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Speaker 1: Calling all my sweeties to the forefront.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Christopher, and this is the Keeping Positive

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Speaker 2: Sweetish Show. Hey, sweeties, I am so happy that you

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Speaker 2: are back with me for another episode.

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Speaker 1: And while I have you here, I want you to

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Speaker 1: lean in real quickly. Is this thing on? Just real quick?

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Speaker 2: I have a question for you, what would you do

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Speaker 2: if you knew that you could not fail? Go ahead,

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Speaker 2: get your journal and write that vision, and go ahead

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Speaker 2: and make it plain, because it's just as simple as that.

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Speaker 1: Our guest today is my sister, y'all.

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Speaker 2: She is a wife, a glowing mommy, and an actress

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Speaker 2: and an entrepreneur. You might know her from I don't

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Speaker 2: know a show named Sisters, playing a character named Andy

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Speaker 2: Barnes his family. Please welcome our sister, kJ Smith Black.

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Speaker 2: Hey Chris, I'm so happy to have you here today.

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Speaker 3: I'm happy to be here. You look good.

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Speaker 1: Know we like to make it feel like home here, Yes,

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Speaker 1: it does, thank you. How are you feeling?

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Speaker 3: I feel good? I feel good.

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Speaker 2: You're really excited and energized. I feel that I feel

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Speaker 2: when you walked in. You don't look like you're what

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Speaker 2: month are you in now?

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Speaker 3: I'm going into my seventh months yeah, two days, it'll

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Speaker 1: Two days. You look amazing.

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Speaker 2: I was telling you when you walked in, I said,

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Speaker 2: I hope that if I ever get pregnant, that I

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Speaker 2: wear just you're all belly. You know, some people, I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm going to blow up in the face,

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Speaker 2: my arms, everything you want.

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Speaker 3: You know, why did you train your fit? You know

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Speaker 3: what I mean. It's all gonna go where it's supposed

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Speaker 3: to go like that, Yeah, because they definitely what we're

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Speaker 3: supposed to. I receive that. And also I'm trying to

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Speaker 3: honor my body and everything that's happening, Like it's so

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Speaker 3: much change. I'm just like, whatever happens, I'm allowing. I'm

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Speaker 3: not about to fight with this. It's I'm literally changing

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Speaker 3: every day. It's a new something, a new bump, a

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Speaker 3: this is a part of creating life, and that's cool.

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Speaker 1: It is. Yeah. Yeah, I love that you're you're adapting

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: The last time I saw you, we were filming Census,

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Speaker 2: and it felt like overnight, Like when you first came.

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Speaker 2: It was just like a little bump and we were

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Speaker 2: able to hide it. And then you came back over

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Speaker 2: the weekend.

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Speaker 1: We were like.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, I'm ready action.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that was crazy. But whatching you.

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Speaker 2: Do that kJ was so inspiring because you are like

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Speaker 2: you're O a girl, like you're the one that you're

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Speaker 2: everywhere on the show. You know, a lot of us

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Speaker 2: like get time off. kJ does not get time off,

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Speaker 2: like she's at everybody's house. She's handling, putting fires out

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Speaker 2: I think I'm make an excuse, but I don't have

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Speaker 1: But seeing you do it out there was a little.

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Speaker 2: Was like I could do that, you can do it you.

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Speaker 3: I received that because I honestly I was. I felt

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Speaker 3: Where is the time? What people don't see is in

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Speaker 3: I'm starting to recruit a program, and I need you

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Speaker 3: Lot of people you are now now that I had

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Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely.

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Speaker 2: Where were some of the challenges that you face during

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Speaker 3: My biggest bout was acid reflux, motion, sickness, just gastro

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Speaker 3: different size. Yeah, I had to unzip. I'm behind my desk, y'all.

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Speaker 3: There are scenes where I'm literally behind my desk with

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, because there's a nice they are.

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Speaker 1: It's really like one big, happy family, it really is. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I can imagine that we've had candid conversations about just

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Speaker 3: Yes, And I really I'm so happy that you have

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Speaker 3: which is it's too late for me or my doctor

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Speaker 3: You have PCOS. The number one symptom of PCOS is infertility.

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Speaker 1: Because you do that, there's a lot of black women that.

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Speaker 3: I went completely dark this summer. I was I went

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Speaker 3: January nineteenth, we found out that we were pregnant.

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Speaker 4: What was that moment, Like, oh my god, yes, I

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Speaker 4: I had just took my weave down.

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Speaker 3: I just took my hair out, and you know, I

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Speaker 1: Cute.

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Speaker 3: I used to be a weave girl.

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Speaker 3: I completely lost myself. I was trying to be what

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Speaker 3: I had to get my hormones checked because things were

435
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 3: kind of out of whackt I had to figure out

436
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: what was going on with my emotions. I had to

437
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,719
Speaker 3: figure out why I had high cortisol levels, I had

438
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 3: hot estrogen levels. Everything is not glittering goal sometimes there's

439
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 3: things going on inside and listen, I would love to

440
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,720
Speaker 3: still be that one, same young twenty one year old,

441
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 3: but my body's changing, my life is changing.

442
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: And yes, yes.

443
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 3: So I'm going through these hormonal changes. And then I'm

444
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 3: also having a very public experience. And so I did

445
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 3: become I tried to get controlling and calculating it. This

446
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,199
Speaker 3: is going to make sense and this is good and

447
00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 3: this is my brand and this is what I'm staying

448
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 3: for and this is what I want to look like,

449
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 3: and this is you know, and some things are true

450
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 3: to me, like I still want to be cute. I

451
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,679
Speaker 3: still want to be cute, Yes, and that's and sauce

452
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 3: and that's who I am and that's okay. But I

453
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 3: do not want to be overthinking. I do not want

454
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 3: to be stressed out. I do not want to be false.

455
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 3: I don't want to be inauthentic. And I mean, you

456
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 3: hit the nail on the head. I absolutely was lost.

457
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 1: And when you I think you took a break from Instagram,

458
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,120
Speaker 1: you came back on and I said, that's my kJ

459
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: that's my girl, And I was like, she got it?

460
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: What was that like, I can't do this anymore. Was

461
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 1: there a moment or anything that made it click?

462
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 3: Girl? I hit rock bottom. You already know, you already

463
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 3: know you.

464
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: Know up here? Why are you doing it?

465
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 5: I got back inside joke shaw, I just spiled this down.

466
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,399
Speaker 5: I'm great, Okay, I'll never know if it looks like

467
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 5: I got bootsweep, It's just water.

468
00:24:54,760 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 3: It's water, everybody. Yeah, I think you know. I got

469
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 3: to the point where we had the when did it?

470
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 3: When did? I was like, oh wow, I've had a

471
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 3: few pivotal moments in my life that we've all you

472
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 3: know that you've been there with me during those times.

473
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 3: My wedding was one of them, and that was a

474
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 3: that was a very very specific load for me because

475
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 3: I had yeah, because I did something I wanted to do.

476
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 3: I did something I wanted to do. I did something

477
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 3: the way I wanted to do it, and that was me.

478
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 3: That was like, how would be me? The bachelorette party?

479
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 3: That was I was like, that's me, that's my style,

480
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 3: that's who I am, that's authentic to me. And it

481
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 3: got so much coverage and I don't think that I

482
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 3: had I'm fine with the way people speak about my character,

483
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 3: but then when people start speaking about you as a

484
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 3: person different and I started, I was like, WHOA, what's

485
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 3: going on? Like I love this about myulf, I love

486
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 3: this experience I had. Now, we did have some some

487
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:14,360
Speaker 3: issues on weddings are weddings, you know, but we did

488
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 3: have some some particular issues. But the wedding overall, my

489
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 3: husband and I curated that to do we wanted to do,

490
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:29,400
Speaker 3: and then people kind of made it something ugly and

491
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 3: it was like the happiest day of my life. And

492
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 3: so I was like, whoa, there's the disconnect between you know,

493
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 3: me and the people that opinions I value, you know,

494
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 3: or or in fans and people who I don't really

495
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 3: know as well. It's all these things, all these things

496
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,959
Speaker 3: and when you have these major events, people have they

497
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 3: want to right now, they're telling me, this is what

498
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 3: you need to do for your baby.

499
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 1: That's how you raised, you.

500
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 3: Make that baby you make and don't sleep with aba.

501
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 3: I'm like, everybody, relaxed. I'm gonna do what I want

502
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 3: to do.

503
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: Period.

504
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do what I want to do, and I

505
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 3: don't and I mean that with the most loved and

506
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 3: care in my heart. And now that I'm back in

507
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 3: alignment with my my source. Yes, now that I'm back

508
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 3: in alignment with God, I can trust myself. Right, Yeah,

509
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 3: everything gonna be. We're good over here, we gucci. But yeah,

510
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 3: I think around the wedding time, that's when I said

511
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:31,719
Speaker 3: I cannot be connected to people's opinions about me. And

512
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 3: that's when I started to see the shift that was

513
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty three and I was like, Okay, I

514
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: have to I have to figure out how to understand

515
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 3: who I am, own who I am, be proud of

516
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 3: who I am, trust that and standing that without trying

517
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 3: to acquiesce to what's cool, what's trendy, or what people think.

518
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 3: Because I'll do something I love from myself. And then

519
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 3: I'm talking about back in the day. No, no, back

520
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 3: in the day. I'll do something I absolutely love for

521
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 3: myself and then I'll read a comment that makes me

522
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 3: so it hurts me so bad, and I'll be like, oh,

523
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 3: maybe I should have done that. Okay, next time I'm

524
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 3: gonna do this. It was like, excuse me, excuse your part.

525
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:24,880
Speaker 3: Now write a comment back like excuse me, ma'am. I'm

526
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 3: grown who you think you talk to?

527
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 1: Right?

528
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 3: Keep it positive, sweetie here, keep it positive, sweetie. Yes,

529
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 3: like for real, everybody relaxed.

530
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 2: I remember even like when I became famous or where

531
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 2: I still don't people can ask me, are you.

532
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 3: The you're mad famous?

533
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: No, you're mad famous?

534
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 3: Own it. I'm gonna cas you up, you're super famo

535
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 3: lovely fred, Yes, go ahead.

536
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 1: I had.

537
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 2: I was on a plane and her daughter recognized me,

538
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 2: and the mom was like sitting next to me, she goes,

539
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 2: excuse me, are you a famous person?

540
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: I was like, I guess it's so it was.

541
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 2: It still doesn't click, you know, like I know it

542
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 2: like when people see me and stuff, but like when

543
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 2: people ask me, like I've never had anybody ask me

544
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 2: are you famous? You know, to like hit the answer. Yeah,

545
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 2: It felt weird to say yeah, I mean, I don't

546
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 2: know what do you recognize me from? You know, it

547
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 2: is weird, but she was actually really dope. But I

548
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 2: remember before, like we've gotten this fame that I didn't

549
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 2: care about.

550
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: You know, nobody had.

551
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 2: Whoever was following me wanted to follow me because they

552
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 2: genuinely loved me and like they were supporters of me.

553
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: So it was all love. And then we get this platform.

554
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 2: We're on everyone's televisions in their living rooms. They welcome

555
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 2: us into our home, and then it becomes this like

556
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: obsession and this ownership of us.

557
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: And I felt like.

558
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 2: Everything that I did was under a microscope and I

559
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 2: would like read every comment and it would literally it

560
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 2: would how you say it hurt, It would hurt my feelings.

561
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 2: And then I would start second guests and things, and

562
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 2: I was started saying, well, maybe I just won't post anymore.

563
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 2: I was just second guests in my entire life, in

564
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 2: every move, and it does like change your way of thinking,

565
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: the way you move, the way you even entertain people.

566
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 2: You know, it kind of put you kind of because

567
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 2: you don't know who's who.

568
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 3: It's like absolutely the wall up girl, Come on now

569
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 3: and we're gonna talk about it, gonna talk about it.

570
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: The wall wall, it's a real wall that comes with

571
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 2: this that we didn't even know.

572
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if we knew it was building up.

573
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: I had no clue. Yes, and now it's like, oh,

574
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 3: my friend, I'm gonna come over. I'm bringing my friend.

575
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 3: No you're no, you're not.

576
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 1: No, you're not.

577
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 3: No, you're not. They have not signed the NDA. This

578
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 3: is my home, this is my sacred space. Yes, everybody

579
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 3: in that space, we're in that space. God, thank God. Yes,

580
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 3: I am grateful for that. But it does come with

581
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 3: this protection for yourself, you know.

582
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to see that.

583
00:30:57,880 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know how you did it.

584
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 1: Girl. It was hard, and you say I hand gracefully.

585
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 2: But there was many days where I was sitting home

586
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 2: just like sad and like not feeling my best self.

587
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 2: People still talk crazy about me, you know, and I'm

588
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: just like whatever.

589
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 1: And what really irks me is I don't go looking

590
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 1: for that stuff.

591
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 2: It's the people that tag me in it to let

592
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 2: me know, and they're trying to like say, like somebody

593
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 2: needs like this person talking bad about you.

594
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 1: But I would never have seen it if you didn't

595
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: tag me on it.

596
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: Making sure I saw this to know that I got

597
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 2: a big nose. I know that you didn't have to

598
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 2: tag me.

599
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 3: Perfect as it's kind. We love a concert, I love

600
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 3: a content.

601
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 1: When I like that concert, still a perfect thank you.

602
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,479
Speaker 2: But you know, like it's one of those things like

603
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 2: they like highlight and make sure that you see everything.

604
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: It's like, I'm so busy, I'm not looking for that.

605
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 2: But then when I go look at my mentions to

606
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 2: like repose people that I that are supporting me, then

607
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: I'm seeing the filth and the messiness and all that

608
00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 2: and it's just.

609
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 3: Like, baby, I'm a warrior in the army of the Lord.

610
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 3: Do you understand I will block you so fast. I

611
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 3: got my sword and shields and I'll go to war

612
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 3: in case I need to. Yes, I don't. I don't.

613
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: I don't play those types again. Yes, I have worked

614
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 3: so much on myself. If people knew how hard it

615
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 3: is to do what we do, how much energy it

616
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: takes to work on yourself so that you can present

617
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 3: so you can create a platform like this that changes

618
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 3: people lives.

619
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 2: Yes, I had to fix me first. Hello, listen, I

620
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 2: couldn't come and hear messed up. I had to figure

621
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 2: out what was wrong with me before I can get

622
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 2: on here and tell you guys, this is what I've

623
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: been through.

624
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 1: These are my experiences, and this is how I got

625
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: through it as if I didn't do the work.

626
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 2: And that was even hard, you know, looking myself in

627
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 2: the mirror and then looking at you little Crystal and

628
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 2: teenage Crystal, adulthood Crystal and all her mistakes and what

629
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 2: has shaped me to be the woman I am today.

630
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 2: That's a hard lens to look through, you know. But

631
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 2: to be able to do that, you have to do that.

632
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 1: You have to heal, and.

633
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 3: You continue to be transparent. I love that about you,

634
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 3: and I think for me, I started off so transparent

635
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 3: and I've kind of retreated and I don't I don't

636
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 3: know what that.

637
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: Is, but.

638
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 3: I would love to get back to the space where

639
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 3: I can be transparent and and just leave it, you

640
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 3: know what I mean, not even whatever comes that whatever comes,

641
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 3: it doesn't affect me at all. I'm not there yet,

642
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 3: because you know, when people leave comments, I still will

643
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 3: be like, you did that to hurt me, and I

644
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 3: don't appreciate it. That wasn't nice, that wasn't kind. I

645
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 3: do do it in love now. I used to do

646
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 3: it in anger. I used to do it in pettiness.

647
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 3: I used to do it in like malice, which that

648
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 3: was not the person I wanted to be. But now

649
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, what you did wasn't kind. I want you

650
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: to know that you have hurt my feelings.

651
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 1: And how did they respond to that or do they.

652
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 3: Just do the comment apologize? Begged me in the DMS,

653
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I was having a bad day. Oh yeah,

654
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 3: so why would you take that out on me? That's

655
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:18,760
Speaker 3: not nice?

656
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: And some of them just want attention.

657
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 2: So I had a girl that did that, did this

658
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 2: whole thing, and then when I blocked her, she was

659
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 2: like she sent this long letter. She's like, oh my god.

660
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 2: She was like I'm so sorry. She was like, I

661
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 2: did that? Can you please unblock me? That was my

662
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 2: mom's page and I had wrote it from her page

663
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 2: and she really loves you.

664
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 1: And it was like this whole thing and I was like.

665
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 3: No, careful, Yeah, that wasn't was not kind. And that's

666
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 3: that's the thing that I'm learning that some people are

667
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:55,280
Speaker 3: hurt and they want to take it out on whomever

668
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 3: they see. I'm so happy. Yeah, I don't know if

669
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 3: I've been happier. And I've already gone through the survivor's

670
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 3: remorse of that. I dealt with that already. I've overcome that.

671
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 3: I want to be able to be happy out loud.

672
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,399
Speaker 3: I want to be able to share my testimony where

673
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 3: I was just talking in the car. We were talking,

674
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 3: me and Scott and Fee again. We were talking like

675
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 3: I was I'm not gonna cry. I am not gonna cry.

676
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 3: I spent way too.

677
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: Cry.

678
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna cry. And I've been working on that too.

679
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:45,360
Speaker 3: I've been working on my emotional regulation because I am.

680
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:50,720
Speaker 3: I am a cry baby and I want to master

681
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 3: knowing when and when not to And that's that's the thing.

682
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 3: And it's and I'm like, I want to cry if

683
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 3: it's authentic me. But sometimes it's inappropriate, you know what

684
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 3: I mean. Sometimes it's just inappropriate. You know right now,

685
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 3: I can cry with you. I just don't want to run.

686
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 3: I just don't want to run my makeup. I'm gonna

687
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 3: be honest with you. But you know, I was talking

688
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 3: in the car and we were talking about the struggles

689
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:25,879
Speaker 3: of an artist, and a lot of people there they're like, oh, yeah,

690
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 3: you know, when you your transition, you had a job.

691
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: A lot of people didn't. You had a job, a

692
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: good job.

693
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: A good job at a good company. I did not, yea.

694
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 3: And that doesn't make my journey better or worse. But

695
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 3: it's my journey. Yes, And people see me where I

696
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 3: am now talk about it. They don't see the ten

697
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 3: years that I was eating cheerios and trying to split

698
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 3: a rotisserie at the Kroger, then at the wind Dixie

699
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 3: with my roommates because we did not have food, or

700
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 3: the five people that lived in a two bedroom apartment.

701
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 3: They don't know that story. And you know what, it

702
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 3: shouldn't matter. You shouldn't be mean to me because I've

703
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 3: told you a sad song. You shouldn't be mean to me.

704
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,879
Speaker 3: I mean, you shouldn't be mean. You should be nice

705
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 3: to me because I've told you my sad song. Yeah,

706
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 3: And I used to what people when people would be

707
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 3: mean to me, I would be like, you don't know

708
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 3: what I've gone through. You don't know what my struggle.

709
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,760
Speaker 3: And I used to wear that as a badge of honor.

710
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 3: You don't know what I've overcome and this and this

711
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 3: and this, and I would lay all my trauma and

712
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 3: I'm like, but I've overcome it. I'm not about to

713
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 3: open my wound to justify my joy to you. M Yeah,

714
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 3: you can choose to be nice to me, or you

715
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 3: can choose and not be in my life. Because I'm

716
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 3: gonna be nice to you regardless, regardless.

717
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:05,919
Speaker 1: You're gonna be happy regards I'm gonna be.

718
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 3: Happy, yes, regardless. But I used to just lay my

719
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 3: whole life on the table. Well what about I took

720
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 3: the risk and I lived in LA and I was

721
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 3: damn near homeless, and I was working three jobs and

722
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 3: a waiter and a server, and people were disrespectful to me,

723
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 3: and I got told Noah three thousand times, and I

724
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 3: did a million auditions, and I just would just spew

725
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 3: all of it out just so someone could be nice

726
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 3: to me, right, just so you can feel like I

727
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 3: can relate to you because you're where I was ten

728
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 3: years ago. Yeah, and you can go you don't have

729
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 3: to go through what I went through. Maybe if you

730
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:54,399
Speaker 3: would have been nice to me, I could put I.

731
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: Could tell you how, yeah exactly.

732
00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 3: But you want to tear me down. Yeah, yeah, it's

733
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 3: very interesting.

734
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:03,120
Speaker 1: It is.

735
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 3: You know, I've changed a lot. I'm really proud of myself.

736
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 3: I'm proud of you. Seriously, Yeah, I am so proud

737
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 3: of you. I look at you and I'm like, man,

738
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: you've seen it.

739
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 2: I have, Oh, you have, y'all. It's been a great road, Yes,

740
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:21,280
Speaker 2: it really has.

741
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:22,439
Speaker 1: This is my girl.

742
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: You had to be there.

743
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: Be a great road.

744
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 2: Speaking of the road, I want to go back to

745
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:34,799
Speaker 2: twenty nineteen when we started Sisters, and this show has

746
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 2: just completely changed our lives.

747
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: We are.

748
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 2: Well, I'll just say we know season nine, we're in

749
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 2: season nine and season nine seasons thinking back to then

750
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 2: season one, we're all coming in like, woh, we got

751
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:50,399
Speaker 2: this show.

752
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 1: This is amazing.

753
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 2: Did you ever think he would be what it is

754
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 2: today and the impact on the culture that it's had. No,

755
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:02,720
Speaker 2: you can't even imagine Crystal when we were in that room.

756
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 3: Crystal, Crystal producer, Right, Crystal, big boss dog. You know

757
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. We ain't gonna downpload my girl, humble,

758
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 3: but I'm not. We're not gonna downplay my good, big

759
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,760
Speaker 3: big bass dog. Okay, I'm a gasser up every time. Okay,

760
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,440
Speaker 3: we in the room. It's a theater sized room. I

761
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 3: don't know how much I can say you can talk

762
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 3: about it's a theater sized room. It's pictures on the board.

763
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 1: Okay.

764
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 3: And at that time I had already been cast as Andy,

765
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 3: and de Val had already been cast as that and

766
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 3: we were we were cast and Big Boss Dog was

767
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 3: with other producers and they were trying to they were

768
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 3: moving names around, names come back, you know, cheat over coach.

769
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 3: Can you come back in for this role? Anthony Dalton,

770
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 3: can you come in for this role? And it was

771
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 3: just like such a magical moment. It was such a

772
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:02,359
Speaker 3: magical moment because they do something special over there where

773
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 3: they they love you and they're gonna find something for you.

774
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: Yes, they don't just throw you away, like if you

775
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,240
Speaker 1: don't think what you read for. It's like we're gonna

776
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,760
Speaker 1: find something. We're gonna find something social. They don't toss

777
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 1: you away. They say, I'm gonna find something for you.

778
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:17,919
Speaker 1: May not be this, it's gonna be this. It's gonna

779
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:18,399
Speaker 1: be this movie.

780
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 3: It's a show.

781
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 2: Because some people tbly be like, wait, no, they need

782
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 2: to be on this.

783
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: This is actually so and so on this show.

784
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 2: And I'm like the fact that he can even like

785
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: see that while he's casting for a completely different show

786
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 2: and still give you something.

787
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, I love him for that That day, the

788
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 3: day my life changed, honestly, was that day. Yeah, that

789
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 3: you and you were there and it was the most

790
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: incredible day. But we had already known each other because

791
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 3: that was twenty nineteen. Yeah, and we had known each

792
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 3: other from twenty seven yeass because of me Medea's family

793
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 3: funmal and that unbeknownst to you. I don't know if

794
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:56,399
Speaker 3: I told you that my dad had died.

795
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. I didn't find that until later.

796
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 3: Oh right, Yeah, I was during that time and to

797
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 3: be shooting a movie about a funeral, ma'am, after my

798
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 3: father had passed away. My father had passed away in January.

799
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 3: I think that book that film in February. Yes, we

800
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,879
Speaker 3: were shooting in March. Yeah, and I was breathing so

801
00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:17,280
Speaker 3: hard and you were so kind. You were so kind

802
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 3: because I was I was a walking zombie and I

803
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 3: had no idea you and you didn't know you were

804
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 3: You were so nice.

805
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's it, doesn't I feel like you should

806
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 2: because you don't know what people are going through. You

807
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 2: should always be kind, you know. And I think that's

808
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 2: something I learned just growing up. My family always instilled

809
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 2: that in me, so that moments like that if I was,

810
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 2: if I didn't have those those foundations, it could have

811
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 2: been a different story. She wasn't so kind, you know,

812
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 2: and I was going through a really tough time and

813
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: I came into my fitting and you were just like,

814
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 2: all right, whatever, you know, you just never know. So

815
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 2: I'm always I make a point to be kind to everyone.

816
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 1: And you do too, though, like she's always just so pleasant.

817
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 3: I love people, I really do. I love I rock

818
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: with anybody. I rock with anybody. I don't care how

819
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 3: much money you got. I don't care what kind of

820
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 3: car you drive, because I've been every everything on the

821
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 3: totem pole, from dirt broke to middle class to all that.

822
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:24,319
Speaker 3: And I'm also a confident person. So it's like I

823
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 3: rock with everybody. I don't need to you know, I

824
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 3: don't need to dim your light. I got my own.

825
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 3: I enjoyed mine too, you know what I'm saying. It

826
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 3: was all shy, right, you know, that's that's my spirit.

827
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 3: So and then, especially in our industry, having worked so

828
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 3: many of the job you this is what we have

829
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 3: in common. Haven't been a PA, haven't been a background artist,

830
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 3: haven't been those things. You know, the importance of being

831
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 3: kind to somebody. You know, the importance of making somebody's day.

832
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 3: They just want a picture. Come on, what you want

833
00:43:58,160 --> 00:43:58,439
Speaker 3: to call.

834
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 1: You mama to tell somebody to call her.

835
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 3: On the phone.

836
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:07,359
Speaker 1: Yes, and we're gonna have like my mama loved collar.

837
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 1: They'd be like, for real, I'm like color, get a picture.

838
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, right now that we rock with people, and I

839
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 3: think that, you know, for that reason alone, we don't

840
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 3: take this opportunity for granted.

841
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: Absolutely not.

842
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 3: And I think people can feel that. Yeah, And I'm

843
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 3: never gonna change that. I'm never gon now even as

844
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,479
Speaker 3: the press as I ever was, I've never been mean

845
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:39,720
Speaker 3: or felt like I had to shun or be rude

846
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 3: to anybody I've worked with, or anybody who's a supporter

847
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 3: of the show, I like to say, or a fan

848
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 3: of the show, because I'm so grateful you why, yes.

849
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 1: You those people are welcoming, welcoming us into their homes.

850
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 2: That's a very safe space. The fact they're like, this

851
00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 2: is the show want to watch on Wednesday nights. You know,

852
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 2: like that's a privilege.

853
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, and you know, not to give anybody too

854
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:09,920
Speaker 3: much credit, but they're a part of my journey now,

855
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 3: you know why, Because we allow we allow the space

856
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 3: for people to get involved in our personal life. I

857
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 3: share my pregnancy, I share my marriage, I share. So

858
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 3: now these people are you know who support the show?

859
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 3: Now support? Yes, you're like you and who you are,

860
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 3: who I am, and I love that.

861
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:34,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.

862
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 3: And at anytime that we get a chance to reciprocate

863
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,879
Speaker 3: that to them, I want to do it.

864
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you do it so well. I like when

865
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:44,840
Speaker 1: I see sometimes tired.

866
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 2: And k just like and I'm like my feet hurt,

867
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 2: I'm tired.

868
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: You have so much energy. I'm like you. I love it.

869
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: I love it.

870
00:45:57,760 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 2: Speaking of your personal life, you and Scott met when

871
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 2: he was on Sisters and then he got his own show,

872
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 2: All the Queen's Men.

873
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:08,879
Speaker 1: That us about that because kJ and I was.

874
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,919
Speaker 2: Living together in the bubble during COVID when I feel

875
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: like this, that's where your buddy right, And I had

876
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 2: no idea.

877
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:18,959
Speaker 1: This girl knows how to hold some water.

878
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 3: You know, I'm an keeper up secrets. Yeah, I we

879
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 3: were in the bubble. Was that our second year in

880
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 3: the bubble?

881
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 1: I think so that was that was our second year.

882
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,319
Speaker 3: It was the second year in the bubble, and of

883
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 3: course you and me, we had all the scenes together.

884
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 3: So we spent all of our time being roommates studying, and.

885
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,919
Speaker 2: I can't just stay with anybody. Hello, Okay, I'm really

886
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 2: about my space. And that's no shade to nobody. I

887
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 2: love everybody, but living not somebody.

888
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:55,399
Speaker 1: Me and kJ It's like it's an energy thing. It's

889
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 1: an energy thing. I was like, you were saying together, right,

890
00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: You're like.

891
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 3: Perfect and it was great. Yes, but yes, Sky, we

892
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,440
Speaker 3: were trying to keep it a secret, but he would

893
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 3: do things like, you know, walk me to the door

894
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 3: or you know, when we first land, he grabbed my

895
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: luggage and try to help me because we started dating

896
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 3: just before we went into the second boat. Yes, I

897
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 3: met him in the first boat, right, And so we

898
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:26,799
Speaker 3: we didn't even really I don't want to say if

899
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 3: you didn't connect, because we connected on a spiritual level.

900
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 3: And what I mean by that is we didn't even

901
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 3: get an opportunity to sit down alone, uninterrupted and have

902
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 3: a full conversation. Wow, because in season two, we were

903
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:47,479
Speaker 3: just getting back from COVID. We were just coming back

904
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 3: to shoot during COVID, and he and I would just

905
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 3: be in the same space, yeah, like in the gym,

906
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 3: in the gym, running absolutely, or at the taco truck,

907
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 3: at the taco truck and he just yeah, and he's

908
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 3: he's tall, so it's like it's just like this looming figure.

909
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 3: I turn around like, bro, hey, hey, what's up? Mind you?

910
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 3: We're all wearing a mask. So all I'm saying is

911
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 3: this man's face here right Like I'm not even I'm

912
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 3: just saying because the mask is here. So it was energy.

913
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:38,879
Speaker 3: His energy was just like and I was like, oh, tall, hi,

914
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 3: sir from Miami. I'm from Tallahassee. I'm a floater around myself. Yeah,

915
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: we really just started to connect and you know, he'll

916
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 3: he'll start to ask me like, hey, you know where

917
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 3: you're from, what you're doing and things like that. And

918
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 3: then you know how it is at work, even even

919
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 3: if you're on lunch, there's someone interrupting you because they're like, hey,

920
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:11,280
Speaker 3: we need you hair and makeup, can you run lines?

921
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:15,520
Speaker 3: Or hey we need to do you a wardrobe fitting?

922
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 1: Yes, always something yes.

923
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 3: So that's what kept happening in season two. We kept which,

924
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 3: which which I needed because honestly, I wasn't ready. I

925
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:28,319
Speaker 3: wasn't ready for anything. And I remember that, Yeah, I

926
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:30,439
Speaker 3: wasn't ready. I wasn't ready for that, so season two.

927
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:35,480
Speaker 3: That's what happened. In season three while we were remates. Yes,

928
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 3: uh he he, you know, he made a move a

929
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 3: couple of weeks before we went back to shooting, and

930
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 3: I'm an all Land type of girl. I was like, oh,

931
00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 3: I like him and I want him, and he was like,

932
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 3: I like you and I want you. And we were

933
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 3: just like h And then we were kind of connected

934
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 3: at the hip from then on, and but we were

935
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 3: trying to hide it because we just didn't want any

936
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 3: We didn't want any and you know, we I had

937
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 3: shared my relationship with you before. Yeah, I had shared

938
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 3: all of my relationships and I even shared that one.

939
00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 3: You must have forgot because I did tell you almost

940
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,759
Speaker 3: like I like a guy and you and I kind

941
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 3: of told you.

942
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 2: You told me that the picnic and everything something about

943
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:13,399
Speaker 2: it before y'all came.

944
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 1: You tell me about that, but I don't think you

945
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: told me.

946
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't think I told you.

947
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 2: And then I remember one night because I think those

948
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 2: houses are hunted, and I heard, I swear I heard

949
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 2: some like footsteps and like some dance, you know, like

950
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 2: that in the house, in the house, and I was like,

951
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 2: I was too scared to okay, I.

952
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: Was I was a ghost.

953
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,919
Speaker 3: No, no, no, that was the ghost. It was the guy.

954
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 3: I was too scared. He was too scared to of

955
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 3: fired too. Actually he was scarier than me because he

956
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 3: was staying.

957
00:50:43,760 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 1: On the lot riding that bike.

958
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 3: Like my now husband was like, I'm gonna drop you

959
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 3: off at the port. He was like, bye, I'm scared.

960
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:57,280
Speaker 3: He was like, you your job is secure money, I'm

961
00:50:57,480 --> 00:51:02,239
Speaker 3: honestly smart man. He was like, no, you can. You

962
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:10,400
Speaker 3: can sit on the on the porch with us. Yeah, yeah, yes,

963
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 3: And he did that. And so we ended up spending

964
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 3: like every evening, you know, eating dinner and just trying

965
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 3: to like kind of get away from everybody. And then

966
00:51:20,360 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 3: I'll be like, okay, I mean it's not much time

967
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 3: you can spend because all we do is study.

968
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:25,319
Speaker 1: That's so yeah, that's it.

969
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was it was the catalyst to the

970
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 3: rest of my life.

971
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 2: And so yeah, and at what point did you know,

972
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 2: like this is my husband right away?

973
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 1: Really? Yeah?

974
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 3: Girl? I mean our first date, I was like, so,

975
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 3: are you, like you available for the rest of your

976
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 3: life because your mind saying like it just it just

977
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 3: felt right, It felt right, and you know what I've

978
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 3: gone through and past relationships, and it didn't feel like that.

979
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 3: It didn't feel like that was like I said, I

980
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 3: was trying to control everything. Those those moments and those

981
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 3: relationships were sometimes relationships that I had manipulated into my

982
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 3: mind thinking were great, and I'm like, oh, but he

983
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 3: has these qualities and it's a whole host of other

984
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 3: a scroll of terrible qualities.

985
00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 1: Ay j listen, Yes, we were just talking about this.

986
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 2: I was doing an episode called Daty in my Forties,

987
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:22,479
Speaker 2: a part two for it, and we were talking about

988
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 2: how you can have that these things that you okay

989
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 2: this person, You get to age where it's like I

990
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:29,280
Speaker 2: really want to be with somebody, and these are things

991
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:33,400
Speaker 2: non negotiables, my non negotiables and my boundaries within you

992
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 2: started to let certain things slide absolutely, you know, and

993
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 2: you're blinded by like, wait, these are things that you

994
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:39,799
Speaker 2: said were non negotiables.

995
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: Absolutely, but these are showing up.

996
00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: You know.

997
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:44,440
Speaker 1: That's so true. That's true.

998
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. I was supposed to be married with children by

999
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:48,720
Speaker 3: thirty five.

1000
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 1: Me too, That's what I thought.

1001
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:56,319
Speaker 3: And so I would squeeze these these people into my

1002
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:59,600
Speaker 3: perfect picture that I had created in my mind and

1003
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 3: you know things will go left. And I'm listen, I'm

1004
00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 3: gonna write a die. You know what I'm saying. I'm

1005
00:53:04,640 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 3: a loyal ship.

1006
00:53:06,360 --> 00:53:10,319
Speaker 1: You are everybody that you love lit literally, I love you.

1007
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:14,879
Speaker 3: We locked in and I'm gonna fight for you. Yes,

1008
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 3: I am going to I am not. I'm gonna I'm

1009
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 3: not gonna play about you.

1010
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 2: About you and I don't Yes, I do.

1011
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:27,360
Speaker 1: Literally, I don't want to hear.

1012
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 3: That, Christian, I ain't gonna do it on the podcast,

1013
00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 3: y'all make the listen. You're sweeties.

1014
00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 1: They love you, but there Yeah.

1015
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 3: It's to be high. Number two.

1016
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: They don't plays.

1017
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:50,720
Speaker 2: Every time we try to explain to like a partner

1018
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 2: that we're trying to build with, like, they're like, you

1019
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 2: don't understand, you don't understand.

1020
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 3: Where you want to be. You need to be a

1021
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:05,280
Speaker 3: keep a possible seeing whatever and is listen sponsorships, brand dollars,

1022
00:54:05,800 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 3: she has the behive. Number two. Okay, they do not

1023
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 3: play and I love them. I love them, Oh my gosh.

1024
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 3: They see what I see. They see what I've always seen,

1025
00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? And I love that.

1026
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:19,879
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1027
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, they ride for you. You you do.

1028
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 1: You ride right? I love that.

1029
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:31,479
Speaker 2: In closing, we are talking about over She's like playing

1030
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 2: with me.

1031
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:33,799
Speaker 1: I mean we can keep going.

1032
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 2: War's like I just got warmed up over here.

1033
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 1: So she got that cup r watter exactly. In closing,

1034
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:48,400
Speaker 1: I do want to ask you.

1035
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 2: Our word for this season is impact, and kJ you

1036
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:55,319
Speaker 2: are big and mentorship, you're big, important into people. What

1037
00:54:55,440 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 2: is the impact that you really want to leave it

1038
00:54:57,160 --> 00:54:59,360
Speaker 2: that your intentional about leaving on this next generation?

1039
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 3: You know, Crystal, if I'm gonna be one hundred percent

1040
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 3: honest with you, I can give you some fluff pr answer.

1041
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1042
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 3: I can be like, oh, I want to change lives

1043
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 3: of young women in America and across the nation. I

1044
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 3: am asking God that question right now. That's good and

1045
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 3: I'm going to wait for the answer. Yeah, and then

1046
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 3: when I get the answer, I can tell you, yeah.

1047
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,399
Speaker 1: I love it. And that's what I did. That's where

1048
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: the word impact came from.

1049
00:55:27,000 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 2: I said, God, how do you want me to continue

1050
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 2: to use this platform? And I said, I'm inspiring people

1051
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 2: every week? But like what are we doing? Like how

1052
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 2: is this leaving a lasting impression on people? And he

1053
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 2: said impact? Yes, find ways to be more impactful. So

1054
00:55:41,600 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 2: like that's the word I kind of leave with and

1055
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 2: like to ask people. And I love that because he

1056
00:55:46,120 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 2: will give you that answer.

1057
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 3: And I'm going to wait on it. I'm not going

1058
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 3: to create my own there you go answer. I'm going

1059
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 3: to wait on it.

1060
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:53,759
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1061
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 3: I'm glad you asked me that because that's been in

1062
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 3: alignment with my spirit.

1063
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:58,799
Speaker 1: Yeah. Good, because.

1064
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:05,320
Speaker 3: Gird it's bigger, so much bigger, and I and I

1065
00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:09,919
Speaker 3: and I'm excited to see what happens. But I've been

1066
00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 3: in my way for so long. Yeah, and I just

1067
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 3: I just want to move out the way and let God.

1068
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:22,400
Speaker 1: God said, I know that feeling. He felt that, you

1069
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:23,120
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.

1070
00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just I want to let God do what

1071
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:31,480
Speaker 3: God does because I'm tired of getting getting involved moving

1072
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 3: things around, and then I'm feeling.

1073
00:56:33,680 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 1: Like I got to start all over right, clean up

1074
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 1: my mask.

1075
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 2: Seem like now, if you don't sit down somewhere, yeah,

1076
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 2: let me orchestrate this.

1077
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:45,840
Speaker 3: I've been getting lately, sit down sternly with the like this,

1078
00:56:47,440 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 3: like a mama like that, like not friendly, like to

1079
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 3: sit down, have a seat, No show.

1080
00:56:55,440 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 1: He's done that too long, he's done that. Sit down

1081
00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, it was the tap.

1082
00:57:02,560 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 3: Hey, Hey, it's okay, Okay. Then it was a little shoved,

1083
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 3: like just one of them an earpool.

1084
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 1: Right, that's what God.

1085
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:13,839
Speaker 3: That's where God is with me right now.

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Speaker 5: I love it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna sit down. Yes, I'm gonna listen to the

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Speaker 3: voice of God, and I'm gonna get a better understanding

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Speaker 3: of what my grand of purpose on this journey. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and then I can answer that question.

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Speaker 1: So I cannot wait to hear what God gives you.

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00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 2: I can't wait to see him continue to just elevate

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00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:33,439
Speaker 2: your life. I know it is bigger and I can't

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00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 2: wait to see what you do. I love you, kJ

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Speaker 2: And before we get out of here, we have a

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Speaker 2: little keep it positive sweetie for our little sweetie.

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Speaker 1: Oh my, I love you. Yes, you are.

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00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:55,640
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna cry.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh my goodness. Yes, she's the first baby to

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Speaker 1: get it. They've been asking for like merch and I was.

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Speaker 3: Like, em, this is beautiful.

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00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,720
Speaker 1: Thank you. You are so welcome. I love you. I

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Speaker 1: love you too. Thank you for even coming and taking

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00:58:17,200 --> 00:58:19,919
Speaker 1: I know you got all dolled up for me. Oh yes,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I was like, we're going on a show today.

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Speaker 3: You're a baby, sweetie.

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00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 1: You are a baby sweetie. Yes, I know that's right.

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Speaker 1: Thank you well.

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Speaker 2: Help me up. On today's crystals closet, I am wearing

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Speaker 2: a pinstripe and flannel set by Soroya.

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Speaker 1: I absolutely love this set. It's so comfortable. It's giving

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Speaker 1: like business up top and comfy on the bottom.

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Speaker 2: My shoes are a silver alligator skin or actually think

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Speaker 2: this is a snake skin. My shoes are our silver

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Speaker 2: snake skin by Lo Wave. These shoes are so comfortable

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Speaker 2: as well my favorite new shoes.

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Speaker 1: I'm just loving this outfit. Sweeties.

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Speaker 2: I hope you enjoyed hearing today's conversation just as much

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Speaker 2: as I enjoyed having it.

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Speaker 1: Before I let you.

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Speaker 2: Go, I want to leave you with this quote. The

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Speaker 2: only limit to your impact is your imagination and your commitment.

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Speaker 2: Until next time, keep it positive, sweeties. See you on

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Speaker 2: the next episode.