1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to another week of the PhD Podcast. 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 1: It is your Girlbana and I have another exciting episode 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:11,719 Speaker 1: for you guys. Before you begin, let's do a little housekeeping. 4 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: Uh first, please make sure you follow me on all 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: social media platforms at the Professional home Girl, at the 6 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: PSD podcast, and at eb and a beauty um. 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I'm 17 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: talking to you, my gl Oh, I'm so sorry. Yes, 18 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: I actually I saw it and I was a little 19 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: a little baffled. Um, I know that it was something 20 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: that wasn't I know, it's something that wasn't unheard of, 21 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: you know, before it seemed a little dated UM, given 22 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: the fact that they are actually related siblings, so that 23 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: would mar their actual two children cousins and brother and 24 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: sister like right, So that I started doing my rabbit 25 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: hole research and I'm like, yo, people, this is really 26 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: a life which brings us to this conversation. So how 27 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: long have you been in your What is a polygamous relationship? 28 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: It's actually polygony. UM. There are different different terms UM 29 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: used for different things or different structures of these type 30 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: of relationships. Uh. Polygyny is basically UM to have multiple 31 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: wives UM, and that's basically what we practice. I've been 32 00:01:54,520 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 1: in my situation now for about six months, five six months. 33 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: I believe it's the longest relationship, the longest relationship I've 34 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: been in. Who what was that three and a half years? Yeah, 35 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: So in your definition, what is polygamy, um polygamy? My 36 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 1: definition of polygamy is UH two be able to coexist 37 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: with UM multiple people in a relationship that's structured in 38 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: a way that UM, it's kind of outside of society standards, 39 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: I guess, UM to be able to UM build with 40 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 1: these people, to be able to UM learn and grow 41 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: with these people, to to raise children with these people. UM. 42 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 1: It's really about unity, it's about nation building. Of course, 43 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: it's it's not something that should be considered taboo, even 44 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: though it is. Um and that just has a lot 45 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: to do with mental conditioning and stuff like that. We 46 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: could date back to the sixties of when there was 47 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: the whole um time where they were like promoting the 48 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: standardized American family with with mom and dad child, you know, dog, 49 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,359 Speaker 1: white picket fence, you know, those type of things. And 50 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: I'm not really realizing, but we were being subconsciously programmed 51 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: to think that this is it and this is only it, 52 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: and this is how it's supposed to be. And it 53 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: has a lot to do with population control of course. Um. 54 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 1: But the structure of my relationship is something that is 55 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 1: very ancient. So um, it's it has so so, so 56 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: so so many benefits. Um, it's not because maybe there's 57 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: me being ignorant, because when I had since I've been 58 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: doing my podcast, I've been learning so much about so 59 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: many different types of lifestyles. So and one of the 60 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: reasons I wanted to start this podcast it's part educational 61 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: reasons because what maybe taboo to me is actually something 62 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: that you do on a basis. So I remember when 63 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:09,839 Speaker 1: I used to watch TLC and there was the show 64 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: Cost System's Life and no offense my white listeners. But 65 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is that's the thing. Um, it 66 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: actually started with us. That's why I said, it's something 67 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 1: that's extremely ancient. That's what I wondered. And when I 68 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 1: was doing the hashtag what is a black party or 69 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: black Polly Life, I was like, oh, ship like it's 70 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: mad niggase. I think, So, what is the difference between 71 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: polygamy and cheating? Because I know you have I know 72 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: there's like like rules or understanding in its life. Um, 73 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 1: it's the same as any other relationship. Um, there has 74 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: to be trust, that has to be honesty, complete openness. 75 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: You have to be willing, um to be your whole cell, 76 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: even if you do have flaws. So you know, everybody's 77 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 1: not perfect. And a lot of people say a man 78 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: is going to be a man, a man is gonna 79 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:08,159 Speaker 1: do what a man wants to do at the end 80 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: of the day. But in reality it's in their nature 81 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,040 Speaker 1: to do such things. But I guess we'll get back 82 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:19,160 Speaker 1: to that. But the difference between uh, polygony or polygamy 83 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: and cheating, I would say cheating is basically based off 84 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: of lies. Cheating is basically, you know, being deceitful and 85 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: going behind the people who are standing with you, going 86 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: behind their backs and doing the things that you would 87 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: do with with the people who stand with you. With 88 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: some random person, um, someone that you have not introduced, 89 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: or someone you know, someone that I have no no 90 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: where you know knowledge of, or my sister wife has 91 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: no knowledge that would be considered cheating. Um, it's it's 92 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: it's that's why I said. It's it's really about openness. 93 00:05:56,640 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: It's really about truthfulness. You know. Yes, cation is very key, 94 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: and you you have to be able to accept your 95 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: partners for who they are, what they are, what they 96 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: come with, because that's the whole purpose of it. You 97 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: wouldn't you wouldn't be doing this if you if you 98 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: felt like this person or these people were not you know, 99 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: good for you or regardless of what issues that they 100 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 1: have or anything like that, because everybody got problems. But 101 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 1: it's it's it's got baggage, Lord knows, I don't, and 102 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 1: I feel like that's the beauty in it because from 103 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: that baggage you can grow. You can, you know, by 104 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 1: being honest with those those you know individuals. You don't 105 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: have to be full, hard heartedly honest with everybody. You 106 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: don't have to be you know what I'm saying, Like 107 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,479 Speaker 1: everybody doesn't have to know your story. But those people 108 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 1: that you see every morning when you wake up, you know, 109 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:54,720 Speaker 1: those people that you sit down and eat your meal 110 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: with every day, Like those are like I look at 111 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: my I look at my family like they're my reflection, 112 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:07,239 Speaker 1: you know, Like I literally, I literally like my sister wife, 113 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 1: like I literally as to whatever issues, like I look 114 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: at her like she's me like and I'm her like. 115 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: So when I'm talking to her or if I'm trying 116 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 1: to motivate her or encourage her, it's it's like I'm 117 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: encouraging myself, motivating myself because the things that I would 118 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: want for myself the same things that I want for her, 119 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 1: the same The same clean air that I'm breathing is 120 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: the same clean air that I want her to breathe, 121 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: same clean water and the same clean water I want 122 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: her to bathe in. Like it's I don't I don't 123 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: see I don't see any of imbalance when it comes 124 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 1: to that, Like I don't, I don't, I don't feel 125 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: like um. But it takes like, like I was saying, 126 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 1: it takes a lot of open, open mindedness, and I 127 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of people have an issue with 128 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: opening their minds to actually accept things because we've been 129 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: conditioned to frown upon certain things and to automatically react emotionally. 130 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: Emotionally when it comes to certain things like per se 131 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: my man dealing with another woman. We we we've been, 132 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: we've it's like it's like a first instinct type of thing, 133 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: or almost like a reflex. And and that's when you 134 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: know that you're dealing with closed minded people because it's like, Okay, 135 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 1: if you can't be a little more logical than emotional, 136 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: even though both of them are necessary, then it's like 137 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: you you really won't have control over your whole self 138 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: because at the end of the emotions are temporary. Emotions 139 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 1: are nothing but energy and motion. It wants to move, 140 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: It wants to, you know what I'm saying, fluctuate throughout 141 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: your body and and then leave. It doesn't want to 142 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: remain stagnant. But we have a we have a tendency 143 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: of holding onto those things like it's it's not it's 144 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 1: not a cakewalks. I will say that it's not it's not. No, 145 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 1: oh yeah, we're doing this and and and and it's 146 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:51,319 Speaker 1: easy and no it's not because these are these are 147 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: three different individuals with three different personalities with with you 148 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, And you have to there's you 149 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,440 Speaker 1: have to learn. You have to learn, dudes, And don't 150 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: you have to learn um um, you know, like boundaries, 151 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:07,319 Speaker 1: all of those things about two individuals or however many 152 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: is in your relationship instead of just one, you know 153 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So, is there a limit to how 154 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: many people can be in a relationship? No, so it 155 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: can be five people in one relationship. It is. It's 156 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: a lot of work, but at the end of the day, 157 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 1: it's also a lot of support. If you have a 158 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: group of people with the same mindset. If you have 159 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: and I can, I can talk about manifesting and all 160 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: of that. But if you have a group of people 161 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: with the same drive, with the same thought process, with 162 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: the same like, yeah, let's go get it, with the 163 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: same ideas, the same views on things. You know, whatever 164 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 1: it is that you want to create within your reality, 165 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: you can create because you have all of these minds 166 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: directed towards the same goal. You know what I'm saying like, 167 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: it ain't about fucking you know, like, even though that's 168 00:09:55,640 --> 00:10:00,080 Speaker 1: a beautiful part of it, it's not just about that, Like, 169 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,679 Speaker 1: especially when you have children involved and you you know, 170 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: you want to create an environment for them to be themselves, 171 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: to be Yeah, I definitely know that your sister wife, 172 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: if I'm assuming, right, has a child, right, yea, she has, 173 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: she has she has four. Okay, so where are some 174 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 1: first Let's go through the beginning. How do you find 175 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 1: your community? Like, how do you find this relationship? Liked, 176 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: it's do one person is one person dating one person, 177 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: and then they introduced the ideal or introduced like hey, 178 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: I'm a part of this type of lifestyle. It can 179 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 1: happen that way. Um, and it could also be you know, 180 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 1: it can happen out of curiosity. You know, someone could 181 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: probably be doing their own research and you know, bequardialed 182 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 1: with someone and then have like a you know, casual 183 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 1: conversation about it like hey, yeah, you know I kind 184 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: of know about that, or I've been in that type 185 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: of situation before and here's my take on it, you 186 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And then it's kind of like, 187 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes as human beings, you can't really deny chemistry. 188 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 1: It is what it is, you know what I'm saying. 189 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 1: And I guess, um, once it, you know, gets to 190 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: that point or whatever, or get to the point to 191 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,360 Speaker 1: where you know, you you kind of have an understanding 192 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: with this person and you know you're aware of you know, 193 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,840 Speaker 1: their situation and stuff like that. You know, there's really 194 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: no real guidebook or you know, you know what I'm saying, Like, 195 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: there's no rules to how to approach it. And I 196 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 1: don't really I can't really say that I was on 197 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: the prow because I definitely wasn't on the prow for 198 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: the situation at all. Like I was not searching for it. 199 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 1: You know. It was Um, it wasn't. It wasn't something 200 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: that I was seeking, you know what I'm saying. It 201 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: kind of just happened naturally. Um, because this was a 202 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:54,680 Speaker 1: person that was very very very near and dear to 203 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:57,440 Speaker 1: me as a friend. And it was completely botonic. And 204 00:11:57,480 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 1: I could put my hand on the Bible, the Koran 205 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: or whatever ever and literally say like it was completely phatonic, 206 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 1: Like this person was just literally there for me in 207 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:09,839 Speaker 1: the most hardest time. And um, we kind of built 208 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 1: a bond because of that because it's like everybody got 209 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: trust issues and I'm not really want to really have 210 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 1: too many friends and stuff like that or allow people 211 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 1: in my life to kind of know what I'm really 212 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: going through or hardships or whatever, you know what I'm saying. 213 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 1: So that meant a lot to me. And you know, 214 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm big on family, Like I'm extremely extremely 215 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 1: family oriented. So I was just like, well, you know 216 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 1: you my dog. You know what I'm saying. I want 217 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,079 Speaker 1: to meet your family, I want to meet your kids, 218 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:39,440 Speaker 1: I want to meet know what I'm saying. But it 219 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: wasn't on no me pressing like oh yeah, I'm trying 220 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:44,439 Speaker 1: to move in your crib. Like it was nothing like that. 221 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:48,200 Speaker 1: Like I just really wanted to be more cordial, you know, 222 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: with with with him and everybody. I wanted. I wanted. 223 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 1: I just wanted peace, you know what I'm saying. It 224 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: wasn't It wasn't really no drama to come from it 225 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 1: because it wasn't ship going on, you know what I'm saying. 226 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: So I don't know. Once I it was the holidays, 227 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:05,760 Speaker 1: and like I was really like in my mood because 228 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: my birthday is right there, um, like three days after 229 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: so I was in my moods and like, I just 230 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: do shopping shopping, you know, carefree shopping, and I want 231 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 1: everybody to have because that's just how I am. And um, 232 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: I bought everybody gifts, but I hadn't met anyone. And 233 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 1: he was like, oh, you're presenting your gifts, you know, 234 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 1: And I was nervous. I won't lie, I was nervous. 235 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: But so wait, so you're a sister wife and him 236 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: had a relationship. Yes, yes, and you and him just 237 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 1: yes literally literally, um, and so we met and it 238 00:13:41,840 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 1: was just it just went from there, like me and 239 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: my sister wife really really really really connected on the 240 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 1: level that is like I would say, unheard of, because 241 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:56,520 Speaker 1: you know where the black woman you know, get along 242 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:59,000 Speaker 1: on this level unless you know this my home girl 243 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 1: and I've known her for so many years, or and 244 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: even still you might have some drama with your home girl, 245 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, even that's a really 246 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: really really really really close like I can't even express 247 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:12,960 Speaker 1: how weird it is and how much we can relate 248 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:15,359 Speaker 1: to each other, even down to us having our first conversation. 249 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 1: It was it was very strange how we kind of 250 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: clicked so I don't know, things just happened naturally. I'm 251 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 1: I'm I'm a firm, firm, firm believer and enforcer in 252 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 1: the law of attraction. So I really feel like, you know, 253 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 1: this just was meant to happen. I try not to 254 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: fight things, you know, So I just I'm more of 255 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: a goal with the flow type of person, and I 256 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: think that's what makes it um kind of smooth for 257 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: me to be in the situation. I won't say easy, 258 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:40,800 Speaker 1: because like I said, it's not a cake walk, but 259 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 1: it does make it. It does make it a little um, 260 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 1: it makes it easier to to coexist. You know. It's 261 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: not it's not um. It's not like a struggle or 262 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 1: a hassle or like it's hard for me to love 263 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 1: these people, you know what I'm saying, Like I'm like, 264 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: I got a family, like and I can't be like 265 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 1: I really can't explain it, like how happy I am. 266 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: I really can't, like I can feel. I feel like 267 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: I can tell, especially if you're playing like emphasis on 268 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 1: like you like this is like literally like literally, so 269 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 1: do y'all all like, yes, now actually being in business 270 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: or anything, but do y'all all like people in the 271 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:28,280 Speaker 1: same bed and stuff. Yes, sometimes wow, sometimes sometimes we don't. 272 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 1: But yeah, I guess for me because it's like as 273 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:35,240 Speaker 1: a woman, I mean, you know how it is. Women 274 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: can be very like like with my boyfriend, I'm very 275 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: like I just only want him and I don't want 276 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 1: nobody that. So I think that this lifestyle is very 277 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 1: interesting because like it's like you have to share with 278 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:49,280 Speaker 1: you have to share time with each other. Like so 279 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: it's like, how is that Because I'm pretty sure that's 280 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 1: a challenge, and that's why it's important for me and 281 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: my sister wife to be as close as we are, 282 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So then when it does 283 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 1: come those times, those times when it's like, Okay, I 284 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: kind of want some alone time, it's understood, it's heard, 285 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: it's absorbed, it's not it's not looked at like, oh 286 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: well what about me? You know what I'm saying. Like, 287 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that that can't happen, because at the 288 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 1: end of the day, people are human beings, you know 289 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:18,000 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Everybody has wants everybody, you know, So 290 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 1: I um, I would say, we just really try and 291 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: make sure that her and I keep that that bond 292 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: that we have. We try to keep it um as 293 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 1: close knit as we can. UM. We don't hide things 294 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: from each other even if we're feeling some type of way, 295 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: because I'm not about to sit here and make it 296 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 1: sound like it's all literally and you know what I'm saying, 297 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: Like people go through things, but I feel like that's 298 00:16:42,520 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: the beauty of having family because you go through things 299 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 1: with people and you realize, Okay, I'm a human being, 300 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 1: they're a human being. Nobody's perfect. I damn sure know 301 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:53,040 Speaker 1: that I'm not perfect, you know what I'm saying. So 302 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: I know that I love this person at the end 303 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:59,320 Speaker 1: of the day. So for me to even hold a grudge, 304 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: I feel like that kind of put a stunt on 305 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 1: the growth of my family. I feel like it would 306 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 1: stunt our our our upbringing. It was stunt the goals 307 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 1: and stuff that we have. So as far as like, 308 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:13,440 Speaker 1: you know, the quality time type of thing, like it's 309 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 1: it's needed, I will say, and I encourage you know, 310 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 1: them to spend quality time with each other, you know 311 00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I don't, I don't. I don't 312 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 1: really try and look at it in a negative way 313 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 1: because it wouldn't do anything but bring me, you know, negativity, 314 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be helping myself if I was to do that. 315 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: In in you know, in this situation, you really have 316 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,560 Speaker 1: to be one with yourself as well, because if you 317 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:40,520 Speaker 1: don't know yourself, if you don't know yourself, if you're 318 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,880 Speaker 1: not you know, aware of you know, your own boundaries, 319 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 1: if you're not aware of the things that make you 320 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 1: feel some type of way and why they make you 321 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,199 Speaker 1: feel the way they feel, if you're not able to 322 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 1: assess your own demons, your own flaws, you know, in 323 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: a way to where it's like almost as if somebody 324 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 1: else is pointing it out, but it's really you that's 325 00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 1: doing it, because a lot of us don't really like 326 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: be real with ourselves, you know what I'm saying, Like, 327 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 1: just like how you said, I want them all to myself. 328 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:08,160 Speaker 1: I want them all to myself. Like you're basically admitting 329 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:15,119 Speaker 1: that you know you you you're possessive. Yeah I am. Yeah, girl. 330 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 1: So I was telling him I was in this episode. 331 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: He's like a word. I was like, don't get no, 332 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: I did not, I'm not so yeah. I think this 333 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:36,400 Speaker 1: is the second episode we had babies this I think 334 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: I think the listeners like that sometimes. Um, has there 335 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: ever been a point where you love him boarding love her? 336 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 1: Because I feel like you were heard are really closer 337 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:54,880 Speaker 1: than I feel like now. I can't put a scale 338 00:18:54,920 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: on on the love that's there, um, because it's natural. 339 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 1: It's not something that was forced, you know what I'm saying. 340 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 1: It's not something that was just like, oh you have 341 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: to you know what I'm saying. I wanted to, so 342 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't. Um, I don't, I don't. It 343 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: was never a time that it was like that, Um. Now, 344 00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: you know before, even even before I met her, like 345 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 1: I was concerned like about their safety, their well being, 346 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 1: you know, like I was, you know exactly, so like 347 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:32,640 Speaker 1: I even like like before I met my sister life, 348 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:35,639 Speaker 1: like I wanted to make sure she was straight regardless, 349 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 1: you know, in any way that I could help, if 350 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 1: help was ever even needed. You know what I'm saying. 351 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 1: Not serious saying it was, but I'm just saying, like 352 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 1: that's just how I am. Like, I'm I'm very very 353 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:46,879 Speaker 1: free spirit, and I will say this, this lifestyle is 354 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 1: not for everybody. But what if somebody wants to break up? 355 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 1: How does that work? If you want to If if 356 00:19:55,600 --> 00:20:00,240 Speaker 1: someone wants to break up. Then you know, it just 357 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: depends on I guess it depends on who who it 358 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:06,200 Speaker 1: is that doesn't want to be a part of it anymore. Um. 359 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,439 Speaker 1: But why does it depends on who it is? Because 360 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:14,120 Speaker 1: if if certain people were already established before someone else 361 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 1: came into the picture, say, if that extra person that 362 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: came into the picture wanted to leave, that doesn't necessarily 363 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:22,000 Speaker 1: mean that those two people that were already established are 364 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 1: going to separate, you know what I'm saying. Um, if 365 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:29,040 Speaker 1: even if if, um, if someone who was already in 366 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:32,880 Speaker 1: the situation wanted to leave, you know, and and then 367 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 1: it was just one other person and then the newcomer, 368 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,600 Speaker 1: that doesn't necessarily mean that that one other person in 369 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: the newcomer are gonna remain, you know what I'm saying. Um, 370 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 1: That's why I said it just it really depends you never, 371 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:47,600 Speaker 1: you don't really know. It depends on who, and it 372 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: also depends on the circumstance and you know the reason 373 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,520 Speaker 1: why what you know, what went on, what happened, you 374 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:56,960 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So I can't really but can it? 375 00:20:58,080 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: I felt like when I was doing my research, I'm 376 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 1: all seeing a lot of men, but they can and um, 377 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 1: I guess it's my opinion. When I say this, I 378 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:12,879 Speaker 1: don't agree with it at all. I I'm not not 379 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 1: only a person to frown upon things or you know, 380 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 1: judge people or whatever. But I don't agree with it, 381 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: um because I study things down to the science. Okay, 382 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: as a woman, our our our female form, our female 383 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:33,359 Speaker 1: makeup was never meant to, um be accessible to two dicks. 384 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 1: At the same time, I'm and I know, I really know. 385 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,119 Speaker 1: So it's not and it's not even just it's not 386 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: even just on on a on a on a chemical level, 387 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:47,919 Speaker 1: I'm talking spiritual like as women were very very magnetic. 388 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 1: So we we take on we we absorb certain energies. 389 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: So every man that you ever had sex with, you 390 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:55,480 Speaker 1: carry something from that man with you for the rest 391 00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 1: of your life. So but what about having sex with 392 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:02,159 Speaker 1: a with a woman, because your your your soul is 393 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:06,399 Speaker 1: still tied to that. That's very true. That's very true. 394 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:11,720 Speaker 1: So this so what's the difference? Men give off many 395 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:16,240 Speaker 1: etmn energies? Men? Men are not magnetic. They're the total opposite. 396 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: So by you, you know, engaging with Okay, because when 397 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 1: you're having sex with a man, if you have sex 398 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,479 Speaker 1: with a man persistently for ten thirty years, and you 399 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,680 Speaker 1: have not had sex with no other man. He's left 400 00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: his DNA inside of you, and your DNA is now 401 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:38,120 Speaker 1: being altered to match his. A lot of people don't 402 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: know this, So women wonder why they go through um 403 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: pH imbalances with their vaginas and and you know, little 404 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,399 Speaker 1: little issues like that necessarily saying it always has to 405 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,119 Speaker 1: be sex. But that is one of the reasons, you know, 406 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:57,679 Speaker 1: why women have a high level of um bad bacteria, 407 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,560 Speaker 1: or their body might be a little too acidic to 408 00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 1: be able to balance it balance itself back out, and 409 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,439 Speaker 1: and and along with the acidic diets that we consume 410 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,080 Speaker 1: as Americans or whatever. But that just doesn't make it 411 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 1: any better. And these things can bring on emotional imbalance 412 00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,760 Speaker 1: because if you if your brain is literally swimming in 413 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 1: acid juice, you're not gonna be thinking clearly. And now 414 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: you're wondering why you're going through things, or why you're depressed, 415 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 1: or why you're you know, you cry yourself to sleep 416 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,280 Speaker 1: at night, or why you you know what I'm saying, like, 417 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 1: all of these things tie into one another. All of 418 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,120 Speaker 1: these things play play a role in into your day 419 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,400 Speaker 1: to day living into your day to day interactions, how 420 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: you deal with situations, how you deal with problems. You 421 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, So you you don't want it. 422 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:46,680 Speaker 1: You don't want to taint yourself with more than your 423 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 1: you were actually made to take on. You understand what 424 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,520 Speaker 1: I'm saying. But you know, I think the woman a 425 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 1: woman can have the same effect on a woman as 426 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,680 Speaker 1: a man does, especially if you've been if you'll be 427 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,880 Speaker 1: having said, I don't. I don't think so, because it's 428 00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:02,879 Speaker 1: a possible for me too. It's impossible for me to 429 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:07,159 Speaker 1: leave my DNA inside of another woman. I can't. I 430 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,399 Speaker 1: can't do it. I can't. I can't ejaculate inside of 431 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:14,120 Speaker 1: another woman. And and people don't really, people don't really 432 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,880 Speaker 1: analyze the spirituality of sex. People have perverted it so 433 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 1: much that they look at it like, you know, we 434 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 1: can't talk about it like that or whatever whatever. We 435 00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: can't correlate spirituality and sex with one another. But it's 436 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:28,639 Speaker 1: it's it's blasphemous to me. And it's the biggest contradiction 437 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: because you know, sex is what brought us all here, 438 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 1: you know, so all to do with spirituality. How about 439 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,439 Speaker 1: you introduced to this introduced to this lifestyle when I 440 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:44,960 Speaker 1: was eighteen, um and I met a guy who was 441 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:49,160 Speaker 1: living with a female and he um him and her. 442 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 1: They they were I can't really put a label on 443 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 1: what they were. They lived together for two years. That 444 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: was the only man that she was dealing with or whatever, whatever, whatever, 445 00:24:58,400 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 1: But they didn't want to put like an official l 446 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,879 Speaker 1: able on what they had. Why. I don't know, I 447 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: don't know, but um, he kind of brought me into 448 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 1: the picture. And I won't say, you know exactly what 449 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,119 Speaker 1: happened or why it went went south, but he actually 450 00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,919 Speaker 1: brought me into the picture and it worked, you know, 451 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 1: for some time, it actually worked out, and it wasn't 452 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,960 Speaker 1: like that's really what opened my mind to you know, 453 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 1: being more I won't say care free, but a little 454 00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:28,679 Speaker 1: more in touch with with how to control emotions and 455 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,639 Speaker 1: how to deal with emotions or like I said, assessing 456 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 1: yourself in and figuring out, all right, well, why do 457 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 1: I even feel this way? You know what I'm saying, Like, 458 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 1: is there a real reason? Like? Am I good? Still? 459 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 1: Like in my home? Read? Am I you know? Am 460 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: I wanting for anything? Like? You know, like people get 461 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:49,159 Speaker 1: so caught up in theary emotions and how they feel. 462 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 1: And I'm guilty of this. I can say I don't 463 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 1: got it all figured out, definitely, you know this. This 464 00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:56,679 Speaker 1: is a journey, and this is a process. This is 465 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 1: not oh yeah, I'm this and I'm bad and and 466 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,800 Speaker 1: and this is how you do it. Nah. Like that's 467 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: why I say this is this, this lifestyle is it's 468 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,200 Speaker 1: not for everybody. You have to be very very extremely 469 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,440 Speaker 1: strong minded. And like I said, you really really really 470 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,440 Speaker 1: have to know yourself because if you don't know yourself, 471 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,800 Speaker 1: there will be no self evaluation. You know what I'm saying. 472 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,520 Speaker 1: You would be so high, so so high with your 473 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: own ego that you don't even have the ability to 474 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,199 Speaker 1: evaluate yourself. You don't have the ability to say, Okay, hey, 475 00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,439 Speaker 1: let me take a step back, because I might be 476 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:28,920 Speaker 1: giving off the wrong vibes to this, or I might 477 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: be reacting to this the wrong way. Let me assess this. 478 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: Why am I feeling this way? Why am I looking 479 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 1: at it this way? What's wrong with my perspective? Is 480 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,840 Speaker 1: there anything wrong with it? You know what I'm saying, 481 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: Because perspective is a big, big, big big thing when 482 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:51,600 Speaker 1: it comes to this. What's the misconception that that oh 483 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:56,359 Speaker 1: it's all about sex, and oh he just wants just 484 00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,440 Speaker 1: have two bitches so he could suck different bitches and 485 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 1: that the like is like, it's really not like that. Well, 486 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 1: I guess people feel like that because like I don't 487 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 1: know about women getting there, you know what I'm saying. 488 00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:14,360 Speaker 1: So I guess like when you look like with the 489 00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 1: whole situation we're talking about earlier with the guy with 490 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,960 Speaker 1: the twins, and I guess they're doing a documentary. But 491 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: the sister that he was with at first, she was 492 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: saying that she felt betrayed about her twin sister, and 493 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:30,560 Speaker 1: I would just now they live, yeah, and it's just like, 494 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: you know, like for yourself, like I really do believe 495 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,879 Speaker 1: after the short time we've been talking that you really 496 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 1: are happy in the relationship that you're in. But when 497 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 1: I was talking about that situation, I'm like, something I've 498 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,119 Speaker 1: seen run shortly one like she happy, And then it 499 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: makes me think like, oh, this particular lifestyle, I can 500 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 1: see why people think that it's for men, and men 501 00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,639 Speaker 1: is getting the better short end of this, I mean 502 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,360 Speaker 1: not the shortest, but they're getting the better deal out. 503 00:27:55,480 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: I would say, I would say that's from uh the 504 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 1: wrong the wrong kind of man, UM trying to do something, 505 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 1: trying to trying to you know, dabbling something that he 506 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:15,359 Speaker 1: hasn't elevated his mind fully to understand the ins and 507 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:22,679 Speaker 1: outs of like he got thriends. Come on, So what 508 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 1: are some benefits? UM benefits are having someone there all 509 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: the time, Like I'm never by myself, I'm never alone. 510 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,160 Speaker 1: I never feel I never feel like I don't have 511 00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:43,440 Speaker 1: anybody I can depend on. Even if me and my 512 00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 1: sister wife going through or me and my husband are 513 00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 1: going through or whatever whatever, I still have somebody to 514 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 1: lean on, to support, to just listen to me, damn 515 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: talk invent and and I know that this is someone 516 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 1: I can trust. It's not some random person out in 517 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 1: the street, or it's not my home girl that I 518 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,960 Speaker 1: have way trust. You know what I'm saying, Like, this 519 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 1: is this is my family, you know. And UM having 520 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,800 Speaker 1: unlimited amounts of unconditional love around you, regardless of what 521 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:17,120 Speaker 1: flaws or what mistake you've made. UM be accepted in 522 00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,959 Speaker 1: a way that you have never been accepted before, because 523 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,720 Speaker 1: it's it's like, Okay, it's not just one person, it's 524 00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,000 Speaker 1: two people that are in it to win it with me, 525 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:30,640 Speaker 1: it's it's two people that you know, want to see 526 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,040 Speaker 1: me be great, and I want to see them be great, 527 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: and we all support each other and work towards the 528 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 1: same goals. It's not just it's not just me and 529 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,400 Speaker 1: one person. So when it is double time, it's it's 530 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: it's it's overwhelming to me, maybe because I am an 531 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: emotional person, because when I think about how much other 532 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: in my family, sometimes I get a little like teary eyed, like, um, 533 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:58,320 Speaker 1: I do, because are you close with your with your family, 534 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,920 Speaker 1: not you husband and your sister wife, but your family. 535 00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,440 Speaker 1: That's why I said I'm extremely family or like I'm 536 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,080 Speaker 1: big on family. Like but see, I grew up as 537 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:12,800 Speaker 1: the only child, so yeah, and my mom and dad, um, 538 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: you know they divorced or whatever whatever, So I was 539 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 1: it was just me and Mama, you know, for for 540 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 1: some time, you know what I'm saying. But I always 541 00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,560 Speaker 1: wanted that big family. I always wanted to be around 542 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:27,360 Speaker 1: my family and and be able to just come home 543 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,960 Speaker 1: and just be comfortable in my space with the people 544 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:32,520 Speaker 1: that I know loved me near and dearly, you know 545 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,200 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, um, but I'm really close with 546 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:39,560 Speaker 1: my with mine with my actual um blood related family. Yeah, 547 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:45,440 Speaker 1: I am mm hmmm. So what was from different terms 548 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 1: that you was talking about, because I just thought that 549 00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: it was just like one term. Okay, So it's not 550 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 1: it's not that much. And I'm still, like I said, 551 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm still educating myself. It's so much that I still 552 00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 1: have to learn myself. But there is polygony, which is, 553 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:12,080 Speaker 1: like I said, multiple wives, there's polyamory amorous. Polyamorous is 554 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 1: a woman with multiple husbands or multiple multiple spouses or 555 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: you know, multiple people that she deals with or whatever. 556 00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: And then polygamy is the all around term of having 557 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 1: multiple lovers. So it's it's there's no there's it's it's like, Okay, 558 00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:34,239 Speaker 1: if I'm if I say I'm polygamist, then or if 559 00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,920 Speaker 1: a man says he's polygamist, then he might have a 560 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: wife and a couple of girlfriends that he sucked from 561 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 1: time to time that he deals with. He supports them, 562 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,720 Speaker 1: maybe financially, you know what I'm saying. They don't necessarily 563 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,360 Speaker 1: live with him. His wife is aware of these women, 564 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:52,080 Speaker 1: these women possibly know each other. That's polygamy. Political poligony 565 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,720 Speaker 1: is when you have poligony is almost basically like Um, 566 00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,920 Speaker 1: like how Muslims conduct themselves with with multiple wives. When 567 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:05,640 Speaker 1: you have multiple you have a community with two or 568 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:09,160 Speaker 1: more women. Um, and you and you've committed yourself to 569 00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,400 Speaker 1: these to these women that you have your unity with. 570 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 1: Um m hm. So it's it's it's deeper than just saying, 571 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 1: oh yeah, this is this, this is amused you know, 572 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:24,440 Speaker 1: or or like a concubine type of thing. Um, that's now, 573 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:28,000 Speaker 1: we're ok. You wanted to bring another white We actually uh, 574 00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:37,720 Speaker 1: we're actually looking Okay, anybody want to We're actually right now. Um. 575 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:41,160 Speaker 1: And but why y'all look and you're not fulfilled? Are 576 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:45,479 Speaker 1: we are? We're happy, but um, we're happy. We're just 577 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 1: we're I guess we're just I don't want to say extremists, 578 00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,400 Speaker 1: but we we go big like that's just we all 579 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,280 Speaker 1: three have that same type of personality, like we feel 580 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 1: like we could do it. We we're gonna do it, 581 00:32:56,040 --> 00:33:04,640 Speaker 1: like we're gonna try at least, you know, so, UM, 582 00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:06,360 Speaker 1: get on. Now, we got a lot of plans, you know. 583 00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,600 Speaker 1: So sometimes you know you kind of need a little 584 00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: more manpower, you need a little more brain power, you 585 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,120 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like we got, we got, we 586 00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:22,040 Speaker 1: got goals. Like I'm talking you know, business like Noel. Yeah, 587 00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,720 Speaker 1: so how do y'all go a boy looking for one? Well, 588 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,840 Speaker 1: we we do have our we have a page on Instagram. 589 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:34,760 Speaker 1: Um um, and uh we basically you know, show ourselves, 590 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:38,640 Speaker 1: show our family. We show us, you know, we should 591 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,840 Speaker 1: try to show you know, little bits of you know, 592 00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: our lifestyle, our day to day or whatever. Or if 593 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 1: we're you know, doing something and we're all out, we 594 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,080 Speaker 1: might take pictures together and stuff like that, or like 595 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 1: here recently, um it was the baby's birthdays and um, 596 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,400 Speaker 1: we were out and we took a whole bunch of 597 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: pictures and you know, posted them and stuff, and um, 598 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:01,120 Speaker 1: we don't really promote or broadcast like hey, we're searching 599 00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:02,840 Speaker 1: for another you know what I'm saying. But we do 600 00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,480 Speaker 1: have people who inquire. We do have women who inquire 601 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:17,440 Speaker 1: or really yeah sometimes so um uh, I take it 602 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:19,640 Speaker 1: to the King. I don't meet me and my me 603 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:21,239 Speaker 1: and my sister wife both like we take it to 604 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: the King. Like I like, if I if I see 605 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,080 Speaker 1: something or whatever, whatever, you know, I'm I'm gonna I'm 606 00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:29,160 Speaker 1: gonna bring it to him first. I'm not gonna, you know, 607 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 1: try to pass my own judgment because ultimately it is uh, 608 00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 1: it would be his decision. He would want our opinions, 609 00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 1: of course, and he would want our input, you know, 610 00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:42,480 Speaker 1: but it's ultimately his decision. So we don't, um, we 611 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:46,480 Speaker 1: don't really I won't say we don't entertain it, not really, nah, 612 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 1: you know, but we will have conversation exactly exactly. But bo, 613 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:59,080 Speaker 1: if he pays somebody's job, don't, Mike, but he really 614 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,200 Speaker 1: likes Honestly, I don't feel like he would do that. 615 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,200 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't feel like he would 616 00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 1: do that solely off of off of how strong we uh, 617 00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 1: how strong we require peace, how much we require unity 618 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:20,040 Speaker 1: um within our our bond um, if there would be 619 00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,640 Speaker 1: any anything that would taint it, or anything that could 620 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 1: come in and kind of you know, put a little 621 00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: flaw or you know whatever whatever. Nobody really want to 622 00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,880 Speaker 1: want the extra stress, like you know, everybody already have 623 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 1: every day, day to day ship that they're dealing with. 624 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 1: Nobody needs the extra you know, bringing on extra just 625 00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 1: to bring extra stress or just to bring extra headache 626 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,640 Speaker 1: or you know, anything like that. So anything to make 627 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,080 Speaker 1: it smooth for us, you know, all to just be 628 00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 1: smooth sailing. You know, that's really how we just try to, 629 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 1: you know, do for each other. So I really don't 630 00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: feel like he would because to me, that would be spiteful, 631 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,759 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, That would be spiteful. And 632 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,319 Speaker 1: he don't. He don't have that, you know, he don't 633 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,560 Speaker 1: have that type of nature about himself. So, UM, I 634 00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:04,960 Speaker 1: feel like he would make sure, um that we were 635 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 1: able to you know, kind of coexists with very very 636 00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:15,000 Speaker 1: very very even with you know, you know, um seeking. 637 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:18,920 Speaker 1: I guess I could say nowadays, you know, he'll you know, 638 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:20,520 Speaker 1: show me like, hey, you know what you think of her. 639 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,360 Speaker 1: I've been talking to her, you know whatever, whatever, whatever, 640 00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:25,800 Speaker 1: you know, and you know, I might give my input 641 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: or my sister wife might give her input or something 642 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:32,280 Speaker 1: like that. And it hasn't come to the point where 643 00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,360 Speaker 1: it's been someone that he has wanted to uh introduce 644 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:40,720 Speaker 1: us to yet, so you know, and he's very picky 645 00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:42,960 Speaker 1: if they're picky, and even and he trying to say 646 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,160 Speaker 1: we're picky, he's very very picky, Like if it could 647 00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 1: be one little thing and he'd be like, nah, I 648 00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:52,480 Speaker 1: ain't talking to her when I was when I was 649 00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:56,520 Speaker 1: watching the TLC special, Like, is there one of you 650 00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,880 Speaker 1: guys that's like I don't like to put like the 651 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: first wife the second white, but like does one have 652 00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:04,759 Speaker 1: a like more stay so than the other? I would say, 653 00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:09,960 Speaker 1: just like I would say my sister wife, Um, my 654 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:18,040 Speaker 1: sister wife, definitely because she uh, she has been here, 655 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: she has been with him way longer, you know, so 656 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,960 Speaker 1: how long have they been together? Even together for ten years? Yes, 657 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:32,720 Speaker 1: they have a really solid and myris so much because 658 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,399 Speaker 1: nowadays it's just like that's however she's kind of unheard of, 659 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:41,320 Speaker 1: like you know, so um, but yeah, my sister wife, 660 00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,520 Speaker 1: she's more of the mother, hen like that's more of 661 00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,560 Speaker 1: the mother and I that's the word mother. I expected. 662 00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,719 Speaker 1: I respect the position. I don't never ever want to 663 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,880 Speaker 1: even try to put my foot on my toe with 664 00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:55,000 Speaker 1: her shoes ever, like because that ain't no easy no 665 00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,480 Speaker 1: easy walk like and I'm with her every day, you 666 00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,440 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So I see, I know I 667 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,759 Speaker 1: feel like you know, so I just all I all 668 00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:05,480 Speaker 1: I do is just trying to be the greatest support 669 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,640 Speaker 1: that I can. I try to be her shadow if 670 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,240 Speaker 1: I can, you know, literally her second hand, her second 671 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:17,120 Speaker 1: set of eyes. What you doing. But yeah, um yeah, 672 00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:20,600 Speaker 1: she's um, but she's fantastic like she she holding down 673 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:29,120 Speaker 1: pop hold it down like um. Well, last, for not least, 674 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,120 Speaker 1: what does an advice she would give to our listeners 675 00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:35,239 Speaker 1: if they're interested in being in a where it's not polygamous. 676 00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:44,000 Speaker 1: What's the word pous relationship? Um? I would say number one, 677 00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:51,440 Speaker 1: know yourself first. Like I said before, know yourself first, um. 678 00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:55,759 Speaker 1: Be be so aware of yourself that you're able to 679 00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 1: check yourself when you need to. Don't always think that 680 00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:03,480 Speaker 1: you are right and it's just you and your views 681 00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:07,360 Speaker 1: are the only views that matter. Don't be selfish because 682 00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,800 Speaker 1: everybody else got their own perspective that they feel like. 683 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:16,440 Speaker 1: It's nothing void as well, So don't don't go into 684 00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:21,840 Speaker 1: a situation just thinking about yourself. Um. And also especially 685 00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,680 Speaker 1: like because at that point it's no longer about you, 686 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,960 Speaker 1: it's about your family. You know what I'm saying. You know, 687 00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,640 Speaker 1: you gotta be able to say I you know, let me, 688 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:35,839 Speaker 1: let me, let me take this, put it to the side, 689 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:39,040 Speaker 1: because there's a greater picture over here that needs tending to. 690 00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:42,960 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, um, And was that sometimes 691 00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:44,759 Speaker 1: you gotta take emotions and put them ships to the 692 00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,600 Speaker 1: side because they don't matter anymore, because this bigger picture 693 00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:50,120 Speaker 1: over here is what matters, you know what I'm saying. Um, 694 00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:53,919 Speaker 1: be able to do that with yourself though, be able 695 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:56,320 Speaker 1: to say damn, I was wrong, because a lot of 696 00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:59,680 Speaker 1: people have a hard time doing that. Ship. Be yourself, 697 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,000 Speaker 1: but be but be real with yourself at the same time, 698 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,040 Speaker 1: because if you can't be real with yourself, you can't 699 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:09,640 Speaker 1: be real with nobody around you. Right there you go, guys. 700 00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:12,759 Speaker 1: Should I have been telling y'all but carrying on a 701 00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 1: different level. Well, if you have any questions, any concerns, 702 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,760 Speaker 1: any calmness, um, we have any questions for my guests, 703 00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,920 Speaker 1: please email me at hello at the Professional Homegirl dot com. 704 00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,919 Speaker 1: And that's that's it until next time, guys. Later