Speaker 1: This is, he said a Yavi ho with Eric Winter
Speaker 1: and Rosalind Fantas. All Right, welcome back to another episode,
Speaker 1: he said. Yep, you guessed it, he said, he said,
Speaker 1: because the wife is gone again. What can I do? Listen,
Speaker 1: she travels, she's working, She's a busy lady. She's in
Speaker 1: New York right now. She's having a great time watching
Speaker 1: the play. Real women have curves and it is. She
Speaker 1: was there with a bunch of her friends celebrating. It's
Speaker 1: not opening, not the opening day but it's been open
Speaker 1: for a little bit now, but celebrating and it was.
Speaker 1: It was fantastic. She's there also doing a campaign for
Speaker 1: a company, and it's, you know, a quick little getaway
Speaker 1: for her. It's not bad. I'm just here tackling everything
Speaker 1: with the kids and still enjoying my break from filming,
Speaker 1: which has been awesome, and so much Palmer Republic stuff,
Speaker 1: you know, happening people I know I've seen recently. I
Speaker 1: posted something about a virtual signing that we're doing, and
Speaker 1: I think this might be one of the first. I
Speaker 1: don't think a lot of companies and let's hope this
Speaker 1: stays under wraps for a bit have been doing virtual
Speaker 1: virtual signings in the spirit space, and I think this
Speaker 1: is gonna be a fun way for people who haven't
Speaker 1: been able to make the signings we had at Total
Speaker 1: Wins in Miami. And you know, we're only in a
Speaker 1: few markets. We're in Florida, and we're in Texas. We're
Speaker 1: gonna be starting some signings there at Specs once we
Speaker 1: get fully locked in, and we're gonna be expanding here
Speaker 1: slowly into California. We're I'll be doing some more signings
Speaker 1: in La as well with Total Wines. But if you
Speaker 1: haven't already, check out the virtual signing link, put your
Speaker 1: email in. We'll keep giving updates and then we're going
Speaker 1: to be you buy a package of two bottles signed,
Speaker 1: and then you get to get a one on one
Speaker 1: zoom with me for a few minutes to ask me
Speaker 1: whatever you want chat just like you were at a
Speaker 1: regular signing, but probably even a bit more intimate because
Speaker 1: you don't have a line of people behind you hurrying
Speaker 1: you along. So make sure you do sign up for that.
Speaker 1: And this episode is going to be more audience questions,
Speaker 1: which I always love to do, So let me go
Speaker 1: ahead and jump in first. Questions, do you think throughout
Speaker 1: the seasons of the Rookie, the writers put in flirtation
Speaker 1: with Tim and Lucy in case it became a relationship,
Speaker 1: or do you think it only started once they decided
Speaker 1: it was going to be a storyline. That's a great question.
Speaker 1: And here's something interesting. I don't think there was like
Speaker 1: an organic flirtiness or you know, romantic storyline set up
Speaker 1: at all. I think Tim was a jerk. She was
Speaker 1: somebody going through a lot. Then you realized Tim was
Speaker 1: going through a lot, and little by little she started
Speaker 1: trying to over She was trying to overstep her boundaries
Speaker 1: across the line with him to sort of help him,
Speaker 1: and that was something he never wanted or was open to.
Speaker 1: And so I think little by little they started seeing
Speaker 1: this as a way in to a deeper relationship between
Speaker 1: a training officer and a rookie, and then the fans
Speaker 1: ran with that. And I think when the fans ran
Speaker 1: with it, they started realizing, huh, okay, we might need
Speaker 1: to turn Tim's snarkiness and sarcastic banter that he obviously
Speaker 1: just has with people he works with into a little more.
Speaker 1: So I think that's kind of how it evolved. That
Speaker 1: it wasn't planted early on by any means, I don't
Speaker 1: think it was established by the writers per se, until
Speaker 1: much later when the fans got involved. Second question, I
Speaker 1: know you just spoke about how to communicate with your partner.
Speaker 1: I wanted to see if you had advice for my case.
Speaker 1: I tend to want to talk about things in the
Speaker 1: moment and right away, and my boyfriend wants to walk
Speaker 1: away and process and revisit. Do you think either way
Speaker 1: is better? And how do we make the communication style work? Listen,
Speaker 1: that's a great question, not an easy one. I am
Speaker 1: somebody that likes to talk about things on the spot.
Speaker 1: My wife, I think she's open to it on the spot,
Speaker 1: but she definitely prefers to process a bit more before
Speaker 1: talking as well. And I think there isn't a right
Speaker 1: or wrong for sure, but you've got to create space
Speaker 1: for that person who does want to walk away, process,
Speaker 1: get their mind right, and then come back and have theeson. Now,
Speaker 1: the tricky part is if you're a person like me
Speaker 1: who wants to talk about things right away, you're afraid
Speaker 1: you're gonna forget your thoughts, da da da. But a
Speaker 1: good thing about taking a pause and walking away it
Speaker 1: kind of goes back to an episode we had with
Speaker 1: Deepak Chopra, which is you can breathe and let the
Speaker 1: fight or flight that happens with an argument calm down.
Speaker 1: Because nobody can communicate well when they're amped up where
Speaker 1: they're too hyped. So you've got to kind of take
Speaker 1: a moment, take a breath, give each other maybe a
Speaker 1: little bit of space, write down your thoughts or your
Speaker 1: questions if you have to. Sometimes that'll actually calm you down.
Speaker 1: And then if the person doesn't come back to you
Speaker 1: with a time, you need to make it a point
Speaker 1: to say, hey, remember we were going to talk about this.
Speaker 1: This bothers me. Let's set a time up to have
Speaker 1: a conversation. That's the way I would approach it. If
Speaker 1: you had to, I say all this like it's easy.
Speaker 1: Doesn't happen in our house like that. It's not that smooth,
Speaker 1: It's not that easy. It's never as easy as it sounds.
Speaker 1: You have to definitely make it a conscious effort and
Speaker 1: choice when you're doing it. That's how that's how we've
Speaker 1: tried to navigate it. How would you react if you've
Speaker 1: found out that one of your kids was caught vape
Speaker 1: or smoking, and how would you handle that conversation with them.
Speaker 1: I would lose my mind. I can tell you that
Speaker 1: right away. I've seen way too many documentaries on vaping.
Speaker 1: Vaping is horrible. It is misleading that it's not as
Speaker 1: bad as a cigarette. It's worse in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1: I just saw recently some teenage girl got popcorn lung
Speaker 1: because she thought she was vaping to be cool for
Speaker 1: her boyfriend who vapes, and she ended up in the
Speaker 1: hospital almost died. I would lose my mind. I would
Speaker 1: show them video after video evidence, you know, more and
Speaker 1: more evidence about how it's just killing teens and killing
Speaker 1: people left and right. And I hate to use a
Speaker 1: scare atack, but it's not even a scare attack. It's
Speaker 1: just facts. Smoking's gonna kill you. Vaping is gonna kill you.
Speaker 1: And our kids know that, and we talked to them
Speaker 1: about that, and thankfully, our kids are extremely turned off
Speaker 1: by both at the moment. Like Dylan doesn't even like
Speaker 1: to walk by a smoker on the street. He panics,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, dude, you're gonna be fine if he
Speaker 1: just walked by, it's okay. He wants to go completely round,
Speaker 1: like a roundabout way to get there, but I think
Speaker 1: you look, you got to talk early, right away. You
Speaker 1: cannot waste time, you cannot try to give them the
Speaker 1: I get what you're going through. No, no, no, I
Speaker 1: would show them every piece of evidence that leads to
Speaker 1: death that this is going to kill you. Whether it's
Speaker 1: right now, in the next few years, or in the
Speaker 1: next ten years, it is going to cause a problem.
Speaker 1: And that's how I'd work with it. Very passionate about that.
Speaker 1: Do you have advice for how I should talk to
Speaker 1: my kids better about divorce. I know they have questions
Speaker 1: they are scared to ask. Maybe I know I have
Speaker 1: answers I may be afraid to give them as a parent,
Speaker 1: how would you approach the situation? Oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 1: That is a good one. You know. I come from
Speaker 1: divorced parents. I'll never forget I say it all the time.
Speaker 1: At seven years old when my parents got divorced, I
Speaker 1: remember that conversation. I mean perfectly, how they sat me
Speaker 1: down and told me. I don't think I ever asked
Speaker 1: questions throughout the years as to why. I kind of
Speaker 1: just compartmentalized it and put it away. But I would
Speaker 1: encourage for sure now if I had it in reverse,
Speaker 1: I would definitely encourage my kids to please talk to
Speaker 1: me about it, ask me any questions they want they
Speaker 1: might have. I don't know if I would immediately just
Speaker 1: volunteer information unless they asked I would. I would definitely
Speaker 1: volunteer something to give, like the basis for the divorce
Speaker 1: or you know, the mom and dad just we love
Speaker 1: each other but not in love with each other, and
Speaker 1: we have grown apart, but we love you guys the
Speaker 1: same and we want to be there for you and
Speaker 1: you know, hopefully learn how to navigate that co parenting
Speaker 1: even though you're divorced and really putting the kids first
Speaker 1: in the divorce. So I would definitely try to find
Speaker 1: ways to communicate with the kids because I know from
Speaker 1: my own experience that the kids are just compartmentalizing and
Speaker 1: closing it all in there. They don't want to talk
Speaker 1: about it because it's very scary and it's very sad
Speaker 1: to them. Even if they know heart said it's better
Speaker 1: for mom and dad, it's not easy. So yeah, try
Speaker 1: to strike conversation as much as you can to give
Speaker 1: them that escape podcast is called he said, she said,
Speaker 1: And I love it when you guys have different opinions
Speaker 1: on things and give different perspectives. Is this how you
Speaker 1: your relationship together has always been. We've always been very
Speaker 1: opposite and a lot of things, and you know, some
Speaker 1: people are like, you know, opposites never work. And then
Speaker 1: there's obviously the saying opposites attract. I do believe opposites attract.
Speaker 1: And I have a funny story of a girl I
Speaker 1: dated years and years ago, and you know, beautiful girl
Speaker 1: and a lot of things going for I had friends
Speaker 1: that were like, well, you're so lucky you're dating this girl,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, she's so cool, and I could not
Speaker 1: get into the relationship. But I couldn't figure out what
Speaker 1: was holding me back. All I wanted to do was
Speaker 1: go out. Finally got her to go out, and then
Speaker 1: I was just not into it. And I realized after
Speaker 1: watching an episode of Seinfeld. And maybe I've talked about
Speaker 1: this before, but no joke. I saw an episode of
Speaker 1: Seinfeld and he was dating a version of himself, and really,
Speaker 1: this girl is me, is the female me, and that's
Speaker 1: why I couldn't get into it. I was driving myself crazy.
Speaker 1: So I do love the opposite. So now listen, too
Speaker 1: many disagreements, are too many things that you don't have
Speaker 1: in common can be a problem. Thankfully, Roz and I
Speaker 1: have a lot of things in common as well. We
Speaker 1: share a lot of core values. We laugh about a
Speaker 1: lot of the same things, and I think laughter is key.
Speaker 1: But we are opposite in a lot of our opinions,
Speaker 1: and some of that's culturally, some of that's just the
Speaker 1: way we grew up. So it is that there's no coincidence.
Speaker 1: That's called he said, she said, because that is a
Speaker 1: lot of who we are as people. But it makes
Speaker 1: it fun, keeps it interesting, and it keeps you on
Speaker 1: your toes, that's for sure. When traveling is a couple
Speaker 1: or a family, I find it hard when there are
Speaker 1: too many cooks in the kitchen. Everyone wants to do
Speaker 1: something different. How do you manage who gets to see
Speaker 1: what they want? Maybe what activities you have to have
Speaker 1: to skip without disappointing someone in the family. That is
Speaker 1: a great question. In our house. It's worked out pretty
Speaker 1: easy so far on these big trips because I am
Speaker 1: generally the planner. Roslind goes with the flow, which is
Speaker 1: awesome as long as I plan it in a way
Speaker 1: that you know, sort of is comfortable with the family.
Speaker 1: She doesn't like to be rushed, pushed to do too
Speaker 1: many things at once, and sometimes she didn't realize how
Speaker 1: much she would enjoy something that I set up. And
Speaker 1: I think that's fun with the kids. Listen, I don't
Speaker 1: when we go on big the couple big European trips
Speaker 1: that we've taken, I don't give the kids much of
Speaker 1: a choice. I'm like, you're gonna see a lot of
Speaker 1: amazing history, You're gonna learn some cool stuff. Sometimes we
Speaker 1: hire a tour guide, and I want them to experience
Speaker 1: what it's like to be in another country and not
Speaker 1: just not just go shopping or not just see things.
Speaker 1: I want them to learn. And funny enough, a lot
Speaker 1: of people are like, isn't that the kids are gonna
Speaker 1: are they gonna be bored? Or doesn't this Dylan Sometimes
Speaker 1: at a museum can get a little bored, But overall
Speaker 1: they have found it very interesting the stuff that they've learned.
Speaker 1: And if you have a great guide sharing that knowledge,
Speaker 1: so it helps a lot. So I often I just
Speaker 1: plan things. The kids have to roll with it, and
Speaker 1: they've been really good at it so far. And Roz
Speaker 1: does as well. She kind of trusts my opinion, but
Speaker 1: I think you know, you got to throw in a
Speaker 1: thing or two that other family might want to do
Speaker 1: and that you might not want to do. Eliminate something
Speaker 1: that you have in mind for something that they want.
Speaker 1: You got to compromise for sure, because everybody's gonna have
Speaker 1: an opinion. Like you said, you got to make it
Speaker 1: enjoyable for everybody. But whoever is the planner, I think
Speaker 1: you know, stick to your plan for the most part
Speaker 1: and try to make it flow with the family. I'm
Speaker 1: a single mom, and when it comes to male hygiene,
Speaker 1: what is the best way to approach my son to
Speaker 1: have a conversation about that? Is it appropriate for me
Speaker 1: as his mom to talk about it or should I
Speaker 1: find a male to handle the conversation. The more teenager
Speaker 1: he becomes, the more I find myself having to remind
Speaker 1: him about to you and showering. Look, if you're a
Speaker 1: single mom, I say you go all in. I wouldn't look.
Speaker 1: If you look, if there's a male figure that you
Speaker 1: can go to for something and you want to even
Speaker 1: be a part of that conversation, I would do it.
Speaker 1: And I only say this because I'm not a single
Speaker 1: dad by any means. Obviously, I'm married and I have
Speaker 1: an amazing wife, but I am all in about communicating
Speaker 1: with my daughter about female things. I listen, she got
Speaker 1: her period. She came and told both of us she's cramping.
Speaker 1: She tells me. If I'm with her, she's going through
Speaker 1: her stuff as a female. I make her comfortable to
Speaker 1: talk to me about it. I don't want it to
Speaker 1: be a secret. I'm not. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it.
Speaker 1: It's human development and it's human things, whether it's male
Speaker 1: or female. So I think talking to your son is
Speaker 1: whether a girl or boy. If my daughter's not showering
Speaker 1: or using yodurant, I say, I'll say something. I'll be like, look,
Speaker 1: you're smelling right now. You stink. Why are your smell?
Speaker 1: Put some yodorant on, Make sure you shower, make sure
Speaker 1: you wash really well, do your hair really well. I'm
Speaker 1: all about it with my son and my daughter. So listen.
Speaker 1: If you're single, mom, just assume both. Don't even think
Speaker 1: about it as roles male or female. Just be a
Speaker 1: parent and jump in and don't be afraid to communicate.
Speaker 1: That's my biggest thing. The more your kids communicate with
Speaker 1: you about things like that, they'll communicate with you about everything.
Speaker 1: But again, if you have a male that you can
Speaker 1: lean on for something, I think, go for it. It's
Speaker 1: not going to hurt, but I would want to be
Speaker 1: a part of that conversation. I've been living with my
Speaker 1: girlfriend for a year, but we have kept my apartment
Speaker 1: that entire year. I'm finally getting rid of my apartment
Speaker 1: at the end of the month and we are combining
Speaker 1: all of our things. When did you and Roz know
Speaker 1: it was a good time to take the step and
Speaker 1: did you get married first? Oh? Good question, good question.
Speaker 1: So we did the same thing. I had my own place,
Speaker 1: she had hers. We only lived like a mile apart,
Speaker 1: so it was extremely convenient at the time. And it
Speaker 1: was probably around the time you're saying, like a year
Speaker 1: that we decided, okay, maybe we move in with each
Speaker 1: other and give this a real shot. And I didn't
Speaker 1: like I didn't have an apartment. I had a place
Speaker 1: that I owned and I still own it. So I
Speaker 1: kept most of my stuff at that place, and just
Speaker 1: little by little was moving you know, things into her
Speaker 1: house to see what that was like. Now, we both
Speaker 1: were married before, we did not get married first. Before
Speaker 1: we decide to move in with each other. Obviously that
Speaker 1: is a personal choice for a lot of people, whether
Speaker 1: it be religious reasons or family reasons, et cetera. So
Speaker 1: I think you can wait until you're married if that's
Speaker 1: what you want to do. For sure. I am definitely
Speaker 1: of the mindset that you learn a lot about a
Speaker 1: person when you live with somebody, and sometimes that could
Speaker 1: be a defining part of the relationship if you can
Speaker 1: even marry that person, if you can move forward. So
Speaker 1: for my thinking, I would prefer move in first and
Speaker 1: see how everything works as one, especially having come out
Speaker 1: of a divorce before Roslin. But it was about that
Speaker 1: amount of time and it's nerve wracking. You got to
Speaker 1: figure it out. It's you're You're probably there all the
Speaker 1: time anyway, so it's not totally different. But once you
Speaker 1: kind of you're giving up your own apartment now, which
Speaker 1: is big, and now you feel like you have nowhere
Speaker 1: else to go, right, You're you're definitely all in, but
Speaker 1: you can always go back, you can always get another apartment,
Speaker 1: you can always move out. So I wouldn't stress about it.
Speaker 1: I would go all in if that's what you're You're
Speaker 1: where you guys are at, and the next step is
Speaker 1: if you're gonna move in with somebody, you're already thinking
Speaker 1: marriage is down the road, So don't waste your time,
Speaker 1: don't waste your partner's time moving in and taking that step.
Speaker 1: If marriage isn't a thought, or if you're not even
Speaker 1: a person that's all about marriage, but you're gonna be
Speaker 1: a you have a partner for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: If that's not in your mindset of like being with
Speaker 1: that person for a long, long time forever, quote unquote,
Speaker 1: then you shouldn't move in with each other. You should
Speaker 1: just wait. But if it's in your if it's in
Speaker 1: your cars, take that down the road that I think,
Speaker 1: go for it and take that leap. Good for you, guys,
Speaker 1: all right. Next question, there are a lot of people
Speaker 1: who are popping up women's sports bars for people who
Speaker 1: watch women's sports. You have a liquor company and a
Speaker 1: daughter in women's sports. Would you ever consider opening a
Speaker 1: sports bar dedicated to women's sports. I have never thought
Speaker 1: about that, and I find it fascinating that and if
Speaker 1: people are opening up these bars, clearly there are statistics
Speaker 1: showing that, which I love, women's sports are growing in viewership,
Speaker 1: and I I'm one of the new viewers you know
Speaker 1: now listen not across all women's sports. I've always loved
Speaker 1: women's dentis, Women's soccer has always grabbed me for quite
Speaker 1: some time now, and now I'm starting to watch more WNBA.
Speaker 1: So if you're getting that great mix of audience coming
Speaker 1: in and you can sustain customers, I think a bar
Speaker 1: dedicated to women's sports would be incredible. I would have
Speaker 1: to learn more about it, you know, because I feel
Speaker 1: like if you can do if you can have a
Speaker 1: bar that's just includes all genders, but you're going to
Speaker 1: show all sports, you know, male sports and female sports,
Speaker 1: but maybe you pick a night where it's just women's
Speaker 1: sports night, and that nights can be dedicated to WNBA,
Speaker 1: or that night's can be dedicated to women's soccer or
Speaker 1: tennis for that matter. That could be cool as well.
Speaker 1: But every day dedicated to one gender, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's what kind of like a regular sports bar,
Speaker 1: it kind of is dedicated to male sports. I don't
Speaker 1: know that I've walked into many sports bars and seen
Speaker 1: women's sports come on, unless it was the Olympics. I
Speaker 1: think there should be more of it. I like this idea,
Speaker 1: like where it's headed. Getting Palm Republic at any of
Speaker 1: these bars would be great. But you know, I'm always
Speaker 1: about supporting women's sports in general. Obviously my daughter plays,
Speaker 1: and I'm hoping to go, guys to my first WNBA
Speaker 1: game in July. I've been watching ever since I was
Speaker 1: not a big w NBA guy. I would watch clips
Speaker 1: and I knew a little bit about the players, and
Speaker 1: I know I'm jumping on sort of this bandwagon of
Speaker 1: Caitlin Clark and Angel Rees coming into the league. But
Speaker 1: when that happened, that rivalry, I got into it. And
Speaker 1: now I watched third and watch the full thing. But
Speaker 1: I followed the WNBA draft this year with Page Becker's
Speaker 1: Haley than Lift and all these players coming out. I
Speaker 1: watched the final four, the women's final four as well
Speaker 1: as the men's and I am really trying to go
Speaker 1: to the Chicago Sky Indiana Fever game in July, which
Speaker 1: is going to be in Chicago when I'm there for
Speaker 1: a signing. I'm hoping this happens. I'm pumped about it.
Speaker 1: So look, I'm one of these people that very well
Speaker 1: would show up at this women's sports bar. You know,
Speaker 1: I would be there watching whatever's on TV, so let's see.
Speaker 1: I like where the space is headed. All right. Question ten,
Speaker 1: would you like to do more films instead of television
Speaker 1: or do you love the pace of scripted television more
Speaker 1: than films? You know, listen, I'm open to both. I've
Speaker 1: done movies. I've done more TV than movies. I love both.
Speaker 1: I love being in Los Angeles. That's one of the
Speaker 1: benefits of the television show that I'm on. And not
Speaker 1: every show is obviously like that, but I get to
Speaker 1: be with my kids and my family. Rozland's had to
Speaker 1: travel a lot, and it's hard. It's hard on the kids.
Speaker 1: It's just it's in general, it's it's difficult for someone
Speaker 1: to go away for months at a time, and movies
Speaker 1: can often do that. But the benefit of a movie
Speaker 1: is it's a one off. So if I go away
Speaker 1: for like Rosen was doing a movie in Budapest for
Speaker 1: a month, that was just she was gone maybe five
Speaker 1: weeks and we got to go see her. But it's
Speaker 1: only five weeks. It's not ongoing year after year, and
Speaker 1: that is where it gets tough. So I'm the lifestyle
Speaker 1: of a TV show in LA is awesome. Even doing
Speaker 1: a movie in La lifestyle would be great, but there's
Speaker 1: a benefit to doing a film because it's short, it's
Speaker 1: shorter lived and you can move on and go back
Speaker 1: to your life at home. However, there's stability and TV,
Speaker 1: so let's at the pace of that. How it's made
Speaker 1: doesn't really affect me. I do like the jumping in
Speaker 1: and out of roles for the film side of it
Speaker 1: because you get to, you know, expand more as an
Speaker 1: actor doing playing different characters. So you know, toss a coin,
Speaker 1: you flip a coin. I should say either one works,
Speaker 1: all right, everybody, I hope that were I hope I
Speaker 1: all your questions in and you are satisfied with my answers.
Speaker 1: We will have Roz back next week or next time
Speaker 1: we do this podcast, which will be great. Thank you
Speaker 1: for sending your questions as always and for listening, and
Speaker 1: remember continue to send us your thoughts your questions to
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