1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:00,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. 2 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 2: So British singer songwriter Lily Allen opened up about her 3 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 2: own relationship red flags and that she didn't have the 4 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 2: healthiest dynamic with her first romantic partner. She said, not 5 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 2: only did I not want to touch or be cuddled 6 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:14,240 Speaker 2: or be kissed by anyone in my family, I couldn't 7 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 2: engage in it with them either. I was like, this 8 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 2: person is where I've put that now, And she went 9 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 2: on she said, it's incredibly a red flag codependent behavior 10 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 2: that I just put all of my emotional dependency on 11 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: that one person. And I want to talk about codependency 12 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 2: because I don't think like, when you're with somebody for 13 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 2: a really long time, you start to depend on, like 14 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:41,919 Speaker 2: you start to have dependency on another person. So does 15 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 2: that make you codependent? And then how do you stop 16 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 2: that from happening? You know, Like, I've never been in 17 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 2: a relationship as long as the one I'm in now, 18 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,199 Speaker 2: and you know, you hear about codependency all the time, 19 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 2: and I want to be independent, you know, like I 20 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 2: want to be independent in a relationship, And so I 21 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 2: thought it was interesting that she was talking about that 22 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 2: she saw that in herself, and I was like, how 23 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 2: do you stop yourself from becoming codependent. 24 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:06,680 Speaker 3: Break that cycle. You have to get out of it. 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 3: And when you're in a relationship where you're not codependent, 26 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 3: you can compare, like, oh my gosh, I was like 27 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 3: that in that last relationship. It was so bad. 28 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 2: But can't you see yourself going down that path. 29 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:17,960 Speaker 3: It's hard and then you'll have friends tell you and 30 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 3: then you don't want to believe them, and it's like 31 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 3: a really slippery slope. 32 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: Can I say something, yeah, oh you're here. Yeah, you 33 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:29,839 Speaker 1: guys are into that codependency. Cha. I think I'm both. 34 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: I'm codependent and independent, which is a total conflict in 35 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: my head. 36 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 3: But I don't think that is bad. If you have 37 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,959 Speaker 3: a balance of it, it's not good. You can't just 38 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 3: be super independent. 39 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: It's like I'm forced to be independent, but I'm really codependent. 40 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 2: I don't think you're codependent. 41 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 3: I think here, I think you love love like you 42 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 3: love to be coddled. Every now and then. 43 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 2: I think. 44 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: I'm forced into independence, but yearning code of dependance. 45 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 2: Interesting. 46 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 3: Thanks for Let me chime in on that anytime.