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Speaker 1: Oh, oh my gosh, my green juice smoothie today.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to know what's it?

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Speaker 3: Well, it's a green juice smoothie.

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Speaker 4: I'm assuming spinach, Yes, very good spinach, AVOs, avocados, nice ginger, coconut. Oh, dates,

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Speaker 4: love dates, blueberries. Oh, and I'm gonna live forever.

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Speaker 3: Hilarious. Oh do you hear that banging by the way, yes?

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Speaker 3: Do you? Okay, all right, okay, what is that?

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Speaker 2: I was trying to talk about my smoothie.

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Speaker 3: I know, which was so interesting. I was so interested

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Speaker 3: in hearing about what's in your smoothie. Trust me, it

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Speaker 3: was delightful and woof just never heard that before, that recipe.

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Speaker 3: But the banging, the bay ya yanging is happening because

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Speaker 3: we're getting our bathroom renovated. He's laying down the pipes, bitch. Hey, oh,

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Speaker 3: I just refused to, you know, sit on a toilet

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Speaker 3: that's older than me. I mean it feels like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I just worked too hard to take a ship in

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Speaker 3: a hont of toilet. Quite frankly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's getting to that part of the afternoon where

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Speaker 1: I need a snack or something like that.

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Speaker 2: I need a snack, something savory, something.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I can see the blood sugar level dropping in

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Speaker 3: your eyes. Hey everyone, welcome to adulting. I'm Mi Sheelby TOEU.

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Speaker 3: This is my hungry co host Jordan Carlos, and uh yeah,

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Speaker 3: we are at the point and time in our lives

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Speaker 3: where we talk about what's wrong with us during the

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Speaker 3: day and what kind of snacks we have to have.

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Speaker 3: I need I you know what, I you know, I

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Speaker 3: love a nash. I tell the story all the time.

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Speaker 3: If I'm hungry, it's not gonna go well, it's not

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Speaker 3: gonna go. Well. We all went to Grease. The dinners

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Speaker 3: are very late and the snacks are not snacking. It's like,

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Speaker 3: I love the artisanal fried potato chips. I need I

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Speaker 3: need a rotisserie chicken. You know, let me just I

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Speaker 3: need a snack. I need you know, I need something

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Speaker 3: with the hummus. I need snacks. And our chef and

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Speaker 3: Grace so amazing. He's like, go on a walk about

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Speaker 3: come back for He looked at us. I was already hunger.

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Speaker 3: He said eight thirty nine. I says seven is seven thirty?

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Speaker 3: Like how long? This was like one or two o'clock. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I wanted to walk around by stats and then everyone

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Speaker 3: was like, we're gonna save our appetite. I'm like, are

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Speaker 3: we we can't eat something? I have another Apple site suit.

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Speaker 3: I was shook, but like we were all getting along

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Speaker 3: so oh well on the trip. I didn't want to

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Speaker 3: the good times. I wanted them to roll. And I

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Speaker 3: just almost start to cry. And I just looked at

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Speaker 3: you guys, a grown woman standing in front of you guys,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, I'm so sorry, but I need

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Speaker 3: a hot nash. That's what I said. I said, I

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Speaker 3: need a hot mash.

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Speaker 1: You've told that story before, and let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: You did not violate or take up space or displace anything.

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Speaker 1: You were hungry, it felt. I was like, all right,

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Speaker 1: she's not going to suffer in silence. She needs something.

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Speaker 1: And I remember we got some delicious ice cream and

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Speaker 1: then we got pizza that was not good, and then

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Speaker 1: we walked around. We got a little high end or drunk,

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Speaker 1: and it was fine, Michelle, You're fine, You're okay. We

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Speaker 1: love you, And yes, adults of a certain age do

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Speaker 1: need a snaggy snack for.

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Speaker 2: Real, we need a shnack.

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Speaker 3: Like look, you could always come to me when you

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Speaker 3: need a snack, not just you Jordan, but like the world. Like, listen,

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Speaker 3: if you are hungry and you see me on the street,

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Speaker 3: I will give you whatever kind of peanuts or whatever

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Speaker 3: I have in my because ooh when not hunger hits

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Speaker 3: not gonna be good personally for me. I could do

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Speaker 3: like seven little snackies all throughout the day instead of

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Speaker 3: much cooking and cleaning.

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Speaker 1: I like that's because you're royal, You're very you have

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Speaker 3: What is what does that even?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 3: What a plus sized mega markle? What do we mean?

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Speaker 2: What do we mean? What I'm saying? Is it with

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Speaker 1: It's like, you know, I see like a spread of

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Speaker 1: of things of naches that you can definitely graze.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, it's my love language. I love like a charcouterie.

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Speaker 3: But you know, I don't need all those porky items.

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Speaker 3: But I love like little tiny, like mismatch bowls full

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Speaker 3: of mythings. I like fresh fruit. I also like dry fruit.

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Speaker 3: I love it. I love little small meals. Oh tap

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Speaker 1: No, this is what I knew if we started talking

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Speaker 1: about snacks, you would be in your bag because it's

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Speaker 2: Yes, but the.

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Speaker 1: Rosemary and time of it all like on the cracker.

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Speaker 1: Do you need to see the rosemary like and or

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Speaker 3: To see the sea salt. If you're gonna promise me

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Speaker 3: kid in Uh Willy Wonka when he eats the gum.

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Speaker 3: He's like a blueberry like I can't. But I do

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Speaker 3: love naturally salty things like a caper or an olive.

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Speaker 3: I can get behind that. I love a puddanesca.

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Speaker 1: Mama, isn't that that's like that's the horse pasta right?

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Speaker 3: Yes, it's accurate. It's accurate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you put because it's.

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Speaker 3: It's accurate it's accurate. It's a lot of red pepper

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Speaker 3: chili flakes with a salty, briny shit stop and sexual

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Speaker 3: empowerment over Vermicelli noodles. Your Mama, Ma, Ma, Ma, mom la.

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Speaker 3: If you guys don't like adults and you're gonna hate

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Speaker 3: this episode, I'm just gonna let you know. I'm in

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Speaker 3: my snack bag, bag bag.

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Speaker 2: It is wild.

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Speaker 3: I love snacks so much. What you know, what's really

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Speaker 3: fun too. One more thing, I don't eat pork, but

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Speaker 3: I do have this really great Prejudo cup recipe. If

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Speaker 3: do something fancy for a Saturday or Sunday, get some Prejudo.

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Speaker 3: Put that in your muffin tin and put a dop

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Speaker 3: of milk, a little bit of egg, salt, pepper if

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Speaker 3: you have rosemary, grape maybe or regino, put that in

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Speaker 3: there on top of the prigudo and then spring out

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Speaker 2: Do that.

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Speaker 3: It's fun.

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Speaker 1: It's fun, and then you just a nap for the

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Speaker 3: Well, I even though like I don't eat pork. I'll

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Speaker 3: just fry like a bunch of Like I don't eat

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Speaker 3: am very much like my grandma, Like I'm not gonna

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Speaker 3: so pro judo cups, guys, I wonder grow on. Oh god,

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Speaker 3: we're so adult. I can't wait to get to our guests.

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Speaker 3: I'm very excited.

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Speaker 2: Of course, you haven't just thinking about food.

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Speaker 3: Let's get to our guests and then you can get

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Speaker 1: I promise, yes, Let's get to our guest has the

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Speaker 1: most fun name.

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Speaker 3: I love his name. I love him. And he also

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Speaker 3: has a movie that you have to watch it and

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Speaker 3: if you haven't seen it, please see. If you've seen

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Speaker 3: it already, see it again. Those numbers fucking count Fire Island.

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Speaker 3: Please help us welcome our guests. We'll kim booth. Wait

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Speaker 3: a minute. You guys can't see. But Joel has a

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Speaker 3: speashir on that says porn Hub because they need more advertising.

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Speaker 2: They're not doing well.

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Speaker 3: They're not they have a corner the market. If I

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Speaker 3: what could I find?

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Speaker 2: It's super eclectic.

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Speaker 5: Actually, yeah, I don't have like a porn type necessarily.

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Speaker 5: I like people that look like me. So I'm searching.

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Speaker 5: It's really actually, it's really hard to find good Asian

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Speaker 5: porn on Pornhub. I have to turn to Twitter.

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Speaker 3: I say it every Tuesday.

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Speaker 2: Wait, what's on Twitter?

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Speaker 5: Twitter is like where you go to find I'm really

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Speaker 5: into mom and pop amateur you know, oh, small business owners.

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Speaker 1: Mom and pops, small business owners. You're saying kind of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, got you.

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Speaker 3: Isn't the camera work always dicey? I'm like, did anyone

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Speaker 5: It is usually like sort of home security footage from

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Speaker 2: But there are a couple of experts.

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Speaker 2: I need that third person.

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Speaker 5: I need the friend, you know, Like I'm really interested

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Speaker 2: The iPhone camera.

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Speaker 3: I am. I am with you, like I think about

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Speaker 3: those people unsung heroes. If you will, I will go

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Speaker 3: outside today and bang my pots at seven pm. For

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Speaker 2: The phot I was like, where is this going?

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Speaker 5: I'm always so curious, like, is it a sexual experience

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Speaker 5: for them? To like, are they holding the camera sort

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Speaker 3: I think you got to talk about it before you

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Speaker 5: Really absolutely, Yeah, consent is cute, so cute, but feels

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Speaker 5: it's the only way that they can hang out metaphorically speaking,

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Speaker 5: there's a reason they weren't invited to the scene itself.

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Speaker 5: You know, that's sort of that's sort of the unset

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Speaker 3: Maybe they're like a pa like a production assistant, and

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Speaker 3: they're like, one day somebody will be holding the camera

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Speaker 3: for me.

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Speaker 2: You got to pay your dues. You gotta pay your

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Speaker 2: due absolutely.

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Speaker 3: Also you can get a stand for your phone. But look,

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Speaker 3: I don't want to rob anybody from a job. I

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Speaker 5: People have student loans they need to be paying off, Michelle.

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Speaker 3: Do they I don't know anybody that is the going

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Speaker 3: and like getting money. I have to say. I also

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Speaker 3: but you do you have?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god? You know what I mean? Like what

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Speaker 5: What that seems like a really limited vocabulary that you're picking.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's more than I can say in Portuguese. That's

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Speaker 3: Jordan wants to say something in Portuguese, so bad I do.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna stop. It's a new year. I have

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Speaker 1: to stop doing that, you know, stub in comustache. All right,

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Speaker 1: So here's what I was gonna say. There's this site

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Speaker 1: that I heard about called make Love Not Porn. It's

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Speaker 1: like h sex positive homespun, exactly what you're talking about, Joel.

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Speaker 1: What would we considered pornography? You know, videos made by couples.

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Speaker 3: I love. When you get really uncomfortable with saying something,

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Speaker 5: I don't want to see people making love. When I'm wanting,

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Speaker 5: I want to see people. Fuck yeah, I want to

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Speaker 3: Oh I love that. Yes, come on, you better make

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Speaker 3: of spaghetti from Trader Joe's. You guys, listen, I have

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Speaker 3: the money shot, like like get the money shot. Jennyman like,

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Speaker 3: why are you telling the story? And so the first

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Speaker 3: like that Little Boy and Stranger Thing season one. He's like, huh,

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Speaker 5: He just came back from the upside down he did.

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Speaker 3: And I was like rolling in ten dollars bills on

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Speaker 3: name was Voodoo. Okay, mister Voodoo, and my husband was

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Speaker 3: and he's like, mister Voodoo was like pointing my camera

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Speaker 3: I don't want to go back Oh, my good guys.

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Speaker 3: you pick up your fucking phone. Do you get jealous?

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Speaker 5: No, My boyfriend and I are in a very open relationship,

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Speaker 5: There's a couple of no flies on his list for me,

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Speaker 5: like a couple of people that I'm not allowed to

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Speaker 5: I was like, you can, you can fuck whoever you want,

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Speaker 5: lot of time around both exes, and I was completely

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Speaker 5: both Their personalities are such that I was not threatened

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's so nice.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it is nice. It feels very I don't know.

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Speaker 5: This is my first serious relationship too. We're coming up

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Speaker 5: on two.

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Speaker 2: Years and.

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Speaker 5: I feel done. I feel pretty much complete in my journey.

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Speaker 5: You know, we're not at the point where I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: know why anyone else. That's why I've never been in

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Speaker 5: time before, and now it feels like I'm working towards

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 2: Can I ask you a question?

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's also your birthday, so this is such a

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this is this is sort of the eve of

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Speaker 2: Day this year.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, what a shooting star.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 5: I'm so special.

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Speaker 2: You're less than ten years old. This is Christy.

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Speaker 5: I'm eight and three quarters three quarters wow. Wow, And

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Speaker 5: I am having a bit of an existential crisis about it,

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Speaker 5: a little bit more than I've ever had on a birthday.

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Speaker 5: I think thirty. So I'm turning thirty five and I

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Speaker 5: But I looked at myself in the mirror when I

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Speaker 5: my agent came to my birthday. He was like, oh,

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Speaker 5: how old are you turning? And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 5: shouldn't you know that? And he said, oh, no, to me,

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Speaker 5: you're twenty seven to thirty two, and that's all I

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Speaker 5: need to know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, it's.

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Speaker 3: What we all age. So fucking well, congratulations.

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Speaker 5: True.

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Speaker 3: I am forty five and I bitch and I play

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Speaker 3: a thirty eight year old in my show. And I

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Speaker 3: kept asking people, am I going to pass now? Like bitch?

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Speaker 5: And I'm like, all right, I'm a CW college student.

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Speaker 5: I'm a CW junior and junior, yes, bitch, I love it.

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Speaker 5: Haven't even graduated college yet.

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Speaker 1: I think you need to be a little bit older

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Speaker 1: to play younger, because to me, you give that perspective

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Speaker 1: on what that age was like. You know, absolutely, I

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Speaker 1: but it's like, you know what thirty eight was like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when you're in it, it's hard to know you're in.

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Speaker 3: It one hundred. I mean, yeah, this is my Penn

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Speaker 3: fifteen of my thirties lol. But very similar to being

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Speaker 3: in a healthy relationship, you kind of have to really

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Speaker 3: understand what it's like to fuck these frogs to sort

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Speaker 3: of get nowhere, to like want more for yourself, even

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Speaker 3: being in a loving relationship where like it makes you

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's always like what we can do for them, how

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Speaker 3: we should look like, how we can make something special

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Speaker 3: and then like still want to do it?

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Speaker 5: Relationships are so much work. I mean, that's the biggest

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Speaker 5: to do the copious amounts of work, the prerec work

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Speaker 5: and then having to juggle the actual work of being

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Speaker 5: lot of people can't hack it is that they haven't

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Speaker 1: Nobody's played that big, right, It's true. I have a question,

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Speaker 1: So what was the prerec work that you had to do?

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Speaker 2: A and two? This is a follow up?

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Speaker 1: Sure follow two part or two part is your person

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Speaker 3: None of the above, just kidding.

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Speaker 5: I would say the first part of the work that

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Speaker 5: I think, because I think what I was doing when

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Speaker 5: and like that doesn't work. It just you have to

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Speaker 5: You'll always be, you know, a little bit uncomfortable in

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Speaker 5: I needed so much from the people that I was dating,

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Speaker 5: like I was ready to like invite someone else into

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Speaker 5: like I would say, like the nutshell work that I

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Speaker 5: technically in the industry. He's in the entertainment industry. He

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Speaker 5: works in video games. Cool, he's a video game producer.

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Speaker 5: He's a story producer for video games. It's really kind

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Speaker 5: talk about it and he's on the level and like

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00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 5: he reads my shit, gives great notes. He saw Fire,

437
00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:48,920
Speaker 5: He saw the first cut of Fire Island, which a

438
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 5: lot of people told me was a mistake to show

439
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 5: him because the first cut is often the worst cut

440
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,880
Speaker 5: for me. It was like, I need him to see

441
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 5: this so that he know this was this was early

442
00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 5: in our relationship, and I was like, he needs to

443
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:02,679
Speaker 5: know that I'm good at this because if I'm not,

444
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 5: or if he doesn't think I am, then you know,

445
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:07,399
Speaker 5: this will never work. Yeah, And so I was like,

446
00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:09,360
Speaker 5: you need to see this, And then it turned into

447
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 5: something even more beautiful because hearing his thoughts and his

448
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 5: notes and all of these things really turned me on

449
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 5: in a huge way because it was like, Oh, you're smart,

450
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 5: you get it, you get what I do, but you're

451
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 5: not a part of it. You know, we're not competing.

452
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 2: You know.

453
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 5: It's sort of the happy, happiest medium for me.

454
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:31,800
Speaker 3: You job so many beautiful gems. I'm really just struggling

455
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 3: to pick them up because my knees hurt. Give me

456
00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 3: a second. The person that we're with doesn't necessarily have

457
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 3: to be a fan, but they definitely should appreciate what

458
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 3: we do. I've seen a handful of relationships in this

459
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: industry where people are competing or they just don't take

460
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 3: their partners work seriously because they're a civilian and they

461
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 3: do other things. They're just like, oh, that hobby, you mean,

462
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 3: the hobby that your partner's been doing for ten to

463
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 3: twenty years. More than a hobby, it's a passion. Please

464
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 3: take it seriously, you know what I mean? But also like, oh,

465
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,000
Speaker 3: my god, can you imagine putting your face in someone's

466
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 3: crotch that doesn't understand a joke?

467
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 2: Mmm?

468
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,439
Speaker 3: No, I could never suck a dick. Well, I have,

469
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 3: but the point is we all have. I can't do

470
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 3: it anymore.

471
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,399
Speaker 5: I mean, that's a big reason why we're open, to

472
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 5: be quite honest, is that, like nobody makes me laugh,

473
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 5: Like my partner makes me laugh, and we have great sex.

474
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 5: But it is nice to have the freedom to fuck

475
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:36,880
Speaker 5: people that I otherwise find untolerable and just know what

476
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 5: that is right now, you know, like there's no hope

477
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,440
Speaker 5: or dream that it'll turn into anything else. I can

478
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:45,399
Speaker 5: just have sex with someone that I'm deeply physically attracted to,

479
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 5: but sort of find repulsive on a personal level and

480
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:50,679
Speaker 5: then just leave it at that.

481
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 3: Yes, get at your system.

482
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 2: Wow.

483
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 1: I mean it probably wasn't easy, Pasy coming up with

484
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:01,640
Speaker 1: this construct that you and your guy have in order

485
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 1: to have this open relationship. What was that process like?

486
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: So we've been open since the beginning for a lot

487
00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: of different reasons. When we met, we met in Mexico.

488
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: This was like right after vaccines, but before Delta. Everyone

489
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 1: was sort of like, we did it, we beat it,

490
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:22,400
Speaker 1: it's over, COVID is done. And so it was our

491
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: first both of ours, like first like party vacations that

492
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 1: we took with our friends. He was living in San

493
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: Francisco at the time, and it just accepted a job

494
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: that would take him to La but he hadn't moved yet.

495
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 1: And when we met, you know, he was supposed to

496
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 1: be just like a one night stand that then turned

497
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: into like a two nights stand, a three nights stand,

498
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,520
Speaker 1: like he became my vacation boyfriend basically, And when we

499
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 1: were sort of discussing what to do about it beyond that,

500
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 1: he was like, I don't want a boyfriend when I

501
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:50,919
Speaker 1: moved to La right away, and I was like, I

502
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 1: definitely don't want to be your boyfriend when you moved

503
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 1: to LA right away, it's gonna be like chum in

504
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: the water. I need you to like establish your life,

505
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: you know, fuck it out of your system, etc. He's

506
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:04,119
Speaker 1: also he's I'm six years older than him, five and

507
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: a half.

508
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 2: Years older than him.

509
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 5: He's twenty. He was twenty eight when we met, or

510
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 5: twenty seven when we met. Actually, so that's young, you know,

511
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 5: Like I remember what it was like to be in

512
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 5: my twenties. Like I didn't want to nail someone down

513
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 5: because I knew if I nailed him down at twenty seven,

514
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 5: he would just feel restless and eventually resent me, I think.

515
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 5: And so then I went off to shoot Fire Island

516
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 5: in New York. He was moving to LA, and so

517
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 5: we were a long distance and it was like it

518
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 5: didn't make sense at that early stage to close things,

519
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 5: and so we were in a very functional sort of

520
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:41,360
Speaker 5: don't ask, don't tell, open relationship from the start. When

521
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 5: I moved back to LA, and we pretty quickly started

522
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:48,120
Speaker 5: seriously dating, and we sort of talked about closing things.

523
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 5: But again it was like this issue of like I

524
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 5: think I really wanted to give him freedom. I think

525
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 5: the other thing for me too, is I have not

526
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 5: always looked like this. I started looking like this sort

527
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 5: of late in life. I'm a late bloomer, you know.

528
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,920
Speaker 5: I they didn't get hot until almost my thirties, basically,

529
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 5: and I want to enjoy the fruits of this labor

530
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 5: for a little bit longer, I think, you know, while

531
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 5: I still got it, and he's young and he's new,

532
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 5: and so like, it just was sort of we just

533
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 5: wanted to have that freedom I think existing in our relationship.

534
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 5: And again, like when I moved back, we would figure

535
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 5: out rules and things like that. But what we realized,

536
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 5: I think after having like set rules we would always

537
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 5: come up with situations where it didn't quite work, is

538
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 5: that ultimately we know each other so well I know

539
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 5: what would hurt him, you know, Like, and there were

540
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 5: situations where like I technically wasn't quote unquote breaking a rule,

541
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 5: but I knew in the back of my head, like

542
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,640
Speaker 5: this wouldn't be cool or this would end up hurting him,

543
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 5: and so the rules it was, it didn't work.

544
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 2: You know.

545
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 5: There were situations where I would also break a rule

546
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 5: and I knew he wouldn't give a shit. So like,

547
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 5: basically our one rule is like you know what would

548
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 5: hurt me. You know what would hurt my feelings, I

549
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 5: know what would hurt you, and what would hurt your feelings.

550
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 5: Don't do that thing, and just copious amounts of communication.

551
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 5: We just talk and reset all the time, right.

552
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: I think what I'm hearing here is and it's so

553
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 1: vital to a good relationship is consideration. Yeah, you're considering

554
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 1: him and putting him first, which is just super important

555
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: to the long game.

556
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's all about communication at the end of the day. Yeah,

557
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 5: communication and consideration is the two big I think focuses

558
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 5: and what makes it work.

559
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 3: Come on, let me get my tambourrina. I know we

560
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 3: go to church.

561
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 2: Yes, what are you gonna do for your birthday with

562
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 2: your person?

563
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 5: I had a little party over the weekend which was cute,

564
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 5: sort of a housewarming birthday party. And that's and that's

565
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 5: kind of it. Like the older I get, the less

566
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 5: I care I think, and and I think that's that

567
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 5: is also sort.

568
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 2: Of self preservation a little bit too.

569
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 5: But like the less of a big deal I make

570
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 5: about it, the less real it feels.

571
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 3: I guess so many follow ups. I love a dual

572
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 3: party situation because you're really just knocking it out. You

573
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 3: don't have to keep hosting shit. Did people give you

574
00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 3: more than one gift? One for the birthday, one for

575
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 3: the hull.

576
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 5: Well, I did say no gets necessary on it, which, thankfully,

577
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 5: thank god, a few people disregarded. Yeah.

578
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:10,920
Speaker 3: I always disregard that bullshit.

579
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 5: The real ones know, the real ones. What instructions to ignore?

580
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 5: I got a lot of candles, you know everybody? Oh, yes,

581
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 5: everybody was bringing over those candles. Yes, candles are so necessary. Absolutely,

582
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 5: were there a lot of gem alone candles up in there?

583
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 5: I think I might have. Actually, no, ship, got one

584
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 5: gem alone candle.

585
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 3: That's the housewarming go to presont and an organic wine

586
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 3: that's gonna suck all the moisture your fucking mouth. I

587
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 3: just licking eggshells. What the fuck I'm gonna be hung

588
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 3: over you the way, I don't give a fuck. Anyways,

589
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 3: that's very exciting, like a birthday party, a beautiful relationship,

590
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 3: a housewarming party. This motherfuck is so adult.

591
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 2: I mean, that's so grown. Do you own your house?

592
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 2: I do?

593
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 5: Oh my god, yeah it is. It feels that feels

594
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 5: crazy that I will occasionally still like be really fucked

595
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 5: up on like ketamine or something like that and just

596
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 5: be like I own a house.

597
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 3: You've always been doing shit. Like I remember talking to

598
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 3: you like at the upstairs of a fucking show that

599
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 3: I don't even know if it was a show, but

600
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 3: I think it was me, you Matteo, or wasn't Linkston Kermit.

601
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 5: I don't know, it's all it might have been all

602
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 5: four of us, because I remember this stimply because you

603
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 5: were you were like workshopping a joke with us, like

604
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 5: you were tasking. I remember sitting on the stairs and

605
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 5: like you sort of in succession. Yes, yes, yes, I remember.

606
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 5: I remember this this quite well. Actually, Yeah.

607
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 3: And I remember asking you how you were doing, and

608
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 3: you were working on a TV show I think about

609
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 3: your life.

610
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think I had sold a show at that point.

611
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 5: Yeah that that never that never went anywhere. But that's fine.

612
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 3: But that's part of the process that nobody ever talks

613
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 3: about either, right, Like that's just part of it, like

614
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 3: the slow simmer and thank god we h well because

615
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 3: here the fuck we are bitches. But like I just remember,

616
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 3: like what a moment in time, like everyone's talking about

617
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 3: all this other shit they got on the plate. What

618
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 3: was the point of this? I don't remember.

619
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, but it was.

620
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: It was good tall something you you were you said

621
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: you were work shopping a joke, and that Joel was there,

622
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: Matteo was there, and then maybe Langston Kerman.

623
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 5: That seems like the crew that was around at that time.

624
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: Can I ask a question though, Yeah, while you're thinking

625
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,719
Speaker 1: of that, Michelle, thanks, thanks. You said you've only recently

626
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: gotten hot. But I remember at La Posce and Rouge.

627
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: I remember this very well. You and I were doing

628
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: stand up down there at you remember the plos Rouge.

629
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm bleeker. That's what I met you for

630
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: the first time.

631
00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, that was years that was years ago,

632
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 1: and I was like this, this dude is cut from wood.

633
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 1: You were like you were completely shredded, like a Julianne Salad.

634
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: I don't when when were you When did it happen

635
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: for you?

636
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 5: I mean probably right around that time. I would say, I,

637
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 5: you know, it was this thing. I've talked about this

638
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 5: before in different interviews. There was a while where I

639
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 5: was like my brand on stage was like I would

640
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 5: talk about being hot because at the time it felt

641
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 5: interesting for an Asian man to own that.

642
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 2: You know, I think like and I.

643
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 5: Think for me, especially early days, Like I've been doing

644
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 5: stand up for almost twelve years now, and I remember

645
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 5: in the early.

646
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 2: Days, like it was still like my vibe.

647
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:42,479
Speaker 5: Was very much I would go up and be like, oh,

648
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 5: I can't get a date because I'm you know, I'm

649
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 5: hideous and Asian and blah blah blah, nobody wants me.

650
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 2: And that was like what.

651
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 5: Made I think predominantly white audience is really comfortable, Like

652
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 5: that's really that's like something they understand, that's a stereotype

653
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 5: they understand about Asian men. And so I was back

654
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 5: in that mode, like really into making audiences comfortable and

655
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 5: like sort of like low status audience high status, and

656
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 5: then it just became less and less interesting and more

657
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 5: and more detrimental to my mental health to get on

658
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 5: stage and talk about myself in that way. And so

659
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 5: I remember, before I believed it, I was like, wouldn't

660
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 5: it And it was sort of like, wouldn't this be

661
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 5: creatively interesting? Is if I could walk out on stage

662
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 5: and say like I'm hot and better than you and

663
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 5: still have the audience be on my side, Like that's

664
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 5: a higher bar of difficulty as a comedian to get

665
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 5: the audience on your side. If you're not coming out

666
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 5: there putting yourself down and like putting them above you.

667
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: You know, like every audience wants to feel like they're

668
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 2: above you.

669
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 5: It's way harder to get out to go out there

670
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 5: and be like, y'all suck and I'm awesome now, laugh

671
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 5: at my wooks. But I will say I was doing

672
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 5: that before I believed it about myself, and I think

673
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 5: I sort of really reverse engineered to self esteem out

674
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 5: of those jokes, like really, I really like didn't have it.

675
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 5: And then the more I talked about it, the more

676
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 5: I started to believe it. And then the more I

677
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 5: started to believe it, the more I started to live it.

678
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 5: Even back then, I think, like if you heard me

679
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 5: saying that on stage, it was probably a transitioning period

680
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 5: of like working on myself trying to like believe what

681
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 5: I was saying. And so that is sort of where

682
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 5: I've come. And now I think it's like I don't

683
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 5: really talk about that on stage anymore, because it does

684
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 5: feel like now that I've done that work and it's

685
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:29,959
Speaker 5: it's less interesting now, and comedians are there are actually

686
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 5: a lot of hot comedians now, which is annoying.

687
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's the way it goes right.

688
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, changed soon.

689
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like bell bottoms or crinoline. It'll change soon.

690
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 2: Okay, who are these hot comedians you're thinking of?

691
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 5: No? I mean like no, I was still it's still

692
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 5: number one. Buttato's got to be number one.

693
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 3: Al Dente.

694
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 5: Al Dente is fucking right, that fucking noodle eating bitch.

695
00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 5: I just I just it's open for him at the

696
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 5: Ace Hotel here. He sold out two shows at the

697
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 5: Ace Hotel. I'm so proud of him. We started together

698
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 5: in Chicago and he the way he eats, it's just

699
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 5: I could never I could never eat the amount of

700
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 5: yogurt and chicken that he eats to look like that,

701
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 5: I know, high protein.

702
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: I feel like he's got five pound weights and somehow

703
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 3: he's got all that muscle. Like, what are we doing?

704
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 3: What are we like? I'm out here like deadlifting my twins. Okay,

705
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 3: So our audience members writing questions that they want us

706
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 3: to answer about about adulting. I'm doing fine, everyone, Thanks

707
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 3: for checking in out small toast yet and yet yet

708
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 3: and yeah. So we're gonna ask you some questions and

709
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 3: help us answer them. It's very fucking fun. And God

710
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,880
Speaker 3: move over. Steve Harvey, I'm coming to get your job.

711
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 2: Do you want me to go first to you? I'll

712
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 2: go first.

713
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 3: What's one dish? Thanks? What's one dish? I should know

714
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 3: how to make by age thirty.

715
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 5: I think one really simple hostative with a homemade sauce

716
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 5: like red sauce, is not that hard to make. Once

717
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,280
Speaker 5: you have that basic skill down, you can add chicken

718
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 5: to it, you can add vegetables to it, you can

719
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,840
Speaker 5: sort of like build anything on top of it to

720
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 5: sort of suit your needs whatever that is. But everybody

721
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 5: is impressed when you can make your own sauce. Everybody woof.

722
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 5: And it's easier than it is.

723
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,720
Speaker 3: I want to make a dig choke. I'm not also

724
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 3: like scrambled eggs, girl like Runaway Bride.

725
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:29,399
Speaker 1: Figure out how you like your eggs? What do you say, Jordan,

726
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: I'd say an omelet. It's not as hard as you think.

727
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 1: You can make one yourself, add which you want to

728
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: three egg omelet? Pretty simple, make it in the pan

729
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 1: and save yourself seventeen bucks at brunch. However, I understand

730
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 1: that brunch is a cultural thing and not exactly an

731
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 1: experiential thing.

732
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:46,959
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, all.

733
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 3: The potatoes and fucking toast, nobody eats. Okay, what's the

734
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 3: next question, Jordan?

735
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 2: Okay, here's a good one.

736
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 1: I can hear my roommate having sex all the time,

737
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: and they put a period between each one of those words,

738
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: and it's the absolute worst. I love living with her,

739
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 1: but I can't handle listening to her moon as often

740
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 1: as I do.

741
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 2: What do I do? I'm dying in tarot bang at

742
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 2: the end? What do I do?

743
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 5: I've never been bothered by sex sounds, I guess, so

744
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 5: this is a hard one for me. And I'm also

745
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 5: always going to come down on the side of the

746
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 5: person having sex too. So for me, it's like leave

747
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 5: the house, like, come up with a system where she

748
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 5: warns you, like how long can sex? Honestly take take

749
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:27,720
Speaker 5: a walk, ask her to have sex earlier in the evenings,

750
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 5: take yourself out to dinner. Invest in some EarPods, like

751
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:37,439
Speaker 5: they've got really good noise canceling headphones. Now, the thing

752
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 5: is is you're never going to get her to stop

753
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 5: having sex.

754
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 2: You're just not.

755
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 3: Do you have to work around that? Also, like let

756
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 3: her have sex women were not wet forever, Like let

757
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 3: her get it in while she actually can. I had

758
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 3: a roommate that loved to fuck skater boys that had

759
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 3: no jobs and would leave just everything in the toilet.

760
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 3: She loved to have sex in the shower. I don't mind.

761
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 3: I'm down with shower sex because they look gross, but

762
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 3: not when I gotta go to work. I got a job,

763
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 3: so I say, be mindful. But noise canceling situations also help.

764
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 5: Have sex louder in the next room to grown out

765
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 5: per sex vices.

766
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 2: The only way. Retaliation is the only way. Yeah, fight

767
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 2: fire with fire.

768
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:21,720
Speaker 3: I love it. Ooh do you have to message someone

769
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 3: you're not interested in back if you only went on

770
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 3: one date?

771
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 5: So this is a controversial opinion that I that I hold,

772
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 5: But I think that after one date ghosting is okay.

773
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 5: I do think two dates you're in dangerous territory. Three

774
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 5: dates you're a monster if you do it. But I think, like,

775
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 5: especially if it's like a tender date and you go

776
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,840
Speaker 5: on one date and you didn't vibe, Like, if this

777
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 5: person is an existing person in your life and you

778
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 5: decide to take it to the next level and go

779
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 5: on a date, then you do owe that person explanation.

780
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 5: But if you this some random stranger from the internet,

781
00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 5: or even just like someone that you met one time,

782
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,359
Speaker 5: I'm and they asked you out on a date and

783
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 5: it did not go well, you did not vibe. Then

784
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 5: I think, like, no response is a response and people

785
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 5: need to understand that. But I think once you get

786
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 5: into the two date territory, that's when things get a

787
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 5: little bit more dicey for me.

788
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I say, right off the fucking bet

789
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 3: because I only have to go to an interview one

790
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 3: time for a job, and you got to tell me

791
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 3: I don't got that job otherwise I'm gonna be following up.

792
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 3: So it's not that I am the person being like,

793
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 3: are you interested? But I feel like I've had to

794
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 3: I've tried to ignore people, they end up following you

795
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 3: on social media, Like there's so many ways people can

796
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 3: get in touch with you. Now it's fucking annoying. So

797
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 3: I say, look, it is hard to essentially like walk

798
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 3: into confrontation with somebody that you don't even know, but

799
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 3: I promise you, like you will be better off for

800
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 3: it because now they know and you can like delete

801
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 3: and move on forever because motherfucker's be coming back. And

802
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 3: don't understand, I say, put your comfortable target, big girl,

803
00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 3: panties on tell them that you're not into it, but

804
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 3: thank you so much for the coffee or whatever it is.

805
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: Could you say like production has decided to go in

806
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 1: another direction? Like is that?

807
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 2: Is that? Okay?

808
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 3: All right?

809
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 2: This one is kind of interesting.

810
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: Ooh, do I have to invite my boss to my

811
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 1: birthday party if I invite the rest of my coworkers?

812
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 2: No?

813
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 5: I mean it depends on the boss, I guess. But

814
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,919
Speaker 5: like I think, like if you have a healthy work

815
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 5: relationship with your boss, they have to understand being the

816
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 5: boss comes to the price, and that is you're no

817
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 5: longer invited to birthday parties.

818
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 2: Ooh, yes, right.

819
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,839
Speaker 5: I'm sure that some people have that relationship with their

820
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 5: boss and that's beautiful, but that is a that's a

821
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 5: bonus for that boss, you know. That's it's not something

822
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 5: that they should expect anymore.

823
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 3: One hundred motherfucker percon Thank you so much. Plus, you

824
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 3: can't really like relax when your boss is there, Like

825
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 3: what if you want to do a little bump or something,

826
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 3: you can't do it with your boss that part, you know?

827
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 3: Come on? Come on? Okay, last question? Should I get

828
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 3: life insurance if I'm single?

829
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 2: Oh?

830
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 5: Joel that's such a heavy question because I'm not even

831
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 5: sure I have life insurance and I'm not single. I

832
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,360
Speaker 5: guess like you can get out that policy, but it

833
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 5: feels like you're inviting drama and danger into your life.

834
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 5: Once it gets out that you have that life insurance policy,

835
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 5: who are you leaving that money to? Because once they know.

836
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 3: That someone's seen lifetime?

837
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 2: Okay, oh have I ever?

838
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 5: And I just feel like life insurance policies are just

839
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 5: you're asking to be murdered.

840
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 3: I wasn't ready.

841
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:42,440
Speaker 2: I wasn't ready for that answer.

842
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 5: And it's like sure, like you don't want to like

843
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 5: leave like funeral expenses to your left ones, but like

844
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 5: that's what go fund me is for, babe.

845
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, I am getting chilled the goosies from

846
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 3: the rooted to the tudor because no true words.

847
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's what gofundmeate is for. That's their

848
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 2: mission statement. Yeah yeah, truly.

849
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: I mean I did think that like maybe if there

850
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 1: was like term you got past a certain agent, you

851
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 1: got the nest egg back, which is what that's what

852
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: term life is all about. Oh, I didn't even know

853
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: that existed. Yeah, it's just to get through a certain term.

854
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: So it's like, let's say you have kids or whatever

855
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: it is, right, and you want to just make sure

856
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: from one to eighteen whenever, like when they get out

857
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:24,800
Speaker 1: of the house and like get out of the nest,

858
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: then you get the money back that you invested because

859
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 1: in that window from one to eighteen is something happened

860
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 1: to you. Then you want to make sure that they

861
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: kind of like have the life that they've been used to. Right,

862
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: So that's what that's all about. Wow, come see me anytime, guys.

863
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 1: I apparently turn into an insurance agent.

864
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:41,320
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry.

865
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, until your kids do something to you to get that.

866
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 2: Money, what they're going to bump me off. They don't

867
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 2: love you. They don't love you.

868
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 3: They love the lifestyle.

869
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 2: Okay, I know, I know. Thanks guys.

870
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 3: Oh so fun. So we asked all our guests, what's

871
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 3: one thing you haven't done for yourself this year that

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Speaker 3: you want to one very adult thing.

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Speaker 5: There's a couple I'll say two too, because one of

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Speaker 5: this is like not necessarily a treat for me, but

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Speaker 5: something I need to do that's like I keep putting

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Speaker 5: it off, and that's get new teeth. Yeah, get new teeth.

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Speaker 5: It's time for my my all Star edit teeth. You know,

878
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Speaker 5: like I'm coming back with new teeth. I want then ears.

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Speaker 5: I'm tired of these white strips. They're not working. Like,

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Speaker 5: just give me the new teeth. I've got the house.

881
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 5: I need the new teeth. That's what I want. I

882
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 5: want a new house teeth.

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Speaker 3: I love it, I get it.

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Speaker 5: The other thing is is simple, is just I want

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Speaker 5: like I have never gone and taken myself to a massage.

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Speaker 5: What like, I've never done it. I've never done it

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Speaker 5: as an adult, and I deserve it. I want it.

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Speaker 2: You've never had a massage before.

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Speaker 5: I did one time in Australia, but it was mostly

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Speaker 5: a sex thing, Okay, okay, And so I would like

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Speaker 5: an adult, non sexual massage.

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Speaker 3: May I recommend two places?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 3: One Votospa, which is in who yeah, right next to

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Speaker 3: what's the name of that place that we used to

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Speaker 3: like do comedy in the back the Josh and Josh.

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Speaker 5: Show, Oh yeah, I know.

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Speaker 3: Rlubitch, oh yeah, is right next to our Lubitch And

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Speaker 3: they have like a fun pool and a hot tub

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00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 3: and like some sushi next door, so you can like

901
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 3: have a little moment and like the sauana and then

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00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 3: get a massage. Or there's this great app it's called Sooth.

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00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 3: It's sort of like the Uber eats, but for massages,

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00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 3: and you can pick a male or a female. They

905
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 3: come over, they set up shop, they have their own

906
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:30,280
Speaker 3: sheets unless you request otherwise. And I get a massage

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Speaker 3: one two times a week.

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Speaker 2: We have the same messus.

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Speaker 3: By accident, we have the same issus.

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00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: And you can do couples It's wonderful, deep tissue all that.

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00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 2: Whatever.

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00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't do a couple of massage together, but

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Speaker 3: we'll definitely go to a couples therapy together.

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Speaker 2: We could.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, oh my god, I love you. Yes, I

916
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 3: feel like your Instagram handle should be like I love

917
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 3: Joe Kimbloster because I love you.

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Speaker 5: Oh. I just wanted to get in before the haters

919
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 5: got it, you know, Ooha had them off at the past.

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Speaker 3: What in the Cloverfield doomsday on Instagram is going on?

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Speaker 3: I'm here for it, all right, thanks both, Thanks guys.

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Speaker 2: Bye.

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Speaker 3: I'm at the age where it's like you got to

924
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Speaker 3: switch it up, like I'm on a planet to stand

925
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Speaker 3: up a lot. I didn't wear my compression sucks for

926
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Speaker 3: this episode. But anyways, leve me some Joel Kim Booster. Wow,

927
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Speaker 3: what an American treasure.

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Speaker 1: Truly, And you know, I really just liked hearing all

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Speaker 1: the stories of adulting, finding that right person, having the

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Speaker 1: foundations that you need to make a long standing relationship work.

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Speaker 3: But also realizing that you have power and you are enough,

932
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:51,880
Speaker 3: you have earned the space that you take up on stage. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I think you know, people call us happy clowns, but

934
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Speaker 3: you really never know what someone's going through and words. Yes,

935
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Speaker 3: they do have powers. So if you were saying something

936
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Speaker 3: and of shit about yourself to make other people more comfortable,

937
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 3: to dim your light, don't fucking do that shit. You

938
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Speaker 3: speak yourself up, talk brightly and bravely about yourself because

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Speaker 3: you are a fucking amazing period.

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Speaker 1: It's like Pogniacci, you know, I don't Oh, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Pogniacci is the crying clown the opera. No, how the

942
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Speaker 1: fuck would I know that?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

944
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Speaker 3: I just does it look like I am into crying

945
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Speaker 3: clowns in the opera.

946
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Speaker 2: It's a tragic tale. It's very good.

947
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Speaker 1: It's it's that we don't know what the clowns are

948
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Speaker 1: feeling inside. I'll send you I'll send you the link

949
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Speaker 1: and and.

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00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 2: And you'll know.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's what Tears of a Clown is based on

952
00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 1: from Smokey Robinson The Miracles. Oh my God, please connect

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Speaker 1: with me. Okay, I'm I'm making an appointment with for

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Speaker 1: you and me at the therapist. Yeah, okay, doctor Googleman,

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Speaker 1: you and me Media Google Man.

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Speaker 3: I can't thank you for listening and hanging out with us,

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Speaker 3: and I'm sorry, but also you're welcome.

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Speaker 2: This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 3: Our senior producer is g Holle.

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Speaker 2: Our associate producer is Alex Cheet.

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Speaker 3: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

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Speaker 2: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner.

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Speaker 3: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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Speaker 2: Theme song and live show DJing is by Don will Our.

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Speaker 3: Live show producer is Marian Ways.

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Speaker 2: Artwork by Jamie Becktol.

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Speaker 3: Photography by Christ vander Moss.

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Speaker 1: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hartstar and Daniel Kramer.

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Speaker 3: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 1: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: Mmmm