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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect, Oh Ship we wanna Air. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Now listen, I've been liking the segments that I've been doing.

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Speaker 1: I've been liking just fix my mess. Y'all have been

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Speaker 1: just piling up y'all differences and y'all situations on me,

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Speaker 1: and I have been sitting here playing Dr Jess, and

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Speaker 1: I really really love it, or not Dr Jess, but

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Speaker 1: you know, like a therapist, and I really do love

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Speaker 1: it because that means that y'all actually get good advice

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Speaker 1: from me. You'll actually do love the things that I

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Speaker 1: tell y'all. And I'm always honest with you guys, So

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Speaker 1: I never want anyone to think that I'm just doing

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Speaker 1: this to be nosy or just to be funny or

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Speaker 1: none of that. Ship. I may answer or give you

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Speaker 1: advice in a humorous way, but I am dead as serious,

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Speaker 1: and I appreciate y'all for submitting you'all situations and letting

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Speaker 1: me know how I can help in any way. And

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Speaker 1: this week we got some good ones. Let's start with

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Speaker 1: the first one, just this clown asked, just told me

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Speaker 1: he needs some time off from my relationship to refresh

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Speaker 1: after two years. What the funk am I supposed to

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Speaker 1: do with that? Because I'm about to do me well,

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Speaker 1: baby girl. I mean, I can give you further advice,

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Speaker 1: but it sounds exactly like you know what you need

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Speaker 1: to do, you, okay, And that doesn't mean going out

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Speaker 1: fucking with other dudes or trying to see who else

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Speaker 1: is available to date you and making yourself available for

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Speaker 1: other men that actually, honestly can be assigned to you.

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Speaker 1: That he's not the right one and that maybe you

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Speaker 1: need to take this time to work on yourself. And

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Speaker 1: I know that sounds cliche, but you have to think

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Speaker 1: about this. You all were together for two years and

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Speaker 1: he just comes to you out of nowhere. Now is

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Speaker 1: this out of nowhere? And I always say, y'all gotta

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Speaker 1: always give me as much meat on the bone as possible,

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Speaker 1: so I don't have to assume the rest of the

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Speaker 1: story or assume that I know every predicament that you're

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Speaker 1: in in the basis or the foundation or the history

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Speaker 1: of your relationships or whatever. But two years is not

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Speaker 1: a little bit of time to marry couples and two

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Speaker 1: people who've been in relationships for more than five years,

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Speaker 1: The probably is, but to me, two years, it's not

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Speaker 1: just like two damn weeks. That's a lot of time

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Speaker 1: to put in for somebody to just come to you

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Speaker 1: and say, I need to take a break from this

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Speaker 1: to refresh. Now, this is a communication thing as well.

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Speaker 1: Everything goes back to communicating and being able to be

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Speaker 1: open enough to talk to your partner about. What makes

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Speaker 1: him need to hit the refresh button? Is the sex stale?

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Speaker 1: Are you guys getting bored and conversation with each other?

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Speaker 1: Are you guys spending too much time around each other?

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Speaker 1: Are you guys not spending enough time around each other? Like?

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Speaker 1: What is going on? Did you do something? Has either

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Speaker 1: of you ever been caught cheating or caught doing anything?

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Speaker 1: Lying to one another? It made you, guys, get to

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Speaker 1: this point. That's a good question for you to ask

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Speaker 1: him if you haven't already. I feel like in your

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Speaker 1: mind you already made the decision to say I'm about

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Speaker 1: to do me, So you already know you're about to

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Speaker 1: do you. Okay, Now, what the funk am I supposed

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Speaker 1: to do with that? That's what you do? You go

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Speaker 1: and sit down and talk to him about it, because

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Speaker 1: two years don't sound like something you'll just throw away,

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Speaker 1: and you know he's the one with the issue, so

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Speaker 1: it could be somebody else. It could be that he

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to cheat on you with somebody else, so

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Speaker 1: he doesn't want to stunt your growth of who you

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Speaker 1: are as a person. You may not need help in

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Speaker 1: it by himself and then probably reconvene. But you want

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Speaker 1: to do you. I don't know if you wrote that

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Speaker 1: do me. We already know what the funk we're about

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Speaker 1: ship nobody. So yeah, communicate baby before you go, do

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Speaker 1: I do want to funk with Shorty. I just can't

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Speaker 1: get past all those niggas she fucked. And we live

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Speaker 1: let's just start here. The fact that you opened up

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Speaker 1: fact that you just gave me a lot of meat

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Speaker 1: You've following that she finally gave you some rap when

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Speaker 1: It may have not been a date, but y'all talking

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Speaker 1: and you find out that she has a long rap sheet. Now,

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Speaker 1: has had a lot of sex, different sex partners in

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Speaker 1: her life, I'm assuming, and the fact that she was

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Speaker 1: that she is. I applaud her because, honestly, it's really

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Speaker 1: no one's fucking business whatever happened before you, unless it's

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Speaker 1: I really don't give a funk about how many women

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Speaker 1: You gotta also know when you first meet somebody and

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Speaker 1: like you, just never know. I used to say all

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Speaker 1: respect her honesty, babe, and I think that you should too. However,

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Speaker 1: a guy can never get past a woman fucking a

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Speaker 1: y'all fucking a bunch of women. Now, that doesn't go

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Speaker 1: But did you share how many bodies you had? And

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Speaker 1: how did that even come about? Did you ask her that?

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Speaker 1: Because if you did, that shouldn't even have been a

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Speaker 1: get to know each other. And this came out respect

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Speaker 1: the honesty, But I can't tell you what to do now.

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Speaker 1: That's something that's a deal breaker for you, and that's

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Speaker 1: Honestly feel like men lie sometimes not all men, but

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Speaker 1: you know a lot of people, but have you fucked

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Speaker 1: half the city as well? Because y'all promoters. I know

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Speaker 1: how y'all get down. Okay, I know how y'all get down.

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Speaker 1: I just got out of a relationship with one and

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Speaker 1: two different types of niggas, right, two different types of men.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm trying to stop saying in word, y'all

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Speaker 1: because our men are not niggas. They're not okay, but

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Speaker 1: you know, in the slang sense, yeah, nigma nigam nigga.

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Speaker 1: But now I'm trying to like stop change my vocabulary

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Speaker 1: for that when I'm giving serious advice on this. As

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Speaker 1: the promoter, you know, you have women around you all day,

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Speaker 1: every day. Our promoter's job is to live a facade

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Speaker 1: to make everything picture perfect. The parties, the ship they wear,

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Speaker 1: all that ship. That is the promoter's job, you know. Finesse,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying they are all the same, but show

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Speaker 1: me one, that's all. I'm asking you to show me one.

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Speaker 1: All right, So you gotta take the good with the bad,

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Speaker 1: and that may not even necessarily be bad in life.

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Speaker 1: That's just bad to you in your opinion, it's bad. Now.

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Speaker 1: You don't let me know the number, probably because you're ashamed.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know if she told you the exact number,

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Speaker 1: but it sounds like to me it's too damn many

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Speaker 1: See what she's like. Funk that the worst is already out,

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Speaker 1: because according to you, the worst is having a lot

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