1 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,159 Speaker 1: Oh, it's time to talk about weddings. So some on 2 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,119 Speaker 1: this weekend was just like, I have to go to 3 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 1: this wedding in this place, and then another person had 4 00:00:18,079 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: this other big event in the other place, and then 5 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: someone else had a big birthday party on a Sunday night, 6 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 1: like a big elaborate birthday party at a private club, 7 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: and every one of these people. 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 2: Was dreading it. Okay. 9 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:31,159 Speaker 1: So it was three different types of events. One was 10 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: like a sweet sixteen, one was like a birthday party, 11 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 1: one was a wedding. 12 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 2: Okay. 13 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:39,279 Speaker 1: These were all high end, expensive items, okay. So I'm 14 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: saying this to the younger generation, Okay. In each case 15 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: they were probably like easily six figure events, okay, and 16 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: in each case the people were dreading, going dreading. So 17 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: I have another friend who's talking about the wedding for 18 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: her kid, and I'm like, okay, well, I'll give you 19 00:00:57,160 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: some grammarules about when it should be when it shouldn't 20 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: be sex, and she doesn't want to deal with it. 21 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: She doesn't want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars. Like, 22 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: for context, you could take a yacht with like probably 23 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: twelve to fifteen people on like a major like you're 24 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: a celebrity yacht for six figures, like let's say one 25 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: hundred hundred and fifty thousand dollars with a crew, and 26 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 1: you could do it properly, okay, for a meaningful trip. 27 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: You could also have a gorgeous house or a down 28 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: payment on a house right or buy a bunch of 29 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: amazing stocks that are going to go up. Or you 30 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: could burn three times four times that in some cases 31 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: and have everyone going dread it, dread it and then 32 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: complain about what the food was like, compare it to 33 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: something else, talk about the flowers were like, like the 34 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: way that I don't think that everybody should go to college. 35 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: I also don't think that everybody should have a very expensive, 36 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: elaborate engagement party, wedding, the botmets for all these things. 37 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: I'm just telling you people don't want to fucking go. 38 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: So if you're doing it for yourself, do it for 39 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: yourself and have the rest the people be like either 40 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: on zoom or streaming or AI because the people don't 41 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: want to go. I'm just shooting straight with you. 42 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: Do the math. 43 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: Think about how many people you talk about on a 44 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: weekly basis going on to a wedding, to a destination, wedding, 45 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,240 Speaker 1: to a thing, to an inopportune night. It's a holiday weekend, 46 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: it's the summer, it's New Year's Eve, it's Christmas weekend, whatever, 47 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: and they don't want to fucking go. I'm just saying, 48 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: and I who will have a birthday party? I am 49 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 1: like the Queen of no obligation. I genuinely don't care 50 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: if you don't come. Don't want you to come, if 51 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: you don't want to come. I only want you to 52 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: come if you're jacked up and excited. And everybody knows 53 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 1: that about me. I may not come to your thing. 54 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: Why because I don't place all the importance in the 55 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: world on that. 56 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 2: I just don't. 57 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: If you didn't come to mine, you didn't invite me 58 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: to yours, and I invite you to mine, it doesn't matter. 59 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 2: I don't care. 60 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: I'm inviting who I want because of my own reasons 61 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: and who I want to be somewhere, and you should 62 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: do the same. And I I go to something because 63 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: of my own reasons and I want to be somewhere, 64 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: you should do the same too. I don't want bad 65 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 1: energy where it's obligation, someone's driting being there. 66 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 2: I don't want to feel like that. 67 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 1: You know that face you see someone make when they're 68 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: there just for obligating, Hey, how are you? They want 69 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: to get the credit for the kiss, They want to 70 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: give you the gift. I want to get the fuck 71 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: out of there. I don't want that energy. I want 72 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: you to be and I want you to stay so 73 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: late that you're embarrassing yourself. 74 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 2: I got a lot of engagement. 75 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 1: I guess we're gonna say for discussing Northwest and people 76 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: criticizing Kim as a parent because of her style, I 77 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: don't believe in that. 78 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 2: I've said. 79 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: I don't like when they did it with Blue Ivy, 80 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:41,119 Speaker 1: I don't like when they did it with my kid. 81 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: I don't like what they do with housewives kids. It's like, 82 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: she's a child, doesn't matter what package in, doesn't matter. 83 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: That she dresses older, doesn't matter. But could matter that 84 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: she has a finger piercing. Someone on social media showed 85 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: me my daughter showed me. I was like, wait, that 86 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: is painful. That was the only thing that made me 87 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: really think if it's true, unless that's a I don't 88 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: know what's real anymore. But that was like, WHOA, She's 89 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: Kanye West's daughter, and I kind of went through, just 90 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 1: like the rattling of like two Kim's parents are like 91 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: Kim's mother was married to Robert Kardashian like working on 92 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 1: the Oj Simpson murder trial. Her mother was then married 93 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: to a man named Bruce Jenner, who later transitioned into 94 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:23,160 Speaker 1: a woman. So the Kardashians their stepfather is now their 95 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: step mother Caitlyn Jenner. I mean the children. The sister 96 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: Kendall's like the biggest fashion model on the globe. Kylie 97 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: is a billionaire and has her own plane and did 98 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 1: like and when she still didn't have a two in 99 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: front of her age, I don't think she might have 100 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: still been nineteen. Maybe she was in her twenties, young mom. 101 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: Like they all roll and beat to a different drama. Okay, 102 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 1: Like it's not they don't live on earth. They have 103 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 1: like metallic silver cars and then like cashmere suede cars 104 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: like dusted in sparkles. Like they don't live a real 105 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: normal life. So I don't know why anyone would expect 106 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: their children to dress in a ill normal way. You cannot, 107 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: like ask a dog to be a cat. You cannot 108 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 1: ask someone so extraordinary who lives such an outrageous life 109 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,600 Speaker 1: to be living a normal life, like are they supposed 110 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: to be going to Walmart or TJ Max to get 111 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: their clothes? Like I just don't expect Kanye West, who'd 112 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: started his own fucking church on Sundays like where he'd 113 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: have performances in Calabasas, who like went off the deep 114 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: end and had a wife who went naked to a 115 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 1: premiere who like was a billionaire on paper from Adidas 116 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: and Skims and then went to like zero for like 117 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 1: being anti Semitic, Like none of this is normal. I 118 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: don't know why we would expect any children to be 119 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: dressing quote unquote, there's no such a thing as normal, 120 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: but like doing anything that there's some common average construct 121 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: you're assigning them to, Like I don't even understand it. 122 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: If I was seven foot six, you wouldn't expect me 123 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:59,039 Speaker 1: to like go on normal planes, Like you wouldn't expect 124 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: me to eat normal food. You wouldn't expect me to 125 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: do normal things like and again I hate the word normal, 126 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: but just like predictable, average, middle of the road construct 127 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:13,280 Speaker 1: things like I think Northwest happens to be mature, like 128 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: looking her body happens to be mature, And when a 129 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: kid's body is mature early that informs how they act 130 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: and dressed. But when your mother is Kim Kardashian, your 131 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: father is Kanye West, your aunt is Kylie Kendall Chloe 132 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: and Courtney, and uncle is Scott did like great aunt, 133 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: I mean like grandparents and step grandparents are Caitlyn Jenner 134 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: formally known as Bruce Jenner, and like Christian, I don't 135 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,479 Speaker 1: even know how to make like heads or toes of it, 136 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: do you. 137 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 2: It's not even normal. It's totally rare air. 138 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: Their private plans should not be called like Kim air 139 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: and like Kylie air. 140 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 2: Should be called rare air. 141 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 1: So get off criticizing Northwest for wearing a course that 142 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 1: you don't even see like beyond. I just want to 143 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: say something. Successful people not just celebrities. Successful people, entrepreneurs, moguls, 144 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: people that are really successful that have made it on 145 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 1: their own, but they're not heirs. They haven't been handed 146 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: down a fortune. I mean self made people. Yes that 147 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: includes celebrities. Yes, that includes like a Mark Cuban, It 148 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: includes a Jennifer Lopez, It includes a Kim Kardashian, It 149 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: includes a Tom Cruise, It includes a Bethany Frankel. It 150 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: includes Obama, doesn't matter whether you like them or dislike them, 151 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: doesn't matter who they voted for, it doesn't matter what 152 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: their religion is. That is not what I'm saying. They 153 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: usually deserve their success because from what I have seen personally, 154 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: the person who's at the helm usually is the one 155 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: who's making it rain. Unless there's somebody who's just so 156 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: lucky that they have such a gift, or someone else 157 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: put in place around them, people so much smarter than them, 158 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: which does happen in politics, then there's an exception. But 159 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 1: you know the difference between people themselves who are getting up, 160 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: showing up on time, doing the work. They're more creative 161 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: than the people around them. They're smarter than the people 162 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: around them. And when you see people around you that 163 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: are not as smart, or not as creative, or just 164 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: you're the one who has to make it rain. 165 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:33,079 Speaker 2: You're the one who has to do it. Like you 166 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 2: know what I mean. If you want to get something done, 167 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 2: do it yourself. If that is. 168 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 1: You, you deserve it, and you should almost be glad 169 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 1: because if it was easy, everyone would do it, If 170 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: everybody could be as smart as Mark Cuban or Jeff 171 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:52,960 Speaker 1: Bezos or Emma Greed, then they would. So the people 172 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:55,560 Speaker 1: deserve their flowers, whether you like them or not. Let's 173 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: talk about Jennifer Lopez traveling around the world, going to Dubai, 174 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: doing the hair, the makeup, outfit, the looks, the snatch, 175 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:06,239 Speaker 1: the songs, the dance is the acting, Lady Gaga, animal machine. 176 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: Successful people, truly, madly, deeply successful people. Not a person 177 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: that had one show and made a lot of money 178 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: on it because they were on ten seasons. They got lucky, 179 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: they did their work, and then the rest of their 180 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: life they're making money on it. Yes, they deserve it 181 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: because they did that work while on that show, or 182 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:26,240 Speaker 1: they were just so hot or so charismatic they got 183 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: away with murder. But by and large, sustainable success and 184 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:39,199 Speaker 1: longevity and paychecks, they deserve their fucking flat Miley Cyrus deserves, deserves, deserves, 185 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 1: David Beckham deserves. People get so mad at Taylor Swift, 186 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: like people love her, but then other people mad her. 187 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 1: She infantalizes whatever, she's manipulating her audience. She acts like 188 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: a little baby, a damsel in distress, a fawn, whatever, 189 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,079 Speaker 1: and like that she's talked about. She's given the bread 190 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: crumbs or the easter eggs about her ex and like 191 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: gone through her heartbreak and utilized and exploited her heartbreak 192 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: to the tune of billions of dollars. 193 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 2: Guess what. 194 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: The people who maybe can't afford a therapist and buy 195 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: her song, who were broken up with, who have had 196 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: their hearts broken into, who have not found love, who 197 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: want the fairytale, want the fantasy. They're getting something out 198 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: of it, Like there's an ROI. It is an absolute ROI. 199 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: Like people are like, she got me through my childhood 200 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: or my adolescence or my breakup. 201 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 2: They're invested. 202 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: Everything is about ROI, Like you can't get mad at 203 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: her for being a successful businesswoman and yet also at 204 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:44,840 Speaker 1: the same time exploiting what she's gone through. Two things 205 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: can be true. At the same time, the audience could 206 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: have helped her with it. Let's pretend she only was 207 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,079 Speaker 1: exploiting her audience. I don't believe that to be true, 208 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:55,240 Speaker 1: but let's pretend that that was the case. They're getting 209 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 1: something out of it, like it's a relationship. It's a 210 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: relationship supply and demand. She's selling something, they're buying it, 211 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 1: and they're satisfied with their purchase. They come back and 212 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 1: want to buy it again. No one did anything wrong. 213 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: They're the fairy tale, they're the royal family. Now people 214 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:17,560 Speaker 1: are getting an ROI. You know, no different than anything else. 215 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 1: You go to a movie, you watch it. Did you 216 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: enjoy the movie when you left? Then it was worth 217 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 1: a ticket. Doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how much money 218 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 1: the person on screen made. If you got what you needed, 219 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:30,720 Speaker 1: you don't feel cheated because people always like to count 220 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: other people's money. 221 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 2: Always. 222 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:35,959 Speaker 1: People hate when somebody else makes a lot of money, 223 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:38,439 Speaker 1: and like, look how much they're charging. Like, oh, Louis Utan, 224 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 1: Louis Utah charge one hundred and fifty dollars for an 225 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: eyeshadow and a beautiful packaging and the lip et cetera. 226 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 2: It's air. 227 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: Winn charge twenty dollars for a strawberry, Arimez charges sixty 228 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: five thousand dollars for a bag, and Sotheby's charges half 229 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 1: a million dollars for that same said Himalayan bag. Encrust 230 00:11:56,880 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 1: it in diamonds. If there's a market and someone's paying it, 231 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: what's the problem. Kick him out of Louis Vutan. Now 232 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,079 Speaker 1: people can push back. Chinell could charge all this money, 233 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: and then not be nice to their customers. Then the 234 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: customers willing to decide whether they got an ROI or not. 235 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: But it's what the market will bear. So people always 236 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: talk about impostor syndrome and that they feel like they're 237 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 1: an impostor. I feel like impostor syndrome is me thinking 238 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: that so many other people are impostors. Like I feel 239 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: that authenticity is something that is brought up almost too much, 240 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:42,600 Speaker 1: like it's authentic, be authentic, She's authentic, genuine, all that right, 241 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 1: And it's just like this word that people say versus 242 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: it being real. And the problem with authenticity and accessing 243 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 1: it is that I don't think many people even really 244 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: are self aware. 245 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 2: They don't even really know who they are. 246 00:12:58,000 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: I'm thinking of one person in particular that I won't mention, 247 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 1: who's a public person who I believe doesn't really realize 248 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 1: how inauthentic they are. 249 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 2: Everyone else does. 250 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: But the problem is if someone themselves keeps trying to 251 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: reinvent who they are based on what they think society 252 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 1: wants them to be or what they think they should 253 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,560 Speaker 1: present as you know, like people always say things about 254 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: themselves like I'm this kind of person or I'm that, 255 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: or I'm commitment phobic, or I'm very this, or I'm 256 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: very shy, or I'm very outgoing, or I'm very sexy 257 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: or all these things. In many cases, that's just what 258 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 1: someone's saying. It doesn't mean it's true. It doesn't mean 259 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: it's who they authentically are. And to be authentic you 260 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:43,719 Speaker 1: have to really just have probably done the work or 261 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 1: just have a gift of the innate self awareness to 262 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:51,200 Speaker 1: then have the freedom to just be yourself. And that's 263 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 1: why you won't have imposter syndrome, because you just are yourself, 264 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: whether you could do it or can't, whether you're flawed 265 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: or aren't, If you're honest in the experience, it really 266 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:06,959 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. If someone has imposter syndrome, they are trying 267 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 1: to present something to the world that they don't actually 268 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:13,760 Speaker 1: believe is true, or the world believes something about them, 269 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: or they've been given a job that they themselves don't 270 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:22,080 Speaker 1: believe that they warn't so that's why they feel imposter syndrome. 271 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:26,479 Speaker 1: And likely if they feel imposter syndrome, they are an impostor. 272 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: I don't feel imposter syndrome because I'm not an impostor. 273 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 1: Because if I don't know something, I say it. If 274 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm experiencing something as it's happening that's challenging, I'll say it. 275 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 2: I don't mean you're. 276 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 1: Supposed to cry to your boss at work every time 277 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 1: you get jammed up. But if you're honest in the experience, 278 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:45,520 Speaker 1: you'll never feel like an impostor. And I feel as 279 00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: a result of that, that's why people that are just 280 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: saying the thing in the interview that they feel that 281 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: people want to hear, and you could just it's an 282 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: essence of inauthenticity. You could just it's like in your skin. Now. 283 00:14:56,800 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: Some people get away with it because their entire image 284 00:15:01,040 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 1: is perfection or glam or super intelligent. Like there's one 285 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: other person I'm thinking of one. The first person was 286 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 1: a woman. This person is a man that's constantly trying 287 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: to tell everybody how much they know. It's exhausting in 288 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 1: such an emphatic like yelling at you. Weigh why why 289 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 1: they yelling if it's so secure and they're so sure 290 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:26,120 Speaker 1: and what they're saying, what is like, why are they 291 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 1: yelling at you so anyway, I think most other people 292 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: are imposters. I see it in dating all the time. 293 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:36,520 Speaker 1: I see a man who has, you know, is wearing 294 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: a million dollars in watches, you know, over the course 295 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,440 Speaker 1: of several days, but then doesn't offer to pay for 296 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: something very reasonable like in being chivalrous and being a gentleman. Now, 297 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: either those watches are fake or they're fake, because it's 298 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 1: just those two things don't track. It doesn't line up. 299 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 1: Or they presented on their dating app or in their 300 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 1: job description or their linked in as being the head 301 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: of this or the president of this or a partner 302 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: or VC. You see this a lot on some of 303 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: these boogie dating apps, like some big shiny object, which 304 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 1: is no different than filtering a picture. 305 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:13,600 Speaker 2: I'll give you an example. 306 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 1: I'll see a guy that'll say that they're in real 307 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 1: estate development because they're a real estate broker. I'm sorry, 308 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 1: that's a scam. That's a scam, and you're an impostor. 309 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: So imposter syndrome happens all the time in dating, but 310 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 1: not with me. I walk into a date who I am? 311 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,520 Speaker 1: It's because the other person is an impostor. We see 312 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: it all the time, the way someone wants to present themselves. 313 00:16:35,240 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 1: Anyone who says very involved dad, impostor why just your dad? 314 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:43,359 Speaker 1: You need to say you're very involved aad. You're an impostor. 315 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: Anyone who shows themselves near a fancy car, or near 316 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: a plane, or wants to somehow exude rich in a 317 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: photo or a description, they're an impostor. They're an impostor 318 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: because they're insecure. They're not authentic. That's how they're presenting. 319 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: Takes a lot to be secure, but at least be 320 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: honest about being insecure. That would actually be more secure 321 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:09,360 Speaker 1: than what most people are presenting. 322 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:11,400 Speaker 2: So imposter syndrome 323 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:14,120 Speaker 1: Is everywhere, but the call is not always coming from 324 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 1: withinside the house.