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Speaker 1: I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show West, Good morning, Welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: How are you pretty good?

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Speaker 3: Pretty good? Thanks for talking to me.

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Speaker 2: You got it?

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Speaker 1: Man? What's going on with this woman Gigi? We got

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Speaker 1: to know kind of the whole backstory. How did you meet?

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Speaker 1: Tell us about any dates you've been on, and then

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Speaker 1: where things are now? All right?

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, so we met on the apps and I

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Speaker 3: asked her to go bowling. So I think that's like

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Speaker 3: a fun little you know, you have to talk and

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Speaker 3: you get to hang out.

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Speaker 2: And we had a great time.

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Speaker 3: And how so she loved the idea of going bowling,

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Speaker 3: like she jumped at it right away, and I was

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Speaker 3: expecting a second date. It went so well, But she's

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Speaker 3: fully gone on ghost mode with me, and I don't

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Speaker 3: know why. And I know you guys can help people.

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Speaker 2: And okay, are you a good bowler?

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Speaker 1: I'm curious because like if you're a really good bowler

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Speaker 1: and then she's an average bowler, you.

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Speaker 2: Know that kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like do you have your own shirt

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Speaker 1: with your signature on the back of it, or your own.

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Speaker 2: Bowl or anything.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm very mediocre, Okay, I mean, I'm just saying

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Speaker 1: like it would be I guess it would be if

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Speaker 1: if you were into it and you wanted to share

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Speaker 1: that with someone. But like typically people are not good bowlers,

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Speaker 1: and and so I don't know, it's kind of I

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Speaker 1: guess it's more fun if you both are at the

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Speaker 1: same level. But you're saying it was just a casual thing.

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Speaker 1: But but you wanted to do something on the date

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Speaker 1: as opposed to just drinking, which is what I feel

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Speaker 1: like most dates are these days.

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Speaker 2: Right, That's exactly it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, all right, And and so you really left

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Speaker 1: the date thinking this is this is great, like I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna see this woman again. You know we had a connection,

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Speaker 1: but in fact you have not seen her. You haven't

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Speaker 1: heard from her, she hasn't responded to you, and you

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Speaker 1: want to know why you're being ghosted. Yes, okay, all right,

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Speaker 1: Well we're gonna call her just a second, Hey, West, Yes,

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Speaker 1: let's call Gigi. You guys met, you went on a date.

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Speaker 1: It was a bowling date after meeting on one of

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Speaker 1: the apps. You thought you had a great time. She

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Speaker 1: was into the activity, you know, the activity date, some

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Speaker 1: entertainment on the date, not just eating and drinking. You

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Speaker 1: took her to do something, except you have not heard

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Speaker 1: a war heard from Gig since that date, and you're

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Speaker 1: you're stumped.

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Speaker 2: You're like, well, I thought this was a good date.

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Speaker 2: What happened? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, can you help me?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, let's call it out. Let's see good luck West?

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Speaker 4: Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hi is this Gigi?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? This is she?

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Speaker 1: Hey, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from

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Speaker 1: the Fred's Show, the morning radio show. I have to

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Speaker 1: tell you that we are on the radio right now,

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Speaker 1: and I would need your permission to continue with the call.

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Speaker 1: Can we chat for just a second, would you mind?

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Speaker 2: Sure? Thank you.

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Speaker 1: We're calling on behalf of a guy named West, who

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Speaker 1: I guess. I mean, that's a hard name to forget.

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Speaker 1: But you, I guess you met West on the dating

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Speaker 1: apps and you went on a date with him recently,

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Speaker 1: little little bowling.

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Speaker 2: Remember that, Yes I do? Yeah, all right, Well, he.

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Speaker 1: Reached out to us and he had nice things to

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Speaker 1: say about you, and he felt like the date went

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Speaker 1: really well. But he hasn't heard from you since then,

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Speaker 1: and he thinks that you're ghosting him. So what what happened?

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Speaker 1: What's going on?

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Speaker 2: So?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I guess for starters, I'm sober, but I'm like

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Speaker 4: totally cool if people drink around me, and yeah, and

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Speaker 4: I told Wes that before the date, and he kept

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Speaker 4: on insisting that he wouldn't drink either, and kept saying like,

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Speaker 4: if you're sober, I'm sober.

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, Well that's kind of annoying. It's like, it's okay,

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Speaker 1: so you don't drink. You don't care if he drinks,

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Speaker 1: but he had to kind of like rub it in

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Speaker 1: but he wasn't because of you, but he had to

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Speaker 1: make sure you knew that repeatedly.

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Speaker 4: Well yeah, and like and then when we actually decided

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Speaker 4: to meet up and go like on this bowling date,

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Speaker 4: the first thing he did was order two beers.

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Speaker 1: Oh not for himself, like one for you and one

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Speaker 1: for him, even though you already let him know that

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Speaker 1: you don't drink, So I unclear.

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Speaker 4: At first, I was like I told you I'm sober,

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Speaker 4: and he was like, oh no, these are for me,

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Speaker 4: and like again, like I don't care if other people drink,

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Speaker 4: but like, why did he go out of his way

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Speaker 4: to make such like a big production about not drinking,

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Speaker 4: Like because I'm sober, you're sober, like, and then he

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Speaker 4: did the exact opposite.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so you had to call attention to it,

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Speaker 1: and then he didn't even do that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so oh that was the first. Oh there's more,

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Speaker 2: Oh need do too?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So yeah, first road flag and the second came

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Speaker 4: a little bit later when like, you know, we're bowling,

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Speaker 4: we're having a pretty good time. And then he was

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Speaker 4: like really deep in thought, and so I asked him,

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Speaker 4: like what are you thinking about? Like what's on your mind?

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Speaker 4: And he simply responded, you should drink.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know your story and you don't really

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Speaker 1: have to get into it, but I you don't drink

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Speaker 1: because maybe you had an issue with it or whatever

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Speaker 1: it is, or maybe you have some kind of traumatic

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Speaker 1: past with drinking, whatever the case may be. Most people

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Speaker 1: who don't drink, there's a reason for it. And you

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Speaker 1: just casually saying you should drink with me, like, that's

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Speaker 1: just it's wildly inconsiderate and disrespectful, really really annoying.

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Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. And then like he kept trying to convince me,

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Speaker 4: like to drink and that it would be fine if

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Speaker 4: I just had one, and like I don't know. He's

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Speaker 4: just in my book, he's a liar and he doesn't

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Speaker 4: respect my sobriety.

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Speaker 1: That's actually a vegetarian, Like you should chew on this bacon, right,

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Speaker 1: It's like, no, you know, this person is choosing to

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Speaker 1: live this way for whatever reason, health or ethics or

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Speaker 1: both or whatever. I forgot to mention West is here.

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Speaker 1: Why are you West? Why are you pushing a woman

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Speaker 1: who doesn't drink to drink. That's not how this works.

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Speaker 1: I just wandered her to have fun. She's you were

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Speaker 1: like hanging out like you would. You would have been

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Speaker 1: fine with just one drink. But people have a fun plenty.

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Speaker 1: They have plenty, plenty of fun. People have plenty of

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Speaker 1: fun without drinking. And it's not that simple. I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is it is a choice, but it's a choice

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Speaker 1: she's making for reasons that are important to her.

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Speaker 2: So it's not as simple.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I get we haven't gotten into why, but

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Speaker 1: like for her, that could be a trigger. Like and

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Speaker 1: you're just joking about it like it's something casual. You

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Speaker 1: can't do that.

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Speaker 3: It is casual.

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Speaker 2: It's nice.

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Speaker 1: Note one drink for everybody.

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Speaker 2: Beer.

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Speaker 3: It's not like I got like a martini.

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Speaker 1: You're missing the point, dude. Like, for some people it's

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Speaker 1: an addiction. For some people, they've been to rehab and treatment.

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Speaker 1: For some people, family have For some people they grew

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Speaker 1: up around it in an abusive way. I'm not trying to,

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Speaker 1: you know, be a downer here, but it's not. It's

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Speaker 1: not just half a beer instead of a martini. It's

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Speaker 1: they're not having anything.

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Speaker 4: And even if she didn't want to, that's okay too, right,

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Speaker 4: It's just it's all good, right, Like.

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Speaker 1: Why are you pushing someone to drink? And then why

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Speaker 1: are you making a big deal of the fact that

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Speaker 1: you weren't going to and then you did. You're making

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Speaker 1: her uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: I'm just trying to have fun to really at.

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Speaker 2: All of y'all.

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Speaker 1: You're probably the same guy that's like, you don't drink,

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Speaker 1: that's fine, a little little coke won'te or anything.

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Speaker 2: You know, you're probably that guy. You don't get it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's what I'm talking about. Wow, Gigi, I

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Speaker 1: was kidding, but he wasn't. Like, I'm gonna ask the question.

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Speaker 1: I know the answer, but I'm gonna ask the question.

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Speaker 1: It's my job. If this dude can lay off this

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Speaker 1: obsession he has with you drinking? Would you go out

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Speaker 1: with him again? I mean, I think you should say no,

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Speaker 1: but I think you are anyway.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: All right, hey, West, not going to work out. Don't

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Speaker 1: push people who don't drink to drink. It's not that simple,

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Speaker 1: all right, Okay, yeah yeah right now, well now he's

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Speaker 1: laughing about Okay, geez you thank you for your time.

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Speaker 2: Good luck out there, West, good luck to you as well,