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Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one,

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Speaker 1: behind a scene with a member of the show.

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Speaker 2: Merry Almost Christmas, everybody, welcome to the Best Bits. It's

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Speaker 2: part one. I've got Amy joining mean me this.

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Speaker 1: Weekend words or something this weekend?

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Speaker 2: Amy? Hey, hey, hey, it's almost Christmas. You know the

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Speaker 2: words are mentioned together. The brain is mush.

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Speaker 1: We've recorded a lot today, so.

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Speaker 2: So I don't have the THT process happening anymore.

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Speaker 1: I got a warm up again?

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Speaker 2: What did you used to do? The uh do? What?

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Speaker 2: No dough?

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Speaker 1: Ray do? Ray do?

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Speaker 2: There's another one. There's like a word like.

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Speaker 1: To sing, Oh, unique New York? Or how now brown cow?

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Speaker 2: Ow? Now brown cow? I remember unique? Yeah, you're a

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Speaker 2: unique New York, Unique New York.

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Speaker 1: Oh now brown cow? How now brown cow? Yep? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know any others. Those the only ones I did.

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Speaker 2: There used to be another one that I thought for

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Speaker 2: I was like always my singing lessons. They would do

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Speaker 2: these warm ups, and now I can't remember any of them. Anyways.

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Speaker 2: How's life, Amy? How are you doing going into the holidays?

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Speaker 1: I am doing great and I'm ready to go to

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Speaker 1: Colorado and see my sister. Is that what you guys

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Speaker 1: are doing yep, and I cannot wait. And she's so sweet.

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Speaker 1: She sent me a video yesterday of her fireplace and

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Speaker 1: of course it looks beautiful because she decorated it like

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Speaker 1: the garland and stockings, and I don't know how she

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Speaker 1: does it. It looks like it's out of a magazine.

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Speaker 1: And she got stockings made for me and Stashar and

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Speaker 1: Stevenson like they're hanging just because they're matching. She has

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Speaker 1: their red and green velvet for her whole family and

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Speaker 1: they've had them for years. And she had some maid

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Speaker 1: that say BB which is what her kids call me,

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Speaker 1: and Steven sent is to Shira and so I was

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Speaker 1: going to pack our stockings and take them, but now

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Speaker 1: I don't have to.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's so sweet.

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Speaker 1: I think she liked the cohesive vibe. Yeah, so it

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Speaker 1: was sweet and she did it to be thoughtful, and

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Speaker 1: also I think she likes that it's going to look

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Speaker 1: the same. She'd also asked me if my gifts had

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Speaker 1: been wrapped yet and what I was planning on wrapping

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Speaker 1: when I got there or what, and what my paper

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Speaker 1: was looked like, because I think she likes it to all.

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Speaker 2: She has an aesthetic.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's like, no, I'd be fine with anything,

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Speaker 1: but I'll go ahead and have some stuff here for you.

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Speaker 1: Because I said, oh, well, when I get to town,

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Speaker 1: I was just gonna go to Walmart and pick up stuff.

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Speaker 1: She's like okay, yeah, well she's like I already got

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Speaker 1: things from there, so we're good, like perfect. I'm like

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Speaker 1: the look at her sister. There was some real I

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Speaker 1: came across yesterday. I was talking about different siblings and

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Speaker 1: how they react when it's holidays, and the oldest is like, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I land at four pm if Grandma could pick me up,

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Speaker 1: Da da da very organized together, and then the youngest

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Speaker 1: is like, shoot, I forgot to book my flight. Can

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Speaker 1: anybody spot me some money? Because I need about eight

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Speaker 1: hundred dollars? And I was like, that's yeah.

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Speaker 2: That's both of us. I'm always coming in hot from

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Speaker 2: especially because I'll always drive back to Kansas, so I'm

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Speaker 2: always coming in like so hot. I'm like, I don't

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Speaker 2: know what time I'm actually leaving. You guys will see

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Speaker 2: me at some point on this day and all my

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Speaker 2: stuff is in my car and it looks like I'm

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Speaker 2: bringing like my whole home back with me and I'm

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Speaker 2: just like pure chaos. I mean, my old there's the

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Speaker 2: has like wrapped all the presents for my parents that

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Speaker 2: we do together because she it all gets sent to

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Speaker 2: her and she it's all taken care of. She's like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: we're ready. And I'm like thankful for you because I

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Speaker 2: was not so welcome to youngest siblings. Yeah at Christmas time?

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Speaker 2: How is it so this year? You didn't have the

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Speaker 2: kids last year for Christmas? Right? So this is your year? Correct?

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Speaker 1: And we're both going to be in Colorado. Ben will

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Speaker 2: And is there any plans to see each other or

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Speaker 2: is it more happens dance If it.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure we will at some point because his family

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Speaker 1: and then we'll fly out, and then next Friday they'll

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Speaker 1: on Friday to Friday. Oh good, and then I'll come

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Speaker 1: the break. So so you'll be here.

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Speaker 2: For New Year's Yes, any big plans for New Year's No? Okay? Good?

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Speaker 1: Is that?

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Speaker 2: Are you like happy about that? Or you're not?

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Speaker 1: Fine? Being more low key which some people know some

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Speaker 1: people don't. But that's my wedding anniversary. We have talked

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Speaker 1: low key. I think we're just gonna do like something

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Speaker 1: of the house and celebrate for sure at New York midnight,

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Speaker 1: not Nashville midnight, because it's ahead of the time. It's

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Speaker 1: actual ball drops. Probably got it, okay, Yeah, what about you?

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Speaker 2: Well, going home for Christmas and then the day after Christmas,

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Speaker 2: I head to Europe.

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Speaker 1: I know, I'm so jealous and excited.

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Speaker 2: I will I'll give you the full lowdown because I

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Speaker 2: am going to Paris, that's one of the stops. We'll

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Speaker 2: be in Barcelona for New Year's Eve, that's the plan.

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Speaker 2: Don't know what we're doing. We're like kind of winging

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you're gonna come back really really tired,

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Speaker 1: but it's gonna be worth it. It won I'm proud

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Speaker 1: of you for booking this and just make making it happen.

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Speaker 2: You know. I mean I I was thinking about this

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Speaker 2: look at my breakup in this season and how much

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Speaker 2: And I feel more thankful that that ended than I

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Speaker 2: have at all this year. Like when it happened, I

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Speaker 1: First time I felt like that gratitude. Yeah, you couldn't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because when we were that are helpful because when

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Speaker 1: For the Thanksgiving, the Christmas then you would be in it, dimming.

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Speaker 1: sure he would have been okay with you. Yeah, you're

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Speaker 2: And not what I like pictured in my head for holiday.

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to have first memories with them because

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Speaker 2: I've done so many things. And I just kind of

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Speaker 2: Is that probably likely, No, I will probably meet somebody amazing,

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Speaker 2: horrible experience for me because that was out there. Second one,

437
00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:24,879
Speaker 2: I was like, nothing, you will know nothing. There's no nickname,

438
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,160
Speaker 2: there's no anything. I'm never going to post him whatever.

439
00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:29,639
Speaker 2: And then that they're one, was like, Okay, here's a nickname.

440
00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:32,480
Speaker 2: Maybe I'll get a hand. Here's like a little half

441
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,960
Speaker 2: and a half. It's like, I've had the different variations,

442
00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 2: So I think it makes sense that you're being cautious.

443
00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:41,240
Speaker 2: I think you learn a lot from your experiences. And

444
00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:43,400
Speaker 2: your experience with them was that you shared so much

445
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,679
Speaker 2: and it stayed with all of that for decades.

446
00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he well and Ben was so private, but

447
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:51,600
Speaker 1: he was gone a lot, so he wasn't able to listen.

448
00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:53,560
Speaker 1: So I was like, ah, Plus we were dating, so

449
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:55,719
Speaker 1: it's not like I thought we were going to get married.

450
00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:58,000
Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden things just escalated quickly

451
00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:00,840
Speaker 1: and we did get married and became a whole thing.

452
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:05,399
Speaker 1: So I think it's just yeah, the person would be

453
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:10,280
Speaker 1: fine with it, but there are kids for both of us.

454
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,920
Speaker 1: So are you happy, yes.

455
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:17,000
Speaker 2: Very and enjoying yourself in this new phase of life.

456
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's easy. I like it. That's a good things.

457
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,800
Speaker 1: I know that sometimes easy can be like, oh, but

458
00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 1: it's trust me, there are It has its own challenges

459
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:36,280
Speaker 1: and one day that may be more known. But I

460
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 1: think our whole, the whole thing has been with caution

461
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:43,399
Speaker 1: because of certain things. Ah. So yeah, you're like, you

462
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:44,360
Speaker 1: start saying more and more.

463
00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:46,479
Speaker 2: No, I'm trying to make sure I'm not pushing them

464
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:47,320
Speaker 2: different directions.

465
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 1: I'm asking you very base why Yeah, okay, Yeah, we'll

466
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,400
Speaker 1: see what happens over the break, and then we may

467
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: have an update. I don't know, Okay, all right, maybe

468
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:01,919
Speaker 1: one day I just get crazy and post something.

469
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,320
Speaker 2: I did see you post a little soft lunch situation

470
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 2: at one point, yeah, like choosing Yeah, and then I

471
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,040
Speaker 2: saw all the comments just giggling. I was like, I

472
00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 2: think this is a version of that, but I'm not

473
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 2: quite sure. I guess it Yeah, that's what it is.

474
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just liked that picture. I liked that night.

475
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: It was an impromptu, just little happy hour, like we

476
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,800
Speaker 1: just popped in this one place, had one drink and

477
00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: then left, so okay, oh I'm gonna take a quick

478
00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:32,600
Speaker 1: pic of this. And that was just so I guess

479
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 1: that was what do they call it? A carousel? Yeah,

480
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,600
Speaker 1: you had a little photo dump some memories and that

481
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:40,120
Speaker 1: was in there. And I'm scrolling through my phone right now,

482
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 1: I have so many pictures.

483
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 2: Anyway, there gonna be a potential section of soft lunch

484
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 2: over the holidays.

485
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 1: I any point. I mean, I'm not like trying. I

486
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,439
Speaker 1: don't know. I feel like I don't know that there

487
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 1: needs to be another soft because I'm not trying to

488
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:55,719
Speaker 1: be weird about it. I guess it's just parts of

489
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,720
Speaker 1: my life. Also, I want to remember, I mean, that's

490
00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:02,640
Speaker 1: my Instagram's not just it's public. Yes, but looking back,

491
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: I want to go through and be like, oh, yeah,

492
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,439
Speaker 1: I remember that. They we were just driving along and

493
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 1: then we were like, wait, pull over, let's pop in

494
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 1: there and get a little cocktail. And then yeah, that's

495
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 1: all that okay, fun stuff on here, So we'll see.

496
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 2: All right, I'm not pushing it anymore.

497
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:20,119
Speaker 1: I'm allowing you know, listeners are really like, okay, shout up.

498
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: If you're not going to tell us a.

499
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 2: Goodbye, No, I think they love hearing the little happiness

500
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,360
Speaker 2: and joys in your voice. I think you are very happy.

501
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 2: I can attest to that.

502
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:29,199
Speaker 1: Thank you.

503
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll tell you. So. I had I had prepped this,

504
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 2: but it it didn't make it, and it might you

505
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,120
Speaker 2: might see a version of it, we'll see, who knows.

506
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 2: But I had prepped like a dating rapped. Have you

507
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 2: been seeing this online? No?

508
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 1: What is that?

509
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: So? Like? You know how there's like all these different

510
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:47,120
Speaker 2: streaming platforms that are doing like sharing their wrapped for people,

511
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,639
Speaker 2: their artists that they loved over the ear of the

512
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 2: podcast they were listening to.

513
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 1: What are you saying rapped?

514
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:56,959
Speaker 2: Rapped like w R a pp ed Okay, wrapped like

515
00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:00,679
Speaker 2: you're wrapped for the year. It's like a summing up

516
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 2: your year listening to music in a tiny bow or

517
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:04,440
Speaker 2: into podcasting.

518
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 1: Okay, I did not know it was called that, but

519
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:07,439
Speaker 1: I get it out. Sorry.

520
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 2: I was like, am I saying that weird? I could

521
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,640
Speaker 2: have been, but also you could think I was saying

522
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 2: like rapped like I'm rapping a yeah, like a song. Yes, okay,

523
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 2: Well I put together my dating rapped and I'm just

524
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 2: gonna give you, like, look at my key little presentation

525
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,479
Speaker 2: I made. It's adorable. It was like pink and orange

526
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 2: and bright and fun. We went all out, Okay, I did,

527
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 2: but I'm going to give it to you because we

528
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 2: didn't do it on the show, at least for now

529
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 2: at the point of this recording. So basically the case

530
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,439
Speaker 2: subject is myself. I'm thirty one years old, I live

531
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 2: in Nashville, and I am an independent, stubborn and massive

532
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 2: animal lover. Those are some qualities about me. And I

533
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 2: went on ten first dates in twenty twenty four.

534
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, good for you and we.

535
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: Four of them I met on hinge. Three were met

536
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:57,360
Speaker 2: in person, which is wild, I RL. Two were setups

537
00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:00,399
Speaker 2: from people, and one came from Instagram. This is how

538
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 2: I met all these first dates. The dates. One resulted

539
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 2: in a relationship man in uniform, three did not live

540
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: in Nashville. Five resulted in a second date. And I

541
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 2: had five first kisses.

542
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 1: So you kissed half of them?

543
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:22,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and some of them transpired further than like

544
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 2: a second date. Some were like a couple of dates

545
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 2: for a whole So yeah there was someone there. Okay,

546
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:33,360
Speaker 2: location of first dates. One was on a walk, four

547
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 2: were dinner, four were at a bar, and then one

548
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:39,679
Speaker 2: has a question marked by it. But it was a

549
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 2: CMA after party. That's kind of where we were in

550
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 2: that it transpired into a day. It was the whole thing.

551
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm curious how that turns into a date.

552
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:52,399
Speaker 2: But uh, it was like a version. Yeah, we're putting

553
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 2: in that category because it was a it was a

554
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 2: long night. What did they do for a living? What

555
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 2: do you think they did for a living? What do

556
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 2: you think I'll be on here?

557
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 1: One was in a uniform.

558
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 2: We do know that about one of them.

559
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: I have I were any of them in the industry? No, surprisingly,

560
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 1: not even record label type stuff. No, because you said

561
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 1: CMA after party. Yeah no, okay, No, I don't know vedinarian.

562
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: No, but that'd be cool. I would love to day

563
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,600
Speaker 2: a veterinarian. Two were in the military, four were in business,

564
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 2: so like that coming all over the board. One was

565
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 2: in social media, and three I forgot what they did now,

566
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 2: so who knows.

567
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 1: So a guy in social media was he an influencer.

568
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 1: He worked a branding influencer. Oh really a guy influencer.

569
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but not an influencer that you would not like

570
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 2: what you're probably picturing.

571
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 1: Did he have a niche?

572
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 2: Yeah?

573
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: What was it?

574
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: Jokes? Okay, I'll show you off, but like not like

575
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 2: not your picture in probably like Kristin Cavalari's ex, the

576
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 2: young one, right, who he's like an influencer. Oh you

577
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 2: talk about yeah, not like that?

578
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: No, is it? I mean I don't he's an influencer.

579
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: I just feel like he's a TikTok famous.

580
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 2: I mean that's an influencer.

581
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,679
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so not like that. Okay.

582
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 2: Different variation reasons we stopped dating. Okay, One religion differences.

583
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 2: One he ghosted. We heard about that one, literally ghosting

584
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,880
Speaker 2: and Halloween ironic one. Uh, he didn't want to celebrate

585
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 2: my birthday. We also heard about that one in a variation.

586
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 2: Two we didn't live in the same city. Equally, We're

587
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 2: just like, this probably isn't gonna work. Two there was

588
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 2: just no connection, and three he was Three of them

589
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 2: were emotionally unavailable.

590
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 1: Oh you could tell that that quickly, Yes.

591
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 2: Really really strongly emotionally unavailable. I think the the older

592
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 2: I get, the more quicker I can pick up on things,

593
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 2: especially the experiences I've had. So those are those, and

594
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 2: then some lessons I've learned from dating. This is my

595
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 2: last side. You'll be okay after being blindsided by a breakup.

596
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: Men are still emotionally unavailable past the age of thirty.

597
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 2: Really really wasn't prepared for that one.

598
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I've yeah, I don't know someone in their fifties.

599
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 1: It's unavailable emotionally.

600
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 2: So past the age.

601
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 1: It is tricky because he seemed secure, and then he's

602
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: avoidant because he doesn't want to get too vulnerable. But

603
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 1: oftentimes avoidance will come across as secure. Yeah, in the

604
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:29,879
Speaker 1: very beginning tricky.

605
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 2: It is tricky. You have to stop waiting for a

606
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 2: partner to arrive to live your life. We were just

607
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 2: talking about that. Meeting in real life is more romantic.

608
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: I had dated, like so many people from dating apps,

609
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 2: but this experiences year, I've met more people in real

610
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:49,479
Speaker 2: life and it's just been more fun, more like, Okay,

611
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 2: I like dating, not I'm dating for an app kind

612
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: of version, So it's been more fun. If you're on

613
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 2: dating apps prepared to be a raccoon, what does that mean,

614
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 2: like you're gonna have to sift through some trash, You're

615
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 2: gonna have to go. Yeah, you gotta be prepared, So

616
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 2: be a raccoon. If you're on the dating apps. Never

617
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 2: ghost somebody. Never, I you know how to being that

618
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 2: experience Again. As I'm like thirty one, I'm like, are

619
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 2: we really still this emotionally amateur? We don't know how

620
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 2: to communicate? Let's not. And I made sure to communicate

621
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 2: with all of mine. When they were ending that, I

622
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,199
Speaker 2: was like, this is not even tho. It was awkward

623
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 2: and I hated it, and the text sending the text

624
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: was you know, it gives you a little deeper's creeper situation,

625
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:28,880
Speaker 2: but you do it. You have to do it.

626
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,159
Speaker 1: So there was this one guy. I only met up

627
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 1: with them once for like a quick drink and at

628
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: like four pm and I had an out, like I

629
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: had a work thing I had to go, and he

630
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: asked me out again, and I sent a note so

631
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: they didn't want a ghost. And then he didn't reply

632
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: because it's just kindly saying this is not gonna work,

633
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: and he just didn't reply. And then three months later

634
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: Kat and I talked about this on the fifth thing

635
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: my podcast and I randomly got a reply from him

636
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: like three months later that was like, okay, thank you,

637
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what are to die alive? I don't know.

638
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 1: I just assumed he was ignoring me, But I don't know.

639
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: It's so weird, huh. I don't even have that same

640
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: number anymore.

641
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 2: But yeah, that one's not normal in any capacity. Like

642
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 2: I guess I get it as like a week later

643
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 2: because maybe he had some crazy.

644
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: Work trip or whatever, but like, no, no, no, three

645
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 1: months it's weird. So also there's that if someone is

646
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 1: put together a thoughtful reply that's gonna maturely and things.

647
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: At least you could do is double tap it thumbs

648
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 1: up within three months later. I wonder if he was like,

649
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: oh shoot, I never replied to that, I better send

650
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: it now. But you would think you'd be like, it's

651
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: been three months.

652
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 2: That is insane. I cannot believe he responded then, weird.

653
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna choose to believe that he like dropped

654
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 2: off the map and like his phone got through into

655
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 2: an ocean or something.

656
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: But then you would say, hey, sorry, I'm just now

657
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: replying my phone fell in the ocean.

658
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 2: That's the only way that I can like process that

659
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 2: in my brain. Yeah, but see this is crazy things

660
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 2: that you experienced dating and wow, I really don't have

661
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 2: the words for that one. The last thing that I

662
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 2: have on here that I learned is you can't say

663
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 2: the wrong thing to the right person. So if you're

664
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: healing and you're growing and you're sharing your experiences, if

665
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 2: it's the right person that you're supposed to be with,

666
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: they're not gonna scare away easy. You're gonna be able

667
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 2: to communicate with them. You're gonna be able to share

668
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 2: your feelings and obviously, like if you're being a straight

669
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 2: up jerk, yeah, that's probably gonna turn some people off.

670
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: But mean and the flip side of that too. Sometimes

671
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: you feel like you can't do or say anything right,

672
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 1: Like maybe you can't that's not.

673
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 2: Your person, say the you can't say the right thing.

674
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 1: Right to the wrong person or something. How would we

675
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: say that? Give me the original quote.

676
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 2: You can't say the wrong thing to the.

677
00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: Right person, Okay, and then you can't say the right

678
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: thing to the wrong person.

679
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: There you go, Yeah, yeah, you know I was. I

680
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 2: remember one of these dates that I was sitting on

681
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: and it was the guy who wasn't gonna celebrate remember

682
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 2: it then and before that had happened, I said, you know,

683
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm too much, and I remember having

684
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 2: that feeling, and I was like, I think this is it,

685
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 2: this is the moment. Yeah, I'm no. Yeah, like I'm

686
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 2: recognizing you're making me feel like I'm too much and

687
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 2: I'm not well.

688
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: To be fair, he can't make you feel like you're

689
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 1: You're the one that feels it.

690
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, because of what he's gerating. His actions were making

691
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 2: me feel that way.

692
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: Yeah.

693
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 2: So those are my lessons learned. That's my dating raft

694
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 2: of twenty twenty four.

695
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 1: And that's fun.

696
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 2: I might do a little video of it or something.

697
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 2: We'll see, but yeah, he little pink presentation.

698
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, okay, I think going on, how many

699
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: did you think?

700
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 2: That?

701
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: As like an outline and then people fill it in

702
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: for themselves. There are three people, three first dates in

703
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four.

704
00:31:55,800 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: Okay, that's not bad. How many turned into a second date? Uh?

705
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: Two?

706
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 2: Okay? Only first kisses?

707
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 1: Oh not, but not on the first state.

708
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 2: It's okay, just like it's like your first kisses. Oh two, okay,

709
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: we had two? Where were the other ones? Oh? Where

710
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 2: did you meet them? Uh?

711
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 1: One on hinge, oh, two on hinge even one that

712
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,480
Speaker 1: the one that didn't reply for three months, and then

713
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: another through a friend.

714
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 2: Okay, oh, set a little setup. What do they do

715
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: for a livy? You don't have to share the one

716
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: that's current, you can share.

717
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: The other two, uh business, I don't and one you forgot. No,

718
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: I had them all actually, I mean because it's only three.

719
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: That hard to keep up. But one like uh arc

720
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 1: landscape design okay, stuff, another like water just waters like oil.

721
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: Other one water sports, water recreation. Like the variety here,

722
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 1: I mean business is the next one like so business?

723
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 1: Ye that sometimes our conversations, I'm like, we live very

724
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: different lives.

725
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: Those are all.

726
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. When you have that realization it's a work day

727
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 1: compared to mine, it's just almost comical, comicable, it's almost comical.

728
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 2: Ere your guys's first dates.

729
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 1: One was just down close to the office at the

730
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: top of the Thompson.

731
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 2: What is that called?

732
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, are you talking about the Jackson? Yeah, l A Jackson,

733
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: l A Jackson. That was the four pm whatever one. Gosh,

734
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: where was it?

735
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 2: Uh?

736
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh, the the cute greenhouse thing in Greenhill's

737
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: the greenhouse bar. That's what's called the greenhouse and uh

738
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: m Audrey.

739
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 2: Okay, nice, So we got lots of them. Okay, there's

740
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: our our dating wrap to me and Amy. I just

741
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 2: had a little bit more variation in there. But Amy, Amy,

742
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 2: I'm really happy for you.

743
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:11,319
Speaker 1: Thank you.

744
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 2: Well, we'll hear more in twenty twenty five, I'm sure

745
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 2: of it. Okay, we're gonna take one more quick break.

746
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 2: We'll be right back. Okay, very serious question, not at

747
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 2: all related to the holidays or anything like that. So

748
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 2: I got a facial done lately. I got my pretty.

749
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,280
Speaker 1: Face shaved, the whole thing derma planing.

750
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 2: Yes, but I have a question for you. When you

751
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 2: go and get like a facial done, they put you

752
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 2: in like you're in this cute little room and they

753
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,360
Speaker 2: like give you a robe and stuff. Do you completely

754
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: undress or like what do you do in those scenarios?

755
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 2: Because I did, and I put the robe on because

756
00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 2: I had to go under the blankets and it felt

757
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,760
Speaker 2: weird keeping my pants on, like being under this like heated.

758
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I would say, I mean I keep mine

759
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 1: to wear on.

760
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: But yeah, but like you okay, so yous.

761
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: It just depends on how cold I am or five

762
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: on sweatpants or jeans, Like, how comfortable do I want

763
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: to be? Because if I had on sweats, i'd probab

764
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 1: keep them one because it's a facial. They're probably just

765
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 1: gonna be working with my neck and chest. Face.

766
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, you have sweats on. No, I have leggings on.

767
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 2: Oh but the bed was heated, and I was like,

768
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 2: am I gonna be like sweaty?

769
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: And I like, you're fine.

770
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 2: It just felt weird because they were just doing work

771
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 2: on my face. But I was like, you know, I

772
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 2: have this robot and I'm like naked and it feels

773
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 2: a little weird.

774
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 1: No, I think it's okay. I've probably seen it all.

775
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 1: It's probably true, but still you know what I mean, Like,

776
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: I think it's somal. I want to be cozy. Yeah,

777
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 1: and leggings sometimes can be uncomfortable under sheets and blankets.

778
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 1: Sweatpants different, but leggings, and then sometimes the fuzz gets

779
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: all over on Yeah.

780
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 2: Okay, so you guys shouldn't be weird about it. No, okay. Well,

781
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 2: another thing that happened recently. I went to the Little

782
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:37,720
Speaker 2: Big Town and sugar Land concert.

783
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 1: Oh Ben, was it? That? Was? He?

784
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 2: Really? I did not see him seam. No. I did

785
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 2: see a little big town though, and they were amazing.

786
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 2: Sugar Land, though, Amy I had like a A I

787
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 2: want to know if you've had a full circle moment,

788
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,440
Speaker 2: maybe it's similar like this or something happen. But I

789
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 2: used to, you know, back when I wanted to be

790
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 2: a little singer. I used to sing the baby Girl

791
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 2: song from sugar Land, which is like dear mom and Dad,

792
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 2: I'd placed in money.

793
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so broke' funny yeah.

794
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,319
Speaker 2: And so I heard this song live for the first

795
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 2: time because obviously Shuggarline hadn't meant to, like they had

796
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 2: taken some time, and so this was like their first

797
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 2: time back on tour and I got to hear that

798
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 2: song live for the first time since like I was

799
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 2: young and singing that to my parents and I'm like

800
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 2: living in Nashville and I have this life here now,

801
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:22,359
Speaker 2: and that was always the thing.

802
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 1: Jennifer Nettles said that that song was a self fulfilling

803
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: prophecy for.

804
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 2: Her, really like where she sang it and it came true.

805
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 2: Oh see, that was like mine. I was like singing

806
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 2: it to my parents. I was like, I'm gonna move

807
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 2: to Nashville. One day and it was specifically Nashville. Now,

808
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 2: different career paths, but like it was Nashville always, and

809
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:41,880
Speaker 2: just like standing there and I'm like, I have this

810
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 2: whole life in this career here and I'm living here,

811
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 2: and I was like standing there crying. I'm like, oh

812
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 2: my gosh, this is so full circle in this moment.

813
00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's a Goosebunz moment for sure. I mean

814
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: I have them right now for you.

815
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. It was a cool moment. Have you

816
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 2: had one of those where you're like, this is this

817
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 2: is it? This is this full circle moment?

818
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 1: M not that I can think of off the top

819
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 1: of my head right now, And that one's pretty special.

820
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: I mean you just had it.

821
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, just so it's top of mind for me too.

822
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 2: So and I'm like throwing you out there because I

823
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 2: didn't give you time to prepare this one.

824
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 1: Yeah no, but even if you did. I mean, I

825
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 1: feel like those are sometimes like maybe I haven't had

826
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 1: it yet or it's on the moment. I do think

827
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 1: I've had times where I get it, like it all

828
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 1: makes sense.

829
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 2: Now, Okay, what's one of those moments?

830
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:31,839
Speaker 1: I can't say them not, I mean only because I

831
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 1: would it's just not my story, but so much makes

832
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,239
Speaker 1: sense now. Okay, this one I can say because we

833
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: already talked about it on the air, but when we

834
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 1: got tested for the dyslexia. We talked about this even

835
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: recently on the show. But that was a moment where

836
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: I got goosebumps and cried and had this full circle

837
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: moment where it all made sense. Now. I know. It's

838
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: a little bit different than like, I'm not sitting there

839
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: listening to someone seeing back my dream moving, but it

840
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: was sort of closure on something.

841
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 2: It's also it was probably a clarity for you for

842
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 2: a long time because you didn't feel understood.

843
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it asked like, oh this all makes sense now,

844
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:15,799
Speaker 1: and uh yeah, there's a couple of other there's very

845
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 1: personal and maybe one day I can if there's a

846
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: story too about we'll call it lunch with I'll just

847
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: say lunch with Leslie because like, nobody's ever going to know.

848
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: But I don't think I'll ever write a book, but

849
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: if I do, one day, I have the title and

850
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: it's called lunch with Leslie.

851
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 2: And wait, why lunch with Leslie? Can you say?

852
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 1: I don't even know Leslie? But it changed my life.

853
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 2: Hey, okay, this leslie story that.

854
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's uh so in the similar I guess since

855
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:58,359
Speaker 1: we were talking about the dating stuff. Sometimes you don't

856
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: know why something is happening to you. You don't understand

857
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 1: because we don't have the full picture. But then if

858
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: you back up or once you've got some time, like

859
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 1: you said with you know, your ex boyfriend in August,

860
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: when you broke up with you, you're devastated, and now

861
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: that it's Christmas time, you're like, oh, this all makes

862
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: sense now. So for me, I was going on a

863
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: date with somebody and then I got a call from

864
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: a friend. I was like, Hey, are you still dating

865
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 1: so and so I was like yeah, he's like about

866
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 1: to pick me up. And she's like, well, I'm with

867
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 1: someone that's going to lunch with them tomorrow.

868
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 2: And I was like what.

869
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 1: So I was just very confused. So speaking of open

870
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 1: and honest communication and mature communication, I said something to

871
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: him and then that led to us continuing to date

872
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 1: other people because you weren't exclusive. I just was shot.

873
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 1: I just wasn't used to adult dating. And I talked

874
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 1: to my therapist about it, not even about him, but

875
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: just this whole idea of adult dating and going on

876
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:03,879
Speaker 1: dates and getting to know yourself and what do you want,

877
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:05,959
Speaker 1: what do you don't want. I don't think I really

878
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: had a good handle that anyway, But I didn't want

879
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 1: to have to date multiple people to figure it out,

880
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: and it just didn't seem fun to me. She's like, Look,

881
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: they don't have to be long dates. They don't have

882
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: to be intense, Like you can literally go to get

883
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: a drink or have dinner with somebody, or a hike

884
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:23,960
Speaker 1: for a first day. It seems a little weird, but

885
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 1: you said you did that.

886
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: We did a walk. It wasn't It wasn't like a

887
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 2: hike where we were out and you didn't have seale service.

888
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: It was like a walk at a golf course kind

889
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 2: of am.

890
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: Akay, yeah yeah good, Yeah, lots of people there to

891
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: make sure you're saying me was with me.

892
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: So yeah, that wasn't allowed.

893
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 1: So anyway, I confronted it. I feel like I'm telling

894
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: this really slow because I'm like trying to be like,

895
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: am I really telling this right now? And not that

896
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: it even matters. Again, it's just like not only my story, but.

897
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 2: It's also at the moment that impacted your life.

898
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 1: It totally impacted my life, because in that moment, I said, okay,

899
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,399
Speaker 1: I believe his response to me was sort of, well,

900
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that I don't think that there's not

901
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: a future us. I'm just trying to figure it out.

902
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 1: And I said, okay, yeah, I have no idea if

903
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 1: there's a futuress and we can continue dating, and I

904
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: am going to date because that is what I do.

905
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: I adult date now. And I sort of said it

906
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: like that, and he said to me something like, you're

907
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: a really good communicator, and I said, well, thank you.

908
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: I'm trying because I think I could have gone the

909
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: entire day and not brought it up and held some

910
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:34,319
Speaker 1: resentment and then confusion or just huffed and puffed and fine,

911
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 1: I'm going to go out with other people. But I

912
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 1: just decided that moment, Okay, we're going to adult date.

913
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: This is what adult dating looks like. And so I

914
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: did that, and that is what led me to figuring

915
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: out through another friend that had wanted me to set

916
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:52,399
Speaker 1: I had wanted to set me up this one guy,

917
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: and I would have never gone out with him because

918
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 1: I was very much liking this other person, and I

919
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 1: think I would have just settled to not the right word,

920
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: because again, we hadn't even had the exclusive talk, but

921
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: we'd been out enough to where that was happening, or

922
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 1: at least in my mind. I was definitely shocked to

923
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: hear that there was a lunch with Leslie. But it

924
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: made me think about all the moments in life that

925
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: are sort of that it's that one thing that happens

926
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 1: that just changes everything. And in that case, for me,

927
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: it was I'm like, hey.

928
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 2: Thank you lunch with Leslie because.

929
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: It got me out there and I I now have

930
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 1: you know something that I'm really happy about, and that's

931
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: weird and that I never and and the thing about

932
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 1: this person is now I'm saying more than I thought

933
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:47,760
Speaker 1: I was ever gonna say.

934
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 2: I'm not pushing it.

935
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: Anyway, I just had not I had for months avoided

936
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: this person. Well I think not because they're not a

937
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 1: good person. I just like, this would never work. Yeah,

938
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 1: so it's not gonna happen. And thank you, but I'm busy.

939
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 1: I never spoke to him directly, by the way, it

940
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 1: was through our friend.

941
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 2: I'm really proud of you, though, because it's hard, like

942
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 2: it is hard navigating dating, especially coming out of being

943
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 2: married for years. Yeah, and you're thrown into this new

944
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 2: world and you're trying to understand and people are complicated,

945
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,960
Speaker 2: Like I don't think people realize on the scope of

946
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 2: dating that you're dating someone as another human and you

947
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 2: think about your life and your life is complicated, right,

948
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:33,359
Speaker 2: and you're going to date this other person in their

949
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: life is complicated too, But you can't understand it because

950
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 2: you're just meeting each other for the first time. So

951
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 2: it's not like you can sit there and be like,

952
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 2: I have your whole story and this is why you

953
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 2: are the way that you are. You have to figure

954
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 2: it out.

955
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: I made a lot of assumptions based on paper, Like

956
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: you know, how you can see someone's good on paper. Yeah,

957
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 1: I decided we were bad on paper, you know.

958
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 2: But that was also it was a version of you

959
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 2: looking out for yourself.

960
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: And it's also a testament to timing too, because had

961
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 1: I accepted the connection way before, I wouldn't have been ready.

962
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:12,360
Speaker 1: I had to go through more things and healing and growth,

963
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: and honestly, even in going out, I wasn't trying to

964
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: go out with the intent of, oh, this is going

965
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 1: to be something. I was going out just to learn

966
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 1: more about myself. I'm like, okay, fine, since I know

967
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: this is a person that's no on paper for me

968
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: at least, I mean, it could be a good practice.

969
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: And I've even said that to him now, so it's

970
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: not like hurtful.

971
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 2: Uh.

972
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:37,400
Speaker 1: He totally gets it, and I'm like, look, I just

973
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 1: kind of was like, oh, yeah, well I have people

974
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:43,439
Speaker 1: that want to date me too, you know, yeah, You've

975
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 1: got lunch tomorrow, don't worry. People are been asking me

976
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: out for a while.

977
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 2: You're having you're experiencing a lot of like first for

978
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 2: the first time in that whole moment too, of like

979
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 2: the feeling of a version of rejection, but not in

980
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 2: a direct a right of like this is how he's

981
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 2: setting this up. And you're also experiencing like okay, well

982
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 2: I like this person, but also there's no communication here.

983
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 2: What is happening. Then you're experiencing like all these other

984
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 2: influxes where you're supposed to be casually dating and you're

985
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 2: not exclusive, Like you're experiencing in that moment so many

986
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 2: firsts that you had. It had so like naturally the

987
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:24,439
Speaker 2: experiences that you were having makes makes a lot of sense,

988
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 2: Like when you're looking at it now from a bird's eye, view.

989
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, yep, And they're just different

990
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 2: variations of things you have experienced in life, but it's

991
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 2: completely different setting people subject.

992
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 1: Well, since I already said too much, I'm gonna go

993
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 1: ahead and say, since people are listening to this and

994
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 1: it's best bits, and if they're still listening at this point,

995
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,360
Speaker 1: I think that they're loyal fans at the show, so

996
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: let's just keep it all between us here.

997
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,839
Speaker 2: Okay, thanks, We will no voicemails to the big show.

998
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: Leave it here, and it's just a fun girl chat

999
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 2: that we just had with microphones. You got. Is that good? Yeah?

1000
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 1: No, it's fine. I didn't even reveal anything. I know

1001
00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: it's not. I mean people, I don't want anybody be

1002
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 1: like what, what's a big deal? Who cares?

1003
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:05,320
Speaker 2: But it's just you that you also have to remember, like, yes,

1004
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 2: I love your respect for other people of like, it's

1005
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 2: not just my story, but also you do have a

1006
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:12,399
Speaker 2: story and you have a role in it, and it's

1007
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 2: your prerogative to do what you want with your story.

1008
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: Right, So I say anything, I think down the line

1009
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,879
Speaker 1: there will be some room for some of that, because

1010
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: I do think it could be helpful for other people.

1011
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 1: Some of it, some of the stuff that has come

1012
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 1: full circle that makes sense now that when I was

1013
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: in the thick of it, it was so hard. But

1014
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 1: now it's like, oh my gosh, that all makes sense now.

1015
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 1: And look where we are at this moment, and it's

1016
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 1: it's a place I never thought we could be. But

1017
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 1: I mean, we all had to put in the work,

1018
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 1: and sometimes you have to dig in and do the

1019
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 1: hard thing. Because I could have easily not done some

1020
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 1: of the hard things through several of these examples that

1021
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of, and it could have gone a different direction,

1022
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 1: which wouldn't have been as healing and felt is full

1023
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,359
Speaker 1: circle and probably wouldn't have made sense. I probably would

1024
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 1: still be living in chaos.

1025
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, I don't feel like you would

1026
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 2: be where you are with who you are and what

1027
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 2: you're doing now. I don't just based on that, you

1028
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 2: know what I mean.

1029
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: So I think it's just some encouragement sometimes to like

1030
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: dig in and do the hard thing because yeah, you

1031
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: got it, it's forge ahead.

1032
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 2: Look at us having for full circle moments before we

1033
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 2: head into the new year. Twenty twenty four has been a.

1034
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 1: Year, Yeah it has so, But I'm not I mean

1035
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,120
Speaker 1: it's so weird, yours are so different. I'm like, yeah,

1036
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 1: it has. But then when I think about it, and

1037
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's also been one of the best years

1038
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: I've had it in a long time, Like for me

1039
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, twenty twenty one, twenty four two, twenty twenty three,

1040
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 1: it's worth like horrible. We're on the up and up,

1041
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 1: onward and upward. That's right, I love it. Okay, we're

1042
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: getting out of here. Merry Christmas, everybody. Go check out

1043
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 1: Amy's podcast for things of Amy Brown.

1044
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 2: You can check out mine Take This Personally and so

1045
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 2: Much Chop is so much stuff again with the words

1046
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 2: I started and ended with it or to heart. On

1047
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 2: our YouTube page, you can check out lots of segments,

1048
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 2: including our full Christmas show if you want to watch that. Okay, Amy,

1049
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,359
Speaker 2: thank you for coming on. I loved our girl chat.

1050
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: It was fun dating Rapped with Amy and Morgan w

1051
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 2: r AP rap Rapped and goodbye everybody. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays,

1052
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: Stay safe. Bye. That's the best bits of the week

1053
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 2: with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be sure to check out

1054
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 2: the other two parts this weekend. Go follow the show

1055
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1057
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