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: Oh babe, I love this question. You know what, I

690
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: don't think that anyone should. If you go out and

691
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 1: you're sober and you feel like being in a situation

692
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 1: where people are drinking is not for you, don't force it.

693
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm I'm lucky and I also my

694
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 1: and this is this is gonna come off weird, but

695
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: this is what the very first person that I went

696
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:41,760
Speaker 1: into when I got sober, who's one of my angels, said,

697
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 1: you're a unicorn. This is not normal for you. And

698
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 1: if at any point in time it doesn't work for

699
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: you anymore, I want you to listen to that. It's

700
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 1: worked for me so far. I'm okay going to wineries.

701
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 1: I'm okay going into a bar. My mind goes to

702
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 1: a place where it's like, this is my life. I

703
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: have so much to lose, and I for sure am

704
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 1: not going to lose use everything over a fucking drink.

705
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: It's not happening. If you are the type of person

706
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: where you don't have fun and you're triggered by places

707
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: like that, don't go. Because there were times at the

708
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: very beginning of my sobriety where I was like, it's

709
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:20,280
Speaker 1: just not a good idea for me to For some reason,

710
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 1: I'm feeling it in my gut, I shouldn't go to

711
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: this bar tonight with my friends. Right I'm not feeling

712
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 1: triggered right now, but my gut is telling me steer clear,

713
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 1: and I wouldn't go. That's good. Yeah. So I don't

714
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: even know how to tell someone to not because I

715
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 1: have people that I sit in rooms with who have

716
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:42,720
Speaker 1: been sober, you know, ten twenty years, who still say

717
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 1: if I go into a bar, I'm gonna be triggered

718
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 1: to drink.

719
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

720
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 1: So I think it's just a matter of I don't

721
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: think you can teach how to get into that zone.

722
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 3: And this is coming from a non sober person. But

723
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:03,240
Speaker 3: I and I know you said that you don't drink.

724
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 3: You just put I don't drink. I don't know if

725
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 3: you shared that with a ton of people or if

726
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 3: you're making the decision now. But I have nights I

727
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 3: go out and I don't want to drink. People are

728
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 3: annoying and they'll say, especially since I'm not sober, and

729
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 3: they'll go, no, no, no, just have a drink, Just

730
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,920
Speaker 3: take a shot and I get annoyed with it, and

731
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 3: I'm sick of like it taking up twenty minutes of

732
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 3: the conversation. So what I do is I just trick them.

733
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 3: I literally go up. I wait till they're in another conversation.

734
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 3: I go up to the bar and I say, hey,

735
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 3: could I have a drink in a cocktail glass? Could

736
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: you make it grapefruit juice? And usually I get soda

737
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 3: water and I literally pretend I'm drinking all night, and

738
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:43,280
Speaker 3: that is unfortunately sometimes, and I know it's like shallow

739
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 3: and not as deep. Sometimes that's just what I have

740
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 3: to do. It's annoying. People are annoying, especially when they

741
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 3: get more drunk and they go shot shot, I'll go, no,

742
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 3: I don't want to puke all over everyone, so I'm

743
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: not going to take a shot, and it would embarrass me.

744
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 3: And if I took a shot, I would throw up

745
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 3: all over you. I'm sipping on my cocktail and it's

746
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 3: not a cocktail, it's none alcoholic.

747
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 1: That's so strange to me, though, what that people are

748
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,720
Speaker 1: because if you say you're not drinking tonight, there's pure pressure.

749
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: But I'll tell you what, when when people ask me

750
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:13,760
Speaker 1: if I want to drink and I say no, I'm good,

751
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: and then they say are you sure, and then I

752
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 1: say no, I'm sober. I've been sober for three and

753
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: a half years. They automatically disengage. So maybe if even

754
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,720
Speaker 1: if you just if if you don't drink, you're enorman,

755
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: you've just decided you don't want to drink, or you

756
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 1: have a drinking problem. I say, just go straight to

757
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: the sober just go I'm sober. I'm sober, right And

758
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 1: if they freak disengage unless.

759
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 3: You're with friends that know, like what are you talking about? No,

760
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 3: you're not, you were just drinking last night, then you

761
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 3: can fake fake it.

762
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: But even now I still have I still ask.

763
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 3: For like, uh, mocktailary a.

764
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: I don't love mocktails, you know, because sugar to sugary.

765
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: I just say, give me sparkling water in a short

766
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: glass with a line right, looks like you're drinking a

767
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: vodkis soda? No, yeah, asking you anything.

768
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 3: And either way, I do it anyway, because if I

769
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 3: am drinking, I drink waters in between, like soda waters. Yeah,

770
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 3: So I'll just do it anyway.

771
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: At that party that we went to a while ago,

772
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 1: at Tom Tom do you remember.

773
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 3: Yes you forget or the yeah the birthday.

774
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 1: I had so many people yeah, being like, you're not

775
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,880
Speaker 1: fucked up right now, and you're like, or you weren't

776
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,800
Speaker 1: fucked up last night. I'm like, okay, first of all,

777
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: is that an insult? I'm like, no, I haven't had

778
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: a drink in yeah, over three and a half years. Yeah,

779
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: So I think if you just keep that in your

780
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,919
Speaker 1: hand and you look like you're enjoying yourself, yeah, people

781
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: are gonna be like she was worse.

782
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 3: Yeah or no exactly. And at that party, someone just

783
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 3: to let anyone know who knows me, if you I'm sorry,

784
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 3: but if you buy me a shot, it never goes

785
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,879
Speaker 3: in my mouth, it goes over my shoulder, it goes

786
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 3: on the floor. I'm not kidding. It's just happens.

787
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 1: And so all the alcohol, the alcoholic in me has

788
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:05,399
Speaker 1: so much anxiety that I just.

789
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 3: I know, I have been at a long time ago.

790
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 3: I went to Vegas with some people for like the

791
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: Super Bowl, and we got like a table in one

792
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:15,879
Speaker 3: of the clubs and they got bottle service. I think

793
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 3: bottle service is dumb. It's so it's so so stupid,

794
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 3: so expensive. But they got patrone every shot, you guys

795
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 3: went on the floor, which is like rude of me.

796
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 3: I did have paper towels and tried to soak it up.

797
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 3: But every shot they tried to make me take when

798
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:35,959
Speaker 3: over my shoulder or on the floor, and so much

799
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,720
Speaker 3: so that I'm sure hundreds of dollars of liquor was wasted.

800
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 3: But here's the thing. They say, take a shot, Take

801
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 3: a shot. I say, I don't want one. I don't

802
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 3: want one. Take a shot in.

803
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to.

804
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 3: I don't want to go back and forth. I don't

805
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 3: want to. There are just moments where I don't want

806
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 3: to stand up for myself and make a point. And

807
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, your fault. You're gonna tell me to

808
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 3: take a shot. You just spent this much on this bottle.

809
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 3: Guess where it's going on the ground. You should have

810
00:40:58,080 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 3: listened to me when I said no.

811
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 1: Thanks, speaking of bottle service, just ye, so do you remember, oh,

812
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:06,399
Speaker 1: so yesterday at the party, I was like, guys, there

813
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: was a girl who was These women were all very accomplished.

814
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure a lot of them. If I were to

815
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: say who was there, you would know who I'm talking about.

816
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: But there was one girl who was a therapist. And

817
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 1: I asked, because you know, I'm really holding on to

818
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: this guy who went to the strip club, like I

819
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 1: know that it's not right, but like I had to

820
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:30,839
Speaker 1: ask for a second, third, fourth opinion. And the girl

821
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: was like, so tell me how it went down. I

822
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 1: was like, it was his birthday. I told him happy birthday.

823
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 1: We texted whatever. I went to bed. The next day,

824
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: I wake up. It was like mourning for me after nude.

825
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 1: For him, he said, sorry, I was out all night.

826
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:44,879
Speaker 1: We went to a strip club.

827
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 5: Lol.

828
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: And she goes no. She goes, no, that's not the

829
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: energy you want, that's not the vibration you need with

830
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: what you've been through.

831
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 4: No.

832
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 1: And I said, I'm listening to you, but all I

833
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: could think about with the bottle service, what you just

834
00:41:58,800 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: said being stupid.

835
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 4: Okay, me back to thinking about this guy.

836
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: Okay, So on his Instagram the night before he was

837
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 1: in a restaurant with sunglasses on. Okay, So, when he

838
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 1: tells me he's at this he went to a strip club,

839
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,240
Speaker 1: Me and my sober state of mind could just picture

840
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 1: a fucking stupid They all look right like drunk, thinking

841
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 1: they're fucking cool with their stupid fucking sung glasses on

842
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: at night, you know, and like fit inside with pitch black,

843
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:28,919
Speaker 1: with like women shaking their asses. Talented women by the way, Yes,

844
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: the strippers don't look stupid. No, you look stupid.

845
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 3: You look stupid.

846
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: I just can't stay with the bottle service. When I

847
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 1: go into a club and I'm sober and I see

848
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 1: these people and they bring out like the sparklers and

849
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:42,839
Speaker 1: the champagne, and they're thinking they're so cool. They got

850
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: their phones.

851
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:44,760
Speaker 4: Out for the GRAM.

852
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, you all look like I'm living. I see

853
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: it for what it is. Yes, right, I'm sober. Yeah,

854
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 1: you look dumb.

855
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, you just spent eight hundred dollars on it,

856
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 3: one hundred dollars bottle of liquor.

857
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: Am I supposed to am?

858
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 3: I supposed to think that's cool.

859
00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 1: Nope, But they all do. And they're like they're like

860
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 1: you see them filming themselves, like yeah, yeah, show the chain.

861
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 4: I'm like, I hate all of.

862
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 3: The cool bro Oh my god, No, that's that's true.

863
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:14,319
Speaker 4: It angers me.

864
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 3: That's why I love the Instagram account influencers in the wild.

865
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 3: Do you follow it? Oh my god, La, it's you

866
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 3: know what you're talking it's that ship. It's videos of

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Speaker 3: people just like or like dancing. They'll be dancing on

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Speaker 3: the beach and it's girls and and it's a video

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Speaker 3: and they'll be like dancing and then and then the

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Speaker 3: music stops and they like check it and it's so funny.

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Speaker 1: It's mortifying.

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Speaker 3: It's mortified. You go through TikTok and you see these

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Speaker 3: like cool videos of women dancing, but you never really think,

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Speaker 3: like what set does actually look like. They're on the beach.

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Speaker 3: There's beach goers laying trying to enjoy and they're like

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Speaker 3: kicking stand in their face.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, can I tell you what it's like. Can

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Speaker 1: I see people on planes? Yeah, they're in first class

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Speaker 1: and they're like you see the picture, and they're like

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Speaker 1: lounged out, they take a selfie, They've got like their

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Speaker 1: glass of champagne. You're like, oh my god, so chic.

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Speaker 1: But then I transport myself to walking down the aisle

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Speaker 1: and watching that person do that, and I'm like, you're

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Speaker 1: a fucking idiot. You look dumb, Like no, and I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: I refuse to look stupid just for one Instagram post, just.

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Speaker 3: For one You have to think about what's behind the photo.

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Speaker 3: You guys, it's like another.

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Speaker 1: I'm so bad at Instagram.

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Speaker 3: Well it's the other thing too. It's like, I love

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Speaker 3: there's TikTok accounts that are like the real shot or whatever,

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Speaker 3: and there's all these like gorgeous shots that influencers take

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Speaker 3: when they're like out of the country and they're on

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Speaker 3: this iconic like rock, and then you see a literal

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Speaker 3: hour and a half long line of people waiting to

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Speaker 3: get the shot on the rock, and it's like never

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Speaker 3: and it's just one shot on the rock, and then

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Speaker 3: they run away and then someone else stands on the

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Speaker 3: rock and it's like you see this iconic photo on Instagram,

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Speaker 3: but what you don't see is the and a half

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Speaker 3: line of people waiting to get this one shot on

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Speaker 3: this like rock and Bali or something whatever.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Wow, we've hit a lot of notes

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Speaker 1: to you. I know, we have cried, We've spoken about sobriety,

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Speaker 1: we've spoken about idiots.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know you said two more voicemails, but

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Speaker 3: we have so many good ones. I think we save

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Speaker 3: the rest for later.

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Speaker 1: Let's save the rest for later. Okay, you guys, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for tuning into another episode. Of give

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Speaker 1: them Lalla podcast. I love you so much. Remember to

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Speaker 1: take your vitamins to not get what Ocean gave to me.

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Speaker 1: Remember to wear your sunscreen because sun's out, buns out.

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Speaker 1: I want you guys to protect that skin. I love

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Speaker 1: you so much, Catch you next week.

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Speaker 3: Ah, with your cold, you sounded like Kurmit.