Speaker 1: Tweaks to the planet, Charlamagne to God. Here and as
Speaker 1: we come close to closing out this year, I just
Speaker 1: want to say thank you for tuning into the Black
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Speaker 2: Okay, so we need to read one of our Okay,
Speaker 2: so we have it reasonable or shady. Yeah, and by
Speaker 2: the way, guys, send us some more. We love reading
Speaker 2: your reasonable or shady scenarios. Yes, we do, because we
Speaker 2: are reasonably shady. Okay, this says Hi, Robin and Giselle. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this is from AVA. I have some drama and want
Speaker 2: your opinion on whether it is reasonable or shady. My
Speaker 2: friend moved in with her boyfriend of two years. Her
Speaker 2: boyfriend is the one that asked her to move in. Okay,
Speaker 2: her boyfriend now follow This is her ex boyfriend's dad,
Speaker 2: and now she's living in the home where her ex
Speaker 2: boyfriend grew up.
Speaker 3: Whow Actually this is good, right, I'm like this shady,
Speaker 3: all right, just shady already.
Speaker 2: Her ex doesn't visit the house at all.
Speaker 3: No, he does not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a reason. Yeah, Okay, even I mean, I
Speaker 2: feel like the fact that her ex boyfriend's dad.
Speaker 4: Is dating.
Speaker 2: Whatever, yeah, his son's ex girlfriend. Yeah, that just tells
Speaker 2: you they probably had a shitty relationship. Yeah you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, Like the dad and the boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: So she suggested to her boyfriend the dad that they
Speaker 2: should move everything out of her ex's childhood room and
Speaker 2: let her use it to store some of her stuff
Speaker 2: and let her use it as her personal office lounging room.
Speaker 2: Her boyfriend the dad agreed, so they boxed up, with
Speaker 2: my help, Ava's help, everything in her ex boyfriend's childhood
Speaker 2: room and moved them to the garage, including the furniture.
Speaker 5: What.
Speaker 2: She redecorated the room and made it hers very cute
Speaker 2: and cozy before she even moved his things. But before
Speaker 2: she even moved his things, she messaged her ex about
Speaker 2: it and told him he should come by. She did
Speaker 2: not the dad, right, she did, she did, Okay, this
Speaker 2: is all this all get back, This is insane.
Speaker 3: This get back. She he made her mad, and she
Speaker 3: was like, yeah, right, I'm gonna get you I'm a.
Speaker 2: Dad and move into your childhood or Okay, So this
Speaker 2: should not be a question of is this shady?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: Hell, yeah shady.
Speaker 2: It's actually the shady and so shame but I love
Speaker 2: every second of it, right, Okay.
Speaker 4: It's beyond shady. Yeah okay.
Speaker 2: So so she messaged him and told him about it
Speaker 2: and told him he should come by and take a
Speaker 2: look at what he wants to keep and or sell
Speaker 2: and or donate. After not hearing from him for three weeks,
Speaker 2: he texted her, calling her all sorts of names and
Speaker 2: clearing out and taking his room. Yes, she says, she's
Speaker 2: really trying to be sensitive and nice, but he is
Speaker 2: making this very difficult with his rage filled outbursts in texts.
Speaker 3: What's her name?
Speaker 2: I don't a friend's name? No, Oh, she's the person
Speaker 2: that wrote in Yes is Ava?
Speaker 4: Oh? Ava?
Speaker 3: Is not this?
Speaker 2: Okay, she's she's she's reported she's talking about her friend. Okay,
Speaker 2: so it's actually but she helps her friend girls like
Speaker 2: she's like, I'm writing for a friend. Yes, but she
Speaker 2: helped her friend move her you know, move her stuff out,
Speaker 2: move the stuff out of the ex boyfriend's room. She
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend are giving him a year to clear
Speaker 2: out his childhood stuff from the garage before they donate
Speaker 2: everything neither of them feel clearing out his room is inappropriate,
Speaker 2: but her ex is just melting down in a tantrum
Speaker 2: filled rage. Personally, I don't think he should have such
Speaker 2: an outburst when he never even visits. I also don't
Speaker 2: think she should have started dating her ex's father.
Speaker 4: No, Ava, what are your thoughts?
Speaker 2: Was taking over his room reasonable or shady?
Speaker 4: Okay, there's so many thoughts.
Speaker 3: This is wild. This is actually so wild.
Speaker 2: So I want Okay, so we don't know any name here, no, okay,
Speaker 2: if the boyfriend is listening, please write us, because so
Speaker 2: the dad or the ex boyfriend, the ex boyfriend. If
Speaker 2: the ex boyfriend's listening, listen, we want your point of view, right,
Speaker 2: because your ex girlfriend is the worst, right, and your
Speaker 2: dad were the worst. Your daddy is just alone for
Speaker 2: the ride. We don't know how long dad got to
Speaker 2: live on this earth. Okay, he just wants a little
Speaker 2: hot girlfriend.
Speaker 3: Really, yes, So if your mother no started dating, this
Speaker 3: is not my family. Okay, this is totally not my
Speaker 3: family and not my people.
Speaker 2: But I understand that your mother dad just wants like
Speaker 2: a little.
Speaker 3: To this out. Okay.
Speaker 4: If your mother's started dating jamal.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, Robin took a tupar. Okay, this episode might
Speaker 3: be my mother wants no parts of Jamal. Let's start.
Speaker 3: I'm your stepdaddy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he went from my ex husband to my steps
Speaker 2: to my step That would be hilarious. So I, yes,
Speaker 2: this is beyond shady on so many levels. But I
Speaker 2: want to hear from the men of this nonsense. I
Speaker 2: don't know that we'll hear from them. Okay, So my
Speaker 2: opinion is it shady? It's first of all, it's super
Speaker 2: shady that she's dating her ex boyfriend's father. That's like, why,
Speaker 2: let yes.
Speaker 3: Find somebody else?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Is this like how many people are in the town?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 3: It's like find someone out exactly.
Speaker 2: That's just crazy because it is almost like you're you're
Speaker 2: trying to get back at your ex boyfriend and then
Speaker 2: you just don't think about like what is that going
Speaker 2: to do to him and his relationship with his dad
Speaker 2: and his family and everyone else involved like that. You
Speaker 2: just should have She should have stayed away and not
Speaker 2: done it now. Is it shady for clearing his room out?
Speaker 2: If this is a childhood home? So I think about
Speaker 2: my childhood room right that I never go in. I
Speaker 2: don't need one thing out of it. Right, So if
Speaker 2: my parents all of a sudden just got rid of
Speaker 2: all my shit, I'd be like, great, thank you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but your ex boyfriend is not having sex with your
Speaker 2: mother and living in that house. I know it's different.
Speaker 3: It's it's it's the way and with the principle, what's
Speaker 3: the way in which the room was cleared? Yes, yes,
Speaker 3: and for whom?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 2: And this is all like I think, get back in
Speaker 2: spite yeah yeah, yeah, No, it's it's.
Speaker 3: This is some nasty, dirty Yeah.
Speaker 2: It's like we can't even get past the fact that
Speaker 2: the girl is dating her ex boyfriend's dad. Like that's
Speaker 2: just that's baseline, shady. Yeah, and anything after that is
Speaker 2: like it's like you're adding to it.
Speaker 3: Dad, don't give a damn.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Now, if this was his dad's girlfriend, that has nothing
Speaker 2: to do with the sun.
Speaker 3: Cool, fine, clear sit out.
Speaker 4: He won't care.
Speaker 2: Yes, But the fact that you're calling me and saying hey,
Speaker 2: and why didn't the dad call and say, hey, we're
Speaker 2: we're clearing out your room.
Speaker 3: Yeah, in my house that I pay all the bills for.
Speaker 4: That's a mess.
Speaker 3: It's a mess.
Speaker 4: Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 2: This is a great reality television show. Right, let's get
Speaker 2: all their information right, and let's produce it.
Speaker 4: This is from Christopher.
Speaker 3: All right, No, it's gonna be bad, he says, help.
Speaker 2: Me find miss right please, because I have been single
Speaker 2: for six years because my ex had a miscarriage six
Speaker 2: years ago in Walmart because someone ran into my new
Speaker 2: Dodge Charger. Why I in jail for child support for
Speaker 2: my first girlfriend. Two weeks later, she has left for me,
Speaker 2: left me for my cousin in law. So I've been
Speaker 2: single for six years.
Speaker 3: Okay, Chris, we can't help you, sir.
Speaker 4: This just came through.
Speaker 3: I just said there. It's best if you're not paying
Speaker 3: your child support and you in jail. We're not paying
Speaker 3: child support.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're in jail and you can't and you're not
Speaker 2: paying child support. Yeah, No, we can't help you.
Speaker 3: No, we can't help it.
Speaker 2: A matter of fact, Actually, Chris, write to us, tell
Speaker 2: us what jail you're in.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he's out of jail now.
Speaker 4: I think he.
Speaker 2: Said I'm in jail for childs I don't know.
Speaker 4: Are you in jail.
Speaker 2: If you're in jail, we'll find you a pin pal.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh okay, will who oh, We'll just put it
Speaker 3: out there.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, okay, people find love in jail.
Speaker 4: That's how we're gonna find you, miss right, Yeah, we'll
Speaker 4: find you a pin pal.
Speaker 2: This is from Lisa Bell. Hey, Lisa, ladies, this is
Speaker 2: a shady request. Oh please discuss why Kim has fallen
Speaker 2: from the throes of Bravo to MTV Surreal Life. Who's
Speaker 2: Kim Solcia?
Speaker 3: Oh okay, okay, this is a shipwreck.
Speaker 2: Why would she do this show? In the promo, Macy
Speaker 2: Gray is riding a pool float calling at Mandingo. There
Speaker 2: had to be other options before this show. Okay, Robin,
Speaker 2: you bet not never ever do that show? Yeah, I
Speaker 2: say you, because Giselle would not, but Rob.
Speaker 4: She would not.
Speaker 3: Well, Robin may may do it.
Speaker 2: But Robin may say, well, how long do I have
Speaker 2: to stay there? It would be a different experience. I
Speaker 2: can teach them how to steal forks and eat food
Speaker 2: by shopping in the grocery store. He loel anyway, I'm
Speaker 2: being shady, but I will be watching the show. Reality
Speaker 2: TV is my comic relief. Your podcast gives me life.
Speaker 2: Bring a live show to Texas.
Speaker 3: So, Lisa, huh, hilarious.
Speaker 2: I never say never.
Speaker 3: Probably not doing that show only live once. I mean,
Speaker 3: I can't see anything wrong with it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So explain to me the premise of the show.
Speaker 2: They live in a house for how long and when
Speaker 2: do they get booted?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm gonna look it up. So real life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I really don't really know the show, but I
Speaker 2: saw that it's like Kim Tom Hanks's son.
Speaker 3: Oh, that's how they know each other.
Speaker 2: I did see Chet is his same Yeah, Chet Hanks,
Speaker 2: Chet Hanks, and he looks to me very the reason
Speaker 2: why I stopped.
Speaker 3: I mean I looked at it because he looks like Croy,
Speaker 3: her ex husband.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, okay, or soon to be.
Speaker 3: I don't know if they're divorced. Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: So this is the premise of the show. It is
Speaker 2: a reality show about fading celebrities who were hot back
Speaker 2: in the day and how they live their day to
Speaker 2: day lives in one Los Angeles mansion.
Speaker 5: Eight celebrity strangers are invited to the real life villa
Speaker 5: in Meta Yine, Columbia for a healing getaway that will
Speaker 5: change and bond them forever. Each day of their stay,
Speaker 5: they'll be given secret missions that push them out of
Speaker 5: their comfort zones throughout their time here, they'll confront their
Speaker 5: fears and reveal their deepest secrets.
Speaker 2: Okay, well you couldn't do that because you'll never be
Speaker 2: faking You're you're hot to try. So let me see
Speaker 2: who is on this cast this year. So it's Kim Zosiac,
Speaker 2: Chet Hank Okay, Macy Gray, Chet Hanks, Ali Brooke don't
Speaker 2: know who she is, Ot Genesis, Kim Zosiak, Johnny Weir,
Speaker 2: Josie Conseco, and Tyler Posey.
Speaker 3: Okay, I mean.
Speaker 2: Listen, you only live once, okay.
Speaker 3: And Rob I said, never say now.
Speaker 2: That's how I ended up on the other TV show
Speaker 2: that I was on, because when the opportunity was presented
Speaker 2: to me, I said, you only live once, so why
Speaker 2: not do something that you never imagine doing, you know,
Speaker 2: in your life?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: And I understanding that I ended up on that show. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I'm happy that you're on that show. Now, people
Speaker 2: are y'all are writing us years eight years, eight years,
Speaker 2: y'all are writing us, writing us, asking for since Robin
Speaker 2: is no longer on that show that she was on,
Speaker 2: for Robin to give all the tea because she can
Speaker 2: now because she's not actually obligating, and I'm telling y'all
Speaker 2: right now stop because y'all trying to give me.
Speaker 3: Fired so like, you know, but they can't against you.
Speaker 2: Yes, they can't. Oh, by the way, I've been meaning
Speaker 2: to tell you this. So a couple of weeks ago,
Speaker 2: I had a pack at UPS package come and I
Speaker 2: had to.
Speaker 3: Sign for it, and I wasn't home.
Speaker 2: And normally if I like go into my ring and
Speaker 2: like talk to them, they'll just leave it, right. So
Speaker 2: he didn't do that, so he was like, I'll be back,
Speaker 2: you know, tomorrow. So same thing happened, and I asked him.
Speaker 2: I was like, can you just leave it? And he
Speaker 2: was like no.
Speaker 3: So I was like, dang, Like when am I gonna
Speaker 3: give my package?
Speaker 2: So anyway, I forgot about the package and then I
Speaker 2: happen to be pulling up into the house and here
Speaker 2: he comes again. This was like a week later, and
Speaker 2: he's like, hey, I just want you to know that
Speaker 2: you know that time that you asked me to leave it.
Speaker 2: I was with my boss that day and I couldn't oh.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, okay, now I get that, as
Speaker 2: I said, but I did get it, and he was
Speaker 2: like yeah, okay, and then he gave me something else
Speaker 2: and he left and I was like, I think I'm
Speaker 2: turned on by the ups man.
Speaker 3: I was like, I understand what Robin is talking about.
Speaker 2: I was like, you see, ups man, let me go
Speaker 2: on again in order something so can come back.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So for those of you all who don't know,
Speaker 2: Robin has to thing for ups man, and I have
Speaker 2: joked her about him because I'm just like, for.
Speaker 4: What, I think it's random.
Speaker 3: It's not random, like because they have on I'm like,
Speaker 3: because they have on brown choices. Yes, they have on brown.
Speaker 3: That's that's what turned you on?
Speaker 4: The brown?
Speaker 2: Oh the brown is actually not my favorite.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I just think PS men like they are responsible.
Speaker 3: And they jump out their trucks.
Speaker 2: Yes, then they usually really nice legs, yes he did. Yes,
Speaker 2: they're they're fit, Yes, they just.
Speaker 3: He was tall and they're hard worker.
Speaker 4: He was buff.
Speaker 2: They drive around that howdas truck.
Speaker 3: Yes, complain and they don't go and he had a
Speaker 3: deep voice.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, you PS, Yes, I see you.
Speaker 4: And they get good benefits.
Speaker 2: They I don't know anything about that, but yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: sure they can give good benefits. Yeah, give me some
Speaker 2: benefits you PS. And when I say leave my package,
Speaker 2: I mean more than that. I mean a whole lot
Speaker 2: of things when I say leave the package.
Speaker 3: Anyway, moving on.
Speaker 2: Okay, so we got some we got some something called
Speaker 2: Lettus emails, and we want to we.
Speaker 3: Want to talk about them. Okay.
Speaker 2: So this is from Chrissy and she says, good morning.
Speaker 2: Just wanted to say I love you, ladies. I've listened
Speaker 2: to every podcast since the beginning. Me and my husband
Speaker 2: came to see you live in Philly, and we.
Speaker 3: Got the meat and greet tickets.
Speaker 4: But I have a one year old.
Speaker 3: Cappuccina. Oh, I have a Jesus Christ. I have a
Speaker 3: one year old cap chun. Maybe I don't know if
Speaker 3: that's right.
Speaker 4: Monkey.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, she has a one year old monkey. Forget
Speaker 2: what kind it is, which is having a toddler on meth,
Speaker 2: which is like having a Maybe I should have read
Speaker 2: this before I read this. Okay, so we didn't make
Speaker 2: it in time. However, I was the white girl with
Speaker 2: the dreads sitting in one of the front I saw
Speaker 2: her tables, and I strongly recommended that you guys do
Speaker 2: more live shows, because you guys make great entertainment. Y'all
Speaker 2: are funny and shit.
Speaker 4: Thank you?
Speaker 2: Do you remember I remember seeing the white girl with dreads? Okay,
Speaker 2: so shout out to Christy white girl with dreads?
Speaker 4: Yes, who has a monkey? Yes? Okay, who's on meth?
Speaker 2: I don't doubt anyway about the Stanley the Stanley Cup.
Speaker 2: I thought it was a stupid trend. But when I
Speaker 2: drink out of my daughter's one day, I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: I get it. Then one day my husband forgot his drink,
Speaker 2: so I gave him mine and he was shocked.
Speaker 3: How good the water tasted.
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I know it sounds crazy, but you have
Speaker 2: to try it. I ordered him a forty ounce black one,
Speaker 2: which was sixty five dollars, which which is just stupid,
Speaker 2: but whatever. He put his barbershop sticker over the name,
Speaker 2: ha ha. But me and him both drink way much
Speaker 2: more water than we used to.
Speaker 3: I can't explain it. You just gotta try it.
Speaker 2: If this ain't a plug, I don't know what is.
Speaker 2: By the way, Stanley Cup is not paying us a
Speaker 2: dime for this. They should Okay, keep being, Oh, keep
Speaker 2: being you, stay throwing your shade because your product, your
Speaker 2: podcast is one and you guys are my favorite Housewives
Speaker 2: in the entire franchise.
Speaker 3: PS.
Speaker 2: I love you when you just make shit up. It's hilarious.
Speaker 2: I know I'm gonna start doing that more more, oh gosh, please,
Speaker 2: and ways include that allegedly with it.
Speaker 3: I'm out right so we don't get suit and Robin.
Speaker 2: I love how you stay true to who you are,
Speaker 2: who you were before the show, and how you stick
Speaker 2: by your man and how he's he isn't changing for
Speaker 2: no one because of what others may think. Hashtag real
Speaker 2: shit forever. A fan Chrissy from Wilmington. And here's a
Speaker 2: picture of Abou. Okay, so monkey Abu is the monkey, guys,
Speaker 2: and we might put this on our Instagram story. Okay,
Speaker 2: if y'all can see Abu the monkey. He has on
Speaker 2: a red hoodie and he's chilling.
Speaker 4: That was before we do advice. It's just a little
Speaker 4: hater hater mail. Oh we love hater mail. Ye hater mail.
Speaker 2: We did get a hater mail song like Dawn turn
Speaker 2: it right. It's really quick. It's not as deep as
Speaker 2: Linda with the Deer. Okay, all right, so this person,
Speaker 2: Sandra says, I love you, ladies, but you laughed and
Speaker 2: shamed the klepto basketball player, but one and your son
Speaker 2: ate and put back at target. That's stealing too, And Giselle,
Speaker 2: you show no compassion about hitting the deer. Please try
Speaker 2: and speak to two sides of your stories.
Speaker 4: Be good human beings. Still listening. What's up? Sandra? What? Sandra?
Speaker 2: Okay, you're right, Wan and Corey you need to go
Speaker 2: to jail.
Speaker 4: How dare they?
Speaker 2: How dare they taste tests and they didn't like it
Speaker 2: and they put it back. They need to go to
Speaker 2: jail because that's the same thing as walking out of
Speaker 2: Target with candles body wash? So under your jacket, Okay,
Speaker 2: it's not And how dare I live?
Speaker 3: And the dear die? How dare I live?
Speaker 2: Okay? Crazy, y'all people out here crazy? All right, So
Speaker 2: we need advice for Alaniya Whitfield. She needs advice for
Speaker 2: a fourteen year old daughter. All right, Hello, lovely ladies. First,
Speaker 2: I want to say I've been a loyal listener since
Speaker 2: episode one. You two brighten up my day, especially when
Speaker 2: I've had a rough one and I turned to I
Speaker 2: turned on an episode of Reason Me Shady and it
Speaker 2: helps me tremendously. My name is Holly, Okay, so I
Speaker 2: totally said her name wrong. Her name is Holly. I
Speaker 2: live in Bangor, Maine.
Speaker 4: Shout out to Banger.
Speaker 3: Is that how you really pronounced that?
Speaker 4: B a ng o or Banger? Yes?
Speaker 2: Okay, yes, Robin, I know you have been to Banger. Oh, yes, okay, yes,
Speaker 2: that's where I got kicked out of the airport. That's right,
Speaker 2: that's right, and had an experience at the airport. Ha ha.
Speaker 3: I promise you we aren't that bad. I need some advice.
Speaker 2: My daughter's fourteen and has recently been give be in
Speaker 2: trouble at school. She just got suspended for smoking pot.
Speaker 2: I thought she was smarter than that, but I also
Speaker 2: know what it's like to be a teenage girl. Giselle,
Speaker 2: You've raised some very smart, respectable ladies, and I would
Speaker 2: love your advice on how you approach the situation and
Speaker 2: how to give the best guidance for my daughter. Thank
Speaker 2: you for any advice you two might have.
Speaker 4: Keep doing what you're.
Speaker 2: Doing, and just know that the guy that you guys
Speaker 2: are making a difference. Lots of love, Holly, Oh, that's
Speaker 2: so nice. Yes, And I don't know what kind of
Speaker 2: advice I can give Grace smok a weed right now?
Speaker 4: Oh, Okay, I'm joking.
Speaker 3: Jokes, jokes. You know. I was extremely upfront and.
Speaker 2: Honest with my kids about everything, sex, drugs, rock and roll, everything,
Speaker 2: just because I don't want them to learn about things.
Speaker 2: I don't want them to be curious about things and
Speaker 2: then they're in the streets trying to figure it out.
Speaker 2: So I tried to do scare tactics, and I tried
Speaker 2: to be like, you know, if you smoke weed, then
Speaker 2: you're gonna be hooked on heroin for the rest of
Speaker 2: your life, right, And I know that makes this's no correlation,
Speaker 2: but I was like, it's a slippery slow, it's a
Speaker 2: gateway drug.
Speaker 3: It's a gateweight drug, very slow.
Speaker 2: I shared that. My I'm sorry to cut you off,
Speaker 2: but I shared. You know, I smoked weed at a
Speaker 2: young age. And my best friend, who kind of you know,
Speaker 2: was the one that I would get into trouble with.
Speaker 2: We stopped hanging out midway through ninth grade, and by
Speaker 2: her senior year, she was hooked on heroin.
Speaker 3: Yes, so it is a gateway drug. Yeah, it can be, Yes,
Speaker 3: it can be.
Speaker 2: I I a couple other things I told them. I
Speaker 2: was like, you know, do you know how you get heroin?
Speaker 2: In your body and they're like how and you have
Speaker 2: to take a needle and you have to like click it,
Speaker 2: you know how they be clicking a needle and then
Speaker 2: you put it in your veins and they're like why
Speaker 2: what do you mean?
Speaker 3: So I like, I over exaggerate what's really happening.
Speaker 2: I mean if you tell a child that, that's like traumatizing, right,
Speaker 2: And it's like why would I want to get high
Speaker 2: at bad?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: So I just say, Holly, just be honest with your
Speaker 2: daughter and like, yes, weed is a gateway drug.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: However, if the child is just smoking weed at fourteen,
Speaker 2: is that that bad?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 4: Okay, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: It could be some other bad she could be selling
Speaker 2: if my fourteen year olds okay, fine, it's really bad.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it's bad. It's not good. That's bad, So
Speaker 4: give her a no.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, okay, it's it is. It is very
Speaker 2: scary out here. It is all sidey. It's very scary. Yes,
Speaker 2: I will with me. I have boys, Jill, you have girls,
Speaker 2: Okay at fourteen? I want to know how much freedom
Speaker 2: did your girls have at fourteen? What's fourteen? What's what class?
Speaker 2: What grade is that? That's like ninth ninth grade pretty
Speaker 2: much ninth grade? Okay, yeah, I mean you said freedom,
Speaker 2: What do you mean like to hang out, to go
Speaker 2: to leave your house without you being there and they
Speaker 2: can just go. They're like, oh, Mom, can you drop
Speaker 2: us off at the at Susie's house? Or can you
Speaker 2: drop us off at the movie now? Or can you
Speaker 2: drop us off at the mall now? Or can you write?
Speaker 2: So the difference, I think is how much freedom do
Speaker 2: your children have? Because I was fourteen, I knew better.
Speaker 2: I was a almost a straight A student. I was
Speaker 2: well behaved in school, I was well behaved at home,
Speaker 2: but my parents gave me a little bit of freedom,
Speaker 2: and that's when I got into my trouble. That's when
Speaker 2: I would smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, smoke weed because I
Speaker 2: was hanging out with someone who had access, yes, but
Speaker 2: when I was at home, I wasn't doing that well.
Speaker 2: I was okay anyway she was. I would sneak no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I would like sneak or whatever.
Speaker 4: But I knew way.
Speaker 2: I knew way better, and I always had the fear
Speaker 2: of my parents finding out and the repercussions and getting
Speaker 2: in trouble and so so I think that prevented me
Speaker 2: from like really going far was that I always knew
Speaker 2: that my parents were were going to be there, and
Speaker 2: we're gonna if they found out I was going to
Speaker 2: get in trouble. But it's all about their freedom you
Speaker 2: give your kids, and Holly, I hate to say it,
Speaker 2: and I know it might be a struggle. You might
Speaker 2: have to rein in the freedom that your daughter has,
Speaker 2: but also open lines of communication. Let's let's talk about this,
Speaker 2: like why are you smoking weed? Like you're fourteen? Why
Speaker 2: why are you doing this?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: Don't just be the parent that's just gonna like punish
Speaker 2: you and go to hell off and not like have conversation. Right,
Speaker 2: And you gotta look at her friends. You gotta look
Speaker 2: at who is she spending time with. I hate because
Speaker 2: certain certain friends I would be I would go out
Speaker 2: and I would get in trouble with, I would do
Speaker 2: things I shouldn't do stuff with. And then other friends
Speaker 2: we're doing such different things. So it's all about who
Speaker 2: is she spending time with, how much freedom does she have?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And does she know better? And like I believe she
Speaker 2: knows better because you're a concerned parent, right, Yeah, and
Speaker 2: tell her to listen to reasonably shady because tell her
Speaker 2: to listen to this advice that we're giving. Well, I
Speaker 2: think Holly can can you know can translate? Yeah, but
Speaker 2: tell her my story how I was hanging out fourteen.
Speaker 2: You please tell her that I was hanging out fourteen
Speaker 2: spoken we doing shit I shouldn't have been doing, drinking,
Speaker 2: getting black out drunk, and my friend that I was
Speaker 2: doing that with eventually had to go to rehab by
Speaker 2: the by senior year. That's she doesn't want to go
Speaker 2: down that road. No, okay, so she and I had
Speaker 2: to take I literally had to take a step back
Speaker 2: from hanging out with her. Yes, and every after that
Speaker 2: everything was fine. So Mohammed, if you all remember, we
Speaker 2: love Mohammad, He's one of our reasonably shakesters. Yes, this
Speaker 2: was like in the summertime. So he has an update
Speaker 2: from a dilemma he had a reasonable or shady or
Speaker 2: it was an advice question did you have for us?
Speaker 2: And it was one of his best friends was getting
Speaker 2: married but she didn't include him in some things and
Speaker 2: he was feeling really left out and in his feelings
Speaker 2: and asked us what he should do and what do
Speaker 2: we say? I think we told him not to go,
Speaker 2: right because the wedding was in Puta Khana and it
Speaker 2: was a lot of money, and we.
Speaker 3: Said, you don't need to go because you are really invited.
Speaker 2: In the first place, right, So we told them not
Speaker 2: to go. So he has a follow up. He says, Hi,
Speaker 2: Jazelle and Robbin, it's your favorite person from Toronto, Mohammed.
Speaker 2: I wanted to give you an update on the Punta
Speaker 2: Kana situation and ask for more advice. So when I
Speaker 2: heard your advice, is my birthday week and I had
Speaker 2: a party and my best friend attended and I got
Speaker 2: black out drunk and ended up spilling everything that I
Speaker 2: was keeping in about the bachelrette party and not being
Speaker 2: part of her bridal party. What you all don't know
Speaker 2: is that she asked me to help set up her
Speaker 2: bridal shower and even bring stuff, which I did. I
Speaker 2: even told her that Giselle and Robin said that you
Speaker 2: were not my friend and I shouldn't.
Speaker 4: Be going to her wedding.
Speaker 3: Okay, Mommy, you need to keep eye guys between us.
Speaker 3: She can't be telling everybody now.
Speaker 4: She hates us.
Speaker 2: I don't remember any of this, but long story short,
Speaker 2: after a lot of talks with our mutual friends and
Speaker 2: my therapists. They suggested I should go, but view it
Speaker 2: as a vacation and not as.
Speaker 4: Her wedding, so I ended up going.
Speaker 2: We barely spoke, and she reminded me many times through
Speaker 2: her actions that I was just a guest at her
Speaker 2: wedding and nothing more. I was hurt throughout the trip,
Speaker 2: but I made sure.
Speaker 4: That I had a good time.
Speaker 2: On the last day of the trip, it got back
Speaker 2: to me that she's mad at me for some comments
Speaker 2: I didn't make about her wedding not being classy.
Speaker 3: Even though a.
Speaker 2: Bunch of our mutual friends assured or they never heard
Speaker 2: me say that, she still believes that I haven't spoken
Speaker 2: to her since this last conversation and don't have any
Speaker 2: intention to, And usually I am the one putting in
Speaker 2: the effort of texting first and checking in because I
Speaker 2: haven't done that. We have not spoken in over six weeks.
Speaker 2: Do you think I should reach out or leave it
Speaker 2: for her to make the first move? Love Mohammed, and
Speaker 2: Mohammad says, I love you all so much. I'm driving
Speaker 2: all the way to Philly to see you. Yeah first, yay, Okay,
Speaker 2: So we got my Mohama's gonna be in the house.
Speaker 3: Okay. First of all, Mam, is you lying? Mohammad is lying?
Speaker 4: Why is it lying?
Speaker 2: You said, dis girl, this wedding is not classy? Okay
Speaker 2: you said it. Maybe you were drunk because he said
Speaker 2: he didn't remember saying all the other stuff. But right,
Speaker 2: So no question, And it's okay Mohammad that it's okay
Speaker 2: to give your commentary on the non classy wedding.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: See, I'm I'm on the flip side. I feel like,
Speaker 2: first of all, I hate being accused of something I
Speaker 2: didn't do, Okay, Okay, So if Mohammad did not make
Speaker 2: these comments and people are saying that, that would like
Speaker 2: burn me up and I and this has happened to
Speaker 2: me many times where people accuse me of doing things
Speaker 2: that I haven't done, especially things that like I wouldn't do.
Speaker 2: So that's number one. And then number two, if his
Speaker 2: friend after he tells his friend, no, I didn't say
Speaker 2: that that, I don't know where that came from, if
Speaker 2: she's still choosing to believe that he said that, like
Speaker 2: for me, that's just a killer, Like, oh, okay, so
Speaker 2: I told you, I told you I didn't say it,
Speaker 2: but you still believed I said it, So why am
Speaker 2: I still friends with you? Why would you want to
Speaker 2: be friends with me?
Speaker 4: Why would you want to.
Speaker 2: Continue this friendship? So that's that's my perspective, Like this
Speaker 2: actually kind of triggered something in me right now, okay
Speaker 2: at eight A right, Okay. I don't like being accused
Speaker 2: of something I didn't do. And when I tell you
Speaker 2: I didn't do it and you choose to still believe it, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's it. There's nothing else I can do. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to sit here and try to prove it. I'm
Speaker 2: not trying to state my case. I'm not going to
Speaker 2: try to, you know, kiss her ass and be.
Speaker 4: Like hol bl blah blah blah. No, we ain't doing that.
Speaker 4: We're not doing that.
Speaker 2: So Mohamet, the ball is my is I'm concerned the
Speaker 2: ball is in her court if she wants to circle
Speaker 2: back to you and realize the friend that she lost,
Speaker 2: the friend that she offended, and that's on her. But
Speaker 2: as far as I'm concerned with you, Muhammed, I think
Speaker 2: you should just act like you ain't never met her before.
Speaker 3: Well, he should have listened to us in the first place.
Speaker 3: We told him not.
Speaker 2: Nothing to go and then he's yeah, he told her
Speaker 2: just all a Roma said that he should not go,
Speaker 2: and he went and packed his bags.
Speaker 3: Anyway, Yeah, you should have listened to us in the
Speaker 3: first place.
Speaker 2: True, And we know you trashed her wedding as you should,
Speaker 2: because if I went and you're not speaking to me,
Speaker 2: I'm a trashed her wedding.
Speaker 3: That wedding suck.
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