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Speaker 1: Hannah is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 1: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke.

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Speaker 1: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 1: see if I tell us why he is ghosting here.

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Speaker 1: But first, Hannah, how long has it beencis you heard

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Speaker 1: from Luke?

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Speaker 2: It's been about a week.

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Speaker 3: I texted him a couple times, but not saying just

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Speaker 3: radio silence.

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Speaker 4: Really, so, did you feel like you were going to

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Speaker 4: hear from him?

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Speaker 1: Was the date good?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: No, it's so weird because he was texting me right

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Speaker 3: after the date like that was.

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Speaker 2: Fun, we should do it again? And now poof absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So here's the deal. So we went out for Sushie,

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Speaker 3: which I love. I thought it was a super solid start.

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Speaker 3: Even let me pick out the restaurant, which was cool.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like rawfish

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Speaker 3: would suggest Sushie, but cool. We ended up ordering way

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Speaker 3: too much food, it was. It was kind of a

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Speaker 3: mess that we were both just like cracking jokes about it,

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Speaker 3: especially when he nearly flung a piece of session me

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Speaker 3: across the table trying to use the classics.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was cute.

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Speaker 3: So afterwards we went for a walk, which was really sweet.

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Speaker 2: It was kill low key, and it just felt like

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Speaker 2: we were on the same waves lengths, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, yeah, slinging sushi and you know, sweet conversation.

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Speaker 1: So why do you think.

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Speaker 3: Then, oh man, Honestly, iize, I don't know, because I

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Speaker 3: thought it.

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Speaker 2: Was really really great. There was just like something about him.

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Speaker 2: He was so funny. But maybe I messed.

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Speaker 3: Up when I paid for dinner behind us back. But

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Speaker 3: Bill was just like way more than we expected, and

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Speaker 3: I had ordered a really fancy sake and wag you advertiser.

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Speaker 3: We thought he was thinking about it and I felt bad.

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Speaker 2: So when he got.

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Speaker 3: Up to use the bathroom, I just went ahead and

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Speaker 3: paid for the whole thing.

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Speaker 2: So when he came back, I told him it wasn't

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Speaker 2: a big deal.

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Speaker 1: I'd marry you. It doesn't sound like a reason to

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Speaker 1: ghost at all.

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Speaker 3: Right, I mean, I can afflord it, and but he

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Speaker 3: seemed like.

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Speaker 2: Kind of irritated.

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Speaker 3: He kept saying, you know, I could have paid for that,

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Speaker 3: and I tried to explain that it didn't mean anything.

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Speaker 2: I just felt guilty for ordering.

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Speaker 3: The expensive stuff, like unconsciously, but maybe he thought that.

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Speaker 2: I was implying that he couldn't afford it or.

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Speaker 3: Something, But I didn't really mean it like that.

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Speaker 2: I was just trying to do something nice.

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Speaker 3: But now I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong.

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Speaker 4: Well did he say thank you? Did like aside from

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Speaker 4: the fact that he's like, I could pay for it too,

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Speaker 4: Was he appreciative of it?

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Speaker 3: No, he did it just like it just like shift

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Speaker 3: a divide, like a little bit, but like not enough

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Speaker 3: to like we still were planning on hanging out again.

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Speaker 2: We both had talked about how it was fun.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, Anna, why don't you refresh our memory.

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Speaker 5: On your date?

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Speaker 3: Okay, we went out for this super fun sushi date,

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Speaker 3: but I d up paying at the end because I

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Speaker 3: thought I'd order two expensive things. So I'm I'm worried

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Speaker 3: it that's why he disappeared.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know. I could see some guy being like,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to go out with you again because

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Speaker 1: you wouldn't let me pay.

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Speaker 4: I could actually see that because he's probably like if

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Speaker 4: he's thinking like, okay, well what do I have to

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Speaker 4: bring to the table, or like somehow feeling bad about it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, we'll see you. Ready for ust to

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Speaker 1: call him?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Here we go, Okay, here we go?

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Speaker 1: Hell I may I speak to Luke?

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Speaker 5: Please?

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Speaker 1: M hey Luke? How are you? This is the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 1: It's a radio show.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubiles Up. How are you?

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Speaker 5: Uh? I'm sorry. It's like it's like a brank or something.

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Speaker 1: No, it's not. Actually, we're calling you for a different reason.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well we're calling you today because you're going somebody

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Speaker 1: And we do a second on the show called the

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Speaker 1: First Day follow Up. You know where if you go

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Speaker 1: on a date with someone and then you end up

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Speaker 1: ghosting them, that person can email us to ask you

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Speaker 1: why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would

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Speaker 1: have emailed us about you?

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Speaker 5: I am guessing this is about Anna? Right?

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Speaker 1: Yes, you got to correct. Congratulations you've won nothing so far?

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Speaker 4: Are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 5: I'm not like ghosting her intentionally. Uh, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: The date was super fun, She's super cool, but it

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Speaker 5: was it was honestly it was just something that happened.

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Speaker 1: After Okay, so you are ghosting her intentionally, she said,

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Speaker 1: she texted you didn't call her back. So yeah, so here, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: but why why Yeah?

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Speaker 5: So the delays, so you know, after our day it

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Speaker 5: was it was really good and uh my buddy Andrew,

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Speaker 5: so I was telling him about it and uh, you know,

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Speaker 5: staying so she paid for the meal and I, you know,

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Speaker 5: behind my back, and I don't know, I just thought

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Speaker 5: it was kind of weird. So I'm telling him about it,

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Speaker 5: and uh he actually see a picture of her, and

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Speaker 5: I showed him a picture and he just started cracking up.

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Speaker 5: And uh, it turns out that he went out with

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Speaker 5: Hannah too. Okay, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's not

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Speaker 5: It's not only that. It was that she did like

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Speaker 5: the same exact thing with him. They went to like

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Speaker 5: a steakhouse and got all like this expensive stuff, and

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Speaker 5: like behind his back, she paid without telling him. And

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Speaker 5: and then he was saying that like happened a bunch

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Speaker 5: of times, and he did, and he said his words

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Speaker 5: that by the end he felt like she was treating

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Speaker 5: him like some sort of boy toy that she could like,

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Speaker 5: you know, control with her money.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, and you don't want to be a boy toy?

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Speaker 4: Is that what she's doing though, or is that just

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Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know why. It's like nice that

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Speaker 4: she wants to treat you. Maybe not every single time,

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Speaker 4: but do you think that she was making you feel

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Speaker 4: like a boy toy at all, Luke when you were

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Speaker 4: out with her.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion,

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Speaker 5: but it just like it felt weird, you know, but

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Speaker 5: it just felt really weird.

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Speaker 1: Ah.

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Speaker 3: Wow, So because I'm too generous, I'm getting ghosted.

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Speaker 1: Hannah's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: Oh Hannah, Hey, how are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Oh hi, Luke. I'm sorry. I didn't realize I was

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Speaker 3: making you feel like my personal sugar baby. Seriously, Luke,

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Speaker 3: I obviously had no idea that Andrew was your friend. Also,

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Speaker 3: Andrew seems like super okay with the fact that I was.

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Speaker 2: Paying for a lot of things.

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Speaker 5: I have a nice job.

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Speaker 2: He seems grateful.

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Speaker 5: This is this is his to me? Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 5: that's Andrew. Of course you're buying something, but it just

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Speaker 5: like sounded like a pattern, And I don't know, I

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Speaker 5: didn't want to get wrapped up in this whole like

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Speaker 5: you're paying for everything and I'm just along for the

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Speaker 5: ride thing.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's not it at all. I'm just you know,

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Speaker 3: trying to not seem like a money grubbing woman myself.

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Speaker 2: I have a nice job, so.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to get what I wanted to get without

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Speaker 3: feeling guilty.

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Speaker 2: So what isn't that a nice thing that I could

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Speaker 2: take care of myself?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I can take

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Speaker 5: care of myself too, And it just it feels weird

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Speaker 5: that you're just paying for everything. I don't know, it

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Speaker 5: just feels really weird, and I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I just like, you can do them behind my back?

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Speaker 3: Cool, gay, Well that's fine. I'll find somebody who's hot

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Speaker 3: and proud to be with the woman who can also

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Speaker 4: Well wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your

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Speaker 4: men every time you go out with them? That's like

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Speaker 4: so important to you? Like, what is it about paying

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Speaker 4: behind their back and like doing it every time that

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Speaker 4: you like doing it every time?

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Speaker 3: I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to

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Speaker 3: not expecting anybody to pay for that when they don't

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Speaker 3: really know me yet, you know, but you know, beholden,

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Speaker 3: I don't. Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out. You didn't

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Speaker 3: even get to the part where I buy you clothes yet.

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Speaker 2: You know, I want like a man. I want a

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Speaker 2: man who adores me and it's secure enough to you know,

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Speaker 2: be okay with that?

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Speaker 5: I mean I could buy my own clothes. I buy

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Speaker 5: my own clothes. Make you sound like.

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Speaker 3: I can't do this, well, I mean you could really

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Speaker 3: really use the stylist and some new clothes, because man,

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Speaker 3: that outfit was not really impressed to me. But I'm

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Speaker 3: done trying to impress someone who gets scared off by

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Speaker 3: a little generosity.

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Speaker 1: Well, Luke, would you like another date with Hannah? Will

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Speaker 1: pay for it? That's true, We shouldn't pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I don't. I don't think I could. You know, I

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Speaker 5: guess survive the whole wardrobe overhaul, you know, for the

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Speaker 5: pretty woman mate, So I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: All right, Well, no hard feelings though. Good luck finding

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Speaker 3: someone who won't spoil you too much, Okay, baby boy,