1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:02,600 Speaker 1: Buggal up and hold all the time we got in 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: fat your heir and air draw. WHOA see you're a 3 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:12,399 Speaker 1: little off today, nephew. Subject A huge problem, A huge 4 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: problem in our relationship. Here's Stephen Shirley. My boyfriend and 5 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: I have been together for five years and we've been 6 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 1: faced with many obstacles. But the main one started over 7 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: two years ago when I cheated on him and admitted it. 8 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: I swore to never do it again, and we moved on. 9 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 1: I really thought all that all was forgiven, but my 10 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,520 Speaker 1: boyfriend still has major trust issues with me. And here's why. 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: He has a high sex drive and so do I, 12 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: but I refuse to give in whenever he wants to 13 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: have sex, which is every day or every other day. 14 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: He knows exactly why I won't do it as much 15 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 1: as he'd like to. It's because he is too darn huge. Yes, 16 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: he's enormous and I love it, but not every day. 17 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: I just can't do it. He told me that I'm 18 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 1: just using that as an excuse, but he knows better 19 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,479 Speaker 1: because when he first when we first met, he told 20 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: me that his ex girlfriend broke up with him because 21 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: of his huge issue. This huge issue. He told me 22 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,479 Speaker 1: that he scared away so many females when they saw 23 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:21,399 Speaker 1: it for the first time. I want him to trust me, 24 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: but I feel bad depriving depriving him of something we 25 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:29,120 Speaker 1: both enjoy. We've tried counseling, but the female therapist was 26 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: more intrigued with him than she wasn't actually helping us. 27 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 1: I am tired of telling yeah, get a new therapist 28 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 1: right away, right. I am tired of telling him that 29 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 1: he's more than enough man for me and I have 30 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: no desire to cheat on him. How can I make 31 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: a grown man feel secure? Leaving him is not an option? 32 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: Please help? Wow, so many women would love to be 33 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: in your shoes. I actually think a woman wrote in 34 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: just last week or so about her man having the 35 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: exact the opposite problem. But I'm definitely not here to 36 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: tell you to count your blessings because your issue is 37 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: very real to you, and You're right. Sex should be 38 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:13,519 Speaker 1: enjoyable for both of you most of the time, if 39 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:17,079 Speaker 1: not all of the time, and if Sizes is making you, 40 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: you know, not want to do it whenever he wants to, 41 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,079 Speaker 1: then it is a problem, and it's a good thing. 42 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: You guys went to a therapist, but Obviously she was 43 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: the wrong one because you said she was more interested 44 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 1: in him than helping you. There are other people out 45 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: there that can help you, But so he keeps pestering 46 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: you to do it because he thinks you're cheating on him. 47 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 1: Is that what I'm to get from this letter? Because 48 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: you cheated on him before and that has made him insecure? 49 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying? You ask, how can you 50 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: make a grown man feel secure? Well, I mean, you know, 51 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: being there, loving him, being supportive and all those things. 52 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: I'm sure that's several ways to do that. But the 53 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: insecurity is within himself. I mean, you know, it's not 54 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: just you. His ex girlfriend broke up with him. He 55 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,399 Speaker 1: scared a lot of females away when they saw him 56 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: for the first time. So it's not just you. Don't 57 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: put that on yourself. Don't take that all on yourself 58 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: because it's not that and that's not your issue. Really, 59 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 1: your issue is size matters, and that's what you guys 60 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:29,960 Speaker 1: really need to deal with. Uh, Steve, I go through 61 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:36,839 Speaker 1: this a lot. God, Yeah, Uh, you know I got 62 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: quiet on this letter, very quiet because I had to 63 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: listen carefully. Um hm, But this ain't about me. Always 64 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: you know, you know, I don't know what you think 65 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: to start his letter is with it. That's why I 66 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: had it. But I had to read between the lines 67 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 1: careful and it wasn't me a huge problem. When did 68 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: you realize it wasn't well, you know, boyfriend and girlfriend 69 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: all this here. You know, I swore, Uh, here's a problem. 70 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: Though she cheated on him and admitted it. Uh, that 71 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: ain't ever good to admit you cheated to anybody, man 72 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: or woman. Don't admit it that they don't know, they 73 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: don't know. Don't walk in the house, have a confession. 74 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: It was just bothered me. Let it bother you here. 75 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 1: Hell's way worse things can bother Let that bother you, 76 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:46,119 Speaker 1: But don't walk in the house. Tell it man or woman. 77 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,479 Speaker 1: All right, let's move. And I really thought always forgiving. 78 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: But my boyfriend had come from trust issues with me. 79 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: And here's why. See, he got a high sex driving, 80 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: so do I. But I refuse to give in whenever 81 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 1: he wants to have sex, which is every day or 82 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: every other day. He knows exactly why I don't want 83 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: to do it as much. It's called he's too damn Hugh. Yes, 84 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: he's enormous and I love it, but not every day. 85 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 1: I just can't. Then he told her you using that 86 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: as excuse, but he told her that his as girlfriend 87 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: broke over him because he was too much. So now 88 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: we must talk about this and get it out of 89 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 1: the way. Please, What is it, Steve? We must talk 90 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: about the types of injuries happening in this relationship because 91 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: that is the major focal point where I ain't nobody 92 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: trying to get to seem like button me. Sherley won't 93 00:05:56,360 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: dapple in this area cause Sherlly's very careful. On the 94 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: other hand, I'm understanding this woman's problem because this woman 95 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: is saying he's enormous. He too damn huge. These are 96 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 1: sis that happens. These are sexual injuries, things that happen 97 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: sexually but can be described in other ways. Thank you 98 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: for that. Let us start. The wall paper has come 99 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: off the walls. HI see, listened carefully. These are sexual injuries. 100 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: The wall paper doesn't come off the wall. He in 101 00:06:55,520 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: there readdecorating. He's an interior This more redecorating. And the 102 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:09,239 Speaker 1: wall paper didn't come off the wall. You better go, boy. 103 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: When I come back, I would describe to you a 104 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: series of sexual injuries that's happening in this relationship. All right, 105 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: coming up Steve Harvey's part two of his response to 106 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: this Strawberry letter. Today's subjects a huge problem in our relationship. Well, 107 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: this woman has relationship with this man and they don't 108 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: have sex ofteness he want to which is every day 109 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: every other day, because the problem is he just too huge. 110 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: He's just too damn big. Is too much. She don't 111 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 1: want to do this every day, but she loved him 112 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: and she loves it just too much. Though now you know, 113 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: so I've determined that what the real cause of this 114 00:07:56,400 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: letter is is sexual injuries. These are things that is 115 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 1: happening in now that's producing some hurt in a lot 116 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: of ways, both him and hub. Let's go over some 117 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: of these. You can have a problem called b DF. 118 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: BDF normally comes from athletes, but you can get BDF 119 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:33,359 Speaker 1: and him being as huge as he is. Yeah, BDF 120 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: stands for the basketball don't fit. And we are just 121 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 1: trying to keep this where we can stay on the air. 122 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: But disgusted, But you understand though BdL is a certain 123 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: it's just stands for the basketball don't fit. If we 124 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,719 Speaker 1: move and are you will throw. I want you all 125 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: to throw professions me and I'll tell you how to go. 126 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: Let's move on down to the mechanic. Okay, his water 127 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:14,559 Speaker 1: pump don't fit over the gasket. Wow about the truck 128 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 1: driver a leak? His truck driver, the trailer is too 129 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:27,319 Speaker 1: heavy for the cab. Get the swung loose on the 130 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: freeway and his wrecking hell and causing accident. It's a 131 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: pile up on the freeway because bit Trump Johnson, it's 132 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:45,079 Speaker 1: slanging trailer all over the four five. How about the fireman? 133 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: The fireman is hell and no fire stands a chance 134 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: because he got the biggest holes up to the fire 135 00:09:56,240 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: truck and the water coming from everyone. He's able to 136 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: attach himself to four five hundreds at once and a 137 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: fire don't stand ain't that's the five man. Let's move 138 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 1: on to the plumber. The plumber ripped up some pipes. 139 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: Yeah the plumber, Uh, got the snake out and rode 140 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:33,079 Speaker 1: a rood of man is in the driveway? Got you 141 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:39,959 Speaker 1: or any other perfect gardeners? The godeners flowering every Friday? 142 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:45,319 Speaker 1: Could Lord here he come? He ain't even using regular 143 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: garden tuns? Or no, he ain't garden hearing that digging 144 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:59,560 Speaker 1: up the field plowing every Friday. Howard Body the zookeeper. 145 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: The zookeeper can't keep the monkey in the cage out 146 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: the zoopkeeople can't keep the market in the cage. And 147 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:28,319 Speaker 1: King Kong already loose. The bartender is shaking up that 148 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: big silver flash. What you want to Moscow music? I 149 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: asked you, did you want some of this Moscow music? See? 150 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 1: We can do this, clever. What about a football player? Uh, 151 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: he get the first down every time he stepped on 152 00:11:55,400 --> 00:12:03,600 Speaker 1: the field. First down, first down, sir, Big Jack Johnson 153 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:06,679 Speaker 1: on the field, that's a first down, sir. That's t 154 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 1: y'all work or construction work, that hard hat. We are 155 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:24,599 Speaker 1: welding the frank for the building, huh. And we're pulling concrete, 156 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 1: but there's some concrete that needs to be removed first. 157 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 1: So we're asking brother Jack Johnson to bring the jack Hamil. 158 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:40,840 Speaker 1: This bust just concrete though, so we can get back 159 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: to building. Brother Jack, come on out with the jack Hamile, 160 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: so we can get back to building our building. All right? 161 00:12:52,280 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 1: What about surgeon right in now you're laid ain't on it? Huh, 162 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: you're laying on it. You've gotten comfortable, but you don't 163 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 1: realize that that ain't a guarney. That's me. I don't 164 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: know who put the bed sheet on me, but I 165 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: thank you. You think it's a guarney, but that's me. 166 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 1: What about a chef or shelf You're standing there waiting 167 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:41,040 Speaker 1: on it to happen. You think he's about to pull 168 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:48,640 Speaker 1: out a knife. No, it's a butcher block, big old 169 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 1: huncle wood and how many knives in that thing. It's 170 00:13:54,000 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: a whole set against you, shelf Old boy D. Matter 171 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 1: of fact, that's my name, chef boy ah D. All right, look, 172 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: we got to get out of here. Email at your Instagram, 173 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,840 Speaker 1: at your call me chief for Sean on Today's Strawberry Letter. 174 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: At Steve Harvey f M. You're listening to the Steve 175 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.