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Speaker 1: My stepdaughter refuses to accept me as her dad, so

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Speaker 1: I told her what she says is the grossest dad

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I want to hear this primo dad joke. Primo dad

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Speaker 1: jokes are my favorite.

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Speaker 3: What is?

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Speaker 2: What is? I'm trying to think of some some top

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Speaker 2: tier ones.

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Speaker 3: Why did seven eight nine? Oh shit?

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Speaker 2: I love that?

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Speaker 4: I mean.

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Speaker 3: I was ten afraid of seven. I don't know why

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Speaker 3: because seven eight nine.

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Speaker 2: I like the first one better.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I was six afraid of seven. Ooh

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Speaker 3: seven nine as well? Both six and ten are we're

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Speaker 3: witnesses to seven eight nine.

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Speaker 1: Just terrorizing all the single digits. It's really travesty. Oh man, Okay.

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Speaker 1: So note, my stepdaughter, Madeline was about a year old

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Speaker 1: when I married her mother, Jessica Madeleine's father passed away

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Speaker 1: before she was born. Madeline is currently fifteen, and she's

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Speaker 1: rebelling for almost everything. She did something bad, so while

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Speaker 1: picking her up, I set a punishment up for her.

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Speaker 1: Then she said, you're not my dad. I don't have

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Speaker 1: to follow you. You're my fake dad, my real dad's dad.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Jesus, honestly, I got a bit hurt

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Speaker 1: from that, but I understand that she didn't meet it

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Speaker 1: and that she'd probably change.

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Speaker 3: She meant it. She hates you.

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Speaker 2: She hates you for life.

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Speaker 3: You'll never replace her real dad.

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Speaker 1: I just replied, I'm still your legal guardian for the

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Speaker 1: next three years, and as long as you're in my house,

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Speaker 1: you have to follow my rules.

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Speaker 3: Classic dad thing.

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Speaker 1: Classic dad move. Is that the dad joke? That's the

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Speaker 1: dad joke that happened about two days ago. So our

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Speaker 1: family was going grocery shopping when I heard Madeline say

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Speaker 1: I'm hungry, I need bet.

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Speaker 3: That all so sounds like something a fifteen year old

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Speaker 1: You know, it's it's always I'm tired. I like how

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Speaker 1: like the toddler and teenager like crossover.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's a cycle.

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Speaker 2: You just revert back.

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Speaker 1: I decided to be extremely cheeky and say, hi, hungry,

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Speaker 1: I am not your dad. Oh oh, juicy joke. My

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Speaker 1: son just started to laugh uncontrollably, but my daughter was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not your dad and doesn't want to be

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Speaker 3: ooh it's you.

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Speaker 1: Yikes, Yeah, how do you like it? And my wife

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Speaker 1: berated me to not stoop down to her level. I

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Speaker 1: honestly thought it was a funny dad joke, and my

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Speaker 2: Sam?

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Speaker 3: There is uh we got some updates. Okay, but so far,

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Speaker 3: I say no, I want to know what everyone else thinks.

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Speaker 3: But I think that's a funny dad joke.

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Speaker 1: It's a twist on the classic oh like I'm hungry,

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Speaker 1: Hi hungry, I'm dad classic dad joke, and he's putting

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Speaker 1: his own unique new spin on it. I think that

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Speaker 1: the stepdaughter should file for a lawsuit because he committed fraud.

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Speaker 1: He said I'm hungry, You're not hungry. He can't remember

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Speaker 1: the simplest dad joke. Come on, John, you got it.

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Speaker 1: He falsely, he falsely misnamed her, and now he must

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Speaker 1: be served to justice. Okay, well wait, well let's let's

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Speaker 1: see what happens at this update. Okay, so edit, I

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Speaker 1: did adopt her, so I am legally her parents. First

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Speaker 1: mini update. I'll give a full update later, but here's

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Speaker 1: what happens so far. I go to my daughter's room

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Speaker 1: after dinner and begin talking with her. Hey, I'm really

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Speaker 1: sorry that it hurts you with the words that I said,

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Speaker 1: and I am really your dead.

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Speaker 3: All these snowflakes getting so sad over dad jokes.

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Speaker 1: Come on, and I changed your diapers, I met your boyfriend,

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Speaker 3: That's pretty sweet, that's pretty cute.

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Speaker 1: Then I hugged her, and then she did start to cry.

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Speaker 1: I assume that's good, but she was really crying remembering

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Speaker 1: how terrible you're just was final update. My son has

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Speaker 1: And I'm just kidding. So last week we decided to

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Speaker 2: Honestly, it was awesome.

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Speaker 1: I checked her bowling to get a manicure, becoming a

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Speaker 1: Disney princess. I looked awesome, as Jasmine.

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Speaker 3: Oh, he sounds like a great dad. Yeah, I feel

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Speaker 1: Oh definitely, definitely and get a full makeover with the

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Speaker 1: Everyone was happy. Then we decided to go out to

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Speaker 2: Gotcha back, daddy.

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Speaker 1: Oh. She had the biggest smirk on her face. She

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Speaker 1: been planning this for weeks.

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Speaker 3: So cute.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes we just get an adorable, wholesome story and we

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Speaker 3: But you know what else makes it worthwhile? Oh?

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Speaker 2: What? Sam?

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Speaker 3: The comments from our public subscribers, And I have a

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Speaker 3: comment from public subscriber ye Elle Goldstein on the video

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Speaker 3: my husband called me a cheater and disowned our baby.

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Speaker 3: It gets worse about like Ohpi's boyfriend asked for the

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Speaker 3: attorney test. As soon as the results show he's the father,

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Speaker 3: I'm leaving him. You know that one. And y'elle says,

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Speaker 3: the idea of paternity tests at birth is a nice theory.

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Speaker 3: That's that's the one that we keep bringing up. But

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Speaker 3: these tests costs money, and hospitals won't do it without

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Speaker 3: someone paying for them. Probably true, But your boys can

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Speaker 3: dream can't they can we not.

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Speaker 2: Have a dream?

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Speaker 1: What every baby test all across the land, and we

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Speaker 1: can dream that you'll put your thoughts and feelings in

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Speaker 1: the comments and publicly subscribe so we might read it.

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Speaker 2: Love you.

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Speaker 3: Why won't my girl talk to me? I'm just trying

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Speaker 3: to gaslight her, manipulate her.

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Speaker 2: That's all.

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Speaker 3: That's all, man, that's I mean, it's such harmless crimes.

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Speaker 2: You know, no breaks.

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Speaker 1: Why why would you? Why would you stop it at that?

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Speaker 1: I don't see anything wrong.

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Speaker 3: Here, you know, I say, gaslight more. Yeah, and then

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Speaker 3: maybe she'll realize that you're a nice guy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Like it's it's so clear here that he

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Speaker 3: And the fact that she doesn't see it means she's

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Speaker 3: a bit Oh exactly exactly, this is true, This is

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Speaker 3: these are the facts. Sarcasm, sarcasm and Casey knew.

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Speaker 1: There's always that one person. Yeah, we're making a joke

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Speaker 1: in supports light. I'm gaslighting. We are we are pro

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Speaker 3: Not gaslighting your significant other? Are you really able to

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Speaker 1: Exactly? Like you're you're what is it a high high

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Speaker 1: value man? You're not You're not gaslighting like like what

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Speaker 1: are you doing. You're an alpha male exactly, keep her

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Speaker 1: on your toes. All right, let's see what this nerd

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Speaker 1: us to say. Hey, guys, I already posted on our relationships.

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Speaker 1: For the relationship side of all this, I don't I

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Speaker 1: don't think there's a relationship here, my guy. I think

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Speaker 1: you're sad and alone. But I need some advice on

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Speaker 1: the legal side. All right, dude, the relationship's gone. If

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Speaker 3: Your once lawyers are involved, it's over. It's over unless

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Speaker 3: you start dating the lawyer.

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Speaker 2: Now that's a plot twist.

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Speaker 3: That's a plot twist. You know, I was getting into

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Speaker 3: I wonder how many of the divorces, Like I was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like it's a rom com. You're on her.

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Speaker 1: Uh. The plaintiff never never took care of me sexually.

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Speaker 3: Is that horse radish? That's what they do in divorce

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Speaker 3: court is like, yo, dude.

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Speaker 2: Your honor.

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Speaker 1: Wait there, I'm pretty sure there is a movie where

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Speaker 3: I totally I totally said Okayop. Naturally I didn't.

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Speaker 3: Like, Okayop, Like, hey, it's the title of the show.

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Speaker 3: It's like, uh uh, I just this is a TV show.

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Speaker 3: But it's like, you know, the Handmaid's Tale. Yeah, it's like,

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Speaker 3: oh man, there all this crazy stuff. I have to

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Speaker 3: call it the Handmaid's Tale comedy, all right. Uh okay.

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Speaker 3: So he showed around a bit. We got lunch a

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Speaker 1: Love is in the air everywhere, And Nop needs to change.

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Speaker 3: His underwear.

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Speaker 2: Because he's in it.

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Speaker 3: That's right, Clean up you stanky ass underpants. Oh P,

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Speaker 3: go on, oh P, that is not okay. Wrap wrap

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Speaker 2: I'm a nice guy.

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Speaker 2: Please except my love.

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Speaker 3: Please, I promise I'm the nicest.

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Speaker 1: You you track down their location and you just ambush them.

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Speaker 3: That's what you do. This is how relationships is love.

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Speaker 3: One oh one. Have you heard of Romeo and Juliet? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Bro just pulls up and just starts some macking on

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're like, also, how is that a good guss? Dude?

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Speaker 3: It's like, I mean, are you really getting enjoyment out

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Speaker 3: nothing because she's asleep. Not fun, not fun at all,

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Speaker 3: not fun. Why why why?

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Speaker 2: Nobody?

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Speaker 1: Nobody wins? Nobody wins, and then you got assault charge

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Speaker 3: And they did not live happily ever after.

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Speaker 2: The defendant, mister Prince.

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Speaker 3: But I'm a nice guy, Okay. I was going to

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Speaker 1: She couldn't even respect me enough by just replying to

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, totally normal, totally normal texts. Egg, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: And you don't even respond. The indecency, audacity.

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Speaker 3: I checked her Instagram that night and saw she was

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Speaker 1: There were pictures of her with alcohol. She is underage,

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Speaker 1: So I did freak out a little. I'm just like that.

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Speaker 3: I told her about how much I cared about her

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Speaker 3: that would be great. You got some issues my guy, yep.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Honestly, this guy is way too much and she

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Speaker 1: because this guy's creepy. Exactly, she could have seen if

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Speaker 1: he had a criminal record, if he was using the

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Speaker 2: Is this person a maniac?

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Speaker 3: So if you got any creeps in your life, or

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Speaker 3: yourself before you wreck yourself.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, she never replied, big ah wow, but I got

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Speaker 1: a piece of mail today from her. My heart, I

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Speaker 1: was so excited. Yes, she finally took the decency she

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Speaker 3: Was a season desist letter.

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Speaker 1: Ah.

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Speaker 3: She said she would seek legal avenues if I didn't

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Speaker 3: stop harassing her. What the fact, Reddit, I need to

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Speaker 3: know what I could do legally to talk to She

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Speaker 3: a season desist letter.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy for a nineteen year old to get

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Speaker 1: a lawyer, dude, for real, for real, she wants to

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Speaker 1: really wanted it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yep, yep.

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Speaker 3: This guy's a creep creepy, creepy creep creep.

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Speaker 1: I just I just need to know what I can

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Speaker 3: I don't want to live a life knowing she hates me.

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Speaker 1: How How how dare she let him live his life

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Speaker 3: I can't believe you would do that. From my research,

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Speaker 3: a cease and desist letter isn't legally binding like a

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Speaker 3: my love. This just screams.

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Speaker 2: Push until we get to cease and desists.

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Speaker 4: Yeah for the guy, Yeah, he wants to He wants

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Speaker 2: That's what I meant to say.

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Speaker 3: So basically, I don't think she can charge me with anything.

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Speaker 3: Do I need a lawyer to respond to her letter?

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Speaker 3: Thanks for all your help and thank you for reading this.

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Speaker 2: What do you think?

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Speaker 3: Do you want to No, let's keep going, But what

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Speaker 3: are your thoughts John, Dude?

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Speaker 1: My thoughts here are this guy's an absolute maniac. Like

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Speaker 1: it's literally getting difficult to even like sarcastically make fun

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Speaker 3: Yeah, did you ever have someone that you knew that

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Speaker 1: Like I remember when I was sixteen, my girlfriend broke

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna like start doing push ups and like look

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Speaker 1: I was like, well that was like did you do

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Speaker 1: the push up? A silly reaction? I did a few

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Speaker 3: What are you talking about you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But yeah, that was that was my own Like I

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Speaker 1: I don't think that was as egregious, but it's like,

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Speaker 2: The light regions.

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Speaker 3: How dare you do push ups? If you break up?

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Speaker 3: That's the classic we like have you seen those tiktoks

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Speaker 3: where yeah?

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Speaker 2: Where where? Where? What is that? Songs like where where?

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Speaker 3: Where? Where?

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Speaker 2: Where? Wret me?

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Speaker 3: Let me see?

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Speaker 1: Those are so great. Yeah, it's like spongebobes of Phineas

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which one's the best? This is this is my favorite?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, any any character that's like especially not here, Like

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Speaker 3: But John, there's an update. Oh boy? Okay, wait, well

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Speaker 3: should I go to Should I need the edit first?

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Speaker 3: Okay, well there is an edit and an update. So

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Speaker 3: the edit. Wow, everyone here is talking to me like

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Speaker 3: I'm a piece of Just to be clear, I have

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Speaker 3: you know. I do like he is. He's like, maybe

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Speaker 3: he's actually looking to it.

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Speaker 2: Awareness.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he definitely lacks the awareness, and I feel like

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Speaker 3: the Internet is just giving him that awareness forcefully, yes,

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Speaker 3: Oh boy. I've been wondering if for I've been wondering

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Speaker 3: I wasn't going to, but I know my last post

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Speaker 3: I read all the comments there. It was rough for

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Speaker 3: my own mindset, the mindset of so many men like me, was.

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00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 3: I decided I needed to post again for some closure. First,

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Speaker 3: I want to assure everyone I did not contact that

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Speaker 3: girl ever again. Since I moved, I no longer see

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Speaker 3: her or go anywhere by where she used to live,

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Speaker 3: go to school or work. I don't know if she

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Speaker 3: even still lives in the area or goes to the

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Speaker 3: same school. I've avoided getting any information about her at all.

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Speaker 3: The way I acted and the way I hurt her

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Speaker 3: and scared her so much still haunts me. Part of

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Speaker 3: part of me wants to track her down and apologize,

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Speaker 3: But I know from my classes that one that can

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Speaker 3: revictimize her all over again. And two, I would be selfish.

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Speaker 3: It would be the selfish. It would be the selfish

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Speaker 3: thing to do because it would clear my conscious but

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Speaker 3: not make her feel better.

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 3: Wow, this is some serious griss. A lot of growth, dude,

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Speaker 3: I like a lot. Wow. Thank you Internet for help

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Speaker 3: of this guy. Guys. Yeah, if she wants to get

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Speaker 3: closure by talking to me, I'm sure she can find

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Speaker 3: me somehow. And three, I don't want to make the

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Speaker 3: mistake of using an apology to make her feel manipulated

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Speaker 3: to talking to me again. I learned in my classes

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Speaker 3: that men do that a lot, and I don't want

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Speaker 3: to hurt her anymore, so I will work past the

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Speaker 3: guilt while never talking to her again. What are these classes?

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Speaker 1: I guess, nice guy one on one?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how to turn nice nice guys actually nice guys.

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Speaker 3: In conclusion, a lot has changed for me in the

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Speaker 3: last three and a half months. I want to say

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Speaker 3: I do not blame my behavior on my mental illness

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Speaker 3: or anger, or the media or whatever. I made a

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Speaker 3: conscious decision to stalk and terrorize another human being because

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Speaker 3: I thought I had the right to dictate how others

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Speaker 3: interact with me. The class is a year long class,

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Speaker 3: and I've only been in it for a month, but

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Speaker 3: I've already learned so much. I've learned from my group

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Speaker 3: that abuse is always a conscious choice and a learned behavior.

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Speaker 3: But I believe that since I've learned this behavior and

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Speaker 3: it's voluntary, it's totally within my control to change it.

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Speaker 3: I've also learned from my group about the importance of

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Speaker 3: having a non romantic support system, so I made some

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Speaker 3: so I made some male and female friends at work

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Speaker 3: that invite me over to play video games with them.

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Speaker 3: Don't worry, I read it. These are actual friends and

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Speaker 3: not just people I'm stalking or believe I am in

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Speaker 3: love with. I talked about this extensively with my therapist

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Speaker 3: and try to be cognizant of my obsessive tendencies. Thank

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Speaker 3: you to everyone who told me straight. I'm sorry for

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Speaker 3: how I decided to treat everyone who was just trying

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Speaker 3: to give me the advice I asked for.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: This is like a full full like a redemption arc.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's complete growth. In my opinion, I think that

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Speaker 1: he did he's doing all the work.

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Speaker 2: Not perfect.

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Speaker 1: She's still you know, kind of like, oh, I still

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Speaker 1: want to reach out to her stuff.

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Speaker 3: But he's very much he still wants to do that

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Speaker 3: and doesn't shows that that growth, right, It's like and.

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Speaker 1: He's like he's self aware about it, and he's he's

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Speaker 1: clearly doing and done the work. He is He's absolutely

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Speaker 1: coming around and absolutely wait, I think.

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Speaker 3: It's all p dude. You you know you had us

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Speaker 3: in the first half, but honestly, like you came through it.

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm I'm really happy for you. That's growth. Good

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Speaker 3: luck on your life, yeah,