Speaker 1: Hell, I Suck at Dating with Dean Unglert and Dared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast. Hey, welcome to it
Speaker 1: all new episode of Help. I Suck at Dating. I'm
Speaker 1: currently yelling, which I probably shouldn't be because I have
Speaker 1: a twelve week old sleeping behind me. So if you
Speaker 1: hear crying, it's not Ashley this time, it's Dawson. Uh,
Speaker 1: welcome to a new episode of Help. I suck a date.
Speaker 1: In course, Dean Unglit is here. Dean, you're once again,
Speaker 1: and I don't know why I say your name oddly,
Speaker 1: just trying to add a little flare, you know, changing
Speaker 1: out of it. You took the R completely out of
Speaker 1: my last name. No, I said un glirt, No you
Speaker 1: said unlit. But whatever, it's I'm just happy you got
Speaker 1: six out of seven letters. Right, it's not so bad,
Speaker 1: quick math, nice job. So you're where are you right now?
Speaker 1: You're in a car. But this audio quality is pretty good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm glad. I'm glad I could be here with you
Speaker 1: guys today. I'm in northeastern Wyoming, and uh, I didn't
Speaker 1: expect to have any service, but it's been it's been,
Speaker 1: it's been crazy. We got here. What do We get
Speaker 1: here on Wednesday, Wednesday afternoon, and I wasn't sure if
Speaker 1: I was gonna have service, and I wasn't sure if
Speaker 1: I was gonna be able to record a podcast this
Speaker 1: week with you guys. But then I we got here
Speaker 1: and uh, it's technically the off season for climbing and
Speaker 1: northeast Wyoma because it's so pretty cold out most days.
Speaker 1: But we got a good warm window. But anyways, we
Speaker 1: pull up to this like lodge and it's completely abandoned. Uh,
Speaker 1: And so we set up intense We set up our
Speaker 1: tents next to it, just like to sleep near it.
Speaker 1: And I go on my phone and there's a WiFi
Speaker 1: that says like a Devil's Tower lodge WiFi, and I
Speaker 1: was like, there's no way this is gonna work. And
Speaker 1: I log on and it works perfectly fine. Like I'm
Speaker 1: there's a perfect latincy between all of us right now.
Speaker 1: So uh, I knew. I knew it was destined to be.
Speaker 1: It was meant to be the best episode of Help
Speaker 1: by second Dating. Ever, once I realized that this place
Speaker 1: isn't abandoned, then right, there's just nobody there. It's your
Speaker 1: Maybe a banded wasn't the right word, it's just the
Speaker 1: off season here, like climbing season doesn't climbing season doesn't
Speaker 1: start until May one, and so were like a week early.
Speaker 1: So is there gonna make it dangerous? Um, No, it's
Speaker 1: not dangerous. It's just like I said, the weather so
Speaker 1: like today was yesterday was like seventy five degrees, which
Speaker 1: is perfect. The day before that it was like thirty five,
Speaker 1: and then tomorrow it's supposed to get back down to
Speaker 1: thirty five. So like the weather isn't super good where
Speaker 1: there there's climbers every single day, but we got a
Speaker 1: good little window of good weather. And uh, that's why
Speaker 1: it's the off season because it's like, you know, it's
Speaker 1: it's far enough north where they have like full on winters,
Speaker 1: but climbers still as long as you can get enough
Speaker 1: warm days in a row, I guess they want to
Speaker 1: come out still. But it's funny actually, So we uh
Speaker 1: we got here to this abandoned lodge, my brother and I,
Speaker 1: and we set up our tents and we were like, wow,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. We have a perfect direct view of
Speaker 1: Devil's Tower, which is the rock that we were going
Speaker 1: to climb this trip, and it was like we were
Speaker 1: blown away. We opened the door, the door was unlocked,
Speaker 1: the sink had running water, the toilet worked, and we
Speaker 1: set up our tents and we're like this is unbelievably perfect,
Speaker 1: like kiss met. And we walk around the other side
Speaker 1: and there's this hot tub sitting there, like a covered
Speaker 1: hot tub, and we're like, no way, like everything's gone
Speaker 1: so good so far. Uh, if we're gonna take the
Speaker 1: hot tub cover off and if the water is hot,
Speaker 1: we're getting in it, no questions asked. And we took
Speaker 1: the cover off, and of course the water was hot,
Speaker 1: so we got in the hot tub for like thirty minutes. Uh,
Speaker 1: and it was just like it literally like was the
Speaker 1: most mind blowing experience where um, we we like called
Speaker 1: a head like a month ago and we're like, hey,
Speaker 1: we want to stay at the lodge just like camp
Speaker 1: outside on the front lawn for a couple of nights.
Speaker 1: And the guy was like, yeah, come on, no reservation
Speaker 1: needed to show up and set up. And then we
Speaker 1: got here and we were like, oh, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like it feels uncomfortable because no one's here, and so
Speaker 1: I called the number again. No one answered, so I
Speaker 1: left a voicemail. So we were like trying to cover
Speaker 1: all our bases and make sure everyone knew that we
Speaker 1: were at least like going to be here. But then
Speaker 1: we got here and like the hot tub was on,
Speaker 1: the plumbing was working, the water was working, and the
Speaker 1: WiFi was working. It was just unbelievable to pull back
Speaker 1: the curtain a bit. Dean, we're running a little behind schedule.
Speaker 1: So you know, I follow his look ation on on
Speaker 1: Find my Friends, So I'm like, let's make sure Dean's
Speaker 1: not on the highway somewhere. And I look and I
Speaker 1: see him inside of a structure, and and Mark so
Speaker 1: eloquently put he trying Dean has drywall around him. That's
Speaker 1: a good sign. And now we find out that you're squatting,
Speaker 1: like basically broke into a lodge. Yeah, you could call
Speaker 1: it squatting. I personally wouldn't call it squatting, but you
Speaker 1: definitely could call it that, and you probably wouldn't be
Speaker 1: entirely wrong. Uh. We so last night, no, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: our first night here, it was like eleven PM and
Speaker 1: we were like getting ready to go to sleep. I
Speaker 1: was like sitting up my camera because I wanted to
Speaker 1: do like a time lapse of the night sky. And
Speaker 1: as we're doing that, there's like this one long solo
Speaker 1: road that you can see for maybe like a half
Speaker 1: a mile as it approaches the lodge, like a dirt road,
Speaker 1: and this truck was pulling up on it and I
Speaker 1: was like started freaking out, and I was like, brat, brat,
Speaker 1: someone's here. I don't know what to do. Someone's here.
Speaker 1: What should we do? And I like I was out
Speaker 1: of my tent and I remained perfectly still, uh so
Speaker 1: that they wouldn't see me in the dark light. And
Speaker 1: then they didn't say anything that night. But it was
Speaker 1: a it was a t REX apparently, because if you
Speaker 1: stand still, they couldn't see you. Got it. Yeah, they're
Speaker 1: right there right exactly. So they didn't think to us
Speaker 1: that night. And uh, I woke up the next morning
Speaker 1: and I had to go to the bathroom really bad,
Speaker 1: number two. So it was very very important. And I
Speaker 1: bust into the house and these two people that pulled
Speaker 1: up last night, we're sitting right there on the couch
Speaker 1: and they like get up from the couch and shake
Speaker 1: my hand and I'm like, Hi, I'm d nice to
Speaker 1: meet you. I just pulled it yesterday. Do you guys
Speaker 1: work here like praying that they say no, because if
Speaker 1: they work there, I probably don't be able to use
Speaker 1: the bathroom. And they're like, yeah, we managed the property.
Speaker 1: It's just off seasons, so we only come like once
Speaker 1: or twice a week to come and manage it. I
Speaker 1: was like, crap, so that means I can't poop, But
Speaker 1: it was. It was a whole ordeal. And then after
Speaker 1: that we were basically shunned to the outside uh entirely
Speaker 1: for the rest of the time. But if you if
Speaker 1: anyone from Devil's Tower Lodge is listening to this, I
Speaker 1: appreciate the hospitality. We're gonna leave a nice donation for
Speaker 1: you guys as we depart today. Um, and thanks for
Speaker 1: the WiFi because without the WiFi, I wouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to do this. So where did you go poop? You
Speaker 1: don't leave us hanging here? All right? Well? Actually I
Speaker 1: held the poop yesterday until we got to the visitors
Speaker 1: center at Devil's Tower. But I did just poop in
Speaker 1: the forest twenty minutes ago, which is like, it sounds bad,
Speaker 1: but it's actually not as bad as um as it seems,
Speaker 1: because you're like in a nice you're a nice squat
Speaker 1: and it comes out pretty easily. The wiping is maybe
Speaker 1: the worst part, and you got to make sure it's
Speaker 1: quick because your knees will get sore really fast. But
Speaker 1: as long as you're okay with all those things, it
Speaker 1: happens pretty easily. So yeah, that's oh, of course, yep.
Speaker 1: You so you dig a hole, you dig a hole
Speaker 1: like six inches deep, You do your business in the hole,
Speaker 1: You fill the hole, and then you put your t
Speaker 1: P in a separate plastic plastic plastic ziplock and pack
Speaker 1: it out and then you just carry it out of
Speaker 1: the woods with you and throw it out. Yes, I
Speaker 1: mean you can't. You can't bury t P and poop
Speaker 1: underground because it's kind of like not good for berry poop,
Speaker 1: isn't it fertilizer? Kind of yeah, But human poop, like
Speaker 1: animal poop totally is fertilizer. Human poop poop probably could
Speaker 1: be fertilizer. But if you think about our diets, like
Speaker 1: there's so much um like chemicals and stuff in our
Speaker 1: diets that's unnatural to the environment that you can't really
Speaker 1: you can't really poop in the wilderness like a bear
Speaker 1: could poop in the woods, you know, because it's just
Speaker 1: a different composition, drop full of hot cheetahs and stuff
Speaker 1: you know, not good for them, soil. No hot cheetos
Speaker 1: on this trip, believe it or not. My brother went
Speaker 1: to the store before I got it, and he didn't
Speaker 1: buy any any hot cheetahs. But but it's been good.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm monopolizing the conversation here. We had
Speaker 1: a you know, we had a great day yesterday climbing.
Speaker 1: It's been a dream of mine to climb to the
Speaker 1: top of Devil's Tower, which actually is now I'm referring
Speaker 1: only and exclusively as bare Lodge because that is what
Speaker 1: the indigenous people of America called it before the white
Speaker 1: man came in and rebranded it Devil's lodge, which is
Speaker 1: so ridiculous. So bear lode or Devil's Tower, so bear lodges. Uh.
Speaker 1: This like et igneous rock tower in the middle of Wyoming.
Speaker 1: And I wanted a climate for like eight years, and
Speaker 1: today or yesterday, we finally were able to do it.
Speaker 1: It was one of the best experiences of my life.
Speaker 1: Would you ever want Kalin to go climbing with you
Speaker 1: or do you think it's too dangerous climb? She climbs
Speaker 1: with me sometimes she's got her own gear. Um, she
Speaker 1: is still learning, and so we can only do like
Speaker 1: pretty easy roots and stuff. But she enjoys it to
Speaker 1: a degree. She's like she she hates it when she
Speaker 1: does it, Like in the moment, she's not complaining, but
Speaker 1: she's like, you know, strenuous, strenuous and like trying really
Speaker 1: hard and like kind of upset. And then she gets
Speaker 1: down to the bottom and she was like, that was
Speaker 1: so much fun. Let's do it another one. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: but the next time we do it, you can't talk
Speaker 1: about how much she hate me the entire way up.
Speaker 1: So she she even made a note to me, like
Speaker 1: a week ago, she was like, let's try and rock
Speaker 1: climb a bunch this summer. And I was like shocked
Speaker 1: because she uh, normally it's me that has to like
Speaker 1: hold her hand and get her excited about mission or
Speaker 1: something like that, because I get it, Like I was
Speaker 1: kind of the same way when I first started about climbing.
Speaker 1: You're kind of like, oh crap, this sucks. I'm scared
Speaker 1: and it's really hard, and then you start doing it
Speaker 1: and then you like it, and then I don't know,
Speaker 1: that's just you guys should come rock climbing with us,
Speaker 1: So you turned her onto rock climbing. Is there anything
Speaker 1: that she turned you onto that you actually quite enjoy
Speaker 1: now that you might like the equivalent of you like
Speaker 1: her complaining all the way up the mountain? What would
Speaker 1: you complain about? But at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you're like, you know what, let's do it this summer.
Speaker 1: That's pretty fun. Maybe like, uh, washing our bed sheets
Speaker 1: once a week, that's pretty nice. I used to be
Speaker 1: like a once a month kind of guy. But once
Speaker 1: a week, like jumping in a new, fresh set of
Speaker 1: sheets is pretty nice. What's the longest you've gone without
Speaker 1: changing your sheets? Be honest, come on, oh eight months?
Speaker 1: Maybe I was say I've definitely I've definitely gone months.
Speaker 1: I'll take over on that. I honestly, I'm you're right.
Speaker 1: I'm probably undermining myself a little bit of selling it short.
Speaker 1: I could be longer. Like in college, I probably never
Speaker 1: washed my sheets. Um and uh, the I shower more
Speaker 1: frequently with Kaylin. Actually, no, you know what at first
Speaker 1: I did when I was trying to, like, you know,
Speaker 1: when you first started dating someone and you try to
Speaker 1: like make sure that they know that you're not a maniac.
Speaker 1: And you like do good things more often, and then
Speaker 1: you get more comfortable with them and you start to
Speaker 1: like revert back to your normal ways a little bit.
Speaker 1: When Cay. When I first started dating, I probably showered
Speaker 1: like a good four times a week, which is pretty
Speaker 1: good for me. Uh. And now I'm back down to
Speaker 1: I probably shower like once a week now, which is uh.
Speaker 1: That's like my that's basically my baseline. But I don't
Speaker 1: stink that bad. I don't think at least, and once
Speaker 1: I start smelling the stink come up, that's when I
Speaker 1: start to shower more often. But it hasn't really been
Speaker 1: a too stinky lately, so that's good. I mean, the
Speaker 1: worst I can only imagine is all right, you know
Speaker 1: college days. I'm sure you know, Dean, you were a
Speaker 1: very sought after man. I just hope that if you ever,
Speaker 1: you know, had the privilege of having a woman over
Speaker 1: that at your words before, you would have another woman over,
Speaker 1: if you were ever so lucky, you would wash the
Speaker 1: sheets in between those two times. Yeah, that's the only
Speaker 1: time I already get h Yeah, no, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: I hope I showered between those things as well. Jesus, No,
Speaker 1: I was pretty good about that in college and as
Speaker 1: a young adult. I um, I wasn't as promiscuous though
Speaker 1: as as it maybe you would think that I was,
Speaker 1: so it didn't have to happen often. I guess it's
Speaker 1: the point I'm trying to make. But yeah, no, it's
Speaker 1: she She's got me to come around those types of
Speaker 1: things like just general hygiene and um, being a nicer person.
Speaker 1: So I appreciate her for that, and you know, it's
Speaker 1: take a trade off. I make her more of a
Speaker 1: dirt bag and she makes me more of a beauty queen.
Speaker 1: So it kind of works out. Yeah, you need a
Speaker 1: little dirt bag in you, you know, yeah, as Kaylin
Speaker 1: definitely needs a little dirt bag in her. Yeah, everybody does. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of something that Ashley has me
Speaker 1: do that. At first, I was like, Oh, this sucks.
Speaker 1: I guess living in Los Angeles for a while, but
Speaker 1: I don't really miss it all that much, unfortunately, cause
Speaker 1: we're not even in studio anymore, which I gotta be honest,
Speaker 1: if if if I lived in l A, do you
Speaker 1: think we'd be back in studio. Nobody's in studio anymore, right, Well,
Speaker 1: that's kind of like an Eastern and Eastern Mark or
Speaker 1: not at studio or in studio right now, So I
Speaker 1: would say absolutely not, probably not. None of the podcasts
Speaker 1: have returned to the studio. Is that just over? Are
Speaker 1: those days behind us? That's just no one's ever going
Speaker 1: to be in the studio again. The Seacraft Show is
Speaker 1: back in studio, so the morning shows are back. The
Speaker 1: podcasts haven't, And I think it's just a matter of convenience.
Speaker 1: People have really gotten used to doing it wherever they are,
Speaker 1: casing point Mr. Northeastern Wyoming. So I don't I don't
Speaker 1: see us going back in for really any of them
Speaker 1: unless it happens to be convenient for the people doing it.
Speaker 1: But I see you guys in studio sometimes, like I
Speaker 1: guess editing and stuff. I mean they're most most days.
Speaker 1: Once every four months, yeah, for an afternoon Eastern modern
Speaker 1: day Dean Sheets. That's right, one over four months. Like,
Speaker 1: what's your purpose for that? I mean the only time
Speaker 1: I go in is if we have like a guest
Speaker 1: for Seacrest that I have to be there for. I
Speaker 1: think that's coming in. But other than nothing for podcasting,
Speaker 1: I'm staying right here, baby, unwashed. Who's Seacrest again, it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. I'm talking about Rodney Seacrest. He's a hot
Speaker 1: young jock out of the Dallas that I'm working with. Nice. Well,
Speaker 1: let's be honest real quick. The real cash cowt I
Speaker 1: Heart radio is help I suck at dating. So if
Speaker 1: you guys are going into the studio for some come on,
Speaker 1: come on, um, Jared, what are we talking about today
Speaker 1: besides my hygiene? How poetic is it that Dean just
Speaker 1: said that the real cash cow of our heart radio
Speaker 1: is help I suck at dating? As his WiFi was
Speaker 1: going in and out, and he was like, yep, that's
Speaker 1: a nice microcosm. Right there after, can we take a second.
Speaker 1: It's pretty good minus maybe that one little hiccup. Oh
Speaker 1: it says it's unstable at the time, is it? Can
Speaker 1: you guys still hear me? That was? That was that
Speaker 1: was really bad timing. As I was saying the WiFi
Speaker 1: connection is really good, Zooms told me my WiFi connection
Speaker 1: is geting unstable. But generally I would say, I'm pretty
Speaker 1: proud of how it's doing right now. And abandoned lodge,
Speaker 1: so no, I would agree, I'm very proud of you.
Speaker 1: Uh well, you know, I was thinking about some So
Speaker 1: we have some hot topics obviously, say we can go
Speaker 1: over today, obviously some relationship things. Lizzo confirmed that she's
Speaker 1: in a relationship. We have an article, Jennifer. Instead of
Speaker 1: doing hot topics, can we just milk having Eastern and
Speaker 1: Mark on the podcast. Well, that was my point is that, like,
Speaker 1: I almost don't want to do hot topics. I think
Speaker 1: I think it would be I think we would be
Speaker 1: so disappointed in ourselves if we walked away from this
Speaker 1: podcast without getting all we could out of Mark and
Speaker 1: Easton every last drop. And Dawson, Dawson, Dawson is starting
Speaker 1: to wake up, so he might join us on this
Speaker 1: podcast here and even second guys time baby guys time baby, Yeah, Dawson,
Speaker 1: a little bro time. Yeah. Uh well, I was looking
Speaker 1: up some morning and night routines because I was thinking
Speaker 1: about how so I don't know about you, guys, but like,
Speaker 1: all right, old, let me get the baby, yeah, I
Speaker 1: want to Uh well, let's take a quick break and
Speaker 1: then maybe we'll jump back into it once Jared gets
Speaker 1: back from nursing his baby. All right, we're back, so
Speaker 1: before Jared gets back, because he's still taking a sweet time.
Speaker 1: Mark you're the only other father in the in the
Speaker 1: group here, And how how much does Jared ever reach
Speaker 1: out to you for advice? Because if he's not asking
Speaker 1: for advice, he is really dropping the ball on that one.
Speaker 1: We we had some conversations before Dawson was born, but no,
Speaker 1: we haven't spoken since Dawson was born. I'm sure he
Speaker 1: has an excellent support group around him and plenty of
Speaker 1: people offering him advice off and unsolicited. But I think
Speaker 1: Jared knows I'm here for if he ever needs anything.
Speaker 1: My kids are sixteen and thirteen, well almost thirteen, and
Speaker 1: so it's hard. It's uh, it's it's it's almost hard
Speaker 1: to remember the days that Jared is enduring. Do you
Speaker 1: miss the baby face? Yeah, I mean especially now. So
Speaker 1: my oldest turn sixteen on Wednesday, so yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: we put up a Facebook post with pictures of her
Speaker 1: as a baby and now, and yeah, of course we
Speaker 1: missed those days. But to look at that guy, Yeah, hi, buddy,
Speaker 1: he's a good baby. He's so I don't want him
Speaker 1: to grow up like I'm I'm can't wait for the
Speaker 1: days of sleep in some sort of structure. But he's
Speaker 1: so freaking cute. Man. Like I don't want him to
Speaker 1: grow up. He's gonna be like he's going to be
Speaker 1: one of us. That's the dis morning part, Like he's
Speaker 1: gonna be us. Bro, You're so much better now. Hopefully
Speaker 1: he showers more often than us. Doubtful. Um, So, my
Speaker 1: brother just had a baby two and a half months ago,
Speaker 1: and this trip that we're on right now, actually it
Speaker 1: is his first first night. It's away from the newborn baby.
Speaker 1: And so like the first night we slept in the tent,
Speaker 1: he like slept in until ten thirty in the morning
Speaker 1: and he goes that's the first full night of sleep
Speaker 1: I've gotten in seventy five days, and so I can
Speaker 1: only imagine I can only imagine how Jared's has to
Speaker 1: be the exact same way. Right. Yeah, it's just like
Speaker 1: I usually probably I get at least six hours a night,
Speaker 1: but it's just interrupted. You know, it's always like go
Speaker 1: to bed at like if I'm lucky, I'll go to
Speaker 1: bed at like midnight, and then you know, he'll kind
Speaker 1: of like be up around two or three, but then
Speaker 1: he'll go back to sleep, and then he'll be up
Speaker 1: at like six or seven, and then he'll go back
Speaker 1: to slave. So it's just like it's not terrible, it's
Speaker 1: just like you're constantly waking up, so it's you never
Speaker 1: have like a well rested night. That's the only thing
Speaker 1: mark to the best of your memory. When does that stop?
Speaker 1: Like when do you kind of get a little bit
Speaker 1: more autonomous with it? Yeah, I remember finding something called
Speaker 1: the dream feed that was incredibly valuable to us. We
Speaker 1: would put our daughter down around eight and then around
Speaker 1: eleven you'd wake them just to feed them. You'd barely
Speaker 1: wake them, so they would kind of half sleeping, half awake,
Speaker 1: and then you put them back down again and then
Speaker 1: they'd go till morning. So that was really a great time.
Speaker 1: And I don't remember exactly when that was, but you know,
Speaker 1: within the first six months. But he doesn't he doesn't
Speaker 1: finish the Wow, he just had a big fart. That's
Speaker 1: the other thing. It's crazy, guys, like how as as
Speaker 1: Mark knows, it's just like you're just my hand is
Speaker 1: on his ass and he just lets it out, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. He's parting on my hands a
Speaker 1: lot of the past few years. Hasn't it unbelievable, dude,
Speaker 1: I've never felt older, and I feel like such a
Speaker 1: just old piece of crap dad because now we're working
Speaker 1: with Audrey's. You know, there's so many college kids that
Speaker 1: come in and I work with so many college kids,
Speaker 1: and there is I am just I am the old
Speaker 1: guy now, like and I can feel it like there
Speaker 1: is a there's a disconnect, you know. It's just like
Speaker 1: they see me as the old guy. I have no
Speaker 1: more I'm I have no more seduction to me. It's
Speaker 1: it's just it's I It's true, like you just lose
Speaker 1: a part of yourself because it's like I'm the dad now,
Speaker 1: I'm the dad with the dad bod who just works
Speaker 1: and is always tired and making dad jokes. And it's
Speaker 1: just like I have zero sex appeal. It's all over,
Speaker 1: it's all done. I don't know, there's a whole world
Speaker 1: of like deil f lovers out there. I feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, it's not that you have less sex appeal.
Speaker 1: It says you have different sex appeal. Yeah, that's one
Speaker 1: way of looking at it. I appreciate it. Dean but
Speaker 1: doesn't yet. Oh yeah, he's been in there many times.
Speaker 1: He comes. He sometimes comes to trivia night. He's really good.
Speaker 1: He loves being out and about. He's very awake, very aware.
Speaker 1: He doesn't cry, he enjoys it. Uh, he's uh. Is
Speaker 1: it weird? If like a good fan word to approach
Speaker 1: you guys and ask for a picture, would you have
Speaker 1: Dawson in the picture? Is that weird or no? Um? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I was obviously like Ashley's holding him and
Speaker 1: they're like, hey, let's take a pick. It's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course he could be in a picture. We're not
Speaker 1: weird about that. He's smiling right now. But see part
Speaker 1: what if someone want a picture with just Dawson would
Speaker 1: just be like, oh, why don't we take a picture together?
Speaker 1: You know, there's no that's never happening. We're not going
Speaker 1: to hand off our kids treasure. It's weird because Mark
Speaker 1: can attest to this how like protective you get how
Speaker 1: protective I am of this kid? You know, I remember
Speaker 1: when he was first born I talked about on the
Speaker 1: podcast before I wasn't suddenly overwhelmed with this unconditional love
Speaker 1: and felt like I was his father and I needed
Speaker 1: to protect him. It was like I felt like a
Speaker 1: horrible human being because I was like, holy am I
Speaker 1: gonna love this kid? Like I I think he's cool.
Speaker 1: And then now I mean, I love him so much.
Speaker 1: I would It's just yeah, I would. I would die
Speaker 1: for him. You know. I wonder if it's like, uh,
Speaker 1: it's like having a dog on steroids in the sense
Speaker 1: where what makes us love our dogs is that they
Speaker 1: really rely on us. And maybe once you first said Dawson,
Speaker 1: you didn't feel as needed, and now you know that
Speaker 1: without you he would be eaten by a pack of
Speaker 1: wolves or something like that, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So maybe that's what the slow burn comes from. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he smiles now, it's the it's the it's the
Speaker 1: best when he smiles. It's just it's, uh, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: just awesome. It's it's indescribable. How come how come you
Speaker 1: guys haven't made an Instagram account for him yet? No,
Speaker 1: I don't want him to have an Instagram account. I
Speaker 1: want him to be away from social media as much
Speaker 1: as possible, especially at a young age, because he's gonna
Speaker 1: grow up. Instagram is still hopefully going to be a
Speaker 1: huge part of everyone's life. And you know, I don't
Speaker 1: want him, you know, like being in second grade and
Speaker 1: being like I have a hundred and seventy thousand followers,
Speaker 1: It's like, no, no no, no, I don't want that, But
Speaker 1: think about all the potential revenue streams you could get
Speaker 1: from you know, like you could basically haven't you can
Speaker 1: haven't pay for college before he even enters kindergarten. Listen,
Speaker 1: if there was like a monetary reason to do it,
Speaker 1: we probably would just for the fact that, like we
Speaker 1: would control it. And of course, you know, if it
Speaker 1: pays for his college fund, hell yeah, But how much
Speaker 1: would you pay for at Dawson Haven on Instagram because
Speaker 1: someone may have registered? What an asshole? Get off this podcast.
Speaker 1: Remember remember Chad on Um whose season was a Joe
Speaker 1: Joe's season, who bought everybody's uh like domain like Jordan's.
Speaker 1: He bought Jordan Rogers dot com and he bought like
Speaker 1: Robbie Hayes dot com. That's what Easton is doing now,
Speaker 1: he's buying Dawson Haven dot com. I mean your speculator. Yeah, hey,
Speaker 1: very smart, very smart. There could be there's money to
Speaker 1: be made in the U r L game. You can
Speaker 1: buy some nice r L s, and especially now with
Speaker 1: all the new suffixes out there, you could buy like
Speaker 1: Pizza dot co. I mean obviously maybe not so much anymore,
Speaker 1: but like with all that stuff coming on. You could
Speaker 1: really make a little bit of a quick coin. I
Speaker 1: will tell you really quick. I I tried this once before. Legitimately,
Speaker 1: on square cash you can change your like user name,
Speaker 1: and so I changed it to DJ Khaled, thinking that
Speaker 1: at some point DJ Khaled's gonna come to me and
Speaker 1: want to buy it back, because square cash does like
Speaker 1: partnerships and celebrities all the time, and that backfired on
Speaker 1: me big time because I get requests all day every
Speaker 1: day from people who think I'm DJ Kaled asking for money,
Speaker 1: and now I can't use square cash anymore. That's what
Speaker 1: are some What are some like big crazy requests you've gotten,
Speaker 1: like for a lot of money or just for like
Speaker 1: ten dollars at a time. I'll put up right now.
Speaker 1: I just I just got asked from Ray Fors for blessings. Uh.
Speaker 1: Someone named Little Rom asked me for ten thousand dollars. Uh.
Speaker 1: Someone named Daniel wants five. I feel bad. Some of
Speaker 1: these people like just need money and they think that
Speaker 1: I'm you know, a rich celebrity is gonna give money.
Speaker 1: But I'm just the regular dude who's trying to scam
Speaker 1: into their celebrity. That's who I am. Yea, who's trying
Speaker 1: to scam Dawson weeks old? So I looked up some
Speaker 1: like because obviously we're a dating podcast, but in order
Speaker 1: to date successfully, I feel like you have to kind
Speaker 1: of be happy with your self. It's a lot of
Speaker 1: things we talked about. I find one thing that I
Speaker 1: really struggle with is uh nights and mornings because before
Speaker 1: I go to bed, I am just it's it's it's
Speaker 1: I just like become so overwhelmed with every thing that
Speaker 1: I stress about in life, Like it takes me three
Speaker 1: hours to go to bed because I'm just constantly thinking
Speaker 1: that I'm going to bankrupt my family, Audrey's is gonna fail,
Speaker 1: something terrible is going to happen, and uh you know,
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna die one day. Uh So, like I've
Speaker 1: been trying to nobody else goes like you guys, just
Speaker 1: put your head on your pillow and rest easy at night. No, No,
Speaker 1: it's to be like all right. Well also in the
Speaker 1: morning as well, Like when I wake up, I find
Speaker 1: because the first thing I do is check social media.
Speaker 1: It's terrible, Like it's the first thing I do is
Speaker 1: to go on my phone, and I'm like trying to
Speaker 1: change my habit. It's obviously nearly impossible right now with
Speaker 1: this little guy. But so I was looking up ways
Speaker 1: to relieve stress before bedtime. Does anybody meditate here? Is that? Dean?
Speaker 1: I feel like you'd be a meditator. I've tried. It's
Speaker 1: it's never stuck for me. I've tried on multiple occasions.
Speaker 1: What is there, Like, have you practiced? What is it
Speaker 1: about it that you like or don't like? Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you can. I used to use this epic
Speaker 1: called headspace, and I probably would do it every day.
Speaker 1: I did it maybe for like a couple of weeks,
Speaker 1: and then I would coming back to it every once
Speaker 1: in a while. But it's just like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I get bored, which I guess is kind of the
Speaker 1: point of doing it, because it's you're supposed to be
Speaker 1: able to like get sending you knock that exactly. Uh.
Speaker 1: And I never really found like I was gaining, like
Speaker 1: growing from it too much, so I just kind of
Speaker 1: was like, well, I would rather just not do this,
Speaker 1: so I stopped doing it. But I mean, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a good way to really stress. I think you should.
Speaker 1: Are you trying it or are you just thinking about
Speaker 1: trying it. I'm literally spit bawling off the top of
Speaker 1: my head. I'd like to try it. I've tried some
Speaker 1: deep breathing exercises, but I agree with you, it's very
Speaker 1: difficult to do it for more than like ninety seconds
Speaker 1: because I'm like, alright, I'm gonna twitter, which is not good,
Speaker 1: but like this, I see. I'm also trying to practice,
Speaker 1: uh for myself so I can instill it onto Dawson,
Speaker 1: because I don't want him to go through this what
Speaker 1: like what we go through, which is like this instant
Speaker 1: gratification society, and it's like I want him to have him.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've heard studies about like how you know boredom,
Speaker 1: boredom really helps stimulate imagination, and uh, like I want
Speaker 1: Dawson to have to create his own fun at times.
Speaker 1: I don't want him to just constantly be watching TV
Speaker 1: or constantly be on the phone, Like I want him
Speaker 1: to be outside. And like, I know it's gonna sound ridiculous,
Speaker 1: but like my buddy and I as a kid dude,
Speaker 1: we used to like of course pretend that we are
Speaker 1: on tattooing and Star Wars, and like we would choreograph
Speaker 1: a full on lightsaber fight, and this would take us
Speaker 1: like four hours every single day. And he was usually
Speaker 1: anakin and I was usually obi one. And it's just
Speaker 1: like like that though, like I want but I feel
Speaker 1: like that helps imagination and that helps creativity, and so
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to figure out ways to get myself
Speaker 1: away from my phone even though it's part of our job.
Speaker 1: So I can kind of, you know, practice what I
Speaker 1: preach when I start telling him that he can't be
Speaker 1: on his phone or he can't be on TV, like
Speaker 1: I want him to be able to you know, he
Speaker 1: use his imagination. I feel like, uh, and Mark probably
Speaker 1: can speak a lot more to this. Uh. Kids definitely
Speaker 1: tend to replicate what they see their parents doing, right, So,
Speaker 1: like if they see you guys on your phone all
Speaker 1: the time, they'll be on your phone all the time.
Speaker 1: If you guys read, they'll read whatever it is. But Mark,
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, what do you think? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a big one. We've had to set limits over
Speaker 1: the years. But there's also an element of their social
Speaker 1: life that you hamper if you get too strict about
Speaker 1: the social media. And that's a difficult balance because you
Speaker 1: don't want your kid to be the only one who's
Speaker 1: not in the group chat or the only one who's
Speaker 1: not you know, when we we we give into Instagram
Speaker 1: fairly recently, but but it's it's the peer pressure more
Speaker 1: than anything else. And of course you want to stand
Speaker 1: up the peer pressure and blah blah blah, but you
Speaker 1: also don't want them to be an outcast because of it.
Speaker 1: So there's a balance there that you have to figure out.
Speaker 1: Then you kind of pushed it off as long as
Speaker 1: you can. I made a big mistake in two six
Speaker 1: I went to Brazil for the Olympics with Seacrest and
Speaker 1: so we I set up a Snapchat for all of
Speaker 1: us so we could snap each other back and forth,
Speaker 1: and that was it. We just had each other's things.
Speaker 1: But then years later, you know, I didn't discontinue Snapchat
Speaker 1: as soon as um the Olympics were when they were
Speaker 1: both young, but as they got older, their friends got
Speaker 1: on Snapchat, they got new friends on Snapchat, and then
Speaker 1: pretty soon they were inappropriate things being found on Snapchat
Speaker 1: on their accounts. So we're like, okay, well we got
Speaker 1: to get rid of Snapchat, so that was my bad.
Speaker 1: So we kind of traded Snapchat for Instagram, which is not.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I'm not sure one is any
Speaker 1: better than the other, but it just may be more comfortable. Anyway.
Speaker 1: That was a mistake we made, and so they've been
Speaker 1: on it probably younger than they should have because of
Speaker 1: that good hearted idea that I had that turned out
Speaker 1: more when horribly wrong. So there's gonna have to be
Speaker 1: a balance at some point. Jared's idea is great and
Speaker 1: you want them doing that, and they will be out
Speaker 1: doing that, especially you know, the first ten years of
Speaker 1: their life, but at some point you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: give into it, and probably even more so ten years
Speaker 1: from now. Yeah, Snapchat is maybe the worst app to
Speaker 1: have you agree with that. I really believe that's Uh,
Speaker 1: that's funny. I wonder what like when Dawson is, uh
Speaker 1: Marks kids age thirteen is your youngest, right, Mark? I
Speaker 1: wonder what there's got to be. I mean, obviously between
Speaker 1: now and thirteen years from now, there's going to be
Speaker 1: some crazy new app that probably we're not even gonna
Speaker 1: be privy to. It's just gonna be so interesting to
Speaker 1: uh see you navigate that. And obviously you're gonna be
Speaker 1: talking about it every week on help by Second Dating
Speaker 1: because we have at least thirteen more years of life
Speaker 1: left in us obviously. Yeah. Man, it's it's scary because
Speaker 1: it's just like the world that we were introduced to,
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's it's just like anything, right, Like
Speaker 1: you don't care about yourself as much as you care
Speaker 1: about the people you love. So when like this world
Speaker 1: that we live in now, it's like I was sure
Speaker 1: social media whatever, whatever, whatever, But now that I'm raising
Speaker 1: a son in it and thinking about the things that
Speaker 1: are soon to come for him, it's like, damn, yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: social media, we gotta we gottaw, Like, we gotta stop this.
Speaker 1: We have to figure out a way to make it
Speaker 1: healthier and make him healthier. Ashley was looking at me,
Speaker 1: but it's just it's like a weird conversation that I
Speaker 1: don't know what the right answer is, but it makes
Speaker 1: me a little nervous about, Like, I don't know, but
Speaker 1: every every generation has this. You know, when I was
Speaker 1: a kid, my parents were upset that I was watching
Speaker 1: MTV all day instead of being out playing, and then
Speaker 1: their parents were pissed that they were in watching that
Speaker 1: idiot box all day instead of out playing. You know,
Speaker 1: every generation goes through this. Yeah, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: worse now though have you seen there used to be
Speaker 1: like this propaganda posters back and like I don't know,
Speaker 1: like the early where it was like stop reading. Reading
Speaker 1: is bad. Reading distracts you, and it's like the people
Speaker 1: like reading newspapers. It's like stop reading newspapers, you know,
Speaker 1: Like that's like that it was the modern day cell phone.
Speaker 1: So it's like, to Mark's point, every generation deals with
Speaker 1: some new, like the thing that everyone thinks is vile
Speaker 1: and bad, and in a lot of ways it is,
Speaker 1: but in a lot of ways it's actually really good
Speaker 1: and and turns out to be not so bad. I
Speaker 1: feel like it just escalates because I remember as for
Speaker 1: us as kids, it was television, like don't watch television
Speaker 1: for too long, don't sit too close to the TV.
Speaker 1: Now that's like you want your kids to watch TV
Speaker 1: because you don't watch them on you don't want them
Speaker 1: on the phone. So that's my concern, just can't get
Speaker 1: them when they're watching TV and their friends aren't going
Speaker 1: to bully them when they're watching TV exactly. So my
Speaker 1: point being is that, yes, I agree, there's a new
Speaker 1: Like with every generation there's something new that's going to
Speaker 1: come out. But my fear is that with every generation
Speaker 1: it's just slowly getting worse. It's not so much that
Speaker 1: there's something new, there's something new that's worse, you know,
Speaker 1: so like it's almost um amplifying. I guess you could say,
Speaker 1: I don't know. These are just thoughts I've had, obviously
Speaker 1: from having an when again this show is writing high
Speaker 1: and thriving in their it's going to be something like,
Speaker 1: can you just go on Instagram for a couple of
Speaker 1: hours because it's way better than that weird virtual reality
Speaker 1: the thing you're doing right now, you're in the metaverse
Speaker 1: for too long, Dal, you gotta take a break. Oh,
Speaker 1: speaking of taking breaks, let's take a cup, break ourselves
Speaker 1: and jump into emails. Be right back, guys, All right,
Speaker 1: we're back. Uh. And of course we got him. We're
Speaker 1: going to use him at Mark. If you don't mind
Speaker 1: reading a couple of emails for us, that would well,
Speaker 1: it's my pleasure, Dean, Thank you very much. This is
Speaker 1: from Emmelina. It's a lovely name. I'm Elina. I broke
Speaker 1: up with my boyfriend for four years. I'm sorry, I
Speaker 1: broke up with my boyfriend of four years. Because I
Speaker 1: felt we were falling out of love and my sex
Speaker 1: drive was gone with him. He took it pretty hard.
Speaker 1: But it's now been a year since we've broken up.
Speaker 1: He's living his best life after the breakup. I'm still struggling.
Speaker 1: I was the one who broke up with him and
Speaker 1: had those feelings, so I don't know why I still
Speaker 1: think about him and feel this way. Is it normal
Speaker 1: to have days where I want him back and miss him?
Speaker 1: Do I reach out to him and tell him how
Speaker 1: I feel, even though he seems content with his life.
Speaker 1: M that's a pretty bad a pretty bad email, Emilina.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I love you. Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: emailing us. I really appreciate it. But let's say this
Speaker 1: guy wasn't living his best life. Would you still feel
Speaker 1: this way? Like? Are you just jealous and envious that
Speaker 1: he maybe is handling the break up a little bit
Speaker 1: better than you? By the sound of it, that seems
Speaker 1: to be the case, and you're like resenting breaking up
Speaker 1: with him because he moved on easier than you. That's just,
Speaker 1: uh my my perspective. Thirty ft overview. I don't know
Speaker 1: what do you guys think? Yeah, I completely agree. I
Speaker 1: mean Listen, you've mentioned she mentioned a couple of times
Speaker 1: in this email. But he's living his best life. He
Speaker 1: seems to be doing well even though I'm the one
Speaker 1: that broke up with him. And listen, I actually I
Speaker 1: have a buddy who's kind of going through a similar situation.
Speaker 1: He's dating a girl and he wants to end it.
Speaker 1: He wants to date other people, and what's holding him
Speaker 1: back is the fact that he can't imagine her being
Speaker 1: with someone else. It like enrages and it's like, you
Speaker 1: gotta check your ego. Then you can't have your cake
Speaker 1: and eat it too. You either want to see other
Speaker 1: people and move on, or you want to be with
Speaker 1: this person. That's that's a guy think. Guys want all
Speaker 1: women to want to be with them exclusively. Oh and
Speaker 1: that's what I was telling them. It's just like, listen,
Speaker 1: I understand it's human nature, you're gonna feel that way.
Speaker 1: But the fact is, if you truly love that, if
Speaker 1: you truly care about this person, then you want them
Speaker 1: to be happy. And if they're happy, it's probably gonna
Speaker 1: piss you off because they're not happy with you even
Speaker 1: if you broke them up. Broke up with them, so
Speaker 1: like I agree with Dean who for the longest time
Speaker 1: has said maybe it's best once you break up that
Speaker 1: you just kind of block each other for a while
Speaker 1: and don't see each other or pictures of each other,
Speaker 1: because it's you know, it's I think we all go
Speaker 1: through anytime we see an X, right, it's just like
Speaker 1: it's that awkwardness, those feelings, and you're like, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be with this person, but of course, like
Speaker 1: you have so many intimate moments with them, and like
Speaker 1: as soon as you see them at like stirs up
Speaker 1: emotions and you're like, oh my god, does that mean
Speaker 1: I'm not over them? And it's like, no, of course
Speaker 1: you're over them. But it's just natural feeling weird around
Speaker 1: someone that you've had so much intimacy with. This So
Speaker 1: with this a meal Lena, Amelina, Melina, Emelina terrible with names,
Speaker 1: obviously sorry about that. I butch your names all the time.
Speaker 1: My point being is that I think this was might
Speaker 1: be your ego talking a little bit. So instead of
Speaker 1: reaching back out to your boyfriend or four years who
Speaker 1: you broke up with and felt like you're you know,
Speaker 1: there's a reason you broke up with him, I would
Speaker 1: actually go the opposite direction and block everything and try
Speaker 1: to move on with your life. Yeah. Start, I think
Speaker 1: that you need to really be clear on why you
Speaker 1: would reach out to him, Because if you want to
Speaker 1: reach out to him because you've decided he's the one
Speaker 1: you're in love and you never should have let him go.
Speaker 1: It was a horrible mistake, but you are a hundred
Speaker 1: percent sure that he is the one for you, then
Speaker 1: maybe otherwise it's just gonna end poorly. You're gonna get
Speaker 1: this guy all excited again. It's gonna be great for
Speaker 1: a few weeks. Then you're gonna realize why you broke
Speaker 1: up with him in the first place, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: devastate him all over again, which would be to throw
Speaker 1: him off his wonderful life he's having right now, which
Speaker 1: maybe is part of the reason that you want to
Speaker 1: reach out to him. Maybe he's the kind of knock
Speaker 1: him off his game a little bit. I said, let
Speaker 1: him go, block him, move on. Yeah, I think we're
Speaker 1: in agreement on this. Eastern What do you what's your take?
Speaker 1: You've been uh even silent over there. I mean, I agree,
Speaker 1: I think that, and I pose this. I wonder if
Speaker 1: this man is exactly the same. But now that he's
Speaker 1: not like doting part of her life and focused on her,
Speaker 1: he just looks that much like, oh my god, he's
Speaker 1: so great. He's doing all this great stuff. His life
Speaker 1: is so awesome, And in reality, it's like it's probably
Speaker 1: the same as it was before. He's just not eying
Speaker 1: out with her because you know, the absence makes the
Speaker 1: heart grow fonder or whatever that is. Uh So I
Speaker 1: agree with Mark, don't don't talk to this man, move on.
Speaker 1: Nothing's The hard thing when it comes to excess, too,
Speaker 1: is like we always romanticize the past and like every
Speaker 1: form of memory, and so it's like you're gonna do
Speaker 1: the same thing about your ex is you're gonna remember
Speaker 1: the good times you had with them, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: basically forget all the bad things that ever happened or
Speaker 1: why you broke up with them in the first place.
Speaker 1: So like, like like everyone's basically been saying, it's like
Speaker 1: thinking about your exes is the worst thing, not the
Speaker 1: worst thing. Like it's good to look back fondly on it,
Speaker 1: but like it's never good to yearn for it because
Speaker 1: it's never going to be exactly how you remember it.
Speaker 1: Because your misr like your brain is protecting your memory basically,
Speaker 1: you know, by like remembering all the good things you
Speaker 1: guys had and never the bad things, which is like
Speaker 1: obviously the reason guys broke up in the first place.
Speaker 1: And I also don't forget when you when someone gets
Speaker 1: broken up with, they're usually pretty angry and mad, which
Speaker 1: makes them pretty vengeful, which means that they're going to
Speaker 1: show the best parts of their life on whatever social
Speaker 1: media platform. You're seeing these pictures or telling their friends
Speaker 1: that they're doing great, which their friends will tell you.
Speaker 1: So my point being is I agree with East, and
Speaker 1: he's probably just doing very similar things that he was
Speaker 1: doing prior, but like maybe going out of his way
Speaker 1: to make sure that you know that he's doing pretty well. Um,
Speaker 1: So I just you know, listen to Mark, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: really think about the reasons why you'd want to reach
Speaker 1: out to him, because again, if you reach out to him,
Speaker 1: then you are like, this is a commitment. You want
Speaker 1: to be back together, and you are committing for your
Speaker 1: signing a lease. You know, this is a this is
Speaker 1: at least a year lease. You've got to give it
Speaker 1: another year if you if you reach back out or
Speaker 1: at least have that in your mind. I agree. It
Speaker 1: sounds like Emilina knows what to do now for anyone
Speaker 1: else that wants to email us. I suck a dating,
Speaker 1: I hurt media dot Com. We got one more from anonymous,
Speaker 1: which means you know it's going to be juicy because
Speaker 1: Nick Faile always brings the heat. Here. It comes. My
Speaker 1: long term boyfriend and I finally moved in together two
Speaker 1: months ago, but now I regret it when other we
Speaker 1: have a future together, but he now feels like my
Speaker 1: roommate and my boyfriend. He spends all day at the
Speaker 1: office while I'm home working remote. Then it comes home
Speaker 1: and stays to himself. We don't even spend quality time
Speaker 1: to get the right at home, like watch a movie
Speaker 1: or make dinner. Any advice on how to spark the
Speaker 1: romance living together, well, two months is not a very
Speaker 1: long time. I'm just gonna leave with that one. But Jared,
Speaker 1: I feel like you talk about this semi frequently, where
Speaker 1: you're at Audrey's all day long and then you come
Speaker 1: home and like Ashley has been, you know, fulfilling the
Speaker 1: motherly duties and then she wants to break from the kids,
Speaker 1: so she gives you the kid, but she's like, well,
Speaker 1: I was just working all day, so I don't really
Speaker 1: want to do that. Um, I don't know, how does that?
Speaker 1: How does that affect to you? Guys? I feel like, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's difficult. Uh. You know, having a kid and actually
Speaker 1: being pregnant like changed a lot of things. And so
Speaker 1: I relate to what Anonymous is saying. I would say
Speaker 1: that you need to vocalize these issues you have with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend and let him know that you know, you
Speaker 1: know he works hard and you know you support that obviously,
Speaker 1: but you also want to spend quality time together. So
Speaker 1: again we've talked about a million times on this podcast,
Speaker 1: when you're in a relationshipship with someone, you have to
Speaker 1: put effort into that relationship, which includes making sure that
Speaker 1: you set time aside to spend quality time together, to
Speaker 1: go on a date, because it's only gonna get worse.
Speaker 1: You know, if you guys live together longer, you're gonna
Speaker 1: get into the minutia of things even further and get
Speaker 1: into this routine. And then if you know, who knows,
Speaker 1: if you get married and have kids, like then just
Speaker 1: like responsibilities and everything starts piling up and it only
Speaker 1: gets worse and worse where you feel more like the
Speaker 1: old married couple. So you just gotta really make sure
Speaker 1: they put effort into the relationship and talk about these things.
Speaker 1: I would say my biggest advice to spark the romance
Speaker 1: is to have conversations, conversation with him, let him know
Speaker 1: where you're at, and then you can put a little
Speaker 1: effort into sparking the relationship up again and then hopefully
Speaker 1: he follows suit, which he will if he truly loves you.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, at what point do you
Speaker 1: give up? Because two months is obviously way too early.
Speaker 1: It's like they probably signed a year long lease. It's
Speaker 1: they have ten months more on it probably, and it's
Speaker 1: like obviously way too soon to even make any type
Speaker 1: of decision. So at what point are you like, Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe we tried and it's just not gonna work. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think this is really an odd situation. So he
Speaker 1: comes home from the office and just closes himself in
Speaker 1: a room for the rest of them. That's strange to me, Like,
Speaker 1: you're not even roommates. Roommates watch a movie together, roommates
Speaker 1: watched it, might make dinner together, Like it seems like
Speaker 1: you're even less than roommates. So I think you just
Speaker 1: gotta make some proposals, like, Hey, Friday night, I got
Speaker 1: his reservations here. Hey Saturday night, Um, sons coming over.
Speaker 1: We're having a board game night. Hey, hey, he's working.
Speaker 1: You walk in the room. We're in something sexy. I
Speaker 1: don't know, but I think you're gonna have to force
Speaker 1: the issue a little bit. At the dean's point. If
Speaker 1: we get to the end of this year, lease or
Speaker 1: whatever it is and you're still like this, this relationship
Speaker 1: is not good. He does not want to spend time
Speaker 1: with you. That's what I'm seeing. I've been with my
Speaker 1: wife almost twenty five years. I'm I'm so excited when
Speaker 1: we get to spend some time together because there's so
Speaker 1: many distractions in life. You guys seem to have minimal
Speaker 1: distractions in life. You don't have any kids or anything,
Speaker 1: and you're still not spending time together. I think there's
Speaker 1: major ride flags here. Yeah, Eastern your your train. Uh,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm I'm going to be the contrarian.
Speaker 1: I think I think everything is fine. I think continue
Speaker 1: the course, do not talk to this. No, I'm just kidding. Uh,
Speaker 1: I know I have to agree Uh that you know this, Um,
Speaker 1: this is bad and it's happening this soon. I also
Speaker 1: think it's too early to like pull the plug on it.
Speaker 1: But but yeah, I don't know that. Like I work
Speaker 1: a lot, but I cannot wait to spend time with
Speaker 1: my wife when I'm done with that, Like that's why
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get his work done. I can hang
Speaker 1: out with her and just talk to her and do
Speaker 1: stuff with her. I can't imagine like coming home after
Speaker 1: work and then like I'm curious, what this guy does.
Speaker 1: He go into another room played video games and what's
Speaker 1: he doing? Uh, I don't know. It's video games that's problem. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I thought. That's the first thing where my
Speaker 1: mind went to. He goes and he said, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: start gaming. Yeah, I don't want to shame video game people.
Speaker 1: But every time I see if we see his emails
Speaker 1: coming these podcasts all the time, it's like my husband
Speaker 1: comes from from work and plays video games all night,
Speaker 1: and I'm always like, what the hell is wrong with you, dude,
Speaker 1: Like grow grow up, brom Sorry, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think she needs you need to have a conversation
Speaker 1: with him. Um, And I don't want to put this
Speaker 1: on her because like this is on him too, but
Speaker 1: like you know, he comes from from work just like
Speaker 1: like hey, how is your day, man? How about those mets?
Speaker 1: You know, just like talking about something and hopefully it'll
Speaker 1: be like, oh, yeah, I like to spend time with
Speaker 1: this person. That's why we moved in together. Let's spend
Speaker 1: more time together. Do you guys think there's like an
Speaker 1: imbalance um there because she's working remote, so she works
Speaker 1: from home. He's in the office, and so it feels
Speaker 1: like there might be like some sort of like miss
Speaker 1: communication or like imbalance there where she's at home all
Speaker 1: day alone and he is like kind of like going
Speaker 1: into the office and like, you know, it's just it's
Speaker 1: obviously just a pretty different experience between working from home
Speaker 1: and working out of the office. Until maybe he gets
Speaker 1: back and he wants like decompress and uh, you know,
Speaker 1: he's like he's you know, social to out. I guess
Speaker 1: like that that probably has something to do with it.
Speaker 1: I think, maybe not everything, but at least something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So there's there's what's worth salvaging here, and it's worth
Speaker 1: a conversation. But here's a message for all women out
Speaker 1: there who have men who love their video games. Your
Speaker 1: boobs should be more entertaining to him than any video game,
Speaker 1: and if they're not, it's a problem. Okay, Well, hey,
Speaker 1: as I I like video games, but I also love boobs.
Speaker 1: What if? What if they're like close to each other?
Speaker 1: But I guess you have as long as he's a
Speaker 1: ranked higher, boobs have got to be higher. Set the
Speaker 1: controller down. When the boob they're out, that's all, that's it,
Speaker 1: and only then, only then until the boom's come out,
Speaker 1: keep on grinding away. There are times where Caylin gets
Speaker 1: on my case we're playing video games where it's like
Speaker 1: I only ever played games like at night because I
Speaker 1: don't want to waste the day. So I'll like start
Speaker 1: playing at like eight, and then like it will all
Speaker 1: of a sudden be like eleven o'clock and she's like,
Speaker 1: why the hell have you not come to bed yet?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, I'll be in in ten minutes,
Speaker 1: and then like I just get like sucked into it,
Speaker 1: and I'm like then it's like one in the morning,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, I've been playing for
Speaker 1: vide games for five hours. I'm the biggest piece of uh.
Speaker 1: And there was a point where I like, it wasn't
Speaker 1: just playing the video games, but there was there's a
Speaker 1: big like movement amongst my friends to all play this
Speaker 1: one game together, and so there was like constantly like
Speaker 1: ten of us on and I was like, Kitlin, it's
Speaker 1: not just the video games. I'm like hanging out with
Speaker 1: my friends and like it's like a social thing. And
Speaker 1: She's like, I just don't get it. This is so
Speaker 1: so so she got really frustrated by it. So I
Speaker 1: can empathize with the gamers, but at the same time too,
Speaker 1: when I look back on those times, I'm kind of like,
Speaker 1: what was I doing? Like why did I play so much?
Speaker 1: Like that's just silly, you know. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: the bottom line here, and we've learned this for the
Speaker 1: past few years. Kayl is just a lucky woman. That's it.
Speaker 1: That's yeah, she's just you joke, you joke, but she's
Speaker 1: quite lucky alright, between the hygiene and the let me
Speaker 1: tell you, my my stink is one in seven million,
Speaker 1: and not everyone gets to experience this stink. So, uh no,
Speaker 1: you're right, You're right, Kaylin. You know she she's she's
Speaker 1: quite the saint to put up with someone like me.
Speaker 1: But um, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know,
Speaker 1: Dean stink. That's a good way of segueing off this podcast.
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