WEBVTT - A Toast to No Toasts 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.280 Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:05.600 With Dean Aungler, Kaylen Miller Key, and Jared haven An 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:06.880 iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:11.520 What is going on? Everybody? 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:14.120 Welcome to an all new episode of Help We Suck 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:19.800 At Being At Newlyweds. It's yours truly Dean and Michael Bell, 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.040 joined by Kaylin Miller. 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:24.599 Bell, Yes is your name? 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:30.240 And Jared I Conetti Jared Miller Bell skyping. 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:32.520 All in from Virginia, Colorado. 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:36.080 Virginia, Colorado. It's a great place over here. Weather's a 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:39.560 little all over the place. I think I should change 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.920 my name to Miller Bell. I mean, you guys are 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.160 both doing it. I really, for the sake of this podcast, 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:46.160 I think it should be Dean Calen and Jared Miller 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:47.040 Bell love it. 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:51.040 Wait, you know my male name's not Miller, right, it's Michael. 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:54.360 Yeah. But I think it's time for you to change 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.200 it as well. I think get rid of the Michael. 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:58.440 It's both. First of all, you're it will still be 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:00.800 DM like it's the same thing, d m B. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:01.600 True. 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:04.680 Wow, your initials are gonna be d matthy good. 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:08.440 Let's go, biggest fan in the world, Jared, what's up, dude? 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.280 You were very serious. Do you do you love Dave 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:10.880 Matthews Band. 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:12.760 No, I don't. I mean I'm impartial. I don't have 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:14.120 a feeling towards them. 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:17.720 Yeah, neither do I. I've never wanted to go to 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.720 a Dave Matthews band concert because when I was in 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:23.400 my early twenties, a lot of my friends would go 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:25.479 every summer because they would always tour and they would 0:01:25.480 --> 0:01:26.560 just smoke a ton of weed. 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:29.920 Go to the Eastern kind of thing, like jam bandy 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:30.759 sort of thing. Right. 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:33.480 Yeah, I'll never understand it. I don't get it, don't 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:34.960 want to be a part of it like I enjoy. 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:37.360 You know, ants Marching. I think that's the name of 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:37.720 the song. 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:42.080 Yeah, I don't know singing one of songs, but they 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:43.200 know they're so crash. 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.000 You know that song It plays in Joe Dirt Joe Dirte. 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.360 We actually just watched that movie yesterday. Kaitlyn kind of 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:52.200 watched it. I watched the whole thing, still holds up, 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:56.000 Still a great movie. The Northeast part of the US 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.080 loves their jam bands. One of my best friends is 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.760 from Connecticut. He goes to every fish show possible. Hasn't 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.000 missed a fish show in twenty years. We went into 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.720 a Green Sky bluegrass show at Red Rocks a couple 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.960 of months ago, and that's it's obviously not Jambian because 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:15.520 it's bluegrass, but they have a gam band persona kind 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:18.280 of thing like a feel to them where they'll play, 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.000 you know, they've got a four minute song on a track, 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:21.720 but they'll turn that song into twenty minutes and then 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:23.880 they'll play eighty songs. And it got to the point 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:25.680 where we looked at each other, We're like, we're exhausted, 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.440 let's get out of here. And they probably still had 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.040 at least two more hours of playing left. 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.359 But that's neither here nor there. Jared, what's up with you? 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:34.160 And what have we missed? I feel like you were 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:35.760 at a wedding this past weekend. 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.000 I was so I got a quick question before we 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:40.880 talk about the wedding because we were talking about Fish. 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:41.760 Yeah. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:46.160 Is fish spelt pH? I sh or? Is it fish? 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:46.760 It is? 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.440 Okay, it's that dude. I don't know any of their songs. 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:51.440 How do I know the band fish? Though? Why is 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:52.720 that such a thing? And I don't know any of 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:53.120 their songs. 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:54.840 They're a band that, like you go to one of 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.480 their shows, or you don't. Of course, you go to 0:02:57.520 --> 0:03:00.160 one of their shows and they'll play I think I'm 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.200 pretty sure it was fish that they had like ten 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:05.280 consecutive days at Madison Square Garden and they didn't play 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:07.400 a single repeat song. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.200 They play because they'll. 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:11.600 Play other people's songs, they'll like cover them and they'll 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.320 do like, you know, six minute guitar solo riffs. 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:16.840 So it's gonna be like going to a bar and 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:17.799 seeing a cover band. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:20.519 But they're very talented cover band. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.639 I mean, there's a lot of talented cover bands. Anyway, 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:27.880 we don't have to talk about this. But wedding. Yes, 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:33.880 I went to our friend Courtney's wedding out in Tahoe 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:39.240 Reno area. It was nice. It was very nice. You know, 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:44.360 just long travel day, but that was okay. Flew out Friday. 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:47.600 We left Dawson very sad. He was he because we 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:49.480 left early in the morning, at like six forty five, 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:52.040 so he wasn't up yet, and he of course, of 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:54.960 course he's usually never up, but as soon as we 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.440 weren't even making any noise, but he just woke up 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.680 on his own. He must have sensed that we were leaving. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:04.640 Starts to crying, scream crying. We felt bad because we 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:06.760 had to get on the road, and so we just 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:10.280 left the babysitter with a scream crying Dawson, which is 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.760 always just heart wrenching. 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.440 So you guys do what to Los Angeles and then 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:17.760 up to Reno or something. 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:20.160 No, I flew to Denver. So we were in your 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:23.680 area from Boston to Denver, denveron Toreno. It was like 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:26.400 an outside out of outside out of Reno Airport close 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:26.880 to Tahoe. 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:29.559 Yeah, but we've been there. We went to that airport together. 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:33.400 I just saw someone mention that Ashley was the officiant. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:38.000 Ashley was the officiant. So Courtney is someone that we've 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:42.280 worked with with brand deals. So she is a big 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:45.480 Bachelor fan. The way that Courney and Ashley met, it's 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:47.240 Courtney is a big Bachelor fan. 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:49.240 And she. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:55.520 Lived in Northern California at the time, and she would 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:57.560 always go to LA because she wanted to be in LA. 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:00.560 She wanted to be in the industry. And so she 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.240 was tweeting at Ashley one day saying, Hey, I'm going 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:04.320 to be at the grove. I'm going to be at 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:06.600 the grove, Like you should come to the grove. I'll 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:08.599 see you there, and she kept tweeting Ashley, and Ashley 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.080 noticed it because she kept tweeting at Ashley saying I'll 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:13.480 be at the grove. She's like, this girl's tweeting me. 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:19.000 This was back in twenty fifteen sixteen. So anyway, Ashley 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.600 forgets about it. Later that day, Ashley ends up at 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.880 the grove and guess who's there but Courtney. And so 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.440 of course Courtney goes up rushes up to Ashley and 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.279 she's like, oh my god, I'm the girl who's tweeting 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.720 at you. I can't believe you're here. And so they 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.600 talked for a while and then Courtney is very warm 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:37.440 and welcoming, and then she's like, I want to work 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:41.680 in the industry, you know, I want to help, Like 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:45.840 I want to be in PR marketing, And so Ashley 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:48.440 in her exchange information and then she's like, you know, 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:51.040 can I help get brand deals for you? And Ashley 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:55.039 is like, you know, sure, of course absolutely. And she's 0:05:55.080 --> 0:06:00.760 a really hard worker and she's savvy, and she's she 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:03.440 started her own company. She's really grown. She's worked with 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:05.400 she worked with a lot of bachelor people like Heather. 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.680 Do you guys remember Heather who was on Colton's season. 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:14.440 Her storyline was she never was kissed. So Heather Martin, 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:17.280 who's been on this podcast before, and so Heather was there, 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:20.160 which was nice. Taylor Nolan was there. She's worked with 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:24.360 Taylor before. I think those are the only two Bachelor 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:26.960 people that were there. But I know she's worked with 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.840 other people as well, but she still worked. She's you know, 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.760 I still work with her and she still does stuff 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:36.440 with Ashley's other podcasts. I don't get it. So Courtney 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:40.040 asked if Ashley would officiate the wedding, and Ashley did 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:42.800 an awesome job. She killed it, crushed it, which I 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:44.880 figured she would. I mean, we're also used to public 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:47.320 speaking at this point that, you know, coming up with 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.320 a yule excuse me, not a eulogy, but like a 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:55.320 speech the opposite of what. Yeah, we all dressed in black. 0:06:57.240 --> 0:07:00.080 But it was very nice, and. 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:03.600 That is it. 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:06.560 I feel like I shouldn't talk about weddings right now 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:10.440 because obviously there's a big wedding coming up. Great. 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:12.400 We like to get the scoop, the inside scoop. What 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:14.760 what did you like about the wedding? How big was it? 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:18.560 What didn't you like about it give us all all 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:19.440 the juicy deats. 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:21.920 I don't know, man, I don't want to make you 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.320 guys self conscious, like I feel like we can't critique 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.840 any I don't feel like I should critique any weddings 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:28.920 right now. And the wedding was beautiful. It was a 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:29.560 great wedding. 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:31.080 It was very. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:35.160 Personalized, which I think Ashley did a great job. You know, 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:37.480 anything Ashley does, she always makes it personal. But I 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:41.680 found that that was so much more endearing because she 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:44.160 really told the story about how she met Courtney and 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:47.240 then how Courtney met Dima, who is her now husband, 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:52.280 and uh, you know, and then she was able to 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.040 talk to a lot of her friends and she really 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.920 told stories about them to meeting in high school and 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:59.120 then being high school sweethearts and then breaking up and 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.200 then getting back to get there, and then Ashley talking 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.520 about how her and Coordinator so similar in a lot 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.559 of ways and everything was so personal. That was really 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:07.960 it was really nice ceremony. 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:10.280 So are you guys like friends of these people or 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.800 is it just kind of like, yeah, we're friends, Okay, 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:16.640 Oh yeah, we're friends with you guys like hanging out 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:17.280 and do stuff. 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:19.680 I mean, we were in La we'd always, like, you know, 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:23.160 we'd get coffee together. She lives in La so I 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:24.960 mean we're never there anymore obviously. 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.720 Right right, right, But this was another thing where that 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.400 they like met once and they thought it'd be cool 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:30.320 to have actually officiate. 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:31.080 But there, you guys are. 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:33.240 We would have said no, we would not have gone. 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:38.120 It was way too long of a travel to sure 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:41.319 have known somebody for one day and be like, yeah, 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:45.040 well we'll fly to Reno to go to your wedding. 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:45.760 Get the hell out of it. 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:47.920 Maybe maybe you guys were feeling generous, but that's awesome, 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:49.439 glad you said fun. Did you guys go on the 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:50.000 lake at all? 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:53.920 No, we had no time because literally flew in Friday, 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:56.240 got in at like seven, went straight to the rehearstal 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.319 of dinner, then went to bed, woke up the next day, 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.240 and then Ashley had to start getting ready with everybody 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.679 consumed deficient. So she was with Courtney and the bridesmaids 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:06.160 all day at like eleven and so I just kind 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:09.719 of was on the computer, walked around. The ceremony was 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:12.640 at four, and then we fool out a five point 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:13.480 forty the next morning. 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:17.120 You don't have to see female officiants. You don't know, 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:19.839 well's I don't know. 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.240 I don't know either. I have an answer for you, 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:25.959 So are you? 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:29.480 Uh? Yeah, I feel like I can't talk about the 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:31.240 wedding because I don't want to talk about things that 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.240 I liked and didn't like. And then have you guys 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:35.000 be like, oh, I didn't think of that, or is 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:35.679 this going to be bad? 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:36.960 It's not gonna hurt our feelings. 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:41.520 Yeah, our feelings aren't easily hurt. And oh yeah, you're 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.440 you're very sensitive. One thing that we're not doing at 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:47.040 the wedding, we're not doing any speeches because we've been 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:48.719 to too many where they go on and on for 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:51.559 so long. So that's something we're standing our ground on. 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.600 Yeah, after Jared Nash's wedding, I said, no more speeches. 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:54.800 No. 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:55.040 No. 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.319 We went to one recently and it just, you know, 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:00.599 I think we talked about on the podcast there of 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:04.120 the bride came out with like stacks stapled paper. It 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:07.240 was probably like ten pages long, and we're like Jesuise 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:09.280 and like nobody can really eat. 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:13.400 Was so no speeches at all, no speech Maybe. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.679 I talked to the DJ yesterday and I said no, 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:20.400 but if you want to he said, I'll put Mike's 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:22.040 at whoever table is speaking. 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:23.600 My brother was like, you have to let me give 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.120 a speech. You have to let me give a speech. 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:32.400 Of course, I'm gonna say something. Speeches are my favorite 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:38.360 part of the wedding because there is nothing that I 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:42.200 love more. Because what listen, the whole reason I'm at 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:45.520 this wedding, anybody's wedding. I'll talk about your specific but 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:50.079 any wedding is to see the two people who I'm 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:52.439 there for and to celebrate their love. And so what 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.600 I love is those It's kind of similar to watching 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.959 Bachelor toooes to an extent, like yes, of course, like 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.600 the traditional stuff of a wedding is great and fun, 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:06.480 but what I am there is to see and like 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.560 be like feel your love and like there's few things 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:15.439 that I now obviously there's you know, certain circumstances with 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:17.760 anybody's wedding in terms of family members or friends of 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:19.400 like who's going to give the speech, who's not going 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:21.800 to give the speech, but like you know, a father 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:25.400 of the bride speech or or you know, even like 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:30.320 your brother's speech, like if it's and now some best 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:33.200 man speeches suck because guys are stupid and they don't 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:35.000 make it personal, and they're like, oh, I'm just going 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:38.400 to tell you know, stupid ass stories about the groom 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:41.040 and how he's a moron, and it's like, no, that's 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.120 not I want to hear about, Like why do you 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:46.760 love your brother or your sister or your son or 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:49.520 your daughter, and like what is it about their significant 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.719 other that you're so excited for them to have like 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.439 bring to the family. Those are the speeches that I 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:56.240 I just I yeah, I really love. 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:58.160 Two of the last speeches of the of the few 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:01.640 weddings we went into, the brother of one of the 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:05.400 groom or bride I can't remember got so drunk and 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.040 so they were just standing up there like slurring their words, 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.640 getting on like an infinite loop where they just kept 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.960 saying the same thing over and both cases, the same 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.319 thing over and over and over again. They started off 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:19.080 and then eventually started realizing that they're just they don't 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.199 know what they're saying. So maybe if we do speeches, 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.040 we would do it before the drinks start flowing. 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.960 Yeah, I don't know, I'm still anti. 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.960 Yeah, no, listen, we can't let jerry your wedding at 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:31.720 our wedding though, if Jared comes back on the stat 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.719 this is the after start saying how disappointed he was. 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.000 This is why I don't want to talk about weddings, 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:39.040 because everybody wants to do their own thing, which you 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:42.720 absolutely should. But as you could tell, Dean's speeches were 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:47.040 very important and impactful part of our rehearsal and wedding itself, 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:50.240 because we really wanted people to hear from our loved ones. 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:54.480 Hypothetically speaking, if you said, okay, there were speeches at 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.760 this wedding, one or two speeches, who would you guys 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:57.720 choose to give speeches? 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.000 Well, I feel still think I'm gonna let my brother 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.240 do it, just because he said he wanted to. I 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:03.760 didn't even think anyone would want to. Whenever anyone asks 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.599 for a speech, I have only been asked to you 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:08.480 one speech. I was like, crap, okay, fine, Yeah, so 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.280 I didn't want to like put it at that burden. 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:10.720 On anyone else. 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:13.040 Yeah. Torris asked a few times as well, and I 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:13.880 keep shooting her down. 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:15.840 Great, you get toy. I would take Brad well. 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:17.640 Then my siblings are't gonna say anything, but they're not 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:23.640 public speakers. It would be interesting. Bella would not even 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:24.559 take the microphone. 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:29.080 So you get one and I'll get one. Let's do that. Okay, yeah, so. 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:31.720 Who I'm not saying you should do this, but so Caitlin, who, 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:32.920 who would you have? 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:36.360 One of my best friends? My siblings just aren't public speakers. 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.120 His brothers, well, one of them is. 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:39.679 One of them is not? 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.680 Yeah, kind of that's what I was like. Ross asked, Well. 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:44.280 Of course you did it. You knew the answer before 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:45.160 you asked the question. 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:46.640 I don't know. 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:49.600 We'll make Jared happy. We'll do two speeches, one for the. 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:56.079 I just love hearing from loved ones about how much 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:59.240 they love you, guys, because it is a celebration of love. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:00.760 We just don't have any It's going to have many 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:02.800 people that love us. So it's tough. It's tough to 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:04.480 first from the bottom of the barrel here. 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:06.679 But I think Dan and I both hate being the 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:09.440 center of attention, and so. 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:10.480 We refer to you. 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.599 Yeah, just have that one day. Just forget about that, 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:15.000 because you will be the center of attention. 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:17.959 Yeah. And it's just like speeches. Oh, I don't know, 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:20.120 if people saying nice things about me, you're gonna give 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.120 uncomfortable you have. 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:25.440 To give a speech. You have to thank everyone for coming. 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:26.280 You do. 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:28.960 You have to tell everyone how special they are to 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.320 you have to go round the room and point out 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:31.960 every single. 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:33.440 Person and tell them how meaningful they are too. 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:38.440 Yeah, I don't know, that's your job. Oh okay, you're 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:40.520 better at this. You've been a podcasts for six years. 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:43.920 Yeah, yeah, that's my job. Well yeah, so I guess 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:45.800 we're going to have two speeches now. Thanks. Thanks for 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.000 the info, Jared. We appreciate it. 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.160 See that's why we're glad that we poked in pride 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:50.280 a little bit and got this out of you. 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:54.040 I'm serious appreciate the speech is sucked. Now it's all 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:54.360 on me. 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:56.280 Well, then you have to step up and give a 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:58.840 speech to mend everything, and and then you'll be the 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:01.520 speech that everyone talks about afterwards about how great it was. 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:06.480 I think in life in general, at least for me specifically, 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.560 it's for some reason I have a hard time actually 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:14.560 saying what I mean in terms of like it's it's 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.600 still weird even with my I mean, of course I 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.560 tell my parents I love them, but like I never 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:22.680 really explain how I feel, you know, in terms of 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:26.080 like what my love is all about? And in weddings, 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.360 there's opportunity to do that and and and they're never weird, 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.880 you know. So someone who gives a good speech and 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:36.880 really it like, hey, not only do I love you, 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:39.760 but this is why I love you, and I have 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:42.640 to really think about exactly like what you mean to 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.720 me and try to explain that to words. And I 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:48.200 love hearing that because I don't hear it that often, 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.360 and even for someone like people that I'm not that 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:54.920 close with, like you know, I'm friends with Courtney and Dmitri, 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.760 but like I'm not that close. But hearing you know, 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:00.720 their family members and their friends talk about what they 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.000 mean to them, of course makes me think about my 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:04.640 own family and my own friends. So that's why I 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.920 love speeches so much, because it's just like this moment 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:11.680 where everybody in the room just becomes super vulnerable and 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:15.120 just talks about their feelings and how much they care 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:17.560 about other people in this room and what they mean 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.600 to them. And I don't know, it's just a cool moment. 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.720 But listen, listen, listen. This is your wedding, not mine. 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.280 Who gives I've had my moment, My moment has passed. 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:27.320 This is your moment, So you guys, do what you 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:29.280 want to do. I will say, to your credit, Jared, 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:32.920 my other brother's wedding, like the impromptu wedding and taw 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.880 funny enough. Actually I did not give a speech out 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.160 and it was tiny. It was like just both of 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:39.920 our families. There's maybe like sixteen people. I regret not 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.760 giving a speech because I regret not being able to 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:44.760 say what Jared was just saying. I regret not being 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:47.760 able to say to my brother in that one moment, 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:50.160 like sure, you could say it any other time, but 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.400 that's the moment where you can really just let it fly, 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:55.480 let that person know how much you love them, how 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:58.920 much you always love them, and it's like not expected, 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:01.880 but it's like, you know, that's the time to do it. 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:04.760 And I regret not I regret not doing it. So 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.680 I see where Jared's coming from. Interesting, But I don't 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.480 think anyone would go to our wedding and have that regret. 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:13.000 Yeah, yeah, I highly doubt that. 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:13.920 That's Wow. 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.200 Again, I'm out of it. 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:17.080 But there are times. 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:19.840 There are times too where I'm on this podcast telling 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:23.560 a story about something. Well this is maybe a little 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:25.960 off topic, but I'm telling a story about something and 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.359 I think I'm doing a great job explaining it, and 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:31.280 I go into great detail and then I listen back 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.040 to it and I'm like, wow, that's where he was 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:33.959 twenty seconds long. 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:37.520 It felt like I was talking for five hours. So 0:17:37.640 --> 0:17:40.080 I don't know. I need to get better at that, 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:40.440 I guess. 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.560 But is that how long your vowls are going to be? 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:43.600 Yeah? Five hours? 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:44.800 No, twenty seconds? 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:47.080 Yeah. Hey, I'm really happy to be here, Kaylen, I 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:48.840