WEBVTT - Another Lonely Bachelorette

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, guys, it's your other host for I Do Part two,

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<v Speaker 1>Jana Kramer. I'm jumping in. I love tearing Elizabeth's story.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited for her. But we have someone else

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<v Speaker 1>that we're going to have on. She's a listener of

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<v Speaker 1>I Do Part two and she's actually really good friends

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<v Speaker 1>with Elizabeth, so I'm really excited to get her on.

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<v Speaker 1>But first I want to play you Rebecca's voice memo

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<v Speaker 1>that she's sent in to be on the show. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>give it a listen him.

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Rebecca. I listened to your podcast and

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<v Speaker 2>I would be interested in participating. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, hey, short and sweet, and she just is

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<v Speaker 1>like ready to get into it. So let's do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get Rebecca on and let's help her find some love.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, how are you. I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy to be talking to you. We just

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<v Speaker 1>listened to your voice memo and I loved it because

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<v Speaker 1>it was like, hey, I listened to the show. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be on, Like, let's do this. It was

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<v Speaker 1>just like very to the point, very like very direct,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm here for that. So we had the first

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<v Speaker 1>part of the show, we had your girlfriend Elizabeth on,

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<v Speaker 1>and obviously she was from the Bachelor too, And then

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<v Speaker 1>I was reading your stuff and you were you were

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<v Speaker 1>also on the Bachelor, you were on Brad season. How

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<v Speaker 1>did you guys meet because you were on different seasons.

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<v Speaker 2>So after you get off the show, you're part of

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<v Speaker 2>this like crazy bachelor family, right, and you get invited

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<v Speaker 2>to all the events. And so I was invited to

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<v Speaker 2>a charity event and it was like a clean up

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<v Speaker 2>the beach in Venice kind of a thing, and so

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<v Speaker 2>we were both at that same event together.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and then it was just like fast friends or.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I act actually saw Elizabeth walking down the

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<v Speaker 2>beach and I was like, oh gosh, not this girl.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like so caddy on the show, and she

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<v Speaker 2>just was portrayed really bad. And she knows as I've

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<v Speaker 2>told her this, and I was like, oh, don't pair

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<v Speaker 2>me with her. And then we were paired together. But

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<v Speaker 2>she's amazing. She's not who they portrayed on the show,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's such a sweetheart. We've been best friends for

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<v Speaker 2>fourteen years. We've been through everything together. So yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>been amazing to have her in my life. I'm so

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<v Speaker 2>glad we were paired.

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<v Speaker 1>Together, right, I know, it's interesting God's little interventions. So

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<v Speaker 1>you you got sent home the first night? Is that

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<v Speaker 1>what I read on Brad's I did what? Okay? What

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<v Speaker 1>was that like? What was that feeling like? And then

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<v Speaker 1>also why do you think you were sent home on

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<v Speaker 1>the first night? Is there something where is this a

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<v Speaker 1>thing in your dating world where you're like, maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't put forth more effort or what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>it was?

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<v Speaker 2>So going on the first night is a little deflating

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<v Speaker 2>because there's so much work up to it that you

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<v Speaker 2>spend months talking to producers and just like them prepping

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<v Speaker 2>you and getting you ready for the show, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you get there and it's night one and you're so

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<v Speaker 2>excited meeting all the girls, Like everyone was super nice.

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<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to stay for that. I liked the

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<v Speaker 2>pressure that I was fielding. I wasn't looking to be

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<v Speaker 2>on a reality TV show. I just felt like this

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<v Speaker 2>was God's funny plan to like introduce me to my husband,

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<v Speaker 2>Like Okay, cool, I'm going to go on some show.

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<v Speaker 2>And I feel like maybe I wasn't reality TV enough

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<v Speaker 2>for them, Like the producers kind of wanted me do

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more like chasing around. I was the

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<v Speaker 2>first person in Bachelor history to kiss the guy right

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<v Speaker 2>out of the limo, and I feel like it was

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<v Speaker 2>then like, Okay, now I want you to go find

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<v Speaker 2>him and kiss him again. I'm like, that's not me,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I want to be authentic to who I am

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<v Speaker 2>and not put on, you know, a show. So I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of feel like that's why I went home because

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't kind of doing what they wanted me to do.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was a fun experience, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So post a Bachelor, then you ended up. How long

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<v Speaker 1>were you married for with your with your husband who.

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<v Speaker 2>Was with my ex first seven years? Well we were

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<v Speaker 2>married for seven years.

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<v Speaker 1>Seven years, Okay. When I was reading your breakdown, I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, oh, I relate so much to your

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<v Speaker 1>story because it said, you know, you were set up

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<v Speaker 1>with your ex husband right after the Bachelor. They dated

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<v Speaker 1>for a little over a year, then you broke up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm curious, and then you found out you're pregnant, so

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<v Speaker 1>then you guys reconciled. What why did you guys break up?

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<v Speaker 2>In the beginning, I just had this intuition. I just

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<v Speaker 2>felt like he was cheating on me and there was

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of lies. The relationship was super dysfunctional. But

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<v Speaker 2>I was so lost. I didn't I was broke down.

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<v Speaker 2>My self esteem was completely gone. I felt like, this

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<v Speaker 2>is the best I can do. I'm thirty years old.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be married and have kids, and this

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<v Speaker 2>is what's out there, so, you know, and I finally

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<v Speaker 2>listened to my gut and said I'm out. I can't

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<v Speaker 2>do this anymore. This is not right. And I felt

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<v Speaker 2>like this overwhelming peace and relief when it was done.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I found out two days later that I

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<v Speaker 2>was pregnant, and I was like, oh gosh, what do

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<v Speaker 2>I do now?

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<v Speaker 1>This is I mean truly the same kind of story too.

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<v Speaker 1>I was thirty, I really wanted to have kids, and

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<v Speaker 1>so it was that. But I had just found out

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<v Speaker 1>that he cheated on me, and we were only d

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<v Speaker 1>we only dated for gosh, like a month before I

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<v Speaker 1>found out that he cheated on me the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>And if that wasn't the biggest red flag ever, but

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<v Speaker 1>I really, truly I was like, well, I'm thirty, I

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<v Speaker 1>really want to have kids, and I you know, people

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<v Speaker 1>make mistakes, and lord, I've made a million. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I tried to kind of talk my way through his stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>but then, you know, same with you. You married for

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<v Speaker 1>seven years, ex husband had ten plus affairs, And I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, oh my gosh, I'm like, am I

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<v Speaker 1>reading my own story? Because I mean what I know

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<v Speaker 1>of in the first one was thirteen in the first

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<v Speaker 1>year of our marriage. So then women after that were

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I think I know of like five or

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<v Speaker 1>six more. But I mean when there's fifteen, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's like, but for you, when was the

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<v Speaker 1>first time that you caught him in an affair or

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<v Speaker 1>did he tell you? Like, what was that?

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<v Speaker 2>Like? Now? I he had to actually just come back.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a fireman. He plays bagpipes, and he was at

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<v Speaker 2>a bagpipe event for several days and then came home

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<v Speaker 2>and that night his phone was laying on his chest

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<v Speaker 2>and it was lit up. In the middle of the night,

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<v Speaker 2>I went, I got up. We had a gosh. Brindley

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<v Speaker 2>was six weeks old, still sleeping in our room and

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<v Speaker 2>a bouncy thing on the floor, and he picked his

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<v Speaker 2>phone up and put it on the night stand and

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<v Speaker 2>saw mistext from Kyle and I was like, Okay, cool,

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<v Speaker 2>who's Kyle? Went to the bathroom, came back and just

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<v Speaker 2>this gut feeling like, go look at his phone, and

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<v Speaker 2>I never felt that way before. I would have never

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<v Speaker 2>been a million years thought he would cheat. And so

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<v Speaker 2>I picked up the phone and took it downstairs and

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<v Speaker 2>it happened to be unlocked, which was never like he

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<v Speaker 2>always had a lock like a password on it. I

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<v Speaker 2>was able to find several different women that he had

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<v Speaker 2>been texting extremely inappropriate things while he's laying in bed

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<v Speaker 2>next to me. I confronted him that night about it, and.

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<v Speaker 1>How many years into the marriage was that?

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<v Speaker 2>This was a year? One year I got pregnant just

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<v Speaker 2>after we got married to our with our second child,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was six weeks, so it had just been

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<v Speaker 2>a year or jess under just barely shy of a year.

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<v Speaker 2>But he swore it was never in person, it was

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<v Speaker 2>only text messages. It would never happen again. So I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of just kept this dirty little secret and.

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<v Speaker 1>My eyes lies lies, liesless.

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<v Speaker 2>And then a year later he took me to a

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<v Speaker 2>mountaintop and like confessed that he had lied and he

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<v Speaker 2>had been seeing these women. And I basically did a

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<v Speaker 2>tell all, like you have a one day get at

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<v Speaker 2>a jail free card. I need to know everything, the

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<v Speaker 2>skills of eath, anything for tomorrow or I'm gone, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just sat there counting, like, oh my gosh, how

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<v Speaker 2>many more are there? Like this is insane? So there

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<v Speaker 2>was ten he admitted to that day, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>said for five years trying to fix the marriage, because

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<v Speaker 2>of course, if I could be perfect, and I could

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<v Speaker 2>be good enough, and I could have the cleanest house

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<v Speaker 2>and the best kids and be in the best shape

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<v Speaker 2>and all the things, he would love me right, he

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<v Speaker 2>would choose me. I always chose him, and I found

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<v Speaker 2>again women on his phone five years later, and that

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<v Speaker 2>was I mean, I can't continue in that cycle. So

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<v Speaker 2>he actually a mutual friend of ours recently asked him like, hey, man,

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<v Speaker 2>you know Rebecca says you've been cheating who you cheated

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<v Speaker 2>on her and that's why she left. And he was like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh gosh, I lost track of how many people I

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<v Speaker 2>cheated on her with like it was something right about Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's one extreme or the other. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember my ex when I did my table talk with

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<v Speaker 1>Jada Pinkett Smith, the girl he was dating at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, oh, thirteen women, I'd love to know who

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<v Speaker 1>those were. And I'm like, so it's like they either

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<v Speaker 1>lie I'm like, oh, oh, would you like to go

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<v Speaker 1>back because I can pull up the rolodex. I called

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<v Speaker 1>all of them. Yeah, it's kind of on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, or they just yeah, I'm like that,

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<v Speaker 1>what is that? Like? Why is that? It's not a

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<v Speaker 1>bragging right dude? You know, like, that's not something to

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<v Speaker 1>brag about.

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<v Speaker 2>Totally. I didn't. And I actually told our friend, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you can ask him if you really want to, I go,

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<v Speaker 2>but he's not gonna. Why would he admit that? Would

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<v Speaker 2>you admit that it makes you look bad? And then

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<v Speaker 2>that he bragged about it? I was like, Wow, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess he's admitting it.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he ever come out to say that he was

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<v Speaker 1>a sex addict or he had a problem or what

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<v Speaker 1>was his excuse I guess, or what was his rationalization

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<v Speaker 1>with it all?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So after he admitted to the affairs, he started

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<v Speaker 2>going to a sex addict therapist, and he had all

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<v Speaker 2>these things in place. He was gonna go to therapy

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<v Speaker 2>and go to recovery and go to he was you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we joined like a life group with our church, and

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<v Speaker 2>he was all in just going to be the best

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<v Speaker 2>husband ever and deal with his past and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of it's you know, blamed on the upbringing and daddy

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<v Speaker 2>issues and things like that. So it was never like

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<v Speaker 2>he never really took I guess like blame for it.

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<v Speaker 2>It was always someone else's fault as to why that

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<v Speaker 2>was happening, why he was people choices.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry you had to go through that, because

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it is the worst, worst pain possible, especially

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<v Speaker 1>since you have you know, two beautiful daughters, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely get it's it's so hard and for the

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<v Speaker 1>longest time I stayed for my kids. And then realizing

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<v Speaker 1>the last time I found out about the next round

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<v Speaker 1>of affairs was my again breaking point because after a while,

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, all right, this is a seven year cycle.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not changing. Yeah, his words are just now I

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe anything he says because every time it just

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<v Speaker 1>keeps happening again and again, and you wonder, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I still there were times when I'm like, maybe this

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<v Speaker 1>time is the time he's going to change, maybe like

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<v Speaker 1>he finally realized it. But then you just come to

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<v Speaker 1>that I don't actually even care if he does, because

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<v Speaker 1>I can't stick around to find out. Yep. And for

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<v Speaker 1>you you know, now that you've been You've been single

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<v Speaker 1>for how many years? Two years?

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<v Speaker 2>I've been single for four. Our divorce has been final

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<v Speaker 2>for two, but I left four years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, have you been in serious relationships since your divorce?

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<v Speaker 2>I would say one, maybe semi serious relationship. It didn't

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<v Speaker 2>last long, but we were friends for like six months

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<v Speaker 2>prior to actually getting into the relationship, and so the

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<v Speaker 2>feelings came on pretty pretty quickly since we had known

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<v Speaker 2>each other for so long. But sure, just the one.

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<v Speaker 2>And where are you at now with love? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>do you want to find love? Do you want to

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<v Speaker 2>get married again? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Where? Where are you at with that?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I do? Actually, I believe in marriage. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that there are good people out there. I don't believe

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<v Speaker 2>everyone is my ex. I've been through a lot. I did, gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>three or four years of trauma therapy. I could gamdr

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<v Speaker 2>to just work through triggers and all of that. I everything,

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<v Speaker 2>So I finally feel like I'm like a whole, complete person.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like in the beginning I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>jump into something because I didn't want to bring my

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<v Speaker 2>past into my current relationship. But yeah, I just I

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<v Speaker 2>struggle with believing that I'm picking the right person. I

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<v Speaker 2>was so tricked the first time, and I don't I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't trust that I'm going to pick someone

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<v Speaker 2>who's not going to completely love bomb me, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to find out, you know, when it's too

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<v Speaker 2>late that oh wait, this isn't who I thought he was.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, it definitely is really hard to trust

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<v Speaker 1>yourself post divorce. I mean I kind of fell into

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<v Speaker 1>that same thing where after I got divorced. I essentially

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<v Speaker 1>picked kind of the same dude after my divorce, and then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what my therapist always said, though, is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in that situation, I go, god, I failed again. I

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<v Speaker 1>picked someone that was so similar and it was not

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<v Speaker 1>who he said he was. And she goes, but you

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<v Speaker 1>figured it out sooner this time, you know, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>seven years in. She's like, you were a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>months in. And she's like, and you were able to

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<v Speaker 1>see the red flags and you were able to get out.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, that is in itself, you know, victory, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and like you're like, you're you have that right there

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<v Speaker 1>proves that you can trust yourself a little bit, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you can trust yourself more than every time you

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<v Speaker 1>do it, and I think I have a girlfriend right now.

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<v Speaker 1>That's also you know, she's newly divorced and she's dating

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<v Speaker 1>and it's almost just like I told her, I said,

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<v Speaker 1>go out and just meet as many people take inventory

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<v Speaker 1>of it all, you know, like see what you actually

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<v Speaker 1>want because when she was in a long marriage for

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<v Speaker 1>a long time and she's like the guys and what

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<v Speaker 1>I've noticed too, and what you probably can see with

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<v Speaker 1>your ex now is like they showed you who they

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<v Speaker 1>were all along. It was just up to us to

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<v Speaker 1>to really go, Okay, this is this is who they are,

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<v Speaker 1>not what they smoke clouds of who they were making

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<v Speaker 1>them up to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I believe what they show you and not they Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and that's like how I think with trust. Everyone's like,

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<v Speaker 1>how do you trust your husband now? And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>for me, it's he says what he like, he he

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<v Speaker 1>does what he says, and he says what he does,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like he's his words and his actions match

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<v Speaker 1>every single day, And that to me is how I

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<v Speaker 1>can trust you know my husband now because before my

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<v Speaker 1>ex husband, there was his words and actions never aligned ever,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why I was like, but and then I

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<v Speaker 1>was made to feel like the crazy one. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>but you said this you're doing how, like, how does

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<v Speaker 1>this make sense?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Because it never It's just like crazy making and then

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<v Speaker 1>they make us feel crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. No, I didn't say that. I said this, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's not how this happened. Sometimes I just wanted like

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<v Speaker 2>cameras on the walls, like, you know, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>play back the film. That's not what you said. This

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<v Speaker 2>is not how this went down. Why do I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like a crazy person? Did I say that? You start

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<v Speaker 2>to like question your own sanity.

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<v Speaker 1>In the world of dating? Now are you? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>on apps?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing to get out there?

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<v Speaker 2>Todate? No? I did the apps. I hate the apps.

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<v Speaker 2>They're awful. I feel like, I don't know, it's like

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<v Speaker 2>a diamond and a rough you know, it's so hard

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<v Speaker 2>to find someone who genuinely wants be in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's more of like a hookup culture on the

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<v Speaker 2>apps or ghosting, Like you start talking to someone all

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<v Speaker 2>of a sudden, you're like, where did you go? I

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<v Speaker 2>thought we were having a really good conversation. Now you're gone.

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<v Speaker 2>So I got off the apps about eight nine months ago,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't know, like where do you meet people?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I always say I want to meet someone in

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<v Speaker 2>the wild and the grocery store. Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>in my twenties, people would approach you, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>at the bars or when you're just out doing life.

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<v Speaker 2>And I go out by myself all the time, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I when I don't have my kids, I can't just

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<v Speaker 2>stay cooped up in the house, and so I'll go

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<v Speaker 2>out to a bar or restaurant and have dinner and

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<v Speaker 2>sit by myself and nobody.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I would love that, really nobody. Ever, that doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean I really find that hard to believe because you're

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<v Speaker 1>you're beautiful, and the fact that you're going out there too,

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<v Speaker 1>it shows you have confidence to go sit there and

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<v Speaker 1>have you know, dinner by yourself. And are you the

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<v Speaker 1>kind of person that will approach somebody else?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't, sort of like I so like I encourage

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<v Speaker 2>my friends to when we're out, like, oh, you see

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<v Speaker 2>a cute guy, go talk to him. But then I

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<v Speaker 2>have this like old school mentality. I want to be pursued,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I want someone to have of confidence to come

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<v Speaker 2>out to me and to like just boldly be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>let's talk, let's go hang out, let's have dinner together

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<v Speaker 2>or something. So don't know if that feels like pursuing

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<v Speaker 2>someone else. If I'm like, hey, let's talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, here's an interesting thought. Because you live in California, right,

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<v Speaker 1>mm hmm, okay, Well, I'm going to be in California

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<v Speaker 1>for the iHeart jingle Ball Fest. So is your friend Elizabeth,

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<v Speaker 1>and so is my friend Kelly Bensimon. So would you

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<v Speaker 1>want to come? Actually, let's get Can we get Kelly on?

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<v Speaker 1>And then maybe we can entice you to come to

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<v Speaker 1>jingle Ball with us, and then we can try to

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<v Speaker 1>set you up with someone. Does that sound like a

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<v Speaker 1>plant's let's get Kelly on?

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<v Speaker 2>Kelly.

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<v Speaker 1>Whenever I feel like whenever I find someone that has

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<v Speaker 1>been that has the similar pass like I've had with

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<v Speaker 1>the cheating ex husband for multiple, multiple, multiple years and

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<v Speaker 1>multiple women, I have this like rideer die vibe that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I want to just go out and find help,

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<v Speaker 1>find you love because I feel like I got lucky

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<v Speaker 1>with my aftermath of that terrible traumatic years of my

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<v Speaker 1>life that I'm like, Kelly, can we gotta help my girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Rebecca out?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi?

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<v Speaker 3>Rebecca?

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<v Speaker 2>How are you hello?

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<v Speaker 1>Should we all go to jingle ball and then just

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<v Speaker 1>pimp out our girl Rebecca and just see what she's

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<v Speaker 1>doing wrong, help her because I am like world's best

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<v Speaker 1>wing woman.

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<v Speaker 3>So, oh my god, me too. I am like there

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<v Speaker 3>for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry, but Kelly, you're also single though, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm gonna have to like, we're gonna have to,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, to find you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Three Elizabeth will be there. We need three good guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, RecA, It's gonna be so much fun. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>have the best time. And you know what, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>what the thing is too, is like when you're in

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<v Speaker 3>a good mood with with fun with friends that you

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<v Speaker 3>really like, then you meet like really great people. So

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<v Speaker 3>I'm super excited to hang out with you and we're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna have the best time.

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<v Speaker 1>Rebecca, are you in?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh. I love this so much. It's another

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to put yourself in a place where you might

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<v Speaker 1>not have gone. And then the fact that you know

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<v Speaker 1>all of us girls will be there, so we'll be

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<v Speaker 1>we'll be definitely routin me on what are you most

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<v Speaker 1>nervous about with finding your next love? And then what

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<v Speaker 1>are you most looking.

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<v Speaker 2>Forward to, like I said, nervous about the red flags

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<v Speaker 2>like just not seeing something and somebody kind of getting

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<v Speaker 2>stuck in that like moving too fast, because when you

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<v Speaker 2>really like someone, you know, like it tends to go quickly.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't want I don't want to like rush

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<v Speaker 2>into the next relationship. But I also don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>like put my last relationship like in the forefront of

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<v Speaker 2>my new one, right, I don't want to hold that

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<v Speaker 2>against the next person, where like they do something and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm comparing it to my last relationship. Do they do

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<v Speaker 2>You ever get to the point where you're not just

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<v Speaker 2>like looking for red flags the entire time you're dating somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmm, I mean yeah, I was looking like for the

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<v Speaker 1>first couple probably. I mean mine only lasted for the

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<v Speaker 1>first couple of months. I feel like I moved maybe

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<v Speaker 1>only like the first month. I was like trying to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out the red flags. But when when I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>finding any, and I'm like, all right, I'm jumping all

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<v Speaker 1>like head in because I feel like everyone's or feet first.

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<v Speaker 1>But everyone always says, well, don't go too fast, don't

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<v Speaker 1>go too fast. But I also know people that have

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<v Speaker 1>met someone and fast and then they have the most

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<v Speaker 1>amazing marriage years years in. So yeah, I jumped in

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<v Speaker 1>fast with my ex too, but it was so different

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<v Speaker 1>from my now husband.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, there's like that confidence he felt peace that

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<v Speaker 2>like he was a yeah that he was Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree too, Like right now, like you and I

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<v Speaker 3>and Rebecca are in the same kind of headspace, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I just am like open to meeting new people,

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<v Speaker 3>and I haven't really like I thought about you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not trying to put any like boundaries or parameters

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<v Speaker 3>on anyone. I'm just trying to be like, Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>really interested and I want to know more about you.

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<v Speaker 3>And my friends are saying to me, you have to

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<v Speaker 3>ask questions. So I'm not a question asker. I am

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<v Speaker 3>a just like hang out with you kind of feel

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<v Speaker 3>who you are. But I'm not like, why did you

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<v Speaker 3>guys seech forced what was your last marriage? Like you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just.

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<v Speaker 1>Noth my god, I am so that person. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>why what happened? Would you? Did you? Did you do that?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I have to know every and that's that's like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe my toxic trade. I don't know, but I just like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's get to it because I don't want to waste

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<v Speaker 1>my time. I've got two kids at home, Like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not wasting not wasting any time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, how soon do you, like do you introduce your

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<v Speaker 2>kids to? Like I feel like when you have feelings

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<v Speaker 2>for someone, like I don't want to fall in love

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<v Speaker 2>with someone, and then like introduce some of my kids

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<v Speaker 2>and my kids and that person don't chibe and I'm like, sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>see you, what do you do with that?

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<v Speaker 1>I I kind of always did like the three month rule.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that was, and so I only

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<v Speaker 1>introduced them to you know, so an X and then

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<v Speaker 1>my now husband, but I was yeah, three months is

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<v Speaker 1>kind of what I was, but my ex and I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of agreed to. But it's more, it's hard because

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in your forties, I feel like things just

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<v Speaker 1>move faster anyways, at least for me it did, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's like you just cut the bullshit and you go

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<v Speaker 1>straight too. All right, what does this look like? And

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<v Speaker 1>because you have to be I feel like you have

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<v Speaker 1>to cut the bullshit when you've got kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, dating with a purpose. I'm not just dating

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<v Speaker 2>for fun, Like I'm dating exactly to meet someone longer.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not on tender you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So my kids are so much older. They're you know,

0:23:50.840 --> 0:23:55.000
<v Speaker 3>twenty four and twenty six, and so they're the ones

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<v Speaker 3>that when we're out, they're like, Mommy, he's good looking, Mommy,

0:23:58.000 --> 0:24:00.159
<v Speaker 3>he looks like something that you would like. And so

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<v Speaker 3>it's weird because like they're with me, and I'm like, no, no,

0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:06.439
<v Speaker 3>you're not supposed to be like out here with me

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<v Speaker 3>in the jungle. You guys are supposed to be like

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<v Speaker 3>forging your own path, like leave me alone. But it's

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<v Speaker 3>been really sweet to see them. But when they were younger,

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<v Speaker 3>like you know, I mean, I you know, work with

0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.840
<v Speaker 3>a lot of different men and people, and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>they never even thought for one minute like if I

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<v Speaker 3>was dating someone and less until like they came to

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<v Speaker 3>like dinner, like we would have like a dinner and

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<v Speaker 3>be like, oh, like you know, which want to all

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<v Speaker 3>have fun. And but I never like made like an

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<v Speaker 3>actual introduction until you know, I was, I was, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>really considering being with them and I and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>even with my last relationship, you know, he had kids

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<v Speaker 3>and I just was like, hold off on the kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's you know, I'm not you know, Barbie let's just

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<v Speaker 3>keep everything. Like, you know, I'm not the fun friend

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<v Speaker 3>over here. Like all the kids, you know, when they're younger,

0:24:55.800 --> 0:24:57.760
<v Speaker 3>they're like, oh, she hare a babysit. I'm like, no, no, not.

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<v Speaker 2>She could be.

0:25:02.200 --> 0:25:04.080
<v Speaker 3>One guy went on a date with for Halloween and

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<v Speaker 3>I was bam bam and his little daughter was like,

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<v Speaker 3>my babysitter is here.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no no, no, no no no. I'm not the

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<v Speaker 2>baby hitter. So that means another question, Like, so everyone

0:25:15.480 --> 0:25:19.000
<v Speaker 2>parents so differently, Like I diated this guy, So the

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<v Speaker 2>guy that I was in a relationship with, like, we

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<v Speaker 2>parented very different. It's like when is it okay like

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<v Speaker 2>or is it okay to like step in and be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>something's got to change here, like in order to mingle

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<v Speaker 2>two families together, right in order to have like he

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<v Speaker 2>has kids, I have kids, and we're gonna parent and

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<v Speaker 2>be married. Like when do you start like disciplining someone

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<v Speaker 2>else's kids or having a say in how they parent

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<v Speaker 2>or I mean both ways. I'm not a perfect parent.

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<v Speaker 2>None of us are perfect. Your parent were winging it,

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<v Speaker 2>but like you get involved.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like my my husband did a good a

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<v Speaker 1>good job with that where he it took him. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he's just now is because because I've asked him too,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, I can't always be because the kids

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<v Speaker 1>are with me seventy percent of the time, with us

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<v Speaker 1>seventy percent of the time, so they're only at their

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<v Speaker 1>dads like eight days a month, and so it's like

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<v Speaker 1>for us, it's like, I'm like, I can't be the

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<v Speaker 1>only person that is disciplining the kids because then they're

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<v Speaker 1>not going to even want to be here because if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm always like guys, guys, guys and riding them all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. So it's like, Alan, I really need you

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<v Speaker 1>to step in and like when you hear Julia or Jace,

0:26:29.480 --> 0:26:32.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, start to mouth off or do something. And

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<v Speaker 1>they're really good kids, so it's not like that a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>but still I'm like I need, like I need that

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<v Speaker 1>support so that I'm not the only parent doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he's like, yeah, now that you know we're

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<v Speaker 1>married and you know, but it's not a mom still

0:26:44.680 --> 0:26:47.240
<v Speaker 1>has that like at the end of the day, we're

0:26:47.240 --> 0:26:50.080
<v Speaker 1>still the ones that are like, guys, stop it or

0:26:50.200 --> 0:26:53.760
<v Speaker 1>let's go or you know. But I think it's just

0:26:54.880 --> 0:26:58.360
<v Speaker 1>in time, you'll know, they'll and they'll know and you'll

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<v Speaker 1>know when the right time is to be like, hey,

0:27:00.119 --> 0:27:02.520
<v Speaker 1>doesn't fly here, or we don't do that or so

0:27:02.560 --> 0:27:04.280
<v Speaker 1>I think it's it's I don't think there's like a

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<v Speaker 1>time per se. But I think it's just more of

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<v Speaker 1>like a I don't think it's I don't think the

0:27:10.280 --> 0:27:12.680
<v Speaker 1>guys should come right in and start disciplining the second

0:27:12.720 --> 0:27:14.840
<v Speaker 1>they move into the house or start being run your kids.

0:27:14.960 --> 0:27:17.040
<v Speaker 1>You know, obviously that wouldn't be cool because then they're

0:27:17.040 --> 0:27:20.520
<v Speaker 1>not gonna like the guy. But I think it's just

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<v Speaker 1>it's a it's a gradual thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess, like when my kids were younger, you know,

0:27:24.600 --> 0:27:26.880
<v Speaker 3>we also just to give them a framework. I used

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<v Speaker 3>to like always say, like Ben's Simons have rules. We

0:27:30.720 --> 0:27:33.080
<v Speaker 3>do s things in a certain way. And so then

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:37.720
<v Speaker 3>my kids would then say, Ben Simons have rules, this

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<v Speaker 3>is what we do. So it was interesting because like

0:27:40.480 --> 0:27:42.639
<v Speaker 3>it was the different dynamic my kids were saying, this

0:27:42.720 --> 0:27:45.720
<v Speaker 3>is how we do things. This is our framework. Basically,

0:27:45.880 --> 0:27:49.000
<v Speaker 3>like you either come on board with that or we're

0:27:49.040 --> 0:27:55.120
<v Speaker 3>not gonna I guess they're like, you have to meet

0:27:55.119 --> 0:27:57.040
<v Speaker 3>my kids. I mean, oh my god, I'm back at two.

0:27:57.200 --> 0:27:58.639
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I can't wait for you to meet them.

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<v Speaker 3>They're such great kids. But I've been so lucky that

0:28:01.280 --> 0:28:06.399
<v Speaker 3>they were so just solid, just very especially living in

0:28:06.400 --> 0:28:08.119
<v Speaker 3>New York. I mean, I think that raising kids in

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:11.639
<v Speaker 3>New York is just like very very difficult, and I

0:28:11.720 --> 0:28:13.679
<v Speaker 3>was just really proud to raise them and to have

0:28:14.000 --> 0:28:16.639
<v Speaker 3>them be who they are. But you know, they I

0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:20.439
<v Speaker 3>kept instilling in them like Ben Simones have rules, and

0:28:20.480 --> 0:28:23.119
<v Speaker 3>I would say that around my acts as kids, like

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:25.159
<v Speaker 3>Ben Simones have rules and this is what we do

0:28:25.200 --> 0:28:27.679
<v Speaker 3>and this is how we do things. That's not like

0:28:28.160 --> 0:28:31.320
<v Speaker 3>their rules. That's like here's our framework. If you guys

0:28:31.359 --> 0:28:33.439
<v Speaker 3>want to come and play in our sandbox, like, this

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:34.080
<v Speaker 3>is what we do.

0:28:35.000 --> 0:28:36.240
<v Speaker 2>So that's what I did.

0:28:36.240 --> 0:28:39.800
<v Speaker 3>But I think it's always like yes that like you

0:28:39.920 --> 0:28:42.200
<v Speaker 3>don't know until you're in it, do you know what

0:28:42.200 --> 0:28:45.000
<v Speaker 3>I mean? Like you might feel really loving, you might

0:28:45.080 --> 0:28:47.000
<v Speaker 3>be like, oh my god, this person needs you know,

0:28:47.360 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 3>like you know, we're nurturing and we want.

0:28:50.720 --> 0:28:51.880
<v Speaker 2>You know, the best for the kids.

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:55.560
<v Speaker 3>And but sometimes you know, the fathers they really do know.

0:28:55.720 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 3>I mean, sometimes they're really good about parenting kids, and

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:00.480
<v Speaker 3>sometimes they're like, oh, these are the rules, and like

0:29:00.520 --> 0:29:02.320
<v Speaker 3>you don't even have kids, you don't know what the rules,

0:29:02.960 --> 0:29:05.760
<v Speaker 3>You don't know what you're talking about. Just enjoy, Just

0:29:05.880 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 3>enjoy the family and have fun and like eat the cookies.

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:11.800
<v Speaker 1>And go home. Yeah, and I think, you know, to

0:29:11.880 --> 0:29:15.320
<v Speaker 1>not get ahead of ourselves either where it's like let's

0:29:15.440 --> 0:29:18.320
<v Speaker 1>just baby, not baby, step it in, but let's just

0:29:18.560 --> 0:29:20.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, the first step is getting you to iHeart

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:25.360
<v Speaker 1>jingle ball, and then after that it's finding connecting you

0:29:25.400 --> 0:29:28.760
<v Speaker 1>with someone that a deserves your love and that is

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:32.840
<v Speaker 1>worthy of your love and that will protect your heart

0:29:32.840 --> 0:29:34.920
<v Speaker 1>and all this because you know, like you said, and

0:29:35.240 --> 0:29:38.040
<v Speaker 1>I agree to not every not every man is like

0:29:38.080 --> 0:29:42.719
<v Speaker 1>our ex and so you know that's the mission is

0:29:42.720 --> 0:29:46.240
<v Speaker 1>to go to go, you know, find to find the

0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:48.960
<v Speaker 1>love that we all deserve because they are out there

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:53.800
<v Speaker 1>and maybe we just you know, we were looking at

0:29:54.160 --> 0:29:57.560
<v Speaker 1>the signs and we didn't really pay attention to them

0:29:57.600 --> 0:30:00.120
<v Speaker 1>as we should. But now we are paying attention, and

0:30:01.320 --> 0:30:03.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, I think that's what's important now is we

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:07.440
<v Speaker 1>have a better set of eyes on things.

0:30:06.840 --> 0:30:09.280
<v Speaker 3>Nice and we're you and I are in it together, Rebecca.

0:30:09.480 --> 0:30:11.840
<v Speaker 3>So it's like anytime you're like, oh my god, that

0:30:11.880 --> 0:30:14.479
<v Speaker 3>reminds me of something like I'm here for you. So

0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:17.840
<v Speaker 3>you know we can talk about talk about talk through.

0:30:19.200 --> 0:30:21.080
<v Speaker 3>You know, I'm going to be a good sounding board

0:30:21.120 --> 0:30:24.440
<v Speaker 3>for you because we're like on the same level and

0:30:24.960 --> 0:30:27.920
<v Speaker 3>you know we're both going through it together. So you

0:30:27.920 --> 0:30:29.600
<v Speaker 3>know what, I'm going to need you too. I'm going

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:31.200
<v Speaker 3>to be like, wait a minute, what do we do here?

0:30:31.320 --> 0:30:32.000
<v Speaker 3>What happened?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's going to be so so fun. So along

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0:30:52.240 --> 0:30:54.719
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<v Speaker 2>Awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you guys. All right, we'll see you soon.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye, And my husband can help us also be a wingman,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so he can. He's got a really good

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