WEBVTT - Do You Boo Boo 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:16.200 and the Black Effect, Oh Ship we wanna Air. Welcome 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.520 back to yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious. 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:22.320 Now listen, I've been liking the segments that I've been doing. 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.800 I've been liking just fix my mess. Y'all have been 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:28.960 just piling up y'all differences and y'all situations on me, 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:32.879 and I have been sitting here playing Dr Jess, and 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.239 I really really love it, or not Dr Jess, but 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:38.800 you know, like a therapist, and I really do love 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:42.519 it because that means that y'all actually get good advice 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:45.280 from me. You'll actually do love the things that I 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:47.600 tell y'all. And I'm always honest with you guys, So 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:50.280 I never want anyone to think that I'm just doing 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.280 this to be nosy or just to be funny or 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:55.160 none of that. Ship. I may answer or give you 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.959 advice in a humorous way, but I am dead as serious, 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:03.240 and I appreciate y'all for submitting you'all situations and letting 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:05.760 me know how I can help in any way. And 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:07.560 this week we got some good ones. Let's start with 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:11.000 the first one, just this clown asked, just told me 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:14.320 he needs some time off from my relationship to refresh 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:17.400 after two years. What the funk am I supposed to 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:20.560 do with that? Because I'm about to do me well, 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.479 baby girl. I mean, I can give you further advice, 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:27.160 but it sounds exactly like you know what you need 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:31.759 to do, you, okay, And that doesn't mean going out 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.199 fucking with other dudes or trying to see who else 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.120 is available to date you and making yourself available for 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:41.320 other men that actually, honestly can be assigned to you. 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:43.880 That he's not the right one and that maybe you 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:45.760 need to take this time to work on yourself. And 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:49.120 I know that sounds cliche, but you have to think 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:51.680 about this. You all were together for two years and 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:54.080 he just comes to you out of nowhere. Now is 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.520 this out of nowhere? And I always say, y'all gotta 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:59.440 always give me as much meat on the bone as possible, 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.800 so I don't have to assume the rest of the 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:05.680 story or assume that I know every predicament that you're 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:09.000 in in the basis or the foundation or the history 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.600 of your relationships or whatever. But two years is not 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.160 a little bit of time to marry couples and two 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.280 people who've been in relationships for more than five years, 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:19.960 The probably is, but to me, two years, it's not 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.359 just like two damn weeks. That's a lot of time 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.200 to put in for somebody to just come to you 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:26.640 and say, I need to take a break from this 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.639 to refresh. Now, this is a communication thing as well. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.360 Everything goes back to communicating and being able to be 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:37.400 open enough to talk to your partner about. What makes 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:41.840 him need to hit the refresh button? Is the sex stale? 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:45.480 Are you guys getting bored and conversation with each other? 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.520 Are you guys spending too much time around each other? 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:51.200 Are you guys not spending enough time around each other? Like? 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:54.000 What is going on? Did you do something? Has either 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:58.360 of you ever been caught cheating or caught doing anything? 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.640 Lying to one another? It made you, guys, get to 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:03.800 this point. That's a good question for you to ask 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.320 him if you haven't already. I feel like in your 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.200 mind you already made the decision to say I'm about 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:10.840 to do me, So you already know you're about to 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:13.760 do you. Okay, Now, what the funk am I supposed 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:16.000 to do with that? That's what you do? You go 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:17.840 and sit down and talk to him about it, because 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.560 two years don't sound like something you'll just throw away, 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:22.800 and you know he's the one with the issue, so 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.560 it could be somebody else. It could be that he 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:28.680 doesn't want to cheat on you with somebody else, so 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:30.520 he wants to tell you he wants a break, when 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:32.880 in fact he just wants somebody else. Or it doesn't 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:34.840 even have to be that serious. I'm just throwing out 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:37.920 examples of what can be. He may feel like he's 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:40.360 stagnant in his life and maybe something that he feels 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:42.880 like he needs to get together on his own, and 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:45.240 he doesn't want to stunt your growth of who you 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:47.280 are as a person. You may not need help in 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.320 the area he needs help, so he wants to do 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:53.800 it by himself and then probably reconvene. But you want 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:56.480 to do you. I don't know if you wrote that 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.480 last part out of anger or not. But when a 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.280 woman says I'm a do me because I'm about to 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:04.000 do me, or I will do me, or you don't 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:06.400 know me, because look, if you do you, I'm gonna 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.880 do me. We already know what the funk we're about 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:10.880 to do in our mind, and nobody can change that 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:15.400 ship nobody. So yeah, communicate baby before you go, do 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:20.520 you boo boo? Communicate with your man paved Moving on. 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:22.839 I met this girl in my d MS. Okay, so 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:24.760 this is a guy, one of my guys. Y'all know. 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.039 I always love shouting out the guys because they do 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:28.800 not open up. So this is good that you guys 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.760 are opening up to me. I love it. Okay. I 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:33.920 met this girl in my d M S and I've 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.000 been following her for a few years, so I had 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.880 a crush on her, and when she finally gave me 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:42.880 some rap, we got the talking and she let me 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.080 know that she has a lot of bodies and I 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:47.919 can't get past that ship. So I fell back. But 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.760 I do want to funk with Shorty. I just can't 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:53.640 get past all those niggas she fucked. And we live 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:56.480 in the same city, so I'm sure I know a 0:04:56.560 --> 0:05:01.200 few of them. I'm a promoter. Okay. Alrighty, okay, So 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.720 let's just start here. The fact that you opened up 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:06.760 opened up to me, I love it. I love the 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:10.039 fact that you just gave me a lot of meat 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.200 to this story. Alright, fine, So you met this girl 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:14.800 at the ms R and you had a crush on it. 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:16.840 You've following that she finally gave you some rap when 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.080 you go take her on a date or whatever, whoever. 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:21.240 It may have not been a date, but y'all talking 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.360 and you find out that she has a long rap sheet. Now, 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:26.360 for those who don't know what, she got a lot 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:29.040 of bodies main nor rap sheet is that means she 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.880 has had a lot of sex, different sex partners in 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.880 her life, I'm assuming, and the fact that she was 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:37.760 honest enough about that speaks a lot about the woman 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.840 that she is. I applaud her because, honestly, it's really 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:44.400 no one's fucking business whatever happened before you, unless it's 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:47.240 still happening right now. And I'm a firm believer in that, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.000 I really don't give a funk about how many women 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:52.640 a guy has slept with, as long as they were 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:56.960 all before me and not while we're dating. You understand, 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.800 You gotta also know when you first meet somebody and 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:02.760 you first thought talking to them, they might be still 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:06.160 talking to someone else, or they may have a roster. 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:08.240 They may have two or three people that still text 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.840 their phone casually. They may be hanging out with somebody that, 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:13.240 like you, just never know. I used to say all 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:16.200 the time, nobody has no one, like there is no 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:19.520 one on this earth who's not talking to nobody. I 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:22.480 used to say that until a couple of times that 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:25.560 was me. There were times and more in my recent 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:27.640 years of living because I just couldn't be alone for 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:30.159 a long time. You know that I was actually by 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.359 myself at a couple of points in my life. I 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:34.640 didn't have not one nigga on my line, and it 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:36.880 felt good. It was by choice. It was because I 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:39.640 just got so tired of always having someone, and that's 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:43.839 when you get to best learn yourself. So I totally 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:48.080 respect her honesty, babe, and I think that you should too. However, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.520 a guy can never get past a woman fucking a 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:55.000 lot of men, but we're just supposed to get past 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.599 y'all fucking a bunch of women. Now, that doesn't go 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:00.400 for every man, and I'm not saying it goes for you. 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:04.120 But did you share how many bodies you had? And 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.640 how did that even come about? Did you ask her that? 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:08.720 Because if you did, that shouldn't even have been a 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.120 question that you asked. Honestly, that that would be a 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.680 childish ask question. How many niggas you fuck? How many 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:15.320 women did you fun? How many you know? How many 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:17.720 bodies you got? That don't even sound like a conversation 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:19.800 for somebody who's trying to get to know someone that 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:22.240 does not That sounds like a question that g I 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:25.320 N would ask a client. So I I need for 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:29.520 you to tell me how to hell y'all even got there, 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.120 but either way, if you didn't ask, and y'all just 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.360 get to know each other. And this came out respect 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:36.760 the honesty, But I can't tell you what to do now. 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.080 That's something that's a deal breaker for you, and that's 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:42.080 gonna prohibit you from going further with Shorty as you 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.800 called her. I think you need to do some work 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:48.760 on yourself because men love honesty, but men can't take 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:52.440 honesty all the time. Y'all can't take it. And I 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.920 think that's why a lot of men find it easier 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:58.200 to lie to women so they can save our feelings 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:00.440 and ship. I don't really honestly feel like all men 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:04.120 lie for a personal gain or just because they can. 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:08.920 Honestly feel like men lie sometimes not all men, but 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:12.360 a lot of men lie to shelter your feelings because 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:17.440 truth hurts. Truth hurts them, so they lie and they 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:20.280 don't want us to lie, to be dishonest, but when 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:24.440 we are, that ship hurts. So at least you know 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.560 you ain't got a liar on your hands, and you 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.600 may not even have a cheater. I'm gonna just go 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:32.160 ahead and jump out there and say, because they both 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:34.080 go hand in hand. If she told you truth about 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.800 how anybody she got nine times out saying honey, she 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:38.640 ain't gonna lie to you, and she ain't gonna cheat 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.040 on you, and she's gonna be honest enough to tell 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:42.880 you if she's about to go another dude, so she's 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:44.600 gonna break up with your ass. That's what the funk 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:46.839 sounds like to me. And as far as y'all live 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.400 in the same city and you being a promoter, yes 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:52.120 you know a lot of people, but have you fucked 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.280 half the city as well? Because y'all promoters. I know 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:57.280 how y'all get down. Okay, I know how y'all get down. 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.320 I just got out of a relationship with one and 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.920 I used to fun with another one, and they're totally 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:04.679 two different types of niggas, right, two different types of men. 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:06.920 I'm sorry, I'm trying to stop saying in word, y'all 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:10.920 because our men are not niggas. They're not okay, but 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.400 you know, in the slang sense, yeah, nigma nigam nigga. 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.800 But now I'm trying to like stop change my vocabulary 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.160 for that when I'm giving serious advice on this. As 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:21.480 the promoter, you know, you have women around you all day, 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:23.600 every day. Our promoter's job is to live a facade 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:26.760 to make everything picture perfect. The parties, the ship they wear, 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.640 the jewelry, the money, the height, the women, the girls, 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:33.200 all that ship. That is the promoter's job, you know. Finesse, 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:37.280 finesse and facade. So I know you got a long 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.800 rap sheet to show me a promoter who does not. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.760 I'm not saying they are all the same, but show 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:45.480 me one, that's all. I'm asking you to show me one. 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.480 All right, So you gotta take the good with the bad, 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:52.240 and that may not even necessarily be bad in life. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.360 That's just bad to you in your opinion, it's bad. Now. 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:57.720 You don't let me know the number, probably because you're ashamed. 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:00.000 But I don't know if she told you the exact number, 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:02.400 but it sounds like to me it's too damn many 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:05.120 for you but you seem to really like her. You've 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:08.080 had a crush on her, you've been following her for years. 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:12.520 See what she's like. Funk that the worst is already out, 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:14.839 because according to you, the worst is having a lot 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:18.040 of bodies. It's already out. It's already out. Let's see. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.920 And honestly, I don't really feel like that matters unless 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.720 you get up in that pussy and that ship too loose. 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:25.800 Then that's when it matters. Like, Okay, you want something 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:27.679 tight to be up and I get it. So if 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:29.800 you ain't have sex with her yet, my dog, you 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:34.080 need to chill out, relax, take the honesty with the bodies, 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:37.400 and give short of your fucking chance because she gave 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.200 your ass one after ignoring you for three years. So 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:42.679 get it together. Hold up, hold up, I know the 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:44.839 ship getting good, But listen to just a couple of 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:47.000 seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:54.720 Moving on, I'm dating two men, tim Hold up this. 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.920 I didn't even I didn't brace myself for this one. 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:00.920 I'm just going in order. Are down in the d M. 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:02.920 S chaw And if y'all want y'all listening to this 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.079 right now and y'all want to give me, y'all inputting 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.360 all that ship d M the carefully reckless page please, 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.800 I'm following the page from my personal page. Just hilarious 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:16.440 underscore official. Okay, let's go back to it. I'm dating 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.880 two men, and no, not because I'm a pimp, but 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:23.600 simply because I can't choose between the two. I'm lying 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:26.440 to one of them, but I'm more truthful with the 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:29.320 other one, and it gets harder and harder every day 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:33.520 to leave the one I'm lying to. And before you ask, no, 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:36.760 I don't have a favorite, because then I wouldn't need 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:41.440 your advice. Okay, miss lady, all right, Miss Mama's well, 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:43.800 I wasn't gonna ask you if you had a favorite, 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:47.680 because you just shouldn't be dating two men anyway. But 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:51.240 you know, to reach his own and there's no judgment here. 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:54.200 I'm just gonna let you know that has to be draining, 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:58.080 first of all. It has to drain you giving your 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:01.560 heart to two men, giving your pussy to two men, 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:06.120 giving your body, kissing two men, having to share thoughts 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:10.280 with two men, having to be open and vulnerable, with 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:15.800 two men, having too many duties for two men. It's 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.480 too much. Do you love one more than the other? 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:21.800 And that's not even asking you do you have a favorite, 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:24.000 because even if you love one more than the other, 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:25.600 that doesn't mean that's the one for you, because that 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:27.960 one could treat you worse than the one that you 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.880 don't love as much. So that's why I was never 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:32.760 going to pose the question of who is your favorite. 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:34.840 I actually don't give a funk who the favorite is, 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:38.080 but you do need to choose one because this can 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.439 end for you horribly. I was caught in a situation 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:44.439 like that before. I wasn't in a relationship with either 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:47.680 of these two men, but I liked both of them. 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.760 I loved both of them. One was from my past, 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:52.560 he wasn't an ex, but he was from my past. 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:56.040 And the other one I was dating, but it didn't 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:59.520 really go that well, so we stopped dating, but we 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.920 were still communicating and still sucking around and ship. That 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:07.079 ship drained me, and I was single, and it drained me. 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.120 It's not cool to always have a roster and ship 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:13.319 like Okay, even if you ain't fucking both of them 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:16.520 or whatever, you know, it's just still mentally draining to 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:19.960 share yourself between two people, to give yourself to two 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:23.120 people at the same time. That ship is hard, and 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:27.160 it honestly is very, very toxic because you're leading on 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:30.440 both people. And you can keep telling yourself, telling yourself, 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.000 telling yourself, I'm gonna pick this one, I'm gonna pick 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:34.960 this one, but then something changes with this one, so 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.640 then you holding on to that one, and then you're like, no, 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:39.400 no, no no, I'm gonna go over here because he just 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.200 made me mad yesterday. Yeah, but it it's gonna be 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.160 a back and forth forever. You look up and a 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:47.480 year has passed and you still dating these two saying 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:51.280 niggas right, But the reveal will be worse if you 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:54.040 keep letting time go by, because they're gonna find out. 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.400 They're gonna find out. I don't care how slick you 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.120 think you are, it's going to come out because it's 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.200 just not right now. I love your honesty. And you've 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:03.880 told me your name. I told you I wasn't gonna 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:05.880 put your name out here. Sold y'all. You don't have 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.880 to send your names because although this is carefully reckless, 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:12.160 I'm still trying to turn over a leaf to being 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:16.079 more careful instead of reckless. Reckless is felt reckless. Discussions 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.560 on YouTube. Do what I want to say, what I want, whatever. 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.680 But I have more of a delicate audience here, more 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:25.520 of a fragile audience, predominantly women. And I want y'all 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:28.280 to know I don't always play around. I'm not always vulgar. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.080 I'm not I care, just like y'all care. I have 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:33.000 a heart, just like y'all have a heart. And if 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.080 I can help anybody, that's all I want to do. So, Girl, 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:39.960 you gotta choose, Baby, you have to choose. Now you're 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:42.960 lying to one of them. What kind of lies are 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.080 you telling them? And the only thing I can get 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:46.600 from that, because like I said, you left a little 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.960 meat off of here reading this. This is what I 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:52.720 think the one that you're being more truthful to knows 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:56.000 about the other one. That's what I think. I think 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:59.760 you're you're truthful with that one because you kind of 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:01.800 feel like you have nothing to lose with that one. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.240 That one is more understanding than the other one. You're 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.160 lying to the other one because the other one doesn't 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.720 know about the other one. You don't know about the 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:11.720 other man, And I think that's the one you want 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:15.080 to pick. But he don't treat you that well for 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:16.880 you to let go of the one you're telling the 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.360 truth to. If you get what I'm saying, I told 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:22.120 you I was calling a situation before. So what you're 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:26.200 holding onto is both with the reservation in your mind 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:28.800 and the hopes in your mind that the one that 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.480 you're lying to is going to wipe you up and 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.920 be your night and shining armor and give you the 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:38.040 relationship that you really want. But this man that you're 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.960 truthful with is the one that's in love with your ask, 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.040 the one that's willing to do whatever for you, the 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.040 one that gives you the attention that the one that 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:49.000 you're lying to lacks. So you have two minute love you, 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:52.200 but one don't love you like you love them, and 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.920 you don't love the other one like they love you. 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:58.120 You need to choose or leave both of these brothers alone, 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:02.440 because you're doing both of them wrong, and you're doing 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:08.160 yourself wrong because you've gotta be tired mentally, physically, emotionally. 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:10.680 You have to be tired, and this is a level 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:14.120 of toxicity that can only increase. So I just I 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:16.000 just want you to work on that. You need to 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:20.040 work on yourself. Moving on. My best friend introduced me 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.640 to her new dude, and it turns out that I 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:25.320 used to talk to him back in the day. It 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.560 was brief and it was before she was my best friend. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:30.760 So I don't think I should bring it up to her. 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:34.600 But does that make me a bad person. I don't 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:36.560 think it makes you a bad person. No, no, no, no, 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:39.040 it does not make you a bad person. But if 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:41.280 they're going to be serious, that they're going to get 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:45.240 serious and you see their relationship going somewhere, I do 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:48.200 think that you should tell her, or you don't have to. 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:52.760 Sometimes some things are just better left unsaid. But I 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:55.840 don't want him to tell her. And then she looks 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.760 at you, like, damn, bitch, you couldn't tell me this ship. 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:00.800 You're my best friend, Like, come on, you're my dog. 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:02.640 Why the he do I have to hear it from him? 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.320 Is he that type of guy you have to be 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:09.200 careful because your best friend's feelings are at state. So 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.600 I don't know. That's why I said, it's just better 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:13.719 if you do tell her, because if this nigga tell her, 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:15.480 you're not gonna be best friends no more, She's gonna 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:18.240 feel very betrayed. Depending on the type of guy he is, 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:20.840 he would tell her that ship, oh gosh, and I 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:24.560 wonder how the encounters go when she brings you around 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:28.680 and he's there and and are you guys palm, sweaty knees, weak, 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:31.880 arms is heavy, It's like, no, I'm joking. I'm sorry, 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.840 Oh my god, so sorry? But yeah, like, how how 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:37.280 does that even? Girl? You wanted to follow up with me? 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.280 Because I want I need to know. I need to know. 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:43.600 But yeah, I would tell her, I would unless but 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.119 not least you got the last one? What's up? Just 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:48.560 my name is mar and I pay all the bills 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:51.760 in my relationship, so I expect sex at any time 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:55.400 and every time I want sex. Okay, big daddy, Daddy. 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:59.200 My girl feels differently, but that ship is unfair and honestly, 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:01.240 it makes me one to cheat, all right? So this 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.840 goes back to the first girl, the first girl that 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:06.399 I checked. Bitch, I'm about to do me, That's what 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:11.000 it sounds like. I do understand how you're feeling, understand 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:13.719 how it could make you upset. I don't understand how 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:16.600 it can make you want to cheat. In any event 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.280 where a man is not being sexually satisfied, there needs 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:23.879 to be communication there. Have you asked her, like, why 0:18:23.960 --> 0:18:26.159 can't you do this? Because there there could be a 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:29.640 lot of things. Babe. It doesn't mean that she's unappreciative 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:31.240 of what you do just because she don't want to 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:34.920 have sex every time you have sex. She's at home girl, 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:38.400 stay home wife or stay home girlfriend. Whatever. She don't work, 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.040 you don't allow her to work, or you don't want 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:42.159 her to work. That's not what you want. All you 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:44.399 want to sex and return whenever you want it. You 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:48.119 probably have a high sex drive where hers is probably low. 0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:51.760 You can't get so upset where it makes you want 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:55.960 to be unfaithful, where it makes you want to give 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:59.720 someone else what belongs to her. Because she belongs to you, 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:02.520 you'll belong to each other. And I used to always 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:04.800 say that only happens for mary couples. But no, no, no, no. 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.760 If we're together and were playing on being together for 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:09.320 a long long time we don't see an end in 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:11.439 our future, then yes, I belong to you and you 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:15.440 belong to me. Okay, no piece of paper officializes that 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:18.200 anymore than what it already is in the eyes of us. 0:19:18.720 --> 0:19:23.480 So yes, I honestly do feel like it is unfair. 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:26.280 But maybe her sex drive is low if she on 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:28.760 birth control, it could be her hormones up and down. 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:32.960 It could be something that's bothering her that's within her 0:19:33.000 --> 0:19:36.440 own personal vagina. You know, we go through all types 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:38.320 of how old is she? Is she going through not 0:19:38.440 --> 0:19:41.560 menopause but sometimes and where I find now that I'm thirty, 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:43.000