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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please

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Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and

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Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter Steve. This is part two of

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Speaker 1: a letter we had a couple of weeks ago from

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Speaker 1: a young lady who call. So she only wrote in

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Speaker 1: once before. Yeah, and what's the background on her now? Well,

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Speaker 1: she was dating an older man, remember, and the man

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Speaker 1: was as old as his father as her father. Uh,

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Speaker 1: she didn't know where she stood with this guy. He

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Speaker 1: other words, just kind of pushing her off into the background.

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Speaker 1: And she really liked him. But you know, oh didn't

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Speaker 1: introduce her as his woman, said her name. He wasn't

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Speaker 1: claiming her right exactly. So she's written in again, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so right in, like pretty young thing. We could be

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Speaker 1: eating your letter live on the air, just like we're

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Speaker 1: going to read this one right here, right now, Bucky Luck,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight here it is, thank you nephew, subject

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Speaker 1: pretty young thing with a scary older man. Part two.

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Speaker 1: This one says dear Stephen, Shirley, I am the pretty

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Speaker 1: young thing that wrote you about my lover that is

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Speaker 1: the same age as my father. I took Shirley's advice

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Speaker 1: and asked my lover if the relationship was going anywhere

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Speaker 1: or if it was just a fling. He told me

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Speaker 1: that in due time, our relationship would get to the

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Speaker 1: next level. I didn't like his answer, so I broke

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Speaker 1: it off with him. Two days later, he sent flowers

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Speaker 1: to my job and my house. I still ignored him.

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Speaker 1: said be my wife BMW in parentheses. He gave me

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Speaker 1: He popped up at my house two days later, and

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Speaker 1: him about popping up at my house, popping up at

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Speaker 1: that I don't need. Before I would, Before I could

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Speaker 1: to marry him. I was flattered and caught off guard,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't say yes. I told him we need

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Speaker 1: had plenty of time to talk because he'll always be

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Speaker 1: around and he will never let me go. I prayed

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Speaker 1: but something still didn't seem right with him. Two weeks later,

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Speaker 1: to me. He came in with a bouquet of flowers

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Speaker 1: and said they were from my dad, who was sitting

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Speaker 1: he texted me to say he met my little boy,

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Speaker 1: my little friend, and he seems nice. Now I'm worried.

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Speaker 1: Is my lover just being a little jealous or is

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Speaker 1: he full, full blown crazy and possessive. Would I be

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Speaker 1: making a mistake if I marry him? Please advise, yes,

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Speaker 1: you would be making a mistake if you married him.

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Speaker 1: That's number one. And I gotta say welcome back to you,

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Speaker 1: pretty young thing. Thank you for writing us back, and

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you took my advice because to me, the

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Speaker 1: red flags were always there, you just weren't seeing them. Pyt.

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Speaker 1: Papa or Zaddi or scary older man whatever you're calling him,

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Speaker 1: is he's really stalking you? I mean showing up at

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Speaker 1: don't want to hang around and find out, now, do you? So? No,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you should marry him. I don't think

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Speaker 1: stay away from this guy, Steve, pretty young thing, scale

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Speaker 1: ol man. Here you go dating this old dude? Told

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Speaker 1: you told you you took Shareley's advice, and you asked

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Speaker 1: He told me, in due time our relationship would get

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Speaker 1: mean in due time we're gonna get to the next level?

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Speaker 1: You old? You order you at the level? What level

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Speaker 1: you going to? You're the same age as her daddy?

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Speaker 1: Where is your next level? You ain't ain't what what

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Speaker 1: you're gonna qualify for a RP benefits? What? All? Right?

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Speaker 1: I didn't like his answer, so I broke it off.

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Speaker 1: Two days later, he didn't come flowers to your job

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Speaker 1: I was flattered but told him no thanks. He left

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Speaker 1: did you? Yeah? I was never in it for his

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Speaker 1: money and nice gilts like I said, you ain't sending

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Speaker 1: that car back though, did you? Why not? Oh? You

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Speaker 1: might not have been in it for the money and

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Speaker 1: the guilts, but this is a pretty nice ass guilt. Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: I come back. I'll finished the letter, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's subject pretty young

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter, Pretty young thing

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Speaker 1: all right, old dude and finally trying to win her back.

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Speaker 1: She told me that wasn't happened. She's sending flowers now.

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Speaker 1: back up that? You want to know? You need to

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Speaker 1: know that he dropped on one knee? Did you hear something? Crack?

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Speaker 1: he got a bunch of it? He said, in due

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Speaker 1: Said he would always be around and he had never

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Speaker 1: letting me go. Damn one thing about taking vials with

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Speaker 1: sickness and in health. That ought to be soon, for

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Speaker 1: rich Paul might already on his retirement to death. Do

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Speaker 1: us part that could happen? So I prayed about the proposal,

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Speaker 1: I guess because this quarantine. So he come by the house,

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Speaker 1: see that young ass boy. He didn't say a damn thing,

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Speaker 1: hold up, partner, what you're doing overhill? Where you going?

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Speaker 1: This is my woman? What? None of that? This is

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Speaker 1: ain't that he that other fifty. He ain't like Tommy fifty. No,

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Speaker 1: you know it? Fifty could damn there'll be seventy, not seventy,

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Speaker 1: he texted. She texts inside, Yeah, I met your little friend.

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Speaker 1: He seemed nice. What who do that? Met your little friend?

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Speaker 1: He seemed nice. Took my flowers in there for you.

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Speaker 1: you think? Now? Listen to me, young lady. You've prayed

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Speaker 1: still don't feel right now? That was your answer. Now

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Speaker 1: listen to the vibes through sickness and in health. His

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Speaker 1: Do you parta? What do you think that's been happened?

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Speaker 1: You find that you find to have an interesting marriage

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Speaker 1: because all your vows it's gonna be tested. Yeah you finished?

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Speaker 1: Oh yah, y'all, yah, you finished. Go through all the

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Speaker 1: Richard for poor death, Do us part, leave all others

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Speaker 1: and cleave only onto him, wash me thine own self.

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Speaker 1: All that you findn't do that you finn to be.

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Speaker 1: You don't even know it, but you you're gonna be

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Speaker 1: buying two sets of diapers. Oh my god? All right, Steve,

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