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Speaker 1: Subject vengeance is mine. Here's Stephen Shirley. I was married

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Speaker 1: for seven years and I'm almost divorced. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I didn't really know each other as well as we

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Speaker 1: should have before we got married, and we had argument

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Speaker 1: on a daily basis. I became bitter over his lack

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Speaker 1: of attentiveness, and he was tired of living with a

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Speaker 1: crazy be Those were his exact words. The day he

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Speaker 1: filed for divorce, he told me I am terrible in bed,

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Speaker 1: teased me for gaining a few pounds and said he's

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Speaker 1: been miserable for seven years. I'm slightly heavier when we

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Speaker 1: got married. You know, when we got married but he

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Speaker 1: gained almost fifteen pounds. There's a lot. That's a lot

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Speaker 1: when you're only five eight. He loves to argue and

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Speaker 1: We have lots of married friends and our circle, and

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Speaker 1: married him. We had a huge blowout one night in

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Speaker 1: certain people. The most damaging thing he said is what

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Speaker 1: I told him about my best friend's marriage. She and

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Speaker 1: her on vacation with them. I couldn't believe he had

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Speaker 1: stopped He had stooped that low, and because of it,

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Speaker 1: my close friend and all the other couples in the

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Speaker 1: stunned me. They stunned me. I've heard that they have

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Speaker 1: secret get togethers without telling me. It breaks my heart

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Speaker 1: that he got away with this. I want the group

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Speaker 1: had to do to him during sex over the years.

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Speaker 1: His boys will definitely think twice about hanging with him

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Speaker 1: after that. He made me miserable for far too long.

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Speaker 1: Should I seek revenge or let it go and move

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Speaker 1: on without him and them? Wow? Well, I think there's

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Speaker 1: your answer right there at the bottom of it. You

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Speaker 1: don't need revenge. For seven years you've been miserable, he's

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Speaker 1: been miserable, and there's your answer. You said it, move

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Speaker 1: on without him and them period. My answer won't be long, Steve.

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Speaker 1: This relationship has been toxic for both of you for

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Speaker 1: a very long time, and you heard with your own

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Speaker 1: ears that he really cares nothing for you. Why else

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Speaker 1: you introduced him to, what you told him in confidence,

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Speaker 1: in secret about the other married couple. And no, these

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Speaker 1: they abandoned you, so you should be too happy to

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Speaker 1: say good writtens to all of them. Boy. Bye. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's it, Steve, Well, that's it. I like the response, Shelly,

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Speaker 1: I really do. So all I'm gonna do now is

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Speaker 1: read you this letter and show you why this marriage

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Speaker 1: has got it immediately. There is no salvaging this. This

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Speaker 1: is unfixable, nor should you even want to fix you all? Right,

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Speaker 1: here we go. I've been married for seven years and

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Speaker 1: it's over. Thank you. My mother and y'all ain't know

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Speaker 1: each other when y'all got married. Let me just go

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Speaker 1: down the list of everything is wrong. We all go

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Speaker 1: on a daily basis. God, I became bitter over his

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Speaker 1: lack of attentiveness. He paying no attention. Then he said

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Speaker 1: y'all following this letter, there's nothing good happening here. She said.

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Speaker 1: Those were his exact words the day he filed for divorce.

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Speaker 1: He was holding that for seven years. He told me

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Speaker 1: that he would go again. Number one, I'm terrible in bad.

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Speaker 1: That's never good. Then he said, you gained a food

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Speaker 1: thank you crazy, and y'all ain't good and the sacked together.

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Speaker 1: That's seven years of street misery. Then she said, I'm

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Speaker 1: five nine five eight. Now you're married to the little

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Speaker 1: shout fat man. But he don't see that because he's

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Speaker 1: so busy throwing mud on you. But that's what they

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Speaker 1: do when something wrong with you. They try to dirty

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Speaker 1: you up more than they are. All right, And but

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Speaker 1: then here's the other part, that this relationship is over.

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Speaker 1: I was relieved that he had the guts to file

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Speaker 1: for divorce. Oh my god, this is an out. This

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Speaker 1: boom through Luis Shall fat Man. God works in mysterious ways,

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Speaker 1: and he used the problem you have in your life

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Speaker 1: to provide the solution. Your problem is the Lui Shalt

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Speaker 1: fat man. But the lule shot fat Man came in

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Speaker 1: with the solution. Oh man, it don't get no better

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Speaker 1: than this. Don't you know how joyous and wonderful occasion

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Speaker 1: it is, y'all when your problem becomes your solution. Oh man,

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Speaker 1: to be in a relationship with somebody horrible and then

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Speaker 1: the horrible person come up to you and say, I

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Speaker 1: think we are a end this let the church saying,

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Speaker 1: man a man and hold it right there. Steve will

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Speaker 1: have part two of your Month Hunt coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Strawberry Letter subject for today,

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Speaker 1: Vengeance is Mine, will get right back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter, Vengeance is Mine. Now.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna get to this vengeance part right now in

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Speaker 1: this section of the letter, because we got a marriage

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Speaker 1: that's been doomed. They've been married seven years and it's

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Speaker 1: been horrible. It's been horrible the entire time. They argu

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Speaker 1: somebody who wants to be in that Now she's better

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Speaker 1: she was terrible in bed and teased her about gaining

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Speaker 1: seven years. She fired back on him, though, and said,

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Speaker 1: when you gained fifteen pounds and you ain't be five eight,

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Speaker 1: that's amazing right there, And that's people don't our show

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Speaker 1: But he knows what you're talking about when you coming

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Speaker 1: to these people about five eight. Now, I don't really

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Speaker 1: not fair for what, Jay, That's not fair that you

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Speaker 1: said that. It's wrong. I said what Jay, people on

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Speaker 1: that I'm right here, Okay, I am right here. I

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Speaker 1: I'm right here, so we can quit all this like

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Speaker 1: I'm not here. I'm right here. Wow. I was just

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Speaker 1: that we was be relatable. You want to talking to

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Speaker 1: You know who you talking about right here? Well, I

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Speaker 1: was just trying to show her how we as the

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Speaker 1: more to show we relatable. We are pound he lost

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Speaker 1: fifteen pound, He in great shape, but he definitely almost

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Speaker 1: didn't know say who I was talking about. But that's

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Speaker 1: what I was saying, Steve, you didn't say anything about

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Speaker 1: the wait, you know you didn't pick anybody out on

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Speaker 1: keep elaborating? But you know you say five eight, you

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Speaker 1: like she said, it's a lot when you pick up

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Speaker 1: They had a huge blowout one night in front of

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Speaker 1: You know exactly who you're married too. You know, you know,

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Speaker 1: her solution. This is the vengeance's mind part. I want

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Speaker 1: things I had to do to him doing sex over

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Speaker 1: I don't know what dirty little secret you've finna tell

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Speaker 1: time that you had to hire to love people to

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Speaker 1: Are you referring to that night? Are you want to

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Speaker 1: talk about the time that you rented the organ grinders monkey?

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Speaker 1: What was that able? What was that about? Are you

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