Speaker 1: How do everybody. Welcome to the Grangersmith podcast. Thank you
Speaker 1: for watching and listening. I wanted to talk to you
Speaker 1: about eee nation dot com. I don't know if y'all
Speaker 1: have heard of me talk about this yet. It's pretty new,
Speaker 1: but we built a website called yee enation dot com
Speaker 1: just for you, and you can come. You could become
Speaker 1: a member, and we were releasing exclusive content on this
Speaker 1: website for members only. For instance, we just put up
Speaker 1: a documentary that some of you might remember that was
Speaker 1: hard copy only. It was not anywhere on the internet.
Speaker 1: We put it out in twenty thirteen. It was produced
Speaker 1: by my videographer Paul, who still does these podcasts. He's
Speaker 1: been with me for the last seven years. And this
Speaker 1: was the first national tour we ever took. And we
Speaker 1: were with Paul and we went out and we had
Speaker 1: this crazy adventure. I got in a kind of a
Speaker 1: fight with my sound guy out of good fun, lost
Speaker 1: my voice through a burst blood vessel on my vocal cord.
Speaker 1: A lot of crazy stuff happened. Anyway, it's on this
Speaker 1: documentary that we've released for the first time ever on
Speaker 1: ye enation dot com. We're also with this membership, you
Speaker 1: can get merch discounts at ee apparel. You can get
Speaker 1: early access to EEE apparel launches, which is actually a
Speaker 1: big deal. So say we launch a big fall launch,
Speaker 1: for example, or a winter launch at ten am, Well
Speaker 1: you get access to that like twenty minutes early, so
Speaker 1: you can go and get the items before they sell out.
Speaker 1: That's a cool thing. You could get access to live
Speaker 1: streams that me and Amber are gonna do periodically. We'll
Speaker 1: go on there and be able to answer your questions.
Speaker 1: Exclusive listens to new music, which is going to be
Speaker 1: a huge plus for ye enation dot com. So, for instance,
Speaker 1: we have Volume two coming out at the end of November,
Speaker 1: Country Things Volume two, and I will be going on
Speaker 1: yee enation dot com and playing these songs early before
Speaker 1: anyone gets to hear them from members only. And then
Speaker 1: also we're going to be playing live songs, so like,
Speaker 1: for instance, this Friday, me and Todd are getting together
Speaker 1: and we're gonna play some songs, make a bonfire, play
Speaker 1: some music and record it and put it on yee
Speaker 1: nah dot com exclusive to members only. So so excited
Speaker 1: about that is brand new and it's just the very
Speaker 1: beginning of what we could be capable of doing with
Speaker 1: this custom website to you guys. Of course I have
Speaker 1: to talk about EE Apparel and I have to talk
Speaker 1: about a Shirt of the Month club, which is I
Speaker 1: think the coolest thing we do at Eye Apparel. We
Speaker 1: do a lot of stuff here at the Yegee Farm,
Speaker 1: but Shirt of the Month Club's got to be the coolest.
Speaker 1: You just sign up and once you remember, you get
Speaker 1: a T shirt the first of every month. This is
Speaker 1: an exclusive shirt that we don't sell anywhere else. You
Speaker 1: can't find it anywhere else. In fact, you don't even
Speaker 1: know what it is. You just give us your size,
Speaker 1: and first of the month, you forget about it. You
Speaker 1: open the mailbox and there is your brand new EE
Speaker 1: Apparel shirt. We design them all, me and my brothers,
Speaker 1: and probably more proud of those than any other shirts.
Speaker 1: In fact, I wish I was wearing this is a
Speaker 1: couple months ago, but I wish I was wearing the
Speaker 1: one from this month because it's probably my favorite shirt
Speaker 1: we've ever done. Continue to send me your questions, which
Speaker 1: is what I'm going to do today at Grangersmith Podcast
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. Ask me anything and I'll sit
Speaker 1: here on this podcast and read them off the cuff,
Speaker 1: no notes, no preparation, as if we're sitting in the
Speaker 1: living room together. And I think that's been such a
Speaker 1: cool thing to do on this podcast. And I'm want
Speaker 1: to give a shout out to all the people and
Speaker 1: the different professions that I know listen to this on
Speaker 1: Monday mornings other whether you're a trucker or a power
Speaker 1: plant worker, or a teacher, or you're sitting in traffic
Speaker 1: on your commute to work, whatever you might be doing.
Speaker 1: I know people listen to it in the tractor and
Speaker 1: when they're in the field in the mornings. I try
Speaker 1: to make it where this podcast could really be heard
Speaker 1: and consumed by all walks of life, and that's what
Speaker 1: makes it fun for me and makes it meaningful for me,
Speaker 1: makes me feel like I have a purpose. So thank
Speaker 1: you for listening today. Subscribe it. Whatever platform you're using
Speaker 1: for this podcast, Please subscribe and tell a friend. That's
Speaker 1: how we could spread it. We could spread the message,
Speaker 1: and I could continue to make these and continue to
Speaker 1: produce them at the best quality I know possible. So
Speaker 1: this is gonna be a good one. Welcome to the
Speaker 1: Granger Smith Podcast. Ye did chant in d Times and
Speaker 1: Long Line bifle of up and down on back crazy
Speaker 1: evag gation. That song you just heard. I get so
Speaker 1: many requests from that song that people say, where can
Speaker 1: I find that song? The song at the intro of
Speaker 1: the podcast, And to be honest with you, it really
Speaker 1: doesn't exist right now anywhere but this podcast. And it
Speaker 1: used to be a show intro to our live concerts,
Speaker 1: and it ended up being when we stopped using it
Speaker 1: and switched to another one that became the intro to
Speaker 1: this podcast. So I don't know how to answer that
Speaker 1: question on where do I find that song? You could
Speaker 1: listen to it right here all you want. You could
Speaker 1: keep rewinding the podcast over and over, or what do
Speaker 1: you want? What do you guys want? Comment below? If
Speaker 1: you want me to release that as a digital maybe
Speaker 1: I'll put it on YouTube and just stream it as
Speaker 1: a song itself. I could do that. Maybe I'll do
Speaker 1: that that way. When people ask that question, I'll say, yeah,
Speaker 1: linkin description, here's that song. But there's really I write
Speaker 1: these kind of songs for intros, and there's really no
Speaker 1: more to it than dip cans and diesel mud tis.
Speaker 1: There's not much more to it than that. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to have a song for Yege Nation. Speaking of songs,
Speaker 1: I'm holding if you're watching on YouTube, I'm holding the
Speaker 1: physical copy of Country Things. So what happens is Country
Speaker 1: Things Volume one is out, Thank you guys for listening
Speaker 1: to that. And Country Things Volume two comes out November
Speaker 1: twenty seventh. And when it comes out. When Volume two
Speaker 1: comes out, it becomes one project. So the volumes go away,
Speaker 1: it becomes the toll, all the songs mixed in together.
Speaker 1: You get the CD and we'll have it on vinyl.
Speaker 1: All that will be coming out in November. So if
Speaker 1: you like to hold a CD like I do and
Speaker 1: fill that physical copy, you're gonna get that in November.
Speaker 1: You'll be able to get it off. So I want
Speaker 1: to dig into these questions with you guys, and my
Speaker 1: question list here is getting longer and longer because I
Speaker 1: don't answer them as fast as you guys send them.
Speaker 1: But I encourage you to go to your email Grangersmith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com ask me anything and I'll
Speaker 1: work my way through it. And I know that these
Speaker 1: questions are all over the map, and I really enjoy
Speaker 1: this and I really I'm grateful that you guys are
Speaker 1: trusting me with some really personal stuff. That's what it
Speaker 1: is today too, Just get into more and more personal stuff.
Speaker 1: Some of it's light, hut hearted, some of it is
Speaker 1: super deep. I'll try my best with all of it.
Speaker 1: Like I said, as if we're sitting in the living
Speaker 1: room together, sitting in the truck and talking as friends.
Speaker 1: So let me scroll a little bit. And this question
Speaker 1: is from Adam from Minnesota. He says, Hi, Granger, with
Speaker 1: all the miles that you put on touring, have you
Speaker 1: ever had mechanical breakdowns that prevented making a show? What
Speaker 1: sort of a contingency plan is there if a bus
Speaker 1: goes down. I've always been impressed by the logistics of
Speaker 1: touring musicians and the equipment used. That's a great question, Adam.
Speaker 1: Thank you for having the foresight to even think that
Speaker 1: you could show up at a concert and all of
Speaker 1: this equipment is there, and the band is there and
Speaker 1: the crew is there, and they're putting on this show.
Speaker 1: And most people don't think, Hey, weren't they in Indianapolis
Speaker 1: last night? And aren't they in Baltimore tomorrow? And that's
Speaker 1: our lives and so much of our touring is moving
Speaker 1: a bunch of heavy stuff from one place to the
Speaker 1: next and setting it all up and then tearing it
Speaker 1: all down that night, putting it back in a trailer
Speaker 1: or a truck and moving it five or six hundred
Speaker 1: miles to another city, and doing it all again the
Speaker 1: next day. That is, it's logistical nightmares a lot of times,
Speaker 1: and a lot of that falls on either my lead driver,
Speaker 1: Bull or my tour manager Chris, and those guys. They
Speaker 1: go through a lot to make sure that the shows happen.
Speaker 1: And when I say a lot, I mean planning out
Speaker 1: fuel stops, planning out when the load in time, when
Speaker 1: arrival time is, when departure time is, making sure that
Speaker 1: the mileage in between those two stops may even make sense.
Speaker 1: Can you even go six hundred and fifty miles with
Speaker 1: knowing that you're going to stop this night at this
Speaker 1: time and you need to be at the next location
Speaker 1: at this time. Can it even happen? So a lot
Speaker 1: of planning goes into these tours before we even leave
Speaker 1: the EE Farm. I want to help you ad them
Speaker 1: with that question because I have my two bus riders,
Speaker 1: Butch and Bull have started a YouTube channel called Risky
Speaker 1: Business with Butch and Bull, and they go through kind
Speaker 1: of a lot of the mechanical stuff in the background
Speaker 1: to their lives that you might not see. And I
Speaker 1: think it's really cool and it's a cool channel. So
Speaker 1: I encourage you to go support those guys and to
Speaker 1: help answer your question even more, I mean the answers. Yes,
Speaker 1: do we have mechanical breakdowns all the time. Every day.
Speaker 1: It's a daily thing. Something's breaking down. I mean it
Speaker 1: could It could be anything from the fuel line is
Speaker 1: busted or a belt breaks, or it could be as
Speaker 1: simple as we have no ac in the bunk room,
Speaker 1: or the lights won't turn on in the back lounge,
Speaker 1: the heater's broken in the driver's seat of the driver's cab,
Speaker 1: the trailer lights don't come on, we blow a tire,
Speaker 1: we have of an air leak, and the air tanks
Speaker 1: for the bus, the airbags. There are so many things
Speaker 1: to go wrong in a bus or truck and trailer
Speaker 1: and tires on the big road that something's going to
Speaker 1: happen just about every day. That's just logical statistics. But
Speaker 1: we have never never knock on wood, never missed a
Speaker 1: show because of a mechanical breakdown. In the sixteen years
Speaker 1: that have been actively touring, we've had crazy times where
Speaker 1: we've had to rent U haul trucks or U haul
Speaker 1: vans and hop in vans and have a pickup truck
Speaker 1: come and unhook the trailer, and pickup truck takes the
Speaker 1: gear and we drive in a rental. We've most of
Speaker 1: the time we travel on two buses, so a lot
Speaker 1: of times if something really bad happens, we all jump
Speaker 1: onto one bus and cram onto one us or more
Speaker 1: often we limp our way to the venue, and then
Speaker 1: butcher Bull deals with that bus. As soon as they
Speaker 1: get there at say six o'clock in the morning, they
Speaker 1: start dealing with that problem, calling local mechanic or tire
Speaker 1: guy or electrician or plumber or whatever. And then the
Speaker 1: local guy comes out, which is not always reliable. First
Speaker 1: of all, they might be not open, the shop might
Speaker 1: be on a Saturday, and the shops close on Saturday,
Speaker 1: so there's always some kind of adventure. We've been stuck
Speaker 1: on the road. I know we took a Canadian trip
Speaker 1: in twenty sixteen and my bus Wildflower was just, for
Speaker 1: whatever reason, continuing to break down on that tour, so
Speaker 1: we were stuck in like icy cold tundra night after night.
Speaker 1: Something new was happening, and a lot of times it
Speaker 1: has to do with Wildflower. In particular, it has to
Speaker 1: do with the government emissions that we had that are installed,
Speaker 1: whether that's a in the big diesel trucks that's a
Speaker 1: regeneration system that helps the exhaust emissions, or it tries
Speaker 1: to dilute them and it just really hampers the engines,
Speaker 1: and so that seems to be a problem. But these
Speaker 1: guys always find a way to use baling wire and
Speaker 1: duct tape to get us back down the road. And
Speaker 1: luckily we've never missed a show because of mechanical problems.
Speaker 1: The only time that I actually came close, really close
Speaker 1: to missing a show had nothing to do with the
Speaker 1: bus is it was a fly date, which means we
Speaker 1: all are on an airplane, and I was stuck in
Speaker 1: DFW on American Airlines with maintenance problems on their plane,
Speaker 1: and I didn't get to the show until an hour
Speaker 1: after it was supposed to start. Luckily, the band was
Speaker 1: already there. They beat me there, and I came in
Speaker 1: late and the band was just playing cover songs in
Speaker 1: Colorado Springs, Colorado when I showed up and took over.
Speaker 1: So that's the really the closest it's ever been, and
Speaker 1: I would say that that's a pretty good chance that
Speaker 1: if we're going to miss a show, it's because of
Speaker 1: an airplane, not because of a bus. Thank you, Adam.
Speaker 1: Good question man. This question is from Lindsay. She's from Michigan.
Speaker 1: She says, Hey, Grangeer, I love your music and family.
Speaker 1: I've seen you twice and I can't wait for concerts
Speaker 1: to be back in full swing so I can come
Speaker 1: out again. I lost my fiance to a fatal car
Speaker 1: accident nine months ago. Out of respect for the other
Speaker 1: family involved, I prefer not to say what the events
Speaker 1: were leading up to this accident. I've been constantly told
Speaker 1: I need to forgive the individual that was involved. I
Speaker 1: have the head knowledge that I need to do this,
Speaker 1: but my heart does not want to follow. My question
Speaker 1: is you, as a man of faith, what is your
Speaker 1: process that you go through and forgiving and how do
Speaker 1: you know it's the right time to do so? Deep question, Lindsay.
Speaker 1: Let me start by saying, I'm so sorry about your fearonce.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine what you've gone through and what you
Speaker 1: continue to go through over these last nine months. I'm
Speaker 1: sure you had wedding plans and future plans and life plans,
Speaker 1: and it probably feels like that's all been completely destroyed.
Speaker 1: And my heart goes out to you, and I'm sure
Speaker 1: everyone listening to this podcast really has empathy for you,
Speaker 1: And I can imagine, on top of the grief of
Speaker 1: losing your fiance, what that must be. On top of
Speaker 1: that to deal with the anger that you have towards
Speaker 1: the other party in the accident. And it is on
Speaker 1: your heart that you need to forgive that individual, at
Speaker 1: least you say that's what your your head says you
Speaker 1: need to do, but your heart doesn't want to follow.
Speaker 1: So so many of these questions, guys, I can't relate
Speaker 1: to the question, but I can relate to being human
Speaker 1: and the incredible suffering that we as humans continue to
Speaker 1: involve ourselves in. That's just who we are as humans.
Speaker 1: We suffer. We go through good times, and then bad
Speaker 1: times follow, and we find ourselves back in a good time,
Speaker 1: and then we're surprised by bad times again. My first
Speaker 1: my first thought for you is it's it's been nine months.
Speaker 1: Don't force yourself into thinking you need to find forgiveness
Speaker 1: in order to find peace in your grieving in your mourning,
Speaker 1: because I don't think those two things correlate right now,
Speaker 1: and I think that they will happen in order as
Speaker 1: you began to go through your grieving process and begin
Speaker 1: to understand more, not about how it happened, but understand
Speaker 1: more that it did happen, and this is your world now.
Speaker 1: And that is one of the most painful things about
Speaker 1: loss is realizing that this is your reality, that you
Speaker 1: can't change it, that you didn't want it to happen,
Speaker 1: that this is the worst nightmare, but it is your reality,
Speaker 1: and you have a choice to accept that or deny it.
Speaker 1: And with denying that reality, you're just foregoing the suffering.
Speaker 1: And so at some point, and you might have already
Speaker 1: done this, Lindsay, but at some point you got to say, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is the hand I've been dealt, these are the
Speaker 1: cards I have to play. I feel like I'm the
Speaker 1: only one in the world that has lost a fiance
Speaker 1: to a car accident. I feel like no one could
Speaker 1: relate to me. I see my friends around me, getting married,
Speaker 1: having babies, happy, they seem amazing. They In fact, when
Speaker 1: I get a wedding invitation, I get mad, I get angry, jealous,
Speaker 1: natural feelings that you might be thinking, lindsay, there's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with that, But it is up to you now
Speaker 1: and you alone, to say this is where I am.
Speaker 1: And I have to mention that if you're if you
Speaker 1: are a woman of faith, if you're a believer, then
Speaker 1: so much of this is putting putting this back to
Speaker 1: God and saying God, this is where this is where
Speaker 1: you led me. And I hate it, but as a
Speaker 1: servant of you, I'm accepting it as part of your
Speaker 1: will because I know that that you you work all
Speaker 1: things for good, and the crazy thing about working all
Speaker 1: things for good is that all things mean good and bad,
Speaker 1: and this is bad. So understanding that there's a lot
Speaker 1: of peace in that that that you're you're submitting yourself
Speaker 1: to God and his will and his plan as much
Speaker 1: as you hate it, and it's okay. I think it's
Speaker 1: okay to hate where your life has become. But that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean you have to move forward with that hate.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you have to look at tomorrow as
Speaker 1: something that you hate, because you you can now control
Speaker 1: this moment today. You don't have to like how you
Speaker 1: got here, but you can control this today. And I
Speaker 1: would put aside your compulsion to forgive this individual right now,
Speaker 1: and along with that comes putting aside the desire to
Speaker 1: hold a grudge or to be angry or to be upset.
Speaker 1: I would say, think of it more in terms of
Speaker 1: it happened, and you couldn't control it, no matter, no
Speaker 1: matter what, this was the destiny of your fiance, and
Speaker 1: this was the destiny of you, And this was the
Speaker 1: destiny of the individual that you're struggling with right now.
Speaker 1: Once again, I want to keep saying that I can't
Speaker 1: imagine what you're going through. I'm not going to pretend
Speaker 1: like I have an instant answer to tell you about
Speaker 1: how to give. But what I can say is give
Speaker 1: it time. Let your heart heal a little bit more,
Speaker 1: Let let more months go by. In fact, you might
Speaker 1: want to let years go by. And I got a feeling, Lindsey,
Speaker 1: that you're gonna wake up when enough time is gone by.
Speaker 1: You're gonna wake up and go I'm ready to forgive him.
Speaker 1: And that will be an amazing day for you, because
Speaker 1: you know your head wants to do it. So when
Speaker 1: your heart agrees with your head and that moment happens
Speaker 1: and you feel that forgiveness. You feel the ready for it,
Speaker 1: then you're gonna you're gonna let out this sigh of relief.
Speaker 1: Your heart's gonna slow down a little bit. You're gonna
Speaker 1: open your palm and quit that closed fist anger that
Speaker 1: you must be having. But that is not something you
Speaker 1: need to force right now. It's not something that a
Speaker 1: certain book will teach you to read or will teach
Speaker 1: you how to do by reading it. You're going to
Speaker 1: know when it's time. And I would encourage you to
Speaker 1: pray about that and just say God, just like I mean,
Speaker 1: just like your question God, all right. I am so
Speaker 1: angry and I don't want to be angry, and I
Speaker 1: want to forgive because I know you you forgive everyone,
Speaker 1: and I want to forgive like you did, but I
Speaker 1: don't know how. And I wish, I wish you could
Speaker 1: put it in my heart to open it up and
Speaker 1: to soften it because it's hard right now. And I
Speaker 1: wish you could teach me how to open my heart
Speaker 1: for forgiveness. And if you do that, I don't want
Speaker 1: you to come back to this podcast. And I want
Speaker 1: you to send me another email six months twelve months
Speaker 1: from now and tell me what happened after you said
Speaker 1: that with all your sincerity and come back to me
Speaker 1: and then tell me how you feel then. And I
Speaker 1: have a hunch that it's going to be different one
Speaker 1: year from now, Lindsay, I got a feeling it's not
Speaker 1: going You're not gonna have as heart of a heart anymore.
Speaker 1: Good question. Thank you? All right, And this question is
Speaker 1: from Caesar. He's in California, and he says, Hey, Grange,
Speaker 1: your first time I met you was when you came
Speaker 1: down here to the winery in San Martin, California in
Speaker 1: twenty eighteen. I've had a tough time lately in the
Speaker 1: love department, and my question to you is do you
Speaker 1: believe in nice guys finish last? And if so or
Speaker 1: if not, why? Caesar, thank you for writing buddy, thank
Speaker 1: you for listening to this podcast. Thank you for Karen
Speaker 1: enough to take this question to me. And I'm sorry
Speaker 1: you've had a tough time in the in the love department, dude,
Speaker 1: but I do not, by any means agree that nice
Speaker 1: guys finished last. I know that that you know pop
Speaker 1: culture and social media and might lead you to think
Speaker 1: that you've got to be you got to be rude
Speaker 1: and hard nosed and and cruel at some point, and
Speaker 1: all about yourself, and you got to swoop in and
Speaker 1: take what you want, you know. Uh, but but but
Speaker 1: I have learned that. But by taking the high road,
Speaker 1: which is based being a nice guy, taking the high
Speaker 1: road is so much more rewarding. And what you're going
Speaker 1: to do is you got to ask yourself, by being
Speaker 1: an asshole, who who are you going to attract? What
Speaker 1: kind of what kind of partner are you going to
Speaker 1: attract by being an asshole? And that's that's the question
Speaker 1: you've got to meditate on, my man. Because if you
Speaker 1: are a nice guy and you're taking the high road,
Speaker 1: and you're you're a man of integrity. You remember that
Speaker 1: word integrity, that's a good one. Then what when you're
Speaker 1: putting that out into the world that you're you're a
Speaker 1: nice guy with integrity and you're taking the high road,
Speaker 1: Think what think think of what you're attracting. You're attracting
Speaker 1: a whole new level of girls, and that is much
Speaker 1: more valuable in the long run for you in your
Speaker 1: life than whatever relationship you just ended up in that
Speaker 1: went wrong. Okay, that's my answer to that. I appreciate you, dude,
Speaker 1: for writing in. I'm taking a quick break. Be right back.
Speaker 1: If you guys want to ask a question for me,
Speaker 1: send it to Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. I
Speaker 1: will add it to the archive. I'm going off the cup.
Speaker 1: I'm going to answer these questions for you guys as
Speaker 1: if we're sitting together in the truck having a chat,
Speaker 1: as if we're buddies. And I hope that you guys
Speaker 1: feel that way, because I definitely feel that way about
Speaker 1: you guys. And this next question comes from Matthew and
Speaker 1: he says, Hey, Granger my name is Matthew. I'm from Flint, Michigan.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Flint, Michigan. I just want to let
Speaker 1: you know that I'm new to the Ee family. Country
Speaker 1: music is not something that I grew up with. I
Speaker 1: didn't even listen to it that much until I heard
Speaker 1: you only a few months ago. I'm a truck driver,
Speaker 1: so I heard the occasional country tune and the truck
Speaker 1: stop or rolling down the interstate where we were when
Speaker 1: there were no other stations to listen to. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to tell you I appreciate the music as a
Speaker 1: man that loves his country, his freedom, and for the
Speaker 1: stories you tell on the YouTube channel and podcast. I
Speaker 1: just watched the episode when your brother with you and
Speaker 1: your brother and just had a flood of emotions come
Speaker 1: back to me as I heard you talk about showing
Speaker 1: up to the venues and nobody being there, or playing
Speaker 1: to the bartender and just the bouncer. I wrote and
Speaker 1: performed my crazy band of music with my friend and
Speaker 1: a group that we called Frantic Minds for close to
Speaker 1: ten years. We drove those miles, played those shows, sometimes
Speaker 1: on stage for no one but ourselves. Sometimes I appreciate
Speaker 1: the struggle, and I'm so happy it paid off for you,
Speaker 1: unlike it did for me. I really don't have a
Speaker 1: question in here other than was there any point you
Speaker 1: gave up on music, maybe to get a real job,
Speaker 1: Because sometimes I regret it. It feels like there's something left,
Speaker 1: something I didn't accomplish, something I set out to do.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, now I appreciate everything the road
Speaker 1: has given me, even though in the beginning I hated
Speaker 1: truck driving. But now I have a nice SUV, I
Speaker 1: just bought a house, I have two dogs, and I'm
Speaker 1: starting to be happy. I just always wonder, how could
Speaker 1: it have been if I was in the passenger seat
Speaker 1: of the bus and not the driver. I've struggled with
Speaker 1: this for years. It honestly depressed me. And to make
Speaker 1: it worse, a friend up here, and more importantly, someone
Speaker 1: I considered a brother, did find his way to the
Speaker 1: spotlight and have success in music. Instead of being happy
Speaker 1: for him, I was angry that it wasn't me. I
Speaker 1: really just had to work and work and work at it,
Speaker 1: maybe four or five years ago, and somehow I set
Speaker 1: aside that fear and anger and regret, and now I
Speaker 1: think I'm a better person for it. Perhaps it wasn't
Speaker 1: in God's plan for me. I still have that urge
Speaker 1: to perform now and then that how you get when
Speaker 1: someone knows the lyrics to your song is like nothing else.
Speaker 1: Maybe if Earl Divilis Junior is looking to do a
Speaker 1: side project, I'm available. We can call it Cornfields and Crosswalks.
Speaker 1: Either way, I'm a fan and I just have to
Speaker 1: say thank you for what you do, family, God Country All. First,
Speaker 1: I appreciate the messaging. If you ever head back to
Speaker 1: the machine shop, I'll come check it out, maybe bring
Speaker 1: you some Big John's. I appreciate that. Matthew, thank you
Speaker 1: for thank you for listening, and I knew we had
Speaker 1: truckers out there that listen to this. And a huge
Speaker 1: shout out to Michigan. It's an important important place for
Speaker 1: me and those The people in Michigan took me into
Speaker 1: their family early on before a lot of other states
Speaker 1: in the United States did so. I always have a
Speaker 1: special place in my heart from Michigan, and I love
Speaker 1: Big John's Sandwiches in Flint, Michigan. I want to start
Speaker 1: by saying, you have appeared to have worked out most
Speaker 1: of the problems that you ask me and your question
Speaker 1: and what's awesome about about asking these questions and you
Speaker 1: guys are typing them on emails. Sometimes I notice that
Speaker 1: you work out the problem while you're typing it, and
Speaker 1: that is therapy in itself. And I can almost encourage
Speaker 1: everyone to better themselves by keeping some kind of daily journal.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to say the word diary because
Speaker 1: it starts sounding like you know a nine year old
Speaker 1: girl that keeps a diary under a pillow or something.
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of therapy that comes out of
Speaker 1: a daily journal, and I do that. I don't do
Speaker 1: it every single day. I try to, but sometimes I forget,
Speaker 1: But I have an app on my phone that keeps
Speaker 1: track and it's like a daily little log. In fact,
Speaker 1: I could look at he right here. It's called day one,
Speaker 1: so it's called day one Journal, and it allows me
Speaker 1: to type in what's going on, so I could just
Speaker 1: I'm talking to myself, so I don't have to be formal.
Speaker 1: I'm just like tired today, Amber's gone on a job.
Speaker 1: I need to pick up the kids, heading to the farm.
Speaker 1: Been crazy with radio interviews, excited about Friday Show, you know,
Speaker 1: and then years from now I can look back on
Speaker 1: that and see where I was and when I was doing.
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of therapy and just typing that out.
Speaker 1: And you have done that, Matthew a little bit. But
Speaker 1: let me help you with the music part of it.
Speaker 1: And it's difficult for me to say these things because
Speaker 1: you might not believe it coming from me, since I
Speaker 1: do music for a living. But I'm here to tell
Speaker 1: you that whatever you do in your life, you cannot
Speaker 1: tie your happiness to the status of your success in
Speaker 1: your career at all. It never works. If you read
Speaker 1: anything in history, it has never worked. No one has,
Speaker 1: no human has ever said, well, I wanted to make
Speaker 1: it to regional manager because I knew that would make
Speaker 1: me happy. And then I got to regional manager and
Speaker 1: I was like, boom, there, I'm happy. That's exactly right now.
Speaker 1: And now I'm just I'm happy in my whole life.
Speaker 1: I got to regional manager, I've been here for the
Speaker 1: last eight years. Then I'm just, man, I'm just satisfied
Speaker 1: and I'm happy. No one has ever said that. And
Speaker 1: guess what it goes with the music visits too. If
Speaker 1: I could just get a gig where people come and
Speaker 1: stand on the front row, then I'd be happy. Oh
Speaker 1: if I could just get a bus, a bus, a bus.
Speaker 1: I get all this crappy van and get it to
Speaker 1: a bus, and then I'll be happy. Oh no, it's
Speaker 1: got to be a record deal. I bet you. I
Speaker 1: guarantee you. Once I get that record deal, things will
Speaker 1: be easier. I'll be happy. I'll finally be Okay. I
Speaker 1: have a record deal, I have a bus, I have
Speaker 1: people come to my show. It's got to be a
Speaker 1: I know what it is, a number one song. If
Speaker 1: I can get a number one song, then I could
Speaker 1: prove myself as an artist, and then I'll have more
Speaker 1: people come to my shows and I'll have the record
Speaker 1: deal and I will then be happy. You see the
Speaker 1: pattern here. It just doesn't work. And like I said,
Speaker 1: you might not believe me because here I am. I've
Speaker 1: had those things, but I'm straight up telling you I'm
Speaker 1: not happy because of those achievements. There has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with it. It's always a grind. It's always a fight.
Speaker 1: It's always a struggle, and you have to in a
Speaker 1: way love that. You have to love the grind. You
Speaker 1: have to love all the days in between. Everyone says
Speaker 1: it's about the journey, not the destination. That is so true.
Speaker 1: It's the journey you gotta love. And you're a driver.
Speaker 1: You can't tie your happiness as a truck driver to
Speaker 1: the drop, right. You got to tie it to man,
Speaker 1: I love trucking. Why do you love it? No? One
Speaker 1: says I love it because I love it when it
Speaker 1: I get to the dock and I finally get to unload. No,
Speaker 1: you have to love it for every mile and the
Speaker 1: hot cup of coffee and the radio station, the Grangersmith
Speaker 1: podcast that you're turning up in the cab, and the
Speaker 1: new cities and the sunsets that you see heading west
Speaker 1: on the interstate and the rainstorms and the rainbows that
Speaker 1: no one else sees, and you have to find all
Speaker 1: the little things on the journey. That's where the happiness is.
Speaker 1: That's where the gratitude is. It's not in the destination.
Speaker 1: And it's the same thing in the music business. And
Speaker 1: I could straight up tell you one hundred and twenty
Speaker 1: eight thousand percent, Matthew, that you, knowing you, you would
Speaker 1: not have found happiness if you had continued music. And
Speaker 1: your buddy who has you mentioned here, who has had success,
Speaker 1: he doesn't have it either. And if he acts maybe
Speaker 1: you see him on Instagram and he acts like he does,
Speaker 1: he doesn't. Man, I promise you he's no different than you.
Speaker 1: And I'm no different than you, and anyone else listening
Speaker 1: to this podcast is no different than you. No one
Speaker 1: listening right now on this podcast is saying, huh, well,
Speaker 1: that's funny, because here I am, I'm just everything's great,
Speaker 1: I'm happy. I can't complain about a single thing. I'm
Speaker 1: right where I need to be, nowhere else I need
Speaker 1: to go. This is exactly what I need to be doing.
Speaker 1: And I'm just totally happy. And I've been this way
Speaker 1: for years and years. That's not that's not human. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's not No human thinks that that. We're not built
Speaker 1: that way. That's not our Our genetic build up is
Speaker 1: not made for that. We are made to struggle and
Speaker 1: to toil, and that is the curse of mankind period.
Speaker 1: That's just the way it is. So, my brother you,
Speaker 1: I would encourage you to find mind the joy and
Speaker 1: what you do today. And if you don't in trucking,
Speaker 1: I would encourage you on the side, while you're still
Speaker 1: making money trucking, use the time to be shopping new careers.
Speaker 1: But don't think that the music business by any means
Speaker 1: would bring you this mystical happiness that you've been searching
Speaker 1: for that's going to finally solve the problems of your
Speaker 1: childhood and meet that long lost desire to have had
Speaker 1: a mythical success. Because I promise you, if you had
Speaker 1: stayed in music and you met a little bit of success,
Speaker 1: you're only thinking of the next step and the next
Speaker 1: step and the next step, and then you're not happy
Speaker 1: with that step, so you want instead of the van,
Speaker 1: you want a bus, and then instead of a bus,
Speaker 1: you want two buses. And when you have two buses,
Speaker 1: you want a semi, and then one semi is not enough,
Speaker 1: so you want three semis, and it's only natural to
Speaker 1: want more. But it's not connected with happiness. You have
Speaker 1: to find that in different places. Now, finding a drive
Speaker 1: and motivation for your career, that's cool. I mean, I
Speaker 1: like the music business because I'm just always grinding and
Speaker 1: it's never easy and it's always disappointing in some way,
Speaker 1: and I have to constantly keep my gratitude higher than
Speaker 1: my expectations. But I don't tie any of that to
Speaker 1: my happiness. I have to tie my happiness to other things,
Speaker 1: meaningful things, purposeful things. And you know about this because
Speaker 1: you mentioned it here. You said family, God, Country, So
Speaker 1: I have to ask you, Matthew. You said I'm a
Speaker 1: fan of you and what you do because family, God,
Speaker 1: country all. First, I appreciate the message. So you didn't
Speaker 1: mention music in there. You didn't say I'm a fan
Speaker 1: of you because family, God, country and music. So even
Speaker 1: you know that it has nothing to do. I find
Speaker 1: my gratefulness and my happiness and my joy through my
Speaker 1: family and my God and this podcast and knowing that maybe,
Speaker 1: just maybe someone out there listening to this program right
Speaker 1: now is applying this and goes, you know what, I
Speaker 1: never thought of it that way. Maybe I could use that,
Speaker 1: and then it's a tiny ripple effect that their life
Speaker 1: improves just a fraction, and then the people around them
Speaker 1: see that, and then they approve improve their life just
Speaker 1: a fraction, and one fraction and another fraction. In industry,
Speaker 1: it's this outward butterfly effect that brings me joy and
Speaker 1: purpose and meaning, not the next tour or the next
Speaker 1: album or the next radio single. I know. I've had
Speaker 1: to tell my brain that is nothing new with your happiness, dude.
Speaker 1: That is that is completely separate. That's I almost It's
Speaker 1: almost like a game. Music is a game to me.
Speaker 1: Let's build, build, build, Let's put out a single, Let's
Speaker 1: make a record. Let's try to get as many streams
Speaker 1: on Spotify as we can. That's a game, guys. But
Speaker 1: I don't I don't think if this, If this song
Speaker 1: doesn't get five million streams on Spotify in one month,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be happy. That is a bottomless
Speaker 1: pit that you will never stop falling if you slip
Speaker 1: in there. I appreciate the question, buddy. I hope that
Speaker 1: helps you. And if you if you are looking at
Speaker 1: for that high that you get when you play music
Speaker 1: and people sing along with you. Dude, what about what
Speaker 1: about an open mic night in your hometown and you
Speaker 1: invite all your buddies and you do it once a
Speaker 1: month and you say, Hey, I'm gonna do this little
Speaker 1: thing once a month at the pub down the road
Speaker 1: on Thursday nights and you invite everyone that you know
Speaker 1: and you guys all have fun and they sing along
Speaker 1: and boom, you scratch that itch a little bit and
Speaker 1: then you get back to life. Let me find another
Speaker 1: question here scrolling through the magic scroll. It's like will
Speaker 1: of fortune. It's not will of fortune. It's a price's right,
Speaker 1: it's got the wheel all right. This question comes from Seth.
Speaker 1: He says, Hey, my name is Satham from New Brunswick, Canada.
Speaker 1: Here's my question. Are you ever going to come out
Speaker 1: and do a concert in Canada in the future if
Speaker 1: things lighten up? Satham? Absolutely, dude, love Canada. If I
Speaker 1: think I mentioned Canada Canada tour on this episode today,
Speaker 1: but we're always in Canada. We're there at least two
Speaker 1: or three times a year, if not just one or
Speaker 1: two shows, then we're we're doing a full blown tour.
Speaker 1: So Canada, Canada is our American brother, and all all
Speaker 1: that's in between us is one border. We go across
Speaker 1: it all the time. So if you're wondering wherever we're
Speaker 1: going to go, the answer is yes, as soon as
Speaker 1: things lighten up, will be will be everywhere. So thanks
Speaker 1: for listening, dude, and I hope to see you whenever
Speaker 1: we come back to Canada. Here this question says, Hey there, Granger,
Speaker 1: this is Joseph. I'm from Las Vegas, New Mexico. I'm
Speaker 1: a big fan of your music and your channel on YouTube.
Speaker 1: I just got news that my girlfriend wants to have
Speaker 1: another kid, and I'm kind of scared. I'm twenty seven
Speaker 1: and I have a son. His name is Christopher, and
Speaker 1: I'm having trouble on what to say to my girlfriend
Speaker 1: and what kind of advice can you give me on this? Joseph,
Speaker 1: thanks for writing man. Shout out to New Mexico. Love
Speaker 1: the folks out there. That's our Texas brother. I appreciate
Speaker 1: you being a big fan, and I appreciate the sensitive
Speaker 1: question that you're giving me. Your girlfriend wants to have
Speaker 1: another kid and you're scared. You're twenty seven, you have
Speaker 1: a son and you're having trouble knowing what to say
Speaker 1: back to your girlfriend. So let's dissect this together. First
Speaker 1: of all, communication is key, and I appreciate you trust
Speaker 1: me with this question, and I would encourage you to
Speaker 1: trust your girlfriend with this question. And I think there's
Speaker 1: a couple of layers here. One, I personally don't believe
Speaker 1: that you should be having kids with your girlfriend on purpose.
Speaker 1: I understand accidents, but I don't think you should be
Speaker 1: having trying to plan on a pregnancy when you're not married.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of reasons. I mean, we could talk
Speaker 1: legal reasons, we could talk tax reasons, we could talk
Speaker 1: last name reasons, we could talk religious reasons. But there
Speaker 1: are a lot of reasons why. If this is the
Speaker 1: girl of your dreams and you love her, then you
Speaker 1: should go ahead and try to get married before you
Speaker 1: plan on having a kid. And this is a discussion
Speaker 1: you got to have with her. And I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: that most of your buddies, if you're going to say
Speaker 1: them down, could tell you the same thing. I would say.
Speaker 1: One of the biggest red flags in your question is
Speaker 1: the fact that you are having trouble finding words to
Speaker 1: talk with her about something that is so important, one
Speaker 1: of the biggest decisions of your life. You're only going
Speaker 1: to have so many kids. You already have one, and
Speaker 1: adding another one to the mix is a lifetime commitment.
Speaker 1: You'll go to your grave with this commitment. And it's
Speaker 1: not something like I'm trying to talk to my girlfriend
Speaker 1: about if we should get a chihuahua or an apartment
Speaker 1: or a camping trip in Montana. This is this is
Speaker 1: a really really big deal. And I know that you
Speaker 1: know this, That's why you asked me. I'm sure you
Speaker 1: asked because you know it's a big deal. But I
Speaker 1: would go to her and just say, Babe, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: put it just like you did. Dude, Babe, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of scared. I'm twenty seven, I already have a son,
Speaker 1: and I'm having trouble telling you that. And if if
Speaker 1: she is a compassionate, loving, accepting, nurturing, understanding partner like
Speaker 1: she should be, if you're considering having a kid with her,
Speaker 1: then she's going to go Joseph, I get it. Will
Speaker 1: will you let me know when you're ready, or what
Speaker 1: would make you feel more comfortable? And you could say
Speaker 1: I maybe you would say I like to be thirty
Speaker 1: or i'd like to be married, or I'd like to
Speaker 1: I'd like to work on my career a little bit
Speaker 1: more before I jump into a second child. You could have.
Speaker 1: Any of those reasons could be valid. But if she
Speaker 1: says no, that's that's crazy. I want a kid now,
Speaker 1: then that's like time man, Time to hit the back door, bro,
Speaker 1: time to get out. I don't know if your son,
Speaker 1: I don't know if Christopher is with her or not,
Speaker 1: and that would hinge on all this this answer. But
Speaker 1: if she doesn't accept your your sentiment here, then you
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta hit the road and or at least
Speaker 1: give her time to think about it. I don't want
Speaker 1: to split you guys up right now, but this is
Speaker 1: this is really a really big deal, and I would
Speaker 1: encourage you to first of all, think about getting married
Speaker 1: before it happens, and second of all, just being totally
Speaker 1: honest with her, just straight up, babe, I'm worried. I'm scared.
Speaker 1: Here's why. And see what she says back, and her
Speaker 1: answer is gonna mean everything. It's going to decide everything
Speaker 1: how she comes back, if she's angry or if she's
Speaker 1: accepting of it. And I hope for your sake man.
Speaker 1: I hope she's accepting of it, and I hope that
Speaker 1: you guys can agree to go ahead and tie the knot,
Speaker 1: go to the courthouse, tie the knot, and have a
Speaker 1: wonderful life together. Next question comes from Jeremy. He says, Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: I come from a large family where I'm excited to
Speaker 1: act and do certain things. I have been wanting to
Speaker 1: move from Carson City, Nevada, and I want to go
Speaker 1: out on my own into a new state down south.
Speaker 1: I'm thirty two and I have done what my family
Speaker 1: expects from me. But I feel like there's more to
Speaker 1: life than just working sixteen plus hours a day. I
Speaker 1: have a good relationship with most of my family, but
Speaker 1: I feel like this is where this I don't feel
Speaker 1: like this is where I belong. Should I do what
Speaker 1: it's expected of me or find my own way? Shout
Speaker 1: out to Nevada. Carson City awesome place. I love. I
Speaker 1: love it out there. It's like, uh so wide open
Speaker 1: and it just feels so cowboy out there in Carson City.
Speaker 1: It's a It's a really cool place, and plus you
Speaker 1: can cruise over and get a Ribby steak in Reno
Speaker 1: right down the road. You can cruise down to Vegas.
Speaker 1: You can go over to Lake Tahoe and see the
Speaker 1: beautiful lake. So shout out to Carson City. Love that place. Jeremy,
Speaker 1: thank you for the question. I think it's a great question.
Speaker 1: I think if you don't have any ties, you're not
Speaker 1: you're not in a marriage, then I mean, I think
Speaker 1: you got to go for it if you if you
Speaker 1: you want to go out on your own and go
Speaker 1: head somewhere down south, then why not plan on a
Speaker 1: six month hiatus and you pick a state down south,
Speaker 1: and you align a job ahead of time, you ligne
Speaker 1: something up where you're gonna have some kind of income,
Speaker 1: some kind of cash flow, and you go, hey, I
Speaker 1: mean you said your family is you have a good
Speaker 1: relationship with them. You say, hey, guys, I'm gonna take off.
Speaker 1: I'm going on a little adventure. I'm heading to Oklahoma
Speaker 1: or Georgia or wherever, Texas, and I'm gonna work for
Speaker 1: about six months. I'm gonna check it out, and then
Speaker 1: you'll know, dude, you'll know within sixty days, like I
Speaker 1: really miss Nevada, I miss my family, I miss my friends,
Speaker 1: or you'll say, man, I love it, I love it
Speaker 1: I love the freedom. I've never felt this kind of freedom.
Speaker 1: I want to I want more. I want to start
Speaker 1: a career. I want to move here. I want to
Speaker 1: get an apartment. You might say that, but what you
Speaker 1: don't want, and this is cool, that if you don't
Speaker 1: have a tie to Nevada right now, what you don't
Speaker 1: want is you don't want to turn forty and then
Speaker 1: look back and go. Man, when I was thirty two,
Speaker 1: I asked Granger on a podcast, and I never left,
Speaker 1: and now I still wonder what it would have been like.
Speaker 1: But by forty, you're probably you're going to be much
Speaker 1: more tied to Carson City and a career and probably
Speaker 1: be married and kids, and you know, so yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I say go for it, dude, go for it. I
Speaker 1: appreciate your your sentiment of wanting to be close to
Speaker 1: your family. So take this time, be selfish for once
Speaker 1: in your life, because you're allowed that for once in
Speaker 1: your life, and FaceTime them all the time, send them postcards,
Speaker 1: take Southwest Airlines back to Reno from Austin or San
Speaker 1: Antonio or Dallas or Atlanta or wherever, and take this
Speaker 1: little adventure and you might really really miss your family.
Speaker 1: And then boom problem solved. I'm gonna take a quick
Speaker 1: break right back. Got another question here. I'll make this
Speaker 1: my last one, but this is from Dakota. He says, Hey, Grange,
Speaker 1: my name is Dakota, and I need some advice. Here.
Speaker 1: It is I met this girl and we talked for
Speaker 1: a while, and we decided that we wanted to get together.
Speaker 1: She has a very Christian family. I've tried my best
Speaker 1: to do as they asked. After a few minors slip
Speaker 1: ups on my part in one or two on her behalf,
Speaker 1: they decided it would probably be better if we broke up,
Speaker 1: and they made her block me on everything like Facebook,
Speaker 1: phone number, everything. They even made her quit her job
Speaker 1: so she wouldn't see me. She worked at the place
Speaker 1: that I go on my lunch break at my job.
Speaker 1: I know she still loves me and I love her,
Speaker 1: and she even promised she'd come back, and I know
Speaker 1: in my heart that she will. I pray about it
Speaker 1: every night that she will come back. What I'm really
Speaker 1: asking is do I need to forget it and move
Speaker 1: on or do I need to believe and go with
Speaker 1: my heart. I know the one I want to do,
Speaker 1: but I'm in a hard place I know why, but
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. Give me your honest
Speaker 1: and best answer, Dakota, this sounds like a movie. It
Speaker 1: sounds like you're in a a movie scenario in the
Speaker 1: nineteen thirties and the family didn't like you, so they
Speaker 1: they made you all breakup, which is first off, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's crazy to say you didn't tell me how old
Speaker 1: you are, But it's crazy to think that a family
Speaker 1: would break up a relationship and make her block you
Speaker 1: on everything and make her quit her job. So I
Speaker 1: don't know much about the situation, so I can't speak
Speaker 1: to that, and I don't know how old you are,
Speaker 1: which is key, Like if you're thirty seven, that's a
Speaker 1: big difference than if you're writing in you're fourteen. But
Speaker 1: I'll tell you this. You say towards the end, you say,
Speaker 1: I pray about it every night that she'll come back.
Speaker 1: And what I want to encourage you to code to
Speaker 1: write off the bat is I want to swap that
Speaker 1: prayer around for you a little bit, because I want
Speaker 1: you to look at it this way. God is in
Speaker 1: control of everything, and I believe the better prayer for
Speaker 1: you would be God. You know my heart, you know
Speaker 1: I want this girl back with everything in my being.
Speaker 1: You know I want this girl back, but I need
Speaker 1: you to lead me down the path that I need
Speaker 1: to be on, open the doors that I need to
Speaker 1: walk through, and close the doors that I don't because
Speaker 1: you know and I don't. And you know my plan.
Speaker 1: You know my plan, You've built it, and you know
Speaker 1: where I need to be and you know what You
Speaker 1: know that I want to be with her, but that
Speaker 1: might not be your plan, So be clear about that
Speaker 1: to me. God show me that, show me that path
Speaker 1: I need to be walking on. And that's a very
Speaker 1: different prayer than God, make her come back. God make
Speaker 1: her come back, Please make her come back. I understand that,
Speaker 1: I understand that prayer. We've all said that at some point.
Speaker 1: But that's that's where I want you to start, or
Speaker 1: that's why I would encourage you to start with understanding
Speaker 1: that God might have a different plan for you. And
Speaker 1: once you prepare a prayer like that, like you know
Speaker 1: my heart, you know what I want, But just show
Speaker 1: me what I need to do because I'm kind of stuck.
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like I'm up against the wall
Speaker 1: here and I can't go any farther because I'm stuck
Speaker 1: with I'm stuck on her and I know she's going
Speaker 1: to come back. Instead of saying, Okay, God, break down
Speaker 1: this wall, then I feel like I'm up against the wall.
Speaker 1: You break it down so that I could move forward
Speaker 1: in the direction you need me to go. That's a
Speaker 1: different man. That's mature. That is a mature prayer, and
Speaker 1: it's difficult. But as I've gotten older, I've learned to
Speaker 1: say that prayer more because I've been in some situations
Speaker 1: in my life when everything in my fireber wanted something
Speaker 1: to change, and I had to finally give up on
Speaker 1: that prayer and change the words around to everything in
Speaker 1: my power wants this to change. God, but you might not.
Speaker 1: So let me give it up to you. Let me
Speaker 1: follow you. And if you do that, Dakota gonna first off,
Speaker 1: you're just gonna feel a little bit of peace come
Speaker 1: over you. It might be a lot of peace, but
Speaker 1: you're gonna feel that presence like Yeah, it's kind of
Speaker 1: like when your mom corrected you when you're a kid,
Speaker 1: and deep down you knew she was right, and so
Speaker 1: when she caught you doing something bad, you're like, ah,
Speaker 1: you got me, mom, okay, And it's it's it's the
Speaker 1: same we're we're we are servants and uh, we're children
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways like that. So, man, it
Speaker 1: sucks that you're you're in this and this is this
Speaker 1: is something that most of these podcast listeners today could
Speaker 1: relate to. Man, it's very human to be in a
Speaker 1: relationship when things are not working out or outside sources
Speaker 1: are breaking it up, or you could you could have
Speaker 1: written this story ten different ways and would all been
Speaker 1: have been believable. She could have just stopped liking you
Speaker 1: or stopped caring about you. It could have been that
Speaker 1: way too. So to answer your your question says, do
Speaker 1: I just need to forget it and move on or
Speaker 1: do I need to believe and go with my heart?
Speaker 1: Don't believe in go with your heart, because that that's
Speaker 1: where that's where you become a psycho. You have been
Speaker 1: the door has been shut. And when when a relationship
Speaker 1: door has been shut, that doesn't mean you gotta go
Speaker 1: all the brave heart on her and go wait by
Speaker 1: her window and throw pebbles at her window and say
Speaker 1: I'm here, I'm going with my heart. I'm never leaving.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. So, and I know you don't mean that,
Speaker 1: but you don't have to forget it either. Right, it's
Speaker 1: not that black and white. You don't have to just go, Okay,
Speaker 1: I forget it and move on forever. It's done forever,
Speaker 1: and you don't have to go I'm never gonna give
Speaker 1: up on this girl. Ever. I want to still buy
Speaker 1: a window. You don't do that either. I think the
Speaker 1: answer is more right in between. You go okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna back off socially, physically, emotionally. I'm gonna back off.
Speaker 1: It's not easy. I'm gonna back off. I'm gonna leave
Speaker 1: that door possibly open. And that's part of the prayer
Speaker 1: I was talking about. God. Maybe that door is gonna
Speaker 1: You tell me. If that door is open, I'll walk
Speaker 1: right back through it. But right now I'm gonna back away.
Speaker 1: I'm going to take care of myself a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna you said you got a job, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna focus on my job. I'm gonna make my
Speaker 1: job really good. I'm gonna work really hard. I'm going
Speaker 1: to use this time to reinvest into my buddies that
Speaker 1: maybe I've kind of neglected my buddies a little bit
Speaker 1: because I've been in this relationship and I've been all
Speaker 1: hung up on this girl. I'm going to go back
Speaker 1: to my buddies that might even be missing me because
Speaker 1: I've had to avoid them a lot of Friday nights
Speaker 1: that I was going to the movie theater with this girl.
Speaker 1: Go back to my buddies and go, hey, I want
Speaker 1: to hang out and be there for them, and return
Speaker 1: to them and give them yourself as a friend, whether
Speaker 1: you've got to listen or hang or laugh or have fun.
Speaker 1: Reinvest in your friendship and your job. And wait, patience,
Speaker 1: repeat that prayer we talked about, see what happens. Let
Speaker 1: time go by. If this girl is meant for you,
Speaker 1: it's going to happen. It's just going to happen. If
Speaker 1: it's not, it's not, and you'll know because you'll see
Speaker 1: that door open or closed. That's my answer to you, man,
Speaker 1: That's as you said. That's my honest and best answer.
Speaker 1: That's what I would tell my brother or my best
Speaker 1: friend or anybody else. And it's not easy. But hang
Speaker 1: in there, man. I know it feels like you got
Speaker 1: blinders on and you can't see anything in front of
Speaker 1: your face but this particular subject. But go back to
Speaker 1: your buddies, Open up invest in your job, and I
Speaker 1: think good things are gonna happen for you. I appreciate
Speaker 1: your questions. Guys. If you have anything for me Granger
Speaker 1: Smith Podcast at gmail dot com hit me up. I'd
Speaker 1: love to read them. Enjoy your week. Thanks for being
Speaker 1: with me this Monday. Love you guys. Eye