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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: Right why would they?

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Speaker 2: Though? We've been having fun answering the questions, haven't we

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Speaker 2: a future Okay.

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Speaker 1: So, but before for those six people left in the world,

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Speaker 1: this is what Who have you not found our podcast?

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Speaker 1: What do they do?

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Speaker 2: Bachelor Nation thought? Come slash Golden Hour, You got it?

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Speaker 2: Writing your questions writing your comments. But now, oh, let's

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Speaker 2: let's have fun.

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Speaker 1: Let's have fun. Okay, we have a special guest today,

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Speaker 1: the Love Virgin Sam, and I didn't that was written down.

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Speaker 1: I would never have said that. Sam, I've learned to pronounce.

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Speaker 1: Your last name is Sam Najad from Gen season Sam.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Golden Hour. How are you doing today.

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Speaker 3: And doing great? Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: He turned red there for a minute. Do you not

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Speaker 2: like the love Virgin or the love?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 4: It's one of those things, it's you don't know what

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Speaker 4: love I want him to sell. I don't think anybody

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Speaker 4: wants to relive that night there, but you know it's

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Speaker 4: it's it's one of those things that sounds better in

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Speaker 4: your head and then when you kind of say it

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Speaker 4: out loud, Wow, I did not think about.

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Speaker 2: We all have those first. Trust me.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we're going to get in. We are going

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Speaker 1: to talk to you about what you've been doing. What

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Speaker 1: in God's name made you think to say that? You know,

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Speaker 1: we won't torment you too much. We're gonna have some fun.

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Speaker 2: Here, but we do start with it right an episode

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Speaker 2: with a question of the day, and we'd like to

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Speaker 2: know your thoughts Okay, so.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna read the question and then you're going to

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Speaker 1: weigh in on it.

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Speaker 2: We're all going to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: You ready, Yes, the question is what in God's name

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Speaker 1: would possess you to say you're a lover? No, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 2: We will get into this, right, we will a big

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Speaker 2: issue in dating today, especially for young people, is trying

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Speaker 2: a proper date or just to hang out for a hookup,

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Speaker 2: which I just learned what that was. What signs do

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Speaker 2: you think young women can look for or look out

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Speaker 2: for to see if they're being asked out on a

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Speaker 2: proper date?

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Speaker 1: So first I think he's going I think I think

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Speaker 1: for Sam, you need to define in your world what

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Speaker 1: a proper date is.

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Speaker 3: You know, a proper date to me like that you're

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Speaker 3: asking if like what's the most perfect date?

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Speaker 1: No, well, like a proper date, I mean as opposed

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Speaker 2: Like, like, what advice can you give the girls like

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Speaker 1: Or? I mean I think you and I could figure

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Speaker 1: it out. But you know, young women dating today don't

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Speaker 1: always no. So what's the line you're going to use

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Speaker 1: if you're asking a girl out on a proper date?

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Speaker 4: Hey, you remember you're asking a love version on questions

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Speaker 4: about love. I have no idea now I'm kidding. I

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Speaker 4: would say, honestly, it is the guy's intention, you know,

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Speaker 4: there's a lot of actions. I feel like that's what

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Speaker 4: that's your gut feeling, Like, what is your gut saying?

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Speaker 3: You know, I feel like a lot of.

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Speaker 2: Times, listen to your intuition.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like if something feels right, then it

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Speaker 2: So how do you ask somebody out on a date?

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Speaker 1: Susan, He's not asking you out, he's Sam she's suffishing

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Speaker 1: for a date. Here, don't take the don't take the

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Speaker 3: I would ask you right now on this podcast, right

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Speaker 3: right right.

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Speaker 2: Now, I say I know.

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Speaker 3: Now to be honest.

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Speaker 4: Uh, you know, if it just kind of feels right,

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Speaker 4: you know, I feel like it's right now. I'm focusing

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Speaker 4: on just kind of I guess communicating better has been

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Speaker 2: So Y want to do pay for the first day?

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Speaker 4: I do personally yes, and it's a very Persian thing

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Speaker 4: to do. But it's it's it's having raised for me.

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Speaker 4: I think that if I'm asking you for taking you out,

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Speaker 2: Italians feel the same way when a man asks you out.

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Speaker 1: Of course, A wait a minute, I'm a heinz fifty

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Speaker 1: seven month, and of I asked me out, I expect

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if you guys ask a guy out.

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Speaker 1: Are you looking for a day? Are you looking for

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Speaker 1: a date?

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Speaker 2: Do you want me to ask you? Sam? Is that

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Speaker 2: what you're getting at?

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Speaker 1: I told you to be careful?

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Speaker 3: Is that doing one deal?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Trust me? Well, you can't handle us, I promise.

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Speaker 3: Wait.

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Speaker 1: We know some cute young girls though?

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Speaker 2: Are you dating now?

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Speaker 3: Right now?

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Speaker 4: To be honest, I'm just focused on uh well, yeah,

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Speaker 4: like I'm in the dating world as far as like

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Speaker 1: Out, like what's her name?

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Speaker 4: Meaning?

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Speaker 2: Where does she live? What does she do?

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Speaker 1: We want details?

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Speaker 2: Are you on a dating site or any of them?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 4: I actually never did any dating sites. I was there, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I just never you know, I never, I never, I

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Speaker 4: never needed to. No, I'm kidding, it's it's more so

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Speaker 4: I just never. I never saw the peel that I

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Speaker 1: So wait a second, If so, you're you're not really dating,

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Speaker 1: but I want to know, since gen season, is your

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Speaker 1: approach to dating different? Yes, okay, so I'm not.

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Speaker 4: So I've been focusing on communicating more because I don't know,

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Speaker 4: like a layered individual that has a lot of emotions,

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Speaker 4: and then I have to tell myself, like how do

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Speaker 4: been focusing on first communication because I feel like communication

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Speaker 4: is crucial for any sort.

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Speaker 2: Of number one thing.

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Speaker 4: It's just with anything in life with and in regards

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Speaker 4: one of the beauties of going on and like you know,

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Speaker 4: on national and television and doing this is you get it.

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Speaker 3: You get it.

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Speaker 4: It's like it's like watching like play you know what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying, You're like, watch It's like I'm a football

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Speaker 4: player looking back at some play tapement, like you know what?

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Speaker 3: That is definitely not the boog. Oh my goodness. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's like that is definitely not the move as far as.

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Speaker 2: Like maybe I should have done that, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You know it's but hindsight's twenty twenty.

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Speaker 4: But the point is is, like, how do I turn

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Speaker 4: let's say that ell into a lesson and then like,

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Speaker 4: I think the biggest takeaway I had from I guess

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Speaker 4: at the end of the day, I know, I'm like, like,

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Speaker 4: I can you know, I have conversating all that stuff.

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Speaker 4: I shouldn't just be like walking on the walking on

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Speaker 4: limos saying you're my freaking wife. It's like it's at

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Speaker 4: at that moment that's just me being Persian, Like what

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Speaker 4: could I say, Like it's like one of my first life.

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Speaker 3: How marriage woman?

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Speaker 1: Wait a second, how important is it for you to

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Speaker 1: marry someone with your similar background or and maybe you

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Speaker 1: don't a marriage date I should have? You know, you

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Speaker 1: don't have to jump the gun on marriage. Let's just

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would stay with cultural background or having some

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Speaker 3: Of course, you know that's how I was raised.

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Speaker 4: I feel like whoever's going to click with me would

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Speaker 4: have some similar values to that, you know, So I

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Speaker 4: do think it's crucial, but that's just you know, it's

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Speaker 4: just it's one of the attracted to you at the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think of the dating culture? I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's so different from when Susan and I were dating,

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Speaker 1: you know, I mean it was black and white TV

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Speaker 2: Have you ever been ghosted?

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Speaker 4: No? So, like, uh, for me, I started company at

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Speaker 4: and then I worked because that was kind of like

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And then also it's kind of but it is

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Speaker 3: a toxic masculine.

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Speaker 4: It's very toxic, right to some extent, because I like

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Speaker 4: you think love version is such a great line on

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Speaker 4: national television. This guy needs that more social interactions, yeah.

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Speaker 3: And pretty much.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I think nowadays what's really nice is we're

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Speaker 4: putting there's a lot more emphasis on let's say mental

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Speaker 4: health or like empathy for guys specifically and like being

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Speaker 4: of way. And I think a lot like it's really nice,

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Speaker 4: you know for me specifically, I I'm just in an

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Speaker 4: era where it's I'm like learning day by day and

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Speaker 4: taking a day by day.

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Speaker 3: I'm not like in a rush too.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so this is all very politically correct. You're doing

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Speaker 1: a great job. Now are you dating someone?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, so yeah, no, I'm for me,

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Speaker 4: I do take a relationship serious. And that is one

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Speaker 4: thing that was like I was authentic, like authentically myself

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Speaker 4: to some extent, but it.

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Speaker 3: Was exaggerated obviously, But that's that's the type of environment.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, no, obviously the girl that I would you know,

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Speaker 4: date is without putting as much pressure. I'm not putting

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Speaker 4: a pressure like yeah it's a girl and married, but

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Speaker 4: I have intentions that I want to do long term.

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Speaker 4: Brazilian, Italian, Vietnamese.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm kidding, it would be.

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Speaker 3: How old are you guys? No, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 2: To sit down with them to see all that. Like

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Speaker 3: It would be it would be the aura, right, how

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Speaker 1: So you're saying you have to have that initial look,

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 2: And you don't think that way prior to going on?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 4: To be honest? Yeah, I love the bachfinations. As long

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Speaker 1: Okay, well you're still waiting.

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Speaker 2: Thing of sixty seven, I'm still waiting.

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Speaker 3: Is that never gonna happen to me?

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Speaker 2: I just always going to be like, no, I want

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Speaker 1: When you least, if you're out there looking day after day.

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Speaker 1: It's but I want to know how how do you

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Speaker 2: How do you have these young and handsomely they just

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Speaker 4: I also think like putting that pressure someone to put

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Speaker 3: I think, you know, I got to marry you immediately

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Speaker 4: I think also putting pressure on yourself when you're going out,

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Speaker 1: Right? Wait, wait, wait, let me just say Susan and

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Speaker 1: I have a much lower bar. We're looking for a

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Speaker 4: Look for a six foot three Persian pounds.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, where's your father, Sam, where's your father? He's

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I was a chosen one coming out of

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Speaker 2: So he's never ever been on the dating app. We

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Speaker 4: You gotta remember I grew up. I grew up with

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Speaker 1: That's when my son met his wife.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's the app that's meant to be deleted.

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Speaker 2: The app that's meant to be deleted. That's him just

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Speaker 4: Is my first conversation I had with with girls since jan.

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Speaker 1: I will. I'm sure, what do you do? What your

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Speaker 4: So I first started with smog, but if I'm speaking at academia,

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Speaker 3: You know, I do strap the website.

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Speaker 1: So he's too busy. You're just too busy today. That's

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Speaker 4: No, to be honest, it was I was so focused on,

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Speaker 3: I don't want if this sounds talk whatever it is.

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Speaker 4: I was just saying, like, you know what, I'm nineteen,

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. That's really as bad as

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Speaker 2: That was not a bad thing a bad thing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And that's and that's where and that's where it led.

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Speaker 4: Like for me, it was just like I'm going to

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Speaker 4: I'm like an emotionally mature guy, and that'd be like

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Speaker 2: Least emotionally available, you know, That's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: That's what I mean emotionally, you see, this is what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that conversation, So what's the best part about being single?

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Speaker 1: Uh I do like having which is Wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: if you found the girl, would you culturally is it okay?

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Speaker 1: Would you move in with her before you're married?

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Speaker 4: I'm thinking she comes, uh uh, I get the house

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Speaker 4: what I'm saying that Are you seriously you guys want

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Speaker 1: I doubt if we don't have to wait, are you

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Speaker 3: They have the full house? It would be a sitcom

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Speaker 1: I definitely I would explain something to you. Girls don't

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Speaker 4: But for me, I'm a huge family guy. So whether

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Speaker 3: That's a mentality.

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Speaker 2: Do you live with your family now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Right now when I'm Carls, I'm here. Yeah, I also

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Speaker 2: Oh maybe we could rent can right here, place here

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Speaker 1: We need a place to rent? Is it available?

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Speaker 3: It's down down I went to uh, I went to USC.

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Speaker 1: So that's what though you understand, he's he's selling, Amy's

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Speaker 2: So wait, I have one question. Do you know what

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Speaker 1: Jesus? With the last I.

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Speaker 4: Would say, uh, affirmation A cause of affirmation. I think

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Speaker 3: So if like my environment's very positive. Yeah, like the

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Speaker 4: Get the right girl behind me, the world is in

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Speaker 2: To man, you're not.

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Speaker 1: Growing as yeah, Susan, Seriously, all right, Sam, what we

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Speaker 1: do that happened a week week we give some advice.

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Speaker 1: We have this advice segment and we're going to read

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Speaker 2: They do it, write back back and tell us how

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Speaker 1: Then. All right, so here goes the first one of

450
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Speaker 1: your thoughts. This is from anonymous. Okay, Hi, Kathy, and Susan.

451
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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do, and I'm hoping you

452
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Speaker 1: can help. Say you're included in this. I've been with

453
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Speaker 1: my boyfriend for a little over a year now and

454
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Speaker 1: I really can't stand his gal pal. I met her

455
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Speaker 1: when we first started dating and she really was not

456
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Speaker 1: nice to me. Then it felt like she was always

457
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Speaker 1: trying to bring things up that I couldn't really talk about,

458
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Speaker 1: like trips they'd both been on in the past. She

459
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Speaker 1: moved away for work, so that took care of that,

460
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Speaker 1: but now she's moving back. My boyfriend knows I don't

461
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Speaker 1: like her, so I'm not really worried about them hanging

462
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Speaker 1: out one on one. But they're in the same friend group,

463
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Speaker 1: so I know she'll be around. Any advice would be great.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. What do you say, Sam?

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Speaker 4: M hmm, this isn't interesting. It's a can of guy

466
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Speaker 4: and girls be friends.

467
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Speaker 1: Look at that right to the jugulary.

468
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Speaker 3: That's that's what she's asking.

469
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Speaker 4: I feel like, if your partner, truth be told, respected

470
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Speaker 4: you enough, and actually had like immense love, this is

471
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Speaker 4: from my subjective right. I would respect my partner and

472
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Speaker 4: use you as a priority. So if I know that

473
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Speaker 4: you don't like, say, say you don't like Susan right

474
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Speaker 4: coming by or whatever, then I wouldn't have Susan come by.

475
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Speaker 3: It's just one of.

476
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Speaker 2: Those when she was there, you mean, or even in.

477
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Speaker 4: General right, So it's one of those things I would

478
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Speaker 4: have to talk with you Susan be like, hey, you

479
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Speaker 4: know what's Susan?

480
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Speaker 3: You're I'm pretty.

481
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Speaker 1: Let me explain this to you. When Sam and I

482
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Speaker 1: start dating, you're not coming around.

483
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Speaker 3: Get it. It's a win.

484
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Speaker 2: So is it okay for a guy to have a girlfriend,

485
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Speaker 2: you know, just a friend like this, or a girl

486
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Speaker 2: to have a guy friend. Would you be upset if

487
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Speaker 2: you're I would.

488
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Speaker 4: Say, of course that is But the I think really

489
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Speaker 4: what the bigger issue here is that she doesn't like

490
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Speaker 4: the girlfriend, right, So that's that's the issue here. And

491
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Speaker 4: I think if that's the problem, if the boyfriend views

492
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Speaker 4: you as a higher priority than the friend that's a girl,

493
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Speaker 4: then he would basically respect your wishes.

494
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Speaker 1: Yes, I think though that you get a very interesting point, Sam,

495
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Speaker 1: which is does it breed in security? Of course, that's

496
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Speaker 1: sort of the elephant in the room here. Is it

497
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Speaker 1: really about insecurity? On where she stands with the boyfriend

498
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Speaker 1: and worried that quote unquote the galpal is more or

499
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Speaker 1: could become.

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Speaker 2: More well and she brings up the things that they

501
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Speaker 2: did together, the trips that they went on, and she

502
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Speaker 2: wasn't involved at that.

503
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Speaker 1: Right, I'm saying that the girlfriend might feel like, there's

504
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Speaker 1: the galpal has.

505
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Speaker 4: More definitely insecure, Like well, that's like I don't want

506
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Speaker 4: to say she's insecure about the relationship, but you know,

507
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Speaker 4: I think this is this is a very common thing, right,

508
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Speaker 4: this is it's.

509
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Speaker 3: A human nature.

510
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Speaker 4: If they don't like it's something I feel like having

511
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Speaker 4: to communicate with your partner, with the partner itself, and

512
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Speaker 4: if he doesn't, if he's like yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Know, I think you make a conversation. It is a conversation.

514
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Speaker 1: But Here's the thing I don't think. I don't think Anonymous.

515
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Speaker 1: We don't know her name. Let's call her Susan. Why

516
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Speaker 1: Susan cannot legislate that her boyfriend stops seeing the girl.

517
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Speaker 1: You make the good point, Sam, that he has to

518
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Speaker 1: be intuitive enough to want to make his partner happy. Therefore, uh,

519
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Speaker 1: you know, maybe limiting the time he spends with with

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Speaker 1: the galpal.

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Speaker 2: And here comes Susan's advice. Yeah, I sit down with

522
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Speaker 2: the girls. Sit sit down with the girl and say,

523
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Speaker 2: what is your problem? She didn't like that, she didn't

524
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Speaker 2: like the way she treated her. You know, maybe that

525
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Speaker 2: would make things that would be right. I forgot sure,

526
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Speaker 2: butter me up. Okay, Well, Anonymous, we wish you luck.

527
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Speaker 1: Let us know what happens, and he needs.

528
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Speaker 2: To step up to the plate if he cares that much.

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Speaker 1: Advice, Sam, good advice.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is from Ashley. Hi, ladies and Sam, I

531
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Speaker 2: really need your help. How do I get my boyfriend

532
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Speaker 2: to talk about his feelings? Oh? We were just saying

533
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Speaker 2: emotionally available, weren't we.

534
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Speaker 1: Okay?

535
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Speaker 2: It feels like every time I bring up a conversation

536
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Speaker 2: that involves talking about how he feels, it's stiff and awkward.

537
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Speaker 2: We've been together for a while, and it's not like

538
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Speaker 2: we have these conversations often. I just feel like anytime

539
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 2: I want to just check in on him and how

540
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Speaker 2: he's doing, or I want to bring something up that's

541
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 2: been bothering me, or whatever it may be, it always

542
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:16,880
Speaker 2: feels weird. He's never really been great at opening up,

543
00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:20,880
Speaker 2: which is fine. That's bad. It's not fine, But I'm

544
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 2: starting to get really frustrated. How can I get them

545
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Speaker 2: to open up more?

546
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Speaker 3: Is me?

547
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Speaker 1: Or I mean, I was just going to say, I

548
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Speaker 1: may have been up late writing these last night, but

549
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Speaker 1: you know, go for what as I say.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, what is it? Is it uncomfortable to

551
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Speaker 2: say how you really feel? Or I think it's about

552
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Speaker 2: a family, how you were brought up? Did your parents

553
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Speaker 2: show emotion, did they show sadness? Did they show if

554
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Speaker 2: something was upsetting them to their significance to their mother

555
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Speaker 2: or father or vice versa.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would also just the pity off that I

557
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 4: would say repetition. Perhaps it might not be the answer

558
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 4: she wants to hear, but I guarantee you, the more

559
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 4: she talks to him, it's probably getting better each time.

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Speaker 2: Is that how you would be that.

561
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Speaker 4: I would that I'm answering for myself, you know, because

562
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Speaker 4: the question is written about.

563
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Speaker 1: Me, and you're doing a damn good job of answering.

564
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Speaker 1: It's Sam.

565
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Speaker 2: They want me to shut up about my feelings. I

566
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Speaker 2: over express, I tell everything.

567
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Speaker 1: But wait, don't you think culturally? You know, I don't

568
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Speaker 1: know other than my French teacher in college, who I

569
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 1: told you was Persian, who was as handsome as you are,

570
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Speaker 1: I don't know that.

571
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Speaker 3: I doubt it, but continue.

572
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Speaker 1: But but I think in some cultures, you know, the

573
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Speaker 1: men are brought up to be strong caretaker, cry you know,

574
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Speaker 1: don't show emotions. So I think sometimes it's a learned behavior.

575
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Speaker 3: It is.

576
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 4: So that's what I was talking about before I was

577
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Speaker 4: saying this. That's the beew at twenty twenty four. We're

578
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 4: like the mental health and the like, you know, the

579
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 4: emphasis on being empathetic and communicating.

580
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 3: I think it's going to get better over time.

581
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 4: So as she keeps answer and maybe asking the right

582
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 4: questions instead of going so general, maybe she kind of

583
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 4: like helps him to a point of how would she

584
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 4: answer that if the question was reversed and kind of

585
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 4: phrase it for him, And then maybe that might help.

586
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 2: When she says, like, I want to just check in

587
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 2: on him and see how he's doing a lot of members.

588
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 2: I'm fine, I'm fine, but you can read it. You

589
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: can feel a vibe.

590
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 4: Well and as you ask like a girl like yeah,

591
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 4: what do you want through? Like are you hungry? Now?

592
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: I'm fine? Now it's the guys right.

593
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: Well, and it's interesting here because she says he's never

594
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 1: really Ashley says he's never been great to open up,

595
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 1: which is fine, Well, clearly enough not fine with her.

596
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 2: So she's just not that guy. He's not a communicator. Well,

597
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 2: he can learn to be and she out himself anyhow

598
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 2: to me and she says.

599
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: It's fine that he doesn't hop up. It clearly is

600
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: not fine.

601
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 2: So actually can't get the word fine out of there,

602
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 2: get fine, get on. You're frustrated, So how is that fun?

603
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:16,159
Speaker 1: Or you know what? Actually, actually listen, take it from me.

604
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 1: If it's not working with your guy, this guy Sam

605
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: that we're.

606
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 2: Talking to, learn to communicate, learn to communicate, got empathy.

607
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 4: We'll connect you with him, I'm telling.

608
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 2: You, honey. We learn to the day we die. We

609
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,640
Speaker 2: learn till the day.

610
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, sometimes we have to learn the same lesson over

611
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: and over again.

612
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,920
Speaker 2: That's called stuck on stupid.

613
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: Before before we break care, wait, I have just a

614
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 1: few more questions here, Susan. I want his eyebrows. You

615
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 1: have the best eyebrows.

616
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 2: Women would not like his teeth, A smile. You're a

617
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: handsome man. You should not have a problem.

618
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 1: I think I think he has been what's it called

619
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: when you you know born?

620
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:05,880
Speaker 4: No?

621
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: No, no, what's it called when you're you know you're ducking?

622
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: You're saying, oh no, not what's the word? Anyway? I

623
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: think you have women lined up. I think that door

624
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,719
Speaker 1: behind you, behind that door, I think are ten women.

625
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 2: Wait, let them in answer the door, hands the door.

626
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: I think sandbagging. That's it, you are sand bagging. I

627
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 1: think there are ten women you've got to date. That

628
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: whiteboard behind you, that's not a business No, no, no, that

629
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: is not a business white board. I have now figured

630
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:37,400
Speaker 1: it out to all the women that you are dating

631
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: when you have dates for them, so that you don't

632
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: screw up and call Ashley season. That's what it is,

633
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: all right.

634
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 2: Tell me, though, if you're invited and you're not in

635
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: a relationship to paradise, who if anybody would you like

636
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 2: us for them to be there.

637
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: Maybe we're going to be there.

638
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 4: Maybe they like to the Golden crowd is.

639
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 1: Love.

640
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 3: You're kidding me, and that happen.

641
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 2: When you have questions, you can come and we'll give

642
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 2: you advice.

643
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 4: We'll give you a literally what.

644
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 3: I'm looking for.

645
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 4: Uh, honestly, I've kept it. I've tried because I want

646
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 4: to keep it as authentic as possible. I've actually haven't

647
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 4: like dives super into the Bathroom Network like it's like weird,

648
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 4: because it's like a Tinder basic of like any.

649
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 2: They you get d M.

650
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but for me, like, well I also made.

651
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Speaker 2: Funny but we don't.

652
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, not as far as uh women,

653
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 4: you know.

654
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 3: You get DMS. I promise you.

655
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: No, we don't.

656
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 2: No, we don't either.

657
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't know what wait, hold on here, if seriously,

658
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: because some of the people on vaccination Women have slid

659
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 1: into the guys and vice versa. If a woman, you know,

660
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 1: maybe something from the show, maybe somebody else just looked

661
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: you up and thought, oh god, he's a good looking guy.

662
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 1: Liked his answers on Kathy and Susan's podcast, I'm Gonna DM.

663
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: Would no, seriously?

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Speaker 4: Would you respond yeah, of course, I feel like, uh,

665
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Speaker 4: like that needs DMS, Like it depends on the type

666
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Speaker 4: of d M, right, But if it's like a genuine

667
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 4: authentic DM answer for me, that's like I give respect

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Speaker 4: and respects to But as far as like, but as

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Speaker 4: far as like whether that's going to turn into something,

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's you know, I'm gonna be honest,

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Speaker 4: it's just it's just here.

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Speaker 1: Would you relocate? Would you move?

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Speaker 4: Well, my businesses are here right in San Diego, so

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Speaker 4: that's why I'm here. But as far as and I'm

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Speaker 4: also I also grew up in Carls. I love Carls.

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Speaker 4: Mad I would be some southern California. I always like

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Speaker 4: that's like kind of like the best way to say,

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Speaker 4: I'm always gonna be more so cal.

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Speaker 3: I do want to go to East Coast and check

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Speaker 3: it out.

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00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 1: But from Phil never been to the East.

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00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 4: I feel like my personality is a little bit more East.

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Speaker 2: Coast, definitely. Definitely.

684
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 1: I'm from Boston and Susan's from phil.

685
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 4: Philly, Jersey.

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00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 1: Oh I love it, really, come on, come on Boston.

687
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: Clearly you did not major in geography.

688
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 3: My major computer science.

689
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: I'm about two hours from New York an hour and

690
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: a half from the beach in Jersey.

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00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 1: Massachusetts is about a three hour drive to New York

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00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: City Philly to Boston's about a five hour drive. Probably

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00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: it's a little bit.

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Speaker 4: I gave you the most Carls Back California answer you only,

695
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 4: that's the most West Coast answer.

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00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 2: What if you would you ever entertain a long distance relationship?

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00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 4: Most definitely if it's someone I like, that's just it's

698
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 4: it's it's just my.

699
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 2: Person, that one that turned your head and she had.

700
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. I feel like loyalty itself.

701
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 4: The way this is like the way I define love,

702
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 4: you know, is it's like unconditional love is what you're

703
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 4: like animals or your pets.

704
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 3: So when I see, like, let's.

705
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 4: Say my dog, and I see another dog out in public,

706
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,959
Speaker 4: I'm always thinking my dog, right, So I'm like, how

707
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 4: do I find that kind of like love for a partner?

708
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 3: You know? But is it?

709
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: Sam? Sam? Trust me when I tell you the woman

710
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: that you're going to fall in love with is going

711
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: to be a very different love than the love you

712
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: feel for your animal.

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00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 2: And that is for the.

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Speaker 3: Clips right there. Not it could be like that, but

715
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Speaker 3: no of course no.

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00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:32,239
Speaker 1: My daughter and her husband they have a boxer, and

717
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: when they got this dog and before they have one child,

718
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: now before they have that child, my daughter came to me,

719
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: she goes, Mom, I'm so worried. How am I going

720
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: to love a child? I do this as much as

721
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,479
Speaker 1: I love this dog. And after I picked myself up,

722
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: you know, go fawing on the floor, laughing, I said, Caitlin,

723
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: trusts me, when that baby is born, you'll have the

724
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: answer to that question. And I still they still.

725
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 2: Say that about a second to how am I gonna

726
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,240
Speaker 2: love your heart? Not their child?

727
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 3: Daughter's name?

728
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: How do you think the kindergartener is going to learn

729
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: to spell that? You can't do that to a child?

730
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 3: Why do you think I go by Sam?

731
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 4: I only saw him on it, you know I went

732
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 4: through Anyways.

733
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 2: We're gonna have to do this again. We love talking

734
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 2: to you.

735
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 3: You are.

736
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, and we'll probably see you in

737
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: paradise baby.

738
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, and yeah, well we're hoping. So we're

739
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: going to give you all the advice you want and

740
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,239
Speaker 1: a lot that you don't want. But thank you for

741
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: joining us. Everyone be sure to follow us on Bachelor

742
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: Happy Hour. Because if you like this episode with Sam,

743
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 1: you got to see who's coming out. Every week we

744
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 1: Havebulous too.

745
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 2: I actually need to tell them again where to submit

746
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: the questions.

747
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: Do you think they get it? I know, Sam? Can

748
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 1: you tell you where to submit questions?

749
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 4: Do you know Bachelor Nation.

750
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 3: Nation slash No, You're.

751
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: Close, Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour or.

752
00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, bas Bachhornation dot com slash Golden Hour.

753
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 2: You heard it from Sam?

754
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: Or you can hit us up on social at Bachelor

755
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,919
Speaker 1: Happy Hour. So listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour

756
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:24,720
Speaker 1: on the iHeartRadio app or whereever you listen to podcasts.

757
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,879
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you so much. We enjoyed you every honest

758
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 2: this is it was.

759
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 3: It was my pleasure.

760
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 2: Thank you.

761
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 3: You guys are super easy to talk with.

762
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 2: Good