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Speaker 1: Dear blood.

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Speaker 2: So I have a moral dilemma and I feel like,

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Speaker 2: I know you guys are going to say, but I

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Speaker 2: just want to bring it to the table. It's something

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Speaker 2: that I'm just perusing in my crazy.

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Speaker 3: Chaotic brain of mine.

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Speaker 2: So I know someone who is dating someone thinking of

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Speaker 2: dating someone that I have dated, and it was a

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Speaker 2: really bad relationship. Really bad, not just like oh, you know,

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Speaker 2: light stuff. It was really bad. And I understand very

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Speaker 2: much that different people have different experiences, but I do

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Speaker 2: know for a fact that it was just not a

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Speaker 2: personal to me experience with this person, right, and it's

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Speaker 2: not a best friend, but you know, we were just

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Speaker 2: talking about sisterhood and women and I just I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I wish someone had told me about it, or at

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Speaker 2: least just said, heads up, this is what I know,

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Speaker 2: this is what people's experience were. And I don't want

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Speaker 2: to go into detail. I don't want to be heavy,

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Speaker 2: but I really it's like should I say something or

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Speaker 2: should I just watch it happen, like I've watched it

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Speaker 2: happen to other people.

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Speaker 1: And myself, yikes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and they don't know that you dated this person

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Speaker 3: at all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I because.

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Speaker 2: If they had, maybe they would have asked, but and

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Speaker 2: I know, stay out of it, but it's like stuff

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Speaker 2: that would be hard for me to feel like I

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Speaker 2: should stay out of it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like people, I feel like it always backfires. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel like even when you're right, you're right because

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Speaker 1: I've been single for a long time and so it's

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Speaker 1: not It hasn't been uncommon in my life that people

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Speaker 1: have met someone that I dated, or vice versa or whatever.

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Speaker 1: And it just in my experience when someone goes, hey,

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Speaker 1: what do you I met so and so, and I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I might not like I didn't have a

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Speaker 1: great experience, you know whatever, This is kind of what

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Speaker 1: I went through, And then they do it anyway, and

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Speaker 1: then the same thing happens. But then usually there's some

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Speaker 1: rift or damage that's caused in the process because that

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Speaker 1: person then goes and tells the other person this is

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Speaker 1: what Zoe and so said, Well that's not true, and

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Speaker 1: then even if it does happen, they don't want to

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Speaker 1: be you know what I mean. It's it's very messy.

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Speaker 1: I feel like people have to figure out on their own,

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Speaker 1: and it's got to be hard to do because it's

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Speaker 1: almost like you're watching the car accident before it happens.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe it's a little triggering for me too,

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Speaker 2: but it's I might do the story later. Meghan Good

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Speaker 2: is dating Jonathan Major, and she said a lot of

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Speaker 2: people did warn her, you know, hey, he's going through

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Speaker 2: this abuse trial with his ex, YadA, YadA, and she

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Speaker 2: chose to stay. But she already knew that, like she

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Speaker 2: knew he was on trial what he was on trial for.

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Speaker 2: They spoke about it at length. But yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 2: I probably won't end up, but it's just something that

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Speaker 2: I had been struggling with.

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Speaker 3: The end of the day, I just feel like you

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Speaker 3: have to do what you feel is right because then

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Speaker 3: you can sleep at night knowing that you did what

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Speaker 3: was right. However, you do have to be prepared, like

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Speaker 3: Fritz said, to deal with the consequences that are come

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Speaker 3: that will come with that, because a lot of times

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Speaker 3: people bond over having one of the time. Yeah, so

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Speaker 3: she'll go back and say, oh, well, Kaylen's hot. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so strong until it falls apart, but you'll be the

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Speaker 3: end and to start out, so yeah, okay.

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Speaker 1: And I suppose I suppose people can change. I suppose

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Speaker 1: people can be different. In the content I mean maybe

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Speaker 1: I don't know, your experience could possibly be different from

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Speaker 1: someone else. I just don't know if there's a win there.

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Speaker 1: And then, of course what happens is you if you

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Speaker 1: say something later like man, I you know, I had

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Speaker 1: a bad experience, and then it's like I wish you

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Speaker 1: told me, And then it's kind of a no win

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Speaker 1: because if you say something too early and then let's say,

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Speaker 1: God honestly, God forbid, but let's say that you it

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Speaker 1: was a different experience, Well then then that's not good

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Speaker 1: on you at the time. Even if they haven't figured

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Speaker 1: it out yet, that's not good on you. Then if

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Speaker 1: they break up, they're embarrassed, which makes it weird, the

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Speaker 1: friendship weird after. I mean, it's just unfortunately there's really

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Speaker 1: no win.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you just gotta keep your mouth shut.

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Speaker 2: Okay that's hard for me to do, but.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. Don't just bring it on here, just

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Speaker 1: bring it to if ye's let's just bring it here,

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Speaker 1: use a lot of innuendo and then let people wonder

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Speaker 1: what they hell more. Fredshaw next