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Speaker 1: all right. Subject he loves sweet smelling lotions. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I met a forty two year old divorced man online

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Speaker 1: God for. We do Bible study every night. He is

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Speaker 1: a very nice, smile, and he's self employed. He too

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Speaker 1: said that I was everything he'd asked for in a woman,

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Speaker 1: and he was moving fast with our relationship. By our

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Speaker 1: each time, so I decided to visit his home and

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Speaker 1: spend an evening with him. When I walked in, his

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Speaker 1: home smelled like warm vanilla, and it was a nice

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Speaker 1: first impression, but I soon noticed that it looked like

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Speaker 1: the master bed, and in the master bedroom he had

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Speaker 1: scented bath bombs, scented soaps, lotions, and candles everywhere. He

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Speaker 1: had told me that he's been single for fifteen years,

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Speaker 1: so I asked him who the lavender, peach, pink peoni,

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Speaker 1: and juniper breese scented lotions and soaps belonged to. He

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Speaker 1: said they're his because he loves to smell good after

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Speaker 1: on those sins years ago. That night, we got ready

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Speaker 1: I slept in the guest room that night, but his

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Speaker 1: I've been distant from him for the past a week

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Speaker 1: or so until I figured things out. I need your

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Speaker 1: advice on this. Is this a red flag? Or do

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Speaker 1: you think this is something he might be willing to

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Speaker 1: change for me? There you go, There you go, trying

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Speaker 1: to change a man that you've only you've only known

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Speaker 1: him a month. I mean, you know, slow down with

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Speaker 1: that a bit. Everything to me, it's only been a

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Speaker 1: month is a red flag. Everything until you get to

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Speaker 1: know this guy. But let's look at your main concerns.

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Speaker 1: What are they That he hasn't moved on from his wife?

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Speaker 1: You're thinking that could be that maybe the smells are

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Speaker 1: from women that he's seeing now in the present that

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Speaker 1: and better than you. You have a problem with that.

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Speaker 1: That's one thing you know, you know about him for sure,

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Speaker 1: and you've only known him for a month. But you know,

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Speaker 1: I think these should be the least of your concerns

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Speaker 1: and worries. Again, you've only known this guy for a month.

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Speaker 1: I think you know you said he's moving fast. You're

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Speaker 1: sure you're going to find a lot more about this

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Speaker 1: do is pay attention and observe. You said you're trying

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Speaker 1: to figure things out, so give it time. Give it time, Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: he loves sweet smelling lotions. That ain't really your problem.

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Speaker 1: In this letter you mention just forty two year old

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Speaker 1: That's the key in this letter. He's everything you ask

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Speaker 1: God for. And then she proceeds to describe this man.

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Speaker 1: We do Bible study every night? Who who do that?

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Speaker 1: Who does Bible study? If preachers don't do Bible study

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Speaker 1: I mean when when when y'all gonna you know, y'all

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Speaker 1: grinned Bible study hard man? You start reading stuff you

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Speaker 1: Then he said you everything. He asked God for a woman,

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Speaker 1: the Middist party. He'd been coming to your house. You

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Speaker 1: in his house. Smell like warm vanilla. Now you scare

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Speaker 1: me right there because I didn't know what you got.

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Speaker 1: Ray says, smell like warm garbage. I was waiting on warm, dude.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know if you warm warm puppets. I didn't

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Speaker 1: to get the washroom. He isn't her signs over the

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Speaker 1: him who was the lavender peach pink. I don't even

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Speaker 1: know what that is. What is that pink flo? It's

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Speaker 1: the pink pony is a strip club, I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: right now. Okay, but the pink pony is a strip

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Speaker 1: club if he had a pole in here, Hang on,

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject he loves sweet smelling lotions. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Steve

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Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters subject he loved of sweet smelling lotions. Yeah

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Speaker 1: he do. Pretty boy, you met a nice guy forty

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Speaker 1: two everything God asked. You asked God for my trouble

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Speaker 1: to start to do. Y'all do Bible study every night?

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Speaker 1: Nobody does Bible steady everything. WHOA, that's hard every night?

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Speaker 1: much if you do it every night, or y'all would

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Speaker 1: get on my nerves with that. No, no, Sherley that's

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Speaker 1: Theology and you're studying to be a rabile minister. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So you ask him who the lavin, the peach and

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Speaker 1: and Jennifer Breede sent it lotion okay, PIONI I don't

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Speaker 1: know what that here, and soaps belonged to him, he said,

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Speaker 1: these hot baths with these smelling sauces. That's all you

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Speaker 1: tell me he got bubbles in it, and he dranking wine,

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Speaker 1: now he de lit some candles, he got some bubbles,

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Speaker 1: But he said his wife got him hooked on them

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you he could change this for you.

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Speaker 1: But the red flag is not the smell. The red

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Speaker 1: flag is Bible study. Every night these his in her

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Speaker 1: He isn't her, obviously, this stuff reminds him of his

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Speaker 1: You can go from juniper, breeze, pioni from lavender, and

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Speaker 1: him some manly stuff. But all these little happy fruit

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Speaker 1: gotta get rid of all his help. Oh. Next thing

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Speaker 1: got some due with them damn baths, damn fast man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: one manly fragrance, you know, yeah, I think everything you know,

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Speaker 1: Y'all gotta stopped this vibe study every night, Steve, all right, listen,

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