1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:13,040 Speaker 1: Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We 3 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: are back in the stude feeling hunted. P Hundo, P 4 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:19,840 Speaker 1: you're filling und. I mean I wouldn't go as far 5 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: as a hundred, but I think just because of all 6 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: the stuff I have inside me now between the antibiotic 7 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: my steroid and hailer feeling a little bogged down on medication. 8 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm on the open up. We're 9 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: on the up and up. We're on the open up, 10 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 1: and that's all that matters. I is this what I 11 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: have somehow dodged every dodged it from everyone near me, 12 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: and I am knocking on wood hard because I don't 13 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: know how I did it. And I genuinely feel like 14 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: my immune system has been weekend because I've been like 15 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: going NonStop. I mean it is early in the month, 16 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: so you still sometimes you are right, I I but 17 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: like part of me has that feeling of like I 18 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: just want to get it and get it over with 19 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: because I'm like, you know, you know, there's so many 20 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: different things going around that it's like, well, I feel 21 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 1: like you and Haley definitely had the same thing. You'll 22 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: have like the exact same symptoms, the same length of time. 23 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: She still will have like a cough attack that's been 24 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: this is like week three. No, well, ever since I 25 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: started the steroid in Hailer, my cough has been at Bay. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, 26 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 1: that's what I would say. Hers is that it's at 27 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: Bay too. But she also she tore I can't remember 28 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: if it was like a tenant or a ligament in 29 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: her foot. I think she said ligament. Yeah, so she's 30 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 1: in like a walking boot. Yeah she's not. She's always 31 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: got something. It's not not living her best life right now. 32 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: But not say she's right. No. But we did have 33 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: a really fun weekend. Oh my god. I mean, so 34 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: many festivities, so many festivities out in the cold. What 35 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: I was feeling very chilly this weekend. It was chilli, yeah, 36 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: but we were intoor jingle ball Yeah but still okay. 37 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: But I will say it was very rainy and cozy 38 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: in l A this weekend, and we had jingle Ball, 39 00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: which I had the best I can't even explain to you. 40 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: Becca looked like a little girl on Christmas morning, like 41 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: it was like she was experiencing a concert for the 42 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: very first time. It was like cute but also strange, 43 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: Like I was like, what's happening here? You know, I 44 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 1: can't explain it to you. I because we I have 45 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: been you know, coming to my heart events and festivals 46 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: for a long time. And to be honest, like I 47 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: kind of last year, I remember thinking I kind of 48 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 1: feel jaded because like we get to we talked about 49 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: this all the time, like we get to do so 50 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: many cool things that you just forget how cool they are. 51 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: I really embraced jingle Ball this year, like I just 52 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: I stayed almost all time. I left like like twenty minutes, 53 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: not even But you know what, I would like mark 54 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: two guests on this one. So out of all the 55 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 1: artists there, so you don't have like the Shakira John 56 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: Mayer fan club, Becca now has that with two of 57 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: the artists that were at jingle Ball. Can you guess 58 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: which to that? She used, completely fan girling out over. 59 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: I'm wanna say, duelipa, Okay, have to get I don't 60 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: get any confirmation. You have to guess the two and 61 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: then I will reveal m hm hm and wrong and 62 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 1: wrong again. Honestly, couldn't be more of the wrong. Yeah, 63 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: So Becca wants to start the Louis Capaldi and pit 64 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: Bull fan cum unexpected twist sent Synergy Club, Yes, Musical 65 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: Synergy Sergy Club. Yeah, here's the thing. Pit Bull has 66 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: always kind of been like like he had good songs, 67 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: but it was always kind of like, I don't know, 68 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: a joke to like him or something. I don't know. 69 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: It's like we would always joke about like Pitbull, you know, 70 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 1: because he's very like Miami club and like the songs 71 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: are very much that like vibe. So if you're not 72 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: really into that type of music, then you're just kinda 73 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: like it's whatever. It's Miami club music, y'all. The crowd 74 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: so much fun that I'm like, I want to go 75 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: to like a pit Bowl concerts at start in Miami 76 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: to see Mr. Three oh five, Mr. World War five. 77 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: I think there's a reason he's on most I Heart 78 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: shows because he just brings it every single time. Yeah. 79 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 1: I can't even explain, like it felt like we the 80 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 1: energy turned up to like level one, and I don't 81 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: think anyone in our group was. Well maybe Paulina because 82 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,039 Speaker 1: she said she is a fan. She has a three 83 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: oh five area coach respect respect um. But our whole row, 84 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: Like Dean Kaylin, we were all everybody was shook at 85 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: how much fun they had during People. It was so 86 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: when he played Timber, I mean, oh my god, all 87 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: of his songs are that good and it just doesn't stop, 88 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: and you know what's funny. So we actually introduced people, me, 89 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: Ryan and Sissney. So we were backstage while they were 90 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: like getting ready, and his backup dancers are like fully 91 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: doing push ups like before they go out. I'm like, 92 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: they are they got to build up their stamina for 93 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: that because it is like NonStop. I have to say 94 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:07,599 Speaker 1: the dancers deserve a lout of credit because they're energy 95 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: to like it was just the whole thing. Yeah. So yeah, 96 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm going to start a fan 97 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 1: club for Louis Capaldi and Pitbull, but let me just 98 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: say I left they're going when Louis Capaldi comes to 99 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: l A, we will be going to that show and 100 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: we are going to plan a trip to Miami to 101 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:27,239 Speaker 1: go see Mr. Three oh five here, don't stop the party. 102 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: What the what are those hometel room service? You got 103 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 1: the hotel? Okay, I never know what it's called. That 104 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: Fireball Timber time of our lives and give me everything. Yeah, 105 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: come on, Yeah, it's hit after hit. It's called like 106 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: the smoke shoots up Oak shooters. The smoke shooters went 107 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,720 Speaker 1: up and it was just like the whole crowd was 108 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: like jumping and it was fun. It was like a 109 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: big party. Yeah. But I will say my feet the 110 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: next day because I had literally brought a whole change 111 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 1: of clothes because my broken toes, like my my feet 112 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: are not gonna last in these light heels where they're smushed, 113 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,480 Speaker 1: and I made it. Admit to the end. I have 114 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: to tell you me. Two people ask me about my heels, 115 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 1: like how do you because I got to the venue 116 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: at noon on Friday, so I was in the heels 117 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 1: from noon until we left it close to midnight. So 118 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: if I was in the Bad Boys for twelve hours, 119 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: if you have, I don't know how much they are. 120 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: They're not like cheap, but they are these Stewart Whitesman heels. 121 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: They're like the little slingbacks. I have them in black 122 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: and I have them in tan, and I wear them 123 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: to every event because they are so comfortable. I can 124 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: just walk all day in those things. And they're high heels. 125 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: You should do a little linky. Yeah, I should link them. 126 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:42,280 Speaker 1: Thank you for and these Jeffrey Campbell shoes that I 127 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 1: wore to Wingo so comfortable. I feel like I could 128 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: have romped around in those for weeks. Isn't that that 129 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: that you those silver sleep but at one go you 130 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: have a little golf cart situation. Yeah, jingle balls, I'll walk, 131 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,040 Speaker 1: I'll walk, and a lot of back and forth a 132 00:06:58,120 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: lot and for a lot of sitting. I did get 133 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: to sit quite some some sits. Yeah, yeah, it was 134 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: really fun. Yeah. So then Friday night was amazing, amazing, 135 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: And actually I got so many d m s because 136 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: Beck and Paulina were sitting next to each other and 137 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: they were like, oh, you're too dual bridesmaids battling it 138 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:22,119 Speaker 1: out for who's guys made sorry? Sorry? Made of honors? Dueling? 139 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: Made of honors? Did Mike, Who's going to make the 140 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: cut or whatever? It was so funny how many damns 141 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: I got about that, the two of you being together. Well, 142 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 1: we talked about it, you did. Paulina and I talked 143 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: about it when she had heard the podcast. What did 144 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: she What did you guys talk about relinquished control? I said, 145 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: you don't get to decide. Yeah, but I said, there's 146 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: no bad blood. I think that for Tony's personality and 147 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: how she is particular, I think it'll be better if 148 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: if you take the reins, if she happens to, you know, 149 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: make that decision. Wow wow wow. Yeah. So I will 150 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: say she came and clutched for me at jingle Ball 151 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 1: because I ordered my dress for jingle All and it 152 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: came in on Thursday. I tried it on. The girth 153 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: it took, and the muscle it took. Robbie to zip 154 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: me in. That was honestly like he was like whole 155 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 1: Colgan trying to like he got me in this. He 156 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, baby, but fits. And I'm like, yeah, 157 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: to be in this for twelve hours, you think I'm 158 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: gonna like romp around the forum with like a I 159 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: can barely breathe in this thing, Like there's no way. Yeah. 160 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: So that was a sad moment. So I started my 161 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 1: workout routine again today. But that's the size of the point. 162 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 1: So I was like, oh my gosh, it's tomorrow. I 163 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: have to figure something out. So Pauline it came over 164 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: with like a bunch of options for me and really 165 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 1: saved the day. Well, that's good to know. I will 166 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: make sure that I have a backup wedding dress on 167 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 1: in case the day comes and it's yeah, not zipping 168 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: all the way. Yeah, I was alarming because I that 169 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: was like my size, and so I was like, but 170 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: you know, everything runs differently. I don't even get if 171 00:08:57,480 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: something that fit me. I'm like, but the brand already small. 172 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: But I already I know the size dress because I 173 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:05,440 Speaker 1: have a dressed from this. I don't have a ton 174 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:09,079 Speaker 1: of dresses that are just like fit differently. It was 175 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: really well. I had tried mine on the day before 176 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: and Haley I was like having to hold it close. 177 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 1: Haley was having a zippen. And then when I was 178 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:19,439 Speaker 1: getting ready for jingle Balls by myself and I was like, 179 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 1: what the heck come? I mean having to go up 180 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 1: in my high rise pantyhose and get someone to I'm 181 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: gonna say, do you know how many Uber drivers have 182 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:30,439 Speaker 1: zipped me into dresses in my day? Yeah? What is 183 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: a single girl gonna do when she's like romping around town? 184 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,680 Speaker 1: Is romped? The word of the podcast has been used 185 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: three or four times so far. We are what ten? Yeah, 186 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 1: a lot of Uber drivers has zipped me in Oh 187 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: my gosh, that's so vulnerable, and I applaud you for 188 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: having just the uh confidence, the girth, No, the girth, yeah, 189 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 1: no that's not right, the just like, yeah, the confidence 190 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: to be like, hey don't have I need a third hand. 191 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: Girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. I applied that. Um. 192 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: So I did get rejected a couple of times, but yeah, 193 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 1: well that makes sense to me, Like legally, no, this 194 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: hr in our contract. I can't touch you. Yeah, this 195 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: is absolutely not allowed. So so yeah, that was jingle 196 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: Ball was a blast. Um. And then Saturday we had 197 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: our holiday party. We missed you Mark, Yeah you were 198 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: missing East still wasn't here, but he's not here right 199 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,160 Speaker 1: now either, so you would have loved it. I'm not 200 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:36,320 Speaker 1: gonna lie. Yeah. So it was like the holiday party 201 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:42,319 Speaker 1: for the podcasts. It was so lovely, like the vibe, 202 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 1: the energy, it was immaculate, Like I wouldn't have wanted 203 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: anything better or more perfect. Yeah, my my wife and 204 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 1: had one daughter were down in Anaheim for a chorus thing, 205 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: so I was had my other daughter. We had lovely 206 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 1: weekend together. I wouldn't have changed the thing. Well, you 207 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: could have come to no, she probably would have loved. 208 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 1: She probably loved. I don't know about that. You're literally 209 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:04,199 Speaker 1: on the ocean, like the oceans right there, we're outside, 210 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 1: there were heaters. They just kept bringing out food. It 211 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,719 Speaker 1: was like everybody was in a great move and like 212 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: celebratory and like, I don't know. It was very really 213 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:17,199 Speaker 1: really nice. And then like, um, there's a lot of 214 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,439 Speaker 1: hidden gluten and sushi. I didn't know if you know that, 215 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 1: but I asked this waiter. I was like, hey, I'm 216 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: gluten free. If you can just let me know like 217 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 1: what I can eat, I'm gonna be sitting at this table. 218 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, no problem, I got you. 219 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: He was so above and beyond kind. He like brought 220 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,559 Speaker 1: out like personal little platters of everything that didn't have 221 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: the sauce on it for me, so it was gluten 222 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 1: free and like Haley garlic or onion, So he customized 223 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,559 Speaker 1: hers with no garlic and onion and Tanya's with no 224 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:46,280 Speaker 1: gluten every single dish. Yeah, And so I called. I 225 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: called the restaurant yesterday and just wanted to talk to 226 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:52,439 Speaker 1: the manager to like explain how nice. And that made 227 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: me feel really cared for. And I always feel like 228 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: such an asshole, being like I'm gluten free. I need 229 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: you know, I need extra good for you though for 230 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: calling the restaurant, yeah that like nobody ever leaves good 231 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: YELP reviews on there, but I never think to do 232 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: that when it was amazing. You only go on there 233 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: when you're angry, correct, But that's great for you. That's 234 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: a that's above and beyond to call the restaurant. And 235 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: I was like, his name was Elias. He was so 236 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: like and it was funny because they were like, our 237 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 1: managers really busy right now, cand of just take a message, 238 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: and I was like, I really want to talk to 239 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:23,839 Speaker 1: the manager. But then I was like I don't want 240 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 1: to be annoying, so I was like, okay, make sure 241 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: can you write this down? His name was Alias, and 242 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: he was really great. He should get a raised Like. 243 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: I was just like, no, he really And I mean 244 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 1: I going to eat with Haley all the time and 245 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:39,559 Speaker 1: knowing how complicated, like even having to talk to the 246 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 1: waiters like a very stressful experience. To have someone who's like, 247 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: you're fine, I I got you. It was really really 248 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: above him. It's got to be so hard to be 249 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: a waiter these days with all of the different restrictions, 250 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:53,000 Speaker 1: especially in Los Angeles. It's got to be a challenge 251 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: for these people. No, I feel like LA is probably 252 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,679 Speaker 1: easiest because so many people haven't right. If you're like 253 00:12:58,000 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: where I grew up, they're like, you're not in the 254 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 1: right spot, right. So, yeah, what a great vibe. It 255 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: was really really nice, and he goes, I knew it 256 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: was gonna be fun, but I really had the best time. 257 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 1: I had the same feeling I had. And Robbie actually 258 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:20,599 Speaker 1: wasn't going to calm because we had the kids this 259 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:22,599 Speaker 1: weekend and so he didn't like to leave them. But 260 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: he was like, you know, I really want to be 261 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: there with you, and I think it's going to be 262 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,679 Speaker 1: a special night. And I was like, how did you know? Like, 263 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 1: how did you know it's gonna be so special? Had 264 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 1: to feel he had a feeling, always has a feeling. Yeah, well, yesterday, 265 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:38,760 Speaker 1: I in my mind I was thinking, you know, I 266 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: knew I had all these things. I was going to rest. 267 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 1: But then um Betty who invited us to her It 268 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 1: was like her album released party, celebrating her album Big, 269 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: and they did like a softball game and it was 270 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 1: in Malibu and it was like raining. The whole time. 271 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: But it was so much fun. But I have to 272 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 1: say even something just like for fun and like, you know, 273 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 1: not taken seriously. I hustled like I was playing in 274 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:12,640 Speaker 1: like the state championship. You're competitive. So sore today, like 275 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 1: muscles that I have not used since two thousand and ten. Wow. Wow, 276 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 1: that's a long time twelve years. It's a long time. 277 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: They've been in retirement for a long hiatus. An we lost, 278 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: but you know it was we all. I'm proud of 279 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: you for getting down the rain. I did literally nothing yesterday. 280 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: I mean I did, like, yeah, nothing. I watched Home 281 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 1: Alone one Home Alone to the night before Christmas and 282 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: Fear Factor and then Random because no it was old 283 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: because we were talking about it at our dinner on 284 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 1: Saturday night and I was like, oh, that might be 285 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 1: a fun show that the kids might like because they 286 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 1: like that kind of stuff. So that's why we threw 287 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: it in the mix. And it was actually really entertaining. Um. 288 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: But and then we had like a we like cooked 289 00:14:57,880 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 1: a family dinner. Paulina came over. We made cookies, gluten 290 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 1: free cookies. So it was like a very indoor activity Sunday. 291 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 1: But I needed it. It was very It was a 292 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: very cozy day, and to be honest, I had a 293 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 1: blast within. Like once we got home, Hailey was the 294 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: coach of our team because you know, she's in her boots, 295 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: so she just was coaching and she had a great 296 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: time coaching. And then we got home and I was like, 297 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: I got a shower and I'm not moving from the couch. 298 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: But she has been watching Wednesday. Oh my gosh, I 299 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 1: binge that I finished top to bottom. Well, I kind 300 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: of would like check. I was just kind of sitting 301 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: there while watching it. It was a little scary for me, 302 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 1: to be honest. The monster scared me a little bit. 303 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 1: He popped out like he would just I don't think so. 304 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 1: You know, I watched it with a ten year old, 305 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: so yeah, it's definitely like a kid friendly, but it 306 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: had some spooky part so I just kind of would 307 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:52,920 Speaker 1: check out when I needed to um. And I think 308 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 1: she finished it. Did it end on like a cliffhanger? No? Oh, 309 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 1: maybe she was another episode. And then we watched White Lotus, 310 00:15:59,600 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 1: which I paid attention to. I think I kind of 311 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 1: know what's going on in that show too. We're gonna 312 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: start We're gonna start White Lotus Tonight White Lotus too. 313 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: I finished Wednesday and I was obsessed with it. I 314 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 1: like loved that show. Great. Um, and then there was 315 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 1: something else that I wanted to tell you too. Well, 316 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 1: I think it's time for a break. So think on 317 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 1: that and we'll be back with your thoughts. Oh yeah, 318 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: I remember it now, Okay, great, we'll be right back. 319 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 1: Do you remember what you were going to be talking about? 320 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: I remember now, okay. So, um, come January, Come the 321 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: new Year, Come jan John one, John John One. I 322 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 1: really want to be like my best Tanya, like my 323 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: best self, and I've let my best Tanya romp around 324 00:16:58,000 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: a little bit. She's wrong been, she hasn't been like 325 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,159 Speaker 1: on her game, you know, really paying attention to the 326 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:06,760 Speaker 1: small things in my life. But she's coming back in. 327 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 1: So I'm going to create like a little like um, 328 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:14,399 Speaker 1: not like a challenge, but like a January thing, like uh, 329 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:15,760 Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know what it's going to 330 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 1: be called, but like a January thing where we all 331 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 1: I'm going to tailor two things that make me feel 332 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:24,959 Speaker 1: my best and so I'm gonna start making that. Now, 333 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: what are some of those things? I'm curious? Um, making 334 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:32,680 Speaker 1: my bed every single morning, working out every day, even 335 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:35,439 Speaker 1: if it's just like a walk, like just like getting out, um, 336 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:37,680 Speaker 1: because I really got away from that for like the 337 00:17:37,760 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: last couple of months, and it's just like not a 338 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 1: great feeling for me, just for my mental health. Um, 339 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: like pre planning my meals like you know what I mean, 340 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: thinking about my day the next day, like planning my food, 341 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: having my food prepared, making more stuff at home. I 342 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 1: don't want to eat out as much, stuff like that. 343 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 1: So just a little more health focus, yeah, a little 344 00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 1: more health focus. But I think it's nice you've just 345 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: enjoyed yourself and not put so much pressure. It's really 346 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 1: not an enjoyment, you know what I mean. I think 347 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: you've enjoy it more than you like allow yourself to 348 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: enjoy it. But I have like a layer of fog 349 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:13,880 Speaker 1: over me. And I don't like a layer of fog. 350 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: I like clear sunny skies. Yeah, I don't know. I 351 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: feel like I always have that layer of fog, So 352 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, that's not fun for me. Like 353 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: I'm enduring it, but it's not I'm not like working 354 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: or what is it optimal? I'm not an optimal operating capacity? 355 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 1: Well come John One. Yeah, I'm gonna be setting myself 356 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:36,920 Speaker 1: up because I need really, I need a lot of 357 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: stamina because come John One, we're gonna be doing a 358 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: lot of press for the book. It's just gonna be 359 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 1: a busy month. Yeah, it's gonna be a busy month 360 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:47,120 Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, so you better get that Domina. You're 361 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:49,160 Speaker 1: gonna get this Domina now. Yeah. I'm gonna start putting 362 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:52,200 Speaker 1: that stuff into practice now. And and so I have 363 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks, so you're gonna put together a 364 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 1: little like something, a little something, Yeah, just a little 365 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: something something for the month. You know, maybe like tell 366 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: everybody like tag me if they're doing stuff, and you know, 367 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 1: just create like a little fun little we got it. 368 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 1: You're a hashtag for Tonyasmina just star. Yeah. I feel 369 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:25,239 Speaker 1: like that's great. I probably should do the same thing. 370 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:30,440 Speaker 1: But I'm pretty like happy. I don't really feel challenging 371 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 1: yourself pushing yourself yea to the next level. Um, But 372 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:38,879 Speaker 1: I do feel like when I played, I was telling Hayley, 373 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 1: it felt good to like play, like do something. I 374 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: ran so much yesterday, but I didn't even realize how 375 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: much I was running because it was like a game. 376 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: So I was like, maybe I joined like a little 377 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: like intermural sports like basketball, and then and then like 378 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:57,120 Speaker 1: I can invite my friends to come watch me weekly 379 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 1: and see who shows up, see who supports me. Yeah 380 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: that's fun. Yeah, I'll be like, hey, Tanya, I don't 381 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:04,920 Speaker 1: know what you're doing this weekend on this Sunday, but 382 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 1: I have a softball game. I'm gonna come. Sure. I 383 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 1: am making a sign for it to Wow. Yeah that's 384 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 1: the energy an. Yeah. So I think there's like a 385 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:16,639 Speaker 1: healthy balance because I remember when I was like running 386 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 1: nine miles a day, and I was like that was 387 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 1: a sad Tanya, Like that was a sad Tanya really, 388 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 1: because I don't think you ever admitted that. I think 389 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,879 Speaker 1: I was. I was like working out and just to 390 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 1: like because when I work out, my brain is just 391 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:30,960 Speaker 1: kind of nowhere, and so I just kind of like 392 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 1: want to work out or run so that I could 393 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 1: not think about anything. When was that? When was nine 394 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: post breakup, post trigger, post trigger. Yeah, we'll call trigger 395 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: post trigger event. So I don't want to go back 396 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: to like running nine miles a day, but I feel 397 00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:48,680 Speaker 1: like a happy four would be like a nice balance, 398 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: you know. Yeah. So I'm gonna do too today. Nice, 399 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 1: just work my way back up to the four. It 400 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 1: hurts so badly to just run, well, run, walk, do 401 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:03,000 Speaker 1: what you can. Yeah, yeah, is my steroid and Haylor after, yes, honestly, 402 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: that sounds so painful. Well, we were up all night 403 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,080 Speaker 1: last night, like every two hours, people would have to 404 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,600 Speaker 1: go outside, and she was like having stomach issues, and 405 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: I realized it was horrible, Like I literally woke up thinking, 406 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: add this to my checklist of children of my children. 407 00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 1: And I actually saw the stick talk the other day 408 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,359 Speaker 1: that this girl it was like a stitch. And this 409 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: woman's like, no one tells you that after like months 410 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: after you have a baby, you have like an odor, 411 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,400 Speaker 1: that that so your baby can find you. And then 412 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: this girl adds to her list and she scrolls down 413 00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:45,040 Speaker 1: to like a hundred things of like why I don't 414 00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:50,600 Speaker 1: want kids. I'm sure that's true, but I don't remember 415 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: my wife having an odor after either of our children. Listen, 416 00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: it took me by surprise, and I too was like hm, 417 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:02,840 Speaker 1: hm hmmm. Maybe we have a Roora Quopo coming up 418 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: this week on the podcast, and maybe you can ask 419 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,240 Speaker 1: her some of your parenting questions. Yeah, I don't much 420 00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: as if you have an vote or after you gave birth, 421 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:14,800 Speaker 1: feels personal. It feels a little bit personal. But we'll 422 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 1: see how where the conversation leaves. But um, yeah, she 423 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:22,280 Speaker 1: apparently chicken. You said it's not good for the Sunny. 424 00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. Sunny has an allergic reaction to chicken. 425 00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:28,399 Speaker 1: So chicken. And I think what happened was my sister's 426 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,240 Speaker 1: dog had a bone and I think it had like 427 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,159 Speaker 1: a chicken flavor or something. And Phoebe's been chewing on 428 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:34,719 Speaker 1: that like the past two days because I didn't give 429 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:38,000 Speaker 1: her anything different all night last night, she tried to 430 00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:41,119 Speaker 1: get down. I'd let her down, she'd go outside, use 431 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 1: the bathroom, come back in, repeat, And Hayley woke up 432 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,760 Speaker 1: a few times for it in solidarity. But I think 433 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 1: she got a little more sleep than I did. Nice, 434 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 1: So that's parenthood for dogs. I get it. Also, Um, 435 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:01,200 Speaker 1: I was just thinking about this because we were talking. 436 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:03,400 Speaker 1: Hayley has telling me about a friend that she has 437 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,120 Speaker 1: and she was with this guy for a long time 438 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:07,200 Speaker 1: and he she found out that he was cheating the 439 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 1: whole time. And this girl was like stunning, like a 440 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: ten and she was like she has an amazing personality, 441 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: she's successful, she has her own company, and then she 442 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: showed me him and and then the fact that he 443 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: was also a loser who was cheating, and then he 444 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:24,760 Speaker 1: was just like not even physically, you know, Like I 445 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: was just like, why is it? I feel like I 446 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 1: always see women who are like tense, that's settle for 447 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,640 Speaker 1: men who are not. And I'm not even talking about 448 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 1: looks wise, I'm talking about personality that like cheat on 449 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,359 Speaker 1: them or treat them poorly. But yeah, I never see 450 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 1: a man who I would say is like a ten 451 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: settle for a woman who is like less than you 452 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,160 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. More often than not, I see 453 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,840 Speaker 1: a woman who is like top notch settled for a 454 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:01,800 Speaker 1: who is not well. I just think it's because like 455 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 1: women are prettier in general, Like I feel like a 456 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 1: lot of guys are just kind of like ugly. No, 457 00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:11,399 Speaker 1: I don't think that's I wonder if it's something to 458 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 1: do with like we get to like make ourselves like 459 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: you know, up and do what we want, and you know, 460 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 1: guys are just kind of like no, I their hair. 461 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: I don't even think it's anything to do with just 462 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 1: physical But I just do think that there's something I 463 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,920 Speaker 1: just wonder if there's a psychology of like how And 464 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,919 Speaker 1: this might be like a stereotype, but like women yearning 465 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: for love and relationship and emotional connection and are more 466 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 1: willing to settle for something that's not great because we 467 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,200 Speaker 1: have well simon to be alone. But it's like if you, like, 468 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 1: I think that there is like this biological clock in 469 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: the back of every woman's head that thinks, like I 470 00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 1: need to find someone. I need to find someone, I 471 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 1: need to have my baby, and you have my baby, 472 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 1: and like people think of that like as early as thirty, 473 00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 1: like if I don't do it but for thirty, like 474 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 1: I'm screwed, which is like not the case, but I 475 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 1: think there is this like warped perception of that reality. 476 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,719 Speaker 1: So I think if you're dating somebody and it's like, oh, 477 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,399 Speaker 1: now now is the time, like I'm just gonna do 478 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 1: with this guy. But if you're not talking about looks, 479 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,880 Speaker 1: there's plenty of guys that settle for someone because she's hot, 480 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: but it's actually nowhere near attend in terms of personality. 481 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:21,680 Speaker 1: That's so true that we were just talking about looks. 482 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,200 Speaker 1: Let's say we are talking about women will settle for 483 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 1: a man who is lesson But my thing is if 484 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:30,720 Speaker 1: a guy is less than in the looks department but 485 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 1: has an amazing personality, I feel like that Trump's absolutely 486 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,480 Speaker 1: because because men are more shallow than women are, but 487 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: men would not. I don't feel like a lot of 488 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: men will day a woman who but like, I'm way 489 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,639 Speaker 1: more drawn to. Like if if I were to meet someone, 490 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 1: which specifically speaking about like men, and I was to 491 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 1: meet a guy and he was like really really hot 492 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,200 Speaker 1: but had like no personality or was like we'll lose it, 493 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,439 Speaker 1: like didn't wasn't funny or like engaging, I wouldn't much 494 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,920 Speaker 1: rather date a guy who like maybe was like less 495 00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 1: physically attractive on the scale of But I also think 496 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 1: I think attractiveness is like relative, you know what I mean. 497 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: Like we're all attracted to like different people, right, and 498 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,120 Speaker 1: a lot of it is based I think more on personality. 499 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 1: Like when I was younger, I think I was more 500 00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: vain and shallow, but like as I've gotten older, I'm like, 501 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,400 Speaker 1: you want to spend time with someone who like makes 502 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:25,680 Speaker 1: you laugh and feels engaged in conversation. But I'm just 503 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 1: saying I noticed so many more times where like women 504 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 1: will settle for less and date men who don't even 505 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:40,479 Speaker 1: deserve an ounce of their time. Yea, And is there 506 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,920 Speaker 1: the element there of the bad boy or a guy 507 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:48,400 Speaker 1: who knows a little aloof towards the relationship that they're drawing. Yeah, 508 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,480 Speaker 1: I never I've never been that gale. But it seems 509 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: like a common It does seem like a common thing. 510 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,679 Speaker 1: I don't get it. I would weigh rather steady at 511 00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,120 Speaker 1: you than like scary sal Yeah, she wanted that pain. 512 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 1: She didn't know. Yeah, but a lot of people want. Yeah, 513 00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:08,440 Speaker 1: he wanted he wanted a bride. I was chasing my 514 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:12,720 Speaker 1: own fame, making my name, he says something. He was 515 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:18,000 Speaker 1: sun bed night rain, he was on the cloud. No, Tanya, 516 00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,360 Speaker 1: you're literally not saying any of the comfortable. I wanted 517 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,159 Speaker 1: that pain, yes, yeah, I don't like I liked the 518 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:29,000 Speaker 1: pain for a long time. Not really the pain. The chase. 519 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,040 Speaker 1: So yeah, I've never wanted the chase. I'd rather have 520 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 1: like a dead carcass. Yeah, we talked about this dead carcass. 521 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:40,480 Speaker 1: No chase. No, I don't need a fox flying through 522 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: the valley. I need a dead coyote. Just I wonder 523 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,160 Speaker 1: if there's like an in between like just something that's 524 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 1: not dead but is Yeah, yeah, like a hobbling hobbling yeah, 525 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,879 Speaker 1: tobbling dear. Yeah, but he doesn't need to be running 526 00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 1: all No, it does not need to be running. But 527 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 1: I do think there's something there with the like the 528 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:04,160 Speaker 1: biological clock of like, Okay, maybe I don't have time 529 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 1: to wait for Mr Perfect or you know Ms this Perfect. Yeah, 530 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 1: because I do. I think it. I think it happened. 531 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 1: I like I see a lot of more women now 532 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: like having babies on their own. Like I've met so many, 533 00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 1: and I think the past year women that have wanted 534 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,639 Speaker 1: to have babies that they're successful, have their lives together 535 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,240 Speaker 1: and are like I want to have a baby. I'm 536 00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:26,159 Speaker 1: gonna get a donor and I'm going to do this 537 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,240 Speaker 1: on my own, which I think is awesome. I think 538 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:29,680 Speaker 1: it's better to do it on your own than with 539 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 1: like some loser dude. That's how I feel too. But yeah, 540 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 1: I think that's it. I think it's a good theory. 541 00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:37,679 Speaker 1: I was just so. I think we're on the up 542 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 1: and up as a female species. I do too. I 543 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 1: do too, do you I think so? But I think 544 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: it's like not, it's not all one sided, like I 545 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: know that there's all different relationships and sometimes it's the 546 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:54,760 Speaker 1: woman who sucks, and sometimes that's the man who sucks, 547 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:58,120 Speaker 1: or maybe it's a female female relationship, and you know, 548 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 1: you just know, it's just people are different. But I 549 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,479 Speaker 1: think a lot of people also get married super young, 550 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:04,840 Speaker 1: were their immature and they don't like think about like 551 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:10,080 Speaker 1: actual things. Yeah, but I don't matter, You're right. I 552 00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:12,840 Speaker 1: think I just recently have heard more about these amazing 553 00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:17,239 Speaker 1: women who I'm like, why did he why why did 554 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 1: he even get the chance to cheat on her? You know, 555 00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:24,760 Speaker 1: I think a lot of it comes from again young immature, 556 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 1: like I know, great man that went down a wrong path, 557 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 1: because that's just what was It was like the time 558 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,280 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, forever to mature. We've talked 559 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:40,120 Speaker 1: about that. So it was like not thinking with the head, 560 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:44,800 Speaker 1: not that head. Correct. So I feel like I need 561 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,040 Speaker 1: to address something because there's a lot of scuttle in 562 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 1: the Facebook group, the scrubbing and Facebook group because I 563 00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 1: posted this photo of Becca squeezing me on the carpet 564 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,760 Speaker 1: at the at jingle Ball and I like, circled your 565 00:29:56,880 --> 00:30:00,680 Speaker 1: hand because I and I wrote felt significan can't because 566 00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,640 Speaker 1: it was Becca, like squeezing me into her, which is 567 00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: like the death grip, which is usually what I give 568 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 1: to her. This happened, correct, and so I did that. 569 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,400 Speaker 1: But what people were assuming was because I circled your 570 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,680 Speaker 1: ring finger and said, like felt significant, like you got 571 00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:19,320 Speaker 1: engaged or something. So I want to debunk those rumors. Yeah, 572 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: let's go ahead and clear that up. I am not engaged. Yes, 573 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 1: I'm going to clear that up right now. Yeah, let's 574 00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:27,040 Speaker 1: clear that up. Yeah. I had a few messages about 575 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 1: it too. I was like, They're like, what does this mean? 576 00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 1: And I was like, I think it just means I'm 577 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: hugging her heart, which I enjoy hug. I'm like a hug. 578 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: I'm not really, but it's the death grip. It was 579 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: the death grip that felt significant. But I feel like 580 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 1: when I give hugs, I give like tight hugs. I'm 581 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 1: not like, I'm not a weak hugger. M. I'm not 582 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,680 Speaker 1: a weak HUGGERA but like when when you're like hanging 583 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 1: all over me, like when we're side by side, maybe 584 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: I'm not as like affectionate in that regard, but when 585 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 1: I give you a hug, I'm a good hugger. Like 586 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 1: this this felt significant. Nothing worse than a weak hug, 587 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 1: you know, when someone barely hugs yours like I would 588 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 1: have rather just not. I don't know have to do anymore. 589 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,040 Speaker 1: I don't have to hug people or shake their hand 590 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,360 Speaker 1: or kiss them like. I don't like shaking hands. And 591 00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 1: I wish we could get rid of that altogether. Other 592 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 1: hug too, because I'm I don't want your germs in 593 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 1: my hands, that might be in my mouth and my eyes. 594 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 1: I'd rather hug you. Yeah, And if you don't want 595 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 1: to hug, dab exactly, but not bad but dab definitely 596 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:37,200 Speaker 1: not bab please, but yeah, the handshake has really thrown 597 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,920 Speaker 1: me off. Um now those are back. Nobody's even hesitating 598 00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 1: abu those anymore. Everyone's shaking hands now. You know what 599 00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:47,840 Speaker 1: we're not hesitating about anymore, answering some emails. Oh my gosh, 600 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:49,480 Speaker 1: let's take a break and we'll be right back. Okay, 601 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,960 Speaker 1: all right, we are back with some emails. Mark. I 602 00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:11,760 Speaker 1: know you're down, but I'm great. My voice is not, 603 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 1: that's all it is. It's freaking out Tanya, and I'm 604 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,520 Speaker 1: sorry she's the one coughing though. I don't know if 605 00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 1: you've heard that, but yeah, unwell but on medications, So 606 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here anyway. This is from anonymous. I'm 607 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 1: twenty eight and I was asked to be in two 608 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,800 Speaker 1: of my good friends weddings and they're on the same day. 609 00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,200 Speaker 1: They within driving distance, but like three hours away from 610 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 1: each other. One is a friend from college who has 611 00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,200 Speaker 1: her wedding venue that it's a place to stay in 612 00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,240 Speaker 1: the venue for the wedding party, for the whole weekend. 613 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,920 Speaker 1: She asked me to be in her wedding. Another is 614 00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: best friend from high school. I didn't realize they're on 615 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:45,760 Speaker 1: the same day, so I said, you have to both. 616 00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:47,520 Speaker 1: Where do I go? What do I do? How do 617 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 1: I tell the wrong person? Wait? So one of them 618 00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,760 Speaker 1: asked her to be in and the other invited her 619 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:57,880 Speaker 1: to it. Yes, I mean, I think I would go 620 00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:02,680 Speaker 1: for the one whose wedding I'm in. I agree. How 621 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:04,720 Speaker 1: do you tell the other person you're out after you've 622 00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 1: already said yes? I would just say I had an 623 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:12,880 Speaker 1: absolute brain fart and I committed to being in a 624 00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,120 Speaker 1: wedding on the same day of your wedding and it's 625 00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:19,040 Speaker 1: a three hour drive. I just realistically, there's there's you 626 00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: don't sometimes like you commit to stuff, You're like, yes, 627 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,680 Speaker 1: I'll totally be there. These are people that are really 628 00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,360 Speaker 1: important to me. Yes, I'll be there. Yes, I'll be there. 629 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,280 Speaker 1: You don't really look at dates or pay attention to 630 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,200 Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, and then you're like, oh my gosh, 631 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:31,320 Speaker 1: so you can say I love you. I didn't even 632 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,280 Speaker 1: hesitate to say yes, because of course I want to 633 00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,800 Speaker 1: be there. But I'm in a wedding that exact same day. 634 00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:39,760 Speaker 1: I wish I could duplicate myself and be at both, 635 00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,480 Speaker 1: but I cannot. Unfortunately, I think I read this wrong. 636 00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,480 Speaker 1: The first line is I was asked to be in 637 00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 1: two of my good friends weddings and they're on the 638 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:56,040 Speaker 1: same Well, that changes things. One is a friend from college. 639 00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:00,200 Speaker 1: Friend she mentioned that includes a place to stay, So 640 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,400 Speaker 1: I'm getting the vibe that the other one doesn't have 641 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:08,800 Speaker 1: those amenities, and that's the decision. It's a key factory. 642 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,440 Speaker 1: What would you do, Becca if you were asked to 643 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,919 Speaker 1: be in two weddings on the same day, two people 644 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 1: that were important to you. I mean, I just think 645 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:23,520 Speaker 1: I would have to figure out logistically which one makes 646 00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: more sense, Like is one closer to home? Like without 647 00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 1: me having to travel? Is one I don't know, just 648 00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 1: come down to details, not friendship. Well yeah, I mean 649 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,279 Speaker 1: if if well, I don't think it's about friendship because 650 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,800 Speaker 1: I think if there was one obvious greater than on 651 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,279 Speaker 1: these two, she wouldn't be writing in right, Here's what 652 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,600 Speaker 1: I think. I think she said yes to one and 653 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,560 Speaker 1: then said yes to the second one she knows she 654 00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,760 Speaker 1: used to commit to the first one to the second. 655 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 1: I think you're right. I think I gotta do what 656 00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:55,880 Speaker 1: you gotta do. So does she go to the one 657 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:56,960 Speaker 1: she wants to be in or the one that she 658 00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 1: committed to first goes to the one she wants to 659 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:06,600 Speaker 1: be in. I think, shitty it is. That's not They 660 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,960 Speaker 1: also don't know about each other's weddings, so they don't 661 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:10,600 Speaker 1: know which you committed to first. So you can do 662 00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,800 Speaker 1: the brain fart excuse. You can make up a different 663 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,920 Speaker 1: like I could say, oh my gosh, my mom's having surgery. 664 00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:21,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, but you is bad bad karma, I 665 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,440 Speaker 1: would say, I agree. I think you just tell whichever 666 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:26,839 Speaker 1: one you're not going to go to. Hey, I made 667 00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,719 Speaker 1: a huge mistake. I committed, Like Tanya said, I really 668 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,120 Speaker 1: want to be there, but I committed to this one first, 669 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 1: and I I feel horrible. I would love to celebrate you, 670 00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,759 Speaker 1: you know, once everything settles down from the wedding, and 671 00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: or maybe maybe there's something before the wedding that you 672 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:46,320 Speaker 1: could be a part of and help with, like Machette 673 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,960 Speaker 1: the Bachelorette. Yeah, just like offer yourself to be a 674 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,759 Speaker 1: part in some ways since you can't make it to 675 00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,840 Speaker 1: the wedding. That's what I would do. Well, would you do? 676 00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,000 Speaker 1: You can't, you can't clone yourself. I don't know what 677 00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,200 Speaker 1: I would do. This would be a real humdinger for me. 678 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,160 Speaker 1: You just shut down and don't go to either. Yeah, 679 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,040 Speaker 1: I'm just like, I'm out both of you. I'm out. 680 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,440 Speaker 1: I would probably do the person that I'm closer to, 681 00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,480 Speaker 1: if it was if there was a difference, if there's 682 00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 1: a difference the person you're closer to. But it seems 683 00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:17,960 Speaker 1: like all things being equal, to college friend would be 684 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:21,960 Speaker 1: better the closer than the high school friend. That's what 685 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,640 Speaker 1: I was thinking. You know, you never know. You can't 686 00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:28,000 Speaker 1: put a time stamp on friendship. Here's another anonymous I 687 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: want her at Eastern sand the podcast. Don't invite me 688 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 1: to your party. I don't want to come. That's the 689 00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:34,799 Speaker 1: same with me. I'm forty. I have a small group 690 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,359 Speaker 1: of friends that get together a few times a year 691 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,960 Speaker 1: for dinner, but no real close friends. I know I've 692 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,279 Speaker 1: done this to myself because I'm very introverted. I hate 693 00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,600 Speaker 1: small talk. I feel awkward trying to think of things 694 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,439 Speaker 1: to talk about, and as a results, I just feel 695 00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,040 Speaker 1: like I'm too boring to talk to. I see Becca 696 00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,239 Speaker 1: and Tiny with all these wonderful close friendships, and I'm 697 00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:58,360 Speaker 1: so envious. Any advice. Um So she's saying she doesn't 698 00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,680 Speaker 1: want to go, but she does want friend because she's 699 00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: introverted and she hates she just feels awkward about the 700 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,800 Speaker 1: whole thing trying to keep conversation going. It just seems 701 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:10,680 Speaker 1: like effort. I think that that is also something that 702 00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:15,600 Speaker 1: comes like once you once you commit to like, Okay, 703 00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:17,920 Speaker 1: this is my personality. I'm introverted. I don't like being 704 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:19,920 Speaker 1: around a lot of people. It gets harder to make 705 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:23,880 Speaker 1: yourself do more outgoing things. You know what I'm saying, Like, 706 00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 1: once you like accept like okay, I'm an introvert because 707 00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:27,440 Speaker 1: I used to it too. I was like very much 708 00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,359 Speaker 1: a homebody. I didn't want to do anything. But once 709 00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: I started like having to go or forcing myself to 710 00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:35,440 Speaker 1: go to things. I found I got better at wanting 711 00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,279 Speaker 1: to go and wanting to be there, And like I think. 712 00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:41,480 Speaker 1: I also, there's this book. I'm pulling it up now 713 00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:44,240 Speaker 1: so that you can read it. No, this, No, honestly, 714 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,759 Speaker 1: this is such I think everyone should read this book 715 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,560 Speaker 1: because I always revert back to it. It's called How 716 00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,200 Speaker 1: to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, and 717 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: he talked about that, yeah, and he talks about like 718 00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 1: how you interact with people and how you like make 719 00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:02,920 Speaker 1: connect with people even if it's not your natural personality 720 00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:05,560 Speaker 1: to do that, and how sometimes it's not just about 721 00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,640 Speaker 1: like she said, I'm too boring to talk to, but 722 00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:11,280 Speaker 1: sometimes it's about like listening and asking about other people, 723 00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 1: like what do you want to know about them? Like 724 00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,800 Speaker 1: what's something that piques your interests about their home or 725 00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,160 Speaker 1: where you're at, and just like learning to have conversations. 726 00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 1: So I think, honestly, like I know it sounds lame, 727 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,880 Speaker 1: but like reading books and like there are skills and 728 00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,919 Speaker 1: how you learn to connect with people, and I think 729 00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,600 Speaker 1: it there are certain things that draw people towards you, 730 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,280 Speaker 1: but also does not to necessarily be like social events 731 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,160 Speaker 1: and stuff Like if you have a hobby, like let's 732 00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,120 Speaker 1: say like working out, you can find somebody at your 733 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:39,879 Speaker 1: gym or like at your workout class that you see 734 00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:41,120 Speaker 1: there often, and you just say, like, hey, do you 735 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:43,080 Speaker 1: want to get a juice after a class? And then 736 00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:44,759 Speaker 1: you just like get a juice after a class, and 737 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:46,799 Speaker 1: that's like your socializing and you build a friendship that way. 738 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,000 Speaker 1: It doesn't always have to be like like part parties 739 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:53,560 Speaker 1: or concerts or like events. It can be stuff that's 740 00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,759 Speaker 1: already kind of something that you enjoy doing and then 741 00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,000 Speaker 1: you just kind of make friendships in that. I mean, 742 00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,440 Speaker 1: that's how I like, I don't know, it's weird, Like 743 00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,440 Speaker 1: that's how I'm at Raquel. We met in in our 744 00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,399 Speaker 1: Bible study and so it was like we met at 745 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,040 Speaker 1: that and then we would just kind of meet for coffee, 746 00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,000 Speaker 1: you know, whenever I was like around where her work 747 00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:12,600 Speaker 1: was and stuff like that. So it's like we would 748 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,919 Speaker 1: meet for coffee and then that turned into like other things. 749 00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:18,880 Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, I I think I agree, Like I 750 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,160 Speaker 1: don't think you need to go to like massive parties 751 00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 1: if that like ragers or like things that you can 752 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,400 Speaker 1: invited to on Facebook or something. Well, I think she 753 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,160 Speaker 1: needs more one on one time, like she gets together 754 00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 1: this a little group, maybe one or two of those people. 755 00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,000 Speaker 1: You like them a lot, and you could schedule some 756 00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,080 Speaker 1: time together that might help create a better bond than 757 00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:36,960 Speaker 1: you're getting through this group thing that you're not. I 758 00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:40,240 Speaker 1: like intimate. I like one on one hangouts better than events. 759 00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:45,440 Speaker 1: Personally myself too. I also think though jumping back, piggybacking 760 00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:48,080 Speaker 1: off what you said, like knowing what you're interested in, 761 00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:51,760 Speaker 1: and maybe if you're like I know, she doesn't necessarily 762 00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,359 Speaker 1: say she wants more friends. But if you have an 763 00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:56,600 Speaker 1: interest that's like a niche thing, like let's say you 764 00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:58,759 Speaker 1: like to paint or something, and you go to like 765 00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:03,279 Speaker 1: a local cloud painting class or something, you immediately have 766 00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,200 Speaker 1: something in common with the other people that are in 767 00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:07,640 Speaker 1: that room. So I think, like putting yourself out there 768 00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:11,640 Speaker 1: and going to things that you you know or personal 769 00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:14,839 Speaker 1: to you, but open up your interests to other people, 770 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,439 Speaker 1: I think is a good good start. Yeah, and shout 771 00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:19,440 Speaker 1: out to Dale Carnegie. That book came out in nineteen 772 00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 1: thirty six and it's still getting what a shout out 773 00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:26,840 Speaker 1: on de scribbing in podcast six Dead from with seventy 774 00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,320 Speaker 1: years and his Legacy lives On. It's so good and 775 00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,960 Speaker 1: it's so like topical. And then the other one I 776 00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:33,960 Speaker 1: would recommend is a hundred and one Essays that will 777 00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,760 Speaker 1: change the way you think. That one's by Brianna West. 778 00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:38,879 Speaker 1: I'm gonna start reading a lot more, by the way, 779 00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,680 Speaker 1: that's a good goal. Yeah, Robby and I are going 780 00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,800 Speaker 1: to read in bed before we go to sleep instead 781 00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:47,879 Speaker 1: of watch TV. And you consider fiction, Tanya, I've gotten 782 00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:49,640 Speaker 1: into this many times over the years. She will not 783 00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:55,360 Speaker 1: read fiction helpful help, which to me is to me 784 00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:58,320 Speaker 1: that's paralysis by analysis. You just you know, I like 785 00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:02,000 Speaker 1: to grow, I like to exp fan reading a book. 786 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:03,680 Speaker 1: What's the difference if they're both a good story, what's 787 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,080 Speaker 1: the difference between watching White Lotus or reading a really 788 00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,840 Speaker 1: good book. I love a good fiction book. It is 789 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:12,520 Speaker 1: like the best escape. I don't want an escape. But 790 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,799 Speaker 1: why do you allow yourself to watch fiction television shows? 791 00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,560 Speaker 1: Why do you only watch self help documentaries? Because when 792 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,080 Speaker 1: I'm watching TV, I don't want to think. When I'm reading, 793 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:25,480 Speaker 1: I want to like think, or I'll just go to sleepy. 794 00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,200 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it's some really good books out there 795 00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:29,160 Speaker 1: that I've recommended you over the years and refused to 796 00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:32,439 Speaker 1: even go like my choices. We had a whole book 797 00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:34,360 Speaker 1: club on the Facebook group called Bookmark. There's a lot 798 00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,319 Speaker 1: of fun book Mark. Yeah, I'm gonna make my own 799 00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,719 Speaker 1: book club, do it. They would love that. And right 800 00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:43,120 Speaker 1: now I'm reading a Hashimoto book. It's great. I'm learning 801 00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,840 Speaker 1: so much about like gluten, and that's great. Yeah, you 802 00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:49,000 Speaker 1: know what, Mark, I'm getting smarter and you're just escaping. 803 00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:52,919 Speaker 1: But I think I think watching TV is is also 804 00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,400 Speaker 1: an escape. So you do like to escape. You just 805 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:59,120 Speaker 1: I like to get smart and escape, Okay, in tandem, 806 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,240 Speaker 1: not escape and escape. I like a lot. I like escape, 807 00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:07,040 Speaker 1: escape and get smart. Yeah that's good too. Yeah, thank 808 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:11,440 Speaker 1: you so much. Well, after that debate, which I did 809 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,920 Speaker 1: not know about you that you don't read fiction books, 810 00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,080 Speaker 1: learned something new every day. I really do, I really do, 811 00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,960 Speaker 1: you know. It's cute. Actually, Paulina was reading the advanced 812 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,319 Speaker 1: copy of my book last night. It was at my hat. 813 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,120 Speaker 1: It was at the house. There we go, Yeah, comes 814 00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:32,239 Speaker 1: over to make cookies family dinner. First of all, I've 815 00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,600 Speaker 1: asked for the advanced copy because I'm very an interview 816 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,520 Speaker 1: with her and Rickel and I haven't gotten it yet 817 00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:38,800 Speaker 1: first of all, it was at the house and it 818 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,320 Speaker 1: was just like on the counter. She came over for 819 00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:41,600 Speaker 1: dinner and saw and she's like, oh my god, can 820 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,040 Speaker 1: I read it? So she read like a couple of 821 00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,200 Speaker 1: the first chapters and she was like, I didn't know 822 00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,360 Speaker 1: this about you. I didn't know this about you, and 823 00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:49,360 Speaker 1: like was like giving me. She's like, I didn't know 824 00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:50,920 Speaker 1: what to expect because I thought it was gonna be 825 00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:54,800 Speaker 1: very like churchy, and you know, she was like pleasantly. 826 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,839 Speaker 1: She was like really really enjoyed it and like learn 827 00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:59,960 Speaker 1: new stuff about me, which I found to be funny 828 00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:03,120 Speaker 1: because I think podcast listeners will have heard almost every 829 00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,000 Speaker 1: single story. Oh interesting. But she's like, I didn't know 830 00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,640 Speaker 1: how you got your first job at Kiss and like 831 00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,919 Speaker 1: I didn't know you know how that is your best 832 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:14,040 Speaker 1: friends listen to the podcast. Paulina doesn't listen regularly. I 833 00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:15,760 Speaker 1: told her we had the debates. I think she listened 834 00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:22,080 Speaker 1: to it none. Yeah, same, sad, that's probably better talk 835 00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:25,920 Speaker 1: freely to do not listen to the podcast. Maybe I 836 00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:27,759 Speaker 1: feel like he sneaks them in every now and then. 837 00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:30,440 Speaker 1: Yeah he does, but like on a regular he does 838 00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,919 Speaker 1: not because someone told me not to listen to something 839 00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,600 Speaker 1: I would be tuning in weekly. Yeah, because that's just 840 00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,680 Speaker 1: a little bit about me. He respects my boundaries good. 841 00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,040 Speaker 1: But he does watch all the clips on Instagram, so yeah, 842 00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,560 Speaker 1: those are good. There won't be a lot of clips 843 00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:46,319 Speaker 1: today because we started the video quite late, but if 844 00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:51,239 Speaker 1: there is anything, happy, happy to watch them. All right, Well, 845 00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,680 Speaker 1: that's it for today, and I hope you have a 846 00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,200 Speaker 1: great week, everybody, Mark, I hope you feel better. And 847 00:43:56,239 --> 00:44:04,080 Speaker 1: then the beginning and the end, all right, goodbye everybody, 848 00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:06,400 Speaker 1: we love you, have a great week. Love you Bye.