WEBVTT -  Most things can be changed

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of my Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that most things can be changed. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are overwhelmed by needing to make a lot of decisions,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes getting your head around the idea that few things

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<v Speaker 1>are truly permanent can bring down the pressure a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>As I am writing this, we have been living in

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<v Speaker 1>our new house for about two weeks. In the course

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<v Speaker 1>of our year long renovation project, I had to make

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of decisions. Everything from tile colors and shapes,

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<v Speaker 1>to drawer polls, to the trim on the carpet runners

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<v Speaker 1>on the stairs had to be decided. I had help

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<v Speaker 1>with most of those decisions, but still it was a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I am living with all of those decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>For the most part, I am happy with them. I

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<v Speaker 1>like the feel of my kitchen cabinet handles in my hands.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the iceberg shade of blue in my bedroom,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a different shade than I originally chose. When

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<v Speaker 1>I walked in after the room had been painted, I

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't like what was there. But it turns out

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<v Speaker 1>that what has been painted once can be painted again.

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<v Speaker 1>Even though I had made a decision. It didn't need

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<v Speaker 1>to be permanent. It could be changed. So it goes

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<v Speaker 1>with a great many things in life. As we are

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<v Speaker 1>unpacking things and putting them away, those decisions can feel overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 1>What if I choose the wrong closet drawer for my socks,

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<v Speaker 1>Will I be pulling my socks out of this drawer

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<v Speaker 1>and being a little unhappy about it every day for

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of my life. Well, no, I just need

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<v Speaker 1>to put my socks away somewhere, And if I decide

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<v Speaker 1>after a few months, or even after a few years,

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<v Speaker 1>that I chose wrong, I can move the socks. Even

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<v Speaker 1>some big decisions can be revisited. People do go back

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<v Speaker 1>to school, people do end relationships or sometimes even restart them.

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<v Speaker 1>I know people who have left a company to do

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<v Speaker 1>something else and then decided to go back to their

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<v Speaker 1>original employer. Some things are permanent, or should be, but

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<v Speaker 1>a great many things are not. This is a bitter

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<v Speaker 1>sweet realization as we see children grow up and as

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<v Speaker 1>we move out of homes where we raised them, and

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<v Speaker 1>as loved ones pass on. But it can also be

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<v Speaker 1>a comforting realization as we try to move through day

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<v Speaker 1>to day life in a world of seemingly infinite choice.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it is true that with a great many decisions,

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<v Speaker 1>the original choice sticks just because it takes effort to change.

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<v Speaker 1>I was reading a discussion thread recently where a number

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<v Speaker 1>of people were ruing not having redone their floors when

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<v Speaker 1>they moved into their new houses. Getting everything off the

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<v Speaker 1>floor to put in carpet or take out carpet and

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<v Speaker 1>stay in the hardwood floors basically feels like moving again.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is not really a full move, And in fact,

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<v Speaker 1>you could give yourself a few weeks of misery and

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<v Speaker 1>at the end have changed the original choice. If you

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<v Speaker 1>accepted that the cost was a few weeks of hassle,

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<v Speaker 1>then the number of things that could be changed rises considerably.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think that we should build in time to

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<v Speaker 1>revisit decisions that may have been made in haste. A

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<v Speaker 1>great many things in life don't matter, but if something

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<v Speaker 1>does bother you build in time to tackle nagging tasks.

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<v Speaker 1>If you keep finding yourself annoyed by where your socks are,

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<v Speaker 1>then spend some time, maybe on a Saturday morning, during

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<v Speaker 1>nagging task time, thinking if there is a better solution,

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<v Speaker 1>and take advantage of forced shifts to rethink other decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>We had always had some of our kids take the bus,

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<v Speaker 1>but with our new location it makes less sense, and

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<v Speaker 1>so that changes many aspects of the morning routine that

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't been thought through before. It can be easy to

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<v Speaker 1>get overwhelmed with decisions, but when you remind yourself that

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<v Speaker 1>most things can be changed, this let's you be more rational.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it is not the perfect choice, but it is

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<v Speaker 1>a choice and probably you will like it. If not,

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<v Speaker 1>after a trial period you can decide on something else.

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<v Speaker 1>It won't be the end of the world. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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