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Speaker 1: Much they're paid us the bucks to help this show

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Speaker 1: stay alive. My former best friend is stalking me. I

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Speaker 1: think they just miss you and trigger warning for stalking

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Speaker 1: and intimidation. Location East Tennessee, USA.

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Speaker 2: This is in Knoxville, I or John Johnson, Yes, I

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Speaker 1: Well, there you go. I don't think anything illegal has occurred,

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Speaker 1: but I think the situation is spiraling in that direction.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting letters in the mail and now phone calls

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Speaker 1: ten years. He won't stop. This has been going on

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Speaker 1: for about two years now. I'm really scared he's going

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Speaker 1: out and innocent children get caught in the crossfire.

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Speaker 2: I might know who this is.

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Speaker 1: That's terrifying. By the way, this comes from Hopeful Muppet

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, I'm kinda from East Tennessee.

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Speaker 1: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Goofy,

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Speaker 1: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 1: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 1: do in the comments and background. This dude used to

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Speaker 1: be my best friend in middle school. In high school,

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Speaker 1: was well aware of rumors that he was crushing on me,

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Speaker 1: so now and then I would sprinkle my feelings into conversations.

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Speaker 1: Dating is gross, stupid, waste of time. I don't like guys,

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Speaker 1: et cetera.

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Speaker 2: I don't like other guys, is what he heard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he said. He said dating is gross when it's

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Speaker 1: not you. Dating is stupid when it's not with you.

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Speaker 1: Dating is such a waste of time when I'm not

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Speaker 2: Unless you's gonna save you from this, don't you worry.

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Speaker 1: I thought I covered all my bases, but he still

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Speaker 2: This might have happened to my friend Nina back in

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Speaker 1: So you might know this guy.

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Speaker 2: I don't know the guy that I know.

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Speaker 1: OP should text her? I might this year.

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Speaker 1: Forward to two years ago. I got a letter in

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Speaker 1: It's obviously sketchy as heck, so I ignored it. Then

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Speaker 1: My instincts are right ninety nine percent of the time,

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Speaker 1: I briefly entertain calling his local police department to talk

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Speaker 1: I've never had problems like this before. Can someone please

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Speaker 2: I waity remember a story yeah where this take was

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: What this person is They got a boyfriend, and this

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Speaker 1: This is really ye oh yeah I read this story.

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Speaker 2: The stock's blood. Yeah, not of their own blood, that's

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Speaker 1: That's probably the most dangerous thing you can do in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they all have your back, and that's the most

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Speaker 3: They'd need the return address to know how to return

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Speaker 2: Guys. I'm getting together a business called working on the name,

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Speaker 2: But essentially we come to your stalker's house, tell him

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Speaker 2: I need to be skilled? Yes, tall people. I need

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Speaker 2: teddy bear, but like are also incidating. If you have them,

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Speaker 2: send me their contact information. Yeah, please, I would love

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Speaker 3: Also, what chat pointed out, I just double checked he

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Speaker 1: Here's some steps you can take to assert that legal right.

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Speaker 1: Tell your employer that this guy is stocking you, to

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Speaker 1: request a restraining order. You can do this right now, too,

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Speaker 1: but more documentation equals better. You can also go to

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Speaker 1: a restraining order served against him, his local cop should

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Speaker 1: confiscate any weapons he might have. I wish you the

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Speaker 1: best of luck, and OP says, thank you so much

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Speaker 2: I also got an update. What so instead of me

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Speaker 2: making this company, there's already a system in place. Biker

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Speaker 2: gangs there you go. Sorry, sorry, biker clubs.

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Speaker 1: That is not how that works.

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Speaker 1: Apparently ignoring his attempts for two years doesn't automatically equate

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Speaker 1: Well, somewhat recently. I guess it's not like a terrible

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Speaker 1: I had a dream that I was driving on the

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Speaker 1: highway and some guy motioned for me to pull roll

437
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Speaker 1: down my window and I was like no, So I

438
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:43,119
Speaker 1: rolled down a little bit and then he sticks. He

439
00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:44,639
Speaker 1: goes to stick his hand and so I try to

440
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 1: roll it up, but his hand's blocking, so I roll

441
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Speaker 1: it down more. He like reaches warding yanks me out

442
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Speaker 1: of my car, and I woke up and then I

443
00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:55,160
Speaker 1: turned and like in my adult sleep like sleep state,

444
00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:58,440
Speaker 1: thought I saw something like yelled, and then like went

445
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Speaker 1: under the covers for like five minutes, and then I

446
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 1: was like, wait, what's going on? And then I fully

447
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,240
Speaker 1: woke up and was like, I'm fine, and that's a

448
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Speaker 1: vision from God or my wedding plans.

449
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Speaker 2: We're your wedding plans. What about you, Carly? What's your

450
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 2: latest dream?

451
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Speaker 3: I have really weird dreams. My latest dream h included

452
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Speaker 3: dream Keon being a little witch boy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I was mad at him.

454
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Speaker 3: I woke up and I was like, dream Keon, dream

455
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Speaker 3: Keon's in trouble.

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Speaker 1: Oh I thought you meant like he was a witch. No,

457
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Speaker 1: you mean like be born? Yeah, okay, gotcha?

458
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah yeah yeah.

459
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Speaker 1: I was like he's been a little a hole. I

460
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Speaker 1: got you.

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Speaker 3: You were in it too, though.

462
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Speaker 1: You were lovely. Ah shus, thanks, You're not in my dreams.

463
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Speaker 2: Okay, girlways mean to me. She then likened herself to

464
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Speaker 2: an artist with divine inspiration and went on for about

465
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Speaker 2: twenty minutes about the details of her inspiration and how

466
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 2: beautiful and uniting this wedding would be that would change

467
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Speaker 2: lives and be so much more than a ceremony, and

468
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Speaker 2: that the execution was so perfect it would be more

469
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Speaker 2: of a visual statement, an artistic dedication to love that

470
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Speaker 2: everyone will be living a part of Okay, I kind

471
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 2: of like this, in this beautiful, perfect wedding, I'm to

472
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Speaker 2: be at the front line of the aisle, playing the

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Speaker 2: violin as her guests arrive in a long white gown,

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Speaker 2: feathered and beaded and soft. Very romantic. I will know

475
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Speaker 2: it whenever I see it, I laughed and told her

476
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Speaker 2: I've never played the violin before. Ana such may have

477
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Speaker 2: a hard time performing for her guests. She told me

478
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Speaker 2: that I had a year to learn it and that

479
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Speaker 2: this was extremely important to her.

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Speaker 1: She's looking at you, and she says, I need you

481
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Speaker 1: to play the violin, and I need you to play

482
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Speaker 1: it like no one's ever played before.

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Speaker 2: I like how this is so beautiful to her. This

484
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Speaker 2: might work out. It may be more than just a wedding.

485
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Speaker 2: It might be like the best thing since sliced bread.

486
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Speaker 1: You're about to be a famous violin player. Yeah, I

487
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Speaker 1: can only think of a cello players. Yoom. That's the

488
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Speaker 1: only one I had to You're about to be the

489
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Speaker 1: next yo yo ma. If you played the violin.

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Speaker 3: Wrong strings the next and Sophie muttered about to be

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Speaker 3: the next and Sophie mutter.

492
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Speaker 2: I looked at what I could of her beautiful wedding notes.

493
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Speaker 2: They seemed really intense, lots of stuff, fevershly circled or

494
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 2: written over and over like inspect what you expect repeatedly

495
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Speaker 2: and all in white, literally scribbled over other words, copied

496
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Speaker 2: into big paragraphs. The part she showed me of my

497
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 2: role just said my name, violent, soft, complex, beautiful and

498
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Speaker 2: integrate concerto, lots of details, while the guests.

499
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Speaker 1: It's just nonsense. Yeah, I can't. I can't even like

500
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Speaker 1: the guess the dreams white concerto crescendos like this threat

501
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 1: from a bad woman.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm kind of leaning towards that now. I don't

503
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Speaker 2: know how to play the violin at all. I've literally

504
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 2: never touched one, probably don't even know what it looks like.

505
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Speaker 1: Do I hold it here like a guitar.

506
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 2: Shannon feverish and flitting from topic to topic, talking about

507
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Speaker 2: how maybe I can compose something. But she wanted it

508
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 2: to sound so intricate that no one would believe it

509
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Speaker 2: was just one person playing it. Beyond normal bride stuff.

510
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,880
Speaker 1: So she wants you to not only play the violin

511
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Speaker 1: at her wedding, have.

512
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,199
Speaker 2: Multiple layers of a violin plane, but also play the

513
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Speaker 2: violin in a way that no one's ever played a

514
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Speaker 2: violin before.

515
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Speaker 3: Just don't learn to play the violin. Yeah, and then

516
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Speaker 3: it'll sound like no one's ever heard before.

517
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Speaker 2: So true.

518
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Speaker 1: Oh pee, I'm gonna teach you a little.

519
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 2: I'm gonna teach you another one.

520
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what you do. You go up to her

521
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Speaker 1: and you just say no, that's about it.

522
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Speaker 2: Or if you actually love this person, you say yes.

523
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Speaker 2: You dedicate every single free second.

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Speaker 1: Of your life violin, and then you become the next

525
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Speaker 1: Lindsay Sterling.

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Speaker 2: When I told her, even if I did have a

527
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Speaker 2: year to learn how to play, it would be basic

528
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Speaker 2: at best, she slammed her hand on the table and said, stop,

529
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Speaker 2: my god, and she went right back to her cherry,

530
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Speaker 2: exciting talk about her divine wedding. She don't high off

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Speaker 2: this thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she's actually having a mental breakdown.

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Speaker 2: I very gently tried to refuse and offer to find

534
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Speaker 2: a professional play for her. She just said, hm, no, no,

535
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 2: has to be you. I'm sure of it, and went

536
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 2: back to talking as if I had suggested wearing a

537
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Speaker 2: hat to the beach.

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Speaker 1: This is a prophecy, now, oh.

539
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Speaker 2: She then dropped a bomb. Besides, I already bought your violin,

540
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Speaker 2: and it was almost two thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Okay, op, genuinely, you gotta start learning how to play

542
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Speaker 1: the violin. She just bought you a two thousand dollars violin.

543
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Speaker 1: She's gonna give you a two thousand dollars violin, maybe

544
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Speaker 1: for free.

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Speaker 2: What I don't know how to play. I told her

546
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Speaker 2: she was being insane, but she kept making no noises

547
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Speaker 2: or putting up her hands, saying enough. Eventually, she told

548
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Speaker 2: me the violin would be here in a few weeks

549
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Speaker 2: and that I needed to find someone who gives lessons

550
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Speaker 2: and learn. She said she believed in me.

551
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Speaker 1: Do it for the plot.

552
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Speaker 2: Learn. She told me that worst case scenario, I get

553
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Speaker 2: to learn a skill most people would love to learn,

554
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Speaker 2: and that if I do well, I give the violin.

555
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 2: It's a payment. I don't want a violin. I don't

556
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Speaker 2: want to play. Then she left, and here I am founded. Okay,

557
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 2: this is where I have problem.

558
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Speaker 1: I think you have to do it now, No, I

559
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: think so. Now we've swapped. Now, I really want you

560
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Speaker 1: to do it.

561
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Speaker 2: I was thinking there was going to be payment at

562
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Speaker 2: the other end of this. No, two thousand dollars violin

563
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: that's going to depreciate by the time over a year.

564
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Speaker 1: I think. I think, you tell her you how to

565
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: pay for my lessons, and then I'll do it.

566
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 2: I think, lessons and time, free.

567
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Speaker 3: Violin, pay for my lessons and pay for my time

568
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,640
Speaker 3: at the wedding, at the wedding, and then the violin.

569
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 2: No, no, no, but pay for the lessons as you're learning it.

570
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Speaker 3: I said that, I said, I said, free violin, pay

571
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Speaker 3: for my lessons, and potentially pay for me to play

572
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Speaker 3: at your wedding, because now I'm a professional violin player.

573
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: Now I've learned how to professionally play.

574
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 2: But I thought, like paying as you're learning kind of thing.

575
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 1: I don't want to learn. Yeah, but see I want to.

576
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing this for you.

577
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Speaker 2: All right, all right, all right, all right, realistically, Angie,

578
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:53,880
Speaker 2: I'm getting married September thirtieth next year. Yeah, no joke.

579
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: Actually I want you to be play the violin ten number.

580
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Speaker 1: To play the violin.

581
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, wait are you playing? Are you paying for the violin?

582
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 3: I'm paying you just ten thousand flat yes, to get

583
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:08,160
Speaker 3: a violin lap Yeah.

584
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

585
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 3: You can buy such a cheap violin and still do

586
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 3: the same, Like I don't need a two thousand dollars violin.

587
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: Can buy one thousand dollars I do, I mean would

588
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: I'm buying a one thousand dollars violin, and then I'm

589
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: spending you know, let's say like one fifty per lesson,

590
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 1: like for the best of the best. I'm getting so

591
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: good at the violin, I'm doing it. I totally. If

592
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: I was ope and the person said that she would

593
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 1: pay for lessons, I would do it.

594
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,400
Speaker 3: My thing with the needing payment for the wedding too,

595
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 3: is I can already tell how crazy this girl is

596
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: going to be about her wedding, and I need like

597
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 3: that kind of damages.

598
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 2: We take a biology together and did lamps. I don't

599
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 2: know your favorite color. I don't even know where you

600
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: came from. I don't even know where.

601
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: Who are you getting married to?

602
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, because she also only gets to keep the violin

603
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 3: if the bride think she does well.

604
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't exactly cut ties and run. It is

605
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 2: summer now, but we have a together currently and three

606
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 2: classes together in the fall. I can only see her

607
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 2: getting crazier about this. She's always had a flare for

608
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 2: the dramatics, but she's never been this extreme before. I'm

609
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 2: not sure if this is just megabridezilla energy and she

610
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: will get over it, or if I should just pretend

611
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: I don't know her, or if I should call a

612
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 2: looney bin to come pick her up, or just take

613
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 2: up the violin and hope whatever God of weddings visit

614
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 2: her grants meet magical powers.

615
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 1: I really hope that all these relevant commons say, do

616
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: it for.

617
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 2: The plot, for the plot, do it down asaur train. Honestly,

618
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: she sounds like she's dealing with a mental illness. Yes,

619
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 2: this is typically the age that schizophrenia kicks in. She

620
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 2: likely doesn't know she has it, nor does anyone else

621
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 2: who loves her and can help her. If I were you,

622
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 2: I would approach her fiance, her family, and school mental health.

623
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 2: She's not Bridezilla. She's a very sick woman in need

624
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 2: of help. You didn't ask to be in this position,

625
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: but you are. You need to get other people involved

626
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 2: in helping her.

627
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, that's good advice. Alternate advice, we freaky Friday.

628
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: This you pretend like you're playing the violin, but you

629
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: get a professional violin.

630
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 3: Behind a curtain. Yes, someone pulls it down the curtain paint.

631
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 3: Pay no attention to that. Yeah, I got you two

632
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 3: violin players.

633
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 2: Obi says, I guess I can try and shoot him

634
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: a message to the fiance. God is my co pilot, says,

635
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 2: I think you should mention something to her fiance or family.

636
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: Sounds like it is potentially very serious. Not a temper

637
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 2: tantrum or demands. Something is very wrong, Obi says, Facebook

638
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: friends with her fiance. What do I even say? I'm

639
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 2: sure she's told him about this dream of hers. I

640
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 2: mean she like immediately bought a two thousand dollars us.

641
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's definitely a little man.

642
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'll say all that.

643
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: What Obi says, how are they affording the wedding? She's

644
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 2: not rich, I know. No fiance is in the army.

645
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 2: She's a student who works part time at the Mexican

646
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: chain restaurant on campus. I really don't care to learn

647
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 2: the violin, even if she wasn't expecting some kind of

648
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: a magic I don't think she is sane enough for

649
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:16,720
Speaker 2: me to take her up on the offer. And two

650
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 2: thousand dollars on a violin seems crazy for a beginner. Anyways, Okay,

651
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 2: now I'm like, we got shift gears here. She's not rich.

652
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 2: I thought she had some bank behind na.

653
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 1: She doesn't have that. I mean, she's in like school,

654
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: doesn't have that money. Definitely get family members involved, any

655
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Speaker 1: mental health professional. This is is getting a little not good,

656
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 1: a lot of not good, or you learn the violin.

657
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Speaker 2: I was really hoping for her not to be going.

658
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 1: I really hope hoping that it'd be kind of a

659
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Speaker 1: Joan of Arc situation.

660
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Speaker 2: That's what I thought at the beginning, but now, like

661
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Speaker 2: Jon of Arc, I was hoping for that. Nope. At

662
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 2: first it was kind of funny imagining the awkward swing

663
00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 2: that would commence. Then it was horrifying. It was troubling

664
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 2: and really really sad. So did fonce a message on Facebook.

665
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 2: He has seen it, but he hasn't responded. I also

666
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 2: can't believe she spent so much money on a violin

667
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 2: on someone who can't even play even in a year's time.

668
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 2: How the f can anyone play so well they'd fool

669
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Speaker 2: people into thinking multiple people were playing? Is that even possible?

670
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 2: And we have an update?

671
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: I want to hear the rest of the wedding personally.

672
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: If this is just one aspect of the wedding, what

673
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: else is happening here?

674
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 2: What is a husband doing?

675
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 1: Yeah?

676
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,240
Speaker 2: How is he getting into it? Is he like you know?

677
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: Does he have a white horsetro? Is he like white horse?

678
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: Roses and doves are flying everywhere?

679
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: He comes down in like a hot air balloon, continuing

680
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: the Wizard of Oz theme.

681
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 2: Yep, what's up with you today?

682
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just your dream.

683
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 3: Sophia had a dream last night too.

684
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, guys, you have to learn how to play the

685
00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 1: obo in five years.

686
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 2: Update, it's Sam.

687
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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

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689
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Speaker 2: Asians are still twenty three female and twenty two female,

690
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 2: and the link of the relationship is two years. I

691
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 2: sent him out a fine post to her fiance and

692
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 2: added after, I'm really worried because this seems pretty mentally unstable,

693
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: way beyond normal bride stuff. I got this reply on

694
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 2: Facebook from her not a fiance at around two pm today.

695
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 2: I didn't see it because she deleted me from her

696
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 2: friends and it went to a different mailbox. Facebook is weird.

697
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 2: Thanks so much for trying to tell my husband I'm crazy.

698
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 2: Thank god he understands what it's like to love someone

699
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: and what planning a wedding is all about. Excuse me,

700
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 2: I have a dream that I'm passionate about. Trust me,

701
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 2: if you ever get a ring with that attitude, you

702
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 2: will understand too. But I doubt it. Nice try trying

703
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: to get in between us. But guess what, sweetie, nothing

704
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 2: can tear us apart, least of all you. Ha ha ha.

705
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 2: You are clearly jealous, and that makes me feel really

706
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 2: bad for you. I flipping it, dude, think.

707
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 1: You're jealous of my perfect wedding.

708
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 2: Then about an hour ago, I got a message from

709
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: her fiance, a long message. The DODR is that she

710
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 2: went completely nuts on a floorist because she's gonna do

711
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: her entire wedding in Syria. Hysteria. How dare you? She

712
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 2: almost got arrested for making a scene in this store.

713
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 2: He also found out she spent her financial aid slash

714
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 2: student loan money for the second half of the summer

715
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 2: and the fall on random wedding stuff, including my violin,

716
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 2: and has been booking venue tours and tasting with ridiculously

717
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 2: expensive prices anyone is familiar with Texas. She is looking

718
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 2: at doing her wedding in a giant castle in the

719
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 2: ritzy Lake Travis area of Austin, near the huge, multi

720
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 2: million dollar mansions. But where is this?

721
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 1: Oh boy, you don't have that money, girl.

722
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 2: He told her about the need for a budget and

723
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 2: being realistic. She threw an epic fit. At this point,

724
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: she left and went to her sister's house. Message it back,

725
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: saying that she may beat pipolar and in the manick state,

726
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 2: and suggesting asking her sister to maybe get her to

727
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 2: a doctor. He was more upset and focused on being

728
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 2: hurt at what she had said to him about the

729
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 2: wedding than her. She also threw a tantrum and accused

730
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 2: us of sleeping together.

731
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this is not this is not normal. Definitely

732
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: something is going on.

733
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 2: This isn't fun anymore.

734
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:30,320
Speaker 1: I just wanted a violin.

735
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:32,760
Speaker 2: Sorry, I wanted a fiddle to be played.

736
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: I just wanted this to be a happier version of

737
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 1: your lie in April.

738
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 2: I told him that, needless to say, I would not

739
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 2: be playing the violin in their wedding, and I was

740
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,879
Speaker 2: sorry for any trouble. But I really did think it

741
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: was best he seeks some mental help for her. He said,

742
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 2: you made your point. You don't need to rub it in.

743
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 2: I can take care of my family.

744
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 1: Well, he's a little nasty too, you made.

745
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 2: I told him I understood and wish them the best

746
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 2: and that I guess that's it. I didn' see her

747
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 2: in class today and looks like she won't be coming

748
00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 2: back for fall unless she has a plan to get

749
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 2: more money.

750
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: Oof.

751
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 2: Thank you for the help everyone, I really did appreciate

752
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 2: having a few hundred friends in this Commerce says we

753
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 2: demand the long message from the fiance please, Ope says no.

754
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:19,239
Speaker 2: Something feels kind of sleazy about doing that. I did

755
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 2: the update, but there's a difference to me between telling

756
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 2: people the outcome of something that happened to me and

757
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 2: copying out a message about someone I don't know. It

758
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 2: seems shady and there's some details in it. I'm sure

759
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 2: he would be embarrassed to have out there. She made

760
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 2: a scene and spent all of her money ere march

761
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 2: for school. Use your imagination for the rest. Oh man,

762
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 2: we got one more comment here, honestly, hope he doesn't

763
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 2: even reply. So, yeah, I think this woman needs some help.

764
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 1: Yep.

765
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 2: Yep, but that was a good one.

766
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:53,400
Speaker 1: I feel unwelcome at my friends Quinsaneta, so I'm not

767
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: going Well that settles that. And this comes directly from

768
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: the r slash Okay story Time Separate. So for context,

769
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 1: I'm gender fluid and eighteen years old. I'll name the

770
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 1: birthday girl Rose. I met Rose in the hospital as

771
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,479
Speaker 1: a newborn. My dad actually became friends with Rose's dad

772
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,280
Speaker 1: before I was even born, I believe sometime in the nineties.

773
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: I love Rose as a sister and always wanted to

774
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: be your friend. By the way, this comes from Sleepy Sheeps.

775
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

776
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay Storytime Separated. Then we're here

777
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: to give good advice. Goofy. But we don't have all

778
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: the answers. We only know what we'd do, so let

779
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 1: us know what you would do in the comments, and

780
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 1: op says. She of course, like most young children, was

781
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 1: super shy from the moment she started walking and talking.

782
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: Over time, as her dad spent more time at my house,

783
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: she got closer to me. We became best friends, and

784
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,320
Speaker 1: she even admitted years ago that I'm like an older

785
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,240
Speaker 1: sister to her. We had lots of sleepovers throughout the years,

786
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,760
Speaker 1: and on days her parents wouldn't be home, she stayed

787
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 1: with me. She was my next door neighbor. Because our

788
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 1: families loved being around each other so much, they had

789
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,839
Speaker 1: to live next door. We were even starting to think

790
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 1: about tearing down our fat so we could see each

791
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: other every day. With that bit of context, let's go

792
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 1: back to Rose. Rose was kind of a brat, but,

793
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 1: learning from friends with younger siblings, children can be brats.

794
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 1: She was rude and made discriminatory comments a few times,

795
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 1: which I had to teach her were wrong, and she

796
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: was selfish.

797
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 4: Hey, just wanted to inform you that it's never too

798
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:22,720
Speaker 4: late to be a brat.

799
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 1: You should be a brat at any age. That's true.

800
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: Me and Rose were in the same boat, though we

801
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 1: both had one sibling and older brother so old that

802
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 1: by the time we hit the age where we could

803
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 1: finally start having fun, they were both off to college.

804
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: I knew since I didn't have an older sister role model,

805
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:41,240
Speaker 1: it was my job to be her big sister role model.

806
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 4: Oh maybe like together I got you. Yeah, I was

807
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 4: about to say, like, I feel like the years of

808
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 4: like zero to seven are probably like the most fun

809
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 4: years of your life. Because it was a comment about

810
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 4: like once we were old enough to start having fun.

811
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you have a lot of fun seven.

812
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 2: I misconstrued that.

813
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: I knew this in my heart, so I was that

814
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: also parents and her parents told me to be a

815
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,359
Speaker 1: good role model for her and always look out for her.

816
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 1: This led me down a path of always prioritizing her

817
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: and doing what she wanted me to do. I didn't

818
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 1: like it, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings

819
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: since she's younger than me. Fast forward to twenty twenty one.

820
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 1: I moved out of my home to a bigger house

821
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,240
Speaker 1: that kind of suck. I knew our friendship would be different,

822
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 1: but if I kept putting time and effort into our relationship,

823
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,399
Speaker 1: our friendship would never end right wrong. I moved about

824
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: a five minute golf cart drive away from her, a

825
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 1: thirty minute walk uphill, one minute drive by car. We

826
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 1: live in a community where most people have golf carts.

827
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 1: She has a golf cart that she can drive. We

828
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: have options for how to get to my house. It's

829
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:42,879
Speaker 1: a thirty minute walk and a one minute drive. It's

830
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: like a crazy hill that must be a crazy hill. Sorry,

831
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: I just remember, I just like registered that.

832
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 4: Or you are not good with hills? Were our two options?

833
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 4: Hills are your natural nemesis.

834
00:38:55,080 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 1: Or that is the hill that is Yeah, that's Sissyphis's hill. Cissficient,

835
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: siss sissisficient hill. That hill's got Sissyphis. Yeah, get it

836
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 1: checked out. She could either walk or drive. Is her

837
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,439
Speaker 1: walk shorter? Well, it's downhill? Is it like a five

838
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:14,479
Speaker 1: second walk downhill? She flew.

839
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:16,799
Speaker 3: She is the rock.

840
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: She just brings a little like sled.

841
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:22,959
Speaker 2: She does backhand springs down the whole hill.

842
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: Her dad is over at my house almost every weekend.

843
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 1: She's welcomed whenever she wants. Whitney Anderson says, bet it's

844
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 1: a thirty second fall. I was fourteen years old, trying

845
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: to make our friendship last. Since I've known this girl

846
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,320
Speaker 1: since before she was born. Well, you've only known her

847
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: since she was born, because you can't know someone before

848
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: they were born. I knew them when they were still

849
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 1: a star child. Matter of fact, there are photos and

850
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: videos of me holding her as a toddler. I'm one

851
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: of her oldest friends in life. Yet I had to

852
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 1: put all the effort into our friendship Eventually I got

853
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 1: tired of planning things because if I didn't plan things

854
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 1: with her, it just wouldn't happen. We rarely speak when

855
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: we do see each other. She only speaks to me

856
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: if I'm a last option. If her cousins are around,

857
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 1: she won't talk to me unless I can benefit them

858
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: in some way, shape or form.

859
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, So what is his reading as is just like, uh,

860
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 4: a relationship that has changed as your cousin grew up,

861
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 4: and like you guys are striking your own sense of

862
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 4: self a little bit more.

863
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's say I feel like, yeah.

864
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: Like sometimes when you're like a little kid and you're

865
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 1: falling around your big cousin and you idolize them and

866
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: it's great, And then you get older and you're like,

867
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: I want to hang around my you know, people my

868
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,399
Speaker 1: own age. And then maybe you a couple of years

869
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 1: later come back around you're like, I want to hang

870
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: out with my cousin again because we're at the same level.

871
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 4: Now, Say, what's your like an adolescent to the end

872
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Speaker 4: of being a teenager, and then even early adulthood, it's

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Speaker 4: like it's easy to just like be focused on yeah,

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Speaker 4: things that don't matter at all, and he realized, Oh,

875
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Speaker 4: I didn't matter.

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Speaker 2: I just like my cousin. I want to hang out

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Speaker 2: with my cousin.

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Speaker 1: I finally realized I was always a last resort. When

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Speaker 1: I told them how I felt, I just got a

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Speaker 1: simple okay or sorry you felt that way. I realized

881
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: I deserve better, and if my own friends don't care

882
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Speaker 1: to see me, well I don't need them anyways. Are

883
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 1: they the same age? Sure, the op's three years older.

884
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Speaker 1: We went no contact, and the last time I saw

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Speaker 1: Rose she was quite rude toward me. She repeatedly hit

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Speaker 1: me in the face with her sweater and even clipped

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Speaker 1: me with the zipper, which really hurt. I had to

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Speaker 1: sit next to her in a car because my mom

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Speaker 1: and I were running late for the airport and my

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Speaker 1: dad took the only working car that day. His car

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Speaker 1: was at our repair shop, so we borrowed my mom's car.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward to today. Sometime in August, we received an

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Speaker 1: invite for roses Keithsinnetta. I don't really want to go.

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Speaker 1: When we were younger, me and Rose planned her Kitsignetta together,

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Speaker 1: including the dress. She promised me that she would take

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Speaker 1: me dress shopping with her and the family to pick

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Speaker 1: out the dress due to how our friendship turned out.

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Speaker 1: Of course, I didn't go dress shopping. I didn't even

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Speaker 1: know she had picked out a dress already. She promised

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Speaker 1: me for years when we were younger, that we would

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Speaker 1: do a dance together and then I would do her

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Speaker 1: traditional dance with her cousins, which if you can't tell,

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Speaker 1: I won't be doing on her invites. I found out

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Speaker 1: she took photos with our shared friend Millie. Personally, I

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Speaker 1: just don't want to go to our Kinsinetta. I got

906
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Speaker 1: a courtesy invite because my parents are invited. I'm not

907
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Speaker 1: really wanted there. I'll be left on my own with

908
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Speaker 1: my parents, who will end up doing their own thing.

909
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Speaker 1: I'll have no friends at the event, and honestly, Rose

910
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Speaker 1: wouldn't care if I showed up or didn't show up.

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Speaker 1: I would rather spend time with my friends who would

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Speaker 1: actually care about my presence. So there is a little

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Speaker 1: bit left to the story. But do you have any

914
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: final thoughts for our Okay, listener.

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Speaker 4: I kind of agree that Rose wouldn't care, but it's

916
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Speaker 4: really just up to you.

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Speaker 1: Is your call. I guess you want to go or not,

918
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Speaker 1: but your cousin I don't.

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Speaker 2: Are they cousins. Weren't they.

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00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 1: I thought they were their cousins.

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Speaker 3: Okay, cool, I don't think it specified three years older,

922
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 3: but OPI is older.

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Speaker 4: Well if the keys and her is happening, that she's

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Speaker 4: steen I, Op's eighteen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Op's eighteen. I don't think they're cousins. She was

926
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Speaker 1: my next door neighbor. I think I think they were

927
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Speaker 1: just family friends. Parents are best friends. Yeah, it's like,

928
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Speaker 1: it's that kind of cousin.

929
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Speaker 3: They are looking like their cousins. You like they're saying cousin,

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Speaker 3: but they're not.

931
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Speaker 1: Don't they're Actually. I think, especially at that age, you

932
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Speaker 1: get some this kind of attitude and I think you know,

933
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Speaker 1: just know that right now, if you're not close, that's okay.

934
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Speaker 1: Sometimes friendships fade, they change, it's it's you know, they're

935
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 1: they're never going to be solid forever, and sometimes they

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Speaker 1: come back around. I said this yesterday, but I think

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Speaker 1: friendships kind of do like a this. Sometimes they just

938
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Speaker 1: do this, Sometimes they do this. There's a lot of

939
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Speaker 1: different ways that friendships occur, and sometimes they do this. Whoa,

940
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Speaker 1: And that's a messy friendship. But we've got a little

941
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Speaker 1: bit left to this story. I don't want to be

942
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 1: a drama queen, just be sad and alone at the Kingsannetta. Honestly,

943
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Speaker 1: if I disappeared, Rose probably wouldn't care and would say, oh,

944
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Speaker 1: that's the sad then move on. Also, knowing Rose, if

945
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Speaker 1: she wanted to be there, she would say it in

946
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Speaker 1: person or call me to see if I could make it.

947
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Speaker 1: She has an reached out to me, and personally, I

948
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Speaker 1: don't care. I just want to move on with my life.

949
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Speaker 1: I know my parents will be upset that I won't come,

950
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Speaker 1: but just for my mental health and well being, it

951
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Speaker 1: would be better if I don't go to the King Signetta.

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Speaker 1: I'm probably just got to plan something around that timeframe. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I have plenty of time to plan since the King

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Speaker 1: Signetta is in December twenty twenty five and we're in

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Speaker 1: September twenty twenty five. So Reddit, am I the ale

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Speaker 1: for not going to the King Sennetta? No, you're not

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Speaker 1: the ale. Just guys. You guys aren't close anymore. And

958
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: that's okay. Sad, but it's okay. Yeah, But that's the

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Speaker 1: end of that story, folks. And we've got some comments.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sean here.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

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Speaker 4: three minute break with asram Our sponsors.

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Speaker 1: These come from the video I dump my boyfriend because

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Speaker 1: he wants to marry and this was posted August second,

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. The TLDR says Opie's roommate Matt, is

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Speaker 1: a serial cheater who begged everyone to help him hide

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Speaker 1: his affair from his girlfriend jen Ope refuse to lie,

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Speaker 1: but another roommate deliberately set up Matt to get caught.

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Speaker 1: And I believe this comes from story two in that episode.

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Speaker 1: And now Matt's already planning to dump the girl he

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Speaker 1: cheated with. One roommate lied to his own girlfriend about knowing,

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Speaker 1: and Opie is stuck living with all this mess until

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Speaker 1: the lease ends. The drama keeps spiraling with each update

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Speaker 1: as Matt can't stop cheating and everyone keeps lying to

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Speaker 1: cover for each other. If you're curious to know the

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Speaker 1: full story, you can go watch the full episode. And

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Speaker 1: we've got some comments from that episode. I do remember

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Speaker 1: that one. I think I was all same here for

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Speaker 1: this was such an a hole in that story.

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Speaker 3: Comment one by Lemonade playback nineteen eighty five. Dude, it

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Speaker 3: should be Opie's responsibility to let the gen know because

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Speaker 3: one the friend is a cheater, and two what if

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Speaker 3: they Cindy or friend passed on an STI STD red

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Speaker 3: flags for all the roommates except Omar.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Omar was a Omar excuse, But yeah, I remember,

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Speaker 1: I remember Omar was af the shout out Omar.

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Speaker 2: I don't remember this story.

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00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 3: Comment to by individual girl. I was in a relationship

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00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 3: and he was cheating. We had a mutual friend and

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00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,359
Speaker 3: she knew because she knew the girl, she didn't tell

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00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 3: me or the other girl because she felt it wasn't

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00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 3: her place. We are no longer friends.

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Speaker 1: I uh, this was a messy situation. So messy A.

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00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 3: Commenter by it's a me malio. How crazy would it

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Speaker 3: be that it turns out Cindy hasn't shown up to

996
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:30,760
Speaker 3: classes and has been trying to reach out to Matt

997
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 3: because she's pregnant.

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00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:34,720
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness that story. Would he get even crazier

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00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: than I already? Was a surprise?

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Speaker 4: Pregnancy would always make something a little crazier, now, wouldn't it?

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Speaker 3: And last comment by Isabella Kitchen six' eighty just saying

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Speaker 3: Omar didn't create drama, Matt did by putting them in

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Speaker 3: this situation to begin with, and being a cheating a hoole.

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00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:54,280
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly everyone's Oh Omar is gonna.

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00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 2: Get Jama, No free Omar.

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Speaker 1: But that's the end of those comments, folks, the end

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Speaker 1: of this episode, So if you love us, make sure

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Speaker 1: to subscribe. We love you and see it Alond