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Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're

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Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help

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Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky. So, I just want to make this quick

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Speaker 2: We actually complete five years August first, and we've been

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Speaker 2: I would appreciate privacy, but he doesn't see it that way.

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Speaker 2: He sees it as I'm attacking his family. I wish

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Speaker 2: I don't want to say that, but like, I'm not

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Speaker 1: Ooh ya, Nelli, it sounds like you have a mama's

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Speaker 4: Hi, cheekies, I really low you. I follow you and

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Speaker 3: Hi Cheeky's a.

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Speaker 5: Very big fan. I love you a lot. I lost

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Speaker 3: I've kept up with it. My sister was sixteen at

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Speaker 1: Oh, just so I get it. I get it. Trust me.

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