WEBVTT - Second Cup: Things will look better in the morning

0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.760
<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:15.280
<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:22.360
<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that things will look better in the morning. Well,

0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:25.000
<v Speaker 1>it is easy to become frustrated as the day goes

0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:30.200
<v Speaker 1>on and to find things untenable toward bedtime. A good

0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:36.320
<v Speaker 1>night's sleep can change everything. If you can remind yourself

0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:40.200
<v Speaker 1>of this, you might be less inclined to do anything rash,

0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:47.519
<v Speaker 1>or at least you'll feel better about life. My family

0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:50.000
<v Speaker 1>recently took a trip to Upstate New York for my

0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:54.320
<v Speaker 1>brother's wedding. The weekend was mostly lovely, but we arrived

0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.000
<v Speaker 1>late Friday night, after three and a half hours in

0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:01.880
<v Speaker 1>the car with five not entirely happy children. My baby

0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.600
<v Speaker 1>hadn't slept in the car, so I thought he would

0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:08.200
<v Speaker 1>crash as soon as we got there, but he did not.

0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.160
<v Speaker 1>He fought sleep for an hour, and since we were

0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:15.000
<v Speaker 1>staying in a guesthouse where there were other people living

0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.400
<v Speaker 1>on the other side, that meant I couldn't have him

0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:24.840
<v Speaker 1>making noise. I wound up rocking him the entire time. Now.

0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.920
<v Speaker 1>I know we are supposed to treasure these moments, but

0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:33.240
<v Speaker 1>not at ten thirty PM, not when I'm tired, and

0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.000
<v Speaker 1>not when I have strongly suspecting that my husband has

0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:39.000
<v Speaker 1>not started putting the older children to bed, and so

0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.200
<v Speaker 1>that is waiting for me. On the other side of

0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:46.960
<v Speaker 1>all this rocking, I was pretty miserable. So I did

0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:51.120
<v Speaker 1>what I always do in these circumstances. I pictured myself

0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:55.559
<v Speaker 1>on the other side. While it was possible I would

0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:59.200
<v Speaker 1>still be rocking the baby in thirty minutes, I would

0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:04.760
<v Speaker 1>not will be rocking him in eight hours. Eventually I

0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:09.200
<v Speaker 1>would go to bed. Eventually it would be morning, and

0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.200
<v Speaker 1>we would be able to look out at the lovely

0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:16.360
<v Speaker 1>fall scenery and enjoy some coffee and farm fresh eggs.

0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:22.080
<v Speaker 1>And sure enough, eventually he did sleep. Eventually I did too,

0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:26.520
<v Speaker 1>and the crisp fall morning was lovely. As we went

0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:29.800
<v Speaker 1>hiking around Lake Minnewaska, and went to my brothers outdo

0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:35.600
<v Speaker 1>our wedding. Things look better in the morning. I know

0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:39.000
<v Speaker 1>the research on ego depletion is muddled, but in general

0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.080
<v Speaker 1>it makes sense that as we go through the day,

0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:46.400
<v Speaker 1>our supply of willpower gets used up. We focus at work,

0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:52.440
<v Speaker 1>we deal with difficult people, we battle traffic, we heard

0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:57.239
<v Speaker 1>children to bed. It is hard to be excited about life.

0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:01.560
<v Speaker 1>Late at night, when the day has been long, we

0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:06.720
<v Speaker 1>can indulge in all sorts of narratives of unhappiness. But

0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:12.360
<v Speaker 1>as the old hymn goes morning by morning, new mercies

0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:17.640
<v Speaker 1>I see. The sun comes up, that first cup of

0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:23.399
<v Speaker 1>coffee kicks in, and suddenly what felt terrible the night

0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:31.480
<v Speaker 1>before feels doable. With a new day, solutions appear, things

0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:36.920
<v Speaker 1>seem less extreme. The trick for a better existence is

0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:42.240
<v Speaker 1>to remind yourself of that truth at night. Though things

0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:46.280
<v Speaker 1>feel terrible in the moment, they will look different in

0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:51.000
<v Speaker 1>the morning, so just hold tight and go to bed.

0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:56.960
<v Speaker 1>It will be okay. A good night's sleep can change

0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:03.080
<v Speaker 1>just about anything. And yes, I know not everybody as

0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:07.240
<v Speaker 1>a morning person, but studies of energy and focus show

0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:09.960
<v Speaker 1>that most people do better on these dimensions in the

0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:15.600
<v Speaker 1>early hours. Not everybody, but most people. So let your

0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:20.160
<v Speaker 1>night self off the hook. He or she won't be

0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:24.160
<v Speaker 1>able to deal with your toughest problems, but everything will

0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:28.279
<v Speaker 1>look different in the morning, So just picture yourself then

0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:35.120
<v Speaker 1>and you will feel better about just about everything. In

0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:40.880
<v Speaker 1>the meantime. This is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's

0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:50.720
<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.160
<v Speaker 1>love to hear from you. You can send me your tips,

0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:56.920
<v Speaker 1>your questions, or anything else. Just connect with me on Twitter,

0:04:57.279 --> 0:05:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Facebook and Instagram at Before Breakfast Pod. That's b E

0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:06.800
<v Speaker 1>the number four, then Breakfast p o D. You can

0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:10.400
<v Speaker 1>also shoot me an email at Before Breakfast podcast at

0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.400
<v Speaker 1>i heeart media dot com that Before Breakfast is spelled

0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:16.080
<v Speaker 1>out with all the letters. Thanks so much, I look

0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:24.440
<v Speaker 1>forward to staying in touch. Before Breakfast is a production

0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:27.919
<v Speaker 1>of I heart Radio. For more podcasts from I heart Radio,

0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:31.919
<v Speaker 1>visit the i heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever

0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:33.320
<v Speaker 1>you listen to your favorite shows.