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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. You never know, it

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Speaker 1: could be yours. Buckle hold on tight, It's the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: I got you, Steve different. What were you going? What

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Speaker 1: are you going to do it? Who's going? Okay? Short?

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Speaker 1: Like what Steve just saying? Serry? That's it? Thank you?

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Speaker 1: No no touching in public, No touching in public. Here

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty six year old married woman

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Speaker 1: and I am having an affair with my pastor h.

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Speaker 1: He's new to our city, so I was chosen to

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Speaker 1: show him around and help him get acclimated. He's a

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Speaker 1: married man with two children, but his wife and children

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Speaker 1: decided to stay put until their oldest daughter graduated high school.

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Speaker 1: So he was new in town and bored out of

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Speaker 1: let his guard down with me. I found out he

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Speaker 1: uses profanity drinks alcohol and smoke sweed when he's around

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Speaker 1: his frat brothers. He came to our house for dinner

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Speaker 1: a few times and my husband called him a false prophet.

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Speaker 1: He said that he's self centered and braggadocius, and my

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Speaker 1: husband was right, but I did not care because I

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Speaker 1: had already fallen for him. My husband stopped going to church,

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Speaker 1: and that was fine with me because I spent a

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Speaker 1: lot of time with the pastor after church in his office.

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Speaker 1: We have a very unique bond and the sex is

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Speaker 1: unbelievably good. But there is one problem with him. He

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Speaker 1: is overly affectionate and sees me as his property. Some

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Speaker 1: things are reserved for only my husband, like all public

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Speaker 1: plays of affection. When I'm out with the pastor, he

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Speaker 1: will not keep his hands off me. He will either

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Speaker 1: walk with his hand on my shoulder or my waist.

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Speaker 1: He feels my breast and grabs my behind whenever he

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Speaker 1: wants to. He caught me off guard and laid a

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Speaker 1: juicy kiss on my lips in a restaurant. He hates

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Speaker 1: to be told no and thinks I should let him

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Speaker 1: do whatever he wants. My husband does not respect anything,

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Speaker 1: does not suspect anything that's going on, and I want

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Speaker 1: to keep it that way? Why would a married man

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Speaker 1: carry on this way in public? How do I keep

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Speaker 1: him happy but stop all his public displays of affection?

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Speaker 1: What this right here? Listen? First of all, you need

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Speaker 1: to ask yourself that question. Why would a married woman

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Speaker 1: about what he's doing, it's about what you're allowing him

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Speaker 1: to do to you, married woman in public. I'm embarrassed

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Speaker 1: for you because you don't get it. You don't get

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Speaker 1: it at all. You're out in public with with him,

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Speaker 1: you're married, pastor, and you yourself have a whole husband

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Speaker 1: at the house. How can it be that the only

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Speaker 1: thing you see wrong with this whole scenario is PDA

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Speaker 1: public displays of affection? This whole affair is wrong from

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Speaker 1: start to finish. But no, you don't mention anything about that.

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Speaker 1: You just want him to stop disrespecting you in public.

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Speaker 1: I mean, don't you know he's also disrespecting your husband,

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Speaker 1: your marriage, But you obviously don't care about any of

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Speaker 1: that because you didn't say anything about it. What do

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Speaker 1: you want, Steve and I to tell you? Oh? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: how to keep your side piece happy? Because that's the

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Speaker 1: question you asked, how to keep him happy? That was

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Speaker 1: your question. It seems like you're doing a pretty good job.

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Speaker 1: To me. You seem to be keeping him very happy.

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Speaker 1: This is a mess right here. Don't bring us into

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Speaker 1: this mess, because when your husband finds out, if he

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Speaker 1: boyfriend his wife finds out, this is gonna be a mess. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's already a mess. And I'm just surprised you can't

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Speaker 1: is so amazing and all of that. You got a problem,

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Speaker 1: and it's a big one, Steve. You know what, I

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Speaker 1: don't even know, you know what. I'm just imagining our

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Speaker 1: listeners in the car at home at work, listening to

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Speaker 1: this letter. Yeah, and Shirley said, what do you want

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Speaker 1: us to do? Are you serious? Are you really kidding me?

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Speaker 1: So you're a forty six year old married woman and

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Speaker 1: How do you all vote who takes the new pastor

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Speaker 1: around the married woman, because my wife ain't taking nobody around.

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Speaker 1: Showing your ass nothing about this. Give a damn how

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Speaker 1: you find your way? Man? Google Yah, get your iPhone

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Speaker 1: up and start pressing Uber eats. You can google where everything.

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna take you around, show you nothing. He's

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Speaker 1: out to use his profanity, drinks alcohol, and smoke weed

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Speaker 1: when he's around his fraternity brother. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: suggest what friend daddy is, uh, but what why are

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Speaker 1: you looking like that? I think it's your friend. Some

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Speaker 1: things in him suspicious, suspicious. He came out to that

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Speaker 1: him a false prophet. And your husband was right. And

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Speaker 1: you know why your husband was right because men knows men.

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Speaker 1: And now I'm gonna tell you something you I don't

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Speaker 1: know how. You don't think what I'm about to share

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Speaker 1: with you when we come back is gonna happen, But

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Speaker 1: it is and we'll be back. And oh, why you know?

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Speaker 1: I know this letter is stinky, ain't it? All right?

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. The

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Speaker 1: subject no touching in public. That's all she's worried about.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. We'll be back. It's twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour, right after this. You're listening show, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: no touching in public? No touching in public. This woman

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Speaker 1: is concerned about this because she's a married woman, forty

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Speaker 1: six year old, having a fair with her pastor. Her

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Speaker 1: pastor just came to town. He's new. His family, wife

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Speaker 1: and kids stayed behind so his daughter can graduate high school,

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Speaker 1: and she was selected as the person to show the

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Speaker 1: He's bored out of his line where he ain't bored

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Speaker 1: no more. Because y'all started hanging out a lot. He

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Speaker 1: let his guard down. I found out he smokes weed

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Speaker 1: when he round his fraternity brothers, used his profanity, and

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Speaker 1: few times. And my husband called him a false problem.

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Speaker 1: You know why your husband called him that because he

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Speaker 1: know men. Men are men. See, I don't care if

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Speaker 1: you're the pastor, you're the priest, you the temple, monk,

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Speaker 1: you headed a clergy, you the pope. When you get

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Speaker 1: rid of all of them titles, you know what you

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Speaker 1: about manhood that just don't change, some real simple rules

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Speaker 1: to manhood. And your husband said he a false prophet,

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Speaker 1: he full of see. He said that he's self senate

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Speaker 1: and braggadosha. My husband was right, but I didn't care

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Speaker 1: because I had already fallen from him. So now you

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Speaker 1: extra trifle, You bring us the dude to your house

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Speaker 1: that you're having an affair with on your husband. Your

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Speaker 1: pastor after church in his office. We have a very

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Speaker 1: unique bond in the sex is unbelievably good. I'm assuming

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Speaker 1: there's one problem with him. He's over inspectionate and sees

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Speaker 1: me as his property. You are you are a piece

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Speaker 1: of property. Some things are reserved for my only for

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Speaker 1: my husband, like all public displays of affection. Wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: you got a lot of nerve. You're drawing lines. Now

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Speaker 1: there are certain things that's reserved only for your husband,

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Speaker 1: like public What about your body? What about your sex?

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Speaker 1: What about your mouth? What about all that? What about

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Speaker 1: your heart? So that ain't reserved just for your husband? Man,

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you ain't my wife, because you strifling. You

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Speaker 1: are a good old strifling ass chick, because now just

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Speaker 1: reserved for your husband's public displays of affection. Now you

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Speaker 1: can get anything else you want from me. But we

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Speaker 1: need to watch all this KITCHI touching. We're gonna shop

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Speaker 1: that here when I'm out with the pastor. He would

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Speaker 1: But you let him. That's what y'all doing up at

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Speaker 1: the church and all. That's what y'all always do. What's

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Speaker 1: the matter you? He'd been grabbing your breast. He caught

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Speaker 1: In the restaurant, he hates to be told no. Okay,

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Speaker 1: didn't your husband tell you that he's self centered in braggadoshus?

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Speaker 1: Didn't your husband say he was self cented in braggadosha?

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Speaker 1: You said you ain't care because you know already failed.

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Speaker 1: and I want to keep it that way. Why would

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Speaker 1: you kidding me the same? Why would a married woman

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Speaker 1: carry on like this? And? Yes? What what? What? What? What? What? What's?

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Speaker 1: What's wrong with you? You're so damned stupid and I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna show you how stupid up. Let me explain something

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Speaker 1: forty six and married. He's a pastor from out of town.

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Speaker 1: Family didn't come with him. He bored out his mind.

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Speaker 1: You was assigned to show him around. You don't think

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Speaker 1: that other people hearing this letter ain't gonna add up

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Speaker 1: what two and two is because ain't a whole lot

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Speaker 1: of churches gotten pastors coming to town and leaving a

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Speaker 1: this is not ain't hard to add up? You married,

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Speaker 1: he married, you're driving him around? Lady. That's stupid, open open,

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Speaker 1: And somebody called me one time, Steve, you should stop

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Speaker 1: using a stupid women referring to people. Well what y'all

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Speaker 1: want to call what? What? What? But you don't what

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Speaker 1: word fit hu in this letter? That's better. That's stupid

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Speaker 1: because I'm trying to figure it out. You said trifling. Okay,

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Speaker 1: how do I keep him happy? But stop all this

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Speaker 1: public displays and affection? Well to keep cares about being

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Speaker 1: his property? Yeah, keep writing us. This is almost over.

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