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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for breaking up with my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend because of my friends lies?

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Speaker 2: Break up? Don't go back?

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Speaker 1: Oh, you heard it here first, and we're gonna answer

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Speaker 1: the question today. Should you help bad friends change their ways?

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Speaker 1: Akuna matata a kuna matata? And this story comes from

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Speaker 1: ohc R four P, who says a year ago, I

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Speaker 1: was about to move in with my first serious boyfriend, Josh,

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Speaker 1: with whom I was head over heels in love with,

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Speaker 1: when one of my closest friends said that Josh had

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Speaker 1: showed them a nude photo of me on his phone

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Speaker 1: when he was drunk during a party.

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Speaker 2: Not a good move, joh is Josh, what what are

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Speaker 2: you doing? Broh? That's that's not how you keep a lady. No.

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Speaker 1: Five or six more of my friends coroborated the story

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Speaker 1: and told me that Josh also talked in extreme detail

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Speaker 1: about our spicy sleep sleep life when showing the photo.

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Speaker 2: It was sickeningly detailed.

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Speaker 3: Like an erotic fanfic where it's like he moved his

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Speaker 3: member into my cave of wonders, my.

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Speaker 2: Meat cave, Miami cave. We haven't said he was unbearable,

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Speaker 2: would you?

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Speaker 1: Is that a breakup on the spot?

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Speaker 3: So I had a girl who like had a spicy

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Speaker 3: sleep podcast that she like talked about things.

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Speaker 2: WHOA, Yeah, I was fine. I'm fine, but at.

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Speaker 3: Least there's context, I mean, and she talked in detail

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Speaker 3: about things with her friends about our I'm but I'm

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Speaker 3: fine with it. It's just all just like she comes

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Speaker 3: over to the pot, look, stands on a box and

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Speaker 3: starts a ted talk. I mean, maybe not that, but

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Speaker 3: if it's with her close friends, I don't think I

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Speaker 2: He knows he's good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Maybe if it was like this guy sucks and like

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Speaker 2: maybe if you.

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Speaker 4: Didn't have like a size twelve foot you see a

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Speaker 4: little insecure about it, you know.

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Speaker 2: Comments, I'll let you go crazy with that one. Maybe.

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Speaker 2: I mean for me, I don't think it would be

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Speaker 1: Fair enough because he'll just be bragging comments, comments, let

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Speaker 1: us know how you feel. So this did not sound

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Speaker 1: like Josh at all. When I asked him what the

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Speaker 1: f was going on, he denied everything. He eventually got

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Speaker 1: very angry and started calling all of my friends liars,

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Speaker 1: and at one point he showed up at my place

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Speaker 1: while some of them were visiting, and things got a

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Speaker 1: little physical. It was really a very strange turn of

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Speaker 1: events in my life. Josh seems so worked up, and

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Speaker 1: all my close friends were calling him a liar. Josh

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Speaker 1: had taken photos of me on his phone, which I

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Speaker 1: know was stupid, but in the heat of the moment

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Speaker 1: up with Josh.

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Speaker 2: Whoa over over Gosh, don't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Also just a bad move to share pictures, such

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Speaker 3: a bad such a bad move, like like share pictures,

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Speaker 3: talk about it, like, unless you're trying to support your

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Speaker 1: That is a completely different AFT model. Yeah, if she

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Speaker 1: if she's, if she's on that.

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Speaker 3: That that grind model, OAF model, OAF model. Can we

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Speaker 3: can say oth model mode oath works great, oathworks.

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Speaker 1: But it was heart wrenching to break up, and Josh

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Speaker 1: begged me to believe him. He started tearing up, nearly

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Speaker 1: months later, I started dating one of the friends, Alex,

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Speaker 1: who had told me about Josh showing everyone of the photo.

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Speaker 3: Wait she started dating I see you in the comments

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Speaker 3: I sent.

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Speaker 2: Sabotage's right for the saboteur.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that is so you're the one that basically dropped

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Speaker 1: the smoking gun evidence that caused a breakup, and you

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Speaker 1: start dating that person he pursues you. It's like it's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: someone died and you would are inherit the whole four

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Speaker 1: you know, it's like there's a little bit of motive here.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he just saw it and was like, I got

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I feel like there's something I'm missing. No, no,

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Speaker 2: I was Riley.

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Speaker 3: Riley is saying he saw the pictures, like, oh, I'm

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Speaker 3: down to get some of that. But I think what

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Speaker 2: I think it made up this story. Ah, I see,

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Speaker 2: I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: So well, A little sus a little sus Parah says, says.

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Speaker 2: All of my friends were pushing me to date Alex

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Speaker 2: at the time.

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Speaker 1: The guy who shared the picture we didn't really or

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Speaker 1: really sink and it didn't go past a few months,

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Speaker 1: but we remained friends of sorts. So today another friend

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Speaker 1: sends me a message that says he just wanted to

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Speaker 1: get something off of his chest. The story about Josh

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Speaker 1: wasn't true. We I see you, I see you, we

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Speaker 2: We got it. We're on it, big brain.

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Speaker 1: After talking to a few other people, including Alex, it's

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Speaker 1: like multiple friends.

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Speaker 3: That's it's crazy that they all collaborated on this.

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Speaker 1: What friend would be like, Oh, hey, could you like

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Speaker 3: Way too loyal of a friend that is willing to

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Speaker 3: basically incriminate themselves and go out on their morals.

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Speaker 1: You know what, they're evil friends, so they're evil to

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Speaker 2: Do their evil bidding. Yeah, yeah, it's a it's like

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Speaker 2: a like an evil kingdom, evil.

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Speaker 1: Kingdom, yes, an evil roundtable of devilish knights. It was

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Speaker 1: this effing orchestrated BS event that totally changed my life forever.

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Speaker 1: Apparently they hated Josh and thought he was bad for

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Speaker 1: me and an a hole, so they do this. So

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Speaker 1: you think the movie is to help someone lie that

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Speaker 1: they're sharing some noodies.

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Speaker 3: I guess so far by fire with fire, dude, my

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Speaker 1: That was my effing decision, and I am shaking right now.

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Speaker 1: I cried in the office bathroom for about two hours afterwards.

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Speaker 1: I loved Josh so much, Keywards loved past tense. We

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Speaker 1: I'm supposed to stop talking to my friends, right, Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean they're not really your friends that they're lying

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Speaker 3: let's see receipts before you just believe hearsay.

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Speaker 1: Yes, although, in Opie's defense, many people coming up to

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Speaker 2: This up and this happened.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that is a version of it is not It's

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Speaker 3: definitely not Opie's fault in any way. But I feel like,

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's it's best for you if you're in that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, oh, like then what is the tattoo

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Speaker 3: in my butt? If you saw the photos there we go.

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Speaker 1: Great, great one, there we go. I cannot possibly come

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Speaker 1: back from this and still talk to them, right, you shouldn't.

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Speaker 1: This basically nukes my group of friends. But how can

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Speaker 2: Also?

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Speaker 1: I need closure with Josh? Can I call him? Should

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Speaker 3: What do I do? And there's an update? Honestly, but

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Speaker 3: this is such an easy one. It's so easy thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's those are not your friends, yep. Or if they

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Speaker 3: are your friends, they shouldn't be because their morals are

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Speaker 3: And then I think, yeah, I reach out to Josh

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Speaker 3: but I just want to know I found out that

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Speaker 3: my friends were lying. I'm so sorry I hurt you.

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Speaker 2: Well, riddle me this.

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Speaker 1: You you reach out to Josh, and Josh is like

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Speaker 1: ifing hate you, you believed a lies? Da da da

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Speaker 1: da da da, But you really want the relationship? Do

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Speaker 1: you still try to pursue the relationship and make them

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Speaker 3: I mean, like as much as just saying the truth.

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Speaker 3: But I think if you don't deserve his attention or company,

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Speaker 1: It's it's kind of a weird scenario though, because, like I,

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Speaker 2: Well actually actually actually I don't know.

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Speaker 1: If Op asked for other friends to come forward or

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Speaker 1: if they just volunteered, So we don't know if she

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Speaker 1: did her her own diligence. Right, it seems like they

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Speaker 1: all were collaborating on this lie together. Oh, they absolutely were,

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Speaker 1: five or six friends cooborated the story, yeah, and told

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Speaker 1: I think if I was Josh and this happened to me,

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Speaker 1: not go I probably wouldn't go back to that relationship,

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Speaker 1: And I think like OP can do something like I

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Speaker 1: just found out that it always a lie. I am

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Speaker 1: so sorry for what I put you through. I know

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Speaker 1: you probably don't want to see me at all, but

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Speaker 1: if you ever want to talk about things or need

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Speaker 1: an enclosure or just friendship, I'm there, but take all

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Speaker 3: Tell me to FAF.

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Speaker 1: I always just hate these stories because they're just victims

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, yeah, like Op's not in the wrong,

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Speaker 3: Josh is not in the wrong. It's just a crappy,

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Speaker 2: Great point.

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Speaker 1: Well, ladies and gentlemen, guess what we know whether or

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Speaker 1: not Opie reached out because there's enough.

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Speaker 2: Up day let go.

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Speaker 1: So, even though everyone seemed to think it was a

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Speaker 1: terrible idea, I sent Josh an email on Friday. Did

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Speaker 1: you ask the people who also told you about the

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Speaker 1: photo and lie to you?

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Speaker 2: Probably? Reddit?

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Speaker 3: Come on, uh read it. Reddit is so vindictive, They're like,

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Speaker 3: probably just dine in a hole. Yeah, destroy yourself in

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Speaker 3: front of Josh, because that's what you deserve.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you, instead of using your fingers to type

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Speaker 1: an email, just use your fingers to dig your own

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Speaker 1: grave and stay there.

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Speaker 3: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, red it read it is it'd be like that.

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Speaker 2: That's true. But we have the email. Josh.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you are still connected to anyone

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Speaker 1: on Facebook, but if you are, you probably already know

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Speaker 1: why I'm sending this, and I know it is totally

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Speaker 1: unfair and selfish to contact you, but I cannot imagine

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Speaker 1: going through the rest of my life without apologizing. Great start,

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Speaker 1: So before I say a bunch of embarrassing things, more

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Speaker 3: It's great.

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Speaker 2: W Josh, W Josh.

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Speaker 1: We discussed what we were doing, two single people dating

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Speaker 2: Trust him to the core.

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Speaker 1: He could tell me the world was flat, and I'd

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: But this is is such a miscarriage. Yeah, justice, yeah,

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Speaker 2: But literally it was Alex plus five or six friends.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when your whole friend group corroborates a story, it's

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Speaker 2: But shall we get into this next story? Let's do it?

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Speaker 3: My friends and I pe by female. We're all on

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Speaker 1: Oh no or so an earthquake reported in Poundtown, USA,

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Speaker 2: In college, I was in a punk bed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, have the decency to accident, just be at least

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Speaker 1: Like that is when I lived with thirty people that

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00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,160
Speaker 1: actually didn't happen.

443
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 2: But I think that's crazy. I didn't. Here's the reason why.

444
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 1: I think because one I was only there for three months,

445
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: and two I think there were so many people that

446
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if anyone was.

447
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 2: Like like that's that's an audience.

448
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 1: That is that is that is a studio audience right there,

449
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,639
Speaker 1: Oh Jerry Seinfeld studio audience.

450
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,160
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean this is also like very different. If

451
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 3: you don't you can't just go at it like that's insane.

452
00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:00,200
Speaker 4: I do have questions for you, Sam after this story.

453
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 2: Like stay around till the end.

454
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 4: Well, like, okay, did you and like your roommate agree

455
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 4: on this or did you guys just let it happen

456
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 4: and then you figured out.

457
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 3: I mean like most of the time I was asleep,

458
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 3: but it's like, I mean you had like a girlfriend

459
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,480
Speaker 3: for a while and I was just asleep, And then

460
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 3: if I wasn't, I would.

461
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,719
Speaker 2: Wait, would you get up in the moment?

462
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,639
Speaker 3: I mean, like it's I think you're imagic. It's not

463
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 3: like it's more of like a like a cuddle. But

464
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, something's going on here.

465
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:36,000
Speaker 2: Okay.

466
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:39,439
Speaker 3: It's like it's not like you're seeing people fully naked.

467
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 3: It's like they're cuddling, but there's a little bit more

468
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 3: like I can't see hands.

469
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 2: It's not an of scene. No, it's not. It's not.

470
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 3: It's not like like these people are fully going at it.

471
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 3: That's different.

472
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,919
Speaker 1: Hey, Sam's golden rule, just don't go fully at it.

473
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:57,920
Speaker 1: I think the roster.

474
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know, I'm not. I think there's a

475
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: little bit too much. I literally jumped out of the bed.

476
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 3: They tried to cover up as fast as they could,

477
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 3: but I had already seen things I'll never forget. I

478
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 3: was seeing red lull. It triggered a crappy memory from childhood.

479
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,640
Speaker 3: I all know where I had been in a very

480
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 3: similar situation with my parents trauma. I yelled at them

481
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 3: straight up, started insulting both of them, and I said

482
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 3: some pretty mean stuff. I then dashed out of the

483
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 3: room and spent the night on the couch in the cold.

484
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 3: The next morning, my other friend, who found me on

485
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 3: the couch, asked me about what happened and that she

486
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 3: heard me yelling last night. I told her the whole story,

487
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 3: and for some reason she found it funny. When everyone

488
00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 3: else found out what happened, they started laughing and making

489
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 3: which I didn't mind since it lightened the mood a

490
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 3: little bit. Nancy the guy Rick soon came out of

491
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 3: the room as well. Everyone told me to just forget

492
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 3: about it and enjoy the rest of the trip, but

493
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 3: Nancy told me that I was way too rude for

494
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,959
Speaker 3: something so silly. Rick didn't say much. He looked kind

495
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 3: of embarrassed of the whole thing, which, yeah, it's it

496
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 3: is embarrassing. Yeah. I told Nancy that they could have

497
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 3: woke me up and asked me to leave. They were horny,

498
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 3: and that I had every right to be mad because

499
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 3: you don't start banging on a bed where someone is

500
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 3: literally sleeping. Yeah, in the same bed. Ikey, Yeah, it's

501
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,920
Speaker 3: this is this is on you, Nancy. Yeah. Nancy said

502
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 3: that I was overreacting and it was not that deep.

503
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 3: Sounded like it was pretty deep. Oh God. I was

504
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,360
Speaker 3: annoyed and pissed and told her to stay away from

505
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 3: me the rest of the trip since we were all

506
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 3: there to enjoy. Now that we're back, Nancy refuses to

507
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 3: talk to me and is adamant in saying that I

508
00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 3: was the one who was at fault and being a

509
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,399
Speaker 3: pain in the butt in general. She's calling me a urgent,

510
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 3: which I am, and claiming that I'm just jealous that

511
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,679
Speaker 3: she is more desirable than me. That's not cool. She

512
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 3: said all this to my face in private, so no

513
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 3: one in the group knows. Everyone in the friend group

514
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 3: thinks I should just let it go and reconcile with

515
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 3: Nancy and Rick, But Nancy keeps putting all the blame

516
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 3: on me, and it's getting on.

517
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 2: My nerve now.

518
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:25,639
Speaker 3: So am I the a hole? There is an update?

519
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 3: There is an update, But you like you should never.

520
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 4: Are your friends of Virgin, no matter how true it

521
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 4: might be, seemed to.

522
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 3: Be I I think, all right here, so golden rules talk,

523
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,199
Speaker 3: Golden rules of spicy sleep?

524
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 2: Whoa gold spicy with friends present?

525
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 3: With friends present? All right?

526
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 2: One, if you don't know them, well off it can't

527
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 2: do it? Or actually, right, well, use of friendship? How

528
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:01,679
Speaker 2: many years of friendship? Like ooh, at least one.

529
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 3: I think it's more like are you living in the

530
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 3: same room and how old are you? I think it's

531
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 3: more like are you living in the same room. I

532
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 3: don't know, it's like.

533
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, if you live in the same room, it's yeah.

534
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 3: But I think here are the things that they did wrong.

535
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 3: What they did wrong? Is they it was in the

536
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 3: same bed. That's gross that that you should not do. No,

537
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 3: that's a little bit too too far. But also like

538
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 3: I think the other thing is they like they're putting

539
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 3: blame on op where it's like they were the ones

540
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 3: that totally transgressed boundaries like that. That's just that's it

541
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 3: is not cool to to do that to another person.

542
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 1: If I walk up to Riley and slap him in

543
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: the face for no reason, I can't be mad.

544
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 2: If he slaps him.

545
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 3: Back twice, yeah, And it's like it must be consensual,

546
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 3: like you kind of have to have like an agreement.

547
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 2: Basically.

548
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you're saying, if you have sex beside me once,

549
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 4: I can have sex bes you twice.

550
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:04,120
Speaker 2: That's what you said.

551
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 1: If I was saying, I was using John's famous analogy

552
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 1: to illustrate the point of like, because Nancy and Rick

553
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:16,440
Speaker 1: were the ones that did the wrong thing, they can't

554
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 1: be mad that Opie quote unquote overreacted. You gotta know that,

555
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: like you did the wrong thing something, you might get

556
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 1: some blowback.

557
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: Like that's that's what happens.

558
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 3: If Riley and I shared a bunk bed for a year, Yes,

559
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 3: I would expect and Riley had a girlfriend, I would

560
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 3: expect that something would be going on while I was

561
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 3: sleeping at some point. If he's having his girlfriend stay

562
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 3: over all the time.

563
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 2: Do you get top or bottom? I had bottom when

564
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 2: I was in college. I like the bottom one power bottom. Nice. Yeah,

565
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 2: So would you be mad? No, I would. I would

566
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: expect to have are all friend, I would expect it.

567
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'd be upset if you had a girlfriend having

568
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 4: sex in the book, though, you would be upset.

569
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 2: Oh, Sam, let me sleep.

570
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm a deep sleeper.

571
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 2: I like, but what if what if?

572
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 1: Okay, you both have a girl and then you there's

573
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: like a an even exchange like Okay, sometimes we're doing it,

574
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: sometimes they're doing it, but you know it's like part

575
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 1: of the.

576
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: Which is which like honestly, which is kind of what

577
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: happens in college where it's just like I mean, like

578
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 3: you're not I feel like it's you're you're definitely not

579
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 3: going like crazy or anything.

580
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 2: It's just it's it's just like subtle movements. I feel

581
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 2: like many people in college have experienced.

582
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, like all like all the time. I mean, if

583
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 3: you haven't lived in a triple with a bunch of

584
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 3: like people guys or girls, yeah, I feel like maybe

585
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 3: it feels weird, but I don't know, like if it

586
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 3: happened to me so many times, just desensitized. But Lydia Whittaker,

587
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 3: when it comes to roommates, you need to communicate. So

588
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 3: it's like it's it's it's really you know what, that's

589
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 3: really just what people are comfortable with. So yeah, but

590
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 3: there is an update. Oh there is an update.

591
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 2: Well let's see it. Update.

592
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 3: Someone asked me to update, So here you go. I

593
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 3: don't think they'll let me update on this sub so

594
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 3: I'll just put it here for anyone who's interested. Turns out,

595
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 3: Nancy and Rick, we're using me to Oh oh, this

596
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 3: makes them even more of the dick. Turns out, Nancy

597
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 3: and Rick, we're using me to fulfill some weird, spicy

598
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 3: sleep fantasy. And the whole group was in on it. No,

599
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 3: they were already in the wrong. Holy dude, this makes

600
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 3: it so much worse. Yeah, this is crazy. They all

601
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 3: knew that Rick and Nancy were planning on doing something

602
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: like this, and they both did it with me, particularly

603
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 3: because I'm waiting for marriage to have and am still

604
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 3: a virgin. That is evil, bro, that is so bad evil.

605
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 3: I've been an inside joke in the friend group for

606
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 3: god knows who for how long, and I had no

607
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 3: idea they thought of me like that. Oh, they think

608
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 3: just because I'm waiting for marriage, I'm a loser who

609
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 3: can't get anybody to sleep with me, as if I'm

610
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 3: not a sane adult who can make her own choices

611
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 3: regarding her own damn body.

612
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 1: Dump Allsy's friends. This is awful. Are you kidding me?

613
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 1: This is horrendous.

614
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 3: Two people in the group had done this exact same

615
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 3: thing with another girl, but that girl had laughed it off,

616
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 3: so they saw nothing wrong with it. They just thought

617
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 3: it would be funny to prank me like that. A

618
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 3: guy in the same group told me all this privately

619
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 3: after I shared the link of the original post in

620
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: the group chat. He said that he would have told

621
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 3: me on the trip itself, but he got pressured into

622
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 3: staying quiet because it will ruin the fun I'm truly disgusted.

623
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 3: Rick did apologize, but I haven't heard from Nancy. The

624
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 3: others who were laughing said they didn't think it would

625
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 3: be a big deal and wouldn't have participated if they

626
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 3: knew it would make me uncomfortable. They don't know that

627
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: I know about all the jokes they make on me

628
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 3: behind my back, and all the apologies came only after

629
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 3: I shared the post and made them read what the

630
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,959
Speaker 3: comments were saying. I've decided to ghost them all together.

631
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: I'd rather have no friends than associate myself with a

632
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 3: bunch of judgmental idiots who act like sixteen year olds.

633
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 3: I also wanted to clarify that my childhood memory I

634
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 3: had mentioned wasn't abusive. My parents were doing it beside me,

635
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 3: thinking I was asleep. Oh my god, hook up from

636
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 3: the noise they were making the room was dark. I

637
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 3: didn't see anything except their silhouettes, and they never realized

638
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 3: that I was awake from God. Oh, thank you to

639
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 3: everyone who showed their support gave advice.

640
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 2: Bro Opie has been so traumatized.

641
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 3: That is disgusting.

642
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 2: Dude, that is like heinous.

643
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 3: Also, the whole friend group being in on their kink

644
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 3: is crazy.

645
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: No, leave the friend group. Whack.

646
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 1: Okay, so back to the question again, It's like, do

647
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 1: you try to change bad friends?

648
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 3: It's like, yes, well, it's like the whole friend group.

649
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 3: Maybe that one person that came forward you could be.

650
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 2: You mean no, right, he said yes, he said do

651
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 2: you try to change friends? Yeah? You do? You try to?

652
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 2: Oh no, oh.

653
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 3: Change friends isn't like change friend groups?

654
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: No?

655
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: No, as in, do you try to like make them

656
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: see the error of their ways?

657
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 2: No, I think that's a nukemb and run and run. Yeah,

658
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 2: maybe that one guy.

659
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: But also but also he was pressured into like not

660
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: saying any.

661
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Speaker 3: Anything, which like weird, Yeah, such a bad friend group

662
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Speaker 3: this cause is yeah, it's not it's not it's not

663
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 3: a kink. It is a I mean it's not consensual.

664
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,240
Speaker 3: It's non consensual. And it's like they're you're you're including

665
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 3: someone in a sexual act that is non consensual. Yeah,

666
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Speaker 3: which and it and it's like also from the sounds

667
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 3: of it's not like they were trying to be subtle

668
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,280
Speaker 3: or something or trying to like like they were literally

669
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 3: their intention was to be loud and.

670
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Speaker 2: Include and have oh P witness it.

671
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Speaker 3: Bro.

672
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Speaker 2: Yeah, whack