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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday, my love.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you guys. Our show is coming up.

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Speaker 2: Our live show is coming up. If you haven't gotten

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Speaker 2: your tickets, hopefully it's muscled out.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is already.

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Speaker 3: It might be sold out, it might be late. But

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Speaker 3: if not.

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Speaker 2: If you're in Philly, DC, Chicago, Atlanta, New York, come

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Speaker 2: through click the link in our bio. Come to the

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Speaker 2: Good Mom's Gone Wild Tour.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come get ratchet with us. I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: see you guys in person. Also, excuse my voice. I

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Speaker 1: went out two days ago, and because I'm an old bitch,

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Speaker 1: it's taken all of forty eight hours to recover and

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Speaker 1: I'm still not recovered. So this is the aftermath of

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Speaker 1: a fun night.

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Speaker 2: Wow, the night that's the night that I wasn't invited

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Speaker 2: to by all my friends on Instagram. Oh I had

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Speaker 2: to look on Instagram and see that all my friends

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Speaker 2: were out except me to not get one invitation.

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Speaker 3: But you know who cares.

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Speaker 2: I loved you, just the fact that we turned in

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Speaker 2: our whole final chapter of our book, and I wasn't

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Speaker 2: invited to the celebration.

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Speaker 1: I fucking talked to you. You were in bed, you

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Speaker 1: looked sleepy, you had IRI, and I knew you weren't

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Speaker 1: gonna come out.

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Speaker 2: I saw your face, you know how, Like they say, like,

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Speaker 2: keep inviting moms out, like even though you know they're

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Speaker 2: gonna say no, I am mom's bitch.

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Speaker 1: I am. I know you, and I saw exactly your face,

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Speaker 1: and I could have.

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Speaker 3: At least known it was gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: I had to look on Instagram and see all twenty

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Speaker 2: five of my friends out except me.

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Speaker 1: First of all, we only have like five. Second of all,

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Speaker 1: Sebastian told me he's like, should I invite Erica? I

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Speaker 1: was like, I just talked to her. I don't think

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Speaker 1: she's coming out. And at first it was just dinner,

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Speaker 1: but then we don't know how to sit the fuck down,

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Speaker 1: so it evolved into fucking more than dinner, and I

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Speaker 1: was like, I don't think she wants to come. I

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Speaker 1: saw her.

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Speaker 3: That's what you got. That's where your voice was fucked up.

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Speaker 1: Okay, don't be jealous, because I had a good time.

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Speaker 3: I'm not jealous. I'm fine.

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Speaker 2: I'm well, arrested and healthy. And I don't have a

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Speaker 2: fucking cracked ass voice.

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Speaker 1: I could just be coming down with a household cough.

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Speaker 2: I pray to fucking God you're not, because that shit

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Speaker 2: lasts four months last time.

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Speaker 1: It might be just a household, regular household cough. Not

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Speaker 1: anything else.

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Speaker 3: I don't scare our guest.

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Speaker 1: Trap yet. What's new anything going on other than that

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Speaker 1: you fucking are pissed with me that I went out

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Speaker 1: without you too?

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Speaker 3: No, that's fine.

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Speaker 1: And also I was like, nigga, we see each other.

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Speaker 1: We're about to be in a month, another month long.

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Speaker 2: It's fine, it's fine. I'm getting really used to being

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Speaker 2: apart from you. It's fine.

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Speaker 1: Wow, my friend loves me so much. Try to hang

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Speaker 1: out next time.

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Speaker 3: I know, she get married behind my back.

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Speaker 2: Never fine, I'm totally fine, guys.

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Speaker 1: She's not feeling away at all about any of this.

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Speaker 3: Nope, nope, not scorpioing at all.

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Speaker 1: The other day I talked to you, I'm like, you

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Speaker 1: still give attitude. You're like, no, I'm fine. I'm like, okay, bye,

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Speaker 1: it's because I went out. Wow.

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Speaker 2: No, it wasn't that. It's like, it's like twenty other things.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, but something was wrong.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I was in a moody.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I just want to make sure that my psychic

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Speaker 1: abilities are not off.

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Speaker 2: I was I wasn't feeling away. I really wasn't when

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Speaker 2: you called it, I was in a mood. I just

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Speaker 2: got I just got out.

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Speaker 3: Of the shower. I'm overwhelmed. I'm not in a mood.

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Speaker 2: But then when you ask me something's wrong, then I'm like, bitch, no,

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Speaker 2: it's I'm fine. I'm trying to act like everything's fine,

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Speaker 2: and you're asking me if I'm wrong, if something's wrong,

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Speaker 2: and now something's wrong.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to our waters sign friendship slash marriage. This is

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Speaker 1: what a regular day looks like. We're not fighting at all.

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Speaker 1: This is a regular conversation. This is why our relationship

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Speaker 1: has worked out this long, because she just talks shit

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Speaker 1: and I'm just like, okay, girl, whatever, I want to

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Speaker 1: go out later. I want to celebrate now, champagne maybe, Okay, perfect,

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Speaker 1: it's done. You got a baby, anything.

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Speaker 2: You want Friday night, have a babysitter. So I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: go fucking crazy.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'll be the DD because I'm I retired. Two

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Speaker 1: days ago. I retired. I just realized I'm not a

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Speaker 1: young bitch. Stop acting like it, like I'm cool for now,

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Speaker 1: and then next month they'll be different.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, you guys, we have a special guest who probably

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Speaker 2: thinks we're nuts. And also he's a man, so he's

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Speaker 2: probably he's like, what the fuck did I get into? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: this is how women argue. I'm sure you know your husband.

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Speaker 2: We'd like to introduce our special guest today is Marcus Black.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, daddy, thank you, uh husband, entrepreneur, accidental motivational speaker,

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Speaker 2: love coach, love coach, relationship expert, and I and all

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Speaker 2: the things.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, thank you for having me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I've been following you for a while

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Speaker 2: and I'll be seeing like your your I guess their

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Speaker 2: memes essentially, I'd be like quotes and means, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I could just double triple fucking tap this ship, about

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Speaker 2: to break this ship.

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Speaker 1: I was like, let me d M him.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate she did.

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Speaker 1: She like said, we're I don't know if you know,

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Speaker 1: we're professional DM sliders, and so we're constantly in people's

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Speaker 1: DMS like Hi, Hello, yeah, yeah, did you hear me yet?

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Speaker 1: You want to you want to come over?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So she hit me and she sent it like

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Speaker 1: I think he should be on the show. I was like, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like these coultes.

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Speaker 5: No, thank you for having me for one. I've just

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Speaker 5: been sitting back and joining the banter.

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Speaker 4: You know. It's like my I grew up in a matriarch.

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Speaker 3: Did you Okay?

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Speaker 4: Now I have my sister just called me. I got

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Speaker 4: four sisters, have two daughters.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, mother in law.

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Speaker 5: It's not even a poor me. I like, I'm comfortable

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Speaker 5: in that space, you know what I mean. I'm I'm

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Speaker 5: actually uncomfortable. Well, I don't say uncomfortable. I just I

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Speaker 5: just don't really I don't really like men.

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Speaker 1: Wow, welcome either, I got it a feel you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I like man.

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Speaker 1: I like them, but they're like I. Sometimes we don't

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Speaker 1: think the same.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's some work that.

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Speaker 4: No. And when I say I don't, I don't dislike man.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 5: My thing is just it's I'm like, I'm me already, right,

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Speaker 5: And so I have a I have a core of

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Speaker 5: my brothers, the same guys I've been around for the

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Speaker 5: last fifteen twenty years, and I know them and I

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Speaker 5: trust them.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 5: Outside with men, it's often it's often like this era

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Speaker 4: You know, they always rump.

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Speaker 5: It's just difficult meeting men and trying to figure out

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Speaker 5: what's your angle, like, what's your how you.

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Speaker 4: Really where your heart at, really, where your where your

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Speaker 4: morals at, where you like what you actually believe?

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Speaker 5: Right, it's just with women you just cut. You're not

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Speaker 5: trying to beat me, you know what I mean, not

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Speaker 5: something of that ten. You're trying to help me in

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Speaker 5: some shay from a fashion. Whether I want to help

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Speaker 5: or not. You know, it's okay. So anyway, I'm happy

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Speaker 3: Well, thank you for coming. I would say, yes, that's true.

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Speaker 2: I think that they I mean, I think men and

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Speaker 2: women both have egos, right, but I think only really

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Speaker 2: a man can speak to that. I'm actually surprised to

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Speaker 2: hear you say to hear you say that, or I

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Speaker 2: guess a man say that. I don't really hear men

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Speaker 2: say like, I don't like men besides Damon Dash.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so someone just said that recently.

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Speaker 2: Oh interesting, shout out to Damon. Yeah, he doesn't like

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Speaker 2: hang like, doesn't allow men to his house. He doesn't

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Speaker 2: really like men around him at all. Like he prefers

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Speaker 2: to be around just all women. For multiple reasons, but

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Speaker 2: mostly because he just realizes that women, like you said,

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Speaker 2: are nurturers. They're here, they want to help you for

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Speaker 2: the most part. Of course, there are some women that

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Speaker 2: want to take, absolutely, but I.

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Speaker 4: Mean I think all women want to receive. Yeah, receive.

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Speaker 5: You think you guys were created to receive? What That's

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Speaker 5: another I could take it. I can take a long

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Speaker 1: I think when I first honestly, when I first got

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Speaker 1: like I vaguely I don't really watch a lot of TV,

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Speaker 1: just I just I don't know. I vaguely remember, like

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Speaker 1: a was it like a love triangle? And then I

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Speaker 1: and then I saw you online later just giving love

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Speaker 1: advice and I was like, huh, I wonder what. I

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Speaker 1: wonder what happened here? I wonder what spawned this journey?

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Speaker 1: Because I know you you also have a book, You're

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Speaker 1: an author, right, and what is what is the book?

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Speaker 1: It's this love Laws and what's the tagline?

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Speaker 5: Uh, the six principles for you know, healthy harmonious relationships?

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Speaker 1: Right? So, like, was there something that happened that shifted

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Speaker 1: that caused you to go down this path.

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Speaker 5: I mean, everything had life happens, right, I think most

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Speaker 5: of us, you know, I'm going into like dysfunction, you know,

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Speaker 5: just I think we learned how to thrive in chaos.

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Speaker 5: I think chaotic situations and toxic relationships is normal for us.

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Speaker 4: That's what we up around.

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Speaker 5: So my first you know, ten years of dating, you know, seriously,

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Speaker 5: was all just toxic.

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Speaker 4: And I thought it was normal because it was normal

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Speaker 4: for me.

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Speaker 5: But I didn't know that. I didn't know it was unhealthy.

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Speaker 5: I know it didn't feel right, but you know, you

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Speaker 5: look up and your parents been married thirty years off dysfunction.

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Speaker 4: So it's like, I guess this is how it goes.

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Speaker 4: And then you just you just get tired of losing,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean the same way.

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Speaker 5: It's like and you just want to break these generational

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Speaker 5: curses over your family.

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Speaker 4: So I just started doing the work.

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Speaker 5: I wanted to be a better person for myself, and

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Speaker 5: then you know, I wanted my daughters to have I'm like, yo,

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Speaker 5: they're going to pick a guy that's like me, like this, what.

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Speaker 4: I what I want my daughter day.

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Speaker 1: Question?

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Speaker 5: You know, and then you just it's just it's but

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Speaker 5: The process of maturing.

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Speaker 5: But but I'm someone who's more intentional about maturing and

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Speaker 5: We've heard, you know, when you said scorpio, I was like, okay, sweet, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Our father's so unaware that they are basically that they

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Speaker 2: And like you just said that you like decided to

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Speaker 2: but what was the work that you did and how

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Speaker 5: Like for me, I got tired of losing I got

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Speaker 3: Losing in what way, like losing your girl, like.

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Speaker 5: Like when you're in a toxic environment, you know you're

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Speaker 5: quick little test.

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Speaker 4: Nothing heavy.

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Speaker 5: I'm not saying you got it like it's heavy, Like

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Speaker 1: Your life somebody else's.

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Speaker 4: And so.

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Speaker 5: The way we expect to have healthy relationships with no information,

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Speaker 5: it's actually one of the most like it's like one

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Speaker 4: Like do we actually think this was gonna work right?

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Speaker 4: And is this? Is it?

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Speaker 5: you know, And it's a narrative like I think a

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Speaker 5: lot of men feel like we have more time than

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Speaker 4: Know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: Me, I just was like, yo, I just I wanted

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Speaker 4: What do you stand?

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Speaker 4: Over what you What are you believing? Do you even

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Speaker 5: Five to like my early thirties, really really my early

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Speaker 4: You know, bestowed upon me kind of because we're born

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Speaker 5: It's like you start, you watch your dad and you're like, Okay, well,

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Speaker 3: Had to unlearned.

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Speaker 5: Communication would be a big one for me. You know,

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Speaker 5: I'm I'm naturally a calm person until I'm not, you know,

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Speaker 5: I'm not, you know, I never been wanting to be

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Speaker 5: like you bitch and all that stuff, but I'm I'm

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Speaker 5: that was that was normal, and like growing up in

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Speaker 4: Heard, you raise your voice, like this is you in Chicago,

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Speaker 4: Like you can't.

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Speaker 5: Even get a conversation, You can't even get a word

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Speaker 4: This is normal.

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Speaker 5: It's not normal when somebody's gonna tell me this is

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Speaker 4: Trying to see it from all angles and everything.

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Speaker 5: But one day I was just I was yelling, I

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Speaker 5: right for sure, you know, and I'm raising my voice

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Speaker 5: and she's just like, after I get done, she responds

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, yo, I'm a fucking dirt back.

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Speaker 5: It was like, I'm the worst person on the face

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Speaker 5: of his third Like, and you know, I tell women.

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Speaker 4: It's all the time.

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Speaker 5: It's a way to articulate, to communicate with a man

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Speaker 5: that it just murders us.

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Speaker 3: Okay, tell me I need to know. Okay, it's really calmly.

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Speaker 4: It's respect.

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Speaker 5: Like you, I believe you can love a woman into

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Speaker 5: doing damn near anything for you, and you can respect

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Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: Like like, well, like a man to slide down a

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Speaker 3: What do you what is like? What does respect though

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 2: Because I think that's like it's maybe it's it depends

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Speaker 2: it disrespectful to tell like because some men view you

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Speaker 2: I guess it's the delivery of your what what your

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Speaker 1: You need because you'respectful.

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Speaker 4: But I think I think that, I think I think

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Speaker 4: you know. I don't. I haven't been around you like that.

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Speaker 5: So I don't you a little you have a you

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Speaker 3: For me, an attack.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, respect is more of an energy for me.

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Speaker 4: You know, it's a spirit of respect.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's a tone and an energy in your disposition,

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Speaker 5: you know, and what not not even disrespect, but the

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Speaker 5: lack of respect, you know what I mean, Because just

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Speaker 5: because you don't respect me doesn't mean you're disrespecting me either.

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Speaker 5: You know, respect is earn but it's a certain energy

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Speaker 5: I can I can look at like Brookie get to

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Speaker 5: dismissive energy. Yeah you're doing that thing, Noah, Like you

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Speaker 5: don't don't play with me?

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Speaker 4: Like and she she that's not that's not her as

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Speaker 4: a whole. You know. People have this idea of is

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Speaker 5: People think brook is just like the TV is such

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Speaker 4: You know what I mean? And brook is one of

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Speaker 4: the most respectful.

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Speaker 5: Calm I could not I can't be with a woman

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Speaker 5: that's disrespectful.

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Speaker 4: It's it's literally a deal breaking for me.

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Speaker 5: I can tolerate cheating before I can tolerate a woman

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Speaker 5: that's disrespectful.

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Speaker 3: Like, I mean, I agree, I'm not. I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't take to disrespect it. I mean, I need

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Speaker 2: to be love, but I also need to respect it.

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Speaker 2: I need both like like.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think if you love someone, you respect them.

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Speaker 3: And always true, you know.

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Speaker 4: Interesting, But if you love.

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Speaker 1: Some money, respect them.

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Speaker 5: I mean, if you know what love is, right, But

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Speaker 5: I think that's that's most people don't. Yeah, right, they

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Speaker 1: I was just thinking about what you asked him about,

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Speaker 1: on top of that, like another layer, I think as

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Speaker 1: know what I mean, it's like it's like, wow, it's

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00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 1: so fucking smart. And I think that you know, it's

446
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 1: like what we're asking for is not much. But unfortunately,

447
00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 1: I think there's that you know, a lot of times

448
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:48,760
Speaker 1: in black communities, in black households like brown like are

449
00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 1: a level of understanding of what healthy love looks like

450
00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:55,520
Speaker 1: isn't always like the prime example. And then on top

451
00:20:55,560 --> 00:21:01,240
Speaker 1: of that, like for men, men have the advantage of

452
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:06,160
Speaker 1: living in a society that is patriarchal. So you being

453
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:11,680
Speaker 1: disrespectful is I mean not you specific, but men upholding

454
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 1: these this narrative of like just higher than the woman

455
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 1: and not having to reciprocate equally, like I mean, we

456
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,520
Speaker 1: see it right now, And I'm always shocked that like

457
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:25,720
Speaker 1: men are talking this way and acting this way as

458
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 1: if almost like bitch, are you stupid not to understand,

459
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 1: like you're never gonna get You're never gonna get wiped

460
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:33,160
Speaker 1: if you act this way or that way. I see

461
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,719
Speaker 1: that a lot more than I ever like, especially amongst

462
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 1: black men, and I think it takes this particular type

463
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:43,160
Speaker 1: of emotionally like evolved person to be like okay, First

464
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,760
Speaker 1: of all, that's crazy, even as a man, even as

465
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:50,720
Speaker 1: the person being like the person who gets the hot

466
00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 1: you know, the long end of the stick. You have

467
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 1: to be a certain level of mature to be like Okay,

468
00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 1: that's fucking nuts. I would never ask someone to do

469
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,680
Speaker 1: that for me, you know, if I love them or

470
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 1: if it's just like we're both human type shit. And

471
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 1: I feel like, unfortunately, like society has made it so

472
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 1: men get away with it because they benefit from it,

473
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 1: and so you really a lot of men won't take

474
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 1: the effort, mature thinking approach to be like, okay, that's

475
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: some bullshit. I was even like, there was something on

476
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,399
Speaker 1: Instagram recently. I don't know if you guys saw it

477
00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:26,199
Speaker 1: on the Shade Room. It was a girlfriend asking this

478
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 1: guy some questions and she's like, so you can go

479
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:31,159
Speaker 1: on holiday with your friends. He's like absolutely. She's like,

480
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,159
Speaker 1: so can I go on holiday with my friends? And

481
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,439
Speaker 1: he was like, fuck no, that's disrespectful. He was like,

482
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 1: you're gonna be at some nigga's table because your friend

483
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: gotta knows him and he bought a bottle and you

484
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 1: think that's fucking cute. Fuck no, you can only look

485
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,920
Speaker 1: places with me. And I was thinking, this sounds absolutely insane,

486
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 1: But I look at the comments and men are like, yeah, like,

487
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 1: don't be at the table with a nigga. I'm like,

488
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 1: but you could be on vacation in Colombia, like tricking

489
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:56,440
Speaker 1: off money on some bishit doesn't speak English, like I'm confused.

490
00:22:56,520 --> 00:23:00,439
Speaker 5: No, these times are very telling, right because we're in

491
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 5: the era, like we're in the we're in the podcast,

492
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 5: and we're in the we're in the platform, and everybody

493
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 5: has a voice, right, and so for a long time

494
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 5: you may be like even me as a man, I

495
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 5: was unaware of like how people feel, how men feel

496
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:15,560
Speaker 5: about certain things.

497
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,360
Speaker 4: It's like certain things you just didn't talk about.

498
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:25,160
Speaker 5: And then you have you know, justin Le Boy, which

499
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 5: is shout out Justice my brother or like you know,

500
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,959
Speaker 5: the late Kevin Samuel's and you have these people who

501
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 5: are making they're taking aggressive stances, you know, and you

502
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,919
Speaker 5: have men out coming out the wood warre like whoa.

503
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:44,400
Speaker 4: Yes, somebody said, I'm like whoa, Like this is it's

504
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 4: a lot. These aren't light These aren't light topics. They're

505
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:49,920
Speaker 4: very heavy in it. It's like whoa.

506
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 5: It feels like when Trump got in office and everybody

507
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 5: comes out like yeah, you're like, oh this is what

508
00:23:55,440 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 5: you guys been waiting for. Yeah you know, and so yeah, yeah.

509
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 3: Yeah that's true. I mean, it's definitely true.

510
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: I mean I think people, I think people pick and choose,

511
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 2: like they they pick and choose their messiahs, right, like

512
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: they like take a little bit of here, take a

513
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 2: little bit of their or they just pick one where

514
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 2: they pick this or the other. And it's definitely true,

515
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 2: like we are in that age of platforms and people

516
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 2: feeling like experts and everything. And and granted, you you

517
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 2: can be an expert in your own opinion, right, like

518
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 2: that's your opinion.

519
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: That's not necessarily can be.

520
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 4: Most people aren't even an experts in their own opinion.

521
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 3: It's true because they don't really They just say shit

522
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 3: and they.

523
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 4: Don't know what they believe.

524
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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's it's it's a wild time, especially I

525
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 2: think for women. And you know, our platform is definitely

526
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:43,239
Speaker 2: about just I mean, this theme, this theme of this

527
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,639
Speaker 2: month is good Mom's Gone wild, I mean and and

528
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 2: and and why is it that?

529
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:48,639
Speaker 3: Because are we wild moms?

530
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,200
Speaker 2: I mean to some maybe you know, to others, we're

531
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:55,200
Speaker 2: really empowering moms, you know. But I think I think

532
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 2: for us and the things that we do and what

533
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 2: we have found, I think as we grow in this space,

534
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: we've been very protected because I think most of our

535
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:08,119
Speaker 2: demographic is women. But as we venture into talking to

536
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 2: more men being interviewed by men. I find that there's

537
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:19,239
Speaker 2: like a definite distaste in our freedom, Yeah, in our wildness,

538
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 2: in our desire to, I guess, have autonomy over our bodies,

539
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 2: the way we feel and the way we use them,

540
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 2: the way we use our words, and essentially I believe

541
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 2: there's an attack on free women, especially within.

542
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 3: The Black community.

543
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 4: Free women.

544
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, women that are just and I mean when I

545
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 2: say free, I mean sexually liberated. I mean women that

546
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 2: are you know, honest and vocal about whatever they want

547
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 2: to do with their bodies, how they want to express

548
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 2: pleasure and spend their free time, and you know like

549
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 2: it especially, I mean added to the fact that we're

550
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,959
Speaker 2: also mothers, Like forget about it, Like that's crazy.

551
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,400
Speaker 3: Oh, and we're single mothers.

552
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 1: Oh, I know why yourself. That's why you're saying.

553
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 3: Oh, that's why you're saying now like that.

554
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's an attack on Uh. I don't disagree with you.

555
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 5: I agree with that. I just think it's a it's

556
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 5: a it's an attack on freethinkers in general, you know,

557
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,679
Speaker 5: and I think it always has been, like if you

558
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 5: want to go back to slavery, it's like certain things

559
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 5: you guys, you know that feels wrong, you know what

560
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 5: I mean. But it's like people have an agenda and

561
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 5: they're pushing the agenda, and anybody that goes against the

562
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 5: agenda would attack. Like the white folks that stood with us,

563
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 5: they got attacked, you know what I mean.

564
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 2: So well, it's not even the agenda. I think it's

565
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 2: a lot of times we're like if the freethinkers are

566
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 2: mirrors to people, and if you if it makes you

567
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:46,439
Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable or triggered, then it's wrong. You know, like

568
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 2: if you know, me working in my bathing suit on

569
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 2: Instagram with my daughter in the background triggers someone like,

570
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 2: oh my god, her daughter's for sure going to be

571
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 2: a who now, like guaranteed, Like.

572
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 3: What have I done that?

573
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 2: Probably I'm not even saying there's not I mean, you

574
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 2: can go try and find it. I don't know if

575
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 2: it exists, probably somewhere on the internet. But I'm just

576
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 2: thinking of like just me seeing women that have done

577
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 2: that and like the shame that has like fallen upon

578
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:17,719
Speaker 2: them for doing that, and it's like but why and

579
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 2: like or just like you know, me and me La,

580
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: we smoke weed.

581
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 3: Our kids know we smoke weed.

582
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: We don't hide that we smoke weed, just like parents

583
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 2: drink fucking whiskey and take shots in front of their

584
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 2: kids and they don't hide that shit.

585
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,360
Speaker 3: It's like there's this there's just such a.

586
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:38,200
Speaker 2: I think, and I, for lack of a better word,

587
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 2: attack on these ideals that women and Black women specifically

588
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:49,400
Speaker 2: can't do certain things after motherhood or can't do certain

589
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: things period and become less valuable because of that, become

590
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: like you're not marriage material, I mean, especially in the

591
00:27:55,840 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 2: age of the Kevin Samuels and I I hope he's

592
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:10,880
Speaker 2: resting in peace, but not really sorry, I just think

593
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: he was really toxic. I really think he was really

594
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: bad for women. And like granted, like some people you know,

595
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 2: agree with some of the things that he said, and

596
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: maybe maybe he said some good things.

597
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 3: I didn't hear him, but.

598
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 1: I think I think there's something. I think there's something

599
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 1: to be said, you know, in the era of free thinkers,

600
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: when especially like in our community, what's triggering for me

601
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: about that person or about like this era of a

602
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: lot of these like disrespectful men coming out of the

603
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: woodwork to say you're not worthy or you're not deserving,

604
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 1: is that like, as black people, we need to find

605
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: a like you said love of self and love for

606
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: each other. So like for a black man to come

607
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 1: and distastefully disrespect you know, women in the in the

608
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:04,479
Speaker 1: on the like for the love of bettering them, that

609
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 1: doesn't work. That doesn't translate, Like that's not going to

610
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: uplift like my counterpart, you know what I mean. And

611
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: so I think it's destructive more than it is it's constructive.

612
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: And I think when you deliver a message that way

613
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: to your people and you're and you're doing it in

614
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: the name of protecting them or encouraging them, it's it's

615
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: it's not real. It's for entertainment. And that's what I

616
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: have a problem with, Like you are down disrespecting women

617
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 1: black women that in which you came from, you know,

618
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: just to say you're not worthy, you're not good enough.

619
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 1: Who the fuck are you?

620
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 5: This is why I was really excited about coming on

621
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 5: you Guys show. I was like, I was actually excited

622
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 5: about it. If you look on a lot of that,

623
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 5: I don't do podcasts, like there's not footage of me.

624
00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 5: I don't really play in the space one because my

625
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 5: goal is to actually have an impact to help people.

626
00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 5: I'm not I'm not sitting out here like trying to

627
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 5: think of viral clips and see how I.

628
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 4: Can you know, that's not what I'm here for.

629
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 5: Also, you know a lot of men have invited me

630
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 5: to that podcast, right, and you know, I'm like, I

631
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 5: believe what I'm saying, Like I mean what I'm talking about,

632
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And I'm somebody that's like

633
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 5: willing to die for what I believe in, you know

634
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 5: what i mean. So it's a very sensitive space when

635
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 5: you when you guys sitting up somebody sitting up here

636
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 5: talking about Oh no, you.

637
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:32,239
Speaker 4: Go out of your mind of it.

638
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 5: Watch you, like, be careful, you know what I'm saying, Like,

639
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 5: let's not even like I'm not I'm not here to

640
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 5: go back and forth into you know, and or and

641
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 5: I don't want to put any other black man's perspective down,

642
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 5: you know what I mean.

643
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 4: But you know, I'm I'm I'm I'm more interested in.

644
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 5: Sharing and and and dialogue and making sense and then

645
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:56,719
Speaker 5: a lot you know what's refreshing about you guys is

646
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 5: you guys are women in the space, and it's there's

647
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 5: so many men out here right that are hurt in

648
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 5: their messages, Like when you talk about Kevin Samuels, right, like,

649
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 5: and I'm not ever gonna say anything bad about Kevin Samuels,

650
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 5: you know, God bless him. I think he made some

651
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 5: really awesome points, right however, Like yeah, I mean I

652
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 5: wouldn't I wouldn't have one at the top of my head.

653
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 5: But but I remember saying clips and things, you know,

654
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 5: that makes sense. It was the angle in which he

655
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 5: was he was coming and and and how he was

656
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 5: sharing his information, and you know, it was it seemed

657
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 5: like it came from a very unhealed, hurt place, you

658
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 5: know what I mean. You know, I remember my pastor

659
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 5: you said growing up, the truth without grace is just

660
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 5: being mean, Like you're just being asshole.

661
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 4: Like there's no need to be a dick, you know

662
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 4: what I.

663
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 1: Mean, not necessary if you're trying to help, right, And.

664
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 5: So it's just this is refreshing, you know, And like

665
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 5: I said, this is naturally mine.

666
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 4: I'm more comfortable you know with women.

667
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I I like we said, like we

668
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: super appreciate. I mean, in this era of a lot

669
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: of just unhealed and immature men, it is a breath

670
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 1: of fresh air to scroll the internet and see some

671
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 1: positive shit from a black man. I think sometimes as

672
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 1: black women, we feel disregarded by black men and unprotected

673
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: and unprotected and like safety, you know, is really big

674
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: for women in general, and if we don't feel that

675
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 1: from our people and from each other, like it's very

676
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: it's hurtful, it really is. I know you post like

677
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: a lot of motivational things, and what do you have

678
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: an affirmation for us today?

679
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 4: I don't have.

680
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 5: I don't have a particular affirmation, but I do. I

681
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 5: wake up in the morning and like part of my

682
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 5: self love is like I do.

683
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 4: Affirmation.

684
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 5: Love affirmations is one of my love languages, love affirmation

685
00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 5: and physical types. So I feel like, you know, a

686
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 5: lot of times you have to give yourself the love.

687
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 4: You have to feed your own love language. You know

688
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 4: what I mean. But uh, I'm big on you know,

689
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 4: just health. You know what I mean.

690
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 5: I'm healthy, I'm wealthy. You know, I'm whole. I don't

691
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 5: harbor any unforgiveness. I'm love. You know, I feel good.

692
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 5: I make others feel good.

693
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:30,479
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.

694
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 5: I'm just about wellness as far like mind, like mind,

695
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 5: body and spirit.

696
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 4: So those are the things I claim.

697
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 5: I My work ethic has always been crazy.

698
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 4: I think money is easy to get.

699
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: You know, I like that money is easy to get.

700
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 4: It's just money.

701
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: I'm healthy, I'm wealthy, I'm whole, and money is easy

702
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 1: to get. Healthy, I'm wealthy, I'm whole, and money is

703
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: easy to get. I feel that.

704
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 4: You just I made that a thing that was cool.

705
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel that we're gonna even we're gonna make

706
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: it a post and everything you see that.

707
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 4: You see how you see how easily women add value, Like.

708
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 1: We're going to create the content. You're we're both gonna

709
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 1: post it. Everyone's gonna get this health and wealth and

710
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 1: healing be as Marcus.

711
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 4: And then you know, a lot of men don't follow

712
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 4: me that.

713
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,800
Speaker 5: I don't think men like me because again we're in

714
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 5: adjusting the boy and and and Kevin Samuel's era, right,

715
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 5: and toxic toxicity is popular, and men like, why don't

716
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:43,040
Speaker 5: you hold women accountable? Why don't you tell the women

717
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 5: like you're always talking to us? First of all, calm down,

718
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 5: calm down. As for me, I'm obviously not a woman.

719
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 5: I don't know the first thing about being a woman.

720
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 5: So how can I hold a woman accountable? And I

721
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 5: don't know ship that comes with being This is this

722
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 5: is logical does this even makes sense? And I feel

723
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 5: like women can't hold men accountable. Ala, you know, you

724
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 5: don't know the first thing about being a man. How

725
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 5: you gonna tell me what I should be doing?

726
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 4: You know? The most we can do is ship. We

727
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 4: can share perspectives, you know what I mean.

728
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 2: I think it's more being accountable for like the care

729
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 2: of each other, right, Like I'm telling you what I need.

730
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 2: Are you going to take care of that for me?

731
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 2: If you say that, that's that you, that's something you

732
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 2: want to do.

733
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 4: That's what women relationship.

734
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think that's a lot of times. I

735
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 2: think a lot of times that's the women are trying

736
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,359
Speaker 2: to hold men accountable for, is the care of them themselves.

737
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: And also like the protection of us. And I think

738
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 2: a lot of times us as women, we don't protect

739
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 2: men either because we're like, fuck you, we didn't protect me.

740
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 2: Like I'm about to I'm about to get the bags,

741
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 2: I'm about to take the cab, I'm about to do this,

742
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 2: I'm about to do you know, all these things because

743
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 2: maybe we're in the era of like you know, I

744
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 2: think I think it's like a split era. We're in

745
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 2: the era of like city girls, where like it's like

746
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 2: fuck these niggas, get the bag. And then we're in

747
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 2: the other era of like let's heal the world. You know,

748
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 2: it's like a split down the middle. You know, it's

749
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 2: like one or the other. Right now, it's like it's

750
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 2: really there's like no happy medium. But I do realize.

751
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:25,959
Speaker 2: I think me and Mila, like when we first started

752
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 2: our podcast was very much fuck niggas, and now you know,

753
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 2: it's we're like a little bit more like we need

754
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 2: them now.

755
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: We've always been like fuck niggas. We also wanted a husband.

756
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: But we realized that we couldn't.

757
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 2: We had to stop saying that so much if we

758
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 2: actually wanted that, and we actually wanted men to like

759
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 2: we I want men to be healed. Women are healing

760
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 2: at a rapid pace over here like we are. And

761
00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 2: there's like I think men are triggered by you because

762
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 2: you're holding men accountable and they're triggered. Like I said,

763
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 2: like then they're you're holding a mirror to them and

764
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 2: they're like, WHOA, you're supposed to be on our side?

765
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 3: Who side are you on?

766
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 1: Don't don't give them a don't let them get any

767
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:04,760
Speaker 1: self respect.

768
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 4: Well, you know, I really just introduce a conversations. You know,

769
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 4: I don't.

770
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 5: I don't bash men or women, you know what I mean.

771
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:18,240
Speaker 5: Often i'm you know, I'm talking about myself or to myself,

772
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 5: or you know, about my think, like my life and

773
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 5: things that I've been through, you know what I mean.

774
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 5: People are just men, don't. I believe men are the

775
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 5: foundation of society right and until men take our rightful

776
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 5: place and be fully accountable and responsible for the world

777
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 5: when and what we've created and the way it flows,

778
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 5: and our homes and our women and everything. Until we

779
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 5: get in our place, I feel like the homes are

780
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 5: always going to be out of order.

781
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 4: What is going to cause the community to be out

782
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:02,399
Speaker 4: of order?

783
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,800
Speaker 5: What is going to cause our entire world to be

784
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 5: out of order? And men always wanted to start, well,

785
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 5: let's start, well, well if she would just not it

786
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 5: don't It doesn't. I understand right in theory, but it

787
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:16,919
Speaker 5: just doesn't work like that, you know what I mean?

788
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 5: Like I'm responsible for my home. I was talking to

789
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 5: this kid from from Philly. I went live when him

790
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:24,360
Speaker 5: he tapped in, he was like and he just disagreed.

791
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 5: He was like, but what if my what if my

792
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 5: girl like she's doing this and I'm like, okay, what

793
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 5: I said? What do you do for a living? He said,

794
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 5: I work at wingstop. I'm a manager at wingstop. I'm like, okay, cool,

795
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 5: that's it. You know you're a manager at wingstop. I

796
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,799
Speaker 5: was like, now, what's your what's your responsibility?

797
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 4: Like?

798
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 5: Do you do you cook or do He was like, no,

799
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't. I don't cook. I don't, you know,

800
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 5: I just I just I just run, you know the place.

801
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,959
Speaker 5: If I have to, I will. But I said, cool,

802
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 5: So what happens if the frier breaks and he's like,

803
00:38:56,480 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 5: I gotta fix it? Oh, well, the person who broke

804
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 5: the fire doesn't have to fix the fire. He's like, oh,

805
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 5: I see what you're saying. I'm like, yeah, that's that's leadership.

806
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 5: That's accountability. It's whether I broke this or not. It's

807
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 5: my responsibility to fix it and and initiate the repairs.

808
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 5: It's not the person who is making The person with

809
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 5: the fry not only do they do they not probably

810
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 5: not know how to fix the fire.

811
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 4: They're not qualified to fix the fry.

812
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:31,959
Speaker 5: They don't. They're not they're not taught how to write

813
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 5: reports or get in touch with management or you're not.

814
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 4: This is not what they do, you know what I'm saying.

815
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 5: And so when you talk about the home, my home,

816
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 5: I'm responsible for it from the front to from the

817
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 5: front to the back. I'm the I'm responsible. I don't

818
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 5: run my home one hundred percent, you know what I'm saying.

819
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 5: I run my portion of the home, but I'm responsible

820
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 5: for all of it, even the part that I don't do.

821
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. I'm responsible for overseeing my

822
00:39:58,680 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 4: home as a whole.

823
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 5: And when my home is in order and everything is right,

824
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:06,280
Speaker 5: I give myself a pat on the back because.

825
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 4: I know I'm on my shit.

826
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 5: And when my home is out of order, whether whether

827
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 5: it's my kids or my wife or any type of anything,

828
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 5: I have to get it in order. And the longer

829
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 5: we stay out of order, the more it's my responsibility.

830
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 5: Sometimes I'm the one who calls it, sometimes I didn't,

831
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 5: but I'm responsible for fixing it. And until men have

832
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:29,479
Speaker 5: that mentality, everything is going to be off right.

833
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:33,839
Speaker 3: And until women stop trying to fix men.

834
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 4: Can't fix men.

835
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: You can't fix the man. They have to want to

836
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: fix themselves.

837
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 5: And you got to want to fix yourself and that's

838
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 5: really and stop dating men who need fixing.

839
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I think I think there's yeah, you can't

840
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 1: you can't bank on somebody's potential. Obviously there's potential, and

841
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: you account for that. But like even I think we

842
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: have one of the questions from one of our people

843
00:40:55,280 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 1: was how long is too long to wait for somebody

844
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 1: to change, like, because I think there's a lot of

845
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: women who overextend themselves and hope and wish and wait,

846
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 1: and like, you could love somebody and still know that

847
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 1: like you got to leave in the fuck alone. That's

848
00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 1: really loving yourself first and more and be like, I

849
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 1: love you, but I have to go. And I think

850
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 1: women sometimes lack that because we're so nurturing and it

851
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 1: ultimately fucks us, you know, because ten years goes by,

852
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 1: however many long x amount of kids are here now

853
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: in a toxic situation. And I agree like in ways

854
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: that men are the foundation of the world and we

855
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: have to take responsibility for the state of the world.

856
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 1: But I also feel like women, you know, we're the womb,

857
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 1: we create it all this shit. We're like emotionally more superior.

858
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 1: There are things that I think if men would stop

859
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 1: with it, like the back and forth and would just

860
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:54,280
Speaker 1: genuinely pour into women. If you pour into your women,

861
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,879
Speaker 1: like the world will be healed because inevitably we pour

862
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 1: back like that is just in our DNA as as creators,

863
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 1: you know, as as the creators of people. I think

864
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: I was watching. I went down a really long rabbit

865
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 1: hole on Solay's page Sole the old the wrapper of

866
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: her back in the day, Jenny Wine's wife. She's not

867
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: Jenny Wine's wife no more. She's somebody else's wife. She's

868
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 1: from the she's she's like a tantrica, like a very

869
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: healed spiritualist. And my dad mentioned Darren. I was like,

870
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 1: let me look find out what Soley's doing. And I

871
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: went down like a deep deep wormhole. But she was

872
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:35,439
Speaker 1: talking about, you know, worshiping the women and even as

873
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: little girls, like worship them, like anoint them with oil,

874
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 1: wash their feet, like when men. When you train women

875
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: to like expect to be worshiped, and you do that

876
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 1: from a like a a like a small age into womanhood,

877
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:52,399
Speaker 1: it automatically women will do what they do. And when

878
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: we feel safe and when we feel loved, that's when

879
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: we give the most and we pour into everything else.

880
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 1: And I thought that was like such an interesting just

881
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: like thought because as little girls, I don't think we're

882
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: taught to be like to expect to be loved and

883
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 1: worshiped that way. In fact, we're kind of taught that

884
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: we have to prove our worthiness. You know, you're gonna like,

885
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: maybe you're gonna get a man. Maybe you're gonna be

886
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 1: like if you do this and you do that, you

887
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 1: don't act like a hull, you don't twurk online, you

888
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 1: will get a husband, you know. And if you don't,

889
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:23,479
Speaker 1: and if you got your cleavage, ob that's not gonna happen.

890
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: Like there's a separation from like our our feminine divinity,

891
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: like we are not We don't start there. We have

892
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 1: to get to our thirties to be healed, to become

893
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:35,399
Speaker 1: like secure in ourselves, to realize like some manual love.

894
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: But they're they're not emotionally evolved enough to accept you

895
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 1: as you are. And that's has nothing to do with you,

896
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 1: you know. So I thought it was like I think

897
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: it's we're all in a huge imbalance and it shows

898
00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 1: the world's fucked up.

899
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 5: That's why I feel like self love is the key.

900
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 5: You know, it's not about starting with men or women.

901
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 5: Everybody has a start with themselves, you know, the same way. Yeah,

902
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 5: need to pour into women, but that's the second step.

903
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 5: Men need to pour into themselves first, you know. And

904
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 5: it's the cycle has to stop somewhere, and only you

905
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 5: can stop the cycle with yourself. I have, I know

906
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 5: so many women that are big contributors to raising men

907
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 5: who are going to be toxic, you know, just a mess,

908
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And you know, yes, from

909
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 5: the time you know, you guys are little girls, you

910
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 5: should be uh nurtured and cared for a certain way.

911
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 5: Everything starts at the childhood. On a childhood level though,

912
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 5: Like and I was telling one of my homegirls recently,

913
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 5: it's like, yo, stop yelling at your son. You don't

914
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 5: want to condition him to tolerate disrespect, you know what

915
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 5: I'm saying. He's either going to get older and he's

916
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 5: and he's going to have an overreaction to women who

917
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 5: talk to him like you or that's gonna be normal.

918
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 5: He's gonna allow women to talk to him like that,

919
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 5: which is neither one of those a good good place.

920
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 5: And it's so much that comes from it, you know

921
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 5: what I mean. So you have women raising men It's

922
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 5: like what came first, the chicken or the egg, right,

923
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 5: And that's why everybody like singleness is the is the

924
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 5: foundation of all relationships. And I feel like your relationship

925
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 5: can only be as strong as you are single, you know.

926
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 5: So your ability to forgive starts with your ability to

927
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 5: forgive yourself. Your ability to love it starts with your

928
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 5: ability to love yourself. Your ability to do everything is

929
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 5: like it's based off of you. So we have to,

930
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 5: you know, start with ourselves, and then we have to

931
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 5: stop getting into relationship with men and women who are

932
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 5: not whole. You know what I'm saying. Two halves do

933
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 5: not make a hole. Like it may be in math,

934
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:59,399
Speaker 5: but not in relationships. You know, two holes.

935
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 4: Make a hole, you know what I mean. And so

936
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 4: you have.

937
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 5: So many women, you know, and all women are on

938
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 5: the same level. But I know some women who are

939
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 5: really healers, and there's quality women, but they're drawn to

940
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:14,400
Speaker 5: broken down.

941
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 4: Tried men, you know what I mean. And it's like, oh,

942
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 4: you you're gonna have a long.

943
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 5: Turbulent journey through like if you don't stop trying to

944
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 5: heal broken men, like you know what I mean, Because

945
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 5: you can't fix a man and A man can't fix

946
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 5: a broken woman.

947
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,919
Speaker 4: You gotta do that on your own. That's self work.

948
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 3: You hear that, ladies, you cannot fix a man.

949
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 2: I think more women really need to hear that from

950
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:44,839
Speaker 2: a man, because I think women really they do think

951
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 2: like I mean, we are all guilty of it. We've

952
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 2: all done it. Prayed over your man, like, prayed to God,

953
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 2: went to church, like might have put some shit in

954
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 2: his food, like just did every fucking trick you could

955
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 2: possibly think of, to think like, if only he could

956
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 2: just fix this one thing, he would be that, he'd perfect,

957
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 2: he'd be the perfect person for me.

958
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 4: Those things work, by the way.

959
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 5: But that sometimes sometimes they work for men who want that.

960
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want that, really.

961
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 4: I'll be telling people all the time.

962
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 1: Men say they.

963
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:15,439
Speaker 3: Want that though too. Then there's the ones that say

964
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 3: they want that.

965
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,719
Speaker 2: But they then maybe they think that they do, but

966
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 2: they really aren't.

967
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 4: I gotta start let these niggas talk you out of death.

968
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 1: You really got it.

969
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:24,319
Speaker 4: You gotta let these niggas talk out.

970
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 1: Help me stop talking, you know.

971
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 4: But I tell people people think people DM brook and

972
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 4: be like, what prayer did you pray? How did you

973
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 4: get marcus prayer?

974
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:35,760
Speaker 3: You had it before.

975
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 5: See her didn't make Marcus do nothing. Brook couldn't make

976
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 5: Marcus marry her. She couldn't make me. She couldn't make

977
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 5: me do anything. You know what I mean, like a

978
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 5: man will It's not even a man thing. This is

979
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 5: a human thing, right, Humans really don't like really, by

980
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 5: the time we're until like a maybe like thirteen, early

981
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 5: teenage years, we really are who we are, you know

982
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:04,760
Speaker 5: what I mean, Especially here I am in my thirties.

983
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:06,439
Speaker 4: I'm I'm locked right.

984
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:10,720
Speaker 5: So the only way I'll change is if I see

985
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 5: something as a immediate threat to my overall well being.

986
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 4: If I don't, it don't matter what you think about it.

987
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 5: If I don't think it's the biggest deal in the world,

988
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna change it. And you, like women, need

989
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 5: to recognize that and back off, you know what I'm saying,

990
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 5: because all you're gonna do is make me hide it

991
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 5: for you. And it's only so long I can hide it.

992
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 5: Then that's why you're gonna it's a sight. You're gonna

993
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 5: keep dealing with it, like, well, I just want you

994
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 5: to stop doing this. But if he don't want to

995
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 5: stop doing it, but he wants you because he's not

996
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 5: gonna he's not gonna stop doing it for you. He'll

997
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 5: stop doing it for him if he realizes, like it's

998
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 5: a big l But like if if he recognizes it,

999
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:58,919
Speaker 5: then he'll change it if you recognizes that as a problem.

1000
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 5: But if he doesn't view it as a problem, I

1001
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 5: just tuck it in on Friday. I'm just gonna just

1002
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 5: tug mine in. I'm gonna just tug mine in. De

1003
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 5: Bo coming. It's like, y'all, d bo d here come

1004
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 5: d bot. Just tuck it in because.

1005
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 4: You know, there's not enough.

1006
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 5: Transparent conversations being had. People aren't being men.

1007
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:19,280
Speaker 4: Listen.

1008
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 5: We already don't feel like we can tell y'all the truth.

1009
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 5: Men don't feel like when I was in high school, right,

1010
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 5: why would I go home and tell my and tell

1011
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 5: my mom I got in trouble at school or Miss

1012
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:38,359
Speaker 5: Anderson this happened. She told me, why would I Why

1013
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 5: the hell would I do that? Why would I come

1014
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:44,320
Speaker 5: bring you information that I know you can't receive?

1015
00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 4: Well, does that even make sense? And can you blame me?

1016
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 4: You know?

1017
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:54,240
Speaker 5: With my relationship and I seen the highest praises because

1018
00:49:55,520 --> 00:49:58,839
Speaker 5: she really, like Brook created the environment for honesty I've

1019
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:02,799
Speaker 5: never been a liar, but kinda you take that shit

1020
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:09,680
Speaker 5: in well, i'm mister, or you didn't the right question? Yeah, yeah,

1021
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:12,760
Speaker 5: like I was the king of withholding information as somehow,

1022
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 5: some reason I felt better. I felt like, that's why

1023
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 5: I'm not lying. It's not lying, and it is in

1024
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 5: a sense, you know, it's not lying. Or but she

1025
00:50:20,360 --> 00:50:23,240
Speaker 5: created the environment for honesty, like she says, she wanted

1026
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 5: the truth, and then we started having dialogue about little

1027
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 5: things and she's never used my truth against me. And

1028
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 5: if you want a man to open up and be

1029
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 5: honest with you and be emotionally open with you, we

1030
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 5: can be mentally. Oh you want him to be emotionally

1031
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:40,839
Speaker 5: open with you, you have to be able to take

1032
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:42,840
Speaker 5: the truth or accept the fact that you or accept

1033
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 5: that you can't take the truth, and don't help. Don't

1034
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 5: hold him accountable for not being honest with you. It's

1035
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:50,720
Speaker 5: like y'all be trying to set man up. Oh for sure,

1036
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. Like yo, I saw a

1037
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 5: post yesterday and I don't remember exactly what it said,

1038
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 5: but it was basically like women want men to be

1039
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 5: it's out the gate. Okay, So if I meet you

1040
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 5: I'm like, listen, you are beautiful. I love your hair,

1041
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 5: I love your eyes. I love to have sex.

1042
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:09,279
Speaker 4: With you and then get to know you.

1043
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 5: It's over from the moment that I that I don't

1044
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 5: even get off. I don't even get off first base.

1045
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 5: I don't even get to the first base.

1046
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. Maybe I believe less.

1047
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 5: Than tempest in a woman to be like, okay, I

1048
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 5: fuck with that. Most women like you out of your mind? Cool,

1049
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 5: now I know who. Now I know who not to

1050
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 5: deal with you.

1051
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:31,440
Speaker 2: You throw sex and that it becomes like, well, then

1052
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 2: you're gonna have sex and then you're gonna be done

1053
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 2: with me, because that's what women. I mean, that's what

1054
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,799
Speaker 2: we've been told as well. I lied to Yeah, so

1055
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 2: we throw sex into the first interaction depending on where

1056
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:43,799
Speaker 2: I'm at, then yeah, I'm gonna be like this thing

1057
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 2: is suposed to fuck.

1058
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 5: But if I let you know that I'm here for

1059
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 5: sex first, because no man, and I be careful with

1060
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 5: blanket statements, but most men don't look at a woman

1061
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 5: and be like, yo, man, I'm gonna be the hell

1062
00:51:56,760 --> 00:51:57,360
Speaker 5: of a husband.

1063
00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 1: I herd like I'm gonna get to as such.

1064
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 5: I'm gonna ask so much security and I'm gonna be

1065
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 5: there and and and like when she needs to talk,

1066
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:08,360
Speaker 5: like I'm I just can't wait.

1067
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 4: To just ask a baby you need to talk? Do

1068
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 4: you want to have a conversation?

1069
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 5: This does not cross our mind thinking about it, right,

1070
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 5: you see what I'm saying. And this is why dialogue

1071
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 5: is necessary, right because if men knew, like I'll be

1072
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 5: telling I told my guy the other day, like she

1073
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:27,399
Speaker 5: always want to talk, like this is a great thing.

1074
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 4: Like as long as your woman wants to talk to you,

1075
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 4: you're in a great space.

1076
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 5: When she don't want to talk to you no more,

1077
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 5: that's when you're in real trouble with her.

1078
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 4: When she gets quiet, that's when sh it's getting weird.

1079
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 5: Talk Like sometimes I be having to make set an

1080
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 5: hour to the side just so brook and talk like

1081
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 5: what you like, what.

1082
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 4: You you want? You want? You want to talk about anything? Well, yeah,

1083
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:52,880
Speaker 4: I just sit up. All right, let's just let's just

1084
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 4: run through it. Can we get it out in all

1085
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:56,319
Speaker 4: in one setting? Just so?

1086
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:58,279
Speaker 5: Can we not spread it out through through the whole day.

1087
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 5: I don't have time for that. Can we just do

1088
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 5: it in want sitty?

1089
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,879
Speaker 1: But I think that's true. I think for women too,

1090
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 1: we really have to be self aware to create a

1091
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: safe space for honesty because let's like, let's keep it real,

1092
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 1: Like you want honesty, but also you're gonna be irritated

1093
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: if you hear the wrong thing and you want your

1094
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: nigga to say the right thing and do the right thing,

1095
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: but they don't speak the same language as us.

1096
00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:23,240
Speaker 3: Well, it's almost like it's almost like with kids.

1097
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 2: We always talk about our kids, and like, being parents,

1098
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 2: that kind of have to take one to the chin

1099
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 2: if you want to create an honest space for your kids,

1100
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 2: Like you want your kids to be able to come

1101
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:32,960
Speaker 2: to you. If your kid comes to you and says, Mom,

1102
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 2: I had sex and you're like who, Like you want

1103
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 2: to like kind of curse them out you want, but

1104
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 2: you also got to keep it cool because you want

1105
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:42,319
Speaker 2: to keep that conversation open. You kind of have to

1106
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:46,919
Speaker 2: extend that same idea to your relationship, like, bitch, shut

1107
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:47,520
Speaker 2: the fuck up.

1108
00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:48,360
Speaker 1: I mean, I.

1109
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:53,040
Speaker 3: Just shut up. Go tell your girls. Go tell your girls.

1110
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 2: That's literally it, you know, go tell your girls and

1111
00:53:55,640 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 2: then just say okay, baby, thank you for sharing that.

1112
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 1: But I also feel like creating that type of space

1113
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: eventually like it's it takes practice because Orlando would tell

1114
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:09,359
Speaker 1: me shit and I was like, okay, oh you had

1115
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,720
Speaker 1: sex with the co check girl. Oh okay, that's toally

1116
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 1: necessary but so necessary. But also practicing, not not caring,

1117
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 1: but watching how I react and then analyzing does that

1118
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: shit really matter? Are you about to stop fucking with

1119
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: this nigga because this is what he did? You know

1120
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, no, you're not, bitch, You're not

1121
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:32,400
Speaker 1: about to leave the nigga because of this shit? But

1122
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: what does what it created for me? Like having brutal honesty,

1123
00:54:36,600 --> 00:54:40,239
Speaker 1: It honestly created a space that I began to feel

1124
00:54:40,280 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 1: more comfortable saying exactly how I felt, because at first,

1125
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:45,440
Speaker 1: like I'm a cool girl, like I'd be like, I

1126
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:46,840
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about that. I don't give a

1127
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,720
Speaker 1: fuck about anything because I'm sensitive on the inside alone,

1128
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:52,279
Speaker 1: not in front of people. You're not gonna hurt my

1129
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 1: fucking feelings because I did something similar yesterday. Oh you

1130
00:54:56,280 --> 00:55:00,840
Speaker 1: did know me too. But it created an environment where

1131
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: I had to be aware of how I was reacting.

1132
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: It also made me feel more It was easier for

1133
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: me to be brutally honest. And then it also when

1134
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 1: I after I realized, like we could talk about things.

1135
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: Then I'm like, that fucking irritated me. Let me tell

1136
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 1: you why. And then I had I had the wherewithal

1137
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 1: to analyze the why, like is it because you had sex?

1138
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 1: Like niggas fuck people? Fuck, that's one thing, but no,

1139
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:29,439
Speaker 1: it's like how you did it. It's because I didn't

1140
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 1: hear from you. It's because you said you're about to

1141
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: go home, and then think how the fuck this happened?

1142
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:33,640
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

1143
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 1: There was other things that were actually bothering me. But

1144
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,960
Speaker 1: had I not practiced feel like making him feel safe

1145
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:42,840
Speaker 1: and then making myself feel safe, I wouldn't have had

1146
00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:45,319
Speaker 1: the balls to be like, actually, I don't like that.

1147
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: And now we're in a place so I'm like, I

1148
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: don't like that. He's like, okay, I won't do that,

1149
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But it took practice because

1150
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 1: I can be the woman to be like nah, nigga,

1151
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 1: fuck you, you know what I mean. I think we

1152
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: all have that ability because we're not a like it's

1153
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 1: just easy. It's easy to do that.

1154
00:56:02,719 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 4: Singleness. This is why singleness is so important.

1155
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 5: Like I'm married, but I'm very single, right and I'm

1156
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 5: single but I'm not available for other women. But I'm single, right,

1157
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 5: I'm my responsibility, right, I am not Brooks responsibility. I'm

1158
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 5: not her primary responsibility. She's not my primary responsibility. It

1159
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:35,320
Speaker 5: sounds crazy, but nothing. She's my probably, she's one of

1160
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:39,360
Speaker 5: my primary responsibilities, not before me though, right. And so

1161
00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 5: because the reason, like my best friend Wan right, we've

1162
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:48,440
Speaker 5: been rocking. So we was sixteen years old, right, and

1163
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,120
Speaker 5: the reason the relationship works is because of singleness.

1164
00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 4: I'm able to deal with him or my best friend Jennifer.

1165
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 5: We've been typed as my best female friend since I

1166
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 5: was fourteen years old. It's because we're single in the relationship, right,

1167
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 5: And we treat each other with unconditional love because at

1168
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 5: the end of the day, what you eat don't make

1169
00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 5: me shit, right, Like I can deal with you with love.

1170
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:14,120
Speaker 5: When you go through something and you feel.

1171
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:15,640
Speaker 4: Like that, it's like, oh, you feel like that interesting?

1172
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 4: All right, Well that may not work out for you.

1173
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 5: But when we with romantic relationships, we feel like we

1174
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 5: own one another. It's like, yo, that's not brook is

1175
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 5: not a belonging of mine. She first of all, she

1176
00:57:28,840 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 5: was grown when I met her. I can understand getting

1177
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 5: lost if we if you grew up together, Like when

1178
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 5: I met Brookly was grown, she was already successful.

1179
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.

1180
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:41,240
Speaker 5: We have the opportunity to experience life with one another.

1181
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:45,360
Speaker 5: It's partnership, right, So if you're gonna do life together

1182
00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 5: and partner up in life together, then partner.

1183
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 4: Up with life.

1184
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 5: Life is tough. It's all type of ups and downs.

1185
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:56,440
Speaker 5: It's a whiny road, it's turbulent. The pendulum is always swinging.

1186
00:57:56,480 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 5: It's like, man, be gentle, Be gentle with one another, understanding,

1187
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 5: be caring. Do you actually care about your man and

1188
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 5: what he's going through and how he.

1189
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 4: Feels about that?

1190
00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 5: Do you actually care or you only care about how

1191
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 5: it impacts you and vice versa, Like you actually care

1192
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:16,680
Speaker 5: about your woman and the things that she deals with

1193
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:18,240
Speaker 5: on a dai day basis and the impact that it

1194
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 5: has on her, or you only concern with the impact

1195
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 5: that it has on you. Most of us are selfish,

1196
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:26,720
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And it's like, I'm focused

1197
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 5: on me. I take care of me. I make sure

1198
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 5: I'm right right, so I don't put too much weight

1199
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 5: on broke. You know, we're just doing That's my best friend,

1200
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 5: you know, she's my best friend, she's my business partner,

1201
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 5: and it's just it's fire that we can have amazing sex.

1202
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 5: You know that that's great, right, the romance like that's

1203
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 5: that's cool.

1204
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 4: But Brooke is such a fire person. I'd be honest

1205
00:58:59,120 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 4: to go through life with her.

1206
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 5: Out the romance just as just as a hell of

1207
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:06,040
Speaker 5: a co pilot, you know what I'm saying. And so

1208
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 5: we got to spend more time appreciating one another.

1209
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 2: But the sex is probably good because I mean obviously

1210
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:16,320
Speaker 2: the compatibility, but like because all those things, because of

1211
00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 2: all those things, because you have the space to be

1212
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 2: single in ways, because you can be yourself, because you

1213
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 2: can show up as yourself, Because she can listen to

1214
00:59:23,520 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 2: you and not react to you yelling, and she can

1215
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 2: be you know, she can be your peace in ways

1216
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 2: that when you do kind of when you do link

1217
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:34,880
Speaker 2: up in an intimate way, it's even more amazing.

1218
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 3: You know. It probably adds to that.

1219
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 2: I mean a lot of times people say, like the

1220
00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:41,400
Speaker 2: best sex is toxic sex, right, I think it's the different.

1221
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 2: I mean, in some ways it can be true, right,

1222
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know if it's because it's toxic

1223
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 2: or it's just because that you guys, just have compatibility.

1224
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's you know, but I mean

1225
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 2: I think like the best sex is probably is with

1226
00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 2: someone that you actually feel aligned with spiritually, emotionally, like

1227
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 2: all those things and then the physical comes, you know.

1228
01:00:02,480 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 5: I think I think the best sex comes with people

1229
01:00:05,880 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 5: that you think. I think the best relations I think

1230
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 5: the best everything comes from people that you can be

1231
01:00:11,880 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 5: that you feel free around, and you can be yourself

1232
01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 5: and you feel accepted and you don't feel judged, you

1233
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 5: know what I mean. Then you're then even in the bedroom,

1234
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:22,360
Speaker 5: you're down to try things that you wouldn't have tried before.

1235
01:00:22,480 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 5: You're open to certain things that you you may not

1236
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 5: have been open to before, you know what I mean,

1237
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:29,640
Speaker 5: because you feel comfortable and there's a level of acceptance.

1238
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:31,560
Speaker 4: You know, we just gotta stop all the.

1239
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:34,680
Speaker 5: Judge and like why pick a man or a woman

1240
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 5: that like, listen, if you meet a guy and he

1241
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 5: has you know, he could be an amazing person.

1242
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 4: But if he's stepping on one of your deal.

1243
01:00:45,400 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 5: Breakers, just get out of there, out the gate, Like

1244
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:50,680
Speaker 5: why even why wait to see if something could get.

1245
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 4: Better and it's a deal breaker for you? Just shake?

1246
01:00:53,320 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

1247
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 5: You can wait for somebody to get better. Where areas

1248
01:00:56,320 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 5: like I say this all the time. If you when

1249
01:00:58,560 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 5: you date somebody before you get married, ask yourself, if

1250
01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:03,800
Speaker 5: this person never changes, will I be okay?

1251
01:01:04,600 --> 01:01:05,040
Speaker 4: And if the.

1252
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:08,800
Speaker 5: Answers no, leave it alone right now. If y'all dating

1253
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 5: right now, ask yourself my boyfriend, my girlfriend, my husband,

1254
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 5: hopefully before you're married. But if this person doesn't change

1255
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 5: at all.

1256
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 4: Will I be good?

1257
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 5: If the answer is yes, then you guys are gonna

1258
01:01:24,520 --> 01:01:26,440
Speaker 5: be straight. And then you can wait for the other

1259
01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:29,200
Speaker 5: little the little weird shit. That's just kind of that's erky,

1260
01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. You can wait on those

1261
01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 5: things to change.

1262
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 4: I'm not waiting.

1263
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,919
Speaker 5: If a woman's disrespectful, so we are, we'll never even

1264
01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 5: make it to a date. That's a huge respect is not.

1265
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:43,200
Speaker 5: It's a non negotiable for me. I'm not gonna wait

1266
01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:45,080
Speaker 5: for you to get better. I don't care how gorgeous

1267
01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 5: you are. I don't care how smart you are. I

1268
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 5: don't care if you gotta check. I don't care care.

1269
01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:51,480
Speaker 5: I don't care if your pussy fired. I won't even

1270
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 5: get to a disrespectful woman. I'll never even get to

1271
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 5: the pussy. I don't even want it. I just want

1272
01:01:58,160 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 5: you away from me.

1273
01:01:59,880 --> 01:02:02,600
Speaker 1: I think, I think again, women are used to proving

1274
01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 1: their worthiness and even if it requires hiding parts of themselves.

1275
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 1: I think we start out in a way that's like

1276
01:02:09,880 --> 01:02:12,000
Speaker 1: you could be you could be freaky, but don't tell anybody,

1277
01:02:12,200 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you could be freaky,

1278
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 1: but only behind closed doors, Like men don't want it

1279
01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:18,320
Speaker 1: out there, like you, you know, you'll go tell your

1280
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 1: friends first. Of all, women are the biggest freaks. We

1281
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 1: are the horniest, we are the have the dirtiest fucking thoughts,

1282
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 1: you know. But we've been taught that like that, that

1283
01:02:26,680 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 1: we've been dehumanized in that way, like that's not lady like.

1284
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,480
Speaker 1: So women forget to show up as themselves, thinking that

1285
01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:34,520
Speaker 1: they have to show up wear a mask. It's like

1286
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 1: almost standard. So it's it's like to be in a

1287
01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 1: relationship where you actually feel free to be who you

1288
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:47,960
Speaker 1: actually are. Is is really the key, you know. But

1289
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:50,720
Speaker 1: I think as women, we are so used to so

1290
01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 1: many of my girlfriends told me, like even before we

1291
01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 1: started this show. Granted we're telling all of our business

1292
01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:58,520
Speaker 1: on the internet, but like you're you're doing you're telling

1293
01:02:58,560 --> 01:03:00,520
Speaker 1: too much too soon, and I'm I'm like little bitch.

1294
01:03:00,520 --> 01:03:02,960
Speaker 1: They gonna find out eventually, like who I am? Like

1295
01:03:03,120 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: I'm not the bitch from next door, you know, like

1296
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:08,360
Speaker 1: I'm not the girl next door. And it's gonna take

1297
01:03:08,360 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 1: about like two Margarita's and the right song to come

1298
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 1: on before they realize.

1299
01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 4: But women, you know, I think, what's the girl next door?

1300
01:03:14,440 --> 01:03:14,800
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1301
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 4: At what point does she grow up? Doesn't she the.

1302
01:03:17,280 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 3: Girl don't ever get home with her parents?

1303
01:03:19,680 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 4: Like does she not have any kids? Like is she's

1304
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:24,400
Speaker 4: still if she can't leave from in front of what's

1305
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:28,160
Speaker 4: going her? Nah, she ain't never left.

1306
01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 3: She never left the neighborhood.

1307
01:03:29,440 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 1: She's only leaving them when her husband comes together. I

1308
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:33,560
Speaker 1: don't know how she's gonna find him and they're doing nothing.

1309
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 3: But the point.

1310
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 1: Is all the niggas want her. I don't know, she

1311
01:03:36,680 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 1: never know, no one's even seen her. She can only

1312
01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 1: see her through the window, but all the niggas want her.

1313
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 4: I think the girl next door women outside, Okay.

1314
01:03:43,800 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 5: I think the girl next door is a girl that's

1315
01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 5: easy to talk to, and you know, you have you

1316
01:03:49,920 --> 01:03:52,400
Speaker 5: have a common ground, like you it just feels normal,

1317
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:53,919
Speaker 5: like you grew up with her, you know what I'm saying.

1318
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 4: If you know, I don't know.

1319
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 5: I don't know if the term when people say girl

1320
01:03:58,760 --> 01:04:03,640
Speaker 5: next door, they talking about a saint because it.

1321
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 3: Seems like a girl who's just simple.

1322
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:08,280
Speaker 5: Let me tell you about these girls that door, Like

1323
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 5: all the girls that I knew in the neighborhood that

1324
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:16,640
Speaker 5: were over sheltered, were like, wow, they went crazy when

1325
01:04:16,640 --> 01:04:20,080
Speaker 5: they got loose. It was saying like pray for the

1326
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 5: girl next door, the pastor's daughter. All they was wild, you.

1327
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 4: Know what I'm saying. So nah like it? We just man,

1328
01:04:28,600 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 4: love yours, find somebody that you want.

1329
01:04:30,520 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 3: The girl across the street.

1330
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:35,560
Speaker 1: You go to around the way, girl around the way,

1331
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 1: girl around. Well, we had some questions. We have time

1332
01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:49,160
Speaker 1: to ask some questions from our people. You know, we

1333
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:51,640
Speaker 1: have mostly women followers. So when we say that there's

1334
01:04:51,680 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 1: a man in a husband who has a brain, what

1335
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 1: do you guys want to know? All the girls come

1336
01:04:57,200 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 1: flocking in. So one of the question I thought this was,

1337
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:05,040
Speaker 1: I like these questions because oftentimes when we talk about

1338
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 1: the pregnancy part, we never have the opportunity to ask

1339
01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:11,320
Speaker 1: the man. So I thought some of these questions were interesting.

1340
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:16,920
Speaker 1: Advice you would give yourself while expecting your child, like while.

1341
01:05:16,720 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 4: Broke was pregnant, advice I would.

1342
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 1: Give myself or other men who are expecting.

1343
01:05:25,840 --> 01:05:28,880
Speaker 5: Y as you know, be as president as possible, you know,

1344
01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:33,600
Speaker 5: and just you know, try to be attentive. It's a

1345
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:38,040
Speaker 5: very sensitive time and how you navigate through that time

1346
01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:43,040
Speaker 5: is very important, you know. And just understand it's a moment.

1347
01:05:43,080 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 5: Be president in a moment and understand that it's a moment,

1348
01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:48,680
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. I think sometimes you know

1349
01:05:50,960 --> 01:05:53,480
Speaker 5: that your wife or the mother your child, you know,

1350
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:56,400
Speaker 5: she may be a little snappy with you. It's a moment,

1351
01:05:57,320 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 5: or sex may be awkward, or sex may go out

1352
01:05:59,480 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 5: the window.

1353
01:06:00,480 --> 01:06:01,640
Speaker 4: It's a moment, you know.

1354
01:06:01,800 --> 01:06:04,640
Speaker 5: Kind of just allow the moments to be moments and

1355
01:06:04,960 --> 01:06:06,720
Speaker 5: be present in the moment. You're you're not going to

1356
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 5: get this moment back, you know, at least not with

1357
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:14,240
Speaker 5: this child, you know, and just yeah, that's it, I say,

1358
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:15,040
Speaker 5: just be present.

1359
01:06:16,680 --> 01:06:19,080
Speaker 3: I think men think women are like when they get pregnant,

1360
01:06:19,120 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 3: like they're like, I'm gonna be fucking so much now.

1361
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:23,880
Speaker 3: It's like it could be, but it could not be.

1362
01:06:24,440 --> 01:06:28,959
Speaker 5: Yeah for me, you know, once the belly gets really

1363
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:32,520
Speaker 5: like way out here, I just kind of be like, man, that's.

1364
01:06:32,360 --> 01:06:34,000
Speaker 1: Just why afraid.

1365
01:06:34,680 --> 01:06:35,880
Speaker 3: It's like a mental thing.

1366
01:06:35,960 --> 01:06:36,840
Speaker 4: It's a mental block.

1367
01:06:37,120 --> 01:06:41,680
Speaker 1: You should try to challenge that challenge that block. It

1368
01:06:42,600 --> 01:06:43,000
Speaker 1: didn't like.

1369
01:06:44,720 --> 01:06:45,400
Speaker 4: I've done it.

1370
01:06:45,280 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 1: Twice, not twice exactly, No.

1371
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:55,800
Speaker 4: He's done, you know. And then you know what with Brooke.

1372
01:06:56,000 --> 01:07:00,520
Speaker 5: You know, my bonus son is like a special needs child, right,

1373
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:03,200
Speaker 5: he had a stroke at birth, and.

1374
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:09,240
Speaker 4: You know, her pregnancy was really rough for him.

1375
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:14,600
Speaker 5: And and she's older, you know, brook Brooks thirty nine,

1376
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:15,320
Speaker 5: you know, so.

1377
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:20,720
Speaker 4: Shyes three, So she was like, you know, thirty six,

1378
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 4: thirty seven.

1379
01:07:23,120 --> 01:07:25,280
Speaker 5: I remember going to the doctor on a pointment and

1380
01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:27,520
Speaker 5: and the doctor saying that, you know, just due to

1381
01:07:27,560 --> 01:07:29,680
Speaker 5: her history and her age, you know, she was gonna

1382
01:07:29,680 --> 01:07:32,480
Speaker 5: be she's high risk. And that's all I needed to

1383
01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:35,640
Speaker 5: just completely check out mentally, you know what I mean,

1384
01:07:35,680 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 5: Because in the back of my mind, I was like, well,

1385
01:07:38,520 --> 01:07:40,440
Speaker 5: could that I don't have we don't have enough information.

1386
01:07:40,480 --> 01:07:42,920
Speaker 5: You know, fear comes from lack of information. I don't

1387
01:07:42,960 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 5: know what the heck's going on. I don't know what

1388
01:07:44,840 --> 01:07:46,520
Speaker 5: caused my little man to be like this or like,

1389
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:48,680
Speaker 5: I don't know what happened, but I just know I

1390
01:07:48,720 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 5: don't want it to happen again.

1391
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:51,920
Speaker 4: And the doctor said, you're high risk, and we just

1392
01:07:52,400 --> 01:07:55,320
Speaker 4: let's just let's just kind of wait this one out,

1393
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:56,040
Speaker 4: you know.

1394
01:07:58,120 --> 01:07:59,920
Speaker 5: And that's on top of it just being a really

1395
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:04,720
Speaker 5: it's a different it's a very different experience. Like sexually,

1396
01:08:04,800 --> 01:08:07,200
Speaker 5: the belly is just really like the belly gets really

1397
01:08:07,200 --> 01:08:10,040
Speaker 5: big and it's like, man, it's.

1398
01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:12,080
Speaker 3: Like, so it's not is it unattractive?

1399
01:08:14,360 --> 01:08:18,519
Speaker 5: I can't even say it's it's unattractive, Like it's not like, uh,

1400
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:19,360
Speaker 5: it's just like.

1401
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:24,040
Speaker 4: Oh it's what do I like?

1402
01:08:25,120 --> 01:08:25,720
Speaker 3: You rub it?

1403
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:29,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just I think, you know, you know, it's crazy.

1404
01:08:30,080 --> 01:08:32,120
Speaker 5: I've never heard of this, but I think it would

1405
01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:38,559
Speaker 5: be dope to have sex classes for like six months

1406
01:08:38,600 --> 01:08:41,679
Speaker 5: and up, like when the belly gets big, like different

1407
01:08:41,680 --> 01:08:45,400
Speaker 5: posistions to try and like because it's like the rough

1408
01:08:45,400 --> 01:08:48,200
Speaker 5: shit goes out the window, like okay or does it?

1409
01:08:48,520 --> 01:08:50,639
Speaker 4: I don't know, this is not enough information.

1410
01:08:51,680 --> 01:08:54,160
Speaker 3: I feel like doggy style is a good one side.

1411
01:08:54,640 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but it's like maybe not too much, like

1412
01:08:58,479 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 1: not too much like choking right, She would write you

1413
01:09:03,800 --> 01:09:04,240
Speaker 1: it's rock.

1414
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,400
Speaker 3: It just it just seems much like it's me and

1415
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 3: the baby looking at you for.

1416
01:09:08,800 --> 01:09:12,120
Speaker 4: Me, I'm I'm I'm far too analytical.

1417
01:09:14,280 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 3: That might be your thing because you don't want to

1418
01:09:15,439 --> 01:09:15,760
Speaker 3: see it.

1419
01:09:16,160 --> 01:09:19,280
Speaker 5: Let me tell you Something'm one of those people when

1420
01:09:19,520 --> 01:09:23,160
Speaker 5: when I know I'm about to have sex, I have

1421
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 5: to turn the TV off.

1422
01:09:25,960 --> 01:09:35,000
Speaker 4: I can't have music with words playing. I'm so.

1423
01:09:34,960 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 1: Focused.

1424
01:09:35,640 --> 01:09:38,920
Speaker 5: No, it's sick though. It's like, Yo, who gave me

1425
01:09:39,120 --> 01:09:41,720
Speaker 5: this weird ship? You know what I'm saying, Like.

1426
01:09:43,760 --> 01:09:46,639
Speaker 4: I could be if I could be midstroking a great groove?

1427
01:09:47,720 --> 01:09:48,760
Speaker 4: What that nigga just saying?

1428
01:09:50,479 --> 01:09:51,200
Speaker 1: That's happened to me?

1429
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:53,200
Speaker 5: Like I might listen to be hearing some music that

1430
01:09:53,560 --> 01:09:57,679
Speaker 5: is a terrible line or anything. I just I'm so

1431
01:09:57,760 --> 01:09:59,760
Speaker 5: easily thrown off. So but I know I'm like that,

1432
01:09:59,840 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 5: so just shut everything down. If music is on jazz

1433
01:10:04,840 --> 01:10:08,160
Speaker 5: or it's maybe some Anita Baker like that, I'm that's

1434
01:10:08,520 --> 01:10:10,280
Speaker 5: you know, playing way in the background.

1435
01:10:10,320 --> 01:10:13,559
Speaker 4: It can't be anything that's like words of jumping out

1436
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:14,439
Speaker 4: at me. You know.

1437
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 5: Like the other day, I was like I was watching

1438
01:10:17,120 --> 01:10:20,720
Speaker 5: All American and like it was some type of conflict

1439
01:10:20,720 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 5: and I was.

1440
01:10:21,280 --> 01:10:26,000
Speaker 4: I was like, yo, focus, what are you doing? Spencer?

1441
01:10:26,160 --> 01:10:29,080
Speaker 4: Why would you damn Spencer James, Why would you? Why

1442
01:10:29,080 --> 01:10:29,800
Speaker 4: would you do that?

1443
01:10:30,400 --> 01:10:33,640
Speaker 2: I have literally been having sex and like I'm into it,

1444
01:10:33,680 --> 01:10:35,559
Speaker 2: and then I see the TV's on and I see

1445
01:10:35,640 --> 01:10:36,080
Speaker 2: him walk.

1446
01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:37,599
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck are you doing?

1447
01:10:38,280 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 1: Are you watching TV?

1448
01:10:39,360 --> 01:10:39,519
Speaker 2: Right?

1449
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:40,959
Speaker 3: Are you serious?

1450
01:10:42,640 --> 01:10:44,840
Speaker 5: Brookers just snapped me out of it, because you know,

1451
01:10:44,880 --> 01:10:46,600
Speaker 5: once you lose you when once you lose me, you

1452
01:10:46,640 --> 01:10:46,920
Speaker 5: lose me.

1453
01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:47,800
Speaker 4: Now we gotta start over.

1454
01:10:48,320 --> 01:10:49,120
Speaker 1: Now, we gotta start over.

1455
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:53,200
Speaker 4: You know that we got now you know, now we

1456
01:10:53,240 --> 01:10:54,519
Speaker 4: gotta start over. You know.

1457
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:58,599
Speaker 2: So, Oh my god, Okay, Well that's that's good advice.

1458
01:11:00,120 --> 01:11:00,479
Speaker 4: What's good?

1459
01:11:00,800 --> 01:11:02,800
Speaker 1: There's a lot of pregnancy questions. I feel like maybe

1460
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:06,000
Speaker 1: she's pregnant right now. Someone said this was a good one.

1461
01:11:06,000 --> 01:11:09,439
Speaker 1: How did What should I do? What should I be

1462
01:11:09,479 --> 01:11:11,439
Speaker 1: doing to prepare to receive a good man?

1463
01:11:14,320 --> 01:11:19,280
Speaker 5: You should be preparing yourself as a woman. And I

1464
01:11:19,360 --> 01:11:19,840
Speaker 5: say this.

1465
01:11:19,760 --> 01:11:20,280
Speaker 4: All the time.

1466
01:11:22,280 --> 01:11:25,840
Speaker 5: A man who's looking for a wife isn't ready to

1467
01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:29,000
Speaker 5: be a husband. And I think a woman who's looking

1468
01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:32,240
Speaker 5: for a husband isn't ready to be a wife.

1469
01:11:32,520 --> 01:11:35,120
Speaker 4: You know. I think a man should be so focused

1470
01:11:35,160 --> 01:11:36,400
Speaker 4: on his purpose.

1471
01:11:38,120 --> 01:11:43,040
Speaker 5: And his goals and what God sent him here to do,

1472
01:11:43,520 --> 01:11:45,679
Speaker 5: and then what you're going to do is you'll see

1473
01:11:45,720 --> 01:11:46,240
Speaker 5: him over.

1474
01:11:46,120 --> 01:11:48,880
Speaker 4: There working and it's like, oh, I can help him

1475
01:11:48,880 --> 01:11:49,160
Speaker 4: with that.

1476
01:11:50,400 --> 01:11:53,400
Speaker 5: And that's where you start building, Like the only purpose

1477
01:11:53,439 --> 01:11:55,400
Speaker 5: of the whole thing is partnership.

1478
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:57,160
Speaker 4: So what are we partnering to do? It has to

1479
01:11:57,160 --> 01:11:57,679
Speaker 4: make sense.

1480
01:11:58,120 --> 01:12:00,960
Speaker 5: So you should just be working on yourself and becoming

1481
01:12:00,960 --> 01:12:04,280
Speaker 5: the best version of yourself and becoming the best asset

1482
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 5: that you can become, so that when you when God

1483
01:12:09,320 --> 01:12:13,719
Speaker 5: reveals to you, like you might be around and you

1484
01:12:13,840 --> 01:12:15,240
Speaker 5: look at look look at how he's over there on

1485
01:12:15,240 --> 01:12:17,599
Speaker 5: that computer and he's he's just editing in a way.

1486
01:12:17,720 --> 01:12:19,720
Speaker 4: It's like, yo, I know it. I can help him

1487
01:12:19,720 --> 01:12:21,479
Speaker 4: take this ship to the whole nother level.

1488
01:12:22,120 --> 01:12:25,559
Speaker 5: Then you go over there and it's like, of course

1489
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:27,400
Speaker 5: he's going to be recepted because he's focused on his

1490
01:12:27,439 --> 01:12:31,080
Speaker 5: purpose and you can help further the purpose. So oh boom,

1491
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:33,240
Speaker 5: this is a mass made in heaven. By the way,

1492
01:12:33,400 --> 01:12:35,800
Speaker 5: she's sexy and she talked and she smells itod and

1493
01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:39,320
Speaker 5: she talks to me like this is a win. So yeah,

1494
01:12:39,640 --> 01:12:43,519
Speaker 5: like become Like I think, I think our journey in

1495
01:12:43,560 --> 01:12:45,639
Speaker 5: life is to become whatever you want to become. Become

1496
01:12:45,680 --> 01:12:48,320
Speaker 5: the best version of yourself. And so that's what you

1497
01:12:48,320 --> 01:12:49,200
Speaker 5: should be doing.

1498
01:12:49,320 --> 01:12:50,320
Speaker 1: All the others.

1499
01:12:50,439 --> 01:12:54,080
Speaker 5: Don't focus on being a wife, like know what that means?

1500
01:12:54,320 --> 01:12:57,680
Speaker 5: You know, I got into a debate with somebody on

1501
01:12:57,800 --> 01:12:59,880
Speaker 5: my Live because it was like, so you like, what

1502
01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:01,559
Speaker 5: about your daughters, Like you're telling me you don't want

1503
01:13:01,560 --> 01:13:03,799
Speaker 5: your daughters to be what? I'm not grooming my daughters

1504
01:13:03,800 --> 01:13:04,120
Speaker 5: to be what?

1505
01:13:04,800 --> 01:13:05,479
Speaker 3: It's crazy?

1506
01:13:05,560 --> 01:13:05,840
Speaker 4: Are you?

1507
01:13:06,400 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 3: Thank you?

1508
01:13:07,240 --> 01:13:07,679
Speaker 1: Crazy?

1509
01:13:07,880 --> 01:13:08,320
Speaker 3: Thank you?

1510
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:11,599
Speaker 1: The highest thing you can be is a wife?

1511
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:15,400
Speaker 5: Who said first of all, who said that getting married

1512
01:13:15,479 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 5: was just the great accomplishment?

1513
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 1: Is the goal?

1514
01:13:18,200 --> 01:13:21,759
Speaker 4: Partnership is a great accomplishment for your goals?

1515
01:13:22,000 --> 01:13:26,000
Speaker 5: Right, But who said like being I'm not green, I'm

1516
01:13:26,000 --> 01:13:28,600
Speaker 5: gonna groom my daughter to be a to essentially be

1517
01:13:28,680 --> 01:13:31,040
Speaker 5: somebody servant, like this is her highest.

1518
01:13:31,600 --> 01:13:34,960
Speaker 4: These niggas are sick. I'm telling you be careful, like stay.

1519
01:13:34,680 --> 01:13:37,200
Speaker 5: Away from these niggas who are thinking like this and

1520
01:13:37,400 --> 01:13:39,679
Speaker 5: really pay attention in this in this moment, because they're

1521
01:13:39,720 --> 01:13:42,479
Speaker 5: telling you what they're thinking. And the one like so

1522
01:13:42,560 --> 01:13:45,760
Speaker 5: many things are weird. Just stay away from them the weird.

1523
01:13:46,040 --> 01:13:48,600
Speaker 1: Don't try to change them. Don't try to convince.

1524
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:49,639
Speaker 3: Some of these women are weird too.

1525
01:13:49,680 --> 01:13:53,559
Speaker 1: They are trying to ask what can I do? What

1526
01:13:53,600 --> 01:13:54,280
Speaker 1: can I do to.

1527
01:13:54,840 --> 01:13:56,599
Speaker 3: Toothpaste on your tooth press in the morning.

1528
01:13:56,640 --> 01:14:00,599
Speaker 4: But listen, there's nothing wrong with that either. If if, if.

1529
01:14:00,439 --> 01:14:02,320
Speaker 5: You want to be a mom and a wife, fine,

1530
01:14:03,479 --> 01:14:06,920
Speaker 5: and that's it. If that's your focus, fine, But but.

1531
01:14:06,800 --> 01:14:10,160
Speaker 2: That still requires you to do the work on yourself.

1532
01:14:10,520 --> 01:14:14,519
Speaker 2: It's not still you, like it's not you aspiring and

1533
01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:17,719
Speaker 2: working diligently every day to be this wife, because because

1534
01:14:18,200 --> 01:14:18,680
Speaker 2: who are you?

1535
01:14:18,800 --> 01:14:18,960
Speaker 3: Then?

1536
01:14:19,360 --> 01:14:19,920
Speaker 1: Who are you?

1537
01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:25,479
Speaker 5: My daughters are masterminds already, like they're like their next level,

1538
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:31,439
Speaker 5: Like whoever can can can get them to be a

1539
01:14:31,439 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 5: part of their program. If you can do it, your

1540
01:14:35,760 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 5: your your next level, like you're gonna have, You're gonna

1541
01:14:38,200 --> 01:14:41,600
Speaker 5: have whatever you're gonna do, whatever you your building is

1542
01:14:41,600 --> 01:14:45,160
Speaker 5: gonna be legendary. My daughters are incredible, just their thought process,

1543
01:14:45,520 --> 01:14:49,799
Speaker 5: their confidence. My little one she's so intuitive, like already

1544
01:14:49,840 --> 01:14:52,320
Speaker 5: like she's a she's a she's a seer.

1545
01:14:52,640 --> 01:14:55,040
Speaker 4: Like she's just she's three.

1546
01:14:55,400 --> 01:14:59,559
Speaker 5: She already has the ship. My oldest one, she's a healer,

1547
01:14:59,720 --> 01:15:04,679
Speaker 5: she's a extremely collaborative, she's smart as shit. I don't

1548
01:15:04,720 --> 01:15:08,720
Speaker 5: know what they're gonna do, because these are they can

1549
01:15:08,760 --> 01:15:11,080
Speaker 5: do whatever they want to do like, and neither one

1550
01:15:11,080 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 5: of their mamas.

1551
01:15:11,720 --> 01:15:14,040
Speaker 4: Is to play to like as I wasn't wild with

1552
01:15:14,040 --> 01:15:14,559
Speaker 4: my sperm.

1553
01:15:14,640 --> 01:15:17,520
Speaker 5: I have two kids, neither one of them over accidents.

1554
01:15:17,640 --> 01:15:18,799
Speaker 4: Their mothers are amazing.

1555
01:15:19,200 --> 01:15:21,840
Speaker 5: Like my oldest daughter, her mom can do whatever she

1556
01:15:21,880 --> 01:15:24,240
Speaker 5: wants to do. Like I listen to her when she

1557
01:15:24,280 --> 01:15:26,160
Speaker 5: talks sometimes I'm about to do this. I'm like, whatever

1558
01:15:26,200 --> 01:15:28,679
Speaker 5: she says, she's gonna do it, you can.

1559
01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:31,479
Speaker 4: You can bet on it. Whatever it is. Just hope

1560
01:15:31,560 --> 01:15:34,200
Speaker 4: she's not against you. It's gonna be a bad look.

1561
01:15:34,400 --> 01:15:39,479
Speaker 5: Same thing with Brooke, Like if Brooke wants something, it's done.

1562
01:15:39,640 --> 01:15:44,439
Speaker 5: And so my my daughters, you know, innately, they just

1563
01:15:44,479 --> 01:15:47,120
Speaker 5: have some other shit in them that's different and set.

1564
01:15:47,000 --> 01:15:48,200
Speaker 4: Apart from their mothers.

1565
01:15:48,439 --> 01:15:51,560
Speaker 5: And then they have great examples of women, you know

1566
01:15:51,600 --> 01:15:54,639
Speaker 5: what I mean. And then they have me as a father.

1567
01:15:54,760 --> 01:15:57,320
Speaker 5: And so you're not gonna if you're not a man

1568
01:15:57,360 --> 01:16:01,559
Speaker 5: who just gets it and has a uh, your uh

1569
01:16:02,040 --> 01:16:04,960
Speaker 5: your mind or your on on on purpose and a

1570
01:16:05,080 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 5: heart to serve like I'm a servant first, you know,

1571
01:16:08,080 --> 01:16:09,599
Speaker 5: I walk into a room and try to figure out

1572
01:16:09,600 --> 01:16:10,639
Speaker 5: where I can add value to.

1573
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:12,240
Speaker 4: Any room, you know what I mean. So that's what

1574
01:16:12,360 --> 01:16:13,320
Speaker 4: my women, my children.

1575
01:16:13,640 --> 01:16:15,400
Speaker 5: If you're not coming like that, you're not gonna have

1576
01:16:15,479 --> 01:16:18,640
Speaker 5: a shot at my kids. Maybe early, you may have

1577
01:16:18,680 --> 01:16:21,759
Speaker 5: a shot early, you know, while they're trying to figure

1578
01:16:21,800 --> 01:16:23,400
Speaker 5: life out, because that's gonna happens.

1579
01:16:23,400 --> 01:16:25,479
Speaker 4: They're not perfect. They're gonna have a journey. They're gonna

1580
01:16:25,800 --> 01:16:27,400
Speaker 4: they're gonna dabble with their little weird though.

1581
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:30,519
Speaker 5: They're gonna have a fuck nigga too, and they and

1582
01:16:30,560 --> 01:16:31,519
Speaker 5: then they're gonna engage.

1583
01:16:31,520 --> 01:16:34,800
Speaker 4: They're gonna be like, you know what you niggas is

1584
01:16:34,840 --> 01:16:36,760
Speaker 4: weird and you know what my daddy told me about

1585
01:16:36,840 --> 01:16:37,280
Speaker 4: niggas like.

1586
01:16:37,280 --> 01:16:40,200
Speaker 2: You, Well, some of these little girls date like their people,

1587
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:41,960
Speaker 2: like their father a little bit, you know, hopefully and

1588
01:16:42,000 --> 01:16:43,920
Speaker 2: if you have the great example, like even better.

1589
01:16:44,479 --> 01:16:44,719
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1590
01:16:44,720 --> 01:16:48,200
Speaker 5: But I think I think, I think, you know, kids

1591
01:16:48,240 --> 01:16:51,000
Speaker 5: have the stage of you know, being entertained by what's

1592
01:16:51,040 --> 01:16:54,120
Speaker 5: popular and what looks appealing. You know that it takes

1593
01:16:54,160 --> 01:16:56,800
Speaker 5: some time to shake that off too, to to be like,

1594
01:16:56,840 --> 01:16:59,320
Speaker 5: you know what, that sounded.

1595
01:16:58,960 --> 01:17:01,920
Speaker 4: Good in theory, Like, you know, women want this guy.

1596
01:17:01,800 --> 01:17:06,280
Speaker 5: That's he's edgy enough and he's street enough, and he's

1597
01:17:06,320 --> 01:17:07,000
Speaker 5: smart enough.

1598
01:17:07,040 --> 01:17:09,519
Speaker 4: But then he opens the door doors and pull pulls

1599
01:17:09,520 --> 01:17:11,280
Speaker 4: out chairs. But then he'll grab you by your throat

1600
01:17:11,320 --> 01:17:11,800
Speaker 4: and it.

1601
01:17:11,760 --> 01:17:14,519
Speaker 3: Sounds like me. It's like my dream man.

1602
01:17:14,680 --> 01:17:18,280
Speaker 1: It's like we don't slap me, not like that.

1603
01:17:20,720 --> 01:17:22,840
Speaker 4: Then you ever put your hands on me?

1604
01:17:23,000 --> 01:17:27,080
Speaker 5: Now this is the time, right, And it's like you know,

1605
01:17:27,800 --> 01:17:32,840
Speaker 5: but even balance comes from you know, evolution experience. Yeah,

1606
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:35,360
Speaker 5: we'll just evolve it. Just yeah, it takes time to

1607
01:17:35,400 --> 01:17:37,559
Speaker 5: get there. But like, you're not going to find this

1608
01:17:37,600 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 5: guy at twenty two.

1609
01:17:39,560 --> 01:17:41,599
Speaker 1: You know, because you got to do work on yourself

1610
01:17:42,600 --> 01:17:44,840
Speaker 1: before you attract those men, because you have to be

1611
01:17:44,880 --> 01:17:46,639
Speaker 1: clear about what it is you want and it may

1612
01:17:46,680 --> 01:17:48,680
Speaker 1: take some fuck niggas to be like you run some

1613
01:17:48,680 --> 01:17:51,040
Speaker 1: bullshit and now I know the signs.

1614
01:17:51,800 --> 01:17:54,400
Speaker 5: Then we got to disconnect from the idea of square right,

1615
01:17:54,960 --> 01:17:57,479
Speaker 5: like that a man that doesn't do crime is a nerd.

1616
01:17:57,640 --> 01:18:01,400
Speaker 5: Like what when do we start this? Like I know

1617
01:18:01,520 --> 01:18:03,800
Speaker 5: squares that have beat the dog ship out of gangsters.

1618
01:18:04,120 --> 01:18:07,400
Speaker 5: I know gangsters that I know honorable gangsters, I know dishonorable.

1619
01:18:08,520 --> 01:18:10,599
Speaker 2: My god, I saw this clip with actually our least

1620
01:18:10,600 --> 01:18:16,720
Speaker 2: favorite person, you know. Yeah, and he has he has

1621
01:18:16,760 --> 01:18:20,880
Speaker 2: a podcast for no reason, but he uh someone asked

1622
01:18:20,960 --> 01:18:22,760
Speaker 2: him if he would want his daughter to date a

1623
01:18:22,840 --> 01:18:23,920
Speaker 2: Russell uh.

1624
01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:28,880
Speaker 3: Or a future. He said, he wants the future.

1625
01:18:29,760 --> 01:18:30,360
Speaker 1: He's dumb.

1626
01:18:30,720 --> 01:18:32,080
Speaker 4: That's ridiculous.

1627
01:18:32,200 --> 01:18:33,200
Speaker 1: He's not a smart guy.

1628
01:18:33,240 --> 01:18:35,599
Speaker 3: He's not. But I was just like, what's like, let

1629
01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:36,479
Speaker 3: me tell you he's a square.

1630
01:18:36,520 --> 01:18:39,640
Speaker 2: I was like, but what is First of all, you

1631
01:18:39,640 --> 01:18:41,240
Speaker 2: don't want you want your daughter to be disrespected.

1632
01:18:41,439 --> 01:18:45,160
Speaker 5: But somebody sense it's a square talking, you know, for one?

1633
01:18:45,360 --> 01:18:46,679
Speaker 5: And then what is a square?

1634
01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:49,360
Speaker 4: You know what I mean? Like a square? Now are

1635
01:18:49,400 --> 01:18:52,120
Speaker 4: we talking about squares or nerds? They're not the same.

1636
01:18:52,720 --> 01:18:54,240
Speaker 4: A square is anybody.

1637
01:18:53,800 --> 01:18:57,400
Speaker 2: Who a square could be a killer. Okay, it could

1638
01:18:57,400 --> 01:18:59,479
Speaker 2: be a thug, it could be all those things. Don't

1639
01:18:59,520 --> 01:19:01,000
Speaker 2: you don't think I mean, I think you can be

1640
01:19:01,000 --> 01:19:01,360
Speaker 2: a square.

1641
01:19:01,400 --> 01:19:02,280
Speaker 4: You can be square.

1642
01:19:02,320 --> 01:19:04,840
Speaker 5: Somebody who walks a straight life. You get clean money,

1643
01:19:04,880 --> 01:19:06,439
Speaker 5: Like you're not into breaking the law.

1644
01:19:07,360 --> 01:19:08,840
Speaker 1: But if you don't mean but if.

1645
01:19:08,760 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 2: You but think about it this way, like you live

1646
01:19:10,479 --> 01:19:13,960
Speaker 2: a life that is predictable, so do so do a

1647
01:19:13,960 --> 01:19:15,759
Speaker 2: lot of these people that are in streets.

1648
01:19:16,760 --> 01:19:18,120
Speaker 4: There's another square about a killer.

1649
01:19:18,479 --> 01:19:20,320
Speaker 2: I'm just okay, maybe not a killer, but I'm just saying,

1650
01:19:20,320 --> 01:19:23,200
Speaker 2: like niggas that are disrespectful, niggas that are consistently doing

1651
01:19:23,240 --> 01:19:25,000
Speaker 2: the same ship over and over again. But they think

1652
01:19:25,000 --> 01:19:27,040
Speaker 2: they're not squares, but actually they are in a square.

1653
01:19:27,040 --> 01:19:27,839
Speaker 2: They're in a cycle.

1654
01:19:29,400 --> 01:19:30,800
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1655
01:19:30,920 --> 01:19:32,719
Speaker 1: You don't have to go to the urban dictionary because

1656
01:19:32,720 --> 01:19:35,519
Speaker 1: I don't think. I think we're having differences. And where

1657
01:19:35,560 --> 01:19:38,880
Speaker 1: you're from, Marcus, Chicago, I understand from the valley, So first,

1658
01:19:39,120 --> 01:19:39,640
Speaker 1: don't do that.

1659
01:19:39,760 --> 01:19:40,240
Speaker 3: Don't do that.

1660
01:19:40,320 --> 01:19:42,720
Speaker 2: I understand what a square is. I'm just I'm just

1661
01:19:42,800 --> 01:19:44,160
Speaker 2: debating what that means.

1662
01:19:44,240 --> 01:19:46,840
Speaker 3: Don't do that. I know what a square is.

1663
01:19:46,880 --> 01:19:49,000
Speaker 1: Okay, what do you think a square is?

1664
01:19:49,400 --> 01:19:50,679
Speaker 3: I know traditionally it's a nerd.

1665
01:19:50,920 --> 01:19:53,360
Speaker 2: And people will think someone that like lives by the

1666
01:19:53,720 --> 01:19:56,519
Speaker 2: by the book, goes like this, does gets goes to

1667
01:19:56,960 --> 01:19:59,680
Speaker 2: goes to college, gets married, does those things like I

1668
01:19:59,760 --> 01:20:01,080
Speaker 2: under staying what a square is.

1669
01:20:01,080 --> 01:20:02,559
Speaker 1: Or I don't know if you're saying like corny or

1670
01:20:02,600 --> 01:20:04,040
Speaker 1: like a square. I think those are different things.

1671
01:20:04,040 --> 01:20:05,520
Speaker 3: I'm not talking about corny.

1672
01:20:05,640 --> 01:20:08,000
Speaker 2: I'm talking about someone that lives within the bounds of

1673
01:20:08,040 --> 01:20:10,439
Speaker 2: their whatever they think their life is supposed to be.

1674
01:20:10,760 --> 01:20:13,360
Speaker 1: Okay, to me, is living.

1675
01:20:13,400 --> 01:20:15,479
Speaker 4: I found a couple of little things.

1676
01:20:17,160 --> 01:20:21,120
Speaker 5: Square is slang for a person who was conventional old fashioned,

1677
01:20:23,160 --> 01:20:29,000
Speaker 5: it says, but then it says things like unexciting, unadventurous.

1678
01:20:29,479 --> 01:20:36,599
Speaker 5: Mainstream generally use describing a person who plays it safe.

1679
01:20:37,280 --> 01:20:41,599
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, playing and safe could be literally just playing

1680
01:20:41,600 --> 01:20:44,400
Speaker 2: and safe with not changing, not healing, doing the things

1681
01:20:44,400 --> 01:20:48,000
Speaker 2: that is predictable. Playing it mainstream. Mainstream is pretty predictable.

1682
01:20:48,400 --> 01:20:50,120
Speaker 2: And that's what I was saying. I know the difference

1683
01:20:50,120 --> 01:20:51,920
Speaker 2: between a square. I know the difference between corny. I

1684
01:20:51,920 --> 01:20:53,519
Speaker 2: know the difference between someone who lives.

1685
01:20:53,560 --> 01:20:55,280
Speaker 1: I don't. So I just need to clarify this.

1686
01:20:57,120 --> 01:20:59,360
Speaker 4: I don't think square, and I don't think square Nerd

1687
01:20:59,400 --> 01:21:00,000
Speaker 4: is anonymous.

1688
01:21:00,560 --> 01:21:03,000
Speaker 2: But back to what I was saying, is a part

1689
01:21:03,040 --> 01:21:04,840
Speaker 2: as far as this person goes, is that he would

1690
01:21:04,880 --> 01:21:07,080
Speaker 2: he thinks that he would rather his daughter date someone

1691
01:21:07,120 --> 01:21:10,160
Speaker 2: like Future versus someone like Russell Wilson.

1692
01:21:10,760 --> 01:21:15,639
Speaker 3: Wilson, right, that's the same. And I was just like, Wow,

1693
01:21:15,760 --> 01:21:17,120
Speaker 3: I'm scared for his daughter.

1694
01:21:17,840 --> 01:21:22,120
Speaker 1: I think that guy wants to date Future. So that's true,

1695
01:21:22,200 --> 01:21:23,080
Speaker 1: Like he's dick riding.

1696
01:21:23,439 --> 01:21:25,120
Speaker 4: There's a lot of men that don't even.

1697
01:21:25,000 --> 01:21:28,200
Speaker 1: Like women, and they'll never say that, but it's clear.

1698
01:21:28,680 --> 01:21:31,679
Speaker 5: Yeah, and they're not necessarily gay, Yeah, they just don't

1699
01:21:31,760 --> 01:21:34,640
Speaker 5: like Yeah, and I don't know where they like.

1700
01:21:34,880 --> 01:21:36,880
Speaker 1: I think it's usually from like a like a bad

1701
01:21:36,920 --> 01:21:40,080
Speaker 1: relationship with their mother or seeing seeing a certain pattern

1702
01:21:40,120 --> 01:21:42,559
Speaker 1: growing up. I feel like I've dated people like this

1703
01:21:42,640 --> 01:21:45,800
Speaker 1: that really think they love women, but show all the

1704
01:21:45,880 --> 01:21:48,320
Speaker 1: time that by the way they speak of them, speak

1705
01:21:48,360 --> 01:21:51,679
Speaker 1: to them, like even you would think as a father

1706
01:21:51,800 --> 01:21:54,200
Speaker 1: of a daughter, that you would at some point evolve

1707
01:21:54,280 --> 01:21:56,280
Speaker 1: in a way that says, damn, this little girl is

1708
01:21:56,280 --> 01:21:58,280
Speaker 1: going to eventually be a woman. What does that look like?

1709
01:21:58,320 --> 01:22:00,600
Speaker 1: What do I want her to like date? How I

1710
01:22:00,600 --> 01:22:04,040
Speaker 1: want her to date? But everyone doesn't have that maturity

1711
01:22:04,120 --> 01:22:07,200
Speaker 1: level and like that person is, yeah, he's a dick writer.

1712
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:11,160
Speaker 5: So it is a lot of these men out here,

1713
01:22:11,320 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 5: and I think this is what allows me to stand out,

1714
01:22:14,280 --> 01:22:17,320
Speaker 5: Like a lot of these men that's out here talking.

1715
01:22:17,120 --> 01:22:19,599
Speaker 4: About relationships and giving relationships.

1716
01:22:19,000 --> 01:22:21,679
Speaker 5: Advice to be like, but where's y'all woman? Like where's

1717
01:22:21,680 --> 01:22:24,320
Speaker 5: your woman? Where's your wife? Where's your girlfriend? Like you

1718
01:22:24,439 --> 01:22:28,280
Speaker 5: talking about you're rating all these women, where's your beautiful woman?

1719
01:22:29,439 --> 01:22:33,000
Speaker 4: Like where like where's like, where's your wife? Where's your

1720
01:22:33,040 --> 01:22:35,200
Speaker 4: proof that you walk it like like that you walk

1721
01:22:35,240 --> 01:22:35,920
Speaker 4: it like you talk it.

1722
01:22:36,400 --> 01:22:37,800
Speaker 1: And if you have a wife because I think this

1723
01:22:37,800 --> 01:22:41,280
Speaker 1: person does have a person, and I I but like,

1724
01:22:42,680 --> 01:22:45,160
Speaker 1: what is this person thinking of the rhetoric that you're

1725
01:22:45,200 --> 01:22:48,840
Speaker 1: spreading on the internet. If you're blatantly disrespecting women publicly

1726
01:22:48,920 --> 01:22:51,040
Speaker 1: and you have a woman, what does that look like

1727
01:22:51,080 --> 01:22:51,720
Speaker 1: for you? At home?

1728
01:22:51,760 --> 01:22:53,160
Speaker 4: How much does she actually love herself?

1729
01:22:53,160 --> 01:22:54,400
Speaker 1: How much does she actually love herself?

1730
01:22:54,400 --> 01:22:55,400
Speaker 4: Does she think of herself?

1731
01:22:55,520 --> 01:23:01,679
Speaker 1: That's my question. Yeah, so you pulled up tarot card earlier.

1732
01:23:03,760 --> 01:23:08,960
Speaker 1: It was the Queen of Pentacles. The Pentacles is usually

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Speaker 1: for tangible things like money. It means nurturing, practical, providing financially,

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Speaker 1: and a working parent.

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Speaker 4: It sounds like me, right.

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Speaker 1: It says the Queen of Pentacles is the nurturing mother

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Speaker 1: of the material world. At home, she shows her love

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Speaker 1: for others by cooking nutritious meals, maintaining a clean and

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Speaker 1: inviting home, and giving warm cuddles to those who needed most.

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Speaker 1: She is also able to work a full time job

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Speaker 1: and make financial contribution to the household, often as the

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Speaker 1: primary breadwinner. She is masterful at taking care of the

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Speaker 1: practical needs of work, home, and family, while also giving

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Speaker 1: her love and support to those she cares about. That

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Speaker 1: sounds like you, dedicating your one hour to talk. When

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Speaker 1: the Queen of Pentacles appears in a tarot reading, you

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Speaker 1: are embodying the ultimate working parent archetype. You care for

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Speaker 1: your family and domestic responsibilities while also making a living

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Speaker 1: for yourself and creating financial abundance. You can maintain a

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Speaker 1: healthy balance between home and work by integrating the chew

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Speaker 1: and finding your place of flow and alignment. You strive

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Speaker 1: to create a warm and secure environment for your family

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Speaker 1: and loved ones while giving your love and support freely.

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Speaker 4: That's dope.

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Speaker 1: That sound accurate to you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean.

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Speaker 1: You cook, I can themselves like I can't, but I don't.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 5: My wife from Houston, Texas should be thrown down like

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Speaker 5: it's me being in the kitchen is laughable. But she

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Speaker 5: likes it, Like when I hate going in the kitchen

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Speaker 5: because she's gonna beat it down, like what you're gonna

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Speaker 5: make breakfast next weekend? I get busy on breakfast. I

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Speaker 5: kind of do my thing with breakfast.

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Speaker 4: It's like, wow, I.

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Speaker 5: Feel like I feel like I'm being laughed at while

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Speaker 5: I'm in a kitchen, you know what I mean. And

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Speaker 5: she really just thinks just the sexiest romantic ship in

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Speaker 5: the world. And I'll go jump in there really just

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Speaker 5: for fun. But she really cooked, like Brooke, really really cooked.

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Speaker 5: I'd be like, man, what am I in here for?

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Speaker 5: What am I trying to prove?

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Speaker 4: You?

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01:25:13,640 --> 01:25:15,080
Speaker 1: Just chove up some monions or something.

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Speaker 4: Let me, I'll help, I'll cook with you. But she

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01:25:18,680 --> 01:25:20,120
Speaker 4: gets she gets busy.

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Speaker 5: So when she has time to get in the kitchen

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Speaker 5: and you know she got her creole dishes and you

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01:25:27,439 --> 01:25:30,200
Speaker 5: know she has a healthy options, and yeah, we need

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01:25:30,200 --> 01:25:36,479
Speaker 5: to come over, yeah, to let y'all know for sure.

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Speaker 1: Do we have a horry today?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, make sure we have a horry from our discord.

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01:25:45,080 --> 01:25:47,160
Speaker 2: You guys, if you haven't joined discord, make sure you

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Speaker 2: go check out our discord. We have lots of women

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Speaker 2: over there, connecting, talking, sharing. If you don't know what

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Speaker 2: a horror story is, it's a highly horrific wish tail Hugh.

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Speaker 3: Who stories.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I finally manifested my a one type of marriage.

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01:26:13,479 --> 01:26:16,719
Speaker 2: My wife and I had our first group sex experience together,

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Speaker 2: her first one ever. And for me, I've always enjoyed

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01:26:19,800 --> 01:26:22,519
Speaker 2: group sex, been in relationships with insecure or less mature

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01:26:22,560 --> 01:26:25,679
Speaker 2: people who only wanted monogamous relationships. So having a wife

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Speaker 2: who trusts me and knows me so well take the

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01:26:28,120 --> 01:26:30,960
Speaker 2: leap with me was so beautiful. We fucked another couple,

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Speaker 2: one guy, one girl, and he was so hot. They

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Speaker 2: spent all day with us, celebrating pride, and we popped

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Speaker 2: a mollie and started four way kissing in the club

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01:26:39,360 --> 01:26:41,840
Speaker 2: and shit eventually left to smoke a blunt and they

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Speaker 2: came back home with us. It was like my It

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Speaker 2: was like a pussy buffet. The guy was so respectful,

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01:26:46,800 --> 01:26:49,360
Speaker 2: just watching all three girls play until he was asked

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01:26:49,360 --> 01:26:52,679
Speaker 2: to come fuck us. So hot to see another woman

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01:26:52,720 --> 01:26:54,920
Speaker 2: going down my wife. We stayed up till five point thirty,

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01:26:55,000 --> 01:26:57,439
Speaker 2: having all types of sex. I slept for three hours

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01:26:57,479 --> 01:26:59,679
Speaker 2: in a big cuddle puddle, and then went to pick

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01:26:59,760 --> 01:27:01,959
Speaker 2: up our daughter at her sleepover.

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Speaker 3: I love this.

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01:27:04,880 --> 01:27:07,559
Speaker 2: When I got back to the house, they played with

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01:27:07,600 --> 01:27:09,720
Speaker 2: my kid for two hours while my wife and I

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01:27:09,760 --> 01:27:12,479
Speaker 2: showered and made breakfast. It was so cute, loving and hot.

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Speaker 2: One step closer to bringing that commune life into fruition.

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Speaker 1: Beautiful.

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01:27:17,479 --> 01:27:19,559
Speaker 4: Wow, that sounds so crazy to me.

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Speaker 1: It sounds beautiful, sounds beautiful to me. Live your life, girl, Yeah,

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01:27:24,320 --> 01:27:27,000
Speaker 1: I gotta have balance even in marriage, and that sounds

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01:27:27,000 --> 01:27:28,760
Speaker 1: like a beautiful balanced marriage to me.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like they've communicated what their needs are and

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Speaker 2: they're living their truth.

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Speaker 4: It was like overwhelming for me. He's like it was

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01:27:36,439 --> 01:27:38,720
Speaker 4: a lot, Like even that was a lot.

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Speaker 1: Our tribe is pretty spicy, you know, we have a

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Speaker 1: spicy tribe.

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Speaker 5: See I'm not a spicy guy, you know what I'm saying, Like,

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01:27:46,360 --> 01:27:48,559
Speaker 5: I'm very Are you a square?

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Speaker 4: I hope so I've I've I've really I strive to

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Speaker 4: be square. You know.

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Speaker 5: My my life as a kid was like it's pretty wild,

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01:28:06,840 --> 01:28:08,840
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Like I grew up in

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01:28:08,840 --> 01:28:10,599
Speaker 5: the streets like most of us. Like I got kicked

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Speaker 5: out of high school. I got kicked out of continuation school.

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01:28:13,720 --> 01:28:14,960
Speaker 5: I got kicked out of adults school.

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Speaker 4: Who gets kicked out of adults?

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01:28:16,880 --> 01:28:16,960
Speaker 2: Right?

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01:28:17,000 --> 01:28:17,599
Speaker 3: Are an adult?

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Speaker 5: So you know, right around twenty five twenty six, things

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01:28:23,640 --> 01:28:24,719
Speaker 5: started to click and I'm.

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Speaker 4: Just like this, you're not gonna make it like this,

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01:28:27,520 --> 01:28:28,960
Speaker 4: like you're.

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01:28:28,760 --> 01:28:32,599
Speaker 5: Going to jail or worse, like just like the rest

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01:28:32,600 --> 01:28:35,920
Speaker 5: of the homes, you know. And my here I am

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01:28:35,960 --> 01:28:38,080
Speaker 5: at thirty seven years old, and I want to say

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01:28:38,120 --> 01:28:40,479
Speaker 5: I made that decision to start, you know, let's let's

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01:28:40,760 --> 01:28:43,519
Speaker 5: let's stop playing with fire around like twenty five and

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01:28:43,600 --> 01:28:48,240
Speaker 5: so yeah, I've been trying to become more and more

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01:28:48,280 --> 01:28:52,360
Speaker 5: square every every day, and I stay away from triggers,

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01:28:52,680 --> 01:28:54,599
Speaker 5: stay away from I see.

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Speaker 2: I could see how that would be beneficial to your

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01:28:59,600 --> 01:29:01,640
Speaker 2: of a lot, But I think in this case, this

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01:29:01,760 --> 01:29:04,920
Speaker 2: is like, I mean, I feel like pleasure, their pleasure

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01:29:05,040 --> 01:29:07,360
Speaker 2: is not necessarily I don't think your pleasure needs to

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01:29:07,400 --> 01:29:10,040
Speaker 2: be square in order for you to, you know, six.

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01:29:10,840 --> 01:29:11,840
Speaker 3: You know, save your life.

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01:29:12,080 --> 01:29:15,240
Speaker 2: I think that, I mean, whatever works for you works

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01:29:15,240 --> 01:29:18,519
Speaker 2: for you. This works for them. And if you have

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01:29:18,560 --> 01:29:21,559
Speaker 2: horries you want to share on the discord, join our discord,

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01:29:22,080 --> 01:29:26,919
Speaker 2: but aka join our patreon AKA.

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Speaker 3: He's like, hold on, hold on, hold on.

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01:29:32,000 --> 01:29:34,040
Speaker 4: I am and then and then I'm not like.

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Speaker 5: It's a lot of I'm a virgal. It's a lot

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01:29:38,600 --> 01:29:40,240
Speaker 5: of things about me that don't even make sense, right, Like,

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01:29:40,880 --> 01:29:42,519
Speaker 5: I've never had a threesome in my life.

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Speaker 3: Do you want to?

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01:29:43,920 --> 01:29:45,720
Speaker 5: I've never had a one. Nice I don't desire three

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01:29:45,880 --> 01:29:47,040
Speaker 5: because I've never had a three, So I don't know

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01:29:47,040 --> 01:29:49,280
Speaker 5: what I'm missing, right. I've heard that they're fun, but

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01:29:49,320 --> 01:29:51,360
Speaker 5: I've heard some bad stories. I've never had a one

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01:29:51,400 --> 01:29:54,120
Speaker 5: nice stand in my life. But then I eat ass go.

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Speaker 2: Figure duality, duality, and you know what who you are today.

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Speaker 2: I know you said that you're pretty locked in the

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01:30:00,720 --> 01:30:02,639
Speaker 2: locked in the things, but you never know. You might

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01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:05,679
Speaker 2: look up when you know you're fifty. Like, you know what, baby,

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01:30:05,720 --> 01:30:08,720
Speaker 2: let's do some new ship. Maybe we'll spice it up.

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01:30:08,640 --> 01:30:09,040
Speaker 4: A little bit.

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Speaker 3: I don't really like my new ship though, Okay, well

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01:30:12,000 --> 01:30:12,360
Speaker 3: maybe not.

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01:30:13,479 --> 01:30:14,840
Speaker 5: I like what I like, and I like lots of

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Speaker 5: what I like, like tons of it.

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Speaker 1: H Well, thank you so much for joining us.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for having me. It's been a good time.

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Speaker 1: And we appreciate your your mind and your uh your

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01:30:26,800 --> 01:30:29,880
Speaker 1: take on you know, we needed a male perspective in

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01:30:29,960 --> 01:30:32,200
Speaker 1: here with the brain, so we appreciate you. Thank you

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01:30:32,200 --> 01:30:33,280
Speaker 1: for coming to hang out with us.

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01:30:33,360 --> 01:30:35,120
Speaker 5: Thank you for having me. I appreciate the space. And

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01:30:35,160 --> 01:30:37,679
Speaker 5: you guys are doing an amazing job. Keep killing this ship.

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Speaker 4: You know you good moms. You you good mothers.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you. Appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: Can you tell the people where they can find you and.

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Speaker 1: Your book and all that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Man, and can I get this book because we just

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Speaker 1: got in relationships and we need to we need the

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Speaker 1: loss what love.

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01:30:51,160 --> 01:30:53,679
Speaker 5: Loss is a game change if you understand the laws

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01:30:53,680 --> 01:30:56,640
Speaker 5: of the law priority, the law of partnership, and the

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Speaker 5: law pursuit. Those are the laws that changed my life,

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01:30:59,640 --> 01:31:03,000
Speaker 5: change my relationship. And you know, if two people apply oos,

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Speaker 5: you will have a healthy harmonies relationship for sure. You

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Speaker 5: can go to doc just go to my UH. You

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Speaker 5: can go to my instagram, Marcus Black.

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Speaker 4: Mvr, Cus bovck. I'll go to my website doctor Black

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Speaker 4: dot com.

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Speaker 2: Ye, and we'll make sure to link all of his

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Speaker 2: information in the episode description. Again, you guys, we are

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Speaker 2: going on tour, so make sure you click the link

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Speaker 2: in our bio to get your tickets if they're not

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Speaker 2: already sold out.

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Speaker 1: Bring your friends, put get a babysitter and take it Uber.

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Speaker 2: Yes, take that Uber. Make sure you join our Patreon.

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Speaker 2: We have bonus content there and you can access to

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Speaker 2: our discord through Patreon, where I want to say millions

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Speaker 2: one day, it'll be millions, thousands, hundreds, millions and millions

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Speaker 2: of women are connecting every single day on discord and UH.

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Speaker 2: You have to click the link in our bio or

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Speaker 2: you have to go to Patreon dot com backslash Good

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Speaker 2: Mom's Bad Choices because if you search us on Patreon,

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Speaker 2: apparently we're explicit, so you can't find us there. M

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Speaker 2: Rate and review us on Apple Podcast. Give us that

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Speaker 2: five star rating, baby, and we'll see you next week.

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Speaker 1: Hm